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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race.

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By *romleyM41Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

Why would you want a woman to change for you ? Wouldn’t it make more sense to find a woman who is what you are looking for ? That way you know she is like that for HER and not because you’ve asked her to ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

Not all women want a tall man or a massive penis. And if they do it's there preference.

If any man wants something that a women can change as in hair colour or weight, would we change it for a man? No. Well I wouldn't.

Plenty of women get called shallow for having preferences also.

We all like what we like, and some of us sometimes like what we do not think we will.

Confusing creatures us humans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight."

That sounds like controlling behaviour to me and to be avoided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically a woman will go for man that she likes and a man will go for a woman he can change.

Sounds about right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi, op, don’t speak for me.

I only want a woman with a pulse and a desire to glaze my face like a donut. She dont need to change owt for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *romleyM41Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding

Don’t tar us all with the same brush as this shallow opinion… I’d never ask anyone to change a single thing for me.

If someone was happy in themselves then you’d be getting the best version of them, ask them to change and you are more likely to get someone who isn’t as happy and probably ends up resenting you. Never a good basis for a relationship.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

There's childish men and women everywhere OP sadly it doesn't stop at a certain age.

Weight isn't something that can be changed for everyone unless you probably didn't mean it and it's just an example given.

The problem in society is that people throw around terms loosely carelessly without actually knowing the definition.

Shallow isn't anything to do with a personal preference it's things that are not of any substance. E.g I only like a person with tattoos, drives or has 6 pack is shallow it's very superficial and it's not got substance to it

What a person carries on the inside is equally as important to their exterior, a person's mind and heart is what makes them who they are along with their morals which not everyone has.

Mindset is everything but next time someone calls you shallow just let them carry their opinion out the door and try to not let it affect you it reflects their maturity and lack of sense they carry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went blonde for a man once.

Never again.

They definitely don't have more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because men are the truly romantic ones and women only date up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

They. Don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For thoughts who didn't understand the question and this is just a random question so don't get afended and get the knickers in a swist. Why does a woman always want a man that can't change his appearance eg hight or Penis size but a man would look for a woman with a open mind but if he had a list he would be shallow. If I man could change his appearance would a woman have a list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For thoughts who didn't understand the question and this is just a random question so don't get afended and get the knickers in a swist. Why does a woman always want a man that can't change his appearance eg hight or Penis size but a man would look for a woman with a open mind but if he had a list he would be shallow. If I man could change his appearance would a woman have a list? "

For those who didn’t understand the answer, they don’t.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Always". Yeah, that's nonsense.

Some women have preferences. Some men have preferences.

It would be a lot easier and everyone would be happier if people went for those they're genuinely attracted to.

If someone calls you shallow OP? Fuck it. Just carry on doing you. Meeting women you actually want to, the right hair colour and weight to make your cock throb. Don't worry about what others say.

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Let me bring a popcorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

I'm always changing my hair colour and weight so men will fuck me.

It's a fair point you make though. A woman can ask for specifics and she's a strong, confident woman.

A man asks for specifics and he's a creepy evil entitled man, how dare he know what he's attracted to!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

Great way to sound like an incel.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Basically a woman will go for man that she likes and a man will go for a woman he can change.

Sounds about right.

"

I'm with this!!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For thoughts who didn't understand the question and this is just a random question so don't get afended and get the knickers in a swist. Why does a woman always want a man that can't change his appearance eg hight or Penis size but a man would look for a woman with a open mind but if he had a list he would be shallow. If I man could change his appearance would a woman have a list? "

Do you think men don’t do that?

Your naive if you do

(Some) Men absolutely have physical standards many women can’t reach.

One example is curves but without the accompanying traits. So they want curvy tits and bum, but size 8 legs and waist.

Lots of women have unattainable standards, as do men

Try to focus on the ones that don’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because men are the truly romantic ones and women only date up "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what you are saying is women want and will find something very specific to what they want and won't deviate. Men will go for anything they can get and dye it, diet it, tan it, boobjob it until she looks like something he wants.

OK, think I get it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't care about cock size or height, it's all about the person.

Some women will care about cock size just like some men will care about breast size or something else.

Mrs

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race.

I'm always changing my hair colour and weight so men will fuck me.

It's a fair point you make though. A woman can ask for specifics and she's a strong, confident woman.

A man asks for specifics and he's a creepy evil entitled man, how dare he know what he's attracted to!!! "

Yeah, except it doesn't quite work like that.

I know, I know how you type. Why you post the way you do. If a woman shares a list of specifics, unless she looks a particular way she's told she's delusional. The way there have been many posts over the years about fat women wanting gym fit men.

The people I know? If a man knows exactly what he wants, that's applauded. Obviously the 50 something wanting a size 6 18 year old might raise a few eyebrows but for the most part I don't think men are lambasted so badly for knowing what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. "

OP, help me with my understanding. When measuring penis height, is the measurement talen from the floor to the shaft when the chap is standing upright (I'd like to say erect, but the women will titter at the double entendre), or is when the chap is lying down with his penis standing to attention.

These are all important details and might be easy for a chap to change if one is trying to meet the standards of one of these demanding women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

Click bait.

I think someone is trying to poke the bear just for fun.

Don't you have something better to do with your time?*shrug*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race.

Why would you want a woman to change for you ? Wouldn’t it make more sense to find a woman who is what you are looking for ? That way you know she is like that for HER and not because you’ve asked her to ? "
So much this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love it how you all get diffencive this question was on a pod cast.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Because we are allowed to only meet people we are attracted to. As are men. People can’t change their face either but if I didn’t like it I wouldn’t be meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

successfulethics interesting pod cast on Instagram

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Why don't people just seek out those looking for people like them? And I only want a certain cock size because not much would happen if a guy was enormous.

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By *DwifeMan
over a year ago

Tallaght

Some dreams can only live in a man's heart.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I wish I was a little bit taller

I wish I was a baller

I wish I had a girl who looked good, I would call her

I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat

And a six four Impala

I wish I was like six-foot-nine

So I can get with Leoshi

'Cause she don't know me but yo she's really fine

You know I see her all the time everywhere I go

And even in my dreams I can scheme a way to make her mine...

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"I wish I was a little bit taller

I wish I was a baller

I wish I had a girl who looked good, I would call her

I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat

And a six four Impala

I wish I was like six-foot-nine

So I can get with Leoshi

'Cause she don't know me but yo she's really fine

You know I see her all the time everywhere I go

And even in my dreams I can scheme a way to make her mine...

"

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"I love it how you all get diffencive this question was on a pod cast. "

A lil heads up OP some people comment in a sarcastic way so don't take every comment as a literal serious comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it how you all get diffencive this question was on a pod cast. "

Love how you change it to "just a podcast question" because you've got grief...

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race.

Why would you want a woman to change for you ? Wouldn’t it make more sense to find a woman who is what you are looking for ? That way you know she is like that for HER and not because you’ve asked her to ? "

Definitely this good shout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love it how you all get diffencive this question was on a pod cast.

Love how you change it to "just a podcast question" because you've got grief..."

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By *romleyM41Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding


"I love it how you all get diffencive this question was on a pod cast.

Love how you change it to "just a podcast question" because you've got grief... "
100% this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically a woman will go for man that she likes and a man will go for a woman he can change.

Sounds about right.

"

(claps)

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton


"Basically a woman will go for man that she likes and a man will go for a woman he can change.

Sounds about right.

"

Exactly, OP needs to be happy with what he's got. It's a lottery on here no matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus op how much are you regretting posting this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To hard to explain my question and no point, really, when most people just get offended and get personal for asking a general question.

Thank you for the odd one for understanding

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

I don't believe they do but rejecting a guy for tha reason is another thing.

Sorry you are too tall/short sounds a lot kinder than sorry you are to fat/thin/ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race.

Not all women want a tall man or a massive penis. And if they do it's there preference.

If any man wants something that a women can change as in hair colour or weight, would we change it for a man? No. Well I wouldn't.

Plenty of women get called shallow for having preferences also.

We all like what we like, and some of us sometimes like what we do not think we will.

Confusing creatures us humans. "

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Because that's what some like and at the end of the day op ,women are here for themselves too op.

Not all women want a tall man and not all want a massive willy either,lots of success men aren't 6ft5 and hung.

Men are also entitled to ask for what they find attractive ie slim,blonde or whatever floats their boat.Why meet people who you don't find attractive.

Try and focus on the people who will be interested in you op ,we can't all be into the same things.

I know I won't be for all & that's absolutely fine ,I wouldn't expect to be .

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"...one example is ·curves· but without the accompanying traits. So they want curvy tits and bum, but size 8 legs and waist..."

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Let's resign ourselves to the fact that the most attractive curve on a woman is her smile.

Nothing else matters.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

The usual derailing on this thread i see.

To sum up the point being made:

We all have our preferences, however womens preferences are celebrated and encouraged, whereas mens are often criticised.

What makes it even more bizarre are that mens preferences usually centre on things that women at least have control over eg weight, hair colour/length etc. Whereas womens preferences usually centre on things a man has zero control over eg height

Discuss.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"•

Let's resign ourselves to the fact that the most attractive curve on a woman is her smile.

Nothing else matters."

I mean, I appreciate the sentiment even if it's blatantly not true for me

Why do people be assholes seems to be the real question here. So. It's because the majority of people are assholes OP

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"•

Let's resign ourselves to the fact that the most attractive curve on a woman is her smile.

Nothing else matters.

·

I mean, I appreciate the sentiment even if it's blatantly not true for me

Why do people be assholes seems to be the real question here. So. It's because the majority of people are assholes OP "

•

Bullshit, Prey - I've seen you smile in real life. You even smiled at me. Granted, it dispersed a few deep-rooted cobwebs but it was a smile nevertheless.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"•

Let's resign ourselves to the fact that the most attractive curve on a woman is her smile.

Nothing else matters.

·

I mean, I appreciate the sentiment even if it's blatantly not true for me

Why do people be assholes seems to be the real question here. So. It's because the majority of people are assholes OP

•

Bullshit, Prey - I've seen you smile in real life. You even smiled at me. Granted, it dispersed a few deep-rooted cobwebs but it was a smile nevertheless. "

If you really think that crooked monstrosity is more attractive than my waist to hip ratio you're absurd.

But. I did already know that

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

If you want a person to change then you’re not with the right person.

I’ve met a few guys and then realised they have something about them that would drive me crazy and I couldn’t be with them 24/7. When you’re with the right person you don’t mind the things that make up their personality and character and make you want to spend time with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do women always want what a man can't change like Penis size or hight. But a man only wants what a woman can change like hair colour or weight. But a man is called shallow if he wants a woman that is a Certain height or race. "

Because men (not all) men tend to be disrespectful when stating they're preferences

Everyone is allowed their preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...one example is ·curves· but without the accompanying traits. So they want curvy tits and bum, but size 8 legs and waist...

•

Let's resign ourselves to the fact that the most attractive curve on a woman is her smile.

Nothing else matters."

Ohhhh, you're good (so smooth)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time it's just an excuse rather than saying they don't fancy them as they can't change it. Women are more polite in their rejection tactics sometimes.

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