FabSwingers.com forum: Roadside Tributes

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last weekend a young man was killed on a local road, I drove along that road yesterday and there is a tribute/memorial of several helium balloons, flowers and cards.

Why do people do this when someone dies at a road traffic collision?

Someone dies in hospital no-one lays flowers/cards etc around the bed. Someone dies at home no-one regularly goes into the house and lays a tribute...but people do it at a roadside?

I ask because the tribute in question is on a B road, a fast B road close to a sweeping bend. And as I rounded the bend a family was stood at the tribute (obviously adding to it) with one of them standing in the road...so, another accident waiting to happen.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You couldn't have memorial tributes around a hopital bed as a new patient will be in it an hour later.

I would say definitely yes you can have tributes at home. After my husband died people came with flowers and I had about thirty bouquets on display.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

When I read the title. Why did I get a picture in my head of guys wanking over pictures of roads??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You couldn't have memorial tributes around a hopital bed as a new patient will be in it an hour later.

I would say definitely yes you can have tributes at home. After my husband died people came with flowers and I had about thirty bouquets on display. "

My dad died at home, someone else now lives there, we don't go into that home and lay flowers every year, that's what graves are for. Same goes for the roadside, some of these tribute sites are in places that are dangerous to get to, but people still go.

I just don't understand why people do it...visit the grave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I read the title. Why did I get a picture in my head of guys wanking over pictures of roads??"

Didn't think of that...I am now!

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Each to their own, these deaths are sudden and unexpected, it must be a shock for those left behind and I guess it helps the grieving make sense with what's happened, part of the process while they assimilate. It helps them feel close to that person I guess and helps them feel like they are honouring that person

It's not something I would do mind but you can't negate the feelings of those who do.

There for the grace of God go I hey

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I really though this was going to be about something else!

Not sure really, I understand why but they can also be distracting when driving. It’s a difficult one.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I think sometimes it feels like a way to draw drivers' attention to a dangerous accident blackspot that a local authority haven't yet acknowledged.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Probably due to the tragic circumstances

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"I think sometimes it feels like a way to draw drivers' attention to a dangerous accident blackspot that a local authority haven't yet acknowledged.

I often think this too when I see them, if it makes drivers think then it's not a bad thing.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I think sometimes it feels like a way to draw drivers' attention to a dangerous accident blackspot that a local authority haven't yet acknowledged.

Weirdly that is probably making things worse. There was a project in Texas that looked at how traffic fatality signs (the ones that say how many people have been killed in a stretch of road), which were meant to promote safe driving actually caused more accidents and deaths because people were looking at the signs at _exactly_ the point when they should have been looking at the road.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Anything that is distracting the drivers attention in an area that is an accident black spot that is not a road sign is not helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people feel a link/bond to a place where a loved one died. I don't, personally, but each to their own.

I have the ashes of the father of a previous houseowner buried under a tree in my garden. I have told them if they ever want to leave a small bunch of flowers it's ok.

At least, I assume it's his ashes?....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

My daughter died on a b type road and I can understand why people leave tributes. A lonely place, that a loved one suffered at, their life gone in vain. Sure, we want to remember the happy times but that place has some significance. If the memorial helps to jolt someone else to drive more carefully, then it's a win.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"My daughter died on a b type road and I can understand why people leave tributes. A lonely place, that a loved one suffered at, their life gone in vain. Sure, we want to remember the happy times but that place has some significance. If the memorial helps to jolt someone else to drive more carefully, then it's a win. "

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So sorry to hear this Sophie

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