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By *ackformore100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Go down on me?

No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral..

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ask her what her reasons might be and say that you would like to do it.

You'll likely get a more accurate and reliable answer that way other than the hypotheses of Fab forum contributers

C

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I mean, you'd need to ask her. Obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she doesn't enjoy it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's allergic to cheese

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Maybe she doesn't enjoy it?

"

Random aside... that's one sexy photo Ms.

As you were

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Go down on me?

No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral.. "

Do you go down on her? It's usually a two-way street.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I remember being with an ex and, having gone down on her with some top drawer minge munching, she said “I suppose you want me to return the favour”.

My immediate thought was, no. Actually I don’t. If that’s how you feel about oral then I don’t want you to. Not only does it mean you doing something you don’t want to do (and, in my humble opinion, there is literally nothing worse with a partner than making them do something they don’t want to), but it also means I won’t enjoy it because I know you don’t like it.

So, we did something different.

That being said, I do remember how disappointed Percy was because he likes examining tongue, tonsils, tongue, tonsils, tongue. You get the picture.

I suppose a talk could help understand her perspective, but if she fundamentally doesn’t like it the barrier will always be up.

Maybe it’s an opportunity to identify different things you both like.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Go down on me?

No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral..

Do you go down on her? It's usually a two-way street. "

Fannies are definitely a two way street

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"She's allergic to cheese "
Oh ffs...im eating here cheese

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Ask her, could be tons of reasons.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She's allergic to cheese Oh ffs...im eating here cheese "

Sorry

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

It’s too big to fit in her mouth….?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she's already had her mouth full .....joking aside the only way you get a answer is ask

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"She's allergic to cheese "

What type of cheese would that be? I can honestly say I've never had the pleasure though I may put some crackers in my bag just incase in future.

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

Just ask and accept her answer the worst thing you can do is pressure her if she can't face doing it then that's that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many or too few pubes.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Maybe she's tasted some peen before and it puts her off, not everyone is clean before they whip it out, slap her cheek with it and proudly stands waiting for it to be swallowed...

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.

So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.

Oh, and I love to reciprocate.

Frank

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I should add the above is for relationships, not Fab hookups.

Frank

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

She's only got a small mouth

She has tmj

Past trauma

Phobia of cum

She just doesn't want to

So many reasons

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.

So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.

Oh, and I love to reciprocate.

Frank"

Do you enjoy giving oral?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

She could be worried she isn't good at it.

She might be a pillow princess.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.

So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.

Oh, and I love to reciprocate.

Frank

Do you enjoy giving oral?"

Yes, that's what I meant when I said I love to reciprocate

Frank

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By *awadee_kaTV/TS
over a year ago

Plymouth

Check my video on how to do it on hard cock…. lesson 101 xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

So many of my freeman's friends hate it. The taste, the effort etc.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"She could be worried she isn't good at it.

She might be a pillow princess. "

What's a pillow princess?

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"She could be worried she isn't good at it.

She might be a pillow princess. "

Being worried she's not good at it isn't the same as saying she doesn't like doing it. She can be taught.

Funny you mention pillow princesses. Not so long ago I had sex with someone in a club (with Jane's knowledge as she was at the club too) and after a rather disappointing encounter I, as politely as I could, mentioned I considered her to be a pillow princess. The next time I was in the club (again with Jane) she practically dragged me into a room and upped her game considerably.

Frank

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"She could be worried she isn't good at it.

She might be a pillow princess.

What's a pillow princess?"

A woman who just lies there and gives nothing back.

Frank

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"She could be worried she isn't good at it.

She might be a pillow princess.

What's a pillow princess?

A woman who just lies there and gives nothing back.

Frank"

Goodness are there really women like that

Is there a male equivalent?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"She could be worried she isn't good at it.

She might be a pillow princess.

What's a pillow princess?

A woman who just lies there and gives nothing back.

Frank

Goodness are there really women like that

Is there a male equivalent?"

A lazy git

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"She could be worried she isn't good at it.

She might be a pillow princess.

What's a pillow princess?

A woman who just lies there and gives nothing back.

Frank

Goodness are there really women like that

Is there a male equivalent?"

Yep we met one. I think he assumed his larger than average cock was all that was required as he lay back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?"

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?"

I don't think oral sex is the only foreplay available. It's only if I'm in a relationship that it's important for me to know the option is there. A Fab hookup I'm not bothered about, as long as kissing is involved, but that's another thread

Frank

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know."

Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.

Frank

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know."

What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.

I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.

Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.

Frank"

That's fair in my view. If there are non negotiables for you it's best to sort them out before you get too deep in

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.

Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.

Frank

That's fair in my view. If there are non negotiables for you it's best to sort them out before you get too deep in "

"too deep in"? That a pun?

Frank

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I haven’t had oral for 2 days now and it’s going to be at least another couple of day…

*insert violin music

K

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.

Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.

Frank

That's fair in my view. If there are non negotiables for you it's best to sort them out before you get too deep in

"too deep in"? That a pun?

Frank"

unintentional

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By *uicycock8Man
over a year ago

Norrh East & East midlands


"Go down on me?

No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral..

Do you go down on her? It's usually a two-way street.

Fannies are definitely a two way street "

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By *opetop4UMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.

So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.

Oh, and I love to reciprocate.

Frank"

100% agree with this!

Dumped!

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By *amie an ClaireCouple
over a year ago

surrey

Her : *gags

Him : is it too big?

Her : No it stinks!

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By *ackformore100 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Her : *gags

Him : is it too big?

Her : No it stinks!

"

I spat my tea out...

Maybe a little dab of vicks in the nostrils?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.

What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.

I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem "

Or that it's a requirement for sex. Almost every man I've had sex with expected me to give oral.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.

What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.

I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem

Or that it's a requirement for sex. Almost every man I've had sex with expected me to give oral. "

"Almost" but not all. Because most men like it, not all of us, but most. If a woman didn't want me to go down on her because she definitely didn't like it I'd respect her wishes. However, she wouldn't be considered for a long term partner as I do enjoy me some cunnilingus

Frank

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

Maybe she hasn't done it before & is nervous about not doing it well.

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By *ooleyMan
over a year ago

preston

My current FWB is not a fan. First time she went down on me, she glared and said she didn't want cum in her mouth. Fair enough. But I've noticed that she when she *does* give me a blowjob, she isn't enthusiastic or - and you know when a partner does - even enjoys it.

So, you know.. it's not going to be a long term thing with her.

Turns out blowjobs - good ones - are make-or-break for me! Gotta say, I'm often a little disappointed when we get together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she's worried you'll just cum in her mouth and not warn her first... Because maybe so many other guys have done that before she just says no and that's it.

Maybe she wants sex and doesn't want to give you a blow job thinking that if you cum she's out of luck.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.

What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.

I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem

Or that it's a requirement for sex. Almost every man I've had sex with expected me to give oral.

"Almost" but not all. Because most men like it, not all of us, but most. If a woman didn't want me to go down on her because she definitely didn't like it I'd respect her wishes. However, she wouldn't be considered for a long term partner as I do enjoy me some cunnilingus

Frank"

By almost I'm talking one or maybe two who didn't expect to be sucked. Some wanted to constantly stick their cock in my mouth.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"By almost I'm talking one or maybe two who didn't expect to be sucked. Some wanted to constantly stick their cock in my mouth. "

Sorry Nanna, you're either very unlucky or picking shitty lovers

Frank

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"By almost I'm talking one or maybe two who didn't expect to be sucked. Some wanted to constantly stick their cock in my mouth.

Sorry Nanna, you're either very unlucky or picking shitty lovers

Frank"

I've picked from all walks of life. I don't find submissive men appealing, so maybe I am picking shitty lovers.

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Because she doesn't want to???

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Only she can tell you.

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.

I would ask another question.

Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?

Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?

If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.

If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know."

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Not read all the comments but I'm assuming that your knob doesn't smell like Roquefort and you have a decent level of hygiene?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

How are things outside the bedroom op? Get that sorted and hopefully things will take their natural course in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go down on me?

No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral.. "

I'm sure people don't communicate with their partners

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Want me to ask if she will go down on me OP?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

You gotta groom that wilderbeast of a bastard!

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