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"Fuck it " ........................... What happened to the new adventure?! | |||
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective. The mr " We do, but that doesn't mean we don't have shit days. | |||
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"I don't think some of these answers are fair. It doesn't matter who you are or where you live we can all have problems. Look at Robin Williams" Exactly this, none of us know what other people are going through so snarky comments about living in a first world country etc are just not necessary | |||
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"Life is what you make it... " Not always. Sometimes shit happens. | |||
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"Fuck it " Hug. | |||
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective. The mr " Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response Mem don't talk about their mental health which is why so many men die by means of suicide. Shutting down conversations with a comment like that just serves to re-affirm the stigma around men opening g up about their feelings | |||
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective. The mr Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response Mem don't talk about their mental health which is why so many men die by means of suicide. Shutting down conversations with a comment like that just serves to re-affirm the stigma around men opening g up about their feelings" 100% absolutely. People answering that others are worse off etc, need to do one, they are just stopping those who reach out from actually getting help if needed. | |||
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective. The mr " Perspective is useful, but someone’s pain is still valid, regardless of how bad someone else has it. Op, sorry you’re feeling like that . Hope things look up soon. | |||
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"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down " God no. For most of us, it costs us almost nothing to wish you well. Be well. | |||
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"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down God no. For most of us, it costs us almost nothing to wish you well. Be well." Your very kind | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it " I’ve seen a lot of threads where people have got help with their mental health. Whatever works for you. | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it " Feel free to inbox me if you need to vent... I've been right down at the bottom xx | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it " It can be wonderful - and not so. If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term. I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP. | |||
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"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down " You've not dragged me down mate Plenty of people will always listen and support on here. | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it " Don’t think there’s much more to add than has already been said, but wanted to just let you know that I hear you. It’s hard when you feel low, but know that you’re never as alone as you actually think you are. Always talk to someone - whether it’s a random friendly stranger here, Samaritans or someone else, just talk!!! | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it It can be wonderful - and not so. If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term. I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP." As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother. I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am | |||
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"Op lots of people open up on here about their problems and get support. You've had support on this thread just a shame about a couple of crass comments" Thank you | |||
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"What happened to the lovely cheese thread " Sorry guys | |||
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective. The mr Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response Mem don't talk about their mental health which is why so many men die by means of suicide. Shutting down conversations with a comment like that just serves to re-affirm the stigma around men opening g up about their feelings" We agree it wasn't a very kind thing to say. With remarks like that its no wonder men find it hard to open up and get help when they need it. | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it It can be wonderful - and not so. If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term. I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP. As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother. I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am " That's awful. I'm very sorry. I wish you better - I hope the world is becoming more accepting of mental health problems - everyone's mental health problems. | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it It can be wonderful - and not so. If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term. I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP. As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother. I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am " Look after yourself. Just try keeping on and ignore some of the crass comments from people on this thread. | |||
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective. The mr " Go and find yours then...perspective that is. | |||
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"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it It can be wonderful - and not so. If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term. I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP. As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother. I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am " Have you considered bereavement counselling, there's quite a few charities that offer it without tue huge waiting lists? Even if it was a while ago, of yiu are struggling to accept it this may help? | |||
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"Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure.." Definitely ... | |||
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"Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure.. Definitely ..." It’s so damaging to invalidate peoples feelings like this | |||
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"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective. The mr " I mean, I absolutely subscribe to this for my own life. Just not very helpful to others here right now. This maybe is something to think about for you if it helps rather than to impart on others? | |||
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"Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful. The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post. " I can't understand it either. Some of these comments sadden me | |||
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"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down " Sometimes ya gotta drag people down a little before they can drag you up a lot. Ignore people who watch you while you’re down there. Life isn’t shit, it just feels like it sometimes. But unless you’re on fire you can choose when to deal with things, pick your fights and pick your moments. If today isn’t that day then don’t fight. Go find a little peace. It’ll be there when you’re feeling up to dealing with it, and the big black dog won’t seem so big. | |||
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"Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure.." What a shitty comment | |||
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"Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful. The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post. " This And I thought the Forums were welcoming to all. People who are new are told to; "get stuck in, comment on threads, get involved and people will get to know you" the comments on this thread are the reason people don't and the reason people feel alienated. Nobody's mental health should be negated or belittled. Yes maybe there are people worse off but that just invalidates what that person is going through. Nobody deserved to feel invalidated Seek some support OP, and remember tomorrow is another day. Small steps | |||
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"I know there are people worse of than me .. but I’m not selfish I’m struggling and today was a bad day " Hope you're ok OP. I'm sure we are all aware there are people in the world worse off than us but when you're feeling shit that thought doesn't make you feel better. It's ok to be selfish about how YOU feel when you're having a bad day. I'd echo what someone said above about bereavement counselling if you're still struggling with losing your dad And never feel like you can't reach out on here, despite the few earlier comments there are lots of people on the forums who are happy to listen and offer advice if that's what you're needing. | |||
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"OP sorry to hear you are struggling. My father also took his life, it was 28 years ago, I'm still not 'over it', not sure you can be, but you can learn to live with it. Pls feel free to message if you feel the need " I’m so sorry | |||
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"I know there are people worse of than me .. but I’m not selfish I’m struggling and today was a bad day Hope you're ok OP. I'm sure we are all aware there are people in the world worse off than us but when you're feeling shit that thought doesn't make you feel better. It's ok to be selfish about how YOU feel when you're having a bad day. I'd echo what someone said above about bereavement counselling if you're still struggling with losing your dad And never feel like you can't reach out on here, despite the few earlier comments there are lots of people on the forums who are happy to listen and offer advice if that's what you're needing. " Thank you | |||
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