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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

Just been reading a forum post on “the other site” from a TV, he is on hormones, looks nothing like a female, male bone structure of the face, adams apple, has a cock (which he likes to have erect in his pics) but wants to be known and treated as a female. His post was slating fabswingers for closing down his new profile he made as a “woman” are some people really that deluded? He will never be a female, never be able to think like a female and going by his face will never resemble a female.

Moaning and moaning that others should come round to his way of thinking and having a go at any guys saying otherwise.

Now I’m not against tv’s/cd’s etc each to their own BUT….where is the common sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Um

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the only common sense we can have in this world is let people live their lives how they want to live it. More love, less judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TV - transvestite

TG - Transgender

Have you confused the two. Why would a TV be on hormones?

This is why fab needs to separate these two very different identities.

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

Somebody once said “ you can identify as a refrigerator if you want to. The problems only start once you try to force the world to confirm your delusion”

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"I think the only common sense we can have in this world is let people live their lives how they want to live it. More love, less judgement."

And I agree but you can’t label yourself as something you’re not on a sex site lol it would be a fake profile. It’s no different to a straight guy thinking he is messaging a straight woman to find out it’s a guy.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol "

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"TV - transvestite

TG - Transgender

Have you confused the two. Why would a TV be on hormones?

This is why fab needs to separate these two very different identities. "

Sorry yes a TG but certainly not a female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the only common sense we can have in this world is let people live their lives how they want to live it. More love, less judgement."

Here here

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

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It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Well the title of the thread hold true

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By *hroatitboyMan
over a year ago

GLA

Not sure what good creating a transphobic thread is gonna do. On this site we are part of a community where there are openly trans people like anyone else you have a choice of who/what you’re into and that’s fine. But we certainly shouldn’t be shading anyone.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t."

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Somebody once said “ you can identify as a refrigerator if you want to. The problems only start once you try to force the world to confirm your delusion”"

Totally agree

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you? "

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Not sure what good creating a transphobic thread is gonna do. On this site we are part of a community where there are openly trans people like anyone else you have a choice of who/what you’re into and that’s fine. But we certainly shouldn’t be shading anyone. "

That wasn’t the point of the post…the point was someone moaning that their “fake” “not true” profile was deleted off this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken "

They asked a question, it's how discussions move on don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow..Can’t believe what I’ve just read

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t really have too much of a view on it really. Live and let live. Although if there weren’t any genital pics and they had woman on there I think that’s out of order as a straight man could meet them and be wasting his time. That’s deceitful. Saying that, it’s on the other site so why would a straight man be on there? On this site it would maybe be a bit different.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken

They asked a question, it's how discussions move on don't you think?"

I didn’t realise that something had to impact the OP to be able to start a discussion

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken "

A discussion forum yes but not really a place to rinse people. It starts turning into a witch hunt and that isn't fair, not when we only hear one side of what's going on.

Life is hard enough, let people do what they do. Acceptance and understanding are traits we could all use more of.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"I don’t really have too much of a view on it really. Live and let live. Although if there weren’t any genital pics and they had woman on there I think that’s out of order as a straight man could meet them and be wasting his time. That’s deceitful. Saying that, it’s on the other site so why would a straight man be on there? On this site it would maybe be a bit different. "

It was on this site, that’s the point of this post, the profile got deleted, there were no cock pics and it was labelled as a woman. But says person is now on the other site slating this site for deleting his profile

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Let's face it, you didn't come for a discussion you came hoping for an echo chamber of your own view. Were met with opposition on that view, regardless of in what tone, and now don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab definitely needs to expand its criteria for genders on here to make things clearer

Quite a few trans woman on this site marked down as woman. I wouldn’t be very happy arranging to meet a woman and finding out they’re a trans woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken

They asked a question, it's how discussions move on don't you think?

I didn’t realise that something had to impact the OP to be able to start a discussion "

A very strange discussion to start if you are not affected at all. Calls in to question why you would.

Is it to express transphobic ideas in an attempt to gain support or is there something else you want from the discussion, just as an example.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Fab definitely needs to expand its criteria for genders on here to make things clearer

Quite a few trans woman on this site marked down as woman. I wouldn’t be very happy arranging to meet a woman and finding out they’re a trans woman. "

Exactly, Thankyou

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I don’t really have too much of a view on it really. Live and let live. Although if there weren’t any genital pics and they had woman on there I think that’s out of order as a straight man could meet them and be wasting his time. That’s deceitful. Saying that, it’s on the other site so why would a straight man be on there? On this site it would maybe be a bit different.

It was on this site, that’s the point of this post, the profile got deleted, there were no cock pics and it was labelled as a woman. But says person is now on the other site slating this site for deleting his profile "

Ah right. Sorry didn’t read it properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken

They asked a question, it's how discussions move on don't you think?

I didn’t realise that something had to impact the OP to be able to start a discussion

A very strange discussion to start if you are not affected at all. Calls in to question why you would.

Is it to express transphobic ideas in an attempt to gain support or is there something else you want from the discussion, just as an example.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken

They asked a question, it's how discussions move on don't you think?

I didn’t realise that something had to impact the OP to be able to start a discussion

A very strange discussion to start if you are not affected at all. Calls in to question why you would.

Is it to express transphobic ideas in an attempt to gain support or is there something else you want from the discussion, just as an example.

"

Not at all, if you read the rest of my replies you will see what I meant.

If a straight guy is happy to be duped then that’s fine

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

I don't see why your bothered. It's not impacting on your life

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By *ighting 50Man
over a year ago

Retford


"Not sure what good creating a transphobic thread is gonna do. On this site we are part of a community where there are openly trans people like anyone else you have a choice of who/what you’re into and that’s fine. But we certainly shouldn’t be shading anyone. "

Each to their own in this life

I believe we all have the freedom of choice it is the beauty of the society we live in

I dont have to agree or confirm those choices but just like opinions we all have them

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Oh dear another gender critical post from an OP who is repeatedly forcing gender specific pronouns on the indervidual. At what point does this become bullying and even when it has will the moderators even consider doing anything about it?

For the record, and to save people looking at my profile, I am trans and pre-op and very clear about that. Whilst on this sort of site I wouldn't advertise myself as female until having gone through reassignment surgery and even then I not sure that I would but that would be my choice. I also think regardless of which category I opt for I would make things clear in my profile text where I was with my presentation and treatment, although that does of course assume people actually bother reading it. The last thing I want is some turning up and feeling duped as that is one of the routes for transwomen being horrendously assulted.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"Not sure what good creating a transphobic thread is gonna do. On this site we are part of a community where there are openly trans people like anyone else you have a choice of who/what you’re into and that’s fine. But we certainly shouldn’t be shading anyone.

Each to their own in this life

I believe we all have the freedom of choice it is the beauty of the society we live in

I dont have to agree or confirm those choices but just like opinions we all have them "

Same as bumholes, we all have bumholes too!

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

I am not against any sexual preference, tv’s, cd’s, tg’s etc but what I am against is lying and duping people, I won’t bother creating a forum post again it’s too much hassle

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood

I think if that person identifies as a female - then we should accept that. They should be open and honest about their situation - from what you have said Im assuming they’re a pre-op transgender woman who has started on a regime of hormones to make the transition from male to female.

I think as long as they are open in their profile and give people sufficient information to make an informed decision about whether they want to meet them then that’s perfectly acceptable. If someone just looks at pics - sees boobs and says oooh im meeting her without reading the profile… that’s on them.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Just been reading a forum post on “the other site” from a TV, he is on hormones, looks nothing like a female, male bone structure of the face, adams apple, has a cock (which he likes to have erect in his pics) but wants to be known and treated as a female. His post was slating fabswingers for closing down his new profile he made as a “woman” are some people really that deluded? He will never be a female, never be able to think like a female and going by his face will never resemble a female.

Moaning and moaning that others should come round to his way of thinking and having a go at any guys saying otherwise.

Now I’m not against tv’s/cd’s etc each to their own BUT….where is the common sense? "

Once upon a time homosexuals were demonised, now it’s trans people, people who want to hate will always find a target.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'll go back to clearing my inbox out.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Not sure what good creating a transphobic thread is gonna do. On this site we are part of a community where there are openly trans people like anyone else you have a choice of who/what you’re into and that’s fine. But we certainly shouldn’t be shading anyone.

Each to their own in this life

I believe we all have the freedom of choice it is the beauty of the society we live in

I dont have to agree or confirm those choices but just like opinions we all have them "

I agree but what about the choice of the person who thinks they’re meeting a woman without a cock? If someone wants to identify as a woman then that’s their choice but surely it should be in the profile somewhere no??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think if that person identifies as a female - then we should accept that. They should be open and honest about their situation - from what you have said Im assuming they’re a pre-op transgender woman who has started on a regime of hormones to make the transition from male to female.

I think as long as they are open in their profile and give people sufficient information to make an informed decision about whether they want to meet them then that’s perfectly acceptable. If someone just looks at pics - sees boobs and says oooh im meeting her without reading the profile… that’s on them. "

Yes this. Although you said it better than me

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I think the only common sense we can have in this world is let people live their lives how they want to live it. More love, less judgement."

This totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not against any sexual preference, tv’s, cd’s, tg’s etc but what I am against is lying and duping people, I won’t bother creating a forum post again it’s too much hassle "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know she was duping people? Perhaps she was very open in her interactions with others that she was transitioning.

For me, it's not your worry that men might be duped; it's your stance that no matter what she does, she'll never be a woman. That's the crux of your post right there.

It's incedibly insulting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leaving aside the gender stuff for a moment, this person has felt an emotive reaction to what they perceive to be unfair treatment …on another site. What do you gain from rubber necking it on here? You don’t believe trans women are women that’s fine, it’s valid as an opinion. But why spotlight their distress on here?

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Do you know she was duping people? Perhaps she was very open in her interactions with others that she was transitioning.

For me, it's not your worry that men might be duped; it's your stance that no matter what she does, she'll never be a woman. That's the crux of your post right there.

It's incedibly insulting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap "

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap "

Thankyou, it’s nice to know that someone actually gets it

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap "

What bandwagon? People are responding to a post made on a public forum.

The issue for me is there is only one side of the story.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"Leaving aside the gender stuff for a moment, this person has felt an emotive reaction to what they perceive to be unfair treatment …on another site. What do you gain from rubber necking it on here? You don’t believe trans women are women that’s fine, it’s valid as an opinion. But why spotlight their distress on here? "

Well said

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap

Thankyou, it’s nice to know that someone actually gets it "

I get what you were saying I just think the way you said it and the wording comes across as offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap "

Perhaps it's this that's giving off transphobic vibes...

"He will never be a female, never be able to think like a female and going by his face will never resemble a female"

Transitioning is a process. It's a process that doesn't deserve this kind of lack of understanding. It's difficult enough, not least because of how difficult it is to access treatment.

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

What is the purpose of this thread?

Why not take this up with the person concerned instead of criticising them on a different site?

Who is the deluded one?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap

Thankyou, it’s nice to know that someone actually gets it I get what you were saying I just think the way you said it and the wording comes across as offensive. "

Which I didn’t mean to sound offensive at all, so for that I will apologise if that’s how it came across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap

Thankyou, it’s nice to know that someone actually gets it I get what you were saying I just think the way you said it and the wording comes across as offensive.

Which I didn’t mean to sound offensive at all, so for that I will apologise if that’s how it came across "

So you apologise for misgendering her and for saying that no matter what she'll never be a woman?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap

Thankyou, it’s nice to know that someone actually gets it I get what you were saying I just think the way you said it and the wording comes across as offensive.

Which I didn’t mean to sound offensive at all, so for that I will apologise if that’s how it came across

So you apologise for misgendering her and for saying that no matter what she'll never be a woman?"

Misgendering? I believe I am right to say the person isn’t a female, there is a cock between the legs, the definition is TG.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

It has been suggested that transwomen don't think like women. Whilst I do 't have an answer on this I will make a few comments. Do you really think all women think in the same amorphous way. I certainly don't, my inderstanding is that women have a wide range of thought patterns strongly influenced but thier exoeriences in their for.ative years and any significant life exoeriences after.

Does changing your hormone balance shift your thought patterns? Absolutely I very quickly became more emotional and therefore empathetic. Does this mean that I think like a steroetypical female, I honestly don't think anyone knows but the reality is probably more so than most men but probably not fully as I have had different life experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap

Thankyou, it’s nice to know that someone actually gets it I get what you were saying I just think the way you said it and the wording comes across as offensive.

Which I didn’t mean to sound offensive at all, so for that I will apologise if that’s how it came across

So you apologise for misgendering her and for saying that no matter what she'll never be a woman?

Misgendering? I believe I am right to say the person isn’t a female, there is a cock between the legs, the definition is TG. "

I think you're confusing gender and biological sex

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"I don't see why your bothered. It's not impacting on your life "

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Some people are born in the wrong body and go through expensive and painful surgery so their outsides match their insides. I don't see why this is so hard for some to understand.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport


"Misgendering? I believe I am right to say the person isn’t a female, there is a cock between the legs, the definition is TG. "

The repeated use of he (or him) in your posts is considered misgendering unless the indervidual has identified with these pronouns. Certainly in a workplace it would be seen as a form of attack/bullying.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap

Thankyou, it’s nice to know that someone actually gets it I get what you were saying I just think the way you said it and the wording comes across as offensive.

Which I didn’t mean to sound offensive at all, so for that I will apologise if that’s how it came across

So you apologise for misgendering her and for saying that no matter what she'll never be a woman?

Misgendering? I believe I am right to say the person isn’t a female, there is a cock between the legs, the definition is TG.

I think you're confusing gender and biological sex

Hang on a minute what?

Gender and biological sex that's a very dangerous precident to be setting.

What if someone comes along and say's that they are 16 but there are biological age is 40.

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It's hardly a new concept is it?

It's a bit trite to conflate this with your example

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Exhibit : The Krankees

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport


"Some people are born in the wrong body and go through expensive and painful surgery so their outsides match their insides. I don't see why this is so hard for some to understand."

Exactly, medical assistance to transition is typically difficult to get, its not the handing out treatment like candy some of the printed media likes to suggest. As far as I know the NHS adult gender clinc waiting lists are by far the worst in the service. Once you start treatment the GPs are meant to assist but many do what ever they can to resist doing so.

The medical procedures are painful and requires prolonged ongoing post treatment care by the patient, but from those I know who have gone through them less so than carrying on with the constant body dysmorthia. Other treatments like electrolysis is like getting you face tourtured for an hour or two a week for months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are born in the wrong body and go through expensive and painful surgery so their outsides match their insides. I don't see why this is so hard for some to understand.

Exactly, medical assistance to transition is typically difficult to get, its not the handing out treatment like candy some of the printed media likes to suggest. As far as I know the NHS adult gender clinc waiting lists are by far the worst in the service. Once you start treatment the GPs are meant to assist but many do what ever they can to resist doing so.

The medical procedures are painful and requires prolonged ongoing post treatment care by the patient, but from those I know who have gone through them less so than carrying on with the constant body dysmorthia. Other treatments like electrolysis is like getting you face tourtured for an hour or two a week for months."

The surgery seems not only painful and stressful mentally, it’s an extremely long wait on the NHS to get or incredibly expensive to go private and I feel unbelievably bad for someone suffering to get the medical help they need. The only but I don’t understand is how surgeons can make a man worse at driving

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Thankfully I don't need any medical assistance with that as I don't drive I just terrorise the community fron the seat of my scooter.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

What's a straight guy doing on the 'other' site and you said in your OP that he has pics of his Penis so anyone arranging a meet would of already seen it...

It was a post about having their profile deleted from this site where he labelled himself as a female which he clearly isn’t.

Oh right. And how is this impacting on you?

It isn’t, sorry won’t bother commenting in the forum from now on, I thought this was a discussion site on all topics, I must of been mistaken "

Quite right. If we only commented on this that affected us directly there wouldn't be many Forum threads.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

This does raise an interesting question for Fab. Who do they allow to have a female profile (or a male profile for that matter). Anybody who identifies as a female? Obviously in the real world there are gradually rules and definitions being developed (eg in sport related to testerone levels etc.) but here where should the line be drawn and how can that be enforced? I don't know the answer but it is an interesting question.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"This does raise an interesting question for Fab. Who do they allow to have a female profile (or a male profile for that matter). Anybody who identifies as a female? Obviously in the real world there are gradually rules and definitions being developed (eg in sport related to testerone levels etc.) but here where should the line be drawn and how can that be enforced? I don't know the answer but it is an interesting question. "

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"This does raise an interesting question for Fab. Who do they allow to have a female profile (or a male profile for that matter). Anybody who identifies as a female? Obviously in the real world there are gradually rules and definitions being developed (eg in sport related to testerone levels etc.) but here where should the line be drawn and how can that be enforced? I don't know the answer but it is an interesting question. "

Well I guess if the site asked for government issue ID would resolve it ... though many TS like myself have Female passports/driving /Cards.

I choose to have TV/TS listed as I find its easier than having female listed . as there Is such a high volume of fake single female profiles on this website, its hard to stand out amongst them I guess ..

As a TV/TS and one that looks as I do I am very rare on this site, so it's easier for me to stand out within the bracket . which inturn leads me to get lots of messages / hit rates ... in short it is the path of least resistance at trying to find meets

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport


"As a TV/TS and one that looks as I do I am very rare on this site, so it's easier for me to stand out within the bracket . which inturn leads me to get lots of messages / hit rates ... in short it is the path of least resistance at trying to find meets "

I doubt you would have too many issues with getting meets regardless of which category you chose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya know,

I bought a Ford Sierra, I stripped it right back, changed the exterior/interior, upgraded the engine, stuck brand new Ferrari stickers on it, cost a fortune. People would look at it with envy, it was a great ride and the pleasure was fun to drive. BUT deep down - the base it was all built on was still a Ford Sierra and nothing would or could change that.

With your response - its the same, you find it insilting but deep down you know you can change everything you want but you can never change the fact the person in question was and always will be a Man genetically.

Food for thought

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"As a TV/TS and one that looks as I do I am very rare on this site, so it's easier for me to stand out within the bracket . which inturn leads me to get lots of messages / hit rates ... in short it is the path of least resistance at trying to find meets

I doubt you would have too many issues with getting meets regardless of which category you chose. "

What I mean by this is as a TS that has had lots of surgeries / boob jobs/ facial feminisation surgeries etc I have not really come across that many on here that have come along this far so far surgery wise within the fab TV/TS community and those that do the bulk seem to be shall we say meeting for donations ... hopefully more and more will though pop up over the coming years

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport


"As a TV/TS and one that looks as I do I am very rare on this site, so it's easier for me to stand out within the bracket . which inturn leads me to get lots of messages / hit rates ... in short it is the path of least resistance at trying to find meets

I doubt you would have too many issues with getting meets regardless of which category you chose.

What I mean by this is as a TS that has had lots of surgeries / boob jobs/ facial feminisation surgeries etc I have not really come across that many on here that have come along this far so far surgery wise within the fab TV/TS community and those that do the bulk seem to be shall we say meeting for donations ... hopefully more and more will though pop up over the coming years "

I get that and the extent of treatment is obvious and impressive, I just hope to get half as good outcomes when I get to mine.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Ya know,

I bought a Ford Sierra, I stripped it right back, changed the exterior/interior, upgraded the engine, stuck brand new Ferrari stickers on it, cost a fortune. People would look at it with envy, it was a great ride and the pleasure was fun to drive. BUT deep down - the base it was all built on was still a Ford Sierra and nothing would or could change that.

With your response - its the same, you find it insilting but deep down you know you can change everything you want but you can never change the fact the person in question was and always will be a Man genetically.

Food for thought

"

But the difference is:

It's just a car a collection of nuts bolts and wires.

A Trans person is a collection of living breathing part's a sentient being with feeling and thought who has the ability to decide what is the best for them and how they want to be.

I'm a man my wife is a woman no-one question's that or force's us to be something which we are not,why shouldn't a trans person be given the same respect and choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ya know,

I bought a Ford Sierra, I stripped it right back, changed the exterior/interior, upgraded the engine, stuck brand new Ferrari stickers on it, cost a fortune. People would look at it with envy, it was a great ride and the pleasure was fun to drive. BUT deep down - the base it was all built on was still a Ford Sierra and nothing would or could change that.

With your response - its the same, you find it insilting but deep down you know you can change everything you want but you can never change the fact the person in question was and always will be a Man genetically.

Food for thought

"

Did your Ford Sierra have feelings and emotions? Did it suffer extreme distress with how it looked outwardly compared to how it felt on the inside? Was it ever suicidal? Did it have years of therapy to try and reconcile the feelings it had? Did it have an actual diagnosis of gender dysphoria?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ya know,

I bought a Ford Sierra, I stripped it right back, changed the exterior/interior, upgraded the engine, stuck brand new Ferrari stickers on it, cost a fortune. People would look at it with envy, it was a great ride and the pleasure was fun to drive. BUT deep down - the base it was all built on was still a Ford Sierra and nothing would or could change that.

With your response - its the same, you find it insilting but deep down you know you can change everything you want but you can never change the fact the person in question was and always will be a Man genetically.

Food for thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe. "

How do we change what we feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

How do we change what we feel?"

We don’t have to apparently- just get everyone else to agree with us…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe. "

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

How do we change what we feel?"

Many of the trans community try very hard to do this, trying to force themselves to feel 'normal' and live in their assigned at birth gender. Unfortunately it is often a one-way trip to depression and suicide/self harm ideation and has killed many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The car is - yes. But the person driving the car ,,, It's a Ferrari, I'm telling you, it's a ferrari.

It's made to look, drive and feel like a ferrari and I'm forcing you to accept its a ferrari... but guess what - I know its not and never will be despite all my blood sweat tears, expense, time, research, assistance, etc etc.

The principle still applies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You read that wrong lol.

We can only change our bodies to what we feel. Not change what we feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

How do we change what we feel?

Many of the trans community try very hard to do this, trying to force themselves to feel 'normal' and live in their assigned at birth gender. Unfortunately it is often a one-way trip to depression and suicide/self harm ideation and has killed many."

Exactly this.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol "

forget he was straight and try something new?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

forget he was straight and try something new?"

come now we all know on fab straight men aren't real and its all fab straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

How do we change what we feel?

Many of the trans community try very hard to do this, trying to force themselves to feel 'normal' and live in their assigned at birth gender. Unfortunately it is often a one-way trip to depression and suicide/self harm ideation and has killed many."

I honestly will never understand the pain and distress a trans may feel. I do know the grief with being bi and that process.

I would never object to a person's ideology and hope people would accept who, what, whenever. Unfortunately not the case, I believe people have a right to be whom they are but I also believe no one should be forced to accept another person's beliefs.

It is a very tough world and its getting harder,

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"The car is - yes. But the person driving the car ,,, It's a Ferrari, I'm telling you, it's a ferrari.

It's made to look, drive and feel like a ferrari and I'm forcing you to accept its a ferrari... but guess what - I know its not and never will be despite all my blood sweat tears, expense, time, research, assistance, etc etc.

The principle still applies. "

yes but to the general peon on the street its still a Ferrari going about the roads and no one cares what the driver knows are things is only for them to know

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

How do we change what we feel?

Many of the trans community try very hard to do this, trying to force themselves to feel 'normal' and live in their assigned at birth gender. Unfortunately it is often a one-way trip to depression and suicide/self harm ideation and has killed many.

I honestly will never understand the pain and distress a trans may feel. I do know the grief with being bi and that process.

I would never object to a person's ideology and hope people would accept who, what, whenever. Unfortunately not the case, I believe people have a right to be whom they are but I also believe no one should be forced to accept another person's beliefs.

It is a very tough world and its getting harder, "

see this is my view on religion , I cant fathom why so many people in this day and age of enlightenment of science /logical understanding/technology still follow these beliefs .. but hey ho if it makes them feel good then crack on Tommy

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Just been reading a forum post on “the other site” from a TV, he is on hormones, looks nothing like a female, male bone structure of the face, adams apple, has a cock (which he likes to have erect in his pics) but wants to be known and treated as a female. His post was slating fabswingers for closing down his new profile he made as a “woman” are some people really that deluded? He will never be a female, never be able to think like a female and going by his face will never resemble a female.

Moaning and moaning that others should come round to his way of thinking and having a go at any guys saying otherwise.

Now I’m not against tv’s/cd’s etc each to their own BUT….where is the common sense? "

So many new genders now I give up

I thought before you were either Arthur or Martha? I dunno, it's so confusing?

What would an archaeologist say the gender of the remains if they dig you up in a 1000 years time?

I'm going to identify as a Pineapple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol "

I very much agree with this.

It's not safe for either of them.

It's also a fake profile if the person with a cock and a woman's profile does not make their current situation clear.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

I very much agree with this.

It's not safe for either of them.

It's also a fake profile if the person with a cock and a woman's profile does not make their current situation clear.

"

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

I very much agree with this.

It's not safe for either of them.

It's also a fake profile if the person with a cock and a woman's profile does not make their current situation clear.

"

End up getting battered & not battered up the batty possibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Correct - UNTIL you come to sell the car, WAIT WHAT,, its not a real Ferrari? Its a fake Modelled one, ?????

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

I very much agree with this.

It's not safe for either of them.

It's also a fake profile if the person with a cock and a woman's profile does not make their current situation clear.

"

Though this day and age who would meet someone blind anyway without having a video/phone chat prior anyway .... well I the real life dating world you would ...

On fab I get it that some guys just think with the cock and will go in blind as they are stupid but even so its mind blowing people dont speak to someone first and discuss it there .

Stealthing is a bad thing absolutely in meets for trans people. in America its quite fatal often as well , I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Generally the biggest risk to a man is just being embarrassed , the risk to the TS is death/violence as a reaction .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people want to think they are something else, then it’s fine. Everyone has their own opinion and ways of life. Aslong as it doesn’t affect my life and forces change into my life then be what you want. I might join in and identify as a penguin

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

How do we change what we feel?

Many of the trans community try very hard to do this, trying to force themselves to feel 'normal' and live in their assigned at birth gender. Unfortunately it is often a one-way trip to depression and suicide/self harm ideation and has killed many.

I honestly will never understand the pain and distress a trans may feel. I do know the grief with being bi and that process.

I would never object to a person's ideology and hope people would accept who, what, whenever. Unfortunately not the case, I believe people have a right to be whom they are but I also believe no one should be forced to accept another person's beliefs.

It is a very tough world and its getting harder, "

Totally disagree with your last point. The world is more accepting than it's ever being, and becoming more comfortable with it year on year

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I do think we are all missing an important factor here:

Not so long ago being homosexual was considered illegal in this country,that changed.

Two people of the same sex are now able to marry and be treated the same as people from the opposite sex.

Different religions are allowed to practice openly.

People from different ethic backgrounds mix and thrive alongside each other.

What we need to realise is how lucky we are in our country we are able to continue to grow and expand our outlooks and have empathy for others.

Yes there's always going to be a difference of opinion some will never change some will embrace it.

But the fact that we have the choice is what matters others in this world don't have the choice to even live a full life as the sex they are let alone the sex they want to be.

Viva la difference

Peace and love to all xx

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

"

Really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

I very much agree with this.

It's not safe for either of them.

It's also a fake profile if the person with a cock and a woman's profile does not make their current situation clear.

Though this day and age who would meet someone blind anyway without having a video/phone chat prior anyway .... well I the real life dating world you would ...

On fab I get it that some guys just think with the cock and will go in blind as they are stupid but even so its mind blowing people dont speak to someone first and discuss it there .

Stealthing is a bad thing absolutely in meets for trans people. in America its quite fatal often as well , I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Generally the biggest risk to a man is just being embarrassed , the risk to the TS is death/violence as a reaction . "

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would any woman on here be offended if just before a meet the guy said “hey just checking, you don’t have a dick or have ever been a man?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm. I saw that post too and the OP was generally told that they shouldn’t make a female profile.

But here’s the thing. That person clearly is someone in transition. She, and yes I will use the pronoun she, looks good and is very honest in her profiles. She hides nothing.

She clearly is not a TV, but isn’t a natural born woman. There is no category for what she is, so as long as she’s clear, what’s the problem?

No one is going to suddenly turn up and find a surprise cock. In fact she’s more honest than those who drop 10 years from their age or forget they’re married.

You’ve made this post, purely to cause a bit of outrage and to make yourself the centre of a popular post. I know who I think is the more honourable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha ha ,,probably , who knows might be a good opening email message. Lol

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Would any woman on here be offended if just before a meet the guy said “hey just checking, you don’t have a dick or have ever been a man?”"

my friend has had this alot as she is masculine looking .. she just flips it back and asks why were you born a woman and now living as a man . ...

reaction is usually priceless

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By *rLordMan
over a year ago

Swadlincote

All this TV,TS well I believe Fabswingers is right not to allow a profile as a woman.

If I meet a TV,TS then I know what to expect. Meeting a woman I also know what to expect.

For me it's that simple

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really "

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

Here's a question?

If an archaeologist looks at a human skeleton it's sexed as male or female biologically.

If you chop your winky off you are still male?

I'm very confused !!!

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"I think, in a nutshell, the OP was simply expressing their disbelief that said trans person would object to having their profile removed for claiming they were a woman.

Given that I once had my profile removed/blanked for claiming I was a woman (I have all the correct bits and pieces) because one of my veris mentioned meeting with my hubby (therefore inferring couple), I’d say that’s pretty fair and consistent from the site admin team.

I don’t see anything particularly ‘phobic’ in what OP has written, or see any reason why putting it in the forum is any more or less personally impacting on the OP than any other detritus in here.

Some people see a bandwagon and just have to leap "

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died "

I don't believe you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died

I don't believe you "

She doesn't have to give proof.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Here's a question?

If an archaeologist looks at a human skeleton it's sexed as male or female biologically.

If you chop your winky off you are still male?

I'm very confused !!! "

depending on the degradation of hip / pelvis bones which is why they usually determine skeletal sex from ages past ... though its not always accurate 100% as has been noted before where remains have been thought of as male but turned out female and vice versa, though its quite rare this day and age and with technology getting better I guess it will be easier .

a cock is tissue not a bone , as much as men like to say imma put my bone in you

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died

I don't believe you

She doesn't have to give proof."

No, I'm not asking for proof am I if you read it?

I take what I read on the internet with a pinch of salt...

Jackanory...

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died

I don't believe you "

Its of no significance to me what you believe as you are just merely a random name on a forum engaged in a thread with other random people .

Though go use google and look up trans murders in USA Vegas/Texas/LA you will be quite shocked at the statistics over th last 12 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would any woman on here be offended if just before a meet the guy said “hey just checking, you don’t have a dick or have ever been a man?”

my friend has had this alot as she is masculine looking .. she just flips it back and asks why were you born a woman and now living as a man . ...

reaction is usually priceless "

I love this but I think most women would be extremely offended and put off by the question

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died

I don't believe you

Its of no significance to me what you believe as you are just merely a random name on a forum engaged in a thread with other random people .

Though go use google and look up trans murders in USA Vegas/Texas/LA you will be quite shocked at the statistics over th last 12 years "

US population 331.9 million (2021)

Of course the statistics are higher ?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died

I don't believe you

Its of no significance to me what you believe as you are just merely a random name on a forum engaged in a thread with other random people .

Though go use google and look up trans murders in USA Vegas/Texas/LA you will be quite shocked at the statistics over th last 12 years

US population 331.9 million (2021)

Of course the statistics are higher ?"

Hate crime is still hate crime regardless of the size of the population, it doesn't make it ok.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

yeah one of them got shot in the head in her car and other was beaten so badly into a coma they died

I don't believe you

Its of no significance to me what you believe as you are just merely a random name on a forum engaged in a thread with other random people .

Though go use google and look up trans murders in USA Vegas/Texas/LA you will be quite shocked at the statistics over th last 12 years

US population 331.9 million (2021)

Of course the statistics are higher ?

Hate crime is still hate crime regardless of the size of the population, it doesn't make it ok."

Where have I said it's ok & justified?

I only mention population?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I am fortunate that living in UK as a trans woman there is less fatal violence towards people like me , but as many of my friends are American and I spend alot of time in USA . it's a very different ball game over there with it ... as its much more heated issue .

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By *lex CoxMan
over a year ago

Porth

I was talking to a really nice guy few nights back I saw that he was a bit more feminine than usual, so out of curiosity I asked what are your pronouns to which he replied she/her.

I totally respect people who prefer what pronouns they prefer to be addressed as, she/he was still a genetic male and you can't force others to belive that she/he is other than a genetic male.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"I am fortunate that living in UK as a trans woman there is less fatal violence towards people like me , but as many of my friends are American and I spend alot of time in USA . it's a very different ball game over there with it ... as its much more heated issue .

"

There's more fatal violence across all communities in the great USA...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was talking to a really nice guy few nights back I saw that he was a bit more feminine than usual, so out of curiosity I asked what are your pronouns to which he replied she/her.

I totally respect people who prefer what pronouns they prefer to be addressed as, she/he was still a genetic male and you can't force others to belive that she/he is other than a genetic male."

The use of pronouns in the gay community has different connotations and accepted uses, it’s not about gender identification. Just adding that.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"I was talking to a really nice guy few nights back I saw that he was a bit more feminine than usual, so out of curiosity I asked what are your pronouns to which he replied she/her.

I totally respect people who prefer what pronouns they prefer to be addressed as, she/he was still a genetic male and you can't force others to belive that she/he is other than a genetic male."

Thing with pronouns is they really don't come into play in 1 on 1 conversations .. as its either we, you or I , when we use terms like he/she its mostly in a 3rd person term , as in you are talking about the person to someone else . well if I am not present in that conversation how can I be concerned what others say about my gender . plus none refers to themselves in a 3rd person narrative when speaking on themself right

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Ya know,

I bought a Ford Sierra, I stripped it right back, changed the exterior/interior, upgraded the engine, stuck brand new Ferrari stickers on it, cost a fortune. People would look at it with envy, it was a great ride and the pleasure was fun to drive. BUT deep down - the base it was all built on was still a Ford Sierra and nothing would or could change that.

With your response - its the same, you find it insilting but deep down you know you can change everything you want but you can never change the fact the person in question was and always will be a Man genetically.

Food for thought

"

Sorry but that's a silly comparison as the car doesn't care what it is. A transgender person has very strong emotions and the suicide rate is very high.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Hmm. I saw that post too and the OP was generally told that they shouldn’t make a female profile.

But here’s the thing. That person clearly is someone in transition. She, and yes I will use the pronoun she, looks good and is very honest in her profiles. She hides nothing.

She clearly is not a TV, but isn’t a natural born woman. There is no category for what she is, so as long as she’s clear, what’s the problem?

No one is going to suddenly turn up and find a surprise cock. In fact she’s more honest than those who drop 10 years from their age or forget they’re married.

You’ve made this post, purely to cause a bit of outrage and to make yourself the centre of a popular post. I know who I think is the more honourable. "

That’s very interesting, you’re implying you’re accepting and tolerant but then decide to tell me why I’ve done something. Just like many other have. Then ignore my explanations and reasoning and go on to tell me what I’m doing and why I’m doing it. Enjoy if that makes you feel good…..

I’ll clarify one last time, you can chose to disagree and that’s fine, that’s what a discussion is all about.

To simplify….

A male to female trans who by their own admission still has a cock, made a profile on here as a woman. Then in the profile explained their situation. The profile got deleted so it’s clear what the admin think. But that person then went on ***guys and complained about it. They feel they should be able to have a female profile on here. I disagree and opened the topic on here for discussion.

It’s nothing to do with their right to call themselves whatever they want. They can, and I agree that that’s right and reasonable.

And i wasn’t for one moment suggesting that they wouldn’t explain in a message exchange with a potential meet, and there be a situation where out it plops much to the surprise of the 3rd party. I have no idea what they may or may not say in a private conversation, it’s non of my business.

My point was quite simple, should the admin allow a person with a cock to have a female profile on here? Were they right to delete it?

Yes you can call yourself anything you want, but they are not a woman and in an environment when fluid gender crops up, why not be 100% open when you’re not 100% through the process of reassignment?

Tim hat on, popcorn fetched, knock yourselves out. But I’m identifying as a woman that doesn’t think people who are not women should be able to say they are on a sex hookup site.

The Mrs (female)

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Hmm. I saw that post too and the OP was generally told that they shouldn’t make a female profile.

But here’s the thing. That person clearly is someone in transition. She, and yes I will use the pronoun she, looks good and is very honest in her profiles. She hides nothing.

She clearly is not a TV, but isn’t a natural born woman. There is no category for what she is, so as long as she’s clear, what’s the problem?

No one is going to suddenly turn up and find a surprise cock. In fact she’s more honest than those who drop 10 years from their age or forget they’re married.

You’ve made this post, purely to cause a bit of outrage and to make yourself the centre of a popular post. I know who I think is the more honourable.

That’s very interesting, you’re implying you’re accepting and tolerant but then decide to tell me why I’ve done something. Just like many other have. Then ignore my explanations and reasoning and go on to tell me what I’m doing and why I’m doing it. Enjoy if that makes you feel good…..

I’ll clarify one last time, you can chose to disagree and that’s fine, that’s what a discussion is all about.

To simplify….

A male to female trans who by their own admission still has a cock, made a profile on here as a woman. Then in the profile explained their situation. The profile got deleted so it’s clear what the admin think. But that person then went on ***guys and complained about it. They feel they should be able to have a female profile on here. I disagree and opened the topic on here for discussion.

It’s nothing to do with their right to call themselves whatever they want. They can, and I agree that that’s right and reasonable.

And i wasn’t for one moment suggesting that they wouldn’t explain in a message exchange with a potential meet, and there be a situation where out it plops much to the surprise of the 3rd party. I have no idea what they may or may not say in a private conversation, it’s non of my business.

My point was quite simple, should the admin allow a person with a cock to have a female profile on here? Were they right to delete it?

Yes you can call yourself anything you want, but they are not a woman and in an environment when fluid gender crops up, why not be 100% open when you’re not 100% through the process of reassignment?

Tim hat on, popcorn fetched, knock yourselves out. But I’m identifying as a woman that doesn’t think people who are not women should be able to say they are on a sex hookup site.

The Mrs (female) "

They'll call you mean names now.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol "

Once arranged to meet a couple and they asked if another woman join us for fun. I agreed and got very disappointed when pre op turned up when I was expecting a biological woman. I would rather if people are honest in first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People expose themselves. .

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"What’s a straight guy going to do if he arranges a meet with this person then realises there is a cock in between the legs lol

Once arranged to meet a couple and they asked if another woman join us for fun. I agreed and got very disappointed when pre op turned up when I was expecting a biological woman. I would rather if people are honest in first place "

Very colourful

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Have you posted this same thread on the other site OP? So the person you are talking about can give you their opinion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you posted this same thread on the other site OP? So the person you are talking about can give you their opinion?"

Having checked, no they haven’t. The person in question also mentioned in that post they had deleted their profile here…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somebody once said “ you can identify as a refrigerator if you want to. The problems only start once you try to force the world to confirm your delusion”"

Well said.. truth!!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Wow just wow! Never b a female never think like a female and never look like one???

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I am not against any sexual preference, tv’s, cd’s, tg’s etc but what I am against is lying and duping people, I won’t bother creating a forum post again it’s too much hassle "

Arww did it not go the way you wanted.

Transphobic posts rarely do.

Mrs

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"I am not against any sexual preference, tv’s, cd’s, tg’s etc but what I am against is lying and duping people, I won’t bother creating a forum post again it’s too much hassle

Arww did it not go the way you wanted.

Transphobic posts rarely do.

Mrs "

How's it Transphobic?

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Somebody once said “ you can identify as a refrigerator if you want to. The problems only start once you try to force the world to confirm your delusion”

Well said.. truth!!"

Well said?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Just been reading a forum post on “the other site” from a TV, he is on hormones, looks nothing like a female, male bone structure of the face, adams apple, has a cock (which he likes to have erect in his pics) but wants to be known and treated as a female. His post was slating fabswingers for closing down his new profile he made as a “woman” are some people really that deluded? He will never be a female, never be able to think like a female and going by his face will never resemble a female.

Moaning and moaning that others should come round to his way of thinking and having a go at any guys saying otherwise.

Now I’m not against tv’s/cd’s etc each to their own BUT….where is the common sense? "

Sorry, but what exactly does it have to do you with you, it doesn't affect yoyr life in any way shape or form, wheres the ethos of live n let live in this...

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Frankly due diligence, any misled have only themselves to blame if it's not what they seek..

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I am fortunate that living in UK as a trans woman there is less fatal violence towards people like me , but as many of my friends are American and I spend alot of time in USA . it's a very different ball game over there with it ... as its much more heated issue .

"

It really is ! My daughter lives in florida! I literally fear for her life! Wish she would come home to the UK! But she has made her life there so I have to accept that and hope for the best x

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Just been reading a forum post on “the other site” from a TV, he is on hormones, looks nothing like a female, male bone structure of the face, adams apple, has a cock (which he likes to have erect in his pics) but wants to be known and treated as a female. His post was slating fabswingers for closing down his new profile he made as a “woman” are some people really that deluded? He will never be a female, never be able to think like a female and going by his face will never resemble a female.

Moaning and moaning that others should come round to his way of thinking and having a go at any guys saying otherwise.

Now I’m not against tv’s/cd’s etc each to their own BUT….where is the common sense?

Sorry, but what exactly does it have to do you with you, it doesn't affect yoyr life in any way shape or form, wheres the ethos of live n let live in this..."

Oooh....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The owner cares, also the potential new owner,

Aka, the person whom is and the prospective person dating!!

It's a metaphore - jeeeeez, open you mind!!!!!

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe. "

Could you define what a woman is please?

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?"

An adult female human being

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The owner cares, also the potential new owner,

Aka, the person whom is and the prospective person dating!!

It's a metaphore - jeeeeez, open you mind!!!!!

"

this is what *they* do - try to twist & confuse. You’ve made your points perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somebody once said “ you can identify as a refrigerator if you want to. The problems only start once you try to force the world to confirm your delusion”

Well said.. truth!!"

Weird, because a whole raft of medical & psychological professionals are certain that my son's gender dysphoria is not a delusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being "

Try again.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

Try again."

A woman is an adult female human. Prior to adulthood, one is referred to as a girl.

Typically, women inherit a pair of X chromosomes, one from each parent, and are capable of pregnancy and giving birth from puberty until menopause.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Have you posted this same thread on the other site OP? So the person you are talking about can give you their opinion?

Having checked, no they haven’t. The person in question also mentioned in that post they had deleted their profile here…"

Mentioned they had deleted their original profile as a Tv/cd and then created another as a “female” and had that deleted.

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By *ongandharderMan
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

Try again.

A woman is an adult female human. Prior to adulthood, one is referred to as a girl.

Typically, women inherit a pair of X chromosomes, one from each parent, and are capable of pregnancy and giving birth from puberty until menopause. "

Agreed your not a woman or female

Out of respect your a trans female

Or a a trans woman

Biologicaly your a man

socially your considered a woman by some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a woman can be anything they want...

But - a female is one created/born with a XY chromosome and as such usually has the reproductive associated with child birth!

Aka what a dumb question !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a woman can be anything they want...

But - a female is one created/born with a XX chromosome and as such usually has the reproductive associated with child birth!

Aka what a dumb question ! "

damn auto correct lol

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being "

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Somebody once said “ you can identify as a refrigerator if you want to. The problems only start once you try to force the world to confirm your delusion”

."

Or when somebody tries shoving cartons of milk, tubs of margarine and an oven ready chicken up your arse.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?"

I'll copy & paste what I said before.

A woman is an adult female human. Prior to adulthood, one is referred to as a girl.

Typically, women inherit a pair of X chromosomes, one from each parent, and are capable of pregnancy and giving birth from puberty until menopause.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really "

Years ago the badge of honour used to be knowing someone who had died from AIDS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

Years ago the badge of honour used to be knowing someone who had died from AIDS."

“Badge of honour”?

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


" I had 2 trans friends murdered this way picking up guys at clubs and well it got violent when it was found out they had balls ..

Really

Years ago the badge of honour used to be knowing someone who had died from AIDS."

Times change mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?"

Do you honestly believe genetically a woman can be anything other than a woman! Or a man genetically other than a man?,

Hence anyone whom decides to go through the process is a "Trans" and will always be a "Trans".

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?

Do you honestly believe genetically a woman can be anything other than a woman! Or a man genetically other than a man?,

Hence anyone whom decides to go through the process is a "Trans" and will always be a "Trans".

"

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

The thread will fill up soon but having just read the whole thing from scratch a thought occurred to me…

Why wouldn’t a trans person want to be a trans person? Do they have something against the term “trans”? A term that they probably cling to for quite a while.

Not a great metaphor and some will love to say it’s not ever close, but a recovering alcoholic is not a non drinker. They don’t call themselves tea-total. What they were before impacts their lives for the rest of their lives and they honour that.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?

I'll copy & paste what I said before.

A woman is an adult female human. Prior to adulthood, one is referred to as a girl.

Typically, women inherit a pair of X chromosomes, one from each parent, and are capable of pregnancy and giving birth from puberty until menopause.

"

I was asking what you think, not what you cut n pasted from Wikipedia.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

There’s some bloody ridiculous analogies on here! Fridges, cars!! We are talking about people. What the actual fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s some bloody ridiculous analogies on here! Fridges, cars!! We are talking about people. What the actual fuck"

This is a thread where apparently knowing people who died a horrific death from an incurable disease was once a badge of honour. Fab has reached a new low.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?

Do you honestly believe genetically a woman can be anything other than a woman! Or a man genetically other than a man?,

Hence anyone whom decides to go through the process is a "Trans" and will always be a "Trans".

"

A woman isn’t a genetic or medical term, it’s a social term. So genetically a woman can be a great number of things. What is known by science changes, the meaning of words change (girl, for instance, was the word used to describe male and female children up until a few hundred years ago.)

There is so much we don’t yet know, or is too complex for us to comprehend, so we simplify it. I just think it is dangerous to say things like ‘facts are facts’ when the things considered to be facts a century ago are now known to be false, or incomplete at best.

1.7% of the population are born intersex, that’s about the same percentage as people with green eyes. How many people do you think we knew were born intersex 100 years ago?

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?

I'll copy & paste what I said before.

A woman is an adult female human. Prior to adulthood, one is referred to as a girl.

Typically, women inherit a pair of X chromosomes, one from each parent, and are capable of pregnancy and giving birth from puberty until menopause.

I was asking what you think, not what you cut n pasted from Wikipedia."

It's my belief

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By *WINGStars23Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

TV's are not women and never will be women, you can remove what you like, it doesn't change the Chromosones you were born with. TV's should be okay with them being know as TV's or (TGirls or whatever but not women) and that's it, it's their choice to change who they are. It seems most TV's tend to be men who want to change their sex and few women wanting to do the same, feel free to do so.

But, do TV's ever concider, that from a real womans (now renamed as cisgender woman or ciswoman, to clarify born female) of view that they may not wish to be associated with males in essence playing females and find this uncomfortable or even offensive?

It's not woman's choice to be associated with someone of the opposite sex transitioning, do TV's ask women how they feel about what essentially is a male posing as a female? Having to share facilities with people who are not women?

In the last year TV's seem to be all over fab, as once gay men where, and who now have their own site fabguys.

Should TV's have the same type of site just for themselves (fabTV's) which would be for TV's to meet people just looking for that gender?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn this thread is still going, anyone want a cuppa

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

Has this bottomed out yet?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Has this bottomed out yet? "

3 more replies & it's in fab forum heaven.

Mrs

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I am not massively informed on the subject but would be ashamed of myself if I ever posted some of the stuff posted on here or persistently try to be divisive in the way some are. I don't have to agree with everything but I respect people and in my book diversity and inclusivity is enriching everyone's life in some way or another. Live in peace and harmony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one more?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi only OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Suffolk


"TV's are not women and never will be women, you can remove what you like, it doesn't change the Chromosones you were born with. TV's should be okay with them being know as TV's or (TGirls or whatever but not women) and that's it, it's their choice to change who they are. It seems most TV's tend to be men who want to change their sex and few women wanting to do the same, feel free to do so.

But, do TV's ever concider, that from a real womans (now renamed as cisgender woman or ciswoman, to clarify born female) of view that they may not wish to be associated with males in essence playing females and find this uncomfortable or even offensive?

It's not woman's choice to be associated with someone of the opposite sex transitioning, do TV's ask women how they feel about what essentially is a male posing as a female? Having to share facilities with people who are not women?

In the last year TV's seem to be all over fab, as once gay men where, and who now have their own site fabguys.

Should TV's have the same type of site just for themselves (fabTV's) which would be for TV's to meet people just looking for that gender?"

At last someone with my way of thinking Thankyou, that’s spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a big difference between a TV and a TS, right?

And on that note .. goodnight.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Somehow, I think you're missing the metaphor,

Regardless of it being a non living or living item.

Facts are facts.

I'm not against anyone's choice, but we cannot change our genetics, we can only change what makes us "feel" what we believe.

Could you define what a woman is please?

An adult female human being

So you believe that a person cannot be a woman unless your defined sex at birth is female?

Do you honestly believe genetically a woman can be anything other than a woman! Or a man genetically other than a man?,

Hence anyone whom decides to go through the process is a "Trans" and will always be a "Trans".

A woman isn’t a genetic or medical term, it’s a social term. So genetically a woman can be a great number of things. What is known by science changes, the meaning of words change (girl, for instance, was the word used to describe male and female children up until a few hundred years ago.)

There is so much we don’t yet know, or is too complex for us to comprehend, so we simplify it. I just think it is dangerous to say things like ‘facts are facts’ when the things considered to be facts a century ago are now known to be false, or incomplete at best.

1.7% of the population are born intersex, that’s about the same percentage as people with green eyes. How many people do you think we knew were born intersex 100 years ago?"

Green eyes, interesting, I like being in the minority

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