FabSwingers.com forum: Do you struggle with your body image?

By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I watched a video from coach greg about it, here is the video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZVYoQ4goJQ

In the video he talked to a woman who competed in well being and he asked her if she have ever struggled with her body image following a contest diet, because she was so lean then, she said that she struggled really bad with it.

They also mentioned other things like the signs that if you are taking diet diet too far, like for women it is if they dont have their period and for men if they feel very tired sub 10%.

I dont think that I am struggling in that way. I have always been lean and I find it easy to maintain my 6pack,on my diet I can still enjoy good food.

What is your view about it and do you struggle with your body image and do you have any advice for others of how they can overcome it? I think that a good one is to set a realistic goal that you can achieve

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Nah. I'm me. I'm fat. I'd like to be less fat but I'm not obsessive over it. I exercise quite a bit and have done things that most of the thin people I know haven't or can't do.

Evie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise "

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I watched a video from coach greg about it, here is the video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZVYoQ4goJQ

They also mentioned other things like the signs that if you are taking diet diet too far, like for women it is if they dont have their period and for men if they feel very tired sub 10%.

I dont think that I am struggling in that way. I have always been lean and I find it easy to maintain my 6pack,on my diet I can still enjoy good food.

I believe it can be very obsessional. Magazines, peer pressure. It is never a substitute for being who you are. I am not in any competition to be someone I am not.

Each to their own op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many reasons for women to skip periods. Our bodies are not like a mans.

Always check with gp before diet

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No I’m a fat cunt and I like it that way, no strict diet, no exercise regime to keep up with. Eat what I want when I want, I only run playing football, it really does suit my fat lazy slob lifestyle.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you? "

Nothing positive

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I watched a video from coach greg about it, here is the video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZVYoQ4goJQ

They also mentioned other things like the signs that if you are taking diet diet too far, like for women it is if they dont have their period and for men if they feel very tired sub 10%.

I dont think that I am struggling in that way. I have always been lean and I find it easy to maintain my 6pack,on my diet I can still enjoy good food.

No we don't struggle with body image and have good self esteem. That does not come as a surprise that a Lady competing and following a strict diet is struggling with her body image.

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

Nothing positive "

So you discredit a whole human based on just their body shape?

Not just for sex I mean. I get it if people are not sexually attracted to certain body shapes.

This is really an interesting insight for me. It's not going to make me want to lose weight more, I'm just fascinated.

If you were hiring and I turned up for interview how would I fare?

Evie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with body image, is you have social media influences on a number of platforms telling you what you should look like. What's attractive. What's "healthy" (quite often tagged onto some supplement or programme, or clothing brand)

People without real lives, jobs, bills, worries, families, stress, sitting in a gym for 8-12 hours a day posing should have no baring on anyones life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

Nothing positive

So you discredit a whole human based on just their body shape?

Not just for sex I mean. I get it if people are not sexually attracted to certain body shapes.

This is really an interesting insight for me. It's not going to make me want to lose weight more, I'm just fascinated.

If you were hiring and I turned up for interview how would I fare?

Evie "

Depend what job I was hiring for. I’d only hire based on the persons ability to do the job. If I thought you weren’t physically as capable as others, I might not hire. If the job had no physical requirements, it wouldn’t effect my decision

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

Nothing positive

So you discredit a whole human based on just their body shape?

Not just for sex I mean. I get it if people are not sexually attracted to certain body shapes.

This is really an interesting insight for me. It's not going to make me want to lose weight more, I'm just fascinated.

If you were hiring and I turned up for interview how would I fare?

Evie

But you'd still base your first impressions of me as negative just because I'm over weight?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes. I hate being overweight. But I know with exercise and watching what I eat I can get back to what I’m happy with. Depends how much you want it. Some people are happy being overweight and that’s great. I’m not one of those people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

Nothing positive

So you discredit a whole human based on just their body shape?

Not just for sex I mean. I get it if people are not sexually attracted to certain body shapes.

This is really an interesting insight for me. It's not going to make me want to lose weight more, I'm just fascinated.

If you were hiring and I turned up for interview how would I fare?

Evie

But you'd still base your first impressions of me as negative just because I'm over weight? "

Probably not, most people pass by my eyes with zero judgement. I see 100s of people a day, maybe 1000s on a weekend, I don’t cast judgement on 99% of them over anything

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I dont know to be honest some days i look like homer simpson in the mirror some days i dont iv only dieted a couple times in my life but never seriously and rarely go to the gym as it gets boring after a couple weeks and i dont have the will power to go enough to make the changes id like ideally

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

Nothing positive

So you discredit a whole human based on just their body shape?

Not just for sex I mean. I get it if people are not sexually attracted to certain body shapes.

This is really an interesting insight for me. It's not going to make me want to lose weight more, I'm just fascinated.

If you were hiring and I turned up for interview how would I fare?

Evie

But you'd still base your first impressions of me as negative just because I'm over weight?

Probably not, most people pass by my eyes with zero judgement. I see 100s of people a day, maybe 1000s on a weekend, I don’t cast judgement on 99% of them over anything"

Fair enough. Thank you for replying so respectfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, all the time. I've tried every diet going since I was 16,done all sorts of different exercises, ensured I was in calorie deficit, but the weight rarely shifts. It's so incredibly difficult and can really get me down when I'm trying so hard. Not doing anything at the moment though to loose weight, accepting that I am what I am for the time being, until I have more time and energy to focus on me again.

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

A little!

I know I look pretty ok but I do get stages aka now where I am like, this toned body isn't as toned so I need to WORK.

But generally happy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

Nothing positive

So you discredit a whole human based on just their body shape?

Not just for sex I mean. I get it if people are not sexually attracted to certain body shapes.

This is really an interesting insight for me. It's not going to make me want to lose weight more, I'm just fascinated.

If you were hiring and I turned up for interview how would I fare?

Evie

But you'd still base your first impressions of me as negative just because I'm over weight?

Probably not, most people pass by my eyes with zero judgement. I see 100s of people a day, maybe 1000s on a weekend, I don’t cast judgement on 99% of them over anything

Fair enough. Thank you for replying so respectfully. "

I think it’s more of a reflection of how I view myself and how I think people would view me if I let myself go than how I’d judge others

Being skinny myself, I hear the things people say when no one over weight is around

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By *unlovin72Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

Some days yes but I have lost 6st in 18 months so going the right way had one of those days yesterday where the vile messages flowed in

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I have good days and bad days. Some days I adore every aspect. Some days I hyperfocus on the parts I don't like.

I've never felt the need to diet or exercise to extreme. I am trying to eat a bit more these days because I miss my big arse. But I wouldn't say I struggle with body image on any real level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is improving after a long period of depression. I'm more accepting. You have to care about yourself to care about your image and your body.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No I don't struggle with my body image. According to the beauty industry and advertising I should be very concerned about it and be making every effort to make my body and face look younger.

I do make sure I eat well and exercise a bit it's sensible to keep yourself in fairly good working order. I also ensure I dress well (in my opinion) and am as well groomed as possible but to me that's a reflection of feeling positive about my body anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many reasons for women to skip periods. Our bodies are not like a mans.

Always check with gp before diet

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Many reasons for women to skip periods. Our bodies are not like a mans.

Always check with gp before diet "

Maybe if you’re doing one of those stupid extreme diets. I’ve never checked with a GP in my life if I needed to lose weight.

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By *pen2UMan
over a year ago

Telford

I have my days where I get depressed over my body shape. But I'm not body confident at all! I've tried to lose a few lbs to drop sizes and nothing has worked.

Now I've told myself that I need to start being happy with the shape/weight I am. Even though I do want a better body/body shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy inside and out Shag people accept me as I am if not a fab block comes in play.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Nope it is what it is! X

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Nah. I'm me. I'm fat. I'd like to be less fat but I'm not obsessive over it. I exercise quite a bit and have done things that most of the thin people I know haven't or can't do.

Evie"
That is good to not be too obsessive over it as well

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Addlestone

"Yes, all the time. I've tried every diet going since I was 16,done all sorts of different exercises, ensured I was in calorie deficit, but the weight rarely shifts. It's so incredibly difficult and can really get me down when I'm trying so hard. Not doing anything at the moment though to loose weight, accepting that I am what I am for the time being, until I have more time and energy to focus on me again."

Hi.

I have recently been following an UK champion body builder FB and many of this things he says makes a lot of sense to me.

So in short,

Don't focus on losing weight. Learn how to trigger your body to use your fat store as energy. Fasting really helps.

Educate yourself about ingredients in foods.

Be knowlabout hidden sugars.

Stop eating ultraprocessed food and cook your own keeping it simple.

But I do love a women with curves and even better if she is comfortable herself.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I watched a video from coach greg about it, here is the video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZVYoQ4goJQ

They also mentioned other things like the signs that if you are taking diet diet too far, like for women it is if they dont have their period and for men if they feel very tired sub 10%.

I dont think that I am struggling in that way. I have always been lean and I find it easy to maintain my 6pack,on my diet I can still enjoy good food.

I believe it can be very obsessional. Magazines, peer pressure. It is never a substitute for being who you are. I am not in any competition to be someone I am not.

Each to their own op"
Hi becs and yes, you are right there, it can be very obsessional too. I also got the muscle mags when I started weight training

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I used to until I had a lightbulb moment when I realised that what other people think of me really is none of my business.

I'm fat. But I'm alive. I'm recovering from being very seriously ill and have had to learn to walk again. That means I'm not able to be as active as I previously was, and I've put on some weight. I'm cool with that. I also like good food. It is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi.

I have recently been following an UK champion body builder FB and many of this things he says makes a lot of sense to me.

So in short,

Don't focus on losing weight. Learn how to trigger your body to use your fat store as energy. Fasting really helps.

Educate yourself about ingredients in foods.

Be knowlabout hidden sugars.

Stop eating ultraprocessed food and cook your own keeping it simple.

But I do love a women with curves and even better if she is comfortable herself. "

I do cook from scratch, track all my calories for absolutely everything I consume, even lettuce and cucumber. The weight just doesn't shift.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, I just build a new one from ebay

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By *enk15Man
over a year ago

Evesham

I do.

I have always been skinny, and I don't like the way it looks.

I am currently in the middle of a weight gain/excercise plan but the amount of food I need to eat to put on even the slightest weight is incredible... and expensive.

And the other thing is, no one wants to hear that I struggle with weight gain, the responses are always the same

"I wish I was you, could eat anything without gaining weight, stop complaining"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I used to until I had a lightbulb moment when I realised that what other people think of me really is none of my business.

This is so true. We really have little influence on other people's perception of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi.

I have recently been following an UK champion body builder FB and many of this things he says makes a lot of sense to me.

So in short,

Don't focus on losing weight. Learn how to trigger your body to use your fat store as energy. Fasting really helps.

Educate yourself about ingredients in foods.

Be knowlabout hidden sugars.

Stop eating ultraprocessed food and cook your own keeping it simple.

But I do love a women with curves and even better if she is comfortable herself. "

I think the thing people really miss is sustainability

We don’t have a weight loss problem. 6 out 7 people struggling with weight are able to lose significant amounts of weight

But the regain numbers are insane. Something like 95% gain it back with about 30% gaining more then they lost

The 5% that don’t gain it back all have 1 thing in common. They pick weight loss methods that are sustainable

That means no extreme diets. No extreme restrictions. No extreme changes.

Things like avoiding all sugars, fasting, only eating X or never eating Y. None of them work very well if you can’t do them forever

That’s what “finding what works for you” means. People think it means there’s a secret fat loss method they need to discover.

It actually means any weight loss strategy you can maintain is going to work.

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Many reasons for women to skip periods. Our bodies are not like a mans.

Always check with gp before diet

Maybe if you’re doing one of those stupid extreme diets. I’ve never checked with a GP in my life if I needed to lose weight. "

My old GP would have jumped for joy if I checked with him lol towards the end of his career he just simply said to me....you know it all. You know what to do, but you will never lose weight unless you hate an eating disorder. You have to be obsessive over it.

I think that may have been one of the turning points. There is no way I am putting myself into state where I get an eating disorder.

Evie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm very happy with where I am now with myself.

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By *obin444Man
over a year ago

Windsor

Yes, all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, I do. If I'm not at the gym for a while, I look in the mirror and probably overthink how badly I look

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Mine has changed and I'm a bit meh, I went back down to my normal size 8 post kids but medication change I shot up to a 12/14 it bugged me I felt what was in the mirror wasn't me, it felt alien - I start r reducing the dose of the meds and felt worse so it's a balancing act.

I do love having some tits though

that's the positive I never liked my empty sacks, now I have tits I just have to put up with the chunkier thighs & belly.

Once we've gotten married I'll try again to loose a little ATM I'm trying to likey body for now it is & keep my dress fitting!

Mrs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise "

Oh if it was just that easy. You have no idea what you are talking about pal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be vain, so it bothered me lots.

Not so much now, but often I look and can’t see how anyone would think I had a nice body. I then get over after a while and realise this is me, it’s who I am.

And I won’t go to the gym, that would just make me feel ugly.

Nice pics op. Nice abs.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Yes all the time unfortunately as poster said on another thread fab is not the place while feeling a little crap so might be time to return to vanilla dating sites

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Whenever I see discussions about body image on here it centres around weight. For a lot of people how they feel about their body changes with age but that's rarely discussed. Is that because it's widely assumed that you should feel insecure about looking older (the media certainly does it's best in that respect) or because fab mostly consists of younger people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever I see discussions about body image on here it centres around weight. For a lot of people how they feel about their body changes with age but that's rarely discussed. Is that because it's widely assumed that you should feel insecure about looking older (the media certainly does it's best in that respect) or because fab mostly consists of younger people?"

I think it’s because we know aging is a process no one can avoid

No ones ever looked at someone and thought “wow they’re old, they should try to be younger”

Weight is seen as entirely self inflicted and it’s easier to judge and feel judged by

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By *icevicebabyWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

I definitely struggle at times, but as I get older I'm also working on loving myself and doing things for the right reasons. I feel so much better in myself when I eat well and exercise. I do it for me, not for what anyone else thinks.

You're always going to be too short, too fat, too blah blah for someone. Obsessing over these things isn't healthy either imo.

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

I used to really struggle with my body image in the past, mainly due to numerous somewhat nasty comments from people I initially admired, but I've slowly learned to brush some comments off now and started coming back with witty retorts.

Also, I don't think it's a 100% like or dislike regarding my body image. For instance, I'm usually complimented on my bum, but I've had derogatory remarks made in public (and private) about other parts of my body, so that takes the shine off things somewhat.

So, yes, I still struggle with my body image, but less than I used to. That, to me, is progress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! It’s rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I've gone from slim to fat in just a few months and feel totally undesirable and a complete catfish.

I just need to adjust and get off my arse and exercise when I'm ok to.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise "

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

If you're sat in KFC and there is a morbidly obese person sat there eating a bucket of chicken, or you see an obese person stuffing their face with take away every night, I agree, that says a lot about the person, however if you see an obese person walking along a hiking trail and doing a 10mile hike, that is completely different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to think too much about my body because I feel hideous when naked and it doesn't benefit me to dwell on it. I think it's good to be kind to yourself and keep active. As much as some people think your looks and weight reflect your worth, they really don't and it is so important to remember that you are more than your body. As long as you are healthy, let your body just be and don't get caught up on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

I think that’s a really fair point. Huge respect for the person on the hiking trail

I mentioned above, I think my mindset is more based on my own insecurity and how I think people would view me, then how I’d view others

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over a year ago

That's such a good point.

I was going through photos the other day and realised how much I'd aged. In my head I hadn't kept up with that but the photos showed me what the case is. That was a bit of a shock if I'm honest. Now I've seen it I can't unsee it.

Our perception of ourselves is a funny thing isn't it.

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

Fat people are allowed to eat KFC without judgment

I know you said you are a not thin person but I just hate this message of fat people must only eat salads to be respected. What if the KFC eater in your example also hiked that say but you didn't see it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the mindsets on this thread, honestly xD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No-one is worth less because they weigh more yet this attitude prevails.

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

I think that’s a really fair point. Huge respect for the person on the hiking trail

I mentioned above, I think my mindset is more based on my own insecurity and how I think people would view me, then how I’d view others "

Sorry for picking on your point again....I just find the conversation interesting.

Is there any part of you that thinks 'i don't like how I feel if people thought of me like that, I bet other feel the same! And then maybe want to change how you view those who you feel have not looked after their body? Why perpetuate those messages in your head?

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I watched a video from coach greg about it, here is the video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZVYoQ4goJQ

They also mentioned other things like the signs that if you are taking diet diet too far, like for women it is if they dont have their period and for men if they feel very tired sub 10%.

I dont think that I am struggling in that way. I have always been lean and I find it easy to maintain my 6pack,on my diet I can still enjoy good food.

No we don't struggle with body image and have good self esteem. That does not come as a surprise that a Lady competing and following a strict diet is struggling with her body image."
That is good and yes. I also think that it is harder for someone that is competing too, as yes, they are following a stricter diet as well.

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I think in society today the media etc drum it into us that worst thing you could possibly be is *fat*

Imo I'd much rather be fat than shallow, bitter, a bully or any other negative thing.

That's what I teach my children, especially my daughters. Fat is something you have, not something you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I struggle with my body image. Probably my least favourite thing about myself. Fab doesn’t help I think if you’re not toned or ripped. Buttttt, I’m on a journey to love myself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it’s because we know aging is a process no one can avoid

No ones ever looked at someone and thought “wow they’re old, they should try to be younger”

Weight is seen as entirely self inflicted and it’s easier to judge and feel judged by "

Every single 'anti aging' product has the subliminal message 'wow you're old, you should try to be younger'.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

That's such a good point.

Our perception of ourselves is a funny thing isn't it."

We were looking at photos of us taken in 1981 last night. Obviously we look very different

. I really dislike the way that the media and society tries to influence the way I feel about myself because in over 40 years I've changed. In my opinion I look a every bit as good in 2024 as I did in 1981...just older

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

^^ and yes our perception of ourselves is funny. Other people's perception of us even funnier

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

That's such a good point.

Our perception of ourselves is a funny thing isn't it.

We were looking at photos of us taken in 1981 last night. Obviously we look very different

I wish I was as fat now as I thought I was in the 80s and 90s

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

As for the body, not anymore. I got to fully accept it and maybe not love it, but accept it.

But I don’t really like my face and there’s very little I can do about it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

That's such a good point.

Our perception of ourselves is a funny thing isn't it.

We were looking at photos of us taken in 1981 last night. Obviously we look very different

I wish I was as fat now as I thought I was in the 80s and 90s

. I weighed about 51kg in 1981 and ate like a horse. The photos we were looking at were taken on the first holiday we took together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Care little about my body but lots about my organs.

Gotta keep that heart healthy.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

It used to be important in my job to be fit, so there was always a need to keep my fitness up which meant my weight was balanced. I never went to the gym but played plenty of sports. I ate trash and drank anything. But the exercise checked it.

Now I am old as fuck and the sports are non existent, the eating of trash and drinking of shit continues but I do a shed load of walking with the dog and bluff it a bit in the gym. I am overweight but I am pretty fit with it both mentally and physically. I am content with my job lot and even in my prime as an athlete, never had a six pack.

If you are too skinny and want to put on weight, I can give you some expert advice. If you are overweight and unhappy, then you need to make lifestyle changes, which could be as easy as doing 10,000 steps a day and decreasing KFC intake. Do not underestimate the power of walking both for both physical and mental health. Throw in spotify

Burn off more than you scoff and drink. Easier said than done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or yknow, you have a disability, or take a medication, you're just a bigger person regardless of your kfc intake

Would be totally fine to see a skinny person sat eating a KFC though right? No judgement there of course. Yawn. Get over yourselves you have ugly af attitudes, god forbid someone jiggle xD

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"Or yknow, you have a disability, or take a medication, you're just a bigger person regardless of your kfc intake

Would be totally fine to see a skinny person sat eating a KFC though right? No judgement there of course. Yawn. Get over yourselves you have ugly af attitudes, god forbid someone jiggle xD "

I said overweight and unhappy. If you are overweight and happy (me). No problem.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

Fat people are allowed to eat KFC without judgment

Oh we can eat KFC! But a sensible adult portion. My point was specifically "a bucket" ie they are eating the equivalent of what 4/5 adults should eat.

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over a year ago

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

I think that’s a really fair point. Huge respect for the person on the hiking trail

I mentioned above, I think my mindset is more based on my own insecurity and how I think people would view me, then how I’d view others

Sorry for picking on your point again....I just find the conversation interesting.

Because I don’t think those views are necessarily wrong. I have more respect for someone that’s looked after their body than someone that hasn’t

I’m not as harsh or as cruel as others. I don’t think people deserve to be treated badly or insulted or made to feel bad. But I still think how people treat their body weighs in on how much u respect then, and how much I think they respect themselves

We only get one meat vessel in this world. It’s one of the most important things we have. It’s our greatest instrument.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"Or yknow, you have a disability, or take a medication, you're just a bigger person regardless of your kfc intake

Would be totally fine to see a skinny person sat eating a KFC though right? No judgement there of course. Yawn. Get over yourselves you have ugly af attitudes, god forbid someone jiggle xD "

People are totally getting this KFC thing wrong. It's about moderation. If someone was under weight and all they ate was salad I'd have similar judgemental views probably.

My post specifically said "a bucket of KFC" meaning more than what one per person should be eating regardless of their body.

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over a year ago

"Or yknow, you have a disability, or take a medication, you're just a bigger person regardless of your kfc intake

Would be totally fine to see a skinny person sat eating a KFC though right? No judgement there of course. Yawn. Get over yourselves you have ugly af attitudes, god forbid someone jiggle xD

People are totally getting this KFC thing wrong. It's about moderation. If someone was under weight and all they ate was salad I'd have similar judgemental views probably.

My post specifically said "a bucket of KFC" meaning more than what one per person should be eating regardless of their body. "

I’ll eat a bucket. But I burn it off too

Very lucky in that sense that I’m quite active

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

Yes massively

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"Or yknow, you have a disability, or take a medication, you're just a bigger person regardless of your kfc intake

Would be totally fine to see a skinny person sat eating a KFC though right? No judgement there of course. Yawn. Get over yourselves you have ugly af attitudes, god forbid someone jiggle xD

People are totally getting this KFC thing wrong. It's about moderation. If someone was under weight and all they ate was salad I'd have similar judgemental views probably.

My post specifically said "a bucket of KFC" meaning more than what one per person should be eating regardless of their body.

I’ll eat a bucket. But I burn it off too

Very lucky in that sense that I’m quite active "

Yep this^ burn off more than you scoff

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

Fat people are allowed to eat KFC without judgment

Oh we can eat KFC! But a sensible adult portion. My point was specifically "a bucket" ie they are eating the equivalent of what 4/5 adults should eat."

So a thin person can eat a bucket without judgment?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

Fat people are allowed to eat KFC without judgment

Oh we can eat KFC! But a sensible adult portion. My point was specifically "a bucket" ie they are eating the equivalent of what 4/5 adults should eat.

So a thin person can eat a bucket without judgment?"

Society judges.

If you are skinny and have a bucket normally reserved for a family of 4 and eat it on your own. Or attempt to. People will be thinking "fair play, where does he/she/them put it all"

If you are overweight and do the same people will think differently. To the tune of "no wonder you are fat/obese" etc

That, unfortunately is society.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

Fat people are allowed to eat KFC without judgment

Oh we can eat KFC! But a sensible adult portion. My point was specifically "a bucket" ie they are eating the equivalent of what 4/5 adults should eat.

So a thin person can eat a bucket without judgment?"

No.

But that's like saying do you view an alcoholic and a non-alcoholic drinking a pint the same.

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

Fat people are allowed to eat KFC without judgment

Oh we can eat KFC! But a sensible adult portion. My point was specifically "a bucket" ie they are eating the equivalent of what 4/5 adults should eat.

So a thin person can eat a bucket without judgment?

Society judges.

If you are skinny and have a bucket normally reserved for a family of 4 and eat it on your own. Or attempt to. People will be thinking "fair play, where does he/she/them put it all"

If you are overweight and do the same people will think differently. To the tune of "no wonder you are fat/obese" etc

That, unfortunately is society."

Doesn't mean we have to accept that and not challenge it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

Being a not slim (aka over weight) male, I do understand maybe where you're coming from with this but I think your view is a bit binary.

Fat people are allowed to eat KFC without judgment

Oh we can eat KFC! But a sensible adult portion. My point was specifically "a bucket" ie they are eating the equivalent of what 4/5 adults should eat.

So a thin person can eat a bucket without judgment?

Society judges.

If you are skinny and have a bucket normally reserved for a family of 4 and eat it on your own. Or attempt to. People will be thinking "fair play, where does he/she/them put it all"

If you are overweight and do the same people will think differently. To the tune of "no wonder you are fat/obese" etc

That, unfortunately is society.

Doesn't mean we have to accept that and not challenge it."

I guess, but I’d just focus my efforts elsewhere

You’d spend your whole life challenging people every day and probably not change a single mind on most topics

Especially on a topic where people’s views can be backed up by science. Whatever way you want to slice it, being overweight is unhealthy and because of that, you’ll never change some people’s minds

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Yes I do, it's all tied up with feeling desirable - if I feel desired (mainly because I'm getting sex but not always) then I'm comfortable in my skin. If I don't feel desired then my self image of my physique takes a massive dive along with my confidence

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

Nope I don’t mr shag because I live in the real world and I don’t watch videos by nomarks to guide me on life’s journey.

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

I used to cut my belly and chest cause I hated it...Still do but don't cut anymore..that was daft

Dont do it x

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

Is anybody ever totally happy with their body ? I know I’m not overly confident and always feel I could look better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anybody ever totally happy with their body ? I know I’m not overly confident and always feel I could look better "

I’m surprised height hasn’t been brought up, especially with younger guys. The whole “6ft minimum” is incredibly common. I’ve seen multiple videos of women taking tape measures into clubs and measuring guys before they’re allowed to speak to them

And height isn’t even within anyone’s control.

I’m average height and I’ve seen a fair bit of it myself. I’m can’t say it doesn’t take a toll

I tell myself things out of my control shouldn’t bother me. That doesn’t mean they don’t

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"Is anybody ever totally happy with their body ? I know I’m not overly confident and always feel I could look better

And height isn’t even within anyone’s control.

I’m average height and I’ve seen a fair bit of it myself. I’m can’t say it doesn’t take a toll

I tell myself things out of my control shouldn’t bother me. That doesn’t mean they don’t "

Well I’ve never seen that women measuring guys to see if they can chat to them hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my body, wobbly bits and all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anybody ever totally happy with their body ? I know I’m not overly confident and always feel I could look better

And height isn’t even within anyone’s control.

I’m average height and I’ve seen a fair bit of it myself. I’m can’t say it doesn’t take a toll

I tell myself things out of my control shouldn’t bother me. That doesn’t mean they don’t

Well I’ve never seen that women measuring guys to see if they can chat to them hahahaha"

It’s generally the younger crowd who haven’t yet matured to know how devastating that could be for a guy in a social setting

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

"I watched a video from coach greg about it, here is the video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZVYoQ4goJQ

They also mentioned other things like the signs that if you are taking diet diet too far, like for women it is if they dont have their period and for men if they feel very tired sub 10%.

I dont think that I am struggling in that way. I have always been lean and I find it easy to maintain my 6pack,on my diet I can still enjoy good food.

Yeah, but that’s the Mental Fuel I use to push myself further in the gym.

I know how good I used to look & wanna get back there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anybody ever totally happy with their body ? I know I’m not overly confident and always feel I could look better "

That's exactly why I go to the gym and why it's a continuous cycle of wanting to look better every time I look in the mirror. And lifting is just a means of self improvement, fuelled by self hatred

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So body image is for most people about size?

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By *arkcrystalMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm so ugly I wank in the dark!

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By *aseylee324Couple
over a year ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

At this stage, I've come to terms with the realisation that I'm never going to be a supermodel. Doesn't stop me disliking my flabby 3 pregnancy stomach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So body image is for most people about size? "

Pretty much

Weight

Height

Penis size

Probably covers 90% of body issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So body image is for most people about size? "

Is for me.

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I definitely do

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"So body image is for most people about size?

Pretty much

Weight

Height

Penis size

Probably covers 90% of body issues "

I understand. I expected to see people mentioning scars, specific features etc

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"So body image is for most people about size?

Is for me. "

I see. You look pretty good to me

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I have the body I have. Some of it I can’t change - my height for example. I don’t stress about that because I can’t change it. My height has real benefits (here for example) but it has real downsides (buying clothes, going on public transport or trying to navigate a world created for smaller people). Net net it is what it is and I have to just maximise the upsides and not waste time on the downsides.

There is a bunch of stuff I can change if I want. I have made an active decision a long time ago to be healthy - I make sure I prioritise eating well and moving well - walking or going down the gym. If my body allows me to do that then I am happy and that’s what I use as the basis for my self image - the things I can control.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

I used to. I really used to.

But I reckon with age (not necessarily maturity) came the realisation that it only matters to those who matter to me.

We all like different things, and happily enough, some like me

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By *lueseasWoman
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

"I think your body is a reflection of you as a person. Not looking after it says something, to me anyways. So I try my best to do my best and keep my body in a decent condition

I’m lucky ti have never let things get too out of hand, so it’s just a little self control with diet and a little discipline with exercise

What does it say if you're a fat person?

Not offended or judging, genuinely interested.

Without any other knowledge of the person, if you see a fat person or they message you, what does their body say to you?

Nothing positive

So you discredit a whole human based on just their body shape?

Not just for sex I mean. I get it if people are not sexually attracted to certain body shapes.

This is really an interesting insight for me. It's not going to make me want to lose weight more, I'm just fascinated.

If you were hiring and I turned up for interview how would I fare?

Evie "

Sadly there is plenty of research evidence showing that size affects job and educational prospects when they rely on interview based selection processes.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

im happy with my body even at my grand old age,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sometimes. I think as good as this site is. It doesnt help sometimes seeing other women who are stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So body image is for most people about size?

Is for me.

I see. You look pretty good to me

You’re my favourite

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"Yes sometimes. I think as good as this site is. It doesnt help sometimes seeing other women who are stunning. "

TBH I think there are absolutely stunning women on here with curves. No names no pack drills.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So body image is for most people about size?

Is for me.

I see. You look pretty good to me

You’re my favourite

I bet you say that to all the girls

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

All my life. Not anymore x

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes I do worry about my body image.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Yes, more often than I'd like,but I am me and have learnt to live with it..almost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All my life. Not anymore x "

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over a year ago

"So body image is for most people about size?

Is for me.

I see. You look pretty good to me

You’re my favourite

I bet you say that to all the girls "

All the girls I want to sleep with

Kidding. I say it to the rest too.

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By *onsShlongMan
over a year ago

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I'm too skinny for alot of women's liking on here, I've been told many times, it's never gotten to me though cause thats perfectly fine. Best thing to remember is you're just not every body's cup of tea no matter what you look like and trying to please everyone is just a waste of energy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't struggle with it, it is what it is. I'm not happy with where it is and I'm working on improving it.

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By *ubbie300Couple
over a year ago

Bawtry

I used to.

Since I’ve started attending clubs I’ve gotten over it. I would love to be a bit firmer, but I’m ok with how I am now.

Mrs

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By *urvelover87Man
over a year ago

London

I don't struggle with it, it's other people that have a problem with me being too skinny and always feel the need to point that out.

On a more serious note, it used to impact me far more than it does right now. I have learned to not give it too much weight.

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By *eddfmyd11Man
over a year ago

Towcester

I did, but it's improved since I started going to clubs and learned that there are actually people who find me attractive

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I do yes.

I know that there will be those who find me attractive and there will be those who don't. This is just life.

Should I care about negative comments? No. Yet, they still bother me and make me feel insecure.

I am working on it.

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle constantly. I am overweight and out of condition. But there reasons why this has happened and I am now taking action to get back in better shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger yeah. I was short as well! High jump was tragic in school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I used to be fat, since meeting my personal trainer husband he got me into fantastic shape, but it's never enough! Always want a bit more muscle and to be a little more leaner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get far more negativity now as well especially from jealous women.

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By *rMonkeyMan
over a year ago

Somewhere

Yes, I was bullied as a kid about being painfully thin.

I've been close to 120kg and 15% bodyfat at my biggest and wasn't happy then.

I'm now much smaller, I know I'm in good shape in the back of my mind but I still think I look like a melted wheely bin most days.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Addlestone

Hi.

I have recently been following an UK champion body builder FB and many of this things he says makes a lot of sense to me.

So in short,

Don't focus on losing weight. Learn how to trigger your body to use your fat store as energy. Fasting really helps.

Educate yourself about ingredients in foods.

Be knowlabout hidden sugars.

Stop eating ultraprocessed food and cook your own keeping it simple.

But I do love a women with curves and even better if she is comfortable herself.

I think the thing people really miss is sustainability

We don’t have a weight loss problem. 6 out 7 people struggling with weight are able to lose significant amounts of weight

But the regain numbers are insane. Something like 95% gain it back with about 30% gaining more then they lost

The 5% that don’t gain it back all have 1 thing in common. They pick weight loss methods that are sustainable

That means no extreme diets. No extreme restrictions. No extreme changes.

Things like avoiding all sugars, fasting, only eating X or never eating Y. None of them work very well if you can’t do them forever

That’s what “finding what works for you” means. People think it means there’s a secret fat loss method they need to discover.

It actually means any weight loss strategy you can maintain is going to work."

IT's a lifestyle change not a temp diet. that's for sure.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Nah. I'm fat. Always been chunky, except when I was ill or stressed. Lost a lot of weight once, but people thought I'd got cancer. Live and let live

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I don't like myself below the waist at all. I got my upper body into a really good place, which I liked this summer but that's now disappeared because I can't eat enough to maintain it. Yes, that's right. This fatty can't eat enough to maintain decent muscles.

Despite being only able to eat thin veg soups, smoothies (homemade) and things like yoghurt or custard, I've only lost a small amount of actual mass. It seems to have been all muscle and no fat that's gone. My weight loss has stabilised despite rarely getting anywhere near 1200 calories a day in liquid forms.

I've given up on actually TRYING to lose weight.

Before 2023, I looked very young for my age and had great, smooth skin with few/no lines or wrinkles. A year of oestrogen suppression to alleviate gynaecological issues has wreaked havoc on my skin. It's looser, I have lines/wrinkles on my face and spots keep springing up. I didn't have spots even as a teenager. I feel like my face has aged 20 years in the past year, so I'm starting to be self conscious about that too. I used to like my face and think it was alright. I liked looking young for my age.

I don't care one jot about makeup, clothing fashions etc. But my actual body image isn't brilliant.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Nope. I'm in my 50s and fat. I'm not as bendy as I used to be and if I do by chance manage a deft move I will probably accompany it with a groan or even a fart followed by the giggles. I'm enjoying my body and life far to much to give a toss about what others think of it.

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By *JDDCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

No not now did so years ago! I'm 52 got to the point like it or leave it x nobody is perfect and at the end of the day we should love and accept what we are and embrace we're still here to enjoy it!! Bonus is I still get loads of attention!! Which me and Dave Love!!!

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By *unlovin72Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

No I am what I am take me as I am I cannot be fake for anyone

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By *inxy777Woman
over a year ago

essex

Yep I do. People are complimentary and I say thank you, inside all I see is fat!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Yep I do. People are complimentary and I say thank you, inside all I see is fat!

Looking fine. Learn to take the compliment

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By *inxy777Woman
over a year ago

essex

"Yep I do. People are complimentary and I say thank you, inside all I see is fat!

Looking fine. Learn to take the compliment

Not sure how lol. Ty.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Yes, and I am working hard to change it. Not just physically but also mentally....No matter how much of my potatoeyness I change it will mean nothing if my mind always sees a potato shaped me

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Yes, and I am working hard to change it. Not just physically but also mentally....No matter how much of my potatoeyness I change it will mean nothing if my mind always sees a potato shaped me"

Best get some butter for your potatoes. I'd dive in

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"Yes, and I am working hard to change it. Not just physically but also mentally....No matter how much of my potatoeyness I change it will mean nothing if my mind always sees a potato shaped me"
,,, you have a nice shape,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not tonight Shag no.. Too cold to worry about image. X

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By *iverscuMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I do struggle yea

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By *unlovin72Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

"Yep I do. People are complimentary and I say thank you, inside all I see is fat!

And all I see is a very sexy lady who is not fat at all

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I used to but not now I'm older, nudist beaches help too.

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By *inxy777Woman
over a year ago

essex

"Yep I do. People are complimentary and I say thank you, inside all I see is fat!

And all I see is a very sexy lady who is not fat at all

Thank you.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've never had great body confidence, but weirdly I've never been at all shy of being naked with women once they've shown interest.

That said, I've put a little weight on in the last year (although not actually that much) and it's not making me feel very attractive at the moment.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I've never had great body confidence, but weirdly I've never been at all shy of being naked with women once they've shown interest.

That said, I've put a little weight on in the last year (although not actually that much) and it's not making me feel very attractive at the moment."

I should add that I've had delightful times with sexy, curvy ladies and hope to do so in future. I don't want my comments about how I view myself to look like a comment on curvier bodies in general.

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple
over a year ago

Up town top ranking

I'm a size 20/22 I love my body, its my temple its what I live in, My butt bounces my soft tummy has rolls. I am who I am, I like me no other option matters to me, I don't need approval to be happy within my own existence.

To me all women and men are beautiful in their own way. Women and men have way too much pressure these days, its sad to see. Embrace yourselves for who you are people

Live good everyone you only get one go at this path. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 20/22 I love my body, its my temple its what I live in, My butt bounces my soft tummy has rolls. I am who I am, I like me no other option matters to me, I don't need approval to be happy within my own existence.

To me all women and men are beautiful in their own way. Women and men have way too much pressure these days, its sad to see. Embrace yourselves for who you are people

Live good everyone you only get one go at this path. Xxx"

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

To me all women and men are beautiful in their own way. Women and men have way too much pressure these days, its sad to see. Embrace yourselves for who you are people

Live good everyone you only get one go at this path. Xxx"
,,, well said.

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple
over a year ago

Up town top ranking

To me all women and men are beautiful in their own way. Women and men have way too much pressure these days, its sad to see. Embrace yourselves for who you are people

Live good everyone you only get one go at this path. Xxx,,, well said."

Thanks dave

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Yeah because my body is horrid... meh

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