FabSwingers.com forum: Is lying ok?

By *appyhippo OP Woman
over a year ago

coventry

Now we know most people will tell what is call little white lies but do you find it acceptable?

Where do you draw the line if there was no need for there to be a lie in the first place?

Does it change your perspective of a person if you catch them out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s never ok

Being honest and truthful is the only policy

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Context is everything

I'm not entirely truthful with people on places like this

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I find little white lies more annoying. I lose all respect for people who lie to me.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

If I don't lie I never have to remember what I said. Just say the truth for a simpler life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying is only ok if it benefits you personally. Otherwise what’s the point

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

For me, no.

If something would be hurtful and bring no benefit, I'd avoid vomiting unnecessary truth. But if it was relevant to someone making an informed choice, then it should be said.

I understand the little white lies, and I'll often draw focus to a positive rather than directly answer a question where my honest opinion is negative but irrelevant. But I just don't agree with lying for the most part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Context is everything

I'm not entirely truthful with people on places like this "

It’s true. She be telling me sweet little lies all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter how small, I hate lies. Same goes to me, if could be a tiny lie which is nothing and could save an argument but I’d rather be honest rather than lie to someone.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad. "
,, santa is real

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If it relates to a concern that is significant to me and I have made that clear. Then that's a definite 'line'.

If people lie I ask them, if they won't own it or explain why they felt the need to. Yes absolutely it's probably the most important thing to me to feel that an other person will be honest with me.

Without that intimacy just disintegrates for me. Trust is fundamental.

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By *appyhippo OP Woman
over a year ago

coventry

"I find little white lies more annoying. I lose all respect for people who lie to me. "

I am the same, for some reason I find the little white lies annoy me more. I definitely then look at the person in a different light

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's never ok but depending upon the circumstances I'd start doubting them and not in friends zone but under rubble

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By *appyhippo OP Woman
over a year ago

coventry

"Lying is only ok if it benefits you personally. Otherwise what’s the point "

So by that way of thinking if it benefits you personally it ok but what if it hurts someone to allow that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find little white lies more annoying. I lose all respect for people who lie to me.

I am the same, for some reason I find the little white lies annoy me more. I definitely then look at the person in a different light"

Yes, little lies which were never needed annoy m the most because why lie about such trivial things, says a lot about a persons character

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By *appyhippo OP Woman
over a year ago

coventry

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad. "

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I find little white lies more annoying. I lose all respect for people who lie to me.

I am the same, for some reason I find the little white lies annoy me more. I definitely then look at the person in a different light"

Totally. It’s insulting,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“It’s not you, it’s me”

Nah, it’s you really, but I’m softening the blow.

Is that ok? Dunno ..

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Context can matter. Little white lies to preserve the peace, or spare some feelings might be okay, but quite often a little tact and diplomacy is just as good. But anything else, no. I’ve had some shocking lies told about me, I’ve been damaged and changed by it, and I’ve lost friends and colleagues because of it, and in some cases I’ve been unable to repair the damage. I have no interest in being around people who feel comfortable with lies.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Telling silly white lies can be a kind of habit for some people I think, but I don't get too perturbed by them (if they really don't mean much) - but it's got to be good to try not to do them! I certainly respect honesty more, but it's horses for courses I think as I'm quite honest myself. I feel that not everyone wants someone painfully honest all the time, some people like to exaggerate and to hear stories or just sweet little lies because it's how they do it themselves. I think in general people like what they do themselves (and perhaps in some cases what they perceive they do, or what they aspire to perhaps.)

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

We all lie all of the time.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"We all lie all of the time. "

I was lying then.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Sometimes people lie to protect someone the care about from learning the truth about another.

The problem is when that person discovers the truth, and they blame you for not telling them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone tells little white lies.

It's the reason for doing it that matters.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Everything depends on context. Even big lies can be justified in the right context.

In my humble opinion of course

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"We all lie all of the time.

I was lying then.

Caught! You were definitely lying right then. Before you just may have been lying! pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying is fine aslong as it doesn't cause harm to another person. Like if someone is in a bad place its probably not the best idea to say "Yeah you're entire family just died horribly, seethe cope L skill issue mald uninstall get rekt ggez". Depends on context. If its for the sake of causing harm to another person (cheating for example) then yeah thats pretty fucking horrible and if I find out I wanna do things to them that can't be mentioned otherwise I'd end up on the CIA watchlist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, no.

If something would be hurtful and bring no benefit, I'd avoid vomiting unnecessary truth. But if it was relevant to someone making an informed choice, then it should be said.

Agree

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"For me, no.

If something would be hurtful and bring no benefit, I'd avoid vomiting unnecessary truth. But if it was relevant to someone making an informed choice, then it should be said.

Agree"

Oh yes, I like that description it's really quite comprehensive.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Being a liar is hard work. Tell the truth & you’ll never get caught out

J x

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

The good old debate between deontology and consequentialism

For me personally, it's about the motive of the lie. If it was done with a good intention towards me, even if the idea is stupid, I would excuse the person.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, lying is ok. Everyone does it even if they believe they don't. Nobody is 100% truthful

Saying "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are, even though you're not is a lie.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Yes, lying is ok. Everyone does it even if they believe they don't. Nobody is 100% truthful

Saying "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are, even though you're not is a lie.

What if by 'fine' you allude to that harrowingly thin line between 'getting by' and utterly debilitating despair lol.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Yes, lying is ok. Everyone does it even if they believe they don't. Nobody is 100% truthful

Saying "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are, even though you're not is a lie.

What if by 'fine' you allude to that harrowingly thin line between 'getting by' and utterly debilitating despair lol.

pt"

Nice to see you back btw (if you were away) pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying is just not on,I mentioned this to Kate Moss on my last modelling job.

Can't remember if it was before the Oscars or after Cannes .

It definitely happened though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes, lying is ok. Everyone does it even if they believe they don't. Nobody is 100% truthful

Saying "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are, even though you're not is a lie.

What if by 'fine' you allude to that harrowingly thin line between 'getting by' and utterly debilitating despair lol.

Nice to see you back btw (if you were away) pt"

Thank you, we were away

. Truth

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"It’s never ok

Being honest and truthful is the only policy

This every time

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"Yes, lying is ok. Everyone does it even if they believe they don't. Nobody is 100% truthful

Saying "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are, even though you're not is a lie.

What if by 'fine' you allude to that harrowingly thin line between 'getting by' and utterly debilitating despair lol.

Nice to see you back btw (if you were away) pt

Thank you, we were away

. Truth

Unrelated to the post but I had a dream about you. You were teaching me how to make cucumber chutney. I’m not sure if cucumber chutney is a real thing or what my mental state was when I went to sleep that night but there you were.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes, lying is ok. Everyone does it even if they believe they don't. Nobody is 100% truthful

Saying "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are, even though you're not is a lie.

What if by 'fine' you allude to that harrowingly thin line between 'getting by' and utterly debilitating despair lol.

Nice to see you back btw (if you were away) pt

Thank you, we were away

. Truth

. The way our subconscious works

I was talking about making jam a while back, maybe that triggered it

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Yes, lying is ok. Everyone does it even if they believe they don't. Nobody is 100% truthful

Saying "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are, even though you're not is a lie.

What if by 'fine' you allude to that harrowingly thin line between 'getting by' and utterly debilitating despair lol.

Nice to see you back btw (if you were away) pt

Thank you, we were away

. Truth

I'm not going to question a mod lol pt

(who need to take their breaks!)

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By *adbod2godbodMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If you don't lie, you'll never get caught out. But if course you probably won't have a lot of friends either, because the truth often hurts that (amongst other reasons) is why most people tell a lie, to spare someone's feelings.

"That lipstick looks the same colour as that clowns we saw last year at the circus" or "no not your shade"

"She wasn't in your league mate, better off without her" or "she was way to good for you, you'd just disappoint her"

"God your so tight" or "this is like throwing a sausage up a ginnel"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we've all told a lie at some point in our lives, especially to protect someone or others feelings. Those types of lies I don't think are uncommon. If people are lying with malicious intent, that's where the line is crossed for me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I absolutely detest lying but there is times it's needed for example hiding a suprise, birthday, Christmas etc, telling the kids about Santa & the tooth fairy but other than that no there isn't really any reasons to lie.

I find the little lies more annoying, if people like about something small and insignificant for zero reason I expect them to lie constantly.

Mrs

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Depends on the context, sometimes there are necessary lies

Then the harmful lies, the lies people tell to others for their own agendas. Adults can be shit at times

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"If you don't lie, you'll never get caught out. But if course you probably won't have a lot of friends either, because the truth often hurts that (amongst other reasons) is why most people tell a lie, to spare someone's feelings.

"That lipstick looks the same colour as that clowns we saw last year at the circus" or "no not your shade"

"She wasn't in your league mate, better off without her" or "she was way to good for you, you'd just disappoint her"

"God your so tight" or "this is like throwing a sausage up a ginnel"

I'd rather hear the clowns for the first. The second is fine in terms of rephrasing to me. The third, why outright lie instead of comment on something like how wet she is or some other positive, rather than lie about something that simply isn't true though?

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

south

A little white lie is ok if I want to get out of going/doing something with someone I don’t go no deeper that’s a slippery slope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy? "

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Everyone tells lies to some degree. That’s that claim not to are obviously lying.

Of course, there are many justified reasons to lie. Anyone with the slightest modicum of empathy would do this.

Lying for lying’s sake is something different.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I see we have paragons of virute among us.

Not a single person in this thread is above telling a lie, will have told lies and very likely will tell multiple lies before their final breath on their death bed. No matter how righteous they claim to be.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I abhor lies. Especially those little ones people tell to make them seem more important/ likeable. Or the complimentary ones they really don’t mean.

It takes an inventive mind, but you really can get through most of life without even little lies. Silence is also an option if you can’t say anything truthfully nice.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Everything depends on context. Even big lies can be justified in the right context.

In my humble opinion of course "

This

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie. "

I’ve always said Well I believe and I get presents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie.

I’ve always said Well I believe and I get presents. "

Surprised you’re on the good list Nora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ethics are situational, sometimes lying may well be the moral course of action.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie.

I’ve always said Well I believe and I get presents.

Surprised you’re on the good list Nora

. He likes me I always leave him alcohol instead of milk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know. I mean if someone is really proud of something they’ve produced and I don’t particularly like it I might white lie in that instance as it’s only my opinion after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying.. Betrayal of trust.

Is it healthy... No.

Why do we lie continually to hurt those you love?

Only lying I do is lying down for sexual relations

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie. "

Don't ruin the magic of Christmas for her too early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t know when to lie and when not to, then that’s more of a problem.

‘Do you think I’m ugly?’ Only someone with no social awareness and a level of narcissism would say yes if some one were.

‘Do you have HIV?’ may elicit two different responses depending if the questioner is simply being nosey or if you intend to sleep with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie.

Don't ruin the magic of Christmas for her too early "

I didn’t expect this from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a friend asks me if they look good in something and they don't I will always say something like I prefer so and so on you.

I do not like lieing as a general rule on here sometimes it saves you a lot of hassle as in white lies like I'm not meeting or looking to meet right now. Mostly I am direct and honest.

Friends etc I will not keep if they lie to me and I find out. I find it hard to trust them and if I can't trust you then what is the point.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie.

Don't ruin the magic of Christmas for her too early

I didn’t expect this from you

I'm not the grinch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Telling your kids Santa is real (I’m not doing that but for those that do) is not all that bad.

Telling your partner she doesn’t have anything to worry about or she’s mad for being suspicious when you’re cheating on her? That’s kinda bad.

So this got me thinking, as much as it’s magical telling our kids Santa, the tooth fairy the Easter bunny ect are real are we then teaching them small lies are ok as long as it makes people happy?

That’s how I see it. Which is why I don’t want to tell my daughter Santa is real and if she asks me I won’t lie.

Don't ruin the magic of Christmas for her too early

I didn’t expect this from you

I'm not the grinch "

I know. Maybe you’re nice?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Lying is just not on,I mentioned this to Kate Moss on my last modelling job.

Can't remember if it was before the Oscars or after Cannes .

It definitely happened though

You are lying! Kate Moss told me she'd never been to the Oscars.... Oh no! Was Kate Moss the liar ?????

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If people like ,it makes me more wary of them in general and I wouldn't trust them.

Some people can't lie straight in bed though,I used to work with a woman who likes about loads of stuff ,big and little just to get attention it seemed .sad cos everyone knew ,because she didn't have a good memory.

If I catch people lying here ,I'm usually done with them ,as everything they say then, I'd question .

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Lie not like

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By *exleypeteMan
49 weeks ago

bexleyheath

"It’s never ok

Being honest and truthful is the only policy

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"If I don't lie I never have to remember what I said. Just say the truth for a simpler life."

This. Plus lying is cowardly at best, and manipulation at worst...

I'd rather know a difficult truth than a beautiful lie any day.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"If people like ,it makes me more wary of them in general and I wouldn't trust them.

If I catch people lying here ,I'm usually done with them ,as everything they say then, I'd question ."

I've known people like this, it's very sad to observe as it's obviously done out of massive insecurity and feeling like they need to lie to impress or get attention or whatever. I'd just rather be not liked for who I genuinely am, than be liked as a person I'm pretending to be.

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By *avexxMan
49 weeks ago

cheshire

you will never go to heaven if you lie

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Everyone does it to sone degree. Even those who paint themselves as so virtuous that they'd never tell the slightest of lies.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Everyone does it to sone degree. Even those who paint themselves as so virtuous that they'd never tell the slightest of lies. "

*some

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By *orny PTMan
49 weeks ago

Peterborough

"If I don't lie I never have to remember what I said. Just say the truth for a simpler life.

This. Plus lying is cowardly at best, and manipulation at worst...

I'd rather know a difficult truth than a beautiful lie any day.

How many Jews and prisoners of war and resistance fighters were protected by lies when asked by the Nåzis "Have you seen who we are looking for?"

Not exactly cowardly...

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By *enk15Man
49 weeks ago

Evesham

I lie to my boss when they ask what I did on my WFH days.

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By *mf123Man
49 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Im amazed when people think there shit dont stink

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By *inchyorksMan
49 weeks ago

huddersfield

It does depend on context, I have a person with dementia in the family, it is much easier and less upsetting for them to tell the odd white lie.

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49 weeks ago

"Being a liar is hard work. Tell the truth & you’ll never get caught out

J x"

Well said am with you on that

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By *obilebottomMan
49 weeks ago

All over

No, unless for rare good reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"It does depend on context, I have a person with dementia in the family, it is much easier and less upsetting for them to tell the odd white lie."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
49 weeks ago

Central

It's hard to ever know what drives all of someone's lies, especially when they may deceive themselves. Lack of confidence, ability to trust and gain greater intimacy are amongst the motivations. It depends on my relationship with someone, if they lie to me and how they are otherwise. I don't expect saints but like people to be reasonably dependable.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
49 weeks ago

North West

"It does depend on context, I have a person with dementia in the family, it is much easier and less upsetting for them to tell the odd white lie."

Yep, it's not always as straightforward as we'd like.

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By *apidaryMan
49 weeks ago

Chipping Norton

The poet Emily Dickinson said you should "tell the truth but slant it".

Anyone boasting about how they "tell it like it is", in contrast, is frequently lacking manners at best, a nasty piece of work at worst.

Truth matters; kindness matters. Sometimes if you can't manage a good dose of both together then there's something deeper wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I don't believe anyone who says they never tell little white lies. Sometimes they are justified.

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By *ddie1966Man
49 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Personally, I don't believe in lying. I can honestly say I never lie nowadays. It's easier to keep your story straight.

I will, however, be economical with the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"For me, no.

If something would be hurtful and bring no benefit, I'd avoid vomiting unnecessary truth. But if it was relevant to someone making an informed choice, then it should be said.

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By *lan157Man
49 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"I lie to my boss when they ask what I did on my WFH days.

It's your boss here. What are you really doing on your WFH days ? Ps. I have your HR manager with me.

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By *ldgeezermeMan
49 weeks ago

Newcastle

Anyone who never lies has a serious personality disorder

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

The difficult boundary is when you're asked an opinion on something you haven't considered before and have to give a snap answer. Then a week later you may be picked up on it because you've had time to think and have changed your opinion. To me, that's not lying but I know people that would say that it is.

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By *pinningfasterWoman
49 weeks ago

Birmingham

No I don't like even little lies.

White lies aren't harmless they're the start of a slippery slope and the clear indication someone is untrustworthy x

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By *ldgeezermeMan
49 weeks ago

Newcastle

Man with a knife chasing a neighbour,she disappears down a side street

"Do you know where she lives?"

Your answer?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
49 weeks ago

walsall

Everyone in the world is a liar. Anyone who says they aren’t are lying.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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49 weeks ago

East Sussex

"No I don't like even little lies.

White lies aren't harmless they're the start of a slippery slope and the clear indication someone is untrustworthy x"

I offer tell people I'm fine when I'm really not. It's an outright lie but I often either don't want to tell them the truth of they don't want to hear it. If that makes me untrustworthy I'll live with it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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49 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Man with a knife chasing a neighbour,she disappears down a side street

"Do you know where she lives?"

Your answer?"

It would depend. Is he chasing her to kill her or to return a knife she dropped?

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"No I don't like even little lies.

White lies aren't harmless they're the start of a slippery slope and the clear indication someone is untrustworthy x"

But what about Santa?

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
49 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

"No I don't like even little lies.

White lies aren't harmless they're the start of a slippery slope and the clear indication someone is untrustworthy x

But what about Santa?"

Oh he tells some whoppers, when I was 6 he said I was getting a new bike, like fuck I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I dont like it when people lie to me, even small ones or white lies or lies to spare my feelings... if someone can lie to me about anything how do i know anything they say is the truth.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
49 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Truth is subjective anyway. You always have one persons view, the other persons and the truth somewhere between them.

Telling a little lie like "im fine", whilst not the truth in that moment, is protecting yourself and possibly the other person from being uncomfortable.

Huge lies are not on but a small one to save someones feelings, keep someone safe etc really isn't bad I don't think.

Obviously whopping big lies aren't acceptable.

MrsAbz

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By *oJo pornstarMan
49 weeks ago

Liverpool

If you say "I won't cum in your mouth" and you 100% meant it when you said it, but things end up turning out differently, does that still count as a lie?

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By *inky ChefMan
49 weeks ago

Norwich

Little white lies are okay sometimes, but depends on the reason.

If a woman asks me, if her arse got too big, then I won't say yes.

When a man asks a woman that he's cock is nice. If there's love, then she won't say "I had better".

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By *andy BarSteward73Man
49 weeks ago

Sandwell

The only when asked "are you ok?" I'll aways respond "yes I'm all good" even if on the precipice

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By *he ass man 666Man
49 weeks ago

paradise city

Everyone lies and if they say they don’t their lying

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By *xydadbodMan
49 weeks ago

Milton keynes

It all depends on the context of it all really and the reason behind it.. if its to protect yourself, then probably not.. but if its to protect others from being hurt or embarrassed a little then I would say a little white lie to avoid that can be said, but maybe be truthful afters by taken aside and to explain why

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
49 weeks ago

Leeds

Of course it is. How else are you supposed to constantly get your own way unless you bulshit the fuck out of people.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Sometimes lying is the only way to make sure you get what you want

Just gotta be fair about it

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By *use and wolfCouple
49 weeks ago

angus

A lie requires more lies eventually in order to keep the original lie.

Being honest is so much less hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Man with a knife chasing a neighbour,she disappears down a side street

"Do you know where she lives?"

Your answer?

It would depend. Is he chasing her to kill her or to return a knife she dropped?"

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