FabSwingers.com forum: Do you ever

By *ympho6969 OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Think a person is too attractive for you on here.

As someone who firmly says in the middle of the pack when it comes to the beauty scale, I used to be so self conscious of punching above my class so to speak. Now with time and maturity, I value my appearance more and if people like what they see, I take them at face value and don't over analyze anymore.

What do the rest of you do?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Yes all the time ...

Because they usually are

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Kinda helps not finding anyone attractive.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

I usually get gay panic (women are far too gorgeous) and then look from a distance.

Maybe fab a couple photos if the panic is on here but said panic means I don't message.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Yes, there are lots of very attractive people on here and I don't always feel that I'm good enough, but they can always say no.

Luna

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Nope I'm fit as fuck......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Constantly, although it's more of a "they'd not give me a second glance".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, so many times but then I am very much bottom end of the looks scale so it does leave a lot of room above me to be envious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is above anyone. Simple!

If their attitude is they are.... not interested!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

No, we are either compatible or not, only one way to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, I find more people unattractive, than attractive. But I’m all about the face, not the cocks and flaps!

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"I usually get gay panic (women are far too gorgeous) and then look from a distance.

Maybe fab a couple photos if the panic is on here but said panic means I don't message. "

Just looked at your pics and in my opinion your beautiful. Love the tats.

Luna

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Think a person is too attractive for you on here.

What do the rest of you do?"

I don't think their too attractive for me here but their some stunners who I would rather just be friends and not have sex .

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By *ympho6969 OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Yes, there are lots of very attractive people on here and I don't always feel that I'm good enough, but they can always say no.

Luna"

I can get that. Now if they pass, I just see it as a good thing. I don't want a pity fuck or someone who can't get it up

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I don't think anyone is too attractive for anyone anywhere. There maybe people too shallow for other people, but that's a whole different thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah or that I’m not there type at least.

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

I have defo thought I’m out of this person league yes

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Nope. As someone above said you're either compatible or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time. They are shagging a minger but I get to fuck a hottie!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i do. I do sometimes wonder why I'm contacted by certain people, especially when the guy is gym fit or the lady of the couple is slimmer than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just know that I'm not attractive at all to anyone on here.

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By *y the seaCouple
over a year ago

guernsey

We do all the time but don’t mind pushing our luck. What’s the worst that can happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just know that I'm not attractive at all to anyone on here."

Well that isn't true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their own tastes....

Some slim guys/gals like larger gals/guys.

Some tall people like short people

Etc

Have confidence in yourselves! Confidence is a winner to most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone has their own tastes....

Some slim guys/gals like larger gals/guys.

Some tall people like short people

Etc

Have confidence in yourselves! Confidence is a winner to most

We are not really into gym fit for eg yet a lot of people are...

Preferences preferences... someone for everyone

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Yes a few times with lasses who messaged me first one in particular. It’s not so much a lack of confidence it’s just that saw them as in a different league if that makes sense haha

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"Yes, there are lots of very attractive people on here and I don't always feel that I'm good enough, but they can always say no.

Luna"

But you're gorgeous, it's me that's letting the side down xxx

Mr Hayes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every one is

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Everyone has their own tastes....

Some slim guys/gals like larger gals/guys.

Some tall people like short people

Etc

Have confidence in yourselves! Confidence is a winner to most

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

I can think someone is more attractive than me or that a guy would find another woman more attractive. Don't lose any sleep over it though. That's the good thing about getting older. You realise none of this matters that much.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

All the time. But I just swagger it out and pretend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. I’m comfortable in my own skin.

And there is never anyone I see and think ‘too attractive’ or ‘out of my league’. Their profile text is also indicative of if it’s worth me messaging.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so just because I sometimes get rejected when I share my face pic, it doesn’t put a dent in my confidence or self-worth

I’m just not their type and we move on.

I hope this encourages anyone here who might legitimately compare themselves negatively to others or think that someone is too attractive.

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By *ustyBambi06Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow (ish)

Oh gosh yes, someone who has body issues. I get into my head that I'm not good enough for anyone. Im slowly trying to love me for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, initially i do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every single day

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Oh gosh yes, someone who has body issues. I get into my head that I'm not good enough for anyone. Im slowly trying to love me for me "

I get that

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"Every single day

Seriously? You're a wee ride!

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I used to be like that, but attraction is subjective, and I am constantly surprised!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing worse than the way we view ourselves.

Negatively - affects confidence

Too positively - can come across arrogant

Anywhere in between is perfect. But maintaining it is hard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I also think their personality is more attractive than ours too. I don't class ourselves as fun, social people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single day

Seriously? You're a wee ride!"

Shhhh let me have my moment

Anyway, when are we meeting at the Fort? Choking here

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No. I know I'm nothing particularly great, I'm not bad looking.

I don't put people in leagues in that sort of way - I did many years ago but now I think it's down to how compatible I am with someone. You can't predict chemistry so you might as well take that chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I know I'm nothing particularly great, I'm not bad looking.

Love that mindset, wish I could get to that place

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"Every single day

Seriously? You're a wee ride!

Shhhh let me have my moment

Anyway, when are we meeting at the Fort? Choking here

You wanting a wee chug in the comfy seats up the back of Costa?

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By *ympho6969 OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Not at all. I’m comfortable in my own skin.

And there is never anyone I see and think ‘too attractive’ or ‘out of my league’. Their profile text is also indicative of if it’s worth me messaging.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so just because I sometimes get rejected when I share my face pic, it doesn’t put a dent in my confidence or self-worth

I’m just not their type and we move on.

I hope this encourages anyone here who might legitimately compare themselves negatively to others or think that someone is too attractive.

This is exactly the mentality we all need. It's something that took me a while to get, especially on here where everything is out on display.

I feel so much happier now knowing my worth and not letting a few rejections hold me up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single day

Seriously? You're a wee ride!

Shhhh let me have my moment

Anyway, when are we meeting at the Fort? Choking here

You wanting a wee chug in the comfy seats up the back of Costa?

Doggie has read my mindddddd

I'll get a bottle a Tizer fur you, always bring a gift an all that

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By *ympho6969 OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Oh gosh yes, someone who has body issues. I get into my head that I'm not good enough for anyone. Im slowly trying to love me for me "

You are gorgeous and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At this point, only scrolled down a few posts and immediately realised there is a lot more to this than the “rah rah, we’re all wonderful” approach I took (which I do believe in).

Apologies if it sounded at odds with everyone else

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

Yes you are! :P

S n J

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

For me it's less about putting people on a pedestal ( or a hotlist lol ) and more thinking that I look like I fell out of the ugly tree and hit most of the branches on the way down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

Yes you are! :P

S n J

You've not seen my face, count that as a blessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

For me it's less about putting people on a pedestal ( or a hotlist lol ) and more thinking that I look like I fell out of the ugly tree and hit most of the branches on the way down lol"

You for sure didn't (as I'm sure I mentioned before) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

Yes you are! :P

S n J

You've not seen my face, count that as a blessing.

Sorry we were staring at your tits! Haha

Seriously though from what we can see...

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

For me it's less about putting people on a pedestal ( or a hotlist lol ) and more thinking that I look like I fell out of the ugly tree and hit most of the branches on the way down lol

You for sure didn't (as I'm sure I mentioned before) x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is not the physically attractive people that give me doubts but those with a deep, intriguing personality that I can feel myself connecting with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

Yes you are! :P

S n J

You've not seen my face, count that as a blessing.

Sorry we were staring at your tits! Haha

Seriously though from what we can see...

Honestly, the first compliment I've had on here that's about my boobs.

Unless you were looking in disgust...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

For me it's less about putting people on a pedestal ( or a hotlist lol ) and more thinking that I look like I fell out of the ugly tree and hit most of the branches on the way down lol

You for sure didn't (as I'm sure I mentioned before) x

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

For me it's less about putting people on a pedestal ( or a hotlist lol ) and more thinking that I look like I fell out of the ugly tree and hit most of the branches on the way down lol

You for sure didn't (as I'm sure I mentioned before) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

Yes you are! :P

S n J

You've not seen my face, count that as a blessing.

Sorry we were staring at your tits! Haha

Seriously though from what we can see...

Honestly, the first compliment I've had on here that's about my boobs.

Unless you were looking in disgust..."

Errrrr... I like your quick wit. Or it's just cold hearted sarcasm. I haven't sussed you out... yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

Yes you are! :P

S n J

You've not seen my face, count that as a blessing.

Sorry we were staring at your tits! Haha

Seriously though from what we can see...

Honestly, the first compliment I've had on here that's about my boobs.

Unless you were looking in disgust..."

Yeah total disgust that they are only on our screen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

It's a site built on how people look. All about physical attraction. In the most pragmatic way possible - yes, there are leagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah no, the really good looking ones aren't on fab.

Yes you are! :P

S n J

You've not seen my face, count that as a blessing.

Sorry we were staring at your tits! Haha

Seriously though from what we can see...

Honestly, the first compliment I've had on here that's about my boobs.

Unless you were looking in disgust...

Errrrr... I like your quick wit. Or it's just cold hearted sarcasm. I haven't sussed you out... yet

Intruging isn't it!

Love her bio!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intruging isn't it!

Love her bio! "

She's very funny. Often makes me smile with her quick 1 liners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all the time. And not helped by the constant knock backs and lack of replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have definitely punched a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TbH I think I was punching with S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"TbH I think I was punching with S

You're her Jason Statham

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

It has happened but then they've flirted and I thought to myself, well gee Bruce you can flirt so why not try it with this 20/10. And they laugh and I get endorphins and I have a cracking wank.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

Ha yes all the time, equally I don't find many attractive myself even though I appreciate that they are generally.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Yes all the time. And not helped by the constant knock backs and lack of replies

Well to be fair you've not been on long, give it time ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely. There are people on here that I would never message because I think they are very attractive and wouldn't be interested in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah quite a lot actually. Sometimes I’ll go for it anyway and see where it goes and other times i don’t. Just depends on how I’m feeling about myself at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes all the time. And not helped by the constant knock backs and lack of replies

Well to be fair you've not been on long, give it time ..."

Thanks, that’s kind of you to say

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I don’t think anybody is out of anybody’s league and if you are in the place like this. From experience, if you don’t try you won’t know.

We are all humans, perfection is imperfection

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Yes all the time. And not helped by the constant knock backs and lack of replies

Well to be fair you've not been on long, give it time ...

Thanks, that’s kind of you to say

It honestly took me ages before I got chatting to people, let alone actually got a meet....

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"It has happened but then they've flirted and I thought to myself, well gee Bruce you can flirt so why not try it with this 20/10. And they laugh and I get endorphins and I have a cracking wank."

Thats the spirit Brucey!

And yep it has stopped messaging first if I think they are too good looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has happened but then they've flirted and I thought to myself, well gee Bruce you can flirt so why not try it with this 20/10. And they laugh and I get endorphins and I have a cracking wank."

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By *ympho6969 OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"I don’t think anybody is out of anybody’s league and if you are in the place like this. From experience, if you don’t try you won’t know.

We are all humans, perfection is imperfection

I like this attitude. Especially in this day and age of filters and shape wear (which I'm a fan of), but during a meet, it's all out and no hiding. Everyone is unique and lovely in their own way

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm shocked some bother to talk to me. I'm shocked some are as nice as they are.

I don't buy in to being too attractive but from experience yes there are people that are extremely attractive that won't be interested in me. By that definition yes they are.

But are they too attractive for me as in "better" or out of my league? The fuck they are, even if they think it. If they think it though, that's on them.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm shocked some bother to talk to me. I'm shocked some are as nice as they are.

I don't buy in to being too attractive but from experience yes there are people that are extremely attractive that won't be interested in me. By that definition yes they are.

But are they too attractive for me as in "better" or out of my league? The fuck they are, even if they think it. If they think it though, that's on them. "

I'm also dosed up on pain meds so no idea if any of that made sense.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Definitely, a lot of my hotlist is made up of people I’m pretty sure would have no interest and would be a bit out of my league

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

No.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

It's a site built on how people look. All about physical attraction. In the most pragmatic way possible - yes, there are leagues. "

It can be a site based on looks if that is how you want to play the game but, in my experience, it is about a lot of other things as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And yep it has stopped messaging first if I think they are too good looking. "

Stopped me messaging you as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the back of all this. Anyone who'd like to message me and is put off because of the way I look but in a positive way.

(That's a line and a half)

Don't be

just drop in and say hi.

*NB doesn't refer to single straight guys who are hiding Bi tendencies and just want to send me dick pics. I know your game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best way to be is message anyway... you won't know until you do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best way to be is message anyway... you won't know until you do!

God I wish I could

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"On the back of all this. Anyone who'd like to message me and is put off because of the way I look but in a positive way.

(That's a line and a half)

Don't be

just drop in and say hi.

*NB doesn't refer to single straight guys who are hiding Bi tendencies and just want to send me dick pics. I know your game."

Dreams shattered!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t get the whole “out of my league” thing - people are just people and I think that you do yourself a disservice if you put someone else on a pedestal.

It's a site built on how people look. All about physical attraction. In the most pragmatic way possible - yes, there are leagues.

It can be a site based on looks if that is how you want to play the game but, in my experience, it is about a lot of other things as well."

I'm not playing any game. I'm not even meeting because I can't be bothered with the game. But look at the forum threads. Best boobs, best arse, thigh Thursday and so on and on and on. It's the currency here. People want to live their fantasies. It's not everyone, but it's a pervading theme. Is it any wonder that many of us judge ourselves harshly and think we just don't or shouldn't compete?

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I'm shocked some bother to talk to me. I'm shocked some are as nice as they are.

I don't buy in to being too attractive but from experience yes there are people that are extremely attractive that won't be interested in me. By that definition yes they are.

But are they too attractive for me as in "better" or out of my league? The fuck they are, even if they think it. If they think it though, that's on them.

I'm also dosed up on pain meds so no idea if any of that made sense. "

Yes it made sense x

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Yeah i do. I do sometimes wonder why I'm contacted by certain people, especially when the guy is gym fit or the lady of the couple is slimmer than me. "

Could be because despite someone being slimmer, they happen to like the way you look? Curves and all.

Maybe they like the sound of your profile?

For me attraction isn't in a body size or type its how someone comes across to me and how they make me feel, as such.

Or maybe they just think you are hot (strong possibility)

MrsAbz

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By *ustyBambi06Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow (ish)

"Oh gosh yes, someone who has body issues. I get into my head that I'm not good enough for anyone. Im slowly trying to love me for me

You are gorgeous and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. "

Oh thank you so much

Same back to you gorgeous xxx

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

"Yes all the time ...

Because they usually are

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh no.

I’m more likely to be intimidated by Uber intelligence

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

So after some thought, my serious answer to this question.

We all suffer with self-doubt, based in our own subjective insecurities, which we are responsible for and to deal with. I can let these stop me if I chose to. That's the operative point I have a choice.

No one is better than anyone else, out of any bodies league. If we never ask the question the answer will always be no. But then if you don't like the answer don't ask the question. A dichotomy I know.

There is nothing wrong in self-belief and self-confidence. And to put the feelers out there. What's also our responsibility is how we deal with any potential rejection when we do send a message.

To end I'm no better or no worse than anyone else.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I used to feel like this. That everyone I fancied on here was ’too sexy’ or ‘too cool’ to be interested in little old me. But I slowly got over that, thanks to some of those amazing, gorgeous people making the first move or sending the first wink.

So, er … thanks Fab. I guess you’ve helped my self esteem quite a lot.

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yeeeeeah.

Being on fab does not generally help my opinion of my looks.

Very easy to end up feeling like I have a face like a bag of spanners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like this all the time. Even when someone wants to see me again I'm still questioning it in my mind, why?

I permanently think everyone is better than me.

But..

I no longer allow this to stop me doing things, meeting people and embracing wonderful moments. I try really hard to replace the negative self talk with something else. Some days I do better than others.

I think people assume that when I post photos I must be super confident, the reality is for every one I share there's easily 20 plus I wouldn't. Sometimes they help me remember I'm not as bad as I think and that's why I do it.

I'm me and I'm slowly learning I'm enough, just as I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like this all the time. Even when someone wants to see me again I'm still questioning it in my mind, why?

I permanently think everyone is better than me.

But..

I'm me and I'm slowly learning I'm enough, just as I am.

I echo this.

Your are gorgeous too mswyld

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here...."

Because they like fucking loads of different people instead of being in a "societal normal" monogamous relationship?

Or we're all wierdos and deviants?

*see still can't work you out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here...."

Do you use photoshop to get rid of the big handlebar moustache?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here....

Because they like fucking loads of different people instead of being in a "societal normal" monogamous relationship?

Or we're all wierdos and deviants?

*see still can't work you out"

Deffo wierdos and deviants! Haha

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nah.

I've had my share of truly beautiful specimens, body builders, stunners. Average Joes, quirky features, plain janes. Some people try and get through life on their looks alone, those people don't interest me. I'm attracted to who I'm attracted to mainly through personality, although good looks (imo) will often be an initial draw which is where online searching becomes flawed for me.

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Yes, not just on here, lots of times I've looked at people and I'm sure I'm not the only one, you think they are 'out of my league'.

BUT... Its one thing I've changed, I just treat everyone the same and don't let things like that worry me. I treat everyone the same and like to get to know people aswell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yes. The gym bods, slim guys, classically handsome guys ..makes me want to stay home and hide sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here....

Because they like fucking loads of different people instead of being in a "societal normal" monogamous relationship?

Or we're all wierdos and deviants?

*see still can't work you out"

Isn't that what Tinders for?

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By *hepherdsbush29Man
over a year ago

shepherds bush

I find this site so hard. I’m new and don’t know how to gage it. I’m not the most confident or think best looking so don’t wann text someone saying I’m James Dean and gonna blow your mind for sure. Don’t know where’s the middle line if you know what I mean. Also messaging people casually and chilled doesn’t seem to get me anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here....

Because they like fucking loads of different people instead of being in a "societal normal" monogamous relationship?

Or we're all wierdos and deviants?

*see still can't work you out

Isn't that what Tinders for? "

I wouldn't know.

I've no interest in swiping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here....

Because they like fucking loads of different people instead of being in a "societal normal" monogamous relationship?

Or we're all wierdos and deviants?

*see still can't work you out

Isn't that what Tinders for? "

Tinders full of people

That want a full

Relationship….

I like my

Own space and my own life.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

Nope not phased by how others look at all. Beauty of a goddess…I’ll stop by and have a chat. Too school for cool….no problem, I’ll have a natter and bring out some smiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find this site so hard. I’m new and don’t know how to gage it. I’m not the most confident or think best looking so don’t wann text someone saying I’m James Dean and gonna blow your mind for sure. Don’t know where’s the middle line if you know what I mean. Also messaging people casually and chilled doesn’t seem to get me anywhere "

After everything I've read on the forums today. You know more than me!

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By *aptain1988Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Like building them up in your head and make silly conversation then you talk and they are no where near as interesting as you thought...no never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here....

Because they like fucking loads of different people instead of being in a "societal normal" monogamous relationship?

Or we're all wierdos and deviants?

*see still can't work you out

Isn't that what Tinders for?

Tinders full of people

That want a full

Relationship….

I like my

Own space and my own life. "

If you believe half the stuff on the forums most people here want a relationship.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I used to see someone who went out with a male model, I know someone who dated a millionaire and they were happy to date me too.

It’s not because I can match any of those qualities, but sometimes people just like what they like and that can be any of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you believe half the stuff on the forums most people here want a relationship. "

I'm here to get my dick sucked and apparently now pegged by you

(You all said earlier men should be open about what they want)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you believe half the stuff on the forums most people here want a relationship.

I'm here to get my dick sucked and apparently now pegged by you

(You all said earlier men should be open about what they want)"

Did I say that? Very wise of me.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I used to see someone who went out with a male model, I know someone who dated a millionaire and they were happy to date me too.

It’s not because I can match any of those qualities, but sometimes people just like what they like and that can be any of us."

Plus you're a self made modelling millionaire yourself... Or was it all lies Adam?!

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By *eardedwonder999Man
over a year ago

Worcester

Absolutely I look on here and think to myself you have zero chance

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Think a person is too attractive for you on here.

What do the rest of you do?"

Oh all the time. But I am pretty happy with who I am and I fancy people based more on personality so I assume others do too. Or they want to be suffocated by my thighs apparently.

So I take your strategy and don't over analyze. I do still take a wee look at their verifications and if everyone is physically very different from me it does make me wonder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People need to remember you see the best of someone on here.

The well lit/angled and in some cases filtered pictures. You show your best bits and hide your worst.

Just remember, there's a reason they're single and on here...."

I feel so called out.

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

"Absolutely I look on here and think to myself you have zero chance "

Ditto

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I used to see someone who went out with a male model, I know someone who dated a millionaire and they were happy to date me too.

It’s not because I can match any of those qualities, but sometimes people just like what they like and that can be any of us.

Plus you're a self made modelling millionaire yourself... Or was it all lies Adam?!

There probably are some currencies in the world where I’m a millionaire, we could definitely work that into a believable story.

Sadly I was never a model, you picked me up when I was a stripper which is nearly the same

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Think a person is too attractive for you on here.

What do the rest of you do?

Oh all the time. But I am pretty happy with who I am and I fancy people based more on personality so I assume others do too. Or they want to be suffocated by my thighs apparently.

So I take your strategy and don't over analyze. I do still take a wee look at their verifications and if everyone is physically very different from me it does make me wonder. "

Oh, I'm always thinking most people are way too physically attractive for me, but I find that I'm more mentally attractive nowadays, especially when I've got things in common with them, like my love for Star Trek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I started speaking to the Mr on here many moons ago, I thought he was way too hot for me. Never in a million years did I think he’d be interested in me, who shoved 2 take aways and a five guys down her throat on our first date

Mrs

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By *ympho6969 OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

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By *ympho6969 OP Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"When I started speaking to the Mr on here many moons ago, I thought he was way too hot for me. Never in a million years did I think he’d be interested in me, who shoved 2 take aways and a five guys down her throat on our first date

Mrs"

Five guys the food place, or the equally as good fab version?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't think there's such a thing as "too attractive". I've been with women way hotter that I am. People like what they like. If you over-analyse it you'll miss out on some great experiences.

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork

Constantly. There was a time I remember, when I had confidence. Before I joined fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A connection is a connection no matter ..if people want to meet for whatever reason then bliss..l knew a woman here once that wouldn't fuck a guy if he'd been with what she thought was hotter or sexy or more beautiful than her ..l could never understand that way of thinking especially when the lady that thought like that was unbelievable in everyway but that was her way of thinking, completely puzzled me tbh..l always told her not to think like that..

Me ?..if a person is interested in me and me in them ..why not ??.. thinking someone is more beautiful than you has absolutely nothing to do with it..like l said a connection is a connection.

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By *espacito56Man
over a year ago

Orkney

God yes.

I know my place.

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

All the time …… would like to think I am mature and wise … and confident enough to not let it get to me but yes, it does. Particularly attention from fit hot hunky younger guys ….. always wonder why they would be interested in an older bird … can’t help it, probably never change ….. I’ll continue to try

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"All the time …… would like to think I am mature and wise … and confident enough to not let it get to me but yes, it does. Particularly attention from fit hot hunky younger guys ….. always wonder why they would be interested in an older bird … can’t help it, probably never change ….. I’ll continue to try

Age is nothing but a number

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. If we're attracted to each other, we're equals

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