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By *reyToTheFairies OP Woman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I pity the poor shits that are so destroyed inside that they feel they must unleash on an another ....

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

The negative things people are told are often the ones that stick in their heads and create brain goblin mayhem. That sucks.

So no, I don't say that stuff.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

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By *ohnSwingsSurreyMan
over a year ago

Horley

People insecure and unhappy in their own lives, acting it out on others who don’t deserve it, but happen to cross their path

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Angry people, possibly hurting from rejection or thinking that someone is unattainable/out of their league. They turn that anger on others and lash out wherever they can.

It’s really not you.

P.S. There are no leagues

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Reverse psychology! A bad effort but reverse psychology attempt none the less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm not

I don’t claim to be

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By *itnFilthy16Woman
over a year ago

Eccleston, St Helens

Completely agree with this. I don't understand it either. Maybe some guys get off on it. Hope you're ok

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls."

Sorry! My bad

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad"

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man..."

He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's strange isn't it.

It hasn't happened to us on here but in my personal life a couple of people have very obviously tried to take me down a peg or two. I don't understand it, I'm no danger to anybody

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By *reyToTheFairies OP Woman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...

He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down. "

He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

It's done for reaction and the best reaction is to not react. They don't register on your radar.

Fuck 'em, treat them like the nothing they are with a blank

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...

He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down. "

I thought you already had? Isn't the info in the dossier?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...

He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.

He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough."

fair point

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By *uscle88Man
over a year ago

Potters Bar

That’s not on, that shouldn’t happen on any level ,I think people like that feel the need to do that because of they’re own insecurities.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I don't understand it either. To be honest, I think we're actually very lucky with the messages we get here. No one has been nasty.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...

He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.

He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough.

fair point "

The fuck is this shit!

I feel bullied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps OP- you *are* all that. And more.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

It’s pointless trying to understand the mentality of people like that and why they do it, it’s like trying to understand why chimps at the zoo throw their own shit around that’s the level of intelligence your dealing with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens quite a lot to me even without me messaging even if looked at profile and fabbed a pic I have revived negative messages its crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly didn't even know people were doing this.

I can't see or understand why either. Maybe a new account from someone who was blocked? Even then that's so much effort and for what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel sorry for them more than anything because a horrible message shows how lonely, full of hatred and sad some people really are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

A lot of mine have been awful I block and move on. I cannot drop to negative level I am too chilled out. I know how it goes on here. I know people are rude at times simply there is no justification in sending rude first messages.

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By *reyToTheFairies OP Woman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I honestly didn't even know people were doing this.

I can't see or understand why either. Maybe a new account from someone who was blocked? Even then that's so much effort and for what? "

Oh. Fair shout. The last one had only made his account 12 minutes ago when I went to block him.

But still. Why not just move the fuck on and let people do their thing in peace

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I pity the poor shits that are so destroyed inside that they feel they must unleash on an another ....

Yeah, this. Granny is wise.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

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Absolutely not its an app and everyone has equal rights, absolutely no need for crudeness or rudeness mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

Should have replied

" But I am, that's why losers like you take time to message me".

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Live and let live. Negativity only hurts the person being negative and nasty

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"I pity the poor shits that are so destroyed inside that they feel they must unleash on an another ....

Yeah, I always think it’s an emotionally stunted insecurity thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

It's done for reaction and the best reaction is to not react. They don't register on your radar.

Fuck 'em, treat them like the nothing they are with a blank "

I personally think this comment kind of captures them mind set of those who are negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

You ok?

Block and delete. He isnt worth your time. Bad behaviour does get called out on the forums, he's just given you a platform/reason/whim to get out there and start a thread. I guess defeating his object ..... Silly man

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

never sent unpleasent message to anybody and never would dont get it,,

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

I've had quite a bit of unprovoked negatively in my inbox and threads from a few ladies on here.

I won't let them drag me down to their level OP

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Very undude

Never had one as a man. A few as a couple.

Hope you brush it off and it gets no more attention than it deserves.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...

He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.

He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough.

fair point "

Is it ?

This is one great city to live in

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"There must be something in the water… had several of these this week. I try not to read that shit. It’s not healthy.

It’s a straight delete and block.

They must be very sad souls.

Sorry! My bad

You did it to Saff as well? Brave man...

He wouldn’t fucking dare. I’d track him down.

He lives in Liverpool. He's already being punished enough.

fair point

Is it ?

This is one great city to live in "

Ha! Screw you both! I've got GC on my side for this one

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Hurt people hurt or so they say.

I feel sorry for them that the only way to make themselves feel a bit better is to try drag others down.

Em x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Hurt people hurt or so they say.

I feel sorry for them that the only way to make themselves feel a bit better is to try drag others down.

Em x"

It is okay Em! I fixed everything, I showed her the eyes.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Hurt people hurt or so they say.

I feel sorry for them that the only way to make themselves feel a bit better is to try drag others down.

Em x

It is okay Em! I fixed everything, I showed her the eyes."

Such a kind soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand it either. Peace always.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I was actually thinking about this earlier, and those that msg you to tell you you're too demanding etc. What's the point?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I was actually thinking about this earlier, and those that msg you to tell you you're too demanding etc. What's the point? "

Just some constructive criticism to assist you in your future endeavours.

Happy fabbing

Not passive aggressive at all.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

People who do this kind of thing are just projecting their own insecurities onto others.

That's not justified at all and still a complete dickhead thing to do, but they definitely don't truly love what they see in the mirror

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I was actually thinking about this earlier, and those that msg you to tell you you're too demanding etc. What's the point?

Just some constructive criticism to assist you in your future endeavours.

Happy fabbing

Not passive aggressive at all.

I mean if I was struggling for attention, fair game... But as a single woman? Butt hurt springs to mind lol

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By *ylonlover87Man
over a year ago

upchurch

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

It says more about the person making the comments than the person being commented on. Ugliness is more than just looks...any person like that is ugly as f

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By *ohntall123Man
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

They have the problem not you , imagine what they’re like in life lol

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Possibly reply with a link to 'Shrink4U' then block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly didn't even know people were doing this.

I can't see or understand why either. Maybe a new account from someone who was blocked? Even then that's so much effort and for what?

Oh. Fair shout. The last one had only made his account 12 minutes ago when I went to block him.

But still. Why not just move the fuck on and let people do their thing in peace

Probably just someone you said no to and blocked before. Take it as a compliment.

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

Whoever did that, i hope their next shit is a cactus and may their testicles turn cubical and fester at the corners.

In a word, no. Quite the opposite in fact, i am the kind of guy who will throw a compliment to someone who is looking unhappy or states they're having a bad day.

Maybe because i was raised believing if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

This should extend to online behaviour too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Some people literally have nothing better to do & it says a lot about them.

People insecurities, rejection, fears all make them lash out & it's never the right thing to do.

Some people are just cunts Prey unfortunately.

You are "all that"

Mrs

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

It's called having a mean streak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lash out, take their bad days and insecurities out on otners. I don't understand messages like this but I do understand that behind that screen is a very unhappy person which is sad.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Negging, isn’t it.

Ridiculous and pointless behaviour.

And yeah I’ve been privy to it myself - once got a death threat on tinder from someone who matched with me just to send the threat.

I can’t imagine seeing life from their perspective and feel lucky for that.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

We can't all be happy all the time however i am, nothing gets me down but far too much negativity on here, i even got a parking ticket yesterday the yellow lines were obscured by the falling leaves i was maybe 9 " over the line and could have reversed a bit and i did look missed the lines because of leaves but this council will not benefit from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is really strange to think that someone reads a profile, gets wound up and clicks the message button to tell a stranger that they're up themselves or asking for too much or why are they even on Fab if they won't meet today?

I've had all of those and it's just mean-spirited isn't it? On a good day I just roll my eyes. On a bad day, it stings.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

As my late father told me, "If you can't say something nice.............keep fucking quiet"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Negging, isn’t it.

Ridiculous and pointless behaviour.

And yeah I’ve been privy to it myself - once got a death threat on tinder from someone who matched with me just to send the threat.

I can’t imagine seeing life from their perspective and feel lucky for that."
Jeez some scary people out there!

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Some people are just cunts. Unfortunately most of them are also on this site. I kid of course. But you are all that, OP, and these haters don't deserve a response, fucking trolls deserve to be blanked

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By *reyToTheFairies OP Woman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Oh don't worry I do know I am all that

In as much as I'm happy and enjoying my life, I appeal to the people I want to appeal to, and I don't require endless accolades from the sea of unwanted noodles.

It just seems strange to me. Oh they're enjoying their life? I best go try and shit on it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Don’t think I’ll ever get my head round why some folk do what they do. Too much time on their hands/boring life maybe? All very sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's relentless .. its because of this that I've blocked all men..... haven't had any issues since.

I can now browse in peace and contact if I feel so inclined.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"Don’t think I’ll ever get my head round why some folk do what they do. Too much time on their hands/boring life maybe? All very sad "

It's very sad, toxic behaviour. It points to loneliness, insecurity and jealousy of all the guys they imagine you'd rather see than them. And when they make these emotions known to you, they just perpetuate their failure even more. But they're just desperate for any response from you really.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"it's relentless .. its because of this that I've blocked all men..... haven't had any issues since.

I can now browse in peace and contact if I feel so inclined."

I was going to say block all men as a joke, but I see now it's a valid approach for a lot of women. Glad it's working for you!

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By *-YourPleasureMan
over a year ago

sourhdowns

Don’t give them any attention - they are just looking to feed on negativity !! Cut them loose and block

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Unprovoked negativity. Generally unpleasant messages with no prior contact.

What's with that?

I know, I know. Block and move on. I just don't quite understand the mentality behind it.

If you see someone that isn't to your tastes, do you feel the need to try and bring them down a peg?

Or do you prefer to live and let live in peace?

Yep it's brutal. Not everyone is "all that" we are mere humans seeking a little pleasure in this increasingly impersonal world. Being unpleasant is far too easy for some folks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Live and let live. Negativity only hurts the person being negative and nasty

I wish that was true. Negativity is soul destroying if constantly subjected to it.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

They’re just pathetic cretins desperate to provoke a response, any response. Block, delete and leave them to stew in their bitter existence x

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I was actually thinking about this earlier, and those that msg you to tell you you're too demanding etc. What's the point?

Just some constructive criticism to assist you in your future endeavours.

Happy fabbing

Not passive aggressive at all.

I mean if I was struggling for attention, fair game... But as a single woman? Butt hurt springs to mind lol"

I believe 'butt hurt' is indeed the technical term.

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