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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

After an unsurprising report that labelled the Police as having a culture of bullying, anti homosexuality, misogyny, misandry and just about every other bigotry then low and behold is a similar report saying the same thing about our firemen.

This, hot on the heels of another that exposed a NHS Trust.

Why bother with these ghastly, costly reports. Just accept that the whole of society is institutionally bigoted.

It will always be that way...

It's all over the news...

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I believe you Tom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it shouldn’t be that way, obviously. That’s why the reports are necessary and hopefully action will follow

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Because it shouldn’t be that way, obviously. That’s why the reports are necessary and hopefully action will follow "

Well we are still waiting for the feds to change after the Stephen Lawrence enquiry..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because it shouldn’t be that way, obviously. That’s why the reports are necessary and hopefully action will follow

Well we are still waiting for the feds to change after the Stephen Lawrence enquiry.."

And nothing will change if no one tries

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden


"Because it shouldn’t be that way, obviously. That’s why the reports are necessary and hopefully action will follow

Well we are still waiting for the feds to change after the Stephen Lawrence enquiry.."

If you don't measure the current state, i.e. do the reports, how do you know anything has changed?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It is society Tom. From the poor examples at the top to the masses.

Corrupt , amoral and self serving with little regard for others

Why it's such a mystery that our institutions are corrupt puzzles me.

If I use an orchard of rotten apples to fill my boxes the apples in those boxes will be rotten.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"It is society Tom. From the poor examples at the top to the masses.

Corrupt , amoral and self serving with little regard for others

Why it's such a mystery that our institutions are corrupt puzzles me.

If I use an orchard of rotten apples to fill my boxes the apples in those boxes will be rotten. "

Omg how long have we got granny?

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Why it's such a mystery that our institutions are corrupt puzzles me."

I'll tell you why. It's those power-mad control freaks working for such institutions that feel they can throw their weight around, and that no one will believe them because of the uniform they wear.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's because we keep quiet.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why it's such a mystery that our institutions are corrupt puzzles me.

I'll tell you why. It's those power-mad control freaks working for such institutions that feel they can throw their weight around, and that no one will believe them because of the uniform they wear."

I didn't ask that...... but thanks.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It is society Tom. From the poor examples at the top to the masses.

Corrupt , amoral and self serving with little regard for others

Why it's such a mystery that our institutions are corrupt puzzles me.

If I use an orchard of rotten apples to fill my boxes the apples in those boxes will be rotten. Omg how long have we got granny? "

Probably until 6 p.m. Macky. Now buckle up n do what you should be doing.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh, people suck.

This is not news

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd. "

So, "men being men" in masculine jobs are entitled to sexually harrass women in the same jobs, or racially abuse people of colour, or those of other minority groups? Do me a favour.

And yes - dare I say it, Tom is right when he talks about a "bigoted" institution.

On a lighter note, are you going to see Jim Davidson on his next UK tour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd. "

No it isn’t. It’s power hungry arseholes getting in to jobs they know will allow them to act badly without consequence. Feminisation has nothing to do with it. Bigotry, misogyny and dangerous men are to blame and they need stamping out before more people die at their hands or get further abused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The WRU are being investigated for sexism, racism and misogyny too.

About time. Culture needs to change.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

No it isn’t. It’s power hungry arseholes getting in to jobs they know will allow them to act badly without consequence. Feminisation has nothing to do with it. Bigotry, misogyny and dangerous men are to blame and they need stamping out before more people die at their hands or get further abused. "

Very well said.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


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If I use an orchard of rotten apples to fill my boxes the apples in those boxes will be rotten. "

You read Confucius too Granny?

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

No it isn’t. It’s power hungry arseholes getting in to jobs they know will allow them to act badly without consequence. Feminisation has nothing to do with it. Bigotry, misogyny and dangerous men are to blame and they need stamping out before more people die at their hands or get further abused. "

As I said it's a different generation which is clashing with the modern world. You may not like it but you can't change dinosaurs just because you change the rules.

There will be another 20yrs of Angst but then everyone will be on the same page at work.

All the men & women will be outside vaping discussing their dresses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

No it isn’t. It’s power hungry arseholes getting in to jobs they know will allow them to act badly without consequence. Feminisation has nothing to do with it. Bigotry, misogyny and dangerous men are to blame and they need stamping out before more people die at their hands or get further abused.

As I said it's a different generation which is clashing with the modern world. You may not like it but you can't change dinosaurs just because you change the rules.

There will be another 20yrs of Angst but then everyone will be on the same page at work.

All the men & women will be outside vaping discussing their dresses."

Oh okay then. So hundreds more women will be sexually abused and murdered but it’s okay coz of the dinosaurs. The rules need to be changed to save lives, fuck what the bloody dinosaurs think

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Because it shouldn’t be that way, obviously. That’s why the reports are necessary and hopefully action will follow

Well we are still waiting for the feds to change after the Stephen Lawrence enquiry..

And nothing will change if no one tries "

They are not trying, this is a really bad and costly way to try that doesn’t work. They are pretending to try

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I do not think the report suggests that firemen are out murdering people every day. In fact they usually rescue and Dave people. But for the record,the older generations may be called dinosaurs but they ruled the earth for millions of years....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not think the report suggests that firemen are out murdering people every day. In fact they usually rescue and Dave people. But for the record,the older generations may be called dinosaurs but they ruled the earth for millions of years.... "

Badly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I do not think the report suggests that firemen are out murdering people every day. In fact they usually rescue and Dave people. But for the record,the older generations may be called dinosaurs but they ruled the earth for millions of years....

Badly. "

And where are they now?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not think the report suggests that firemen are out murdering people every day. In fact they usually rescue and Dave people. But for the record,the older generations may be called dinosaurs but they ruled the earth for millions of years....

Badly.

And where are they now?..."

Dead

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I do not think the report suggests that firemen are out murdering people every day. In fact they usually rescue and Dave people. But for the record,the older generations may be called dinosaurs but they ruled the earth for millions of years....

Badly.

And where are they now?...

Dead "

My dad was born in 1927. He's managed to live his whole life in a very masculine environment without doing any of the stuff these people have done. He hasn't found it difficult

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

All these institutions are staffed by people from the general population, they are a reflection of the society that spawned them.

It’s really not difficult to see this, I’m bemused why people are so surprised at the findings.

As for older generations being the problem, I disagree.

The generations of today are more self entitled, arrogant and selfish than any previous ones.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd. "

You don't have to be wholly masculine to be a fireman.

I know someone who had a better face cleansing and moisturising regime to most women who was a Royal Marine.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I do not think the report suggests that firemen are out murdering people every day. In fact they usually rescue and Dave people. But for the record,the older generations may be called dinosaurs but they ruled the earth for millions of years....

Badly.

And where are they now?...

Dead

My dad was born in 1927. He's managed to live his whole life in a very masculine environment without doing any of the stuff these people have done. He hasn't found it difficult "

I think some people confuse masculine with aggression, which can lead to bullying.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Also, I worked under a female head teacher who was a bully.

She's doing very well now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd. "

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"

I think some people confuse masculine with aggression, which can lead to bullying.

"

So much for all these idiots who are influenced by, and model themselves on arseholes such as Andrew Tate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These reports police, fireservice esp are about men doing a high risk job, where they run the risk of either death or witnessing death daily, how the hell do you expect these guys to handle that, you are judging people in high testosterone environments by the feminised standards of "normal" society.

What next members of the army are aggressive.

Today's beta weak males should be greatful there are still "toxic" men doing these jobs and there to help them when it all goes tits up in the bubble wrapped world they live in

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"After an unsurprising report that labelled the Police as having a culture of bullying, anti homosexuality, misogyny, misandry and just about every other bigotry then low and behold is a similar report saying the same thing about our firemen.

This, hot on the heels of another that exposed a NHS Trust.

Why bother with these ghastly, costly reports. Just accept that the whole of society is institutionally bigoted.

It will always be that way...

It's all over the news..."

No don't see it that way. Things are better than they were 20 years ago and 20 years ago better than 40 years ago. It's because of organisations investigating a soul searching we have made the work place better. Even if you accept there will always be a few. A few is far better than widespread and institutionalised.

However I'm not anti banter and high jinks. They are the life force of institutions I've worked in. However it's really important that people start to understand the impact of words and actions and take care to understand the people they're working around. I have also seen how damaging and corrosive such behaviour can be to an individual and a team when people have not understood or deliberately continued with inappropriate behaviour. Knowing when, where and who with things are appropriate is key. And of course somethings may never be appropriate (especially in positions of public trust such as the Police). I am concerned when we look at what individuals said say within a closed group such as WhatsApp group. And I am concerned about how some people are delt with by organisations. Often now the punishment does seem to be disproportionate to the crime. Because often the nuance of people expressing darker banter and letting of steam in a closed group is lost. Just because they experiment with dark humour and themes amongst consenting freinds in a closed group doesn't mean they personally believe these things or support them. Just the same as many of our close to the bone stand up comedians. So yes improvements in work place culture are great but let's not throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Mr

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"These reports police, fireservice esp are about men doing a high risk job, where they run the risk of either death or witnessing death daily, how the hell do you expect these guys to handle that, you are judging people in high testosterone environments by the feminised standards of "normal" society.

What next members of the army are aggressive.

Today's beta weak males should be greatful there are still "toxic" men doing these jobs and there to help them when it all goes tits up in the bubble wrapped world they live in"

Sounds like you either still live in the 50s/60s, or you haven't quite evolved into a human yet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Also, I worked under a female head teacher who was a bully.

She's doing very well now."

The only two people who've ever tried to bully me were women.

I also worked somewhere where several women were conducting a regime of bullying against new younger women employees. In one case I offered to go to HR with the young woman and in the other I just challenged the bullies every time they did or said something out of order. That wasn't difficult for me in the environment I was in but I can see how it would be in other cases

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

No it isn’t. It’s power hungry arseholes getting in to jobs they know will allow them to act badly without consequence. Feminisation has nothing to do with it. Bigotry, misogyny and dangerous men are to blame and they need stamping out before more people die at their hands or get further abused.

As I said it's a different generation which is clashing with the modern world. You may not like it but you can't change dinosaurs just because you change the rules.

There will be another 20yrs of Angst but then everyone will be on the same page at work.

All the men & women will be outside vaping discussing their dresses.

Oh okay then. So hundreds more women will be sexually abused and murdered but it’s okay coz of the dinosaurs. The rules need to be changed to save lives, fuck what the bloody dinosaurs think "

You are not bright enough to see the argument, like many bleeding hearts you go straight to 99 from 15.

Sadly even when this world is dominated by Liberal wokers murders & raqes will continue as bad people are bad no matter there level of understanding.

Given the huge numbers of raqes now in Sweden due to mass immigration of young men (not dinosaurs) are you in support of immigration as its not dinosaurs raqing your Swedish women in their own country?

Bigotry does not mean raqist even if you want to associate the two.

Not allowed to use the r word hence q for p.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These reports police, fireservice esp are about men doing a high risk job, where they run the risk of either death or witnessing death daily, how the hell do you expect these guys to handle that, you are judging people in high testosterone environments by the feminised standards of "normal" society.

What next members of the army are aggressive.

Today's beta weak males should be greatful there are still "toxic" men doing these jobs and there to help them when it all goes tits up in the bubble wrapped world they live in"

So it gives them the "right" to bully and sexually harass women, who are doing the same job, just as well as them??? Get a grip of yourself!! My brother has been a firefighter for years, and he doesn't behave like that, and yes, he's a "masculine" man, but certainly not "toxic"!!!

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"You are not bright enough to see the argument, like many bleeding hearts you go straight to 99 from 15.

Sadly even when this world is dominated by Liberal wokers murders & raqes will continue as bad people are bad no matter there level of understanding.

Given the huge numbers of raqes now in Sweden due to mass immigration of young men (not dinosaurs) are you in support of immigration as its not dinosaurs raqing your Swedish women in their own country?

Bigotry does not mean raqist even if you want to associate the two.

Not allowed to use the r word hence q for p."

Of course...when all else fails, why not blame the immigrants? They're an easy scapegoat for everything that's wrong in the world, after all.

World dominated by Liberal "wokers"? I think you'll find that the Tories have been in power for 13 years now.

I'd rather be a bleeding heart than an ignorant racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

So, "men being men" in masculine jobs are entitled to sexually harrass women in the same jobs, or racially abuse people of colour, or those of other minority groups? Do me a favour.

And yes - dare I say it, Tom is right when he talks about a "bigoted" institution.

On a lighter note, are you going to see Jim Davidson on his next UK tour?"

No, but ive booked to see chubby brown

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

So, "men being men" in masculine jobs are entitled to sexually harrass women in the same jobs, or racially abuse people of colour, or those of other minority groups? Do me a favour.

And yes - dare I say it, Tom is right when he talks about a "bigoted" institution.

On a lighter note, are you going to see Jim Davidson on his next UK tour?

No, but ive booked to see chubby brown"

That doesn't surprise me.

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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago

London

Ideal solution would be to lock ‘the dinosaurs’ and ‘the workers’ in a room for 24hrs, they’ll either talk or fight. I wouldn’t be surprised if they emerged as friends, especially when you remove the influential media from making decisions for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a bad incident dark humour comes into it, things said that might seem iffensive and crass to a bystander but not to those who have just oulled the zip on a body bag

Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain

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By *uncouple0512Couple
over a year ago

wakefield

Can we get this into a little perspective.

There are only 218 allegations out of a workforce approaching 50,000.

218 too many. But should not deflect or detract from the vast majority that are all good people and do a outrageous job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After an unsurprising report that labelled the Police as having a culture of bullying, anti homosexuality, misogyny, misandry and just about every other bigotry then low and behold is a similar report saying the same thing about our firemen.

This, hot on the heels of another that exposed a NHS Trust.

Why bother with these ghastly, costly reports. Just accept that the whole of society is institutionally bigoted.

It will always be that way...

It's all over the news...

No don't see it that way. Things are better than they were 20 years ago and 20 years ago better than 40 years ago. It's because of organisations investigating a soul searching we have made the work place better. Even if you accept there will always be a few. A few is far better than widespread and institutionalised.

However I'm not anti banter and high jinks. They are the life force of institutions I've worked in. However it's really important that people start to understand the impact of words and actions and take care to understand the people they're working around. I have also seen how damaging and corrosive such behaviour can be to an individual and a team when people have not understood or deliberately continued with inappropriate behaviour. Knowing when, where and who with things are appropriate is key. And of course somethings may never be appropriate (especially in positions of public trust such as the Police). I am concerned when we look at what individuals said say within a closed group such as WhatsApp group. And I am concerned about how some people are delt with by organisations. Often now the punishment does seem to be disproportionate to the crime. Because often the nuance of people expressing darker banter and letting of steam in a closed group is lost. Just because they experiment with dark humour and themes amongst consenting freinds in a closed group doesn't mean they personally believe these things or support them. Just the same as many of our close to the bone stand up comedians. So yes improvements in work place culture are great but let's not throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Mr"

well said

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"After a bad incident dark humour comes into it, things said that might seem iffensive and crass to a bystander but not to those who have just oulled the zip on a body bag

Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain

"

Good old banter, she's got a fat arse, let's mock her. Some would laugh it off, others won't. But It's only banter when the recipient is on on the joke, when they aren't it's bullying.

Also 10+ years on a sector that very much relies on dark humour as a coping strategy, so I'm not buying that as a justification either

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Can we get this into a little perspective.

There are only 218 allegations out of a workforce approaching 50,000.

218 too many. But should not deflect or detract from the vast majority that are all good people and do a outrageous job."

This is very much about trying to portray the police as not unusual abd that this culture isn't unique to the police. Numbers wide, it sadly only reinforced the depth of problems in the police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a bad incident dark humour comes into it, things said that might seem iffensive and crass to a bystander but not to those who have just oulled the zip on a body bag

Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain

Good old banter, she's got a fat arse, let's mock her. Some would laugh it off, others won't. But It's only banter when the recipient is on on the joke, when they aren't it's bullying.

Also 10+ years on a sector that very much relies on dark humour as a coping strategy, so I'm not buying that as a justification either

"

10 years in the fire service?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bigoted Tom? Name calling achieves nothing, it's men in masculine jobs being men but luckily for you as more & more young men are feminised it will cease.

Be patient as us dinosaurs are in the last 3rd.

No it isn’t. It’s power hungry arseholes getting in to jobs they know will allow them to act badly without consequence. Feminisation has nothing to do with it. Bigotry, misogyny and dangerous men are to blame and they need stamping out before more people die at their hands or get further abused.

As I said it's a different generation which is clashing with the modern world. You may not like it but you can't change dinosaurs just because you change the rules.

There will be another 20yrs of Angst but then everyone will be on the same page at work.

All the men & women will be outside vaping discussing their dresses.

Oh okay then. So hundreds more women will be sexually abused and murdered but it’s okay coz of the dinosaurs. The rules need to be changed to save lives, fuck what the bloody dinosaurs think

You are not bright enough to see the argument, like many bleeding hearts you go straight to 99 from 15.

Sadly even when this world is dominated by Liberal wokers murders & raqes will continue as bad people are bad no matter there level of understanding.

Given the huge numbers of raqes now in Sweden due to mass immigration of young men (not dinosaurs) are you in support of immigration as its not dinosaurs raqing your Swedish women in their own country?

Bigotry does not mean raqist even if you want to associate the two.

Not allowed to use the r word hence q for p."

You’re not even on the same page mate. Have a fabulous day

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Because there are good cops too, ones fault of few cant label everyone with it

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!"

You seem to have an inability to differentiate between taking orders in a life-or-death situation, and bullying. Nice try for trying to deflect the situation, but I don't buy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

You seem to have an inability to differentiate between taking orders in a life-or-death situation, and bullying. Nice try for trying to deflect the situation, but I don't buy it."

And your experience if such things is what?

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

You seem to have an inability to differentiate between taking orders in a life-or-death situation, and bullying. Nice try for trying to deflect the situation, but I don't buy it.

And your experience if such things is what?"

I know what it's like to be bullied in the workplace - I have first-hand experience of it in my first job, and it's usually by incompetent managers and those with the same attitude (insecurity) as yourself.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!"

How is that comparable to the other scenario you mentioned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

You seem to have an inability to differentiate between taking orders in a life-or-death situation, and bullying. Nice try for trying to deflect the situation, but I don't buy it.

And your experience if such things is what?

I know what it's like to be bullied in the workplace - I have first-hand experience of it in my first job, and it's usually by incompetent managers and those with the same attitude (insecurity) as yourself."

Why have I got insecurities, you’re making this personal and there is no need for it

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Luckily the schools and unis and parents are making sure the next generation are all perfect.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"These reports police, fireservice esp are about men doing a high risk job, where they run the risk of either death or witnessing death daily, how the hell do you expect these guys to handle that, you are judging people in high testosterone environments by the feminised standards of "normal" society.

What next members of the army are aggressive.

Today's beta weak males should be greatful there are still "toxic" men doing these jobs and there to help them when it all goes tits up in the bubble wrapped world they live in"

What a complete crock..

We've had women in the job since the early 80s, so if your going to comment at least acknowledge that FFS..

It's not a high testosterone environment regardless of the incident being attended, adrenaline will be high but outdated ignorant clichés have no relevance to how an incident is dealt with..

And yes it's stressful and at times fucking awful and upsetting for all depending on the outcome of the shout but it's not dealt with and nor is it acceptable to do so by some of the shitty behaviours the report has highlighted..

None of which have any place on a watch..

The job like all environments is changing and the vast majority are decent people trying to do their best, that's not to excuse the wrong uns who as with the police there's no place for in the service..

There's no place or need for anyone who is toxic..

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth


"Because it shouldn’t be that way, obviously. That’s why the reports are necessary and hopefully action will follow "
Unfortunately you can not change human nature you never could, and never will.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Because there are good cops too, ones fault of few cant label everyone with it "
There are so much red tape that good workers cant do their job it seems, the police also have to think twice before they can stop and search someone.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!"

Interesting scenario you've imagined..

Tell you what would happen in my experience (not that I accept your scenario) ..

The crews attending would get on with what they know has to be done, anyone who might not like how they were spoken to would raise it if they were that upset back at the station..

People do have personality clashes of course they do and people do leave a watch if they don't get on with someone else..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

Interesting scenario you've imagined..

Tell you what would happen in my experience (not that I accept your scenario) ..

The crews attending would get on with what they know has to be done, anyone who might not like how they were spoken to would raise it if they were that upset back at the station..

People do have personality clashes of course they do and people do leave a watch if they don't get on with someone else..

Which part if my scenario dont you accept?

I doubt very much a firefighter will have a word with ouc regarding how he was spoken to, the adrenalin is flowing, you can dislike someone as much as you like so long as you all gell at an incident

Always remember, there is a wanker on every shift and if there isnt, its probably you

The point im trying to highlight is this

The man incharge is going to be a little brusque when faced with my scenario, whuch could be construed as being harsh by certain members if the crew, and maybe bullying, which is total bollox

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

Interesting scenario you've imagined..

Tell you what would happen in my experience (not that I accept your scenario) ..

The crews attending would get on with what they know has to be done, anyone who might not like how they were spoken to would raise it if they were that upset back at the station..

People do have personality clashes of course they do and people do leave a watch if they don't get on with someone else..

Which part if my scenario dont you accept?

I doubt very much a firefighter will have a word with ouc regarding how he was spoken to, the adrenalin is flowing, you can dislike someone as much as you like so long as you all gell at an incident

Always remember, there is a wanker on every shift and if there isnt, its probably you

The point im trying to highlight is this

The man incharge is going to be a little brusque when faced with my scenario, whuch could be construed as being harsh by certain members if the crew, and maybe bullying, which is total bollox

"

Can you honestly not see the difference between that and men making reversing noises when a female colleague walked through the station?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

Interesting scenario you've imagined..

Tell you what would happen in my experience (not that I accept your scenario) ..

The crews attending would get on with what they know has to be done, anyone who might not like how they were spoken to would raise it if they were that upset back at the station..

People do have personality clashes of course they do and people do leave a watch if they don't get on with someone else..

Which part if my scenario dont you accept?

I doubt very much a firefighter will have a word with ouc regarding how he was spoken to, the adrenalin is flowing, you can dislike someone as much as you like so long as you all gell at an incident

Always remember, there is a wanker on every shift and if there isnt, its probably you

The point im trying to highlight is this

The man incharge is going to be a little brusque when faced with my scenario, whuch could be construed as being harsh by certain members if the crew, and maybe bullying, which is total bollox

"

The oic can equally be a woman..

Again in my experience they will if they deem it necessary, however

this imagined scenario of yours is more of a deflection than what the report is about..

Someone being brusque on the foreground is nothing to do with bullying and harassment..

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

Interesting scenario you've imagined..

Tell you what would happen in my experience (not that I accept your scenario) ..

The crews attending would get on with what they know has to be done, anyone who might not like how they were spoken to would raise it if they were that upset back at the station..

People do have personality clashes of course they do and people do leave a watch if they don't get on with someone else..

Which part if my scenario dont you accept?

I doubt very much a firefighter will have a word with ouc regarding how he was spoken to, the adrenalin is flowing, you can dislike someone as much as you like so long as you all gell at an incident

Always remember, there is a wanker on every shift and if there isnt, its probably you

The point im trying to highlight is this

The man incharge is going to be a little brusque when faced with my scenario, whuch could be construed as being harsh by certain members if the crew, and maybe bullying, which is total bollox

The oic can equally be a woman..

Again in my experience they will if they deem it necessary, however

this imagined scenario of yours is more of a deflection than what the report is about..

Someone being brusque on the foreground is nothing to do with bullying and harassment.."

Exactly, but some would be offended and take it as bullying.im well aware the oic can be female and be good at being a gaffa

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

Interesting scenario you've imagined..

Tell you what would happen in my experience (not that I accept your scenario) ..

The crews attending would get on with what they know has to be done, anyone who might not like how they were spoken to would raise it if they were that upset back at the station..

People do have personality clashes of course they do and people do leave a watch if they don't get on with someone else..

Which part if my scenario dont you accept?

I doubt very much a firefighter will have a word with ouc regarding how he was spoken to, the adrenalin is flowing, you can dislike someone as much as you like so long as you all gell at an incident

Always remember, there is a wanker on every shift and if there isnt, its probably you

The point im trying to highlight is this

The man incharge is going to be a little brusque when faced with my scenario, whuch could be construed as being harsh by certain members if the crew, and maybe bullying, which is total bollox

The oic can equally be a woman..

Again in my experience they will if they deem it necessary, however

this imagined scenario of yours is more of a deflection than what the report is about..

Someone being brusque on the foreground is nothing to do with bullying and harassment..

Exactly, but some would be offended and take it as bullying.im well aware the oic can be female and be good at being a gaffa "

This is less about you trying to prove your hypothetical scenario could be considered bullying and far more about trying to invalidate the real life example which you cited and dismissed earlier in the thread

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Unfortunately working as a head coach in a sport, Ive found lately that its not the older generation coaches, Ive had to speak to about watching their languauge & their words used, but the younger generation being coached which I find surprising as i thought that being brought up in the current world they would have more understanding & empathy.

However I cant control all areas outwith my remit Can only try & educate them when have them to coach.

It takes time to change ingrained mindsets unfortunately

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"Why bother with these ghastly, costly reports. "

Because they’re planning to make some cuts in this area, so begin by discrediting them in the media.

Plus their mates probably run reports companies.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!"

That's him doing his job; it's not bullying.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Well regarding the police every complaint made towards one are supposed to be re investigated given amount that had been put before and nothing was done until they were convicted of serious offences I believe it's just a publicity stunt just to say and most if not all still get swept under the carpet because will be higher rank involved their is far too much corruption within

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"So lets imagine the fire service are called out to a house fire, they get there and are met with an inferno, flames coming out if the windows and people are trapped, the gaffa barks commands at his crew.Some might nit like the way he speaks to them

Thats the job, get on with it or leave!!

Interesting scenario you've imagined..

Tell you what would happen in my experience (not that I accept your scenario) ..

The crews attending would get on with what they know has to be done, anyone who might not like how they were spoken to would raise it if they were that upset back at the station..

People do have personality clashes of course they do and people do leave a watch if they don't get on with someone else..

Which part if my scenario dont you accept?

I doubt very much a firefighter will have a word with ouc regarding how he was spoken to, the adrenalin is flowing, you can dislike someone as much as you like so long as you all gell at an incident

Always remember, there is a wanker on every shift and if there isnt, its probably you

The point im trying to highlight is this

The man incharge is going to be a little brusque when faced with my scenario, whuch could be construed as being harsh by certain members if the crew, and maybe bullying, which is total bollox

The oic can equally be a woman..

Again in my experience they will if they deem it necessary, however

this imagined scenario of yours is more of a deflection than what the report is about..

Someone being brusque on the foreground is nothing to do with bullying and harassment..

Exactly, but some would be offended and take it as bullying.im well aware the oic can be female and be good at being a gaffa "

When you bully someone you aren't offending them.

People don't have breakdowns, or become depressed over feeling offended.

Have you imagined what it might feel like for one person to be picked on by someone of a higher authority, or a group of people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid."

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either"

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about when that bigotedness allows some firefighters to let others live and others die… we have seen how that works with the police. So as you are part of the “majority” you have nothing to fear but for many they do…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

I didnt

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

Ive not used any insulting language, called any body stupid, nothing staggering about that

"

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

I didnt

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

Ive not used any insulting language, called any body stupid, nothing staggering about that

"

A few hours ago, you said this:

"Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain"

So she can't be sensitive to what she feels is an insult. Bit you can?

I'm not agreeing nor condoning the comments directed at you but to complain about being insulted while stating other people should accept it in their workplace is completely hypocritical

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

I didnt

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

Ive not used any insulting language, called any body stupid, nothing staggering about that

A few hours ago, you said this:

"Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain"

So she can't be sensitive to what she feels is an insult. Bit you can?

I'm not agreeing nor condoning the comments directed at you but to complain about being insulted while stating other people should accept it in their workplace is completely hypocritical "

I dont get it? Was she walking backwards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

I didnt

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

Ive not used any insulting language, called any body stupid, nothing staggering about that

A few hours ago, you said this:

"Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain"

So she can't be sensitive to what she feels is an insult. Bit you can?

I'm not agreeing nor condoning the comments directed at you but to complain about being insulted while stating other people should accept it in their workplace is completely hypocritical "

They didnt tell her she’d got a fat arse and they dudnt call her stupid, and Im not sensitive, just trying to be level headed, like your good self, making your point without resorting to being petty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

I didnt

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

Ive not used any insulting language, called any body stupid, nothing staggering about that

A few hours ago, you said this:

"Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain"

So she can't be sensitive to what she feels is an insult. Bit you can?

I'm not agreeing nor condoning the comments directed at you but to complain about being insulted while stating other people should accept it in their workplace is completely hypocritical

They didnt tell her she’d got a fat arse and they dudnt call her stupid, and Im not sensitive, just trying to be level headed, like your good self, making your point without resorting to being petty"

All she had to do was tell them to pack it in

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

I didnt

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

Ive not used any insulting language, called any body stupid, nothing staggering about that

A few hours ago, you said this:

"Part of the LFB report was about men making noises like a lorry reversing when a female colleague walked past, she’d obviously got a big arse, and sensitive about it, hardly worth the ink or paper to complain"

So she can't be sensitive to what she feels is an insult. Bit you can?

I'm not agreeing nor condoning the comments directed at you but to complain about being insulted while stating other people should accept it in their workplace is completely hypocritical

They didnt tell her she’d got a fat arse and they dudnt call her stupid, and Im not sensitive, just trying to be level headed, like your good self, making your point without resorting to being petty

All she had to do was tell them to pack it in"

If only..

I'm not going out on a limb in saying my guess (based on similar issues in the same brigade) is pretty much all she would have wanted was the noises to stop..

Simple as that..

But for it to get to the point of someone feeling they have no option but to go official and raise it then it's gone too far for that person and in all likelihood it's been raised and ignored ..

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

"

I think the general term is "snowflake".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

I think the general term is "snowflake"."

Or troll,eh cat

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

I think the general term is "snowflake".

Or troll,eh cat"

If the cap fits, wear it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

I think the general term is "snowflake".

Or troll,eh cat

If the cap fits, wear it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

I think the general term is "snowflake".

Or troll,eh cat

If the cap fits, wear it."

It fits you nicely

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Falling over yourself to defend sexual assault is quite the look.

On a swinging site where you want women to put themselves in a vulnerable position with you it could easily be described as stupid.

Sexual assault?tell me more

No need for insults either

Its interesting, what one person feels is an insult.

The lack of self awareness when you've dismissed the woman's complaint as not worth the paper it was written on yet at least twice yiyve taken exception to comments directed at you is staggering.

I think the general term is "snowflake".

Or troll,eh cat

If the cap fits, wear it.

It fits you nicely"

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Unfortunately working as a head coach in a sport, Ive found lately that its not the older generation coaches, Ive had to speak to about watching their languauge & their words used, but the younger generation being coached which I find surprising as i thought that being brought up in the current world they would have more understanding & empathy.

However I cant control all areas outwith my remit Can only try & educate them when have them to coach.

It takes time to change ingrained mindsets unfortunately"

100% agree with your experiences. Mine are the same. Ditto the language "banter" they use. Its bizarre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the people appointed to look into it all have an agenda before they even begin?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Perhaps the people appointed to look into it all have an agenda before they even begin? "

Stop making sense.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Lets all agree ?

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

Repeatedly doing the same investigations and reports and just using then as stand alone reports is a pointless exercise. You need to compare them with the previous reports and see what has changed, is it getting better or worse.

Learn from what has been done in the past and move forward things don't change overnight.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Lets all agree ? "
Yes to that, let the fire men do their work without being labelled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus "

Yes I have and would do again.

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

For gods sake I’m sick of this culture.

There’s a couple of bad examples out of hundreds and thousands and everyone jumps on the generalisation band wagon.

There’s muppets everywhere.

They will always be muppets dotted around society.

Humans aren’t perfect so why is society trying to make everyone and everything perfect.

It can’t be done.

The sooner we all stop moaning about it the better we will be.

It’s the same in here.

Some guys are abusive when they get turned down.

Doesn’t mean all men are bad.

I’ve been in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship.

Doesn’t mean all women are bad.

Not all police are bad.

Not all firefighters are bad.

I could go on…..

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus "

To be fair a great number of people, these days, don’t jump in harms way for anyone.

They just get their mobile phones out and film it….

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus "

I personally dont think expecting the police to do their job and turning to them if I'm the victim of crime while also not expecting them to r@pe or murder women are mutually exlusive.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's necessary because it's abhorrent, it's harming lives, wasting public investment and we can and shout do better. Female staff groped and fired if they complain, is the type of culture that sinks to ever lower standards, losing its better staff.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus "

Amen to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus

Amen to that

Amen to that indeed

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Wonder when they fully investigate the church as well for this behaviour

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

It's happening everywhere go in a tesco sainsbury IKEA store or any company it's happening from the highest paid job to the lowest paid this banter sexual stuff happening everywhere it shouldn't shock anyone.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Should it be happening absolutely not will action be taken prob not because 85% work force in uk be sacked lol

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus

Amen to that

Amen to that indeed

"

You seem to be suggesting we put these people on a pedestal and require no accountability from them.

That’ll end well then

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus

Amen to that

Amen to that indeed

You seem to be suggesting we put these people on a pedestal and require no accountability from them.

That’ll end well then "

Not sure where you saw that. More of an indicator of your prejudices that you read that you took that from their comments.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus

Amen to that

Amen to that indeed

You seem to be suggesting we put these people on a pedestal and require no accountability from them.

That’ll end well then

Not sure where you saw that. More of an indicator of your prejudices that you read that you took that from their comments. "

If you can’t see where I got it from I suggest a trip to the optician.

I don’t have a prejudice regarding police and firemen.

I believe everyone is accountable.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"For gods sake I’m sick of this culture.

There’s a couple of bad examples out of hundreds and thousands and everyone jumps on the generalisation band wagon.

There’s muppets everywhere.

They will always be muppets dotted around society.

Humans aren’t perfect so why is society trying to make everyone and everything perfect.

It can’t be done.

The sooner we all stop moaning about it the better we will be.

It’s the same in here.

Some guys are abusive when they get turned down.

Doesn’t mean all men are bad.

I’ve been in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship.

Doesn’t mean all women are bad.

Not all police are bad.

Not all firefighters are bad.

I could go on…..

"

Yes but plenty are, and the more it’s ignored the more believe that behaviour to be acceptable and part of the job. Female firefighters have reported being assaulted at work and it’s been swept under the carpet. It’s not acceptable, and it’s possible for men to be both effective firefighters and not bigoted cunts. Those who are unable to be the former without being the latter should lose their jobs. As apparently it’s a small minority it shouldn’t affect the fire service or the police too much.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I wonder how many of the people bashing those of us that don't follow the trend and condem the police, fire service would rush into harms way for strangers with no gratitude at the end of the day, or would you look to someone else to step up to the plate for you, so your hands stay clean on your ivory towers.

There are bullies everywhere from children in kindergarten all the way to the government but until you have walked a mile in the shoes of a copper or fire fighter don't be so quick to throw them under the bus

Amen to that

Amen to that indeed

You seem to be suggesting we put these people on a pedestal and require no accountability from them.

That’ll end well then

Not sure where you saw that. More of an indicator of your prejudices that you read that you took that from their comments.

If you can’t see where I got it from I suggest a trip to the optician.

I don’t have a prejudice regarding police and firemen.

I believe everyone is accountable."

Nope. Put my glasses on and still cant see where they wrote they should be put on a pedestal and not have accountability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently London fire brigade are going to be introducing same gender fire stations as a trial to try and get round the bullying and harassment enviroments

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