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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

The next post contains a big, fat disability related rant. Reader discretion is advised. If you are allergic to ranty posts into the ether, please shield your eyes and use the emergency exits *here* *here* or *here*

1) Colleagues think the low level sink is for disposing of used coffee grounds. It is not. It is for wheelchair height use for washing up. I cleaned up everyone else's spent coffee (fingers to scrápe it out of the plughole) so I could wash my lunch pots.

2) Meeting rooms - someone had brought loads of extra chairs into a room designed for 2-3 people, which I had booked for a Teams thing. I was unable to use it because I couldn't open the door due to the chairs in the way. There was no-one around to help immediately and I had a meeting to join.

3) On street parking bay suspensions on loads of side streets. This meant I could not park relatively near to my post work appointment and instead had to park on a major road, at rush hour. There are no dropped kerbs near the on street bays so I had to push in the road, in the rain, against oncoming traffic (2 lines) to find somewhere to get on the pavement.

Having to park further away and push by wheelchair to my destination lead to...

4) People blocking road crossings with their fucking stupid giant SUVs (in a city centre) meaning it was impossible or incredibly dangerous to cross the road. Twice, I was almost hit by cyclists undertaking the cars, whilst the green man was lit for pavement people. I had to wait for several changes of the lights to even be able to attempt to cross. I was, therefore, late.

Having to push (in the pissing rain) from further away also lead to...

5) Falling out of my wheelchair, due to the dropped kerb being defective but the defect being hidden under a deep puddle. I fell into a side street, full length. My dress, tights, coat and gloves are wet through, as is my ONLY cushion (because my wet arse had to sit on it). A member of the public held my chair while I CRAWLED onto my knees, in the aforementioned puddles and pissing rain and got back into my chair. My back, my bad leg, my wrist and my pride hurt. I am simultaneously livid and want to cry.

I proceeded, to find a café to sit and calm down in, and to let the traffic improve. Which lead to....

6) The pavement being blocked by a music venue who have placed electrical cabling, encased in a metal casing, across the full width of the pavement, on an upward slope. I nearly fell out of my chair a second time trying to get over this obstacle. I could not cross over because of the lack of dropped kerbs and the fact concrete blocks have been placed on the edge of the road to form an outdoor seating area for nearby bars. The music venue had further narrowed the pavement with queue barriers, and a Remembrance Sunday "road closure" sign that someone had pushed over, combined to totally block the narrow pavement further. I lost my temper and swore and shouted and wanted to fucking but someone. A member of the public overhead my swearing and picked up the fallen signboard. The security man on the venue door did not appear to understand English, when I asked them (politely!) to move the barrier. He just smiled at me, which enraged me more and I carried on, muttering under my breath.

I am now in a café. I am fucking freezing because I am sat in soaking wet knickers, tights and dress. My shoes are damaged and I can't talk to anyone right now because no-one is left at work and Mr KC is home with our daughter.

Why the fuck is it so fucking difficult to just do my job, go to an appointment and go home??

It feels like the entire world is set against disabled people and the absolute state of pavements, the absolute idiocy and stupidity of the public/drivers/cyclists and the total lack of thought by venues is just beyond words.

So, if you are a red-light skipper - don't.

If you are a stop-on-pedestrian-crossings driver - don't.

If you are a venue operator - don't block the goddamned pavement.

And Manchester City Council - sort out the fecking pavements and side streets and stop removing safe parking bays and only leaving ones in the middle of the busiest thoroughfare in the entire city!!

And rain - fuck you too. This wouldn't have been so uncomfortable in dry conditions and some of it probably wouldn't have happened without the puddle obscuring the damaged pavement!!

Rant. Over.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Ugh... I really feel for you. Sending a warm hug.

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

Please find a virtual hug and giant slice of virtual cake attached.

It's the best I can do, sorry.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

I have to go back to my car and drive home soon. I don't want to push in the rain anymore. I don't want to push anywhere right now. I want my car to magically appear outside

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Literally no words to describe my feelings about this. I'm sending love.

Are you injured in any way? If so can you deal with that?

Are you at least warming up in the cafe? And can you go home when you're a little more calm? If the calm is some time next week I wouldn't be surprised... this is a clusterfuck of angry making shit quite frankly.

All the hugs, Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh mrs kc

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

No open/bleeding injuries. I grazed the side of my bad leg. The ankle on that side really hurts. I can feel my foot on the bad side is swelling but seems otherwise okay. I don't dare take off my shoe here. My back hurts and so does my hip cos I banged it. My wrist hurts because I tried to stop myself hitting my head.

My Snag tights are buggered too!! Not cheap

I drank my coffee and am now cold because the heating isn't really on here and my clothes are wet. I'm going to have to make a break for it soon

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Oh OP that's absolutely horrific, people really are fuck wits aren't they? Hope you are OK xx sending hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No open/bleeding injuries. I grazed the side of my bad leg. The ankle on that side really hurts. I can feel my foot on the bad side is swelling but seems otherwise okay. I don't dare take off my shoe here. My back hurts and so does my hip cos I banged it. My wrist hurts because I tried to stop myself hitting my head.

My Snag tights are buggered too!! Not cheap

I drank my coffee and am now cold because the heating isn't really on here and my clothes are wet. I'm going to have to make a break for it soon "

Can you sue the council for your injuries? No win no fee type thing. Not for the money but to screw the bastards.

Xx

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By *heoneandonlyEJCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Oh no. Hope you’re ok and not hurt at all. J uses a wheelchair and it really does seem like the world is against things being simple for disabled people. Hope something good happens to cheer you up x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"No open/bleeding injuries. I grazed the side of my bad leg. The ankle on that side really hurts. I can feel my foot on the bad side is swelling but seems otherwise okay. I don't dare take off my shoe here. My back hurts and so does my hip cos I banged it. My wrist hurts because I tried to stop myself hitting my head.

My Snag tights are buggered too!! Not cheap

I drank my coffee and am now cold because the heating isn't really on here and my clothes are wet. I'm going to have to make a break for it soon "

You are a legend. Remember that, even with wet pants and buggered tights

Put that OP into an email to the council. And demand compensation. Even if it is just for the tights. Also... let rip at work. They should know better ffs.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sounds like an utter nightmare of a day. So sorry for you. Wish I’d been around to be a chaperone. Also wish I could control the weather but I can’t

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

Back in the car. I accosted a young couple coming out of a nearby restaurant and asked them to lift the chair in for me. I normally use a hoist and crutch-hobble from the boot to the front but that's not happening right now. I feel dreadful for bothering a couple on a night out (they weren't snogging or anything, just chatting!) Urgh.

I don't want to ask for, or need help. I just want the world to be less full of obstacles and dangers.

I'll write to the Council (again) but previous efforts at complaining have resulted in the square root of fuck all and just generic replies from jobsworths. I could write a complaint letter or email after pretty much every trip out, such are the problems. It's tiring (on top of living with permanent pain etc).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No open/bleeding injuries. I grazed the side of my bad leg. The ankle on that side really hurts. I can feel my foot on the bad side is swelling but seems otherwise okay. I don't dare take off my shoe here. My back hurts and so does my hip cos I banged it. My wrist hurts because I tried to stop myself hitting my head.

My Snag tights are buggered too!! Not cheap

I drank my coffee and am now cold because the heating isn't really on here and my clothes are wet. I'm going to have to make a break for it soon

You are a legend. Remember that, even with wet pants and buggered tights

Put that OP into an email to the council. And demand compensation. Even if it is just for the tights. Also... let rip at work. They should know better ffs."

This! Tell them you’re going to make a big deal on socials too!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Another virtual hug coming your way.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Mrs KC. You're right. It shouldn't be so fucking hard.

J

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Honestly? I’d copy and paste this and send it to everyone.

Your local MP (or the MP for the area concerned). The Manager of the Music Venue, everybody, local newspaper letters page. Everyone.

Why? Because people are so selfish, so self absorbed that they need to be told how selfish and self absorbed they are. How a little consideration for others can make a BIG difference to someone.

I can’t imagine how fucked off you are, but I would be too. And I’d probably be knocking back the hot chocolate with extra whippy cream and a big fuck off marahmallow and telling anyone who looked at me the wrong way to go and fuck off and then fuck off some more!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Back in the car. I accosted a young couple coming out of a nearby restaurant and asked them to lift the chair in for me. I normally use a hoist and crutch-hobble from the boot to the front but that's not happening right now. I feel dreadful for bothering a couple on a night out (they weren't snogging or anything, just chatting!) Urgh.

I don't want to ask for, or need help. I just want the world to be less full of obstacles and dangers.

I'll write to the Council (again) but previous efforts at complaining have resulted in the square root of fuck all and just generic replies from jobsworths. I could write a complaint letter or email after pretty much every trip out, such are the problems. It's tiring (on top of living with permanent pain etc). "

I’d honestly suggest submitting a negligence claim for this. In calculating damages on these things, pain and suffering both physically but also mentally are taken into consideration.

If you explained the impact as you have here - the humiliation of crawling around on your hands and knees and having to ask passers by for help which is frankly unacceptable, any damage to clothing etc. and any injuries - and it landed on my desk I’d be very much looking to settle. This is exactly what the system looks to compensate.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Fucking hell please do kick off with everyone!!! But right now just hope you’re ok

It’s not good enough

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By *ornyguyMan
over a year ago

Hillsborough, NI

Feel bad for you having had such a bad day.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

This is terrible Mrs KC, work should know better. If I was for the students, you know they'd be over it like a rash.

Complain as much as possible, can you post on the music venues social media that maybe more effective?

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

Yeah, I bollocksed up the ankle on my bad leg side. I can't really feel things properly on that side but it's swollen and an ever weirder colour than usual.

Guess who has to be out early doors tomorrow morning, to ensure attendance at a meeting?! Yup

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

Sending love and hugs. It’s all totally shit and most of it could have been avoided if people considered others (apart from the rain). Hope you get home safe, warm and dry soon. Xxxxx

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

Actually the suggestion to consider litigation is not as crazy as it sounds. In addition to failure to properly maintain roads and pavements, local authorities also must comply with something called the Public Sector Equality Duty, which could cover things like failure to provide adequate disabled parking, etc.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Oh Mrs - this is just shit!!

Are you home now? Sending warm hugs

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Oh Mrs - this is just shit!!

Are you home now? Sending warm hugs "

Yes, I'm home now. Trying to warm up my stupid foot

Mr KC is making me soup (by way of a change!) and I'm about to become acquainted with the sofa!

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Sending you the biggest hug lovely. I feel do frustrated for you! I just cannot comprehend how in this day an age we are still a long way of inclusivity

I hope you are home, warm safe and feeling better.

Is it worth sending a letter to the council about the lack of dropped kerb? That should not have happened

Maybe an open letter to the paper to the paper and a memo round work asking for people to be less knobheadish

Consideration and thought costs nothing xx

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Oh Mrs - this is just shit!!

Are you home now? Sending warm hugs

Yes, I'm home now. Trying to warm up my stupid foot

Mr KC is making me soup (by way of a change!) and I'm about to become acquainted with the sofa!"

Think a glass of something stronger for medicinal purposes.

Take care

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"The next post contains a big, fat disability related rant. Reader discretion is advised. If you are allergic to ranty posts into the ether, please shield your eyes and use the emergency exits *here* *here* or *here*

1) Colleagues think the low level sink is for disposing of used coffee grounds. It is not. It is for wheelchair height use for washing up. I cleaned up everyone else's spent coffee (fingers to scrápe it out of the plughole) so I could wash my lunch pots.

2) Meeting rooms - someone had brought loads of extra chairs into a room designed for 2-3 people, which I had booked for a Teams thing. I was unable to use it because I couldn't open the door due to the chairs in the way. There was no-one around to help immediately and I had a meeting to join.

3) On street parking bay suspensions on loads of side streets. This meant I could not park relatively near to my post work appointment and instead had to park on a major road, at rush hour. There are no dropped kerbs near the on street bays so I had to push in the road, in the rain, against oncoming traffic (2 lines) to find somewhere to get on the pavement.

Having to park further away and push by wheelchair to my destination lead to...

4) People blocking road crossings with their fucking stupid giant SUVs (in a city centre) meaning it was impossible or incredibly dangerous to cross the road. Twice, I was almost hit by cyclists undertaking the cars, whilst the green man was lit for pavement people. I had to wait for several changes of the lights to even be able to attempt to cross. I was, therefore, late.

Having to push (in the pissing rain) from further away also lead to...

5) Falling out of my wheelchair, due to the dropped kerb being defective but the defect being hidden under a deep puddle. I fell into a side street, full length. My dress, tights, coat and gloves are wet through, as is my ONLY cushion (because my wet arse had to sit on it). A member of the public held my chair while I CRAWLED onto my knees, in the aforementioned puddles and pissing rain and got back into my chair. My back, my bad leg, my wrist and my pride hurt. I am simultaneously livid and want to cry.

I proceeded, to find a café to sit and calm down in, and to let the traffic improve. Which lead to....

6) The pavement being blocked by a music venue who have placed electrical cabling, encased in a metal casing, across the full width of the pavement, on an upward slope. I nearly fell out of my chair a second time trying to get over this obstacle. I could not cross over because of the lack of dropped kerbs and the fact concrete blocks have been placed on the edge of the road to form an outdoor seating area for nearby bars. The music venue had further narrowed the pavement with queue barriers, and a Remembrance Sunday "road closure" sign that someone had pushed over, combined to totally block the narrow pavement further. I lost my temper and swore and shouted and wanted to fucking but someone. A member of the public overhead my swearing and picked up the fallen signboard. The security man on the venue door did not appear to understand English, when I asked them (politely!) to move the barrier. He just smiled at me, which enraged me more and I carried on, muttering under my breath.

I am now in a café. I am fucking freezing because I am sat in soaking wet knickers, tights and dress. My shoes are damaged and I can't talk to anyone right now because no-one is left at work and Mr KC is home with our daughter.

Why the fuck is it so fucking difficult to just do my job, go to an appointment and go home??

It feels like the entire world is set against disabled people and the absolute state of pavements, the absolute idiocy and stupidity of the public/drivers/cyclists and the total lack of thought by venues is just beyond words.

So, if you are a red-light skipper - don't.

If you are a stop-on-pedestrian-crossings driver - don't.

If you are a venue operator - don't block the goddamned pavement.

And Manchester City Council - sort out the fecking pavements and side streets and stop removing safe parking bays and only leaving ones in the middle of the busiest thoroughfare in the entire city!!

And rain - fuck you too. This wouldn't have been so uncomfortable in dry conditions and some of it probably wouldn't have happened without the puddle obscuring the damaged pavement!!

Rant. Over.

"

This is so bad!! Hope you're feeling better now x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP I read your rant and I really felt for you. My instinct was, like everyone else, to bemoan the nature of humanity but then I stopped.

I realised I have probably done many of the things, or similar, that are causing you issues. Not intentionally and certainly not maliciously but I am sure I have done things that made my life easier but someone else’s harder.

I apologise for that.

I am certain we have all done it on this thread if we are _really_ honest with ourselves.

I will try and be more thoughtful in the future. Will I always succeed? No, but if we can all make a bit of a change then maybe your life won’t be so crap.

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By *eavilMan
over a year ago

Stalybridge

Very well constructed rant. Fully support everything you detailed. People are so bloody selfish these days and we need more rants to make them aware of the implications of their actions. Hope you feel better soon. Love John. Xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"OP I read your rant and I really felt for you. My instinct was, like everyone else, to bemoan the nature of humanity but then I stopped.

I realised I have probably done many of the things, or similar, that are causing you issues. Not intentionally and certainly not maliciously but I am sure I have done things that made my life easier but someone else’s harder.

I apologise for that.

I am certain we have all done it on this thread if we are _really_ honest with ourselves.

I will try and be more thoughtful in the future. Will I always succeed? No, but if we can all make a bit of a change then maybe your life won’t be so crap."

Well said!

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West


"OP I read your rant and I really felt for you. My instinct was, like everyone else, to bemoan the nature of humanity but then I stopped.

I realised I have probably done many of the things, or similar, that are causing you issues. Not intentionally and certainly not maliciously but I am sure I have done things that made my life easier but someone else’s harder.

I apologise for that.

I am certain we have all done it on this thread if we are _really_ honest with ourselves.

I will try and be more thoughtful in the future. Will I always succeed? No, but if we can all make a bit of a change then maybe your life won’t be so crap."

Thank you. If my ranting makes any tangible difference to anything, it won't have been in vain.

It would be splendid if non-disabled people also feed back any issues they observe when out and about. Until more of a fuss is made about problematic things like access issues etc, nothing will change.

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm starting to think I shouldn't have be left unsupervised.

This morning, I poured boiling water from the kettle all over my hands (mainly right one) and so I have a lovely blister on my knuckle and having my hands in cold water has properly aggravated the Raynaud's!

Hello, Wednesday. You fucking bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm starting to think I shouldn't have be left unsupervised.

This morning, I poured boiling water from the kettle all over my hands (mainly right one) and so I have a lovely blister on my knuckle and having my hands in cold water has properly aggravated the Raynaud's!

Hello, Wednesday. You fucking bastard "

Why did you pour boiling water on your hands? That stuff burns..

On the bright side, with scabby hands you won't need to wash your pots at work in the coffee grounds blocked sink.

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By *uckyNineMan
over a year ago

prescot

Sending hugs

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By *inky_couple2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I'm starting to think I shouldn't have be left unsupervised.

This morning, I poured boiling water from the kettle all over my hands (mainly right one) and so I have a lovely blister on my knuckle and having my hands in cold water has properly aggravated the Raynaud's!

Hello, Wednesday. You fucking bastard

Why did you pour boiling water on your hands? That stuff burns..

On the bright side, with scabby hands you won't need to wash your pots at work in the coffee grounds blocked sink. "

I was attempting to fasten the lid on my thermal cup, into which I'd just made tea. The lid didn't line up, I nearly dropped the whole thing and boiling water sloshed over my hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm starting to think I shouldn't have be left unsupervised.

This morning, I poured boiling water from the kettle all over my hands (mainly right one) and so I have a lovely blister on my knuckle and having my hands in cold water has properly aggravated the Raynaud's!

Hello, Wednesday. You fucking bastard

Why did you pour boiling water on your hands? That stuff burns..

On the bright side, with scabby hands you won't need to wash your pots at work in the coffee grounds blocked sink.

I was attempting to fasten the lid on my thermal cup, into which I'd just made tea. The lid didn't line up, I nearly dropped the whole thing and boiling water sloshed over my hands "

Grrrrrr thermal cups my arse! Says they don't leak, then the laggy band in the lid stretches and coffee all over.

Hope your day gets better Mrs KC.

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