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"... Sleeping! Ok i didn't sleep last night.. I often find it a challenge to turn my brain off... it likes to hum/sing an ear worm just as i close my eyes and then it goes on repeat all night! Got any top tips?! " If I've got a lot on my mind I'll watch the TV with a sleep timer to distract me | |||
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"Get off the phone an hour before desired bedtime. That's my best tip. I like white noise and relaxing sleepy chillout music to stop the thoughts wandering too. T" So true - its the last thing i do as i get into bed  | |||
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"... Sleeping! Ok i didn't sleep last night.. I often find it a challenge to turn my brain off... it likes to hum/sing an ear worm just as i close my eyes and then it goes on repeat all night! Got any top tips?! If I've got a lot on my mind I'll watch the TV with a sleep timer to distract me" I've not got a tv un my bedroom - but if i did, i could see myself binge watching some rubbish series all night | |||
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"I listen to audiobooks for 15 minutes in bed  "This is a good idea, i really like books | |||
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"Good sleep hygiene No stimulants, no devices and some routine " I never thought of it like that... My routine is terrible | |||
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"Ps. It has to be instrumental music for moi. " Well i don't usually know the words, so it ends up being an instrumental  | |||
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"Nope I'm up half the night too i find occupying my mind the best way but as with you I'm awake most of it, every so many weeks i do on call so thats kind of useful as I'm already up in most cases "Oh if i need to be awake, I'm asleep in minutes  | |||
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"I feel you there. Although I can usually get to sleep ok, it's the actual staying asleep for a decent amount of time I never succeed in
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"read a good book when you go to bed" That might work! | |||
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"Breathing exercises to slow your heart rate. Caffeine free hot drink and read yourself to sleep. There are also some quite good you tube sleep assist narrations." I drink decaf tea all day (to help with iron absorption) Breathing mindfulness might help though | |||
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"I need tips for sleeping too, i've had problems sleeping at night since my mid 20s but for about a month now i've struggled to get more than 2 hours sleep a night. I've tried all the usual tips "Its exhausting isn't it - i did an nhs course - it recommended getting a decent mattress, making sure you were warm/cool enough and using earplugs | |||
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"No phone or electrical items close... I do have Alexa but she is in the far corner of the room. I sometimes play low level white noise, thunder or beach sounds help Relaxation techniques and breathing exercises help me" I have poor phone hygiene! | |||
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"I've found since taking magnesium supplements I'm not having any trouble getting off to sleep. I've tried most things before, most effective but not every time was sleep hy*nosis via utube." Oh really!! I will look into those x | |||
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"... Sleeping! Ok i didn't sleep last night.. I often find it a challenge to turn my brain off... it likes to hum/sing an ear worm just as i close my eyes and then it goes on repeat all night! Got any top tips?! " Have a wank | |||
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"I've found since taking magnesium supplements I'm not having any trouble getting off to sleep. I've tried most things before, most effective but not every time was sleep hy*nosis via utube." Magnesium glycinate capsules are excellent for this. | |||
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"... Sleeping! Ok i didn't sleep last night.. I often find it a challenge to turn my brain off... it likes to hum/sing an ear worm just as i close my eyes and then it goes on repeat all night! Got any top tips?! Have a wank " This definitely helps | |||
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"... Sleeping! Ok i didn't sleep last night.. I often find it a challenge to turn my brain off... it likes to hum/sing an ear worm just as i close my eyes and then it goes on repeat all night! Got any top tips?! " I've always suffered from this.. Taking Zinc and magnesium really helps.. As does keeping your window slightly open during the day so that your bedroom is cool and you can get cosy under your bedding. Obviously plenty of fresh air and exercise are brilliant too. | |||
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"Wake up at 4 am. Stay busy alllllllll day. Workout and shower before bed. I need something to distract me so I generally fall asleep whilst watching a film." See I'd get too interested in it and would need to watch until the end... And then the closing song would become an ear worm | |||
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"... Sleeping! Ok i didn't sleep last night.. I often find it a challenge to turn my brain off... it likes to hum/sing an ear worm just as i close my eyes and then it goes on repeat all night! Got any top tips?! Have a wank " Sometimes it helps  | |||
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"If my brain is determined to have an insomnia night then it's the music earworm on repeat. I try to beat it with yoga meditation tricks but they don't work on a no sleep night. It's Mykonos by Fleet Foxes all night. Good job I love that song but even it tries my patience. J" I end up with Kate bush - running up that hill! | |||
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"I found listening to 528hz music on you tube really helped Either that or I just listen to the BBC world service. I need some background noise or my brain just doesn't shut up unless I'm truly exhausted. This low frequency one is a favourite of mine https://youtu.be/QvfbxF039aI?si=gAoSzmii1JeQ1mdX" Oh I'll take a look /listen | |||
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"Anyone who has trouble sleeping has my sympathy, fortunately it’s not something that’s troubled me. I’ve been racking my brain to think of anything I do that puts me in this position but other than being totally done in by the time my head hits the pillow, I’m afraid I’m not much help. " Wow, I'm so envious! | |||
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"... Sleeping! Ok i didn't sleep last night.. I often find it a challenge to turn my brain off... it likes to hum/sing an ear worm just as i close my eyes and then it goes on repeat all night! Got any top tips?! I've always suffered from this.. Taking Zinc and magnesium really helps.. As does keeping your window slightly open during the day so that your bedroom is cool and you can get cosy under your bedding. Obviously plenty of fresh air and exercise are brilliant too. " I have tonnes of bedding.. And a fan to keep my face cool | |||
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then "Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though! | |||
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though! "Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me  | |||
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though!
Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me "Because my brain is stimulated | |||
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though!
Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me
Because my brain is stimulated "That’s not your brain darling
Have a (ladywank) first… obvs | |||
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though!
Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me
Because my brain is stimulated
That’s not your brain darling
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though!
Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me
Because my brain is stimulated
That’s not your brain darling
Have a (ladywank) first… obvs "Much as I love this advice, there have been times when I've hit the fourth orgasm and still not been able to sleep. If anything, I'm more awake  
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though!
Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me
Because my brain is stimulated
That’s not your brain darling
Have a (ladywank) first… obvs
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"I've found since taking magnesium supplements I'm not having any trouble getting off to sleep. I've tried most things before, most effective but not every time was sleep hy*nosis via utube. Magnesium glycinate capsules are excellent for this. " Another vote for magnesium supplements, they've really helped me since perimenopause hit. That and a cool bedroom...my window is still open. | |||
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"Good sleep hygiene No stimulants, no devices and some routine " *Eating a bag of M&Ms while reading this on my phone* Yeah, totally! | |||
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"Go for a evening walk. " Anxiety, worry and stress can affect how well we sleep. Luckily, there are things you can do daily to help manage your worries, like talking to someone you trust or writing in a notebook about your concerns. If you often lie awake worrying, set aside time before bed to make a to-do list for the next day – this can be a good way to put your mind at rest. Using techniques like reframing unhelpful thoughts might also help, which we cover in our self-help CBT techniques section along with other tips. | |||
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Another disruptor are screens: Blue light keeps you awake, hence why you shouldn't look at screens 2 hours before bedtime. Read a book, or have sex. | |||
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"I had issues until I figured a few things out about good sleep: If you use your bedroom all day long, your body will not be able to associate it with a sleeping space, but a waking space, and will not fall asleep easily. ESPECIALLY if you sit on your bed with your laptop all day long or watch tellie, read books or wahtever you want to do on it. If you spend a lot of time on your bed during the day, your brain won't associate it as your sleeping spot. That's the biggest issue why people can't sleep well! Second biggest issue is, that people don't go to bed at regular times. If you don't, your body doesn't know that it's time yet for getting sleepy. It will take A LOT longer until you finally fall asleep. Other minor issues, that keep you from sleeping are: Maybe the bed is too warm after a while, cheap mattresses and pillows tend to be very warm, so you toss and turn to not overheat over night. And this can absolutely happen in winter, too! The opposite, too cold, is a factor, too. Especially if you have cold feet/knees you won't be comfortable to sleep and it takes you longer to fall asleep. This used to keep me a awake soooo many nights when I was out in the bush. Seriously warm everyhwere else, but my knees/feet. Once I started with hot flasks, the issue was gone and I got surprisingly good sleeps!
Another disruptor are screens: Blue light keeps you awake, hence why you shouldn't look at screens 2 hours before bedtime. Read a book, or have sex. "I agree on the lights, blue lights. I have to block out my WiFi And agree that bed is for sleeping. I live in a studio/bedsit so the bed is visible. I have insomnia anyway but I changed my sofa so my back is to the bed and it has helped | |||
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"I had issues until I figured a few things out about good sleep: If you use your bedroom all day long, your body will not be able to associate it with a sleeping space, but a waking space, and will not fall asleep easily. ESPECIALLY if you sit on your bed with your laptop all day long or watch tellie, read books or wahtever you want to do on it. If you spend a lot of time on your bed during the day, your brain won't associate it as your sleeping spot. That's the biggest issue why people can't sleep well! Second biggest issue is, that people don't go to bed at regular times. If you don't, your body doesn't know that it's time yet for getting sleepy. It will take A LOT longer until you finally fall asleep. Other minor issues, that keep you from sleeping are: Maybe the bed is too warm after a while, cheap mattresses and pillows tend to be very warm, so you toss and turn to not overheat over night. And this can absolutely happen in winter, too! The opposite, too cold, is a factor, too. Especially if you have cold feet/knees you won't be comfortable to sleep and it takes you longer to fall asleep. This used to keep me a awake soooo many nights when I was out in the bush. Seriously warm everyhwere else, but my knees/feet. Once I started with hot flasks, the issue was gone and I got surprisingly good sleeps!
Another disruptor are screens: Blue light keeps you awake, hence why you shouldn't look at screens 2 hours before bedtime. Read a book, or have sex.
I agree on the lights, blue lights. I have to block out my WiFi
And agree that bed is for sleeping. I live in a studio/bedsit so the bed is visible. I have insomnia anyway but I changed my sofa so my back is to the bed and it has helped"I live on a boat, very tiny space. I work on my laptop all day because, well, I like money and not starving to death. Anyway. If I spend my day in bed with my laptop, I tend to sleep so very bad. Often very long, and then still feel groggy all day next day. But if I hunker down in the saloon with my laptop and go to bed at night, I sleep very quickly and very deeply. | |||
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"Nope I'm up half the night too i find occupying my mind the best way but as with you I'm awake most of it, every so many weeks i do on call so thats kind of useful as I'm already up in most cases
Oh if i need to be awake, I'm asleep in minutes "lol ahhhh so your mind does the opposite of what you want it to do, the secret is to totally wear yourself out which i do with my work i get decent amounts of sleep but still awake in the early hours | |||
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"Slow your breathing right down. Long deep breaths, concentrate on your breathing, scan your body for any sensations. Before you know it, you will wake up in the morning." This military technique, or whatever else name it has, never worked for me though. Dunno why. | |||
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"I need tips for sleeping too, i've had problems sleeping at night since my mid 20s but for about a month now i've struggled to get more than 2 hours sleep a night. I've tried all the usual tips
Its exhausting isn't it - i did an nhs course - it recommended getting a decent mattress, making sure you were warm/cool enough and using earplugs "Very exhausting
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"Close your eyes, imagine each of your fingers being asleep, and each of your toes. Once they are asleep and can no longer move, the feeling of sleep spreads to your feet and hands, up your legs and arms until your body is asleep and can no longer move as it drifts of to sleep It's a technique taught by the U S military Give it a go" Actually no. The military technique is to tense your muscles and then purposely relax them and do that limb for limb until you fall asleep. Me personally I can't do that but the tensing and then relaxing is the key to this technique | |||
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though!
Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me
Because my brain is stimulated
That’s not your brain darling
Have a (ladywank) first… obvs
Much as I love this advice, there have been times when I've hit the fourth orgasm and still not been able to sleep. If anything, I'm more awake
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"I like a good serial killer documentary in bed… no phone near me and concentrating on Ted Bundy or similar. Sleep like a baby then
Omg i love a good serial killer! Doesn't help me to sleep though!
Why? Have a good dream about all the murders…. It works brilliantly for me
Because my brain is stimulated
That’s not your brain darling
Have a (ladywank) first… obvs
Made you laugh "I woke halfway through the night and thought what would LB do so i had a lady wank and fell back to sleep - genius!! | |||
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"My Alexa plays some very good sleeping music …." I might check that out - i also like the idea of her reading my book for 30 mins | |||
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"LOTR Shire music always drifts me off to sleep with a smile on my face. "Oh I'll check them out x | |||
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"I've found since taking magnesium supplements I'm not having any trouble getting off to sleep. I've tried most things before, most effective but not every time was sleep hy*nosis via utube. Magnesium glycinate capsules are excellent for this. Another vote for magnesium supplements, they've really helped me since perimenopause hit. That and a cool bedroom...my window is still open. " Yeah i think having the window open would actually be good for me - and i have enough bedding to be cosy | |||
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"Good sleep hygiene No stimulants, no devices and some routine *Eating a bag of M&Ms while reading this on my phone* Yeah, totally!" Haha that is me, but dark skittles... Sugar rush before bed.... Hmmm I'm starting to see why I don't sleep | |||
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"Go for a evening walk. " Good idea, but the weather and the dark definitely put me off | |||
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"Go for a evening walk. Anxiety, worry and stress can affect how well we sleep. Luckily, there are things you can do daily to help manage your worries, like talking to someone you trust or writing in a notebook about your concerns. If you often lie awake worrying, set aside time before bed to make a to-do list for the next day – this can be a good way to put your mind at rest. Using techniques like reframing unhelpful thoughts might also help, which we cover in our self-help CBT techniques section along with other tips." Really good tips! | |||
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"I had issues until I figured a few things out about good sleep: If you use your bedroom all day long, your body will not be able to associate it with a sleeping space, but a waking space, and will not fall asleep easily. ESPECIALLY if you sit on your bed with your laptop all day long or watch tellie, read books or wahtever you want to do on it. If you spend a lot of time on your bed during the day, your brain won't associate it as your sleeping spot. That's the biggest issue why people can't sleep well! Second biggest issue is, that people don't go to bed at regular times. If you don't, your body doesn't know that it's time yet for getting sleepy. It will take A LOT longer until you finally fall asleep. Other minor issues, that keep you from sleeping are: Maybe the bed is too warm after a while, cheap mattresses and pillows tend to be very warm, so you toss and turn to not overheat over night. And this can absolutely happen in winter, too! The opposite, too cold, is a factor, too. Especially if you have cold feet/knees you won't be comfortable to sleep and it takes you longer to fall asleep. This used to keep me a awake soooo many nights when I was out in the bush. Seriously warm everyhwere else, but my knees/feet. Once I started with hot flasks, the issue was gone and I got surprisingly good sleeps!
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"Oh, also there are people who drink coffee/energy drinks in the evening and then wonder "oh gee why can't I sleep?"" I drink decaf all day, except for the odd morning /afternoon coffee | |||
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"I had issues until I figured a few things out about good sleep: If you use your bedroom all day long, your body will not be able to associate it with a sleeping space, but a waking space, and will not fall asleep easily. ESPECIALLY if you sit on your bed with your laptop all day long or watch tellie, read books or wahtever you want to do on it. If you spend a lot of time on your bed during the day, your brain won't associate it as your sleeping spot. That's the biggest issue why people can't sleep well! Second biggest issue is, that people don't go to bed at regular times. If you don't, your body doesn't know that it's time yet for getting sleepy. It will take A LOT longer until you finally fall asleep. Other minor issues, that keep you from sleeping are: Maybe the bed is too warm after a while, cheap mattresses and pillows tend to be very warm, so you toss and turn to not overheat over night. And this can absolutely happen in winter, too! The opposite, too cold, is a factor, too. Especially if you have cold feet/knees you won't be comfortable to sleep and it takes you longer to fall asleep. This used to keep me a awake soooo many nights when I was out in the bush. Seriously warm everyhwere else, but my knees/feet. Once I started with hot flasks, the issue was gone and I got surprisingly good sleeps!
Another disruptor are screens: Blue light keeps you awake, hence why you shouldn't look at screens 2 hours before bedtime. Read a book, or have sex.
I agree on the lights, blue lights. I have to block out my WiFi
And agree that bed is for sleeping. I live in a studio/bedsit so the bed is visible. I have insomnia anyway but I changed my sofa so my back is to the bed and it has helped"I had to stop wearing my fitness watch as it's flashing would wake me up all the time | |||
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"Nope I'm up half the night too i find occupying my mind the best way but as with you I'm awake most of it, every so many weeks i do on call so thats kind of useful as I'm already up in most cases
Oh if i need to be awake, I'm asleep in minutes lol ahhhh so your mind does the opposite of what you want it to do, the secret is to totally wear yourself out which i do with my work i get decent amounts of sleep but still awake in the early hours "Yeah if i do something like dancing for a few hours, I'm usually in an exhausted coma sleep | |||
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"Have a wank and then go straight to sleep. Make sure you’ve had a pee before you start, as the soporific effect will not withstand a post-orgasmic stumble to the bog for a slash." I always pee enroute to bed. I think the lady wank routine might work for me | |||
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"Hot chocolate does me well most nights " Ooohh that sounds yummy! Not sure i could have one everyday though | |||
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"Slow your breathing right down. Long deep breaths, concentrate on your breathing, scan your body for any sensations. Before you know it, you will wake up in the morning." Meditated breathing is excellent - i definitely need to do more in all aspects of my life | |||
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"I need tips for sleeping too, i've had problems sleeping at night since my mid 20s but for about a month now i've struggled to get more than 2 hours sleep a night. I've tried all the usual tips
Its exhausting isn't it - i did an nhs course - it recommended getting a decent mattress, making sure you were warm/cool enough and using earplugs
Very exhausting
We do need a new mattress, i'll start looking for one tomorrow "Or maybe a mattress topper as a short term action? | |||
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"maybe a nice long walk in the fresh air mid night or a work out" I do daily exercise and walk 5-20k regularly | |||
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"One day (or evening), during pillow talk, I shall convey all the best tips and tricks to the OP for a peaceful night's slumber." oh that'll definitely send me off  | |||
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"Get a metronome - there are phone apps - and set it going at 60 fairly quietly. Focus all your attention in the ticking. It helps block out your other thoughts that keep you awake. It works like a charm for me." Ohhh I'm gonna investigate this | |||
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"Close your eyes, imagine each of your fingers being asleep, and each of your toes. Once they are asleep and can no longer move, the feeling of sleep spreads to your feet and hands, up your legs and arms until your body is asleep and can no longer move as it drifts of to sleep It's a technique taught by the U S military Give it a go" Thank you, I'll try that - although I'm imagining my toes chatting back - we're not asleep yet midnight - in a funny mary Poppins voice | |||
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"Close your eyes, imagine each of your fingers being asleep, and each of your toes. Once they are asleep and can no longer move, the feeling of sleep spreads to your feet and hands, up your legs and arms until your body is asleep and can no longer move as it drifts of to sleep It's a technique taught by the U S military Give it a go Actually no. The military technique is to tense your muscles and then purposely relax them and do that limb for limb until you fall asleep. Me personally I can't do that but the tensing and then relaxing is the key to this technique" So i tense and then tell them to sleep | |||
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"Don't have any screen time a couple hours before bed. A nice warm bath and dim lights might help too. Miss S x" I had a bath yesterday and shut my door to block the moonlight from the velux | |||
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"I listen to a podcast on a sleep timer. It distracts my brain, so I get to sleep pretty quickly. " I will try that - any recommendations? | |||
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"This guy took my Migraines away in 1 quick video a few years ago, haven't had 1 since. This is his fall asleep quick video. I haven't watched it but I believe in the man so I reccomend giving it a try
https://youtu.be/4pcY8uLCXOw?si=yngnw2i2dE4Bq3jY"Wow that sounds incredible | |||
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"Get a metronome - there are phone apps - and set it going at 60 fairly quietly. Focus all your attention in the ticking. It helps block out your other thoughts that keep you awake. It works like a charm for me. Ohhh I'm gonna investigate this " I'm happy to communicate directly with you about this and give you some tips. It really is very effective for me even when I'm stressed. Luke | |||
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"Zinc, magnesium supplement. I have to listen to something all night, if there is silence my mind races. I listen to podcasts and have sleep sounds on, my favourite is crackling fire sounds." I need total silence to sleep, there is no way i could sleep to music | |||
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"I’m usually asleep within a minute or so of going to bed and sleep straight for about 6 hours. A nice feather pillow , an early start, and a day that makes you mentally and physically tired, always works for me. " I have a great pillow, early starts most days and an physically and mentally tired... Still wide awake most nights | |||
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"I find that without external stimulation my brain wakes up to fill the gap - so if I'm getting tired and on the verge of sleep, and turn the light/TV off, suddenly my brain stops being sleepy. I often find myself falling asleep with the light and television on because they are tiring my brain out and allowing it to relax. By the same token, I struggle to listen to audiobooks because they send me to sleep. Here's a totally random thing that has occasionally worked for me in the past, although I've no idea why - switch around in bed so your pillow is where your feet normally are. " I'll give it a go | |||
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"For me my phone goes off a couple of hours before bed & try to zone out to something a book or crap tv, the phone off definitely helps. Mrs " I need to get more disciplined | |||
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"I find a good book always helps, and I know it’s sounds obvious, but if I’m horny without a release that’ll definitely keep me awake " On my list to try | |||
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"Earworm’s are usually just a snippet of a song. Listen to the whole thing and it can kill the earworm. " Maybe - my brain loves it though especially learning a few more lyrics and its off | |||
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"Mine is the same it never shuts up. I have to listen to audio books or podcast etc just to drown out my monologue. " snap | |||
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"I used to suffer from a form of insomnia called Chronic Slow Sleep. It was debilitating. None of the usual sleep remedies worked, so Ailsa took me on a deep dive into sleep hygiene (she’s super good at research), and now I am mostly cured. I could probably write a book about insomnia cures at this point "Oh I'm gonna Google - I've never heard that term | |||
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"How did you sleep last night? Did you fall asleep OK?" I tossed and turned all night - slept, woke, slept. Woke and had a lady wank early hours, slept. Looked at my phone around 4.30am ish . Went back to tossing and turning and in and out of sleep.
I definitely had more sleep than last night, but i don't feel refreshed
Going to get magnesium /zinc today | |||
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"Our sleep patterns are very easily disrupted Modern living can mean we have distractions stimulants 24hrs a day If you're waking at a similar time during the night chances are you've trained yourself to wake ..it can take weeks to change it back. Whatever you do don't look at your phone, tv, stay laid down eyes closed in the dark relax trying to get back to sleep slowly over time you'll retrain your sleep cycle Happened to me after my divorce took me months to get back to a normal sleep routine." Yeah this makes sense - i often wake every hour - its like I'm on watch for danger? | |||
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"I'm Buddhist ...I find meditation as your lying down works for me. " I definitely need to do meditation | |||
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"A cuddle with a lovely woman.
Good advice to turn screens off. "
I charge my phone on the pillow next to me - because of where the plug is - I'm sure the power light doesn't help | |||
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"No screen time for at least an hour before bedtime, read a few pages of a book before sleep and use a torch to lighten your way to bed instead of switching lights on. Works well for me and I have tinnitus to cope with as well. " Yeah if i use the light I'm instantly awake | |||
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"Get a metronome - there are phone apps - and set it going at 60 fairly quietly. Focus all your attention in the ticking. It helps block out your other thoughts that keep you awake. It works like a charm for me. Ohhh I'm gonna investigate this I'm happy to communicate directly with you about this and give you some tips. It really is very effective for me even when I'm stressed. Luke" Yes please | |||
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"No caffeine after 1400 No phone/tablet/laptop an hour before sleep. I try a little meditation / quiet time about 30 mins before sleep. I used to get about 6 hours a night…with waking in the night too…. My brain would randomly think of stuff and then not switch off…. But now..with little changes…. I’m getting new tween 7-8. Made a huge difference. The cutting off from the world (no phone/work) an hour before is the key. Good luck …. The world of google is a great place …. Just have medication as a last resort "Wow i dream of 6 hours | |||
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