FabSwingers.com forum: Are you entitled to a face pic...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah not if they don’t want to. You don’t have to send yours either

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
over a year ago

shankill

Not entitled to anything in my kind but I do think it’s polite to share back one if they are.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?"

No one is entitled to anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is entitled to anything on here

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No one is entitled to anything, of someone sent me one and they wasn't for me why would I send mine back?! Zero point it's still a no thanks.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the conversation is going to continue, as in they find me attractive then yes I want one or bye bye baby

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

No one should feel entitled to anything, especially on fab.

Would that this were how it worked…

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"If the conversation is going to continue, as in they find me attractive then yes I want one or bye bye baby"

“I may be seeing you around / when I change my living standards / and move uptown / bye bye baby, bye bye”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"No one is entitled to anything, of someone sent me one and they wasn't for me why would I send mine back?! Zero point it's still a no thanks.

Mrs "

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

No. I've never asked for one and don't insist upon it. In due course, over time, they will send one when they're ready. If the conversation is healthy and well-intentioned I'm happy to wait until they're amenable to share one.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion"

Not sure but I think OP means the face pic was unsolicited and then the person who sent it expected a face pic back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the conversation is going to continue, as in they find me attractive then yes I want one or bye bye baby

“I may be seeing you around / when I change my living standards / and move uptown / bye bye baby, bye bye”"

I only know the chorus

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We wouldn’t send our face pics to someone if they sent theirs first and they weren’t for us.

I mean it would seem odd saying ‘sorry you aren’t for us however here’s what you could have met if we did think you were for us’

Then you’ll more than likely get ‘yeah you aren’t for me/us either’ regardless of whether they liked you or not

We’ve had it when we’ve sent face pics first - I just blame C then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking with a couple who wanted to meet me (strange I know) and they asked for one so I obliged and sent one.

They then refused to send one back and pushed for the meet. I refused as I wasn't will to meet without knowing who it was first.

They spat the dummy and called me a time waster etc then blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a bit crappy in a face pic Friday thread. (The reason I don’t go in it anymore.

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But no, you don’t have to send bc a face pic. We don’t have to do anything!

We do it because we want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

Not sure but I think OP means the face pic was unsolicited and then the person who sent it expected a face pic back? "

I understand it was that other bit wasn’t aimed at the op just me babbling general thoughts on the matter I kind off got it was unsolicited I hate when I get them as I feel very bad about not sending mines back hence why it’s best to talk before hand about it

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By *issBehave69Man
over a year ago

Bulgaria

"No one is entitled to anything, of someone sent me one and they wasn't for me why would I send mine back?! Zero point it's still a no thanks.

Mrs "

Spot on

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nope.

While I'm not entitled to theirs, if they ask for mine without sending one of their own with that request, they sure as shit are not getting mine at all and the convo likely ends there.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

My policy is ‘person who asks for face pic, sends theirs 1st’.

If you send yours 1st willingly without me asking, I’m not obliged to send mine back (I didn’t ask so there is no obligation u sent willingly). I might send if I like what I see

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

Not sure but I think OP means the face pic was unsolicited and then the person who sent it expected a face pic back?

That makes sense x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

Not sure but I think OP means the face pic was unsolicited and then the person who sent it expected a face pic back?

That makes sense x"

Yes sometimes I go on babble rants ware I just start typing what I think on a matter in all ways even though it isn’t applicable to the thread just my head running a million senators at the one time

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"My policy is ‘person who asks for face pic, sends theirs 1st’.

If you send yours 1st willingly without me asking, I’m not obliged to send mine back (I didn’t ask so there is no obligation u sent willingly). I might send if I like what I see

Yeah, that!

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Entitled? No.

But if i've sent mine and they want to meet, but refuse to send me one in return, it isn't going to happen.

I don't think that's being unreasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?"

I suppose they think that because their privacy has been compromised, I should send a face pic back so it's equal.

It wouldn't happen the other way as I never send a face pic. Not even if they sent theirs first.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send facepics even if asked and I've never once asked for one in 8 years here.

I stopped sending them for a while after contributing to a facepic Friday and sent one to the couple who started the thread.

They didn't reciprocate but told me I might be hot if I wasn't Irish.

I did send the odd one now and again after that but stopped completely when people at socials told me they recognised me from my pic in the chatgroup which was strange as I had never been in the chatgroup.

I don't share pics to judge attraction and never have done.

I will only ever do it when I've already agreed to meet someone and we need to recognise each other in the coffee shop.

Anyone sending me a pic just so they can get one in return will be disappointed and if they don't understand or respect my preferences we won't be compatible anyway.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"No. I've never asked for one and don't insist upon it. In due course, over time, they will send one when they're ready. If the conversation is healthy and well-intentioned I'm happy to wait until they're amenable to share one."

Yep.

11 years and I've never had to ask.

What does amenable mean Nero, is that like a prayer kink?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm not keen on people who send a face pic, which I've not requested and then assume I'll send one back. If they had asked first I would have said I don't share following the exchange of a couple of messages.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Yep.

11 years and I've never had to ask.

What does amenable mean Nero, is that like a prayer kink?

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It means that I desire to give you a brotherly, young squire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not keen on people who send a face pic, which I've not requested and then assume I'll send one back. If they had asked first I would have said I don't share following the exchange of a couple of messages. "

Fpf

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Yep.

11 years and I've never had to ask.

What does amenable mean Nero, is that like a prayer kink?

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It means that I desire to give you a brotherly, young squire.

Brother me softly, dear chap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

Not sure but I think OP means the face pic was unsolicited and then the person who sent it expected a face pic back? "

No I meant when you been asked to send a face pic should you expect one back?

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

Not sure but I think OP means the face pic was unsolicited and then the person who sent it expected a face pic back?

No I meant when you been asked to send a face pic should you expect one back?"

If they haveasked you to send one, and you do, the i woukd (maybe wrongly) assume they would send one back, if not i would think they aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion"

'Not picking here, you prompted a thought. But where you've said

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send'

If you ask for a face pic does come across as you being interested to the other person? And as such such leading them down the garden path?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Fpf

Lol you know what my ugly mug looks like

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?"

Not entitled but if all parties agree to swap/change faces then it would be nice to get one.

There is always a risk not getting one back and it is a risk anyone is taking

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

No. You do you.

But it’s shitty if it’s face pic Friday. If you’re not prepared to share then you shouldn’t play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?"

No one has to send ANYTHING they don’t want to

I don’t care if they send a full CV and DB check

If you aren’t comfortable don’t send anything

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By *un KnightsCouple
over a year ago

South West

If one person sends a face pic and the other decides there is no attraction that is the end of it. No point taking things further, a polite no and move on. We have been on both sides of the fence and never taken offence.

Now we mainly stick to meeting at socials and parties though.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No, they're not. They've willingly sent theirs, doesn't mean I/you have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Entitled to ask. Regardless.

Entitled not to share if they aren't willing.

And entitled to not share if they won't share first.

Even if you were "entitled" how could you even make your claim? Is there a fab court ?

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Entitled to ask. Regardless.

Entitled not to share if they aren't willing.

And entitled to not share if they won't share first.

Even if you were "entitled" how could you even make your claim? Is there a fab court ?"

Yes, it's called The Lounge.

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

"Nah not if they don’t want to. You don’t have to send yours either

This .. absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Entitled to ask. Regardless.

Entitled not to share if they aren't willing.

And entitled to not share if they won't share first.

Even if you were "entitled" how could you even make your claim? Is there a fab court ?

Yes, it's called The Lounge.

Is the clique the supreme court then ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. You do you.

But it’s shitty if it’s face pic Friday. If you’re not prepared to share then you shouldn’t play. "

I've clearly stated I may not send mine and people have still sent theirs and known they won't get one in return. I think if you're informing people you won't send there's no issue, they have an informed choice to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you both agree to swap face pics, I would say it would be wrong not to share if the other person already has. But you still aren't entitled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fpf

Lol you know what my ugly mug looks like

I’ve seen your face, yes

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I’ve come to understand we’re entitled to nothing in our short lives

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Nobody is entitled to anything on life or this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

'Not picking here, you prompted a thought. But where you've said

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send'

If you ask for a face pic does come across as you being interested to the other person? And as such such leading them down the garden path?

What I meant by that is leading someone under false pretence that the person is going to share back

Just for example

Person 1 asks person 2 how they feel about swapping face pics

Person 2 then say they would be fine to swap a face pic with the person

So person 1 then sends the face pic over

For person 2 not to resipcte and send there’s back

They not obligated to but you have lead someone down the garden path to get they face pic out off them

If you get what I mean by this

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?"

Interesting, your bio says you are attracted to faces so you are asking people to provide theirs. I assume if there is no attraction it goes no further, but they have already given up their face for you.

It doesn't matter to us, we post our faces publicly and don't fret if people don't provide theirs, if we agree to meet in a club they know what we look like and can approach us.

If someone does want to share their face in advance though, we appreciate it as it is definitely something people try to keep private.

Quick answer is no, nobody is entitled to anything, it is an extended courtesy and nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Entitled.. nope not in my bit of fab land, if people demand only thing that would likely happen ..b locked

My modus operandi

Whom ever contacts first sends first(winkers included)

If theres no attraction no possibility of meeting why would you/I send with a message with a meaning of ..."no thanks... Heres me.."look what ya coulda had!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Entitled.. nope not in my bit of fab land, if people demand only thing that would likely happen ..b locked

My modus operandi

Whom ever contacts first sends first(winkers included)

If theres no attraction no possibility of meeting why would you/I send with a message with a meaning of ..."no thanks... Heres me.."look what ya coulda had!"

So if a man I boxes me, then I look at his profile and message and reply asking for a face pic, he shouldn't expect one back as he messaged me first?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

'Not picking here, you prompted a thought. But where you've said

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send'

If you ask for a face pic does come across as you being interested to the other person? And as such such leading them down the garden path?

What I meant by that is leading someone under false pretence that the person is going to share back

Just for example

Person 1 asks person 2 how they feel about swapping face pics

Person 2 then say they would be fine to swap a face pic with the person

So person 1 then sends the face pic over

For person 2 not to resipcte and send there’s back

They not obligated to but you have lead someone down the garden path to get they face pic out off them

If you get what I mean by this "

Yep got you. Wanted to check if I had it right.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Throwing your unsolicited facepics at me, does not necessarily oblige me to do the same"...

... Is a disclaimer I've been using for years now on apps.

They ain't entitled to jack shit especially if I haven’t made the same requirement of them - which I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?

It doesn't matter to us, we post our faces publicly and don't fret if people don't provide theirs, if we agree to meet in a club they know what we look like and can approach us.

If someone does want to share their face in advance though, we appreciate it as it is definitely something people try to keep private.

Quick answer is no, nobody is entitled to anything, it is an extended courtesy and nothing more."

Yes I do ask for it to be sent but obviously no one has to, it's just a heads up that without someone's face I can't decide if like them or not for more. I want to set the expectation that I'll ask for it if it's not sent before making my mind up. And you're right if I don't find myself interested I don't send mine.

If I a interested I will send it. I wouldn't expect anyone to meet me without seeing it.

Though once I spoke to someone for so long I totally missed the fact I handy sent it and he asked me eventually, I felt so bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""Throwing your unsolicited facepics at me, does not necessarily oblige me to do the same"...

... Is a disclaimer I've been using for years now on apps.

They ain't entitled to jack shit especially if I haven’t made the same requirement of them - which I wouldn't."

A bit like throwing unsolicited cock pics doesn't oblige one to send a pussy pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

'Not picking here, you prompted a thought. But where you've said

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send'

If you ask for a face pic does come across as you being interested to the other person? And as such such leading them down the garden path?

What I meant by that is leading someone under false pretence that the person is going to share back

Just for example

Person 1 asks person 2 how they feel about swapping face pics

Person 2 then say they would be fine to swap a face pic with the person

So person 1 then sends the face pic over

For person 2 not to resipcte and send there’s back

They not obligated to but you have lead someone down the garden path to get they face pic out off them

If you get what I mean by this

Yep got you. Wanted to check if I had it right. "

It’s wasn’t aimed at anyone was just general thoughts on the matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep it simple.

If I’m contacting someone I’m interested in meeting. I’ll attach a face pic’.

If there’s an attraction established, I’ll ask for one if they haven’t sent one. If none is forthcoming, I’ll end my interest there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

'Not picking here, you prompted a thought. But where you've said

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send'

If you ask for a face pic does come across as you being interested to the other person? And as such such leading them down the garden path?

What I meant by that is leading someone under false pretence that the person is going to share back

Just for example

Person 1 asks person 2 how they feel about swapping face pics

Person 2 then say they would be fine to swap a face pic with the person

So person 1 then sends the face pic over

For person 2 not to resipcte and send there’s back

They not obligated to but you have lead someone down the garden path to get they face pic out off them

If you get what I mean by this

Yep got you. Wanted to check if I had it right.

It’s wasn’t aimed at anyone was just general thoughts on the matter "

I know. You're all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s never a obligation to sed one that’s your preference if you want to send yours back

If you don’t that is your right to

Best to talk about it before hand so both know before sending

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send

It isn’t a obligation but it’s a bit crass and crappy to do that but again that’s your choice and opinion

'Not picking here, you prompted a thought. But where you've said

But I will say if you lead someone down the garden path and then back out after they send'

If you ask for a face pic does come across as you being interested to the other person? And as such such leading them down the garden path?

What I meant by that is leading someone under false pretence that the person is going to share back

Just for example

Person 1 asks person 2 how they feel about swapping face pics

Person 2 then say they would be fine to swap a face pic with the person

So person 1 then sends the face pic over

For person 2 not to resipcte and send there’s back

They not obligated to but you have lead someone down the garden path to get they face pic out off them

If you get what I mean by this

Yep got you. Wanted to check if I had it right.

It’s wasn’t aimed at anyone was just general thoughts on the matter

I know. You're all good."

Perfect

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"It’s a bit crappy in a face pic Friday thread. (The reason I don’t go in it anymore.

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But no, you don’t have to send bc a face pic. We don’t have to do anything!

We do it because we want to.

^this^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Entitled.. nope not in my bit of fab land, if people demand only thing that would likely happen ..b locked

My modus operandi

Whom ever contacts first sends first(winkers included)

If theres no attraction no possibility of meeting why would you/I send with a message with a meaning of ..."no thanks... Heres me.."look what ya coulda had!"

So if a man I boxes me, then I look at his profile and message and reply asking for a face pic, he shouldn't expect one back as he messaged me first?"

They can expect what they want thats their business, If theres no attraction why would the other person send ?

I'd expect jim bowen ..saying "oooh unlucky.. look what ya could a won"

Thats my thinking others run their profile their way

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

""Throwing your unsolicited facepics at me, does not necessarily oblige me to do the same"...

... Is a disclaimer I've been using for years now on apps.

They ain't entitled to jack shit especially if I haven’t made the same requirement of them - which I wouldn't.

A bit like throwing unsolicited cock pics doesn't oblige one to send a pussy pic

Although at least when they send me a dick pic, they're a bit closer to the mark in terms of matching what I'm looking for.

The ones who have looked at my pics & decided to send me a photo of their head whilst stood in front of the dining room bookcase, have just completely misread the tone of my profile

it just screams phishing...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Entitled.. nope not in my bit of fab land, if people demand only thing that would likely happen ..b locked

My modus operandi

Whom ever contacts first sends first(winkers included)

If theres no attraction no possibility of meeting why would you/I send with a message with a meaning of ..."no thanks... Heres me.."look what ya coulda had!"

So if a man I boxes me, then I look at his profile and message and reply asking for a face pic, he shouldn't expect one back as he messaged me first?

They can expect what they want thats their business, If theres no attraction why would the other person send ?

I'd expect jim bowen ..saying "oooh unlucky.. look what ya could a won"

Thats my thinking others run their profile their way

You've got to be pretty up yourself to send the Jim Bowen comment though haven't you.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Not entitle at all, but t in general if there’s a conversation and a request to share that both agree to then its poor form not too.

If I partake in FPF, and someone sends a FP I will always return one. But if I send one first I don’t feel entitled to a reply, let alone a return pic

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Must admit, do quite enjoy the anonymity of people sometimes, sure they can see us but there's that little thrill of not knowing until we meet.

We aren't massively hung up on looks, we aren't oil paintings so it would be a bit hypocritical if we were.

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"No. You do you.

But it’s shitty if it’s face pic Friday. If you’re not prepared to share then you shouldn’t play.

If you clearly have stated you happy to get one and you will not be sending one back, then it shouldn't even cross anyones mind to have one.

Hope it makes sense

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah not if they don’t want to. You don’t have to send yours either

It's fine but I don't do blind meets

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

"My policy is ‘person who asks for face pic, sends theirs 1st’.

If you send yours 1st willingly without me asking, I’m not obliged to send mine back (I didn’t ask so there is no obligation u sent willingly). I might send if I like what I see

exactly

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk/Essex

You’re not entitled to one, but if you’ve both agreed to swap face pics and the other party doesn’t, there no point continuing the conversation, which is probably what they want anyway.

As others have said, if you want to see one you should be prepared to send first.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

As far as I'm concerned the person who asks first is obliged to send one, unless they ask before sending and the other person declines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is zero obligation for anything

That said I won’t meet without seeing a face pic first but that comes after a few messages if not on their profile

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By *GermanInLondonMan
over a year ago

London

Entitlement is wrong.

I have huge reservations to sharing but if I do then I would not expect one back if the person is not comfortable doing so. Otherwise if they are comfortable then would be fair to return the favour.

But it's 2D anyway. For example I am really bad at selfies but some people are so great that pictures don't really reflect on reality (or they use an old one). Had some strange surprise in the past and since then I am even less bothered.

Is more exciting for the first meet... Rather see the person in 3D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant be arsed to read all the replies so I’m sure I’m just repeating what others have said but ..

Entitled? No.

Good etiquette? Well yes, I think so.

Particularly if they initiated the correspondence unsolicited, and then ask to see your face. I think it’s good *manners* in that circumstance to reciprocate.

Although tbf, my view is that the party that initiates contact should be the first to share a face pic full stop tbf.

If anyone contacts me first and then asks for my picture before sharing theirs I refuse.

I guess it’s all part of the Fab game though isn’t it?

There’s obviously no *entitlement* to anything from anyone. But it is kind of selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make it clear up front - no face pix

.. Maybe if we have a meet planned just before we meet ....

In my early days i felt pressured to send my face pix to friends... Then i heard horror stories of what happens to them

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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

Entitled No

But in this day and age its about saving time as most people have busy lives and with thousands of males for women / couples to choose from,it can sort out the genuine from the fakes , the age liars unless the post an old pic of coarse.

what if you turned up for a meet without a face pic,

And a Jimmy Saville / quasimodo lookalike turnrned up after there profile said long blonde flowing hair,wears jewellery ,French accent and likes ropes

pic 1st for us

Apologies if you look like Jimmy or Quazzy or fancy them . Apparently quasimodo can hump all day every day

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I dont send mug shots unless im certain i wish to put the tip in thats why i dont send face pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is entitled to anything.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

We’re not entitled to anything but if I don’t get to see who I’m chatting to , move on .. especially if the conversation is going somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is entitled to anything. "

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By *ohntall123Man
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?"

If I dm someone I always attach a face pic because I haven’t any on my profile ( well apart from ) friends only

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over a year ago

"If the other person has asked you for yours?

Are you though? Are they obliged to send it just because you did?

Why is it wrong if they don't send you one?

If I dm someone I always attach a face pic because I haven’t any on my profile ( well apart from ) friends only "

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

In the animal kingdom? Seeing the eyes tells you more about the animal facing you. Many animals communicate with eyes.

I'm happy for someone who accepted a friend request to see my eyes and hence a face pic.

I never ever expect a face pic back and I would never ask for one.

When the other person is happy to send me one, then that's fine by me.

I find it a little disrespectful if others ask for a face pic and I feel it would put anyone off.

Just my opinion of course.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

No. It's up to the individual if they want to send face photos. However, if we had asked if the other person wanted to swop face photos then we would send them, but we don't automatically send them if we receive face photos without being asked.

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

We never send them unless we have met..we have had a few weirdos message us that never show up and have threatened to share our profile around our village... so would hate random people having our face pics.. However if we meet and there is no attraction there is no expectations.. Also the way we see it is we are just having a bit of fun.. Not a relationship so it doesn't bother us what someone else looks like as long as they are respectful when we meet them

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Nothing is wrong if that’s what you want to do - then do it. If not don’t.

Life really isn’t a box of chocolates all time darling. Just because some random messages a face pic doesn’t mean you have to send one back.

* ps. Entitlement is a terrible look on anyone. It puts me right off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd expect jim bowen ..saying "oooh unlucky.. look what ya could a won"

Thats my thinking others run their profile their way

Lol, I'm thinking Bruce Forsyth, Play Your Cards Right.

Higher... Higher...OOH bad luck, LOWER LOWER.... YESSSS

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I send with first message, although it's rare I message these days.

If they don't fancy me, then why get into inane chat? I don't expect anything in return

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