FabSwingers.com forum: Life is shit

By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Fuck it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is what you make it...

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By *dventurousSexplorersCouple
over a year ago

Fantasy Land

Well that had a quick turn around…

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By *ildhunter2023Man
over a year ago

glos

Remember left and right and finish your journey on the g spot

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure..

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Fuck it "

...........................

What happened to the new adventure?!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Won't lie today has been shit. Not quite ready to say fuck it, let's go bowling, just yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that's shit, I think lots of people are going through the same

Head up, move forward. Tomorrow is another day

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, sometimes it is. But other times it's good. We all have bad days, if you're having a lot of bad days in succession, possibly worth seeing your GP for a chat.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It can seem pretty shit at times.

I tell myself there are better days to come when my day is a bit shit.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

What happened to the lovely cheese thread

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr "

We do, but that doesn't mean we don't have shit days.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't think some of these answers are fair. It doesn't matter who you are or where you live we can all have problems.

Look at Robin Williams

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I don't think some of these answers are fair. It doesn't matter who you are or where you live we can all have problems.

Look at Robin Williams"

Exactly this, none of us know what other people are going through so snarky comments about living in a first world country etc are just not necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what, it absolutely can be. Do you want to get off your chest whatever is bothering you? Sometimes just talking about it and people listening can make you feel better. None of the 'other people have it worse' or 'chin up it will get better' bollocks. Have your moment to speak and I hope it finds you some peace of mind.

If you have something that you need support solving, just make it clear and hopefully you will get some serious answers to support you.

I hope you get some peace and feel better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry to hear you’re having troubles OP and don’t want to make light of whatever situation you may be finding yourself in. The only thing I try to do when feeling the same way is try to inject some humour into my life.

With that in mind, may I humbly present Tim Minchin and Some people have it worse than I

https://youtu.be/QHuSvFRUBAQ

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"Life is what you make it...

Not always. Sometimes shit happens.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Fuck it "

Hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd start wearing purple

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

It can be pal, just keep fighting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are feeling shit or life is dragging you down, please do not be afraid to talk to people.

For me personally it helped and still helps immeasurably

Sending positive vibes x

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

...when you look at it. * Starts whistling *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive words

But life is what we all make of it

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

And then you die,,,

But not today OP

Today is TOT,

Be happy

Tomorrow can be shit again.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr "

Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response

Mem don't talk about their mental health which is why so many men die by means of suicide. Shutting down conversations with a comment like that just serves to re-affirm the stigma around men opening g up about their feelings

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

OP life can be truly shit, and I know I'm one of at least 2 people on this thread who have seen the darkest of times. But we're both still here still fighting and still surviving.

However shit life feels and however bleak it feels, as cliched as it sounds, life does get better.

Reach out, seek support tell your friends, post on the mental health threads on here, speak to mental gwLth charities, speak to your GP, theresca lot of people that will help you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr

Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response

100% absolutely. People answering that others are worse off etc, need to do one, they are just stopping those who reach out from actually getting help if needed.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I hope you feel better soon, OP, and know that it's OK to reach out for help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr "

Perspective is useful, but someone’s pain is still valid, regardless of how bad someone else has it.

Op, sorry you’re feeling like that

Hope things look up soon.

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down "

God no. For most of us, it costs us almost nothing to wish you well.

Be well.

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down

God no. For most of us, it costs us almost nothing to wish you well.

Be well."

Your very kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it "

I’ve seen a lot of threads where people have got help with their mental health. Whatever works for you.

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it "

Feel free to inbox me if you need to vent... I've been right down at the bottom xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it "

It can be wonderful - and not so.

If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.

I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down "

You've not dragged me down mate

Plenty of people will always listen and support on here.

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it "

Don’t think there’s much more to add than has already been said, but wanted to just let you know that I hear you.

It’s hard when you feel low, but know that you’re never as alone as you actually think you are. Always talk to someone - whether it’s a random friendly stranger here, Samaritans or someone else, just talk!!!

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it

It can be wonderful - and not so.

If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.

I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP."

As a sufferer of mental health it takes strength to talk about ithave support from family and friends But is a different matter I work as an engineer and it’s so hard to talk to other men about mental health issues as it’s a taboo

Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.

I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op lots of people open up on here about their problems and get support. You've had support on this thread just a shame about a couple of crass comments

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Op lots of people open up on here about their problems and get support. You've had support on this thread just a shame about a couple of crass comments"

Thank you

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"What happened to the lovely cheese thread

Sorry guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr

Im sorry but that seems an incredibly crass response

We agree it wasn't a very kind thing to say.

With remarks like that its no wonder men find it hard to open up and get help when they need it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it

It can be wonderful - and not so.

If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.

I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP.

Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.

I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am

That's awful. I'm very sorry.

I wish you better - I hope the world is becoming more accepting of mental health problems - everyone's mental health problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it

It can be wonderful - and not so.

If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.

I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP.

Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.

I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am

Look after yourself.

Just try keeping on and ignore some of the crass comments from people on this thread.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr "

Go and find yours then...perspective that is.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Just have a lot going it’s hard don’t know if this site is the right place to talk about it

It can be wonderful - and not so.

If you're in a very bad place, the Samaritans can help you centre yourself in the immediate term.

I know it's challenging, but also try to speak to your GP.

Wished my father would have talked about his issues maybe he wouldn’t have committed suicide it’s so hard to deal with the aftermath the effect it had on myself as well as mom and my brother.

I have suffered ever since and have recently been diagnosed with a border line personality disorder which has a stigma all on its own .., I just want to be judged on who i am

Have you considered bereavement counselling, there's quite a few charities that offer it without tue huge waiting lists? Even if it was a while ago, of yiu are struggling to accept it this may help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m fucking it up and it’s not going well at all

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By *teph BitchTV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

"Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure.."

Definitely ...

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

watched my late Hubby die of cancer at age 58 in april 2016 and found myself a widow at 56 after 40 years of marriage

squeeze every drop of joy out of life before you cant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure..

Definitely ..."

It’s so damaging to invalidate peoples feelings like this

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

OP it’s just a phase.

Go for a walk

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

"Not really, I mean you do live in a first world country, life’s all about perspective.

The mr "

I mean, I absolutely subscribe to this for my own life. Just not very helpful to others here right now. This maybe is something to think about for you if it helps rather than to impart on others?

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful.

The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful.

The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post.

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I can't understand it either. Some of these comments sadden me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sorry I’ve dragged everyone down "

Sometimes ya gotta drag people down a little before they can drag you up a lot. Ignore people who watch you while you’re down there.

Life isn’t shit, it just feels like it sometimes. But unless you’re on fire you can choose when to deal with things, pick your fights and pick your moments. If today isn’t that day then don’t fight. Go find a little peace. It’ll be there when you’re feeling up to dealing with it, and the big black dog won’t seem so big.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

"Maybe so..but there's plenty of people on this planet with far shittier lives that would be more than happy to trade places with you I'm sure.."

What a shitty comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life can be shit for everyone and life can be amazing for everyone

Just remember good words to live by ...

No matter how dark the moment, love and hope are always possible.

George Chakiris

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

When you start to feel down do the opposite of what your depression wants you to do. Ie stay in bed it’s nice in here. Get up (I know it’s the hardest thing in the world to do) and keep moving don’t sit down don’t have a cuppa tea and put off. Get clothes on and go for a 20min walk. The fresh air and light hitting your eyes and the exercise will help a lot.

And remember this isn’t you normally and you will be the real you again.

Some how find the strength to keep moving. Don’t sit and stay still.

It’s taken me a long time to see my patterns and if you can see the signs early and have the strength to get out the house go for a walk. 20 mins minimum do more if possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is what you make it...

Can't escape it

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thank you all for the kind words

And for all the good advice !

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I know there are people worse of than me ..

but I’m not selfish I’m struggling and today was a bad day

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

OP sorry to hear you are struggling. My father also took his life, it was 28 years ago, I'm still not 'over it', not sure you can be, but you can learn to live with it. Pls feel free to message if you feel the need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly this site is usually so good in the subject of mental health but this thread is just awful.

The OP has said he feels like men talking mental health is a taboo and people seem intent on reaffirming that belief by repeatedly invalidating hos post.

This

And I thought the Forums were welcoming to all. People who are new are told to; "get stuck in, comment on threads, get involved and people will get to know you" the comments on this thread are the reason people don't and the reason people feel alienated.

Nobody's mental health should be negated or belittled. Yes maybe there are people worse off but that just invalidates what that person is going through. Nobody deserved to feel invalidated

Seek some support OP, and remember tomorrow is another day. Small steps

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Same here, life can be shit sometimes..its not all roses.

Have alot going on myself but I try and focus on the good points and use the gym alot which is my safe space

Have my family to help me and keep me going.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know there are people worse of than me ..

but I’m not selfish I’m struggling and today was a bad day "

Hope you're ok OP. I'm sure we are all aware there are people in the world worse off than us but when you're feeling shit that thought doesn't make you feel better. It's ok to be selfish about how YOU feel when you're having a bad day.

I'd echo what someone said above about bereavement counselling if you're still struggling with losing your dad

And never feel like you can't reach out on here, despite the few earlier comments there are lots of people on the forums who are happy to listen and offer advice if that's what you're needing.

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"OP sorry to hear you are struggling. My father also took his life, it was 28 years ago, I'm still not 'over it', not sure you can be, but you can learn to live with it. Pls feel free to message if you feel the need

I’m so sorry

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By *ycom72 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I know there are people worse of than me ..

but I’m not selfish I’m struggling and today was a bad day

I'd echo what someone said above about bereavement counselling if you're still struggling with losing your dad

And never feel like you can't reach out on here, despite the few earlier comments there are lots of people on the forums who are happy to listen and offer advice if that's what you're needing. "

Thank you

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