FabSwingers.com forum: Age preference excluding younger men

By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

I’ve noticed quite a few people have their age preference to exclude “younger” men, is there any reason why? I’m curious but respect people’s personal preferences, I’m not trying to persuade anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they want to. Next

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Because if they're older, they've probably got kids that age.

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By *irtydaddyreturnsMan
over a year ago

corby

I adore those women that enjoy much much older males, your chance will come while your young

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By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

"Because they want to. Next "

I understand they want to, but I’m curious if there’s a stand out reason for that

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Eldest is 28. Quite simple.

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By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

"Because if they're older, they've probably got kids that age. "

Fair point!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I can only speak for myself. I have a son in his thirties and a son in law in his mid thirties. It wouldn't feel right to me. Add to that I find it very hard to believe a man 40 years younger than me would genuinely find me attractive.

It's not personal

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I got told I need a cougar a few days ago, by a woman who was older than me.

She wasn't being persuasive either. I asked if she was being suggestive - she said no she'd tear me to shreds.

Careful what you wish for.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Not for me. I love younger men.

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

newcastle-under-lyme

i find it quite the opposite at my age lol

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I don't want to be playing with people near my kids ages.

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By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

Thanks for those who shared the comparison to their kids ages, I never even considered that!

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Never been attracted to younger, even as a teen I went for much older

But specifically, if I'm old enough to be their mother it is a no to even flirty chat.

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

But on the PLUS side, there is someone for everyone and you can select "looking for someone my age"

In your search To help find them.

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By *emma200Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Younger for me…. All day x

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I’ve noticed quite a few people have their age preference to exclude “younger” men, is there any reason why? I’m curious but respect people’s personal preferences, I’m not trying to persuade anyone

Have you asked them? Everyone will have a different reason

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Because they usually don’t know the difference between cockiness and confidence IMO.

The first to get arsey and nasty when you say no

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By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

Have you asked them? Everyone will have a different reason

Well I can’t if they have messages blocked due to the preferences, and besides that’s why I have asked on here for people to share

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By *exyCarla181Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

Got to be older than my oldest kid for me otherwise it's too weird... Just my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many reasons but mostly older men have more their shit together and don't wanna marry me.

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By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

"Many reasons but mostly older men have more their shit together and don't wanna marry me."

Unwanted marriage proposals could become an issue to be fair lol

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By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

"Because they usually don’t know the difference between cockiness and confidence IMO.

The first to get arsey and nasty when you say no"

Yeah this is what I assumed was the main reason for it, which is sad to hear. Good to hear all the different opinions on it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many reasons but mostly older men have more their shit together and don't wanna marry me."

Ok, I don't want to marry you and.....

I've yet to get my shit together..... but it's close, soooo close

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I just don't want to meet someone that is roughly the same age as my children. To me it just feels wrong sorry.

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By *rishb26 OP Man
over a year ago

kilkenny area

"I just don't want to meet someone that is roughly the same age as my children. To me it just feels wrong sorry.

Xx"

No need to say sorry! I posted this to discuss it, but I am appreciating the discussion. Everyone has their preferences!

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Hmmmm a few reasons.. My son and his friends are young men. It's hard to remove myself from that. I feel like a mum figure.. It's not a sexy thought.

Young men who fancy older women are possibly fetishising them.. I don't want to be a bucket list tick off or a fetish. Attraction is more sexy when it's authentic rather than fantasy.

Connection.. I find experience, maturity, wisdom comes with age. Better communication.

I know some young men are wise beautiful souls. I would consider younger in an organic situation but on here I need to keep my filters tight. My inbox is full enough!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it’s their preference they don’t need any more of a reason than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My oldest son is 21. To me he is a child. I therefore see all men in their 20s as 'children' to me....and to be fair many act it. I've always had a preference for older men but now I'm getting old I don't mind a slight bit younger but 30 is my cut off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the same reason that younger people (myself included) will exclude old people. It just feels weird shagging someone the same age as my parents and even grandparents, I imagine its the same with the roles reversed. My parents are in their early 40s. It's why when people msg me or approach me in clubs and stuff, if they're late 30s/early 40s then I just tell them that they're older than my mum and it usually sends them away pretty quickly. I make sure to do it in a higher pitched tone aswell to reallllly set in the cringe factor.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I don't want to play with anyone too close in age to my own children.

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By *fdTMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I can only speak for myself. I have a son in his thirties and a son in law in his mid thirties. It wouldn't feel right to me. Add to that I find it very hard to believe a man 40 years younger than me would genuinely find me attractive.

It's not personal

Its more common than you think, I find you very attractive, more so than some of the younger ladies on this site, I'm not saying there not pretty far from and just a mature woman has that ummmmph about her,

Stay beautiful ??

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By *anJenny 181Couple
over a year ago

Preston

We don't want to play with anyone in or around the age of our children it would just not feel right.

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By *fdTMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Always been attracted to mature women, I like how they take control of a situation, they know how to make you know you've be fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't concentrate on what you can't have.

Basic of life, really.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have an internal ick below a certain age. Like, that person is too child like, child is inappropriate category for that stuff, brain refuses to consider in that category.

So I set a hard lower limit because... I know that young adults are still adults, I know it's irrational, but my brain still goes ick.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

For a lot of people it's about maturity levels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

forgetting our kids age for now, the last one shot his load before being touched, total waste of time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m old enough to be your mum, no way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My age filters have quite a big gap.

I judge my choices on more than merely age.

I wouldn't want to meet someone my son's age etc though so I get why others would filter those ages out.

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By *odevilWoman
over a year ago

exeter

I don't want to be a "teacher"

Experience is more valuable to me than youth.

I'm totally over jack-rabbit sex.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I don't have kids, but I feel I have much more in common with men my own age, give or take a few years.

If I'm gonna meet someone, I want to be able to get on well with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For the same reason that younger people (myself included) will exclude old people. It just feels weird shagging someone the same age as my parents and even grandparents, I imagine its the same with the roles reversed. My parents are in their early 40s. It's why when people msg me or approach me in clubs and stuff, if they're late 30s/early 40s then I just tell them that they're older than my mum and it usually sends them away pretty quickly. I make sure to do it in a higher pitched tone aswell to reallllly set in the cringe factor. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a lot of people it's about maturity levels. "

I don't find immaturity sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a lot of people it's about maturity levels.

I don't find immaturity sexy."

I find older guys more immature than some younger guys on here.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

Ends

I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread. "

Hopefully not me!

My children are still quite young, still teenagers, one not even there yet, so I don’t have the problem mentioned so much on this thread… dunno, ask me in 7-10 years?

I think it’s just a matter of preference. Older men do nothing for me….

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

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"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Hopefully not me!

My children are still quite young, still teenagers, one not even there yet, so I don’t have the problem mentioned so much on this thread… dunno, ask me in 7-10 years?

I think it’s just a matter of preference. Older men do nothing for me…. "

No I like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread. "

That's my Sunday made!

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Yes. Most people over a certain age have grown up children that may be of a similar age to you and so it just doesn't sit right with them.

You have to respect peoples preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a lot of people it's about maturity levels.

I don't find immaturity sexy.

I find older guys more immature than some younger guys on here. "

Hence my age range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread. "

Why?

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

Ends

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?"

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread. "

Wow, that did not sound like the affable Mr Pickle who used to be on the site.

Not sure any of the 'older women' made comments that would render them 'unattractive', most of the comments were honest answers about preferences based on how old their kids were.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

Ends

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Wow, that did not sound like the affable Mr Pickle who used to be on the site.

Not sure any of the 'older women' made comments that would render them 'unattractive', most of the comments were honest answers about preferences based on how old their kids were."

Sorry for expressing my opinion.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Anyone, I can/want to hold a conversation with.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Its a preference unfortunately and it works both ways 50 is also a cut off age too

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Because its very rare, that I find compatible men, in those above and under, age ranges of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it. "

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

Ends

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

Ends

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

Don’t worry if you didn’t. Most people on this website don’t get my meme reference.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

old man shouts at cloud dot gif

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

Don’t worry if you didn’t. Most people on this website don’t get my meme reference. "

Was it from the 80's? If not... no.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

Don’t worry if you didn’t. Most people on this website don’t get my meme reference.

Was it from the 80's? If not... no.

Forever young *waves cigarette lighter, knees creak*

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"...I’m curious but respect people’s personal preferences...

•

You just answered your own curiosity, OP.

People have preferences for a multitude of genuine reasons.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

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"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

old man shouts at cloud dot gif"

I understood that reference

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
over a year ago

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"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

Don’t worry if you didn’t. Most people on this website don’t get my meme reference.

Was it from the 80's? If not... no.

Older women become less and less attractive to me everyday on here.

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By *am101aMan
over a year ago

swad

I'd actually choose ladies around my age or maybe +5, -10 years...

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

Any guys younger than my kids is just a no no

And the fact you might be even younger than you're claiming is also a worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I exclude younger men (and older men for that matter)

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Any guys younger than my kids is just a no no

And the fact you might be even younger than you're claiming is also a worry"

Saying that tho, I did meet someone who blew me away , so I lowered my age preference. Sex was amazing

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

old man shouts at cloud dot gif

I understood that reference

oh god Simpsons is becoming an historical reference.

I quit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never found some of the older women I like on here more unattractive than I have after after reading this thread.

Why?

Don’t worry about it, sweetheart. Don’t worry about it.

The young uns are so polite and fuckable.

Did you understand the reference

old man shouts at cloud dot gif

I understood that reference

oh god Simpsons is becoming an historical reference.

I quit."

I did not understand the reference. Sampsons were lost on me. Now Wile E. Coyote and the Road Runner, that's a different kettle of fish.

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