FabSwingers.com forum: Ever felt you are just in the wrong life?

By *otdave75 OP Man
over a year ago

Chandlers Ford

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By *irginLad32Man
over a year ago

Catford

Yes everyday

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No. Sounds like a poor excuse to me.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

As an awkward teen, sure.

But it's the world we're in. No point fantasising or wishing things were different when they're not and cannot be. So just be you in the world you're in. It's all any of us can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrong time yes, but not life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, are you ok?

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"OP, are you ok?"
,,, this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really. After all it's my life, I have the power to change it. I refuse to sit in want of things to be different but then not do anything differently. We cannot always have what we want but then we need to realise that fact and let it go. It's not always easy but it's important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope your OK though. Life can be tough.

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By *hismMan
over a year ago

Ballygonowhere

No,though sometimes I feel my life is in the wrong time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, just the wrong planet

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I hope you're okay OP and the morning brings with it some more positive feelings.

I have felt like that sometimes in the past. Like I'm just not right, this world isn't for me. Or more, I'm not suited to it. But, that feeling goes. And I remember how good life can be. How much I'm meant to be part of it. I hope you remember that soon, x

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

Very much on daily basis…having one of those specially awful moments right now.

Hope you find yourself in a better place soon, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time for obvious reasons.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

All the damn time, for my whole life.

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By *heoneandonlyEJCouple
over a year ago

Tenerife baby

I’ve had a lot of sliding doors moments. E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are in the life you made…mostly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right life, wrong reality

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Yes but then i thought of Sir Lancelot and his merry men

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

No, it's my life and not someone else's

And I want to live it...not spend it wishing it were something else

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Can’t say I have. Maybe the wrong website though. Forums are cheery today

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Well change it. "

This is the answer, although figuring out how isn’t easy. I hope you can.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

There are many schools of thought on this and we all have our dark days, some more than others but unfortunately dark days are a consequence of life.

George Orwell said, acceptance is a way to happiness and people often confuse this with lacking ambition or “gumption”, but it’s really not true, change the things you want to and most importantly can, and accept those things you can’t, to find peace and live in joy.

OP your original post is gone, but “living the wrong life” is fundamentally a “choice”, the alternative might be hard, it might require sacrifice and come with risk, but if you feel you are living the wrong life, then you have decided to not do the difficult, not make the sacrifice, not take the risk. You have chosen to “not take the hill”.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In some ways, yes. I always feel like I’m a misfit. On the periphery of life. There are glimmers where I feel like I fit, but they’re few and far between.

I’m used to that feeling too though. There’s a comfort in the discomfort, if that makes sense.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I don't think I've ever consciousky felt I'm in the wrong life, I have however spent most pf my life not understanding the world I live in and not feeling I belong in it. I'm not sure if that's the same thing though?

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Right life, wrong country. Feckin Brexit

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By *bonybucksMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Yeh sometimes, but got to accept it lol

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

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By *eorge1949Man
over a year ago

BroadwayWR11

Not at all, it's a great life, inflation was kind to us without any need or demand for government subsidies, good pensions built up over many years, a sensible (mainly) populace, despite the usual inept government - and getting more inept by the day.

I am glad to be the age I am as I can see no future except decline for a UK so badly managed for so many years.

How much longer can a reducing number of nett tax payers subsidise an increasing number of nett claimants and beneficiaries.

I am darned glad I ain't a teenager today!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It feels like it wasn't mine too begin with but I still try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I feel like Cinderella in this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some woman called Blake has mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope my feet are planted firmly where I am supposed to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some woman called Blake has mine. "

Lively?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Not really.

Very often, in the life I have, I feel out of place but that’s more about the situation than my combined life experiences and behaviour.

I’m lucky to have some brilliant friends, some great connections on fab, the internet for things like dating and a decent job which pays the bills and leaves me some leftover for stuff. And things.

I definitely wouldn’t have wanted to live any earlier in time - I like the tech we have now. If I was born now, obviously I wouldn’t know any different, but I would probably suffer more from our throw-away and online culture.

Is my life perfect? No. Very far from it. But it’s ok and that’s enough for me.

All I’d ask is a smidge more sex and a great relationship. Then I’ll be PFP - proper fucking happy.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I feel like an imposter most of the time. But hey what can you do?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Not really.

Very often, in the life I have, I feel out of place but that’s more about the situation than my combined life experiences and behaviour.

I’m lucky to have some brilliant friends, some great connections on fab, the internet for things like dating and a decent job which pays the bills and leaves me some leftover for stuff. And things.

Is my life perfect? No. Very far from it. But it’s ok and that’s enough for me.

All I’d ask is a smidge more sex and a great relationship. Then I’ll be PFP - proper fucking happy."

Chuffing autocarrot!! Obviously I meant PFH.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I feel like an imposter most of the time. But hey what can you do? "

Pretend you weren’t there.

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By *otdave75 OP Man
over a year ago

Chandlers Ford

Really interesting looking at the responses. I was pretty low when I posted this. As we all have highs and lows. Lots of people showed real empathy and humanity, but some people just don’t care. But why would they, they don’t know me from Adam. But thanks for those who care about a stranger, I care and don’t want to see anyone suffer. I’m always available to talk

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