FabSwingers.com forum: Bad sex ?

By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Men - Is there such a thing ? You can always orgasm right?

Women - how much bad sex to good sex have you had here? Do you ever avoid meeting men or having sex on here because of the likelihood of it being bad ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ve never had bad sex.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Here none

Which is ironically why I came here. As the dating sites were overrun unfortunately which was very disheartening

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm very easily stimulated, every time I've wanted to have sex I've enjoyed it.

Obviously, having a proper connection means sex with my partners is vastly superior to fucking some random pretty thing in the name of hedonism, but they're both still good

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Here none

Which is ironically why I came here. As the dating sites were overrun unfortunately which was very disheartening

Let me rephrase - unfulfilling

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I don’t meet often so when I do I’m not into a quick couple of hours type of meet so I’ve yet to experience bad sex or maybe I’ve just been lucky with who I’ve connected with

That’s not saying if I was with someone and I wasn’t fully enjoying it I’d just carry on I’d have to say something

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By *as2cheatMan
over a year ago

harrow

Yep I have , me and a woman hit it off , not my usual type but there was a good connection, unfortunately when we was having sex her pelvic bone was rubbing on my pelvis so bad it was really hurting ,she was a rather slim lady and I don’t know if I’m just not used to that but I was trying to cum so it would be over but the more I tried the less chance I had before that I never thought there was such thing as bad sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men - Is there such a thing ? You can always orgasm right? "

Yes. There is such a thing. And if anyone knows the difference between an orgasm and just cumming, that’s the difference. You kind of know when I woman is into it and you know when she’s not. I just sometimes wished she had told me before instead of goi g through the motions.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Here none

Which is ironically why I came here. As the dating sites were overrun unfortunately which was very disheartening

Let me rephrase - unfulfilling "

Again here a no, but I do choose wisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to meet a guy who only done one position until I mixed it up…. I taught him new things

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I have had some shit sex where the guy either put zero effort in and/or came too quickly.

I have also had disappointing sex - usually after a fantastic first meet. Second time would have been great as a 'standalone' experience but was just nowhere near as good as the first time

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Of course there is bad sex.

While the orgasm is pretty much an easy thing to achieve. That's not where the fun is, well not all of it. I can have a quick wank to achieve that feeling.

The good sex and to avoid "disappointing" sex is all down to the whole process.

The flirty build up, the kissing, the foreplay, the intimacy and connection. The exploration of your sexual partner, seeing them enjoy the pleasure as much as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I speak I’m in trouble

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"If I speak I’m in trouble

Don't speak, I know just what you're sayin'

So please stop explaining

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"If I speak I’m in trouble

Don't speak, I know just what you're sayin'

So please stop explaining"

Everyone here is having sex then.

I was just curious particularly about women as I know a few who barely meet nowadays and one of the reasons given is they have had such disappointing sexual experiences it almost creates anxiety before a new meet, they expect it to be crap, because that’s been the norm, whereas with a guy they always can get a level of satisfaction.

Maybe it’s rare. I’m not surprised it’s not discussed openly though , it’s a difficult thing to address especially as it might lead them to think it’s their fault, sexual incompatibility etc

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

^ Great sex!

We know everyone is having sex….

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By *ub... girlWoman
over a year ago

worcester

I won't name names but yes had one bad.

Kissing is a big part for me and due to the way I play, I didn't see them before.

Let's say, I thought a pigeon had entered my room, pecking away, let's say, my hands were released quickly and he was made to cum quickly

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Overall I'd say that the majority of my swinging experiences have been positive. I'm fairly realistic and know that *for me* having great sex 100% of the time with casual partners isn't likely

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I can only think of one time where I came away thinking waste of my time.

There may have been more that I've forgotten about with my terrible memory.

It's not always been amazing sex but average sex can be satisfying too.

We aren't all looking to swing from chandeliers or do back bends over a sofa.

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By *aughty treatsMan
over a year ago

tamworth

You’ve never tried me ????

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I won't name names but yes had one bad.

Kissing is a big part for me and due to the way I play, I didn't see them before.

Let's say, I thought a pigeon had entered my room, pecking away, let's say, my hands were released quickly and he was made to cum quickly

I know what you mean about that style of kissing - Mwah, Mwah, Mwah it’s horrible isn’t it ! Like a crazy old grandma

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If I'm not in the mood to meet I won't, as I think the onus for satisfaction isn't all on my partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's sex?

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

I have had 2 experiences since being on here. One, he turned up, undressed straight away and decided to rub his cock up n down my pussy (with condom on) straight away and then cum. No foreplay nothing.

Luckily I’ve had some absolutely mind blowing sex and met some great people

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By *ub... girlWoman
over a year ago

worcester

"I won't name names but yes had one bad.

Kissing is a big part for me and due to the way I play, I didn't see them before.

Let's say, I thought a pigeon had entered my room, pecking away, let's say, my hands were released quickly and he was made to cum quickly

I know what you mean about that style of kissing - Mwah, Mwah, Mwah it’s horrible isn’t it ! Like a crazy old grandma

It is, especially when they are clean shaven, it's rough on my lips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ratio wise, I've have more good sex from here but I have had some bad sex too. Not enough to put me off meeting anyone though.

Pxx

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

My last meet was exactly that, unfulfilling.

He was young, tall, good looking, good kisser, but obviously inexperienced. Virtually zero foreplay, and then he couldn't perform... He then told me there was only a 50/50 chance of him getting hard, apparently something to do with watching too much porn and masturbating too often over the years. Didn't even offer to sort me out

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

"What's sex? "

It's what kiwi's say between 5 and 7

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Well I have had a few when the lady has been so demry it's been painful

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By *sianflower77Woman
over a year ago

Emerald City

"What's sex? "

Not met any men since last June need I say more?

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By *as2cheatMan
over a year ago

harrow

"My last meet was exactly that, unfulfilling.

What a waste , sorting you out with my tongue would have been my favourite part , sounds just selfish really

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"My last meet was exactly that, unfulfilling.

Ouch! Let’s hope he doesn’t browse the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The worst sex I ever had was like a total shift in the chemistry.

We were kissing passionately on her sofa, really into each other -- she was like "let's go upstairs", so I obliged and followed her.

We stripped each other, still kissing -- and then she rolled onto her bed, face up, turned into a lifeless lump and said "OK then, climb on!"

I kinda did, but she remained completely motionless for the entire time -- absolutely all the passion had vanished into thin air.

Maybe it was something I said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The worst sex I ever had was like a total shift in the chemistry.

We were kissing passionately on her sofa, really into each other -- she was like "let's go upstairs", so I obliged and followed her.

We stripped each other, still kissing -- and then she rolled onto her bed, face up, turned into a lifeless lump and said "OK then, climb on!"

I kinda did, but she remained completely motionless for the entire time -- absolutely all the passion had vanished into thin air.

Maybe it was something I said

Did she slip an invoice into your hand when you were done

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By *airyboxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

There is absolutely such a thing as bad sex for us guys. If you girls aren’t enjoying it then stop us and give us guidance. Your all different and it’s sometimes hard to ascertain your requirements from no communication

Now back to my crossword 6across and 9 down

Gangbang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t word it as bad sex per se, yet I must admit that I sometimes felt soulless during sex.

Nothing to do with the partner I was having sex with but more so the situation I found myself in.

Made me realise that to fully appreciate the endless possibilities that sex can provide, my principles need to be in line with my lust. Otherwise, I’d feel empty … pun intended in every sense of the word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is most definitely such a thing.

The "dead fish" scenario where my partner is just lying there moaning but not really participating in the physical effort, is the worst.

Maybe it's just me, but I prefer a partner who is physical, active, even challenging.

Good sex should be more like a wrestling match than inflating a tyre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad sex usually equals - crap kisser or lack of enthusiasm.

God loves a trier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking like 2 thrusts and then he comes or just like really just awful in bed? Ive had a guy cum just as he put it in he was that embarrassed he left so id class that as bad as i never got satisfied lol

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York

I had a meet from here once where I met this couple on a deserted country road.The fantasy was that they had broken down and I stopped to help.

Long story short I remember licking her clit as he had her doggystyle, his balls practically slapping off my face ( i’m 100% straight) and I questioned my life choices at that point.

The stiffest thing was my neck and I was unable to fuck her as I was in a lot of pain due to cricking my neck.

I ended up just wanking over her, so I managed to cum at least!

I’ve had some truly mind blowing sex with people I’ve met on this site though.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"My last meet was exactly that, unfulfilling.

What a waste , sorting you out with my tongue would have been my favourite part , sounds just selfish really "

Didn't. Even. Offer! Rude... I mean it's happened before and the guys asked if I got any toys, so I've still got mine and it's been fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had about three meets where I had quite rubbish sex. I should've listened to my gut feeling at social telling me something is off. However, I pushed it aside. It was the case of either guy was quite selfish, or didn't know what to do(was quite robotic and awkward) and the last one was. I felt he didn't find me attractive enough but still proceed with sex because it's simply sex. It wasn't very nice.

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I had a meet from here once where I met this couple on a deserted country road.The fantasy was that they had broken down and I stopped to help.

Long story short I remember licking her clit as he had her doggystyle, his balls practically slapping off my face ( i’m 100% straight) and I questioned my life choices at that point.

The stiffest thing was my neck and I was unable to fuck her as I was in a lot of pain due to cricking my neck.

I ended up just wanking over her, so I managed to cum at least!

I’ve had some truly mind blowing sex with people I’ve met on this site though."

That’s not what I meant but nice story. Couldn’t you have just secured them to one of his thighs with some duct tape?

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"I had a meet from here once where I met this couple on a deserted country road.The fantasy was that they had broken down and I stopped to help.

Long story short I remember licking her clit as he had her doggystyle, his balls practically slapping off my face ( i’m 100% straight) and I questioned my life choices at that point.

The stiffest thing was my neck and I was unable to fuck her as I was in a lot of pain due to cricking my neck.

I ended up just wanking over her, so I managed to cum at least!

I’ve had some truly mind blowing sex with people I’ve met on this site though."

It’s these sorts of anecdotes that keep me coming back to the forums!

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"There is most definitely such a thing.

The "dead fish" scenario where my partner is just lying there moaning but not really participating in the physical effort, is the worst.

Maybe it's just me, but I prefer a partner who is physical, active, even challenging.

Good sex should be more like a wrestling match than inflating a tyre."

I think the difference is most guys can still manage to orgasm , even on a dead dish they don’t particularly fancy , or even if it’s two pumps and a little squirt, satisfied and on their way. So it wouldn’t put them off further meets

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have a knack of sniffing out men who are my kind of filth in bed so bad sex meets have been , thankfully, rare!

Those that were bad? Well upon consideration that was mainly due to poor decision making on my part and ignoring my gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men - Is there such a thing ? You can always orgasm right?

Women - how much bad sex to good sex have you had here? Do you ever avoid meeting men or having sex on here because of the likelihood of it being bad ? "

Actually, yes there is.

I had one partner who pretty much just used to lie there. Didn't put any effort in at all. Didn't show much enthusiasm and I got the impression that somehow she felt 'dirty' doing it.

Maybe her being Catholic had something to do with it, who knows - but it was a real mood killer.

I mean, usually you can get a sense that your partner is or isn't enjoying what you're doing to them - and there were some things that I could certainly tell she enjoyed but it was her whole general attitude towards sex - as if she was doing ME a favour

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I haven’t had bad sex. I’ve had a couple of experiences in my life where the sex or the sexual experience wasn’t quite as I hoped it would be, but that may be down to my expectations more than anything else.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

She gives bad sex^^^

She’s a bad girl.

So bad.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"She gives bad sex^^^

She’s a bad girl.

So bad."

Who blabbed?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"She gives bad sex^^^

She’s a bad girl.

So bad.

Who blabbed?

It’s the kinda bad we all wanna experience I’ve heard… so bad it’s good, like eating a big dirty burger from fiveguys that leaves your hands sticky and your chin soiled

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"She gives bad sex^^^

She’s a bad girl.

So bad.

Who blabbed?

It’s the kinda bad we all wanna experience I’ve heard… so bad it’s good, like eating a big dirty burger from fiveguys that leaves your hands sticky and your chin soiled

it’s all true, obviously.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd say that out of 10 meets 3 are good. The remainder fall between disappointing and crap.

I base this on what a guy says he can do and what he actually manages on a meet. Too many wannabe sex gods on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't have bad sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i don't have bad sex

Px "

Is that guaranteed? I’ll buy 2 if it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck yes, when I first started having sex it wasn't great. I didn't know what I was doing or what I wanted even. And my partner had only had a few one night stands, so he hadn't a clue either on how to have really good sex. It's great discovering what you like and becoming a sex god as time goes on.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

If I'm not having fun I blame myself

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'd say that out of 10 meets 3 are good. The remainder fall between disappointing and crap.

I base this on what a guy says he can do and what he actually manages on a meet. Too many wannabe sex gods on here."

Have you ever thought of a different approach to deciding who to meet?

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I'd say that out of 10 meets 3 are good. The remainder fall between disappointing and crap.

I base this on what a guy says he can do and what he actually manages on a meet. Too many wannabe sex gods on here.

Have you ever thought of a different approach to deciding who to meet?"

How though? I've met guys who've been lovely at the social, glowing veris any they've not lived up to them. You are never going to know until you get down to it. Same goes for the ones you think might be a bit shy and they surprise you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had some shit sex where the guy either put zero effort in and/or came too quickly.

I have also had disappointing sex - usually after a fantastic first meet. Second time would have been great as a 'standalone' experience but was just nowhere near as good as the first time"

Us too xx

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd say that out of 10 meets 3 are good. The remainder fall between disappointing and crap.

I base this on what a guy says he can do and what he actually manages on a meet. Too many wannabe sex gods on here.

Have you ever thought of a different approach to deciding who to meet?"

I can't imagine many guys messaging me asking if I'd like some really crap sex. Plenty giving it the sex god routine though. Offering hours of amazing sex culminating in a massive explosion of cum but delivering two minutes and a slight dribble.

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Sex is like Pizza, even if it’s not great it’s still Pizza

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'd say that out of 10 meets 3 are good. The remainder fall between disappointing and crap.

I base this on what a guy says he can do and what he actually manages on a meet. Too many wannabe sex gods on here.

Have you ever thought of a different approach to deciding who to meet?

There's more than one way to skin a cat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely there is. Lying back, no foreplay initiating from them, just stick it in and I'll do nothing but enjoy what you give.

Fuck that

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Men - Is there such a thing ? You can always orgasm right? "

No; I had a meet last month where I didn't cum, and there have been other times...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Absolutely there is. Lying back, no foreplay initiating from them, just stick it in and I'll do nothing but enjoy what you give.

Fuck that"

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The sex with my ex-wife was pretty crap after a while, on the rare occasions it came along.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Had 1 disappointing experience after meeting on a BDSM site. We had got on very very well chatting online, but when we met, just no chemistry. We both felt the same way, so got dressed and went for dinner instead.

Still keep in touch.

Had some really bad sex over the years where he though a huge cock would be enough to compensate for lack of technique. Actually stopped him mid Shah and asked him to leave, because I couldn't be bothered faking in.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Sex is like pizza. Even when it’s bad, it’s good.

I don’t believe that really. But it’s a great quote.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Absolutely there is. Lying back, no foreplay initiating from them, just stick it in and I'll do nothing but enjoy what you give.

Fuck that"

Perhaps learn to think for yourself. Maybe consider initiating foreplay. You're having a go at her. She may be waiting for you to initiate proceedings.

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