FabSwingers.com forum: Do you go out by yourself?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To a restaurant, pub, cinema or anywhere else usually for 2 people or more where there will lots of people.

Could you spend a day alone in a big city like london and visit tourist attractions and enjoy yourself?

Years ago I couldn't do it. It would make me nervous. I'd avoid and think I looked a loner etc. Now I couldn't care less and love it.

Have you experienced that?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Yep all the time. I love it

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By *essicagraceWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

I do it lots and it's perfect for me. So glad I'm not alone in being happy alone

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"To a restaurant, pub, cinema or anywhere else usually for 2 people or more where there will lots of people.

Could you spend a day alone in a big city like london and visit tourist attractions and enjoy yourself?

Years ago I couldn't do it. It would make me nervous. I'd avoid and think I looked a loner etc. Now I couldn't care less and love it.

Have you experienced that? "
no choice really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup all the time. I travel with work so im always on my own doesnt really bother me, i can please myself then with no-one to answer to!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Yep all the time. I love it

Same for me.

I do all the things I want to, on my own.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Happy in my own company. But when I'm out alone I find I talk to more people. I ask locals for advice and just chat generally.

So, ironically, I spend more time interacting than many couples who seem to spend time on their phone and ignore each other

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill

Yep. Especially the cinema in London, I'm all about the movie

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By *uggy55TV/TS
over a year ago

Fife

Relish the time by myself, which is rare, with work and social things going on. I certainly jump at the chance when I get it.

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I do, but then I think it's easier for a guy I guess.

Just back from London and had a great time,

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Don’t have a choice, I’m happy doing so.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

God yes. I love it. I’m flying away for 5 days on my own next week. Can’t bloody wait.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I’ve been to all sorts of places on my own for work stuff - lots of European cities and even to the US. So now I don’t have a problem. Always in cafes by myself, and sometimes restaurants and even the cinema if there is something I really want to see and Ailsa can’t come.

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By *mo512Man
over a year ago

LONDON

I mainly do this with concerts and gigs. My friends and I have very different tastes in music.

And going to cinema alone is one of my fav things to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm not subject to anxiety, I love exploring on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in the past as I've worked away from home a lot. In general though as I've been in long term relationships most of my life I haven't really and certainly not with a view to meeting someone whilst out (not that the topic intones this is why you are out BTW).

Is it actually harder for women to go out alone? I'm guessing that you get approached more often than not whilst out especially in pubs for instance wether you want to be or not and there's the safety element getting to and from etc that can't exactly be encouraging to go out alone. As a guy I've never experienced the latter safety element so walking to and from a pub at night has never been a concern for me

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Yes indeed

I am by far the most interesting person I know and love my own company.

Also, certainly as regards sight seeing, I find I can actually take the time to enjoy it and savour it far more alone, without the conversation of others interjecting over it.

Jesus….I sound like a tight miserable, antisocial sod now don’t I?

I will now go and fondle my own buttocks

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes, I'm happy in my own company and often go out by myself to take photos.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I find it quite difficult to make friends (recently found out I have social anxiety) and my family don't live locally so if Mr R is busy with sports etc I'm more than happy to go out and about by myself. I've no problem being in restaurants or cafes alone as I usually have a book on Kindle app on the go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mainly do this with concerts and gigs. My friends and I have very different tastes in music.

And going to cinema alone is one of my fav things to do."

And Weymouth haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I recently went to the opera alone and I would happily go to a big town or city alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t now but when I was single I did loads of stuff like that by myself. Never a restaurant though, don’t know why but I wouldn’t have the guts for that!

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By *uggy55TV/TS
over a year ago

Fife

Recently went to a gig in Edinburgh on own, mainly because my friend couldn’t make it. Had a great night and met some wonderful people there. X

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By *ill69888Couple
over a year ago

cheltenham

When I was 21 (hubby), I went to Australia for 3 months on my own. It’s much better as people are generally more friendly if you are on your own.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"When I was 21 (hubby), I went to Australia for 3 months on my own. It’s much better as people are generally more friendly if you are on your own."

Maybe it's because I'm an older woman but I find people very unfriendly to people who are on their own

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

Absolutely all the time. Even of the Greece tomorrow on my own. It's great going with someone else but not gonna let anything stop me doing the things I want to do. Plus I'm a very sociable person so usually end up chatting with other people.

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Yes

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Yeah all the time and I love it

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By *mo512Man
over a year ago

LONDON

"I mainly do this with concerts and gigs. My friends and I have very different tastes in music.

And going to cinema alone is one of my fav things to do.

And Weymouth haha

Oh definitely Weymouth

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Do it all the time. Never really bothered me.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"To a restaurant, pub, cinema or anywhere else usually for 2 people or more where there will lots of people.

Could you spend a day alone in a big city like london and visit tourist attractions and enjoy yourself?

Years ago I couldn't do it. It would make me nervous. I'd avoid and think I looked a loner etc. Now I couldn't care less and love it.

Have you experienced that? "

I go and do stuff on my own, yes. I stick out like a sore thumb anyway, and so I've learned to ignore any odd looks and just enjoy myself.

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

Yes, i have done it and still would.

I like my own company

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"To a restaurant, pub, cinema or anywhere else usually for 2 people or more where there will lots of people.

Could you spend a day alone in a big city like london and visit tourist attractions and enjoy yourself?

Years ago I couldn't do it. It would make me nervous. I'd avoid and think I looked a loner etc. Now I couldn't care less and love it.

Have you experienced that? "

Nope! I hate doing stuff on my own, not because I’m shy or nervous, because I want to share experiences with someone I like. Whether that’s a friend or partner it matters not. I want to share the experience as we have it, then talk about the memories long afterwards. That enriches everything immeasurably, to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have in the past as I've worked away from home a lot. In general though as I've been in long term relationships most of my life I haven't really and certainly not with a view to meeting someone whilst out (not that the topic intones this is why you are out BTW).

To be fair I've not braved a bar or pub alone but that's down to the fact I hardly ever drink. I'd go to a pub for food though. But yes I think some places would deter a woman from going alone.

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes I do all the time , I like my own company over spending time with someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes indeed

I am by far the most interesting person I know and love my own company.

Also, certainly as regards sight seeing, I find I can actually take the time to enjoy it and savour it far more alone, without the conversation of others interjecting over it.

Jesus….I sound like a tight miserable, antisocial sod now don’t I?

I will now go and fondle my own buttocks

No you don't at all. Isn't that the point though, not having anyone else to think about or listen to allows for you to fully enjoy any experience at your own leisurely place, and ponder if you need to.

I love an art gallery and going with someone else just isn't the same.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I've been so used to doing things as a couple going bars clubs concerts cinema even walking along the southbank by river Thames so doing them things alone i couldn't. I've been to a bar waiting on a mate jeeeez he took forever, I've never seen anyone sit in a bar alone on a Friday evening but I did and found it awkward as there normally group guys or girls together on night out. So basically I rather do stuff with a partner or friends more fun too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pubs are my go to social environment really. I like food and beer and wine and gin

I don't generally have people bother me when I am out if I don't wanna talk to anyone

I would definitely go back to the natural history museum on my own as my pesky kids pulled me from pillar to post last time (yes we went for them I know) and I didn't spend much time in the bits I wanted to see.

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By *lemFandango23TV/TS
over a year ago

Clarkston

I work away a lot and have not really kept in touch with people back home so when I am home I do a lot on my own, for holidays I am always away by myself, most of the time it’s London I go to, much easier to get good theatre tickets for 1

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes

At times when plans just fall apart if I'm dressed and ready to go I'm going regardless I'm a sociable guy doesn't get lonely for long. Plus I've done a fair bit of travelling on my own and just jump in head first if I like it I'm doing it's amazing how many friends you're able to gather in this journey of life

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

A meal no, I like chatting with someone as I'm eating and drinking.

Sight seeing or museum and such like, more than happy by myself. Even if I go to a museum with the other half, I tend to loose him for a considerable amount of time as we're concentrating on what we're looking at.

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yep , cinema , gigs , day trips in foreign cities

Learnt a long time ago sometimes doing things by your self is much more fun

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"A meal no, I like chatting with someone as I'm eating and drinking.

You meant he tries to lose you but you find him eventually

My parents tried this in a big shopping center when I was young

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

One pf the things that I noticed when I moved from London to Hertfordshire is that eating alone is seen as weird here but in London no one gave you a second look.

I have no issues doing things alone,I very much like my own company

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By *ames_HertsMan
over a year ago

North Hertfordshire

Went for an Italian on Saturday on my own, it was pre marathon carb loading though. I do like a solo pint every now and again though

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"A meal no, I like chatting with someone as I'm eating and drinking.

You meant he tries to lose you but you find him eventually

My parents tried this in a big shopping center when I was young

Idiot!!! I have a tendency of wondering off when I'm in museums. Who'd want to loose me on purpose? I mean I'm amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have track my location on each others phones switched on so we can find each other when we wander off and get lost

Very handy also on the three occasions so far this year she's lost her phone whilst out

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Yes. It can be a little but lonely, but I have no other option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always prefer company, but I have no issues going out by myself. Street photography, my hobby, offers a perfect excuse anyway.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Yep all the time. I love it

Same for me.

I do all the things I want to, on my own.

That’s because you rock

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I prefer to go places on my own especially when travelling abroad and things like cinema, parties, bars etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live in Leicester work in London say many a times in a pub on my own even did the London eye on my own would be nice for more people to be up for socials

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

All the time. It is all I do between flights. Enjoying the sights, restaurants, places of interest. 95% of the time all by myself and enjoying it every minute.

I have always been very happy in my own company.

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By *otmyrealname99Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes love it. All the energy and bustle of a crowd without the need to actually engage in it unless I want to. Heaven

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By *rotic_massueMan
over a year ago

london

Before having a partner i loved going out to take photos, especially when fountains in London were half frozen.

Now i am so busy that i only go out with my partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often go out alone. I enjoy meeting new people and being solo often makes that easier.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I can and I do.

And then I have experiences where sharing those moments with someone special is transcendent.

I can have moments of pure joy just talking to someone on a wall in dingy corner, of a tired old town.

I've been on a date to Alton tower and we spent 4 hours, drinking coffee and eating doughnuts lol

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

All the time. It is all I do between flights. Enjoying the sights, restaurants, places of interest. 95% of the time all by myself and enjoying it every minute.

I have always been very happy in my own company.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I go on holiday by myself, it does take a bit of getting used to though. Once you get used to is it is fantastic as you can do what you want when you want without thinking about others wants and needs.

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By *pen2UMan
over a year ago

Telford

I've built up enough confidence to go out to the cinema by myself but would to gain the confidence to explore the world by myself eventually!

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Would I go abroad, pub drinking, fancy restaurant by myself.... No.

But would I go visit a city, coast, a gig, cinema, eating in a pub by myself... Yes and have done.

It's all about what you're comfortable with.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I used to.

But since becoming unemployed, covid caused me mental health issues and then cost of living issues have become unbearable.

So now I am Pinkynomates and stay home unless I go and meet friends or go to socials.

AND while I am having my teeth sorted I wont be going out until August.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes I have done. When I was well enough I would travel to a different town. Take myself for a nice lunch. That was one of my favourite things to do.

My sister went back packing round eastern Europe for three months and came back with a husband

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I'd never have anything in my life had I not just done it on my own.

I love traveling and wandering a city in my own although I've never gone abroad solo. This is more to do with time and money.

Planning on booking a Bruges Christmas market this year though

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By *aveonMan
over a year ago

Dartford

Reading this all with interest - I never ever get time alone and frankly I’m very envious of you all - key thing is that you go where you want, when it suits you

Now I don’t want to tempt fate, but the thought of holidaying alone and going out alone is something I’d love to do

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

I’ve done a few music festivals on me tod, including Glastonbury and a few small ones.

Also done a gig and pubs alone too. It can mate you chat to people more than you would if you want the interaction.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I've been on holiday on my own but as you meet people it's easier to get something to eat or drink in company. People watching is more or less a given abroad too so you feel less uncomfortable as than you would in a restaurant down the road, where you're usually hurried along.

Going out then for a drink or meal for me is a no, I don't drink (or at least not enough to spur me into getting myself one in at the local), and I can't relax enough to enjoy a meal by myself - Same with the cinema, I know plenty do, just most are an anticlimax anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do it lots and it's perfect for me. So glad I'm not alone in being happy alone

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do and I really enjoy my solo adventures most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my best nights out. Moved quicker than a drop of a hat when I had no responsibilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always prefer company, but I have no issues going out by myself. Street photography, my hobby, offers a perfect excuse anyway."

I'd love to do street photography but I just worry about hassle and standing out. I feel like a guilty criminal whenever I try.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"A meal no, I like chatting with someone as I'm eating and drinking.

You meant he tries to lose you but you find him eventually

My parents tried this in a big shopping center when I was young

Idiot!!! I have a tendency of wondering off when I'm in museums. Who'd want to loose me on purpose? I mean I'm amazing

You shouldn't call yourself a idiot, it's not your fault you get yourself lost

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not often, not by choice. Because I travel a lot it happens though and am OK with it but I’d rather be with people.

The exception would be street photography, prefer to be alone for that. I like the idea of cinema alone but never done it.

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I always prefer company, but I have no issues going out by myself. Street photography, my hobby, offers a perfect excuse anyway.

I'd love to do street photography but I just worry about hassle and standing out. I feel like a guilty criminal whenever I try.

I once had someone try and stop me doing that ,saying it was health and safety and not allowed

Silly fool

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By *oanne ETV/TS
over a year ago

Near Warrington

Been going away on my own for 8 years since the wicked witch flew off and that includes home and abroad . I also go to live music, festivals etc on my own. I love it but the only thing I miss sometimes is going out for dinner.

I've also had a lot more sex than I could ever imagine

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Last October I did my first ever proper solo mini break , 5 days street photography in Lisbon, and a nice spa hotel. Long days from 5am to get sunrise and avoid crowds , mid day naps and back out for sunsets, but I got bored after and ended up on Tinder dates most evenings

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I go to the cinema alone reguarly

I also grab a coffee or bite to eat alone,in a cafe if i'm out mooching.

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By *rC99Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Up until a couple of years ago (due to shifts changing in work) i always went for a night out every weekend on my own. I also go to concerts, the ballet, the cinema etc on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not without

My mum dad

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By *ornyguyMan
over a year ago

Hillsborough, NI

Happy to go to restaurants on my own, usually if working away or just out and about on my own and need food.

I often go to concerts on my own, I am there to enjoy the music and not needing someone to chat to. If it's a rock concert I'd probably abandon the people I'm with anyway and end up in a crush at the front.

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

Absolutely I love been out n about on my tod.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Never at the cinema but if I have an appetite can eat for two

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Been to a gig on my own but never cinema, restaurant or where it's expected to be +1 or more. I can city sight-see on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular. Atleast im guaranteed intelligent conversation and it's cost effective.

All jokes aside i do go out alone regular. Bit of a loner tbh.

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By *unCycleGymRepeatMan
over a year ago

Greater London

I can do it and have done so but I hate it TBH.

I really enjoy the company of others so try and drag anyone I can find with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last October I did my first ever proper solo mini break , 5 days street photography in Lisbon, and a nice spa hotel. Long days from 5am to get sunrise and avoid crowds , mid day naps and back out for sunsets, but I got bored after and ended up on Tinder dates most evenings"

I find this with holidays, as a single mum traveling with children, they would crash out and the loneliness would hit.

This year as they are much older it might not happen.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

All the time otherwise I’d be sat at home alone every night. Not really got anyone else to do those things, why should I make my life small just because there’s no one else to share it with?

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Yep. Especially the cinema in London, I'm all about the movie"

And not sharing popcorn is the best!

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

A mate of mine used to go to the cinema alone which i thought was wierd, until i did it. I do recommend, no one asking me stupid questions or interrupting.

Other than that i can go out alone no problem.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I have done but I’ll chat to anyone

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Not usually, at times when have been feeling really down I’ve went to pub myself but that’s only been a handful of times

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

"To a restaurant, pub, cinema or anywhere else usually for 2 people or more where there will lots of people.

Could you spend a day alone in a big city like london and visit tourist attractions and enjoy yourself?

Years ago I couldn't do it. It would make me nervous. I'd avoid and think I looked a loner etc. Now I couldn't care less and love it.

Have you experienced that? "

I have been to the cinema on my own and for some reason I had to work myself up to actually walk in alone haha can’t believe I was nervous about it

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By *alkingbootsMan
over a year ago

cavan

Going to pdi next Sunday for two weeks on my own I’ll probably do most of my talking to waiters

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I have done so for many years, also I was 25 on my first solo holiday to Greece and the nudist beaches.

I guess because I've always done what I wanted to do, and all my mates were busy getting married and kids, and I thought I'm not going to miss out just because I don't have anyone to go with

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

I find myself lovely company, so do loads of things by myself these days, if I feel like doing something and people are either busy or dont fancy it I'll go alone.

That said it would be brilliant to find a like minded plus 1 for more or my random ventures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No qualms about going solo….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did it a couple of weeks ago for the very first time. A whole day to myself. Sitting in a pub having a lunch, pretending I’d been stood up…

I even waved in random locations as if I’d seen who I was looking for and crossed the roads. Great fun.

Do a want to do it again? No, I’d rather share a day with someone and enjoy it that way.

Will I do it again? I guess I’ll have to it I’ll miss life won’t I?

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By *ust_a_guy42Man
over a year ago

Welwyn

I'm happy doing most things by myself these days. Quite often in a cafe reading a paper and enjoy lunch or stopping for coffee on a long walk or a nice beer in summer. Only thing I've not done by myself so far is a foreign holiday, I'm thinking about it though. Haven't been abroad for quite a while now.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I go to the theatre or comedy shows alone quite frequently.

The reason being that I find it easier than having to fit around other people ..... I just go , enjoy it and go home.

I would eat a meal alone but only during the day.

I'd never go out for dinner alone. I have no idea why - different vibe I think .... the night belongs to lovers

I ALWAYS shop alone if I can. I have NO interest at all in wandering around shops looking at what someone else likes.

I do like company for museums , galleries , outings etc although I will do them alone.

I won't go without what I want to do cos no one else wants to do it.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I work alone 90% of the time and do find it quite a lonely existence.

My social existence always involves my wife and as many others as I can find to balance out my loneliness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To a restaurant, pub, cinema or anywhere else usually for 2 people or more where there will lots of people.

Could you spend a day alone in a big city like london and visit tourist attractions and enjoy yourself?

Years ago I couldn't do it. It would make me nervous. I'd avoid and think I looked a loner etc. Now I couldn't care less and love it.

Have you experienced that? "

I can’t do restaurants unless it’s lunchtime, the dinner time thing still gets me. Funnily enough can do it overseas, just not here.

I regularly take myself out on dates. I go for a really nice lunch, go to an exhibition or see a show.

I’ve made myself undateable, I always give myself a fabulous day out, I do all the things I love, I wear clothes I love, do it in my own time and I always get a big O at the end of the day.

It’s going to be hard to find someone that can add to my life.

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

Yes, I absolutely will go out alone, pubs, days out, even holidays. Despite seeming to be quite social I am actually not a huge fan of other people, so it suits me.

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By *eter9481Man
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Im a truck driver. A very lonely job but i enjoy my own company and always try and get out toba pub or restaurant at least once per week.

Have even got lucky the odd time and ended up in a hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes go out myself, but I struggle talking to new people when I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As often as possible, ears in audio book on whether it be a walk or a spoons breakfast as long as it's me, myself and I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy some solitude

I have dined and holidayed on my own

I now prefer to travel with someone who allows me some solitude as part of the trip

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am happy being on my own. I enjoy the freedom of being able to do what I want when I want to.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The vast majority of my time awake is spent alone; but I am perfectly at ease intereacting with people, almost invariably in brief casual conversations about nothing in particular.

Years ago, I was involved in a number of very toxic relationships, but I got away from those: in one instance when the guy got married to an older woman who wanted to isolate him from friends and family; and in another instance when the guy moved away to another city.

I am usually alone, but I never feel isolated, cos' I have so many interests.

The key, for me, is to structure my time so that I feel I am making progres on many different fronts, simultaneously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a buffet once. Seriously considering tomorrow in smart casual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I just see others with friends and other people and suddenly feel very exposed and the loneliness really kicks in. So I just wait for my friends or a friend to be free so I can do stuff with them.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Not sightseeing. I have ADHD and find busy places and large social situations overwhelming. I do often however, sit in our local pub on my own, in my usual spot with my headphones and a good book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had the time, I would do this.

People just generally ruin things anyway.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Yeah, all the time. If I waited for company before I did anything I'd never leave the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No better care than self care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been to cinema, restaurants, hiking, biking, camping and all sorts on my own. Sometimes prefer doing things on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No better care than self care "

Aftercare after using anal beads tops this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stay in by myself.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Extremely rarely. We thoroughly enjoy each other's company and time off together is rare so we spend our time doing what we love the most, together.

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By *ust JuicyWoman
over a year ago

east london

So pleased to read I’m not weird liking my own company ….. I love being on my own something friends and family struggle understanding

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Yes and I usually end up chatting to various people at some point.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

I'm quite comfortable doing things by myself. I've been independent since I was a teenager and don't see the need to stop now.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

London

Yes I do.

Spas, holidays and more. Best way to get headspace.

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By *ave05Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Essex

Plenty of lone time here too and quite at ease especially with a tour guide background in London to wander and pause find hidden spaces a drink / meal / hike.

Would enjoy meeting a “go to” occasional drinking/coffee companion though non sexual for a social interaction to break some solitude up especially when friends are so busy I find that is missing somewhat for me at times.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I do pretty much everything alone, and always have done. I feel a bit sorry for people who feel unable to manage it.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Yes definitely. Luke

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"To a restaurant, pub, cinema or anywhere else usually for 2 people or more where there will lots of people.

Could you spend a day alone in a big city like london and visit tourist attractions and enjoy yourself?

Years ago I couldn't do it. It would make me nervous. I'd avoid and think I looked a loner etc. Now I couldn't care less and love it.

Have you experienced that? "

Do most things alone including holidays. Being alone does not bother me.

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