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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London

So you get a lot of shit from men or specifically troll men after you reject them if they message...

But I'm curious to know, does it actually get you down? Have replies to messages here actually brought that mood down before, or are you just conscious they are trolling and awful at taking rejection?

I've never understood why people take it so badly when you have met, they are still effectively strangers anyway...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

It gets tedious for sure.

When I can't be arsed with it for a while I've taken to just hiding the profile

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

When I was first on here and got horrible messages it did get to me a bit. Very tight filters were quickly put on and I can't actually remember the last crappy message I got. But I do know that I just delete them sometimes unread if I get the gist of it before I open it. And no it doesn't bother me because like you said they are just strangers on the net who I would have no interest in anyhow. If anything all I think is they must be pretty pathetic to send abuse to others to try and make themselves feel a bit better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to anyone.

And no, complete strangers, couldn't give a fuck.

My issues lie within my own head, no one else's.

On a side note I will say I rarely get crappy messages anyway.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Does it get me down? Nope.

Does it trigger my sarcasm… possibly

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don't reply to anyone.

And no, complete strangers, couldn't give a fuck.

My issues lie within my own head, no one else's.

On a side note I will say I rarely get crappy messages anyway."

That's because we all lurrrrve the raven xox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't reply to anyone.

And no, complete strangers, couldn't give a fuck.

My issues lie within my own head, no one else's.

On a side note I will say I rarely get crappy messages anyway.

That's because we all lurrrrve the raven xox"

Judging by how many I'm blocked by they really don't!

But this kinda makes me happy.

Who wants to be liked by everyone??

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

When it’s one of those weeks where it’s almost constant it’s just irritating. Like prey said a little profile hide sorts that out, whilst you catch your breath as it were.

I don’t tend to get that kind of volume of messages though, so it’s quite rare.

If it’s the messages you get because you have said a polite “no thanks” or not replied it can get a bit personal. Generally speaking it doesn’t bother me & I’ve been know to troll back until I get blocked. I can see why it could hurt some feelings though. Whether it’s a stranger or not “you’re too fat/ugly/skinny/old for me anyway” could really hit hard if you’re self conscious.

I think the only time I was ever a bit upset was a series of messages I had really tearing into my mental health. I was “fucking deranged”, message after message about how I thought I was great but actually nothing, a liar, fake, false, vain… he put up a status update about me. And this was whilst I was offline for 3 hours and hadn’t responded to his initial message. That one did shake me a little. But I think that was because they were well formed messages, but just full of vitriol and hate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s more the sadness of humanity that gets to me more than the individual insults. Those are somewhat unimaginative and usually involve ‘fat’ and ‘ugly’. But the frequency of people who dish out insults with no regard to their consequence is sad.

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I don't reply to anyone.

And no, complete strangers, couldn't give a fuck.

My issues lie within my own head, no one else's.

On a side note I will say I rarely get crappy messages anyway.

That's because we all lurrrrve the raven xox

Judging by how many I'm blocked by they really don't!

But this kinda makes me happy.

Who wants to be liked by everyone??"

Did you reject them? Or do they not have a penis?

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"When it’s one of those weeks where it’s almost constant it’s just irritating. Like prey said a little profile hide sorts that out, whilst you catch your breath as it were.

I don’t tend to get that kind of volume of messages though, so it’s quite rare.

If it’s the messages you get because you have said a polite “no thanks” or not replied it can get a bit personal. Generally speaking it doesn’t bother me & I’ve been know to troll back until I get blocked. I can see why it could hurt some feelings though. Whether it’s a stranger or not “you’re too fat/ugly/skinny/old for me anyway” could really hit hard if you’re self conscious.

I think the only time I was ever a bit upset was a series of messages I had really tearing into my mental health. I was “fucking deranged”, message after message about how I thought I was great but actually nothing, a liar, fake, false, vain… he put up a status update about me. And this was whilst I was offline for 3 hours and hadn’t responded to his initial message. That one did shake me a little. But I think that was because they were well formed messages, but just full of vitriol and hate. "

Oh Jesus Misty sorry to hear that!

Some people eh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully this extends to bi guys

And obviously not, because words from strangers online shouldn’t really effect an adult

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Depends in my mindstate, it's not often it rattles me.

I had an abusive message this morning calling me a low value slut. I just wanted to know if I was Aldi best low value or Tesco yellow stickers low value?

Words from strangers have no hold, I just imagine the Man Toddlers faces red with rage and stamping their little feet because the uppity women won't roll over.

Bless 'em

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"It’s more the sadness of humanity that gets to me more than the individual insults. Those are somewhat unimaginative and usually involve ‘fat’ and ‘ugly’. But the frequency of people who dish out insults with no regard to their consequence is sad. "

Yes Fluffy.. That is what gets me too. I don't take insults personally and I'm lucky here, I have only had a couple of incidents. But the disconnect that people must feel to be able to disregard fellow humans, is sad to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are encouraged to speak their mind, communication is key. And then you hear about people who can't handle rejection. Surely people should stop behaving like petulant children and respect people's wishes and accept they are not everyone's cup of tea?

My thoughts.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"When it’s one of those weeks where it’s almost constant it’s just irritating. Like prey said a little profile hide sorts that out, whilst you catch your breath as it were.

I don’t tend to get that kind of volume of messages though, so it’s quite rare.

If it’s the messages you get because you have said a polite “no thanks” or not replied it can get a bit personal. Generally speaking it doesn’t bother me & I’ve been know to troll back until I get blocked. I can see why it could hurt some feelings though. Whether it’s a stranger or not “you’re too fat/ugly/skinny/old for me anyway” could really hit hard if you’re self conscious.

I think the only time I was ever a bit upset was a series of messages I had really tearing into my mental health. I was “fucking deranged”, message after message about how I thought I was great but actually nothing, a liar, fake, false, vain… he put up a status update about me. And this was whilst I was offline for 3 hours and hadn’t responded to his initial message. That one did shake me a little. But I think that was because they were well formed messages, but just full of vitriol and hate.

Oh Jesus Misty sorry to hear that!

Some people eh!"

I should probably have stopped reading after the 4th message and just deleted & blocked - but it was like that morbid fascination …. He must have literally sat typing message after message for an hour at least.

Lesson learned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s more the sadness of humanity that gets to me more than the individual insults. Those are somewhat unimaginative and usually involve ‘fat’ and ‘ugly’. But the frequency of people who dish out insults with no regard to their consequence is sad.

Yes Fluffy.. That is what gets me too. I don't take insults personally and I'm lucky here, I have only had a couple of incidents. But the disconnect that people must feel to be able to disregard fellow humans, is sad to me. "

It’s definitely more of an online thing, I’ve rarely encountered such nastiness in person thank god!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it’s one of those weeks where it’s almost constant it’s just irritating. Like prey said a little profile hide sorts that out, whilst you catch your breath as it were.

I don’t tend to get that kind of volume of messages though, so it’s quite rare.

If it’s the messages you get because you have said a polite “no thanks” or not replied it can get a bit personal. Generally speaking it doesn’t bother me & I’ve been know to troll back until I get blocked. I can see why it could hurt some feelings though. Whether it’s a stranger or not “you’re too fat/ugly/skinny/old for me anyway” could really hit hard if you’re self conscious.

I think the only time I was ever a bit upset was a series of messages I had really tearing into my mental health. I was “fucking deranged”, message after message about how I thought I was great but actually nothing, a liar, fake, false, vain… he put up a status update about me. And this was whilst I was offline for 3 hours and hadn’t responded to his initial message. That one did shake me a little. But I think that was because they were well formed messages, but just full of vitriol and hate. "

I'd take comfort in the fact he probably did this from his mother's bedroom while eating his Coco pops.

Some men are just penis heads.

You are lovely

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

No, doesn’t get me down.

Makes me feel sorry for them. Imagine being a fully grown adult kicking off online that you aren’t getting laid? Nah, someone like that isn’t gonna affect my life

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It does piss me off sometimes to be honest, moreso the fact that we don't meet men & they get a huge warning stating that when they come to message us, then have the audacity to be a cunt when I reply we don't meet men.

I think men on here have made me way more cynical when you see them compliment everything with a hole it hardly hardly makes the compliments true, the any holes a goal crew just make me cringe.

I didn't actually think I could be put off men more but fab changed my mind.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning everyone,

Obviously I’m not the intended audience for the question but I echo the sentiment that it’s a sad reflection on some parts of society that hate and entitlement are so prominent. Nobody is entitled to anything full stop. On a fractionally less serious point. Who’s ever gotten anything by being mean and hateful?

Debate is good, understanding other peoples perspectives and views is important (and sadly underrated in todays world).

I just don’t understand why it’s so difficult to just be respect and pleasant.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"It gets tedious for sure.

When I can't be arsed with it for a while I've taken to just hiding the profile "

Same. They don’t know me so their opinions/vitriol mean nothing. But the general crap received can get a bit overwhelming so you need a break now and again.

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"It’s more the sadness of humanity that gets to me more than the individual insults. Those are somewhat unimaginative and usually involve ‘fat’ and ‘ugly’. But the frequency of people who dish out insults with no regard to their consequence is sad.

Yes Fluffy.. That is what gets me too. I don't take insults personally and I'm lucky here, I have only had a couple of incidents. But the disconnect that people must feel to be able to disregard fellow humans, is sad to me. "

I mean I imagine its the same types of guys that slaps their penis and shouts at it 'why are you so ugly?!'

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"When it’s one of those weeks where it’s almost constant it’s just irritating. Like prey said a little profile hide sorts that out, whilst you catch your breath as it were.

I don’t tend to get that kind of volume of messages though, so it’s quite rare.

If it’s the messages you get because you have said a polite “no thanks” or not replied it can get a bit personal. Generally speaking it doesn’t bother me & I’ve been know to troll back until I get blocked. I can see why it could hurt some feelings though. Whether it’s a stranger or not “you’re too fat/ugly/skinny/old for me anyway” could really hit hard if you’re self conscious.

I think the only time I was ever a bit upset was a series of messages I had really tearing into my mental health. I was “fucking deranged”, message after message about how I thought I was great but actually nothing, a liar, fake, false, vain… he put up a status update about me. And this was whilst I was offline for 3 hours and hadn’t responded to his initial message. That one did shake me a little. But I think that was because they were well formed messages, but just full of vitriol and hate.

I'd take comfort in the fact he probably did this from his mother's bedroom while eating his Coco pops.

Some men are just penis heads.

You are lovely "

I’m adding whilst wearing his mom’s nightie. Saved to the memory bank for emergency use

Thank you, Raven

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"When it’s one of those weeks where it’s almost constant it’s just irritating. Like prey said a little profile hide sorts that out, whilst you catch your breath as it were.

I don’t tend to get that kind of volume of messages though, so it’s quite rare.

If it’s the messages you get because you have said a polite “no thanks” or not replied it can get a bit personal. Generally speaking it doesn’t bother me & I’ve been know to troll back until I get blocked. I can see why it could hurt some feelings though. Whether it’s a stranger or not “you’re too fat/ugly/skinny/old for me anyway” could really hit hard if you’re self conscious.

I think the only time I was ever a bit upset was a series of messages I had really tearing into my mental health. I was “fucking deranged”, message after message about how I thought I was great but actually nothing, a liar, fake, false, vain… he put up a status update about me. And this was whilst I was offline for 3 hours and hadn’t responded to his initial message. That one did shake me a little. But I think that was because they were well formed messages, but just full of vitriol and hate.

I'd take comfort in the fact he probably did this from his mother's bedroom while eating his Coco pops.

Some men are just penis heads.

You are lovely "

You are being nice to people now?! What has happened!? Did you get laid?

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By *ruceyy OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"It does piss me off sometimes to be honest, moreso the fact that we don't meet men & they get a huge warning stating that when they come to message us, then have the audacity to be a cunt when I reply we don't meet men.

I think men on here have made me way more cynical when you see them compliment everything with a hole it hardly hardly makes the compliments true, the any holes a goal crew just make me cringe.

I didn't actually think I could be put off men more but fab changed my mind.

Mrs "

I totally hear you...so when shall we meet and talk it through?

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Not anymore, since I got a really bad interaction with someone, similar to Misty experience.

The unexpected bit is that it came from very well verified profile and this was the point where I started to question my own judgement.

Now I just don’t respond to anyone but I get very few messages anyway so it’s not a big issue for me anymore.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I should probably have stopped reading after the 4th message and just deleted & blocked - but it was like that morbid fascination …. He must have literally sat typing message after message for an hour at least.

Lesson learned."

One time I sent just a "No thanks" then was offline for the day. I came back to 8 incredibly long messages about how sarcasm doesnt make up for a lack of personality and how incredibly rude amd less than him I was. I wasn't even sarcastic at him. He'd even left the chatgpt prompts in for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it’s one of those weeks where it’s almost constant it’s just irritating. Like prey said a little profile hide sorts that out, whilst you catch your breath as it were.

I don’t tend to get that kind of volume of messages though, so it’s quite rare.

If it’s the messages you get because you have said a polite “no thanks” or not replied it can get a bit personal. Generally speaking it doesn’t bother me & I’ve been know to troll back until I get blocked. I can see why it could hurt some feelings though. Whether it’s a stranger or not “you’re too fat/ugly/skinny/old for me anyway” could really hit hard if you’re self conscious.

I think the only time I was ever a bit upset was a series of messages I had really tearing into my mental health. I was “fucking deranged”, message after message about how I thought I was great but actually nothing, a liar, fake, false, vain… he put up a status update about me. And this was whilst I was offline for 3 hours and hadn’t responded to his initial message. That one did shake me a little. But I think that was because they were well formed messages, but just full of vitriol and hate.

I'd take comfort in the fact he probably did this from his mother's bedroom while eating his Coco pops.

Some men are just penis heads.

You are lovely

You are being nice to people now?! What has happened!? Did you get laid?"

I'm always nice. I just don't always show it.

Tis the season brucey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it mostly discouraged me from meeting anyone and when I do I'm overly cautious....

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I should probably have stopped reading after the 4th message and just deleted & blocked - but it was like that morbid fascination …. He must have literally sat typing message after message for an hour at least.

Lesson learned.

One time I sent just a "No thanks" then was offline for the day. I came back to 8 incredibly long messages about how sarcasm doesnt make up for a lack of personality and how incredibly rude amd less than him I was. I wasn't even sarcastic at him. He'd even left the chatgpt prompts in for it."

Maybe it was the same “man” (loosely termed).

20 messages. He had picked my profile apart. Although at least he read it I suppose

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I should probably have stopped reading after the 4th message and just deleted & blocked - but it was like that morbid fascination …. He must have literally sat typing message after message for an hour at least.

Lesson learned.

One time I sent just a "No thanks" then was offline for the day. I came back to 8 incredibly long messages about how sarcasm doesnt make up for a lack of personality and how incredibly rude amd less than him I was. I wasn't even sarcastic at him. He'd even left the chatgpt prompts in for it.

Maybe it was the same “man” (loosely termed).

20 messages. He had picked my profile apart. Although at least he read it I suppose "

Possibly. He'd zoomed in on a couple of phrases in my profile during his tirade.

But, all I said was no thanks to an uninspiring proposition. So the whole thing was just a massive projection of his own issues and there was nothing to take to heart. Especially when he'd left the prompts in to show that he'd asked chatgpt to be extra vicious

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


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Possibly. He'd zoomed in on a couple of phrases in my profile during his tirade.

But, all I said was no thanks to an uninspiring proposition. So the whole thing was just a massive projection of his own issues and there was nothing to take to heart. Especially when he'd left the prompts in to show that he'd asked chatgpt to be extra vicious "

That has made my day! Incapable of formulating his own extra vicious reply!

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first came here at the tender age of 26 then yes it did get to me.

Now I just laugh lol ok I'm a minger or a slut etc after I said no to sucking your cock. Make it make sense.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Only one message has left me feeling a bit rubbish and it was a message sent specifically to be horrible, not the result of a rejection.

I’m very lucky in that 99.99% of my messages have been positive, upbeat and witty. I think that’s why it was a bit deflating.

He’d woken up and chose to be mean to someone and I guess I was there.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"

Possibly. He'd zoomed in on a couple of phrases in my profile during his tirade.

But, all I said was no thanks to an uninspiring proposition. So the whole thing was just a massive projection of his own issues and there was nothing to take to heart. Especially when he'd left the prompts in to show that he'd asked chatgpt to be extra vicious

That has made my day! Incapable of formulating his own extra vicious reply!

J"

Seriously, he'd added in something like and make sure she knows she's not special into the prompt when the first version he'd already pasted in wasn't mean enough ()

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It rarely happens tbh.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"

Possibly. He'd zoomed in on a couple of phrases in my profile during his tirade.

But, all I said was no thanks to an uninspiring proposition. So the whole thing was just a massive projection of his own issues and there was nothing to take to heart. Especially when he'd left the prompts in to show that he'd asked chatgpt to be extra vicious

That has made my day! Incapable of formulating his own extra vicious reply!

J

Seriously, he'd added in something like and make sure she knows she's not special into the prompt when the first version he'd already pasted in wasn't mean enough () "

This is utterly perfect

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I should probably have stopped reading after the 4th message and just deleted & blocked - but it was like that morbid fascination …. He must have literally sat typing message after message for an hour at least.

Lesson learned.

One time I sent just a "No thanks" then was offline for the day. I came back to 8 incredibly long messages about how sarcasm doesnt make up for a lack of personality and how incredibly rude amd less than him I was. I wasn't even sarcastic at him. He'd even left the chatgpt prompts in for it.

Maybe it was the same “man” (loosely termed).

20 messages. He had picked my profile apart. Although at least he read it I suppose

Possibly. He'd zoomed in on a couple of phrases in my profile during his tirade.

But, all I said was no thanks to an uninspiring proposition. So the whole thing was just a massive projection of his own issues and there was nothing to take to heart. Especially when he'd left the prompts in to show that he'd asked chatgpt to be extra vicious "

Can't even think of his own insults? A special kind of cretin.

People take this place so seriously. Rejection should be a simple 'no worries, have a great day/weekend', and not turn into some invitation to vent your spleen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some really shitty messages during my time here. I am lucky that it doesn't go much deeper than me reading it and blocking. I don't think about them unless a thread like this makes me think back to what was said.

Now, if it was in real life and someone made the same kind of comment men make on here then I would be a bit taken aback. But I know those kind of people are really not worth getting upset over and it definitely wouldn't have an impact on me like it would have five or so years ago. I could easily shrug it off.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Was shocked first couple times it happened! Must admit but now I find it hilarious! X

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