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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Despite being really scared.

I think I asked this before but I love the stories !

Did it work out well ?

Did it change you as a person - good or bad.

I cliff jumped in Jamaica. Even thinking about it now makes me feel sick. Standing 10 feet away from the edge shaking & deep breathing , my daughter saying dad just do it , just do it, me saying I will but I’m not quite ready. When I do I walk up calmly and immediately jump , no hesitation. Then I did, several times! Never been scared of heights since.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Walking out of a shit marriage after 21 years. 18 of those years I was tortured mentally and emotionally ….

I took the kids and left my home, I’d found us a house and I walked away with nothing except our clothes

That was seven years ago and I’ve never looked back

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

The things I’ve been scared of weren’t ever really risks - like needles, London Underground etc. (conquered those fears now).

The really risky shit I’ve done without thinking about it. Headlong into madness

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"Walking out of a shit marriage after 21 years. 18 of those years I was tortured mentally and emotionally ….

I took the kids and left my home, I’d found us a house and I walked away with nothing except our clothes

That was seven years ago and I’ve never looked back "

Must have taken a lot of strength. Glad is all good for you now.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Walked away from a company after 34 years due to lack of respect for my knowledge and experience and took up a new role.

Didn't quite work out as planned due to covid exactly a year later and losing that job as a direct result.

First time in my life I had lost a job but it worked out ok in the end.

I've done lots of risky things over the years mainly because I react without thinking too much in dangerous situations but my training kicked in so I've never regretted any of it.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"Walking out of a shit marriage after 21 years. 18 of those years I was tortured mentally and emotionally ….

I took the kids and left my home, I’d found us a house and I walked away with nothing except our clothes

That was seven years ago and I’ve never looked back "

Good on you. That’s amazing.

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Going self-employed before I was really ready. My job at the time was making my life a complete misery so I thought sod it and jumped. 17 years later and I'm still going

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Supported my son and Daughter in Law when she decided she was giving up work to start her own business. I was worried because they literally had just taken out a mortgage and my son was working all the hours to provide. I told her if her I'd back her for a year. First thing she did was hire a development coach, expensive but worth it

Now she runs a successful business as a dog behaviourist and is a registered Puppy School instructor, she runs classes for all ages of dogs and offers one to one services...she is an expert in Spaniel dogs and runs workshops especially for Spaniel owners, always booked out as soon as she arranges them

Her behaviour and one to one services are aimed at disabled clients and she has people from all over the country coming to her for help. She's built up quite a reputation for herself. My son is also a qualified trainer and he helps her out when he can but she is looking to hire someone soon.

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By *rHotNotts OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Going self-employed before I was really ready. My job at the time was making my life a complete misery so I thought sod it and jumped. 17 years later and I'm still going"

Good one. I also did this ,also wasn’t ready and it wasn’t for me , constantly chasing for payment , too much or too little work, but I grew a lot of confidence in the experience and it helped me realise what kind of companies / work I need.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"Supported my son and Daughter in Law when she decided she was giving up work to start her own business. I was worried because they literally had just taken out a mortgage and my son was working all the hours to provide. I told her if her I'd back her for a year. First thing she did was hire a development coach, expensive but worth it

Now she runs a successful business as a dog behaviourist and is a registered Puppy School instructor, she runs classes for all ages of dogs and offers one to one services...she is an expert in Spaniel dogs and runs workshops especially for Spaniel owners, always booked out as soon as she arranges them

Her behaviour and one to one services are aimed at disabled clients and she has people from all over the country coming to her for help. She's built up quite a reputation for herself. My son is also a qualified trainer and he helps her out when he can but she is looking to hire someone soon."

Not to mention how rewarding that must be working wuth those clients

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Moving abroad. Just the two of us. It was hard but we managed and we are still together

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I like that story - my daughters give me courage too.

After uni I had the job - blue chip company - loadsa money all of that - word hard - party hard. Everything from the outside looked great. But I hated it all. I told them I wanted to quit. They offered me everything to stay - promotions cars. The car thing nearly got me. Everyone family, nearly all my friends said I as crazy. Except my gf and the friends I went travelling with.

I quit went down to Folkestone, sold my car we built VW Camper out of a shell a farmer had been using as a chicken coup. And we went surfing. Stupidest and best thing I ever did. Yeah it changed me.

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Going self-employed before I was really ready. My job at the time was making my life a complete misery so I thought sod it and jumped. 17 years later and I'm still going

Good one. I also did this ,also wasn’t ready and it wasn’t for me , constantly chasing for payment , too much or too little work, but I grew a lot of confidence in the experience and it helped me realise what kind of companies / work I need."

Yeah - huge number of pitfalls and it takes perseverance and patience. Most of my customers are domestic so they pay on the day. The companies I generally work for I have built a good rapport with and they pay within a few days, but I have had one that operated the 30 days plus end of month rule.... and then still paid late

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"Supported my son and Daughter in Law when she decided she was giving up work to start her own business. I was worried because they literally had just taken out a mortgage and my son was working all the hours to provide. I told her if her I'd back her for a year. First thing she did was hire a development coach, expensive but worth it

Now she runs a successful business as a dog behaviourist and is a registered Puppy School instructor, she runs classes for all ages of dogs and offers one to one services...she is an expert in Spaniel dogs and runs workshops especially for Spaniel owners, always booked out as soon as she arranges them

Her behaviour and one to one services are aimed at disabled clients and she has people from all over the country coming to her for help. She's built up quite a reputation for herself. My son is also a qualified trainer and he helps her out when he can but she is looking to hire someone soon.

Not to mention how rewarding that must be working wuth those clients "

Definitely, she has Ehlers Danlos herself so knows how debilitating and frustrating it can be when your less abled

She did some research and discovered that there was no less abled friendly dog services in the area so decided to aim her services there so she is fully inclusive. Proud of her, she is a strong determined young woman for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I apologise for the long story. But this is my risk story -

I spent about 8 years working for free with various musicians (in my spare time). I did it because I 100% had this feeling that one day I was going to work with a certain pop star/producer. And that was a dream that I’d wanted to do since I was a teenager.

People kept telling me I was crazy for doing so much work, or that it’s a waste of time. They’d use demeaning words like calling it a “hobby”, and others would openly dismiss me as a “liar” or a “show off” any time I’d share some progress I made. It was pretty hurtful and made me doubt myself.

As time went on and my reputation grew I started hanging out with this pop star. Then one day a few years ago I thought it’s now or never - I need to ask about working for them.

I must’ve written and re-written the text hundreds of times before sending it. It felt like a real make or break moment. If it went wrong then my last 8 years would’ve been for nothing.

Anyway, I text him and suggested the idea and to my surprise I got a “yes!” Back straight away and less than a month later I was on tour with that person and the opportunities have kept coming since.

It’s cheesy to say, but it just goes to show that sometimes you should ignore when people cast doubt on your abilities. Take a risk and go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Starting our own business and building it up from scratch all by ourselves.

We had some extremely difficult years and it's an incredibly difficult and time demanding industry to be in, but it provides an income and hopefully we will reap the rewards when we retire.

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By *ercury oneMan
over a year ago

Chippenham


"Walking out of a shit marriage after 21 years. 18 of those years I was tortured mentally and emotionally ….

I took the kids and left my home, I’d found us a house and I walked away with nothing except our clothes

That was seven years ago and I’ve never looked back "
good for you

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Giving up a good career to start my own business. Was a big risk but the best one I ever took.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leaving my marriage. Uttering those words I'm done was so hard but I'm in such a good place now. I could never go back and I'm so glad I did it.

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By *oneybee1001Woman
over a year ago

Around and about

Deciding to go to uni to do my Masters Degree whilst working full time in a mad busy job, the impact on my family was major, didn't help that the pandemic kicked in at the same time.

We got through it though and my career is flying even more now so it was worth it (even if my kids mock me for me dora the explorer uni backpack lol!)

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Told someone how i felt about them... it backfired quite spectacularly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I apologise for the long story. But this is my risk story -

I spent about 8 years working for free with various musicians (in my spare time). I did it because I 100% had this feeling that one day I was going to work with a certain pop star/producer. And that was a dream that I’d wanted to do since I was a teenager.

People kept telling me I was crazy for doing so much work, or that it’s a waste of time. They’d use demeaning words like calling it a “hobby”, and others would openly dismiss me as a “liar” or a “show off” any time I’d share some progress I made. It was pretty hurtful and made me doubt myself.

As time went on and my reputation grew I started hanging out with this pop star. Then one day a few years ago I thought it’s now or never - I need to ask about working for them.

I must’ve written and re-written the text hundreds of times before sending it. It felt like a real make or break moment. If it went wrong then my last 8 years would’ve been for nothing.

Anyway, I text him and suggested the idea and to my surprise I got a “yes!” Back straight away and less than a month later I was on tour with that person and the opportunities have kept coming since.

It’s cheesy to say, but it just goes to show that sometimes you should ignore when people cast doubt on your abilities. Take a risk and go for it."

I like that. You believed in you and it paid off. That’s amazing.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

At least three I can think of are illegal, but most of us were utter pillocks when we were young and knew it all….although I’m mildly proud of how I did one of them as when I’ve told the few people I trust about it, I generally get some comment about being a fucking smart arse as well as an idiot

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I started a restaurant at 27. Ended up having to sack the chef and took over the kitchen. Ran the place for 10 years. Massive highs and equally low lows. But it gave me experience and friends I’ll be forever grateful for.

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By *tevebackagainMan
over a year ago

near horrabridge


"Walking out of a shit marriage after 21 years. 18 of those years I was tortured mentally and emotionally ….

I took the kids and left my home, I’d found us a house and I walked away with nothing except our clothes

That was seven years ago and I’ve never looked back "

Brave and admirable

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Having a child at quite a young age, without much support.

Definitely the best thing I ever did and I'm incredibly proud of how they turned out!

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Same as others in starting my own business after being laid off. That will be 30 years ago next year.

I wasn't scared but the most nervous I've been or "why the hell am I doing this" moment is racing a motorbike at the Manx Grand Prix on the Isle of Man TT course. The actual racing is brilliant but lining up along the start watching the other bikes go of before you start is unreal.

I did it for a few years though and managed top 5 results

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By *athuilMan
over a year ago

up north

Turning down a pro contract from a premier league club at 17. Everyone around me thought I was crazy but deep down I knew I had was close to my ceiling as a player and didn’t want to end up at 30 scratching round thinking wtf do I do with my life now.

So I went off to uni and played semi pro. I was earning a decent amount from that and enjoying the game without as much pressure.

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