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Friend Requests Prior To First Message?

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By *tarcrossed_Swingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Morning all!

We're really intrigued, what is the reasoning behind people inviting you as a friend without sending a message? This goes for all on the site?

I mean for us, we'd never do it without asking. There's a reason people have connections on here and keep face photos private. We've had people add us as friends but won't read our message?!

Thanks! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They want to perve you then will either talk to you or delete you again

Part of their decision making process

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I regularly get it, i always ignore. I wouldn’t add a random stranger as a friend on other platform’s so i wont here

I think its so they can see your friends only photos or as a way to initiate conversation

Like you i like to talk before adding as a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's as simple as a slip of the finger on a touchscreen. More than once I've tried to send a wink, but sent a friend request instead as the two are close together. And there's no way to "recall" a friend request!

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By *ibi_curiousCouple
over a year ago

Shepperton

We also get friend requests before a message. We think they just want to see our private pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say that I'm a target for this type of request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to us a lot and we never accept. We assume it’s people wanting something new to rub one out over much prefer chatting to people and then add to friends if we all want to see a little more of each other.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens to us a lot and we never accept. We assume it’s people wanting something new to rub one out over much prefer chatting to people and then add to friends if we all want to see a little more of each other.

Mr"

Sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They want access to your friends only pics. That's it. Lol. I always delete friend requests

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

It happens all the time.

Just decline, decline, decline...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens all the time.

Just decline, decline, decline... "

Awwwww

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

If i receive an unsolicited one, and they are fairly local, i may accept,view their private pics and likely unfriend within a minute

But mostly, unless I know someone, I don't accept.

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By *tarcrossed_Swingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Looks like we're all in agreement! We get it from alot of women surprisingly but it pretty much concludes they aren't real to us!

Couples and men are strange as it's like you need to stand out and despite our profile saying we'll never accept, they still do it! Left us thinking why why why!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Some people in hot pics will accept friends requests so then when they post a new pic they have a fan base already there ready to FAB it.

We must have over 1,000 people who have sent a friends request and we’ve not accepted - they can’t ask again, so they get left there.

Our friends are people we’ve met, we enjoy chatting to or who we want to meet.

K

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By *emma200Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I never send a request invite without a conversation first … and asking if I can.. I’d like to see if there’s some kind of connection there first

I don’t know why people do send them without even talking to you… they just get ignored! X

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

They want to see more intimate pics of people, not actually be friends with them. It’s the I want to perve, don't ask, don't get mindset

I don't have friends pics, so I accept just to see theirs

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby


"They want to see more intimate pics of people, not actually be friends with them. It’s the I want to perve, don't ask, don't get mindset

I don't have friends pics, so I accept just to see theirs "

Excellent x

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By *ewby01327Man
over a year ago

Daventry

Would never dream of sending or accepting without prior conversations first.

Even in the forums I’d always exchange messages beforehand

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

I always reject them

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

It’s a blatant perv thing. I get loads that actually bother sending a message too.

“Hot pics would love to see more, can we be friends, I’ve sent a friend request”

Just ignore them, I don’t even bother looking in my friend requests, unless I’m discussing it with someone and we agree to be friends and they’ve sent the request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a blatant perv thing. I get loads that actually bother sending a message too.

“Hot pics would love to see more, can we be friends, I’ve sent a friend request”

Just ignore them, I don’t even bother looking in my friend requests, unless I’m discussing it with someone and we agree to be friends and they’ve sent the request. "

Definitely a perve...

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

They just want to see your friends only pics..

I have never accepted any friends request, they are still all sat there..haha

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"They want access to your friends only pics. That's it. Lol. I always delete friend requests "

Yep exactly this

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

They just want to wank over pics

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Morning all!

We're really intrigued, what is the reasoning behind people inviting you as a friend without sending a message? This goes for all on the site?

I mean for us, we'd never do it without asking. There's a reason people have connections on here and keep face photos private. We've had people add us as friends but won't read our message?!

Thanks! X"

We rarely get them these days for one reason.

We have no friends only photos. At all. Not one.

Given the main reason people make random friends requests is to see more content of you then the easiest way to deter people is to not have any.

Our face pics are in a private album and that's all. Everything else is visible to all.

We never delete the random requests though as it stops them sending another.

A

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I would only accept or send friends request to people I have actually met in real life, with small exceptions.

I won’t accept friends request from random strangers but also won’t decline, so they can’t send again

It doesn’t happen often as I don’t have currently any friends only content for them to perve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to us all the time. Especially from people with no pics, and barely any profile. They are deleted fairly swiftly! We are happy to receive messages from anyone, and if interested we will reply. It’s not difficult?!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Or when they send a friend request & wink at same time ?.

No idea why they think anyone would accept one from someone who has made no effort to contact them before.

I often wait till they're offline to add them,look at their pics & delete them again.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

It's strange as if anyone would accept one without chatting first. Winks I understand, random friends requests, no.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
over a year ago

coleraine

Picture hunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get this constantly even though it’s in our profile to please not send one would much rather have a message.

I don’t under the logic to it? I’ve asked a few who have send us one and I’ve had the same reply (just trying my luck lol) now it’s just a block and delete

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Pic collectors.

I'm only friends with people I meet.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

leave them there.

wait till they go offline.

accept, look at the pics.

delete friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unwanted friend requests get left there as then they can’t send again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"leave them there.

wait till they go offline.

accept, look at the pics.

delete friend. "

I must admit, I have done this on the odd occasion.

In answer to the OP though, I really don't understand the point of sending an unsolicited friend request without any prior communication.

Perhaps those people who do this could explain their reasoning.

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way


"Morning all!

We're really intrigued, what is the reasoning behind people inviting you as a friend without sending a message? This goes for all on the site?

I mean for us, we'd never do it without asking. There's a reason people have connections on here and keep face photos private. We've had people add us as friends but won't read our message?!

Thanks! X"

I get this all the time. I guess they’re hoping to see the ‘hidden treasure’ that is the friends pictures I just leave it and don’t decline or accept as then they can’t request again

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"Or when they send a friend request & wink at same time ?.

"

Double poke, more exposure

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By *tarcrossed_Swingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

We have no shame in admitting to 'accept/delete' thing once or twice haha

Some of them are too daft to realise we've done it too!

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"Morning all!

We're really intrigued, what is the reasoning behind people inviting you as a friend without sending a message? This goes for all on the site?

I mean for us, we'd never do it without asking. There's a reason people have connections on here and keep face photos private. We've had people add us as friends but won't read our message?!

Thanks! X"

They want to see your pics.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

They're not seeing my private pics unless I want to see theirs too. They're too explicit to just hand out to any horny rando.

I normally always ignore the friend requests.

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By *mashingPumpkinMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen

It’s just rude

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

My experience is that random friend requests usually come from the hotpic hoggers who need to keep their numbers up.

I ignore them all but never delete them so they can't send another.

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By *ackonceagain1777Couple
over a year ago

West Mids

Block and delete for us

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By *offee Cocktails and CumCouple
over a year ago

Waterlooville

Block delete…

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Morning all!

We're really intrigued, what is the reasoning behind people inviting you as a friend without sending a message? This goes for all on the site?

I mean for us, we'd never do it without asking. There's a reason people have connections on here and keep face photos private. We've had people add us as friends but won't read our message?!

Thanks! X"

They’re asking you to block them, but can’t get the words out

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Morning all!

We're really intrigued, what is the reasoning behind people inviting you as a friend without sending a message? This goes for all on the site?

I mean for us, we'd never do it without asking. There's a reason people have connections on here and keep face photos private. We've had people add us as friends but won't read our message?!

Thanks! X"

May as well ask what's the meaning of life....

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Chancing their arm for wank material?

Hoping to see a face pic?

Answers on twitter, postcards are so last century!

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