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"I have only been a single parent for 4 months now but this has been the most difficult period of my life. I feel like I am failing in every aspect of fatherhood. I want what's best for my child but I feel what I do is never enough. I feel judged by others and I struggle to even get a connection with my child. Is it just me? " 4 months and you are both still in transition, it takes a lot of adjusting and believe me, it sounds like you are being too hard on yourself. Your child might react to the situation negatively but remember they are transitioning too and it might be rocky while they adjust but it won't be forever, love and security. No such thing as the perfect parent and your child doesn't want perfection, they just want to feel safe and loved and for now that is enough. It's going to be challenging no doubt about it, but remember the fundamentals. Lay the foundation of love and security and everything else builds on top of that Let people judge, fuck 'em, you don't answer to them. Just don't isolate yourself and remember you need time out too. How old is your Child? Any groups you could join together in your area? Maybe contact your child's setting if they have one and they may have details of groups and activities and other agencies for you both to connect with Don't forget to have fun with your child too, what do they enjoy? Have fun learning about each other. Being a parent is bloody hard work but you know that the bond you build with your child will be stronger long term because of how hard you have had to work to build it | |||
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"I have only been a single parent for 4 months now but this has been the most difficult period of my life. I feel like I am failing in every aspect of fatherhood. I want what's best for my child but I feel what I do is never enough. I feel judged by others and I struggle to even get a connection with my child. Is it just me? 4 months and you are both still in transition, it takes a lot of adjusting and believe me, it sounds like you are being too hard on yourself. Your child might react to the situation negatively but remember they are transitioning too and it might be rocky while they adjust but it won't be forever, love and security. No such thing as the perfect parent and your child doesn't want perfection, they just want to feel safe and loved and for now that is enough. It's going to be challenging no doubt about it, but remember the fundamentals. Lay the foundation of love and security and everything else builds on top of that Let people judge, fuck 'em, you don't answer to them. Just don't isolate yourself and remember you need time out too. How old is your Child? Any groups you could join together in your area? Maybe contact your child's setting if they have one and they may have details of groups and activities and other agencies for you both to connect with Don't forget to have fun with your child too, what do they enjoy? Have fun learning about each other. Being a parent is bloody hard work but you know that the bond you build with your child will be stronger long term because of how hard you have had to work to build it " My child is 18 months old and I make every minute count with him but it is exhausting. I feel like I have no bond with him. | |||
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"I have only been a single parent for 4 months now but this has been the most difficult period of my life. I feel like I am failing in every aspect of fatherhood. I want what's best for my child but I feel what I do is never enough. I feel judged by others and I struggle to even get a connection with my child. Is it just me? 4 months and you are both still in transition, it takes a lot of adjusting and believe me, it sounds like you are being too hard on yourself. Your child might react to the situation negatively but remember they are transitioning too and it might be rocky while they adjust but it won't be forever, love and security. No such thing as the perfect parent and your child doesn't want perfection, they just want to feel safe and loved and for now that is enough. It's going to be challenging no doubt about it, but remember the fundamentals. Lay the foundation of love and security and everything else builds on top of that Let people judge, fuck 'em, you don't answer to them. Just don't isolate yourself and remember you need time out too. How old is your Child? Any groups you could join together in your area? Maybe contact your child's setting if they have one and they may have details of groups and activities and other agencies for you both to connect with Don't forget to have fun with your child too, what do they enjoy? Have fun learning about each other. Being a parent is bloody hard work but you know that the bond you build with your child will be stronger long term because of how hard you have had to work to build it My child is 18 months old and I make every minute count with him but it is exhausting. I feel like I have no bond with him. " It takes time, don't be hard on yourself, does he attend Nursery at all? Speak to them if so, believe me they will be understanding and supportive. And I can't stress enough about accessing services in your area | |||
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"Thanks all. I just want to give my little one my all but I can't even give myself my all sometimes" There’s no ‘book of doing parenting right’ and do what you can to the best that you’re able. Being there and being involved in their life is the thing. | |||
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"I have only been a single parent for 4 months now but this has been the most difficult period of my life. I feel like I am failing in every aspect of fatherhood. I want what's best for my child but I feel what I do is never enough. I feel judged by others and I struggle to even get a connection with my child. Is it just me? 4 months and you are both still in transition, it takes a lot of adjusting and believe me, it sounds like you are being too hard on yourself. Your child might react to the situation negatively but remember they are transitioning too and it might be rocky while they adjust but it won't be forever, love and security. No such thing as the perfect parent and your child doesn't want perfection, they just want to feel safe and loved and for now that is enough. It's going to be challenging no doubt about it, but remember the fundamentals. Lay the foundation of love and security and everything else builds on top of that Let people judge, fuck 'em, you don't answer to them. Just don't isolate yourself and remember you need time out too. How old is your Child? Any groups you could join together in your area? Maybe contact your child's setting if they have one and they may have details of groups and activities and other agencies for you both to connect with Don't forget to have fun with your child too, what do they enjoy? Have fun learning about each other. Being a parent is bloody hard work but you know that the bond you build with your child will be stronger long term because of how hard you have had to work to build it My child is 18 months old and I make every minute count with him but it is exhausting. I feel like I have no bond with him. " Believe me when I say that you don't need to make every minute count. I think you might be putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself. | |||
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"I have only been a single parent for 4 months now but this has been the most difficult period of my life. I feel like I am failing in every aspect of fatherhood. I want what's best for my child but I feel what I do is never enough. I feel judged by others and I struggle to even get a connection with my child. Is it just me? My child is 18 months old and I make every minute count with him but it is exhausting. I feel like I have no bond with him. " your in transition but dont worry it will come. your doing your best keep doing it its really worth it in the end i wouldnt change anything that i went through. the only time ive felt really lost is when i put a child on an operating table and leave them in the hands of others. i felt really lost, empty, didnt know what to do with myself whilst caring for another as i had 2 young children. keep going and doing your best for them make them happy, enjoy the experience its one of a kind whilst also letting them know your the boss and no means no. ive still got many a day i can chuckle about both my children and there good and bad days. ive even being thanked by my eldest stepchild for what i did for him | |||
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