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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TL/DR: who are the central clique?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"TL/DR: who are the central clique? "

No Dan. No. No clique chat. The thread will be removed and people will post bitchy comments and I don't want that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TL/DR: who are the central clique? "

Anyway to answer your questions OP:

Yes. Yes. No. Not really. Not give a fuck.

In that order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TL/DR: who are the central clique?

No Dan. No. No clique chat. The thread will be removed and people will post bitchy comments and I don't want that. "

And I thought this was gonna be a fun thread

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't know, don't care, it wouldn't be a decision in meeting them.

I think people who post often are noticed more I don't necessarily think that means popular though, I just recognise some names more than others and I guess warm to some people more than others because there's a hint of their personality, it also works the other way and I go off people too, so swings and roundabouts.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TL/DR: who are the central clique?

No Dan. No. No clique chat. The thread will be removed and people will post bitchy comments and I don't want that. "

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are definitely popular people on the forums, I won't name them, probably because I'm not allowed, right??

Do I think I'm popular? No, my inbox (when I don't have filters alright!) Confirms this.

I forget the other questions. But I'm guessing one Is what makes you popular?

Women - get your boobs out, use the emoji a lot and be very descriptive in what you like sexually.

Men - be hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh that wasn't a question.

Am I put off? I try and avoid forum people just because of the inevitable drama anyway.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think there’ll be people you remember for certain reasons - they make you smile, laugh, think, eye-roll or their pics stand out.

You could be all off them too…so could be popular for good and bad reasons

K

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I usually feel like more people want my attention than I want the attention of. Is that being popular?

I feel like I'm generally okay in terms of people not immediately disregarding my existence. It's rare for me to approach someone I'm interested in and get an instant knock back.

I do assume it's primarily based on looks for me. My attitude and personality are pretty abrasive, I'm pretty sure if I was less fortunate genetically I'd be a lot less popular. Or I'd have learned to curb my tongue a bit more at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just me popularity doesn’t bother me I don’t strive to be popular I don’t care if others are popular I am just me at the end off the day

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Yes, I think there are popular people on the forum, and they are pretty easy to spot. Generally they are warm, welcoming, and witty. Does this mean they are universally loved, or do they get lots of meets, or rated high in hot pics? No, not necessarily. It just means that when they post something here, they inspire others to respond positively.

Are we popular? It doesn’t feel like we are, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meli. This is so chaotic of you and I’m here for it.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Yes there are, obviously. The people everyone can't wait to reply to. That play it cool but look like sex on stick.

Pretty much what Raven said. They don't have to do much to get the status! Me, I love them. More popular the better you are obviously.

(That last line was a joke people put down those pitchforks)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is popular the same as fawned over, no matter how bananas you seem? Then Yes, there is. I bet most of the hotpics are the popular people too. If you can clock a thousand or so fabs to your pics in an afternoon that has to class as popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not popular. Probably well known. That’s not necessarily well liked.

But it’s all part of the fun of this place.

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

No idea

Specs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"TL/DR: who are the central clique?

No Dan. No. No clique chat. The thread will be removed and people will post bitchy comments and I don't want that.

xx "
Interesting OP, depends on the context I’d imagine - forum multiple thread starters or thread commenters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she’s popular then she’s more attractive. Just like how secondary school popularity politics worked.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Yes there are. There always are "popular" people.

For the most part most of us will be considered "popular" to those that like us

Some won't think they are but they are.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I think as someone above said, there are frequent 'posters' who become familiar and then are deemed more popular. But i don't think this actually makes them more popular. They just become more recognised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is popular the same as fawned over, no matter how bananas you seem? Then Yes, there is. I bet most of the hotpics are the popular people too. If you can clock a thousand or so fabs to your pics in an afternoon that has to class as popular. "

I’ve fabbed your pics a thousand times. Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is popular the same as fawned over, no matter how bananas you seem? Then Yes, there is. I bet most of the hotpics are the popular people too. If you can clock a thousand or so fabs to your pics in an afternoon that has to class as popular.

I’ve fabbed your pics a thousand times. Does that count?"

I'll take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I'm disliked. Got banned yesterday

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

There are definitely popular people on the forums, mostly from what I can see for good reason - they're fun(ny) or friendly or put obvious effort and thought into what they write.

I'm not forum popular and doubt I ever will be, but that's not helped by having foolishly deleted my profile so I'm like a newbie to people (not that I was forum popular on my old profile either!).

I don't personally care if someone's forum popular or not, but if I like what someone writes on here they're more likely to interest me as a person, so it's more likely I'll want to chat with them and maybe meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general? "

Yes


"Would you say you're "popular"? "
I’ve no idea, it’s difficult to gauge people lately, it seems like there’s lots of guards up.


"Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?"
Sometimes, it’s feels intimidating to try and interact with some, the fear of being ignored because you’re not “in” that crowd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can think of nothing worse than being considered “popular” on an internet forum.

This is isn’t any offence at those who may enjoy that kind of thing. But for me I want my life to exist out in the real world. This forum thing is just a time killer - I don’t even notice who’s posted what most of the time.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'd say yes, there are popular people on the forums and likely on fab in general. There are also people who are more desired or desired by more people than others, and they're not necessarily the same people.

I wouldn't say I'm popular. I'm liked by some. And not desired by many.

I'm not put off by the popularity I perceive that people have. But then that could be mainly due to not looking for sex, just friends.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I wouldn't say I am but I think there are definitely some people that are more popular in the forums as with everywhere in life.

I wouldn't say it puts me off meeting them but it can be quite intimidating in a sense putting yourself out there to someone you know has half of Fab chasing them. It can make you feel quite vulnerable so I maybe don't go out of my way to flirt (mainly because I don't know how to) but would be happy chatting with anyone

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"TL/DR: who are the central clique?

No Dan. No. No clique chat. The thread will be removed and people will post bitchy comments and I don't want that.

And I thought this was gonna be a fun thread "

Sorry hun, really fucked this up for you, huh?

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Meli. This is so chaotic of you and I’m here for it.

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lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have I gone back in time 15 years to being in high school all the popular/clique talk

There are people/names that are more familiar definitely, because that’s what happens when you post and comment regularly. And that happens in every corner of the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any space has its popular people, whether that's because they are the most active or they get a lot of attention naturally

I'm still new here and quite awkward so I can't imagine myself becoming 'popular.' And that's fine :D

A person's popularity wouldn't put me off really. But maybe it would make me more anxious about approaching them

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

"
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What is the musical? pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A shark would out swim me, I could probably outrun the shark. So the triathlon comes down to the cycling.

Forum popularity is a bit like that. Probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

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What is the musical? pt"

The title

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yes there are popular people.

No I am not popular.

I like that 'perceived popularity'. It would depend how I found them on an individual level. If they wanted to get to know me great.

If it's a bit you know errrrm I'm not very good at the subtle stuff it goes over my head. I'm a simple working class boy. I'll do my best...

If they are so concerned about popularity that it becomes a barrier to intimacy in some form or other, it will likely put me off.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Course there are.

In any social setting there are social butterflies and wallflowers.

I am and forever will be, a wallflower.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Don't know, don't care, it wouldn't be a decision in meeting them.

I think people who post often are noticed more I don't necessarily think that means popular though, I just recognise some names more than others and I guess warm to some people more than others because there's a hint of their personality, it also works the other way and I go off people too, so swings and roundabouts.

Mrs "

Yeah, that's understandable. A hint of personality could make you think "oh fuck no, please no" and also make you think "maybe they're not too bad".

Recognised is how I see it. Not popular. I was curious and chaotic when I started the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I gone back in time 15 years to being in high school all the popular/clique talk

There are people/names that are more familiar definitely, because that’s what happens when you post and comment regularly. And that happens in every corner of the internet"

You were in secondary school more recently than that pal

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

"

Nobody even notices I'm here!

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By *azrich87Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

Definitely see a lot of the same profiles in forums or feeds. Just seem to be blokes surrounding me and no women. Maybe just more women/ couple accounts get more reply’s in them

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"There are definitely popular people on the forums, I won't name them, probably because I'm not allowed, right?? "

Yep. You're not.


"Do I think I'm popular? No, my inbox (when I don't have filters alright!) Confirms this. "

Yay! Someone answered this. Brilliant. I think perception is such a subjective thing isn't it? We don't really know how much attention others receive etc.


"I forget the other questions. But I'm guessing one Is what makes you popular?

Women - get your boobs out, use the emoji a lot and be very descriptive in what you like sexually.

Men - be hot.

"

I describe what I like sexually. I don't use the oft. Oh God. Am I a pick me girl? Gutted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I gone back in time 15 years to being in high school all the popular/clique talk

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It tends to get more like this every autumn/winter, blame the cooler weather

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A shark would out swim me, I could probably outrun the shark. So the triathlon comes down to the cycling.

Forum popularity is a bit like that. Probably. "

I'm the shark that can cycle, baby.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Meli. This is so chaotic of you and I’m here for it. "

I couldn't resist. I've been banned from replying to what I want to and been called a little shit (in a loving way) so this is mild chaos from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I gone back in time 15 years to being in high school all the popular/clique talk

There are people/names that are more familiar definitely, because that’s what happens when you post and comment regularly. And that happens in every corner of the internet

You were in secondary school more recently than that pal"

I started secondary school 17 years ago actually pickle

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

"

Yes there's cliques & Popular persons -

I'll never be in the clique or popular -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I think most the 'popular' people appoint theirselves as that. Then the mass people who desire to be popular follow that and fawn over said person to achieve status. Some interactions you see you just know wouldn't happen in real life, so their declarations of lust/love must be for their own personal gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I gone back in time 15 years to being in high school all the popular/clique talk

There are people/names that are more familiar definitely, because that’s what happens when you post and comment regularly. And that happens in every corner of the internet

You were in secondary school more recently than that pal

I started secondary school 17 years ago actually pickle "
Omg that’s scary. There’s only2 years between us what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A shark would out swim me, I could probably outrun the shark. So the triathlon comes down to the cycling.

Forum popularity is a bit like that. Probably. "

I like the way you say that you could "probably" outrun the shark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I think most the 'popular' people appoint theirselves as that. Then the mass people who desire to be popular follow that and fawn over said person to achieve status. Some interactions you see you just know wouldn't happen in real life, so their declarations of lust/love must be for their own personal gain. "
This!

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We’re very popular.

It’s because we’re by far and away the greatest ever forum couple in history.

I’d say it comes down to us both being extremely beautiful and of course… my beautiful penis.

Hope this helps your thought provoking research based thread.

Best regards from the ivory tower

Sam

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

.

What is the musical? pt

The title

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Got you, it's coming up as a refrain sung through Wicked. pt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

"

I think there's people whom are familiar with one another from general interactions etc on the fora, I couldn't care one way or the other if people like/dislike us/me, give me time and I'll flirt with anyone, I'm a natural flirt and I'm slowly learning how to do it online, as for someone's perceived popularity on the fora once again couldn't give a flying

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Don't know, don't care, it wouldn't be a decision in meeting them.

I think people who post often are noticed more I don't necessarily think that means popular though, I just recognise some names more than others and I guess warm to some people more than others because there's a hint of their personality, it also works the other way and I go off people too, so swings and roundabouts.

Mrs

Yeah, that's understandable. A hint of personality could make you think "oh fuck no, please no" and also make you think "maybe they're not too bad".

Recognised is how I see it. Not popular. I was curious and chaotic when I started the thread. "

Yes recognised is a very good word for it.

Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Some people confuse popularity with productivity.

Perceived popularity is actually a thing and I've chatted to people over the years who are only attracted to popular fabbers because a little of their light will shine on them and they feel more protected because of that.

They refuse to engage with anyone who isn't perceived as popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

.

What is the musical? pt

The title

Got you, it's coming up as a refrain sung through Wicked. pt"

Elphaba will know

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Of course I’m popular

All men want to be me.

The mr

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus


"On Fab in general?

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It’s always in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

I think there's people whom are familiar with one another from general interactions etc on the fora, I couldn't care one way or the other if people like/dislike us/me, give me time and I'll flirt with anyone, I'm a natural flirt and I'm slowly learning how to do it online, as for someone's perceived popularity on the fora once again couldn't give a flying "

Hello mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate to say the word popular but I do think I'm well liked by others on here based on the interactions I've had.

I'm not put off by someone's popularity though but can see why they can be intimidating to chat to for a newbie if they have a constant forum presence although I can be put off them if their perceived popularity and chats derail a thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people confuse popularity with productivity.

Perceived popularity is actually a thing and I've chatted to people over the years who are only attracted to popular fabbers because a little of their light will shine on them and they feel more protected because of that.

They refuse to engage with anyone who isn't perceived as popular.

"
Ooft that reality truly does bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A shark would out swim me, I could probably outrun the shark. So the triathlon comes down to the cycling.

Forum popularity is a bit like that. Probably.

I like the way you say that you could "probably" outrun the shark "

Tbh even turbo sashay isn’t technically running …

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think there’ll be people you remember for certain reasons - they make you smile, laugh, think, eye-roll or their pics stand out.

You could be all off them too…so could be popular for good and bad reasons

K"

Known for good or bad reasons. Yes. Definitely. We're quick to look for the negatives aren't we? You only have to look at this thread, some of the replies. Sometimes people are known/remembered for good reasons.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

A relatively new forum members view;

Do I think there are popular members in the forum? I think there are people who have been here for quite some time and have built quite strong forum friendships/ some of which carry over into the real world . The interactions between these people are different as I would expect.

Am I put off interacting with these people, absolutely not. I may not have the shared history or be aware of the “in jokes” but my experience of them has been exclusively positive.

Do I think I’m popular. No but I do feel welcome and not excluded. Sometimes I do put my foot in my mouth and despite that any rebukes I have been given has been quite gentle.

I’m learning which subject and threads to avoid, or at least just grab the popcorn and watch. I’m also learning who I can be a bit cheekier with and who i shouldn’t.

I don’t like drama, don’t seek it and try to avoid it wherever possible. I aim to be polite and respectful in all elements of life so if you feel I’ve not been , then absolutely call me out on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A shark would out swim me, I could probably outrun the shark. So the triathlon comes down to the cycling.

Forum popularity is a bit like that. Probably.

I'm the shark that can cycle, baby."

* draws eyebrows on a bit higher to amplify impressed/astonished expression

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

I notice banter between certain regular posters, usually quite funny and just presumed they interact with each other a lot and the humour is in tune. Hadn’t thought about it as being a popularity contest before. Now I’m wondering if I’m wearing the right shoes.

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By *azrich87Man
over a year ago

kings lynn


"I hate to say the word popular but I do think I'm well liked by others on here based on the interactions I've had.

I'm not put off by someone's popularity though but can see why they can be intimidating to chat to for a newbie if they have a constant forum presence although I can be put off them if their perceived popularity and chats derail a thread"

I think a lot of the time it’s hard for any bloke to get any popularity as couples/women do get harassed a lot by the same emails saying “let’s fuck.” So anyone that want to chat and build a relationship in some way just gets the cold shoulder

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

.

What is the musical? pt

The title

Got you, it's coming up as a refrain sung through Wicked. pt

Elphaba will know"

Wicked thanks I'll ask her too pt

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

Nobody even notices I'm here!"

Sometimes that's good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate to say the word popular but I do think I'm well liked by others on here based on the interactions I've had.

I'm not put off by someone's popularity though but can see why they can be intimidating to chat to for a newbie if they have a constant forum presence although I can be put off them if their perceived popularity and chats derail a thread

I think a lot of the time it’s hard for any bloke to get any popularity as couples/women do get harassed a lot by the same emails saying “let’s fuck.” So anyone that want to chat and build a relationship in some way just gets the cold shoulder"

Wait, we do?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate to say the word popular but I do think I'm well liked by others on here based on the interactions I've had.

I'm not put off by someone's popularity though but can see why they can be intimidating to chat to for a newbie if they have a constant forum presence although I can be put off them if their perceived popularity and chats derail a thread

I think a lot of the time it’s hard for any bloke to get any popularity as couples/women do get harassed a lot by the same emails saying “let’s fuck.” So anyone that want to chat and build a relationship in some way just gets the cold shoulder"

I used to think the same, but I think the forums are a great way to show off your personality and found women and couples will message you first if you come across well. It's al about attitude really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game "

Decided not to play did you?

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By *annabarberaCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

We have no idea if we're popular or not

We just like to enjoy ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game "

It's all about the game. And you play it

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By *ambertMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

"

I think there is, it's unavoidable I think with any sort of social grouping.

I don't think I am, nor would I have any reason to be, I don't interact enough I don't think.

It doesn't bother me really, I like to observe sometimes

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders


"I hate to say the word popular but I do think I'm well liked by others on here based on the interactions I've had.

I'm not put off by someone's popularity though but can see why they can be intimidating to chat to for a newbie if they have a constant forum presence although I can be put off them if their perceived popularity and chats derail a thread"

That makes the 'popularti' sound like omnipotent beings....

Remember people, everyone's shit still stinks no matter who that person perceives themselves to be

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By *azrich87Man
over a year ago

kings lynn


"I hate to say the word popular but I do think I'm well liked by others on here based on the interactions I've had.

I'm not put off by someone's popularity though but can see why they can be intimidating to chat to for a newbie if they have a constant forum presence although I can be put off them if their perceived popularity and chats derail a thread

I think a lot of the time it’s hard for any bloke to get any popularity as couples/women do get harassed a lot by the same emails saying “let’s fuck.” So anyone that want to chat and build a relationship in some way just gets the cold shoulder

I used to think the same, but I think the forums are a great way to show off your personality and found women and couples will message you first if you come across well. It's al about attitude really "

I do forums and have had interactions with other but I’m just saying that for a lot of guys I think that’s the case. All I get is loads of messages off blokes asking to meet even though that’s not what my profile says I’m after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game "

I’ve had a lot more meets over the years and my many Fab incarnations by talking about cake than talking about sex. It works!

But sshh, don’t spill the secret into the ladies pants! …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game

I’ve had a lot more meets over the years and my many Fab incarnations by talking about cake than talking about sex. It works!

But sshh, don’t spill the secret into the ladies pants! … "

In fact don’t spill ANYTHING into the ladies pants! Glove up, Fabsters

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"TL/DR: who are the central clique?

No Dan. No. No clique chat. The thread will be removed and people will post bitchy comments and I don't want that.

xx Interesting OP, depends on the context I’d imagine - forum multiple thread starters or thread commenters?"

I've deliberately left it open to interpretation. Bar not wanting bitchiness, it's interesting reading the various views. How people perceive it. I'm not taking this too seriously.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm going to have too give it a by as my world beyond fab is fablollipoptastic this is just a small portion

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"A shark would out swim me, I could probably outrun the shark. So the triathlon comes down to the cycling. Forum popularity is a bit like that. Probably. "

This made me genuinely laugh out loud. Thank you Doll.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas


"I notice banter between certain regular posters, usually quite funny and just presumed they interact with each other a lot and the humour is in tune. Hadn’t thought about it as being a popularity contest before. Now I’m wondering if I’m wearing the right shoes. "

This is all the vast majority of it is. Others will choose to see what they want.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

Unpopular.. i imagine i come across as one of those people that you can't quite put your finger on.

Some dislike me because I have an average word count of 'too fucking long.'

Others admire things i have to say but keep their distance for fear of burning in social hellfire

Its only when people get to know me and my intentions and such become clear that people can't stay away.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Wait now I wanna know if I'm playing the game!

Cause if I am let me tell you, I'm crap at this game! I wanna play another one!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"If she’s popular then she’s more attractive. Just like how secondary school popularity politics worked. "

Ah. So when someone pulls my pigtails an awful fucking lot they fancy me? Got it.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

If I were to care about being popular on the chat rooms in here, then I would need to give my priorities a bit of a shake up

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Why are people so scared of admitting they’re popular???

Popularity can be many different things…

People that everyone fancies

People that flirt brilliantly

People that are just hilarious

People that just come across kind or wise

And people who have been around a long time that simply know a lot of people through actual face to face events.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Cheers, another bloody ear worm

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"If she’s popular then she’s more attractive. Just like how secondary school popularity politics worked.

Ah. So when someone pulls my pigtails an awful fucking lot they fancy me? Got it. "

In your fucking dreams frizz!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hitler had millions of followers, Jesus had 12. (Maybe millions was a slight over exaggeration). But you get the jist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game

I’ve had a lot more meets over the years and my many Fab incarnations by talking about cake than talking about sex. It works!

But sshh, don’t spill the secret into the ladies pants! … "

I knew you didn’t really like cake that much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she’s popular then she’s more attractive. Just like how secondary school popularity politics worked.

Ah. So when someone pulls my pigtails an awful fucking lot they fancy me? Got it. "

I’d Fuck you. Yes.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

"

1. Yes I do think there are popular people on the forums - some because of how they look, some because of how they come across and some women and I DO mean women because they talk dirty and speak as if they will give it to anyone who asks, some people because they are funny or intelligent or kind or a combination of nice things.

2. Yes I do think there are people who are popular on FAB in general. Much the same reasons as above but if they don't use the forums they are popular because they have great integrity and values which they tend to live by AND they are sex on a stick and hold great parties or do what it says on the tin.

3. No. I would not say I was popular. Not in general but with specific people for specific reasons.

4. Put off what ? In the absence of info - i'm saying no. Though sycophancy dampens what I feel about the sycophants no the popular person.

5. I don't give a toss.... If they wanted to meet me and I wanted to meet them i'd meet them EVEN if they were not popular or EVEN if they were very unpopular. It's what I think that matters.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Someone called me a forum legend once.

That made me feel old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Make sure to keep your hair spotless and clean. Wash it at least every two weeks. Once, every two weeks. And if you see Johnny football hero in the hall, tell him he played a great game. Tell him you liked his article in the newspaper!

.


"There are people/names that are more familiar definitely, because that’s what happens when you post and comment regularly. And that happens in every corner of the internet"

Demi gets it. This is Internet gospel. Popular? Nah mate, it’s just that you’ve too much posting time on your hands. Your visible is what you are. A known face. That’s not the same as popularity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hitler had millions of followers, Jesus had 12. (Maybe millions was a slight over exaggeration). But you get the jist. "

Bad boys are more fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone called me a forum legend once.

That made me feel old."

Finally, a forum legend has commented.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

No, some just seem to post continuously on a thread

Would you say you're "popular"?

No

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

Don't really bother with people off the forums in RL so couldn't give a fuck.

*it's a musical thing.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? "

Yes, but not necessarily the ones who think they are.


"On Fab in general? "

Clearly there are if you go for hot pics or look at veris, but those ones are not necessarily my type.


"Would you say you're "popular"? "

No


"Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? "

No


"Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

Flirting? Meeting? Pissing around in the forum maybe. It's all done in the best possible taste (as Kenny Everett used to say)

"

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Hitler had millions of followers, Jesus had 12. (Maybe millions was a slight over exaggeration). But you get the jist.

Bad boys are more fun?"

Made up people aren’t all that popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hitler had millions of followers, Jesus had 12. (Maybe millions was a slight over exaggeration). But you get the jist. "
it isn’t an exaggeration at all. He literally did.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Hitler had millions of followers, Jesus had 12. (Maybe millions was a slight over exaggeration). But you get the jist. "

You brought Hitler in to it?

Thank you.

This is the level I was hoping for.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Someone called me a forum legend once.

That made me feel old.

Finally, a forum legend has commented. "

Ooooh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone called me a forum legend once.

That made me feel old.

Finally, a forum legend has commented.

Ooooh! "

Did I lie though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad boys are more fun what a load of shit been watching too many gangster films

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Hitler had millions of followers, Jesus had 12. (Maybe millions was a slight over exaggeration). But you get the jist.

Bad boys are more fun?

Made up people aren’t all that popular."

Honest to God! Hitler was real.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Someone called me a forum legend once.

That made me feel old.

Finally, a forum legend has commented.

Ooooh!

Did I lie though"

She’s not quite granny crumpet yet but yes, i would agree.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"We’re very popular.

It’s because we’re by far and away the greatest ever forum couple in history.

I’d say it comes down to us both being extremely beautiful and of course… my beautiful penis.

Hope this helps your thought provoking research based thread.

Best regards from the ivory tower

Sam

"

Wuv you babycakes, thanks for stepping in even when you're drowning in clunge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bad boys are more fun what a load of shit been watching too many gangster films "

Horror actually.

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By *ames_HertsMan
over a year ago

North Hertfordshire

I'm not popular at all, I just sit at the side watching the cool kids have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m new to fab so not sure who the popular people are. I try and take people as I find them but hierarchy usually finds it’s way into most social structures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The popular ones think they have control but in fact are being controlled

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Famous or infamous?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I wouldn't say I am but I think there are definitely some people that are more popular in the forums as with everywhere in life.

I wouldn't say it puts me off meeting them but it can be quite intimidating in a sense putting yourself out there to someone you know has half of Fab chasing them. It can make you feel quite vulnerable so I maybe don't go out of my way to flirt (mainly because I don't know how to) but would be happy chatting with anyone "

Ahhhh this is interesting. Hi Cede. Good to read you. Hope you've recovered from this weekend's antics.

Yes, I can understand that. I feel like the latter part is another thread entirely - the half of Fab chasing after them part. Even then, I wouldn't describe those people as popular? Anyway, thanks for the inspiration.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Bad boys are more fun what a load of shit been watching too many gangster films "

Did you mean to reply to a different thread with this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad boys in horror? SCREAM LOL

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Why are people so scared of admitting they’re popular???

Popularity can be many different things…

People that everyone fancies

People that flirt brilliantly

People that are just hilarious

People that just come across kind or wise

And people who have been around a long time that simply know a lot of people through actual face to face events.

"

Because if people admit they're popular they're worried that it'll be taken as a bad thing... and people will talk badly about them.

I used to be popular, and it was fun while I enjoyed it.

Ooh. And you forgot popular because they're elusive and stand-offish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The popular ones think they have control but in fact are being controlled "

Lozza Fox burner fab account

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

Yes.

Yes.

No, although I'm not sure why there are double quotes around popular in this question. Do you think popularity is an illusion? If so, why? (Your threads should include an author's answers section! )

I don't have a succinct answer to this question, so I'll just dump what I'm thinking lol. Firstly, no, I'm not put off by it, especially if it's about meeting. That would mean blaming them for being popular which doesn't make sense to me - it is not a character trait. However, somewhat related, I have to be realistic when flirting with someone popular - they may just not have the time to respond (or even react) if they have a big circle of friends already, or if their inbox is inundated with hundreds (or thousands!) of messages vying for their attention. I can try, but if my advances fail, I need to know when to cut my losses so to speak.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Firstly thanks for the earworm.

I’m popular with people who like me. I’m unpopular with those that dislike me. I imagine a few people who are neutral in their feelings recognise me as I’m here far too bloody often.

I would hope I’m not unpopular though, I try to be kind for the most part.

And there are definitely a few characters on here that are popular. That get a lot of to their comments & threads.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas


"Bad boys in horror? SCREAM LOL"

Why so serious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply to a statement made?

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Definitely not popular. But I can see how some people are. I'm just not gregarious enough.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah of course there are popular people on here. You can see who gets the most messages on my mate fancies or the postal service threads on the forum.

In general the hotphotos hotties must be popular to gain all those fabs on their photos.

Nope I'm not popular, I'm an acquired taste and I'm more than happy with that. It served me well the majority of my life.

I don't think someone's online perceived online popularity bothers me much. Though I can see how it can cause drama with jealousy etc on here. But I guess that's the same for life in general as well.

I tend to think popularity as being quite a fickle thing. So it's not something I tend to put a great amount of value on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why so presuming

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Have I gone back in time 15 years to being in high school all the popular/clique talk

There are people/names that are more familiar definitely, because that’s what happens when you post and comment regularly. And that happens in every corner of the internet"

I don't think so - it's more a discussion off the back of another. Lots of behaviour carries on through out life - I could draw parallels to various things that happened in high school but plays out in here but I'm behaving myself.

That aside, familiar is a good way of describing it. People are more familiar. Known.

I think Saff has a valid point further down the thread so will probably comment on that soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hitler had millions of followers, Jesus had 12. (Maybe millions was a slight over exaggeration). But you get the jist.

Bad boys are more fun?

Made up people aren’t all that popular.

Honest to God! Hitler was real. "
was he really though gran?!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Why so presuming "

If you're answering a post, use the reply+quote button so people know who you're talking to... makes it easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’d say there are popular users but not a big deal, some people are just known more

Me myself I tend to stay away from them type of people on and off fabs, I prefer the quieter bunch but that’s my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attention seeker?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"No reply to a statement made?"

Oh right. I see it. I'd not even registered the original reference to bad boys as it appeared to be an obviously flippant statement.

The reply and quote button makes context a lot clearer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attention seeker?"
Nothing wrong with that - especially on a site that’s all about attention

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

If popularity means a facade then it puts me off. If you are popular because you are just the kind of person that people enjoy.. it doesn't put me off.

If popularity means a facade you wear im not interested. If you can be popular whilst maintaining authenticity to yourself then its attractive. Dont see many of these though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attention seeker?Nothing wrong with that - especially on a site that’s all about attention "
totally agree gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah of course there are popular people on here. You can see who gets the most messages on my mate fancies or the postal service threads on the forum.

"

other than a select god-like tier of gym-fit ripped men then any fella on those threads can pretty much expect to be blanked as par for the course. It’s part of life on Fab.

But it’s the non-popular females on those threads that I feel for: unlike those “would you fuck the user above” threads (where the ladies inevitably always get a ‘yes’ as standard) there’s a lot missed out and only a dozen or so keep getting mentioned.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Look at who's comments are getting the most replies.

Popularity.

Science.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah of course there are popular people on here. You can see who gets the most messages on my mate fancies or the postal service threads on the forum.

other than a select god-like tier of gym-fit ripped men then any fella on those threads can pretty much expect to be blanked as par for the course. It’s part of life on Fab.

But it’s the non-popular females on those threads that I feel for: unlike those “would you fuck the user above” threads (where the ladies inevitably always get a ‘yes’ as standard) there’s a lot missed out and only a dozen or so keep getting mentioned. "

* unless it’s one of those threads where the delightful admin makes sure that *everybody* gets a mention at least once, the lovely kind hearted souls #TheyKnowWhoTheyArw

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yeah of course there are popular people on here. You can see who gets the most messages on my mate fancies or the postal service threads on the forum.

other than a select god-like tier of gym-fit ripped men then any fella on those threads can pretty much expect to be blanked as par for the course. It’s part of life on Fab.

But it’s the non-popular females on those threads that I feel for: unlike those “would you fuck the user above” threads (where the ladies inevitably always get a ‘yes’ as standard) there’s a lot missed out and only a dozen or so keep getting mentioned.

* unless it’s one of those threads where the delightful admin makes sure that *everybody* gets a mention at least once, the lovely kind hearted souls #TheyKnowWhoTheyArw "

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

"

No popular people, just those who have more time than others to post on here. They may get a bit more attention as a result of what they post be in funny, thoughtful, disdainful or sarcastic. Or if they don't chat offline or through the messages this is a way to communicate with people.

I would not say I am popular, to be fair I don't think most know my profile or particularly care that I'm here. Like myself they maybe here to see what is on the forum and what is being talked about and the comedy you find in here. Im not bothered about who said what, just what was said.

I don't care about someone's 'popularity' or if they look traditionally 'sexy', if I find them funny, they are nice and upfront and I find them attractive then I'll get the flutters and be happy to talk to them.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley


"Look at who's comments are getting the most replies.

Popularity.

Science."

Don’t be bringing that logic stuff in here Brucey, it will never catch on

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game

"

.

In fairness I haven't seen the cake threads for a while. I do agree that sometimes they have been a bit much in the past (ie the amount of them you might see concurrently ).. but things often come and go in waves on Fab I've noticed. And people have their raisons of course. Their habits to declair.

I just think that different people will find different people popular. The thing about cake threads is they are the kind of threads that people make loads of short and silly posts too. They are full of winking smilies too - the stuff of popularity. Not every thread in the Lounge is like that though obviously.

I think there is quite a variety of people here if you look past the posters who get replied to more often than most - and 'Social' comments aside, this is mainly what this Q is all about it seems to me, being replied to more often on a forum that doesn't really lend itself to acknowledging people.

But statistically that has to happen. As will there being a number of people who do want some popularity (or maybe just to be read and/or noticed perhaps) and those who really couldn't care too much.

Because there are so many different people here (and people can always use PM too) the rest of this issue imo is just about the usual complaints of clique posturing and virtue signalling (eg white knighting) both of which are down to perception a lot of the time.

pt

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Someone called me a forum legend once.

That made me feel old.

Finally, a forum legend has commented. "

It's my duty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

I think there's people whom are familiar with one another from general interactions etc on the fora, I couldn't care one way or the other if people like/dislike us/me, give me time and I'll flirt with anyone, I'm a natural flirt and I'm slowly learning how to do it online, as for someone's perceived popularity on the fora once again couldn't give a flying

Hello mr "

Don't flirt with my husband. Pickle.

F

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Yeah of course there are popular people on here. You can see who gets the most messages on my mate fancies or the postal service threads on the forum.

other than a select god-like tier of gym-fit ripped men then any fella on those threads can pretty much expect to be blanked as par for the course. It’s part of life on Fab.

But it’s the non-popular females on those threads that I feel for: unlike those “would you fuck the user above” threads (where the ladies inevitably always get a ‘yes’ as standard) there’s a lot missed out and only a dozen or so keep getting mentioned. "

I do think that's crap. It's why when I join in the secret service thread I'll send in for those who people aren't. Not out of pity, no. It's because I notice people. Remember stupid little details thanks to the neurodiversity.

On those threads though... I've found a lot of people join. And then do fuck all. Wait for people to sing their praises and yet don't say positive things about others. Aren't interested in doing that. Just what they'll receive. That's. So. Boring.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game

.

In fairness I haven't seen the cake threads for a while. I do agree that sometimes they have been a bit much in the past (ie the amount of them you might see concurrently ).. but things often come and go in waves on Fab I've noticed. And people have their raisons of course. Their habits to declair.

I just think that different people will find different people popular. The thing about cake threads is they are the kind of threads that people make loads of short and silly posts too. They are full of winking smilies too - the stuff of popularity. Not every thread in the Lounge is like that though obviously.

I think there is quite a variety of people here if you look past the posters who get replied to more often than most - and 'Social' comments aside, this is mainly what this Q is all about it seems to me, being replied to more often on a forum that doesn't really lend itself to acknowledging people.

But statistically that has to happen. As will there being a number of people who do want some popularity (or maybe just to be read and/or noticed perhaps) and those who really couldn't care too much.

Because there are so many different people here (and people can always use PM too) the rest of this issue imo is just about the usual complaints of clique posturing and virtue signalling (eg white knighting) both of which are down to perception a lot of the time.

pt"

I will work harder to ensure there are more cake threads, I have let you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say I'm popular. But I would say I attract a certain crowd. The crass, dirty minded, sarcastic people no doubt. Some people can be nasty sarcastic though and I like to stay away from those sorts.

F

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game

.

In fairness I haven't seen the cake threads for a while. I do agree that sometimes they have been a bit much in the past (ie the amount of them you might see concurrently ).. but things often come and go in waves on Fab I've noticed. And people have their raisons of course. Their habits to declair.

I just think that different people will find different people popular. The thing about cake threads is they are the kind of threads that people make loads of short and silly posts too. They are full of winking smilies too - the stuff of popularity. Not every thread in the Lounge is like that though obviously.

I think there is quite a variety of people here if you look past the posters who get replied to more often than most - and 'Social' comments aside, this is mainly what this Q is all about it seems to me, being replied to more often on a forum that doesn't really lend itself to acknowledging people.

But statistically that has to happen. As will there being a number of people who do want some popularity (or maybe just to be read and/or noticed perhaps) and those who really couldn't care too much.

Because there are so many different people here (and people can always use PM too) the rest of this issue imo is just about the usual complaints of clique posturing and virtue signalling (eg white knighting) both of which are down to perception a lot of the time.

pt

I will work harder to ensure there are more cake threads, I have let you down."

More chocolate brownies please

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Absolutely not

Popularity on the forums is just a combination of being here a long time and the willingness to spam the same old cake jokes over and over again and find it enjoyable

There’s definitely a method to gaining popularity on here that someone could follow. You see a few guys following the script. Play the game

.

In fairness I haven't seen the cake threads for a while. I do agree that sometimes they have been a bit much in the past (ie the amount of them you might see concurrently ).. but things often come and go in waves on Fab I've noticed. And people have their raisons of course. Their habits to declair.

I just think that different people will find different people popular. The thing about cake threads is they are the kind of threads that people make loads of short and silly posts too. They are full of winking smilies too - the stuff of popularity. Not every thread in the Lounge is like that though obviously.

I think there is quite a variety of people here if you look past the posters who get replied to more often than most - and 'Social' comments aside, this is mainly what this Q is all about it seems to me, being replied to more often on a forum that doesn't really lend itself to acknowledging people.

But statistically that has to happen. As will there being a number of people who do want some popularity (or maybe just to be read and/or noticed perhaps) and those who really couldn't care too much.

Because there are so many different people here (and people can always use PM too) the rest of this issue imo is just about the usual complaints of clique posturing and virtue signalling (eg white knighting) both of which are down to perception a lot of the time.

pt"

I'm waiting until nearer Christmas to do a mince pie thread

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I wouldn't say I'm popular. But I would say I attract a certain crowd. The crass, dirty minded, sarcastic people no doubt. Some people can be nasty sarcastic though and I like to stay away from those sorts.

F"

I like you.

How's the diet going?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say I'm popular. But I would say I attract a certain crowd. The crass, dirty minded, sarcastic people no doubt. Some people can be nasty sarcastic though and I like to stay away from those sorts.

F"

Thanks for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think there are popular people on the forums? On Fab in general?

Would you say you're "popular"?

Are you put off by a person's perceived popularity? Whether it's flirting with them or meeting them, is that a big no go for you or do you not give a fuck?

*it's a musical thing.

I think there's people whom are familiar with one another from general interactions etc on the fora, I couldn't care one way or the other if people like/dislike us/me, give me time and I'll flirt with anyone, I'm a natural flirt and I'm slowly learning how to do it online, as for someone's perceived popularity on the fora once again couldn't give a flying

Hello mr

Don't flirt with my husband. Pickle.

F"

Y u mad?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

.


"Firstly thanks for the earworm.

I’m popular with people who like me. I’m unpopular with those that dislike me. I imagine a few people who are neutral in their feelings recognise me as I’m here far too bloody often.

I would hope I’m not unpopular though, I try to be kind for the most part.

And there are definitely a few characters on here that are popular. That get a lot of to their comments & threads. "

You're very welcome! I was reading a thread earlier and it came to mind. Thought I'd share it with those who'd get it.

The is the flirty familiar posters isn't it? Because they know they'll get a flirt back or whatever.

I think most people have a bordering on neutral perception of others. Unless you type an awful lot. In an awful lot of threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say I'm popular. But I would say I attract a certain crowd. The crass, dirty minded, sarcastic people no doubt. Some people can be nasty sarcastic though and I like to stay away from those sorts.

F

I like you.

How's the diet going? "

I've actually lost around 5lbs! I've only been counting my calories and having smaller portions at the moment

F

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I wouldn't say I'm popular. But I would say I attract a certain crowd. The crass, dirty minded, sarcastic people no doubt. Some people can be nasty sarcastic though and I like to stay away from those sorts.

F

I like you.

How's the diet going?

I've actually lost around 5lbs! I've only been counting my calories and having smaller portions at the moment

F"

Well done. New LBD for Christmas, perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say I'm popular. But I would say I attract a certain crowd. The crass, dirty minded, sarcastic people no doubt. Some people can be nasty sarcastic though and I like to stay away from those sorts.

F

I like you.

How's the diet going?

I've actually lost around 5lbs! I've only been counting my calories and having smaller portions at the moment

F

Well done. New LBD for Christmas, perhaps "

Lengthy Black Dick? If you're offering then I guess that would be a lovely Christmas gift. Thank you

F

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve been accused of being popular but it makes me uncomfortable. I’ve had people fanboy over me (really?!) and it really made me wonder about people’s intentions and wants from here.

Just because someone posts a lot, it doesn’t make them a better person than anyone else.

I’ve seen people ‘hold court’ at socials and think they’re better than others based on this popularity. I don’t believe that anyone is better than anyone else. Especially not because they post on an internet forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say I'm popular. But I would say I attract a certain crowd. The crass, dirty minded, sarcastic people no doubt. Some people can be nasty sarcastic though and I like to stay away from those sorts.

F

I like you.

How's the diet going?

I've actually lost around 5lbs! I've only been counting my calories and having smaller portions at the moment

F

Well done. New LBD for Christmas, perhaps

Lengthy Black Dick? If you're offering then I guess that would be a lovely Christmas gift. Thank you

F"

*Taking notes for Christmas present ideas*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was wrong Meli, this thread was fun.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas


"I was wrong Meli, this thread was fun."

^^ she had a wank!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I’ve been accused of being popular but it makes me uncomfortable. I’ve had people fanboy over me (really?!) and it really made me wonder about people’s intentions and wants from here.

Just because someone posts a lot, it doesn’t make them a better person than anyone else.

I’ve seen people ‘hold court’ at socials and think they’re better than others based on this popularity. I don’t believe that anyone is better than anyone else. Especially not because they post on an internet forum "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Firstly thanks for the earworm.

I’m popular with people who like me. I’m unpopular with those that dislike me. I imagine a few people who are neutral in their feelings recognise me as I’m here far too bloody often.

I would hope I’m not unpopular though, I try to be kind for the most part.

And there are definitely a few characters on here that are popular. That get a lot of to their comments & threads.

You're very welcome! I was reading a thread earlier and it came to mind. Thought I'd share it with those who'd get it.

The is the flirty familiar posters isn't it? Because they know they'll get a flirt back or whatever.

I think most people have a bordering on neutral perception of others. Unless you type an awful lot. In an awful lot of threads. "

Ooops…. I type a lot. A real lot

I think as well quite a lot of the are from people that “know” each other. Not necessarily in a sexual sense. You feel safer someone publicly that you know will take it as a joke or light hearted.

It might look like popularity or the lamppost pissing etc - when in actual fact it is just a safety net.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Yeah of course there are popular people on here. You can see who gets the most messages on my mate fancies or the postal service threads on the forum.

other than a select god-like tier of gym-fit ripped men then any fella on those threads can pretty much expect to be blanked as par for the course. It’s part of life on Fab.

But it’s the non-popular females on those threads that I feel for: unlike those “would you fuck the user above” threads (where the ladies inevitably always get a ‘yes’ as standard) there’s a lot missed out and only a dozen or so keep getting mentioned. "

Yep which is why I think those threads have the usual suspects, as they're kinda safe in the knowledge someone will send them one in. I don't agree with pity messages as they can potentially do more damage than good. But I'm in agreement with Meli, if you partake in those threads you need to make an effort. Though I can see why it's intimidating when there's loads of messages for the few.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I was wrong Meli, this thread was fun."

.

hell-ooo I hear you like musicals?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah there’s popular people, wether that’s desirability or them being engaging, funny or all three, then that’s down to personal choice.

Am I popular. I don’t think so I engage and chat to lots on here, do I think it’s clique. From joining as new about 3 years ago I’d say I thought it was hard for a new person on here to be welcomed. But that was just because there so many of you that no each other. But I certainly don’t find it as a clique.

Do I care if I’m popular? Not at all I just hope people don’t think I’m a dick… apart from Raven, she thinks most people are dicks

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Yeah there’s popular people, wether that’s desirability or them being engaging, funny or all three, then that’s down to personal choice.

Am I popular. I don’t think so I engage and chat to lots on here, do I think it’s clique. From joining as new about 3 years ago I’d say I thought it was hard for a new person on here to be welcomed. But that was just because there so many of you that no each other. But I certainly don’t find it as a clique.

Do I care if I’m popular? Not at all I just hope people don’t think I’m a dick… apart from Raven, she thinks most people are dicks

"

Sorry, who is this Raven again? lol

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Why are people so scared of admitting they’re popular???

Popularity can be many different things…

People that everyone fancies

People that flirt brilliantly

People that are just hilarious

People that just come across kind or wise

And people who have been around a long time that simply know a lot of people through actual face to face events.

"

I think it's because of the negative perception of it that's held on the forums. Part of me thinks a small, very small part of it is that very British thing we have of wanting people to be self deprecating. Not wanting people to say actually I'm X and I'm happy with that. So we humble ourselves, allow others to humble us so we're more readily accepted.

I know that I don't see myself as popular. Just a twonk who types a thousand words when one will suffice. But I am quite known on here because I've been around for donkeys and rather than moaning the threads are dull or the forums don't have many topics... I create them. Bring the chaos myself. I don't think I'm universally liked, I know full well I'm not. Those who I like generally don't think I'm an utter twonk and that's good enough for me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Do I think you are a twonk Meli ?

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

It's hard to break in to the chat in forums as a new face, most people have been chatting for ages and newer faces get passed by.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Fin

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Why are people so scared of admitting they’re popular???

Popularity can be many different things…

People that everyone fancies

People that flirt brilliantly

People that are just hilarious

People that just come across kind or wise

And people who have been around a long time that simply know a lot of people through actual face to face events.

I think it's because of the negative perception of it that's held on the forums. Part of me thinks a small, very small part of it is that very British thing we have of wanting people to be self deprecating. Not wanting people to say actually I'm X and I'm happy with that. So we humble ourselves, allow others to humble us so we're more readily accepted.

I know that I don't see myself as popular. Just a twonk who types a thousand words when one will suffice. But I am quite known on here because I've been around for donkeys and rather than moaning the threads are dull or the forums don't have many topics... I create them. Bring the chaos myself. I don't think I'm universally liked, I know full well I'm not. Those who I like generally don't think I'm an utter twonk and that's good enough for me.

"

Same. I know people. Hopefully a percentage of those like me. I’m good with that.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Do I think you are a twonk Meli ?"

Well the thread will close before you're able to reply to this but I'd actually really like to know the answer to that. Is that needy? Maybe.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

This thread was certainly popular. I think you can tell because Granny Crumpet and Bad Nanna have posted next to each other, and statistically-speaking what are the usual chances of that?

I think it's an outrage though that Meli is quoted more than anyone else. And is she Eos or Chaos? I am occasionally confused on that pt

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