Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
 | Back to forum list |
| Back to The Lounge |
| Jump to newest |  |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The forums would become filled with “why won’t anyone message me” instead of “why won’t anyone reply” ... Fuck! The forums would become a far less amusing place to observe. " Not to mention the sagely advice from well todo people  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
LvM | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can someone explain what the Bumble approach is? Not familiar with it. " Men can’t message women. Women message men to get things moving. And, despite what some people believe, women do make the first move because they are grownup enough to handle rejection  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can someone explain what the Bumble approach is? Not familiar with it. Men can’t message women. Women message men to get things moving. And, despite what some people believe, women do make the first move because they are grownup enough to handle rejection "Oh believe me a lot of women don't. Some do clearly, I've witnessed it but a hell of a lot don't. And I've witnessed that too. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged." I don't think so. As it depends on certain factors 1) male Vs female ratio: compared to other dating apps bumble has one of the highest male to female ratios 9:1. Where as tinder only had 1:2 ratio. No idea why this is. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can someone explain what the Bumble approach is? Not familiar with it. Men can’t message women. Women message men to get things moving. And, despite what some people believe, women do make the first move because they are grownup enough to handle rejection "#notallwomen! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 they will have to hunt for prey! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 woe is me.
You get the gist | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 .
No violins needed - I am very aware the issue is predominantly one women experience. The exception proves the rule. Life is just ironically funny sometimes. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist "Claws out. Ok. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist "
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter. "I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged." maybe but you forget one key factor you are now discriminating against this whoa re make singke your saying none should get appraoch by them unless they appraoch them where is their considerstion | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that! "Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead. (For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist "I think the women not being happy about it even though men messaging is the worrrsssttt is what gives me the most joy about it | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
"How does it embarrass anyone? I've never seen anyone mention names when they say this? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
How does it embarrass anyone? I've never seen anyone mention names when they say this? "Quite often they say it in response to someone who has posted on the thread | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
I think the women not being happy about it even though men messaging is the worrrsssttt is what gives me the most joy about it "thats the real man myth there thats they just love to keep complaining | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
"Nope, I wouldn't have msged that, way too wordy and well thought out to be me! Its just one of those phrases that amuse me on here, I have a fair few I find amusing! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
How does it embarrass anyone? I've never seen anyone mention names when they say this?
Quite often they say it in response to someone who has posted on the thread "I've never seen that. I've never mentioned a name or names and I agree, I think deliberately trying to embarrass someone is wrong. I recently said it when a few people messaged off a thread I started asking for my kinks. Which was none of their business and not the topic. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged." definitely saves me wasting my time reading profiles sending a message to see it unread for months will give me more time watching football | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged. definitely saves me wasting my time reading profiles sending a message to see it unread for months will give me more time watching football "OR send the message. Delete it and watch football. Never think about it again!  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
"Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged. definitely saves me wasting my time reading profiles sending a message to see it unread for months will give me more time watching football
OR send the message. Delete it and watch football. Never think about it again! "that's to easy for a thick single guy | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need "Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired"Of course it is. Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need "Oh I've had a much more hilariously inappropriate and rude response than that before and I didn't even do anything!
But people are different eh! There's probably some ex from 15 years ago that's responsible for why they act like that right? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If you want to use Bumble use bumble. If you want to use Fab then use Fab. Why do people keep trying to change Fab into something it isn’t? Fab seems perfectly fine to me the way it is - it works well if you use it well." maybe only seems fine to you what about the shaddow memeber who dont get fair say | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged. definitely saves me wasting my time reading profiles sending a message to see it unread for months will give me more time watching football
OR send the message. Delete it and watch football. Never think about it again! that's to easy for a thick single guy "It's just something I know some other guys do and it seems like it might help? I'm sure you're not thick. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
Oh I've had a much more hilariously inappropriate and rude response than that before and I didn't even do anything!
But people are different eh! There's probably some ex from 15 years ago that's responsible for why they act like that right? " | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If you want to use Bumble use bumble. If you want to use Fab then use Fab. Why do people keep trying to change Fab into something it isn’t? Fab seems perfectly fine to me the way it is - it works well if you use it well. maybe only seems fine to you what about the shaddow memeber who dont get fair say" If a shadow member wants to come out of the shadows then they might have a bit more luck. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need "It couldn't possibly just a way to tell people to stop messaging off-thread, could it? Just precisely what it says on the tin. No need to mention who is doing it, just a generic - stop doing this. That exactly how I use it. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Would only work if men filled out their profiles properly and had face pics." Do most people have face pics on show on the dating sites? I’ve never been on one | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
It couldn't possibly just a way to tell people to stop messaging off-thread, could it? Just precisely what it says on the tin. No need to mention who is doing it, just a generic - stop doing this. That exactly how I use it. "Message them privately or ignore them. No. I don’t think there’s a need for it. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need "Not least because if it was someone they wanted to hear from they wouldn't ask for anything to be kept to the thread... | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
It couldn't possibly just a way to tell people to stop messaging off-thread, could it? Just precisely what it says on the tin. No need to mention who is doing it, just a generic - stop doing this. That exactly how I use it.
Message them privately or ignore them. No. I don’t think there’s a need for it. "Ah well the oracle has spoken. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
Not least because if it was someone they wanted to hear from they wouldn't ask for anything to be kept to the thread..."A point I hadn't even thought of to be fair! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
It couldn't possibly just a way to tell people to stop messaging off-thread, could it? Just precisely what it says on the tin. No need to mention who is doing it, just a generic - stop doing this. That exactly how I use it.
Message them privately or ignore them. No. I don’t think there’s a need for it.
Ah well the oracle has spoken. "Bit hypocritical! I see it as trying to humiliate people. I don’t like to see it. If others don’t see it like that then ok we won’t agree. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Would only work if men filled out their profiles properly and had face pics." Surely you just message the men that do right? Face pics works both ways. Many times guys message women and if they're being completely honest, once they see the face might go...oh not for me. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
It couldn't possibly just a way to tell people to stop messaging off-thread, could it? Just precisely what it says on the tin. No need to mention who is doing it, just a generic - stop doing this. That exactly how I use it.
Message them privately or ignore them. No. I don’t think there’s a need for it.
Ah well the oracle has spoken.
Bit hypocritical!
I see it as trying to humiliate people. I don’t like to see it. If others don’t see it like that then ok we won’t agree. "As I've said, I see no reason to mention the person or people messaging. I certainly don't. And we rarely agree so it's par for the course. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. " I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages." Genius! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages. Genius! " 100% agree. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages. Genius! 100% agree. " I think you’d see a big drop in the number of single guys. Fab can be a bit like the slot machines for them. Just keep firing out messages hoping to get luck How many single guys would hang around with nothing to do? Just stare at an empty inbox But then they wouldn’t buy premium subscription, that’s not good, gotta keep the slot machine rolling | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages." | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages. "It's an interesting one that I think the principle is good if you assume people who join initially automatically become regular users. We just made profiles on multiple sites and waited to see which ones were worth engaging with. So the influx of messages worked in fabs favour, initially. A pop-up dialogue box, or page, when you create the account, where you have to set your filters would be better I think. Then you are aware of the options existence without having to have the knowledge of a regular user. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages. Genius! 100% agree. I think you’d see a big drop in the number of single guys. Fab can be a bit like the slot machines for them. Just keep firing out messages hoping to get luck How many single guys would hang around with nothing to do? Just stare at an empty inbox But then they wouldn’t buy premium subscription, that’s not good, gotta keep the slot machine rolling " Is that why people buy premium?! Jesus I just do it to see the videos | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This has made me chuckle.. Jesus the messages would dry up fast. Many women are far too lazy to go hunting for what they want. Moaning about men keeps this forum going. " If someone wants to moan when they meet me, I'll let em  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged." Suggest it to administrator and see what their response is  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Would only work if men filled out their profiles properly and had face pics. Do most people have face pics on show on the dating sites? I’ve never been on one" Yes, it's usually a requirement | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged." I already am using the Bumble approach. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"In the shadows of the "single man not reading our profile and not accepting rejection" bashing thread. Do you think the dynamics would change if Fabs used the Bumble approach as default? Literally default to no male messaging until messaged." Yes it would be amazing for us since we don't meeten and have to view 100's of cocks in the inbox. And no I won't block all men because the very little minority are actually decent humans. Maybe like 0.0012% but still. Mrs | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Meet men** I CBA to edit the whole thing " Meeten, chat and come? Slippy thumbs today Mrs? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
It couldn't possibly just a way to tell people to stop messaging off-thread, could it? Just precisely what it says on the tin. No need to mention who is doing it, just a generic - stop doing this. That exactly how I use it. "You're posting on a public forum, people are gonna message you about it. Especially those that don't post. Ignore, delete, block. No need to public announce it. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This has made me chuckle.. Jesus the messages would dry up fast. Many women are far too lazy to go hunting for what they want. Moaning about men keeps this forum going. " it's funny cause it's true. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"No, it'd be the same as on Bumble, where a lot of women just send "hi" and expect an incredible response. Oh wait... so it would be exactly the same as Fab is now just with roles reversed
LvM"This happens here already. So maybe we would just have the guys complaining instead. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If you want to use Bumble use bumble. If you want to use Fab then use Fab. Why do people keep trying to change Fab into something it isn’t? Fab seems perfectly fine to me the way it is - it works well if you use it well." | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages." Yes. Defintely this. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it would increase the number of single women greatly. The majority of new ones just leave after a day or so as they can't cope with the volume of messages, at least this approach would prevent them all wanting to leave. I don't think it would increase the number of single women who stay. I do think that having all the filters set when you open the account would help though. Then you get the choice as to whether to allow messages.
It's an interesting one that I think the principle is good if you assume people who join initially automatically become regular users.
We just made profiles on multiple sites and waited to see which ones were worth engaging with. So the influx of messages worked in fabs favour, initially.
A pop-up dialogue box, or page, when you create the account, where you have to set your filters would be better I think. Then you are aware of the options existence without having to have the knowledge of a regular user. "I like this too. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The women would not be happy, they could no longer post things such as: Keep it the thread please. Why can't men be respectful! Sorry, bulk delete! I need a PA to go through alllllllllllllllllly messages woe is me.
You get the gist
Keep it to the thread please annoys me almost as much as oooooh this thread is a good filter.
I love a keep it to the thread comment don't know why but I do, I would definitely miss that!
Look everybody...this person had the audacity to message me and I don't care much for that so I'm just gonna try and embarrass them in public...even though I end up looking a bit daft instead.
(For clarity, these are my thoughts and the poster I responded to did not message me)
Exactly this. Just ignore them. I’ve never got why it needs to be posted on a thread. And people may not name but most of them say “keep it to the thread op” so it’s pretty obvious who it’s for. I just don’t see the need
Alot of time whether they know it or not consciously, it's about attention and wanting to appear desired
Of course it is.
Whilst embarrassing the other person at the same time. I’d hate it if I messaged someone from a thread I did and they said that. Like I said. No need
It couldn't possibly just a way to tell people to stop messaging off-thread, could it? Just precisely what it says on the tin. No need to mention who is doing it, just a generic - stop doing this. That exactly how I use it.
You're posting on a public forum, people are gonna message you about it. Especially those that don't post. Ignore, delete, block.
No need to public announce it."I will do it my way, cheers. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I've seen several comments calling women lazy. And that's the reason they don't message. Is it laziness? Or something a bit more complex? " Like most man profiles are just cock pics and Fill in later/ fuck now type text? All women want cock so it can't be that. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Post new Message to Thread |
| back to top |  |
