FabSwingers.com forum: Your journey.....

By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

from starting off in the scene to now?

I have found certain things used to turn me on but don't anymore. Others seemed a bit vanilla a while ago and are really appealing now.

What has your journey been like? How have things changed for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still a virgin.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I have changed loads and I haven’t changed at all. What has changed is that I am much more confident. I have tried lots of things but the things I love are the things I have always enjoyed - good sex with fun people who don’t take things too seriously.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Not the thread for me......

Pass.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Not the thread for me......

Pass. "

Thanks for sharing

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I have changed loads and I haven’t changed at all. What has changed is that I am much more confident. I have tried lots of things but the things I love are the things I have always enjoyed - good sex with fun people who don’t take things too seriously."

I think confidence does grow with meeting new people, exploring different avenues, learning form experience etc.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I'm still a virgin."

Takes courage to be on this site and post if you consider yourself a virgin

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Sexually we haven’t changed at all, the scene has just allowed us to enjoy the same things with others. What has changed is our willingness to open ourselves up to other people. Sadly, we’re a lot more guarded than we used to be. This isn’t just down to our experiences in the scene, but the scene has had a part to play x

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Sexually we haven’t changed at all, the scene has just allowed us to enjoy the same things with others. What has changed is our willingness to open ourselves up to other people. Sadly, we’re a lot more guarded than we used to be. This isn’t just down to our experiences in the scene, but the scene has had a part to play x"

Sadly, I have to agree with you regarding being less trusting.

On the other hand, I have experienced a gradual evolution of my likes/ dislikes from when I started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been a varied ride for me. From starting out with Mrs Wick as a strictly couples only twosome, to the solo flyers that we both are now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not the thread for me......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I visited the scene over 6 years ago and returned earlier this year.

I feel it hasn't changed much from an outsider perspective.

I've changed in a few ways. Refined my tastes (so to speak) and gained understanding of why I'm here.

However I feel very much treated like I haven't changed. X

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"It’s been a varied ride for me. From starting out with Mrs Wick as a strictly couples only twosome, to the solo flyers that we both are now. "
That is exactly what I was wondering about... you go into this with an idea of what you might like/ dislike... but it can change... A LOT

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Not the thread for me......

Pass.

Thanks for sharing in a non-judgmental way x

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I visited the scene over 6 years ago and returned earlier this year.

I feel it hasn't changed much from an outsider perspective.

I've changed in a few ways. Refined my tastes (so to speak) and gained understanding of why I'm here.

However I feel very much treated like I haven't changed. X"
What do you put this down to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s been a varied ride for me. From starting out with Mrs Wick as a strictly couples only twosome, to the solo flyers that we both are now. That is exactly what I was wondering about... you go into this with an idea of what you might like/ dislike... but it can change... A LOT

Massively. We’d never even considered solo meetings. We always thought it’d be something we did together to share. But over time, evolved to the thought that we could still share it, and be really aroused by it, even when apart.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We were both on here as singles and tended to only meet other singles - this site has opened up meeting as a couple and whilst a lot of times, it’s only singles we’ve met the dynamics are so different with 3.

We love threesomes more than foursomes as we can watch and join in and all build up the heat together. We know what works for us now, so whilst it’s not changed us in a sexual way, the confidence we have in being able to express ourselves in front of each other, with others is incredible…

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Not the thread for me......

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Thanks for sharing in a non-judgmental way x"

Don't get me wrong. I could write a book the length of war and peace.

But probably not wise or healthy.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I feel like I’m at the end of my journey.

I joined with an idea that I needed to push my limits in order to be really happy. I’ve done what I needed to do. I know what I need going forwards. Im really content

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think I have the drive in me currently to meet people and have sex. I think thats a little bit because, for a few years I have travelled paralell to someone heading for a fall, which they did, quite spectaculary, and it has knocked some enjoyment out of the whole 'no strings, keep it seperate from real life, its just fab' illusion.

I call it growth really, in that I can detach myself from the scenarios/people that would have pulled me in when I was first here. But that possibly makes me a little boring? I am choosing peace at the moment and that also comes with not having sex. For me. Because I know the people I like and the attachments I want/need/get and they dont equate to peace and calm. Just a shame Im not that bothered with toys either, so not even plastic sex for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I visited the scene over 6 years ago and returned earlier this year.

I feel it hasn't changed much from an outsider perspective.

I've changed in a few ways. Refined my tastes (so to speak) and gained understanding of why I'm here.

However I feel very much treated like I haven't changed. XWhat do you put this down to? "

I am obviously older which matures anyone.

I think I'm bored the same way here because I'm a guy and as one of the previous comments mentioned people on here appear to be more guarded.

My tastes have refined because I'm no longer desperate either. Previously I craved attention or a sexual fix. Now I'm here skirting a mental break down and dreaming with addiction. Xx

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I dont think I have the drive in me currently to meet people and have sex. I think thats a little bit because, for a few years I have travelled paralell to someone heading for a fall, which they did, quite spectaculary, and it has knocked some enjoyment out of the whole 'no strings, keep it seperate from real life, its just fab' illusion.

Sounds incredibly wise to me on so many levels!

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By *wingamajigsCouple
over a year ago

Folkestone

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/1200834

This is our story with a new chapter tonbe written soon.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I always had a very Conservative sex life until I found Fab...then met an incredible guy who introduced me to the scene, not looked back, it's been a great journey of discovery for sure

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I visited the scene over 6 years ago and returned earlier this year.

I feel it hasn't changed much from an outsider perspective.

I've changed in a few ways. Refined my tastes (so to speak) and gained understanding of why I'm here.

However I feel very much treated like I haven't changed. XWhat do you put this down to?

I am obviously older which matures anyone.

I think I'm bored the same way here because I'm a guy and as one of the previous comments mentioned people on here appear to be more guarded.

My tastes have refined because I'm no longer desperate either. Previously I craved attention or a sexual fix. Now I'm here skirting a mental break down and dreaming with addiction. Xx"
You say a lot without saying it - I get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that as time as gone on I get less of what I first found that electrifies me, and my interest is waning completely along with my effort.

I'm not sure I'm actually in the right place anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I ask, do you find the led sex you have the less you wanted it? If I don't do anything sexual for a period of time I realise I don't want any sex. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I ask, do you find the led sex you have the less you wanted it? If I don't do anything sexual for a period of time I realise I don't want any sex. X"

Absolutely yes. I may have been knocked for

six by hormones too, but Im currently about 2 yrs without anything meaningful and aren't all that bothered by that.

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By *adboy 2018Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

Been on Fab for some time now and not since I been on the forum I've had more people look aty profile

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We started over 20 years ago and I’d say almost everything has changed for us including my husband’s sexuality..

When we were younger we tended to think with our body parts rather than our brains which led to us making a lot of mistakes along the way which we definitely learnt from.

Even our taste in men and women have changed over the years ..

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I've found that as time as gone on I get less of what I first found that electrifies me, and my interest is waning completely along with my effort.

I'm not sure I'm actually in the right place anymore."
I hear you completely. I sometimes wonder whether this is the right place for me but very occasionally you meet somebody on here who is more than a cock. No disrespect to anybody who is using the site just for sex - for me there has to be more of a connection to be worth it.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"We started over 20 years ago and I’d say almost everything has changed for us including my husband’s sexuality..

When we were younger we tended to think with our body parts rather than our brains which led to us making a lot of mistakes along the way which we definitely learnt from.

Even our taste in men and women have changed over the years .."

Echo this

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

My journey started nearly forty years ago (with my first wife) so many changes. Developed my bi side; the internet making it all much easier but also more competitive; so much easier to record meets on film and camera. And yes, more emphasis on real connections, not just lust.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

For me, it started when hubby began introducing me to new things in the bedroom, and as we don't have kids and were nearing "a certain age", we decided to try bringing in other people.

I'm really insecure about my body, but hubby showed that I was really sexually responsive - something which I didn't realise - and that orgasming was easy for me. After a couple of meetings, I really began to get a degree of confidence (surprising no-one more than me!) with hubby lining up "the Rolls-Royce of cock", as he likes me to have the best.

We have reached the point were we have begun full cuckolding, with hubby not even in the same building whilst it's going on, and it's an arrangement we both love. There's no jealousy at all. If there was, it would all have come crashing down ages ago.

We see married guys, and offer complete discretion. We only see ones for whom their married sex-life has broken down. I have literally just gotten back from seeing a guy for the first time - and this poor man hadn't had any physical contact from anyone (even his wife!) in 5 years! We don't judge, and he said it "had lightened his heart", wanting to just go home and be with his wife, now that the simmering animosity had been quelled.

Fab has really brought me out of my shell, and to hear so many guys sigh with contentment as they hug me like there's no tomorrow is just the best. Well, and a really hard pounding comes a close second! It's still weird to be complemented on my "incredible" clitoris (it does get to the size of a marble when aroused), but Fab has been a real journey for me, and one I would never take without my hubby next to me. Well, next door, anyway.

If you had told me all this 5 years ago (let alone how I now really enjoy a good spanking!) I would never have believed you.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"For me, it started when hubby began introducing me to new things in the bedroom, and as we don't have kids and were nearing "a certain age", we decided to try bringing in other people.

If you had told me all this 5 years ago (let alone how I now really enjoy a good spanking!) I would never have believed you."
Thank you for your honest account of your journey. It sounds like everybody who met you took something away from the encounter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I ask, do you find the led sex you have the less you wanted it? If I don't do anything sexual for a period of time I realise I don't want any sex. X

Absolutely yes. I may have been knocked for

six by hormones too, but Im currently about 2 yrs without anything meaningful and aren't all that bothered by that.

Great you can own that x fantastic when you find peace x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The kink scene used to be a huge part of my life and used to be heavily involved and helping others. It was something that gave me a reason to keep going.

As for swing not done much recently and can't remember the last time I did something sexual with someone else, but don't have huge sexual drive.

Currently trying to see if the scene is for me any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been walking on the spot for the last ten years....

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