FabSwingers.com forum: Who knew?

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

So, you've got a hot social/date/meet (had to include it sadly) lined up.

Who do you tell? A romantic partner? Fwbs? A fuckbuddy? Friends? The world?

When would you like/hope that someone would tell you about it?

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

New meet from here, I tell my sister as a safety net.

Anything else I don't really tell anyone tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell me bestie.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

My best friend is on fab and her and I share everything. It's fun and we give each other a sanity check and a safety net.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Only really one person if it's brand new .. Never can be 100% sure who isn't a pschyco haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend always somehow knows. We make time every day to chat despite our geographical distance, and he knows me so well that he will instantly say, “alright tell me about them…” shortly after only saying hello.

I did ask how he knows and he smugly told me he just knows me and can tell.

For safety, I share details (who, where, when) with my nesting partner before a meet. Don’t always share about the meet afterwards as they prefer to not be told but will ask when they wish to know.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Not a soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't generally tell anyone.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Only ever tell one person in case I get murdered, they can forward on the news.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"My best friend is on fab and her and I share everything. It's fun and we give each other a sanity check and a safety net."

A sanity check and a safety net? Perfect. That's needed sometimes. Both probably equally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tell anyone and won't meet the type of people who don't understand privacy.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"My best friend is on fab and her and I share everything. It's fun and we give each other a sanity check and a safety net.

A sanity check and a safety net? Perfect. That's needed sometimes. Both probably equally.

The life of sexual adventure can be heady stuff.

My friend enjoys an element of risk by meeting strangers. I enjoy an element of emotional connection and that means a certain amount of vulnerability. We both benefit from others relative objectivity.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I tell someone if I’m going to someone’s house for the first time for safety. Otherwise not usually unless someone asks what I’m up to today - but I don’t say who I’m meeting.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

If it’s someone new I tell a friend from here I’ve known for years, just so they know where I am. Otherwise not a soul.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

As has been proven people can't be trusted so nope, nobody's business

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I tell my mother in law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to tell my best friend and message her with a address or house photo in case anything "bad" happened. In recent years ive come to realise that I'm more likely to be the serial killer so I keep it quiet. I only tell the guy that sells the big shovels, polythene bags and duct tape in B&Q on a "need to know" basis ;-p

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

If it’s someone new I always share the who, where, when with someone and also drop a message to let them know I’m ok (thankfully never had to say I’m not ok).

What about you OP?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I always keep things to myself. I'm just that type of person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to tell my best friend and message her with a address or house photo in case anything "bad" happened. In recent years ive come to realise that I'm more likely to be the serial killer so I keep it quiet. I only tell the guy that sells the big shovels, polythene bags and duct tape in B&Q on a "need to know" basis ;-p "

Why buy new every time? Bulk buy and keep them in the shed ready for last minute meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reall tell anyone but judging by the responses on here... Am I going to die?

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I always keep things to myself. I'm just that type of person."

You wouldn't tell someone you're in a romantic relationship with?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I always keep things to myself. I'm just that type of person.

You wouldn't tell someone you're in a romantic relationship with?

I was mentioning how I was when single. It doesn't apply now as I'm not meeting or seeing anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reall tell anyone but judging by the responses on here... Am I going to die?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reall tell anyone but judging by the responses on here... Am I going to die?

Eh... I'd take the chance

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I've a couple of friends that know we are on here so I tell them, they are a good safety net too.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t tell anyone. I try to be as safe as possible without the need to tell anyone and hope for the best!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my husband. Karen

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Depends on the boundaries of the relationship. A romantic partner, that's a definite yes.

I also have a friend. We have no involvement in each others lives, just see each other. She's a legend we bounce anything we need to off each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only tell other people about the ones I have a romantic interest in. Just sexual friendships or one offs, no. I don’t tell anyone. I’m very private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a private person so would be pretty easy to murder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell my husband for obvious reasons, other than that I don’t feel like it’s anyone’s business.

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"So, you've got a hot social/date/meet (had to include it sadly) lined up.

Who do you tell? A romantic partner? Fwbs? A fuckbuddy? Friends? The world?

When would you like/hope that someone would tell you about it?"

I tell no one. I told a friend that I had been on Grindr. She said, don't fret (seriously) and made her excuses. I haven't heard from her since!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

My bestie

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

A social with someone new, at least one friend will know where and when and be on alert for a check in.

An actual date with someone I already know, it might get mentioned in passing to relevant people or some happy bubbles after, but I don't feel obliged to tell anyone if I know them well enough to do an actual date already.

Intending to be the first time I have sex with someone new, I'll inform my partners that it's a potential the first time, but if it becomes a regular thing then as long as they know I do see them I don't need to inform them of every occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just leave a note saying..

‘I may be gone for some time’

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By *addad99Man
over a year ago

Rotherham /newquay

I leave a letter on my dining table just incase I don't come back

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare

I tell my friends where I'm going and message when I get back purely for safety reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally tell my safety person. Although I don't always tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a soul"

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why buy new every time? Bulk buy and keep them in the shed ready for last minute meets.

The shed is already full of lime, you'll find the duct tape, nylon ties and hammer stored under the stairs

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast

Big jock

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