FabSwingers.com forum: How's your mental health?

By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

Hi all,

Not had a new thread for a few weeks.

How's everyone doing?

Are you struggling with anything?

Do you feel you've no one to talk too?

Please reach out to someone or post in the forum

The forum people have always been there for lots in the past.

The lighter evenings and spring are around the corner, hopefully this will bring some light to your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning. What a lovely post! I'm midway through a meds change so a bit wobbly. I'm always happy to chat to anyone who needs some support.

Nettie xx

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Morning. What a lovely post! I'm midway through a meds change so a bit wobbly. I'm always happy to chat to anyone who needs some support.

Nettie xx"

Hope your wobble doesn't last too long and new meds help.

Thankfully I've not had any med changes for quite a while now.

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By *atthew78Man
over a year ago

Winsford

Living with depression and anxiety so every day is a rollaway coaster hoping to make friends here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning. What a lovely post! I'm midway through a meds change so a bit wobbly. I'm always happy to chat to anyone who needs some support.

Nettie xx

Hope your wobble doesn't last too long and new meds help.

Thankfully I've not had any med changes for quite a while now. "

Fingers crossed. It's been a tough couple of years after a spinal cord injury and emergency surgery but I'm getting there, thank you.

N x

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Due to some perfect storm of sickness and personal circumstances my entire team have gone sick today.

Autistic Anxiety much you betcha.

But I can do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good Morning,, Great Thread.. Currently on Meds for Depression, Anxiety and Confidence issues (Fab can be a great source of comfort or a real confidence breaker). Extremely happy to have a good friends base on here who either share the same problems or just like to help.. Be interested in any one else's issues and how they cope.

Phil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning and thanks for asking.

Feeling a bit yuk this morning.

I had planned to get so much done today and now feel overwhelmed with it all. I have tools to deal with it though.

Hope you are OK x

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Bad, bad, bad…

Having a brother on what practically is suicide watch 5,000+ miles away from me is awful. The pressure I am getting from his friends to get myself over there is overwhelming. I only started my job a few months ago and can’t really take a long leave of absence. If I lose my job, I am not able to provide for him or pay for any medical attention- all private health system over there… he has no income whatsoever and I support him 100% financially.

Been looking for a therapist to talk things through but can’t find one I click with.

Only respite I get my trips at work.

It sucks, it really does. And not in a good way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning and thanks for asking.

Feeling a bit yuk this morning.

I had planned to get so much done today and now feel overwhelmed with it all. I have tools to deal with it though.

Hope you are OK x"

Pick one thing and do that. Reduces the overwhelmed feeling and means you have accomplished something. I get this a lot. N xx

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Morning. What a lovely post! I'm midway through a meds change so a bit wobbly. I'm always happy to chat to anyone who needs some support.

Nettie xx

Hope your wobble doesn't last too long and new meds help.

Thankfully I've not had any med changes for quite a while now.

Fingers crossed. It's been a tough couple of years after a spinal cord injury and emergency surgery but I'm getting there, thank you.

N x"

Sounds a slow road to recovery but every day is a step closer.

Hope you recover full soon.

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Living with depression and anxiety so every day is a rollaway coaster hoping to make friends here"

It is, we have to find our own ways of coping with it and hoping that it doesn't defeat us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good Morning,, Great Thread.. Currently on Meds for Depression, Anxiety and Confidence issues (Fab can be a great source of comfort or a real confidence breaker). Extremely happy to have a good friends base on here who either share the same problems or just like to help.. Be interested in any one else's issues and how they cope.

Phil "

Fab is a bit of escapism at times isn't it. I recommend a self care day, doing something you enjoy... Even if that's giving yourself permission to binge watch TV and eat biscuits!! N x

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Due to some perfect storm of sickness and personal circumstances my entire team have gone sick today.

Autistic Anxiety much you betcha.

But I can do this. "

Ah not so good. You can only do 1 thing at a time.

Hope some will be back tomorrow.

And yes, you can and will do it.

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

Phil "

No harm in trying other coping methods until you find one that suits you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have fibromyalgia , but suffering with flu, Strep A and chest infections since November,tends to cause flare ups,always here to chat if needed

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

A very nice idea to start the thread.

Many of us either suffer or have suffered with these issues, and someone to listen or to give a positive angle and practical advice is a great help

Easy said, but even a walk outside can do wonders, especially if there’s a park or green space nearby

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Bad, bad, bad…

Been looking for a therapist to talk things through but can’t find one I click with.

Only respite I get my trips at work.

It sucks, it really does. And not in a good way. "

Oh gosh, what a terrible situation you're in.

Is working at home(near your brother) possible?

Have you spoken to HR and ask for a leave of absence?

Take care of you also

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Good morning and thanks for asking.

Feeling a bit yuk this morning.

I had planned to get so much done today and now feel overwhelmed with it all. I have tools to deal with it though.

Hope you are OK x"

Things can wait, until you're feeling a bit better.

Take care of you 1st.

I'm OK, thank you for asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bad, bad, bad…

Been looking for a therapist to talk things through but can’t find one I click with.

Only respite I get my trips at work.

It sucks, it really does. And not in a good way. "

This is an awful lot to deal with. I feel for you.

Obviously I don't know your situation and why your brother is dependent on you financially. I would say though you are not responsible for your brother and hopefully he is in the right place and is safe.

Keep looking for a therapist, the right one is worth there weight in gold. Big hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning all, what a lovely thread to see and for people to be open about.

I'm struggling a little bit to be honest. I'm trying to find the best way to balance everything I want to do around work and around the gym. I've tried going gym early in the morning before work as after work is too busy and stressed me out, but going early in the morning has really run me down and I also want to get back to playing table tennis and football but feel like I'd be over-stretching myself.

My Fab life hasn't really taken off this year either and that should've changed this past weekend if it wasn't for a cold that knocked me out and now I'm getting worried the longer my draught goes on that makes me lose a little more faith.

I'm hoping things work out as the year goes on but I am feeling a little lost and disorganised at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning and thanks for asking.

Feeling a bit yuk this morning.

I had planned to get so much done today and now feel overwhelmed with it all. I have tools to deal with it though.

Hope you are OK x

Pick one thing and do that. Reduces the overwhelmed feeling and means you have accomplished something. I get this a lot. N xx"

Thanks. I've made a list and if I get to tick off 1 or 2 it's fine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well like to be honest better than I was still on my tablets about year ish ago was sectioned after my 2nd attempted in my own life

but better in myself at moment just like get career going now a I do odd jobs on building sites as agency working but like something bit of satisfaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually doing OK recently.

Have had a tough year previously, been struggling with PTSD, but it feels like I am coming through the other side.

My filters are down, so if anyone wants to reach out to a stranger please do so. I am a sympathetic listener x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

Not had a new thread for a few weeks.

How's everyone doing?

Are you struggling with anything?

Do you feel you've no one to talk too?

Please reach out to someone or post in the forum

The forum people have always been there for lots in the past.

The lighter evenings and spring are around the corner, hopefully this will bring some light to your life.

And how are YOU doing OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m bookmarking this. It’s a good thing to try to open up and get those feeling to the surface.

Me, I spoke to someone just yesterday and explained that I’m emotionally unstable. Im a complete emotional mess because everything away from my works is filled with unhappiness. It’s only Monday to Friday where I have desttaction and purpose.

But. I’m Mentally stable and strong. I know I can deal with all this, I just don’t want to. So I’m trying to find things that make me happy, but being an feeling alone in this life’s journey is not helping.

I’m not the best person to give advice or talk to for help as I very much need it myself, but my heart goes out to anyone who struggles with things daily.

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

Appalling. I can't even find the words to talk to those closest about how I'm feeling and so I've pretty much locked down and hardly speak to even my closest friends... I don't want to bring them down as I don't bring much to their lives as it is and this could be the reason they need to just cut off. So why I'm posting this on a public forum I don't know

Logically I know there is good in my life, there are even smiles in every day, but I can't seem to feel that through the clouds at the moment.

I hope you're OK, OP, and that anyone suffering manages to find their joy.

Posh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At this point I think I’ve just came to accept that my brain is a little broken and I’ve gave up trying to fix it. Some days are better than others and I’m ok just now but I know it doesn’t last for very long.

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Morning

I'm struggling a little. Back pain has ment Im off sick from work which is never good for anxiety, and I'm still getting used to the neuroleptic pain tablets. I just hope they start working soon.

How's everyone else doing ?

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Morning, having autism and bPd I have a up and down day,so far it's going OK x

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Morning, having autism and bPd I have a up and down day,so far it's going OK x"

You've got this! Hope your day keeps going OK for you

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Hugs to everyone that needs it

My MH started declining a few weeks ago thanks to issues at work, but I think I'm still coping fairly well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning

I'm struggling a little. Back pain has ment Im off sick from work which is never good for anxiety, and I'm still getting used to the neuroleptic pain tablets. I just hope they start working soon.

How's everyone else doing ?

I can truly relate to back problems. I had emergency spinal surgery 18 months ago. Life changing stuff. I found gabapentin good for the nerve pain but the weight gain not so good. Mid meds swap to try duloxetine instead.

Nettie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been 4 months since my ACL, MCL reconstruction operation. My mental health has been horrible. It's starting get back to normal now though. Started a healthier lifestyle and feel great x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am struggling with depression. It's been pretty unstable for months now. I cry all the time, I've lost interest in so many things. I dread going to work, getting out of bed in the morning. And the worst thing is parenting is absolutely sucking the life out of me but I've got no choice but to get on with things. I'm lucky I have my partner as I lean on him often and he's great. But I feel like I'm stuck in a storm that isn't going to pass anytime soon. But it's important to remember things will get better.

It's good to talk. Sending strength to those who are struggling. As the cliché saying goes, it's ok to not be ok.

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Morning

I'm struggling a little. Back pain has ment Im off sick from work which is never good for anxiety, and I'm still getting used to the neuroleptic pain tablets. I just hope they start working soon.

How's everyone else doing ?

Nettie x"

Thanks Nettie, I hope the back surgery was a success for you.

The pregablin is helping, the nerve pain, but it's still there. But reading about it, it has an accumulation effect so may take a kettle while to get the full benefit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it’s been a roller coaster is all I will say

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bless all

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"It's been 4 months since my ACL, MCL reconstruction operation. My mental health has been horrible. It's starting get back to normal now though. Started a healthier lifestyle and feel great x"

Hopefully you are on the mend and you will be able to start exercising again. I find exercise ( for me cycling) great to bost your mental health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning

I'm struggling a little. Back pain has ment Im off sick from work which is never good for anxiety, and I'm still getting used to the neuroleptic pain tablets. I just hope they start working soon.

How's everyone else doing ?

Nettie x

Thanks Nettie, I hope the back surgery was a success for you.

The pregablin is helping, the nerve pain, but it's still there. But reading about it, it has an accumulation effect so may take a kettle while to get the full benefit "

Yeah it takes a couple of weeks. I had bad side effects from pregabalin. Nasty stuff. Waiting for more surgery. My life aim is to become Mrs Robocop

N x

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Hope you feel better soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's been 4 months since my ACL, MCL reconstruction operation. My mental health has been horrible. It's starting get back to normal now though. Started a healthier lifestyle and feel great x

Hopefully you are on the mend and you will be able to start exercising again. I find exercise ( for me cycling) great to bost your mental health "

Cheers buddy. I wanna start cycling soon x

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

I'm actually in tears reading some of these posts. Probably because I've been there and know how lonely and hard it is.

If anyone wants to message me regarding their MH, please do. I'm a good listener and I don't judge. If not me, then anyone else that's offering an ear.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Thank you OP for posting

I try to post each Monday a check in post that a former forum member started

It’s good to see someone else posting regarding MH

Mine is a bit down at the moment for various reasons

I have the tools and training to manage it but I sometimes don’t take my own advice

Hope you all have a great week

My ear is always here for anyone

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I love this OP

The lighter mornings and evenings are certainly helping. Just need the weather to warm up now. I’m find getting myself out walking with my dog really helping, also just changing over on medication so feeling a bit meh but keeping positive.

Have a good day all

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

I'm OK at the moment, last suicidal thoughts were 4 weeks ago...not had any black periods since...fingers crossed x

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"It's been 4 months since my ACL, MCL reconstruction operation. My mental health has been horrible. It's starting get back to normal now though. Started a healthier lifestyle and feel great x"

I had an ACL repair around 15yrs ago.

Hope you recover soon

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Hugs to everyone that needs it

My MH started declining a few weeks ago thanks to issues at work, but I think I'm still coping fairly well.

Hope things improve at work for you.

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I'm OK at the moment, last suicidal thoughts were 4 weeks ago...not had any black periods since...fingers crossed x"

That sounds tough. Hang in there, and hopefully you have professional support.

As you've seen there are some lovely people here you can reach out to talk to if things get too much

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"At this point I think I’ve just came to accept that my brain is a little broken and I’ve gave up trying to fix it. Some days are better than others and I’m ok just now but I know it doesn’t last for very long. "

I think I'm broken at times also, I've learnt today with things without anyone around.

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"I'm OK at the moment, last suicidal thoughts were 4 weeks ago...not had any black periods since...fingers crossed x

That sounds tough. Hang in there, and hopefully you have professional support.

As you've seen there are some lovely people here you can reach out to talk to if things get too much"

I use a group called shout and I recommend them to anyone who needs help x

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Big hugs and a comforting smile to everyone on this thread. And, indeed, everyone that isn’t but should be.

Generally speaking, I feel ok. But I do have a big emptiness in my life that I’m struggling to fill. I love it when I’m happy and it feels like a looooong time since I was there.

Work - shit

House project - shit

Love life - shit

Fab - generally ok but haven’t met anyone I really like for months. Love the forums but struggle with my own issues there.

I’m going to seek a private assessment for autism in the next couple of months and I hope to get some answers to questions that have been rattling round my head of late.

More than happy to chat to anyone about anything with no judgment. Just remember I’m a bit weird and not a therapist!

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It's great that people have been able to share their struggles, and thank you OP for the thread. I have a non judgemental listening ear too if anyone needs one. Sometimes just being listened to helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm broken at times also, I've learnt today with things without anyone around.

I spend so much time looking after everyone else and making sure they are ok that I forget to look after myself. So the things I should be dealing with I just block out.

I hope you’re ok lovely

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

There has been a rapid decline in my mental health the last few weeks, can really feel it now. Thought I was pulling myself out of it, but in reality I'm sinking deeper. Been here a few times before so hopefully get through it! Much love to anyone else struggling, I know all too well it isn't easy

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By *ong-leggedblond OP Woman
over a year ago

Next Door

"I'm OK at the moment, last suicidal thoughts were 4 weeks ago...not had any black periods since...fingers crossed x"

Take each day as it comes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a little bit, I've had horrendous back pain for a few weeks now, that's been bringing me down majorly (thankfully I'm on pain meds now) and my swinging life has been getting me down for a few months, it's not the end of the world and there is so many "important" things to be worrying about but I can't help the way my brain works x

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

My poor hubby has a terrible cancer, had a very different life since November,scared and feel like a child, been together over 40 yrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My poor hubby has a terrible cancer, had a very different life since November,scared and feel like a child, been together over 40 yrs "

Bless .. i know how this feels ..

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"It is a little bit, I've had horrendous back pain for a few weeks now, that's been bringing me down majorly (thankfully I'm on pain meds now) and my swinging life has been getting me down for a few months, it's not the end of the world and there is so many "important" things to be worrying about but I can't help the way my brain works x"

I feel for you with your back pain. I hope the pain meds are helping and you are on the way up. Pain sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine has been great recently.

Tablets and therapy work wonders.

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By *omptationMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Right now, its really fucking low... just cant seem to do right by anyone and feel like im just spinning my wheels...

Genuinely dont know if I can go on like this much longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is always on a tightrope. One wrong step and I plummet.

This is a lovely post OP, hope you (and everyone else) is doing okay

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Generally very good. I've never had true depressive episodes and can generally deal well with stress.

I normally become quieter when things are on my mind as I digest them on my own. Very traditional stiff upper lip in that sense.

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By *sianflower77Woman
over a year ago

Emerald City

Thankfully my mental health is well I’m on the perfect dose on psyche drugs. Plus I’ve made some lifestyle changes, I also try to avoid depressing news articles books movies etc as they impact on my mental health.

Overall I’m happy

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By *sianflower77Woman
over a year ago

Emerald City

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there. Great you have started this thread OP. I'm more than happy to listen to anyone who is struggling. Take care all.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What a lovely thread, OP. I'm glad the stigma attached to this is easing.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Had a lovely weekend first time I'd been out this year. Seen some old friends and was feeling decent then I go in to work this morning and am going to be made redundant.

Then on way back home my car has broken down. Waiting to be recovered as I type.

Incredible.

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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago

East Yorkie

Always here for anyone who wants to chat or feels they need some support.

Reach out and somebody will take your hand and lead you to a safe space.

Lets get rid of the stigma and prove to the world its not a weakness to talk its a strength to ask for help. Xx

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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago

East Yorkie

"Had a lovely weekend first time I'd been out this year. Seen some old friends and was feeling decent then I go in to work this morning and am going to be made redundant.

Then on way back home my car has broken down. Waiting to be recovered as I type.

Incredible.

You’ll be right fella and if ya need an ear im

Sure there are plenty that can help

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Currently.. shocking..

I could quite happily engage in psychotic behaviour. Knock of the majority of the individuals that surround me and mad max everyone on the roads...

I am, of course, trying to make it seem light-hearted, but really, I am just frustrated and angry all the time...

I have stopped communicating with siblings.

Stay as sain as I can for my kids. When they leave, I procrastinate. Don't sleep and hate the thought of going to my day job. Wish I could transition, be free to be me, but with real boobs..it is not possible due to medical reasons. So I am stuck in a life that I can't escape from...

Mental state on scale of 0-10. 3 4ish..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Currently.. shocking..

I could quite happily engage in psychotic behaviour. Knock of the majority of the individuals that surround me and mad max everyone on the roads...

I am, of course, trying to make it seem light-hearted, but really, I am just frustrated and angry all the time...

I have stopped communicating with siblings.

Mental state on scale of 0-10. 3 4ish.. "

I'm sorry. That sounds really tough.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"I'm OK at the moment, last suicidal thoughts were 4 weeks ago...not had any black periods since...fingers crossed x"

Keep going mate, I know how scary those thoughts are but as cliched as it sounds things do get better

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

"Had a lovely weekend first time I'd been out this year. Seen some old friends and was feeling decent then I go in to work this morning and am going to be made redundant.

Then on way back home my car has broken down. Waiting to be recovered as I type.

Incredible.

You’ll be right fella and if ya need an ear im

Sure there are plenty that can help

Thanks mate

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

A couple of weekends ago it wasn't great. Actually it was pretty fucking awful to be honest. I came very close to leaving here and just shutting everyone out.

I think that a date possibly wasn't the best idea. Not the actual date, more what happened during. That sounds sinister, nothing like that! It's a long story.

But today? I'm happy. Good actually. More than. I feel more me. My friends have been... well I've told them how much they mean to me. It's the little things that have made a difference. Daft voice notes of songs being sung in different styles (Blank Space as an eighties ballad was a flex that will be rewarded soon).

I think that because I got to the point where I felt... like I wasn't worth much. You know, not important? Invisible. Like I'm not meant for here. It's hard to explain. I know a lot of it was down to my awful pmt hormones.

Anyway, my resilience, libido and happiness is back. I feel more grounded.

I don't really post often on these threads. Actually I haven't before. But I think everyone can have bad times and there shouldn't be a stigma attached. Maybe openly discussing it when I normally post smut/pseudo intellectual threads will help people see that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all, I haven't taken my medication for over a week, when I first went on them they definitely helped with my depression and anxiety but recently I have been getting more infuriated by little things like I used to so as I can't seem to get a doctor appointment to see if I need more or different meds,I just haven't taken them as I feel it's everyone else that is the problem and not me

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By *sianflower77Woman
over a year ago

Emerald City

"Had a lovely weekend first time I'd been out this year. Seen some old friends and was feeling decent then I go in to work this morning and am going to be made redundant.

Then on way back home my car has broken down. Waiting to be recovered as I type.

Incredible.

So sorry to read this hopefully things will improve for you. It all seems to happen at once and you think what else can go wrong?. Take care

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hi all, I haven't taken my medication for over a week, when I first went on them they definitely helped with my depression and anxiety but recently I have been getting more infuriated by little things like I used to so as I can't seem to get a doctor appointment to see if I need more or different meds,I just haven't taken them as I feel it's everyone else that is the problem and not me "

Irritability can be a symptom of anxiety.

I hope whatever is going on for you eases soon.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I've taken a few serious hits over the last few months, getting back to normal but just wish people weren't so cruel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the process of starting intense trauma therapy course,

Scared anxious nervous

Cptsd bpd and disassociated behaviour so,a mess x

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

As tempting as it may be, going cold turkey on meds because you think they aren't helping will only make things worse. Stick with the mess until yiu can speak to a doctor

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"A couple of weekends ago it wasn't great. Actually it was pretty fucking awful to be honest. I came very close to leaving here and just shutting everyone out.

Meli, I've been where you have, it's not fun. I'm glad you're still with us. You matter.

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

Shocking been having memory flash back to my sexual assault which has sent me on a spin and also started having tremors in arm and side which is being investigated but making me panic and spin and been told seem in a slump.

No idea what do to fix or get out but just seem to be hitting low esp with my flashbacks flaring up

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

" I don't really post often on these threads. Actually I haven't before. But I think everyone can have bad times and there shouldn't be a stigma attached. Maybe openly discussing it when I normally post smut/pseudo intellectual threads will help people see that. "

I have so much love for this, we have to normalise mental health and conversations around mental health. It makes me sad when i see people comment that they don't really suffer from mental health or dismiss mental health as a weakness, comments no one would ever say about physical health. But comments like this are the antithesis of that, we all struggle (some more than others) and acknowledging that is the only way we can work to reduce the stigma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been a bit low the last 2 weeks. My dad's been in hospital (livers packed in) and combined with a stressful period in work it put me in a bit of a slump

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Been a bit low the last 2 weeks. My dad's been in hospital (livers packed in) and combined with a stressful period in work it put me in a bit of a slump

I'm sorry. Take care of yourself

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

As for me - I divide my mental health into organic and situational. The division isn't always clear.

Situationally, things are dragging on me a bit. But I don't feel as bad as I would expect under these circumstances.

So I suspect my organic mental health is in a very good place, even if overall I'm not in an ideal place.

That's a win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shocking been having memory flash back to my sexual assault which has sent me on a spin and also started having tremors in arm and side which is being investigated but making me panic and spin and been told seem in a slump.

No idea what do to fix or get out but just seem to be hitting low esp with my flashbacks flaring up "

Stay strong mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right now, its really fucking low... just cant seem to do right by anyone and feel like im just spinning my wheels...

Genuinely dont know if I can go on like this much longer"

You can. You are stronger than you know. Be proud of yourself for being so open about how you're feeling. Take little step after little step. N x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

For those who are suffering - one of the things that helps me is self compassion, or grace and space.

Emotions are normal and happen to all of us. Sometimes things get on top of us. Everyone feels this way, you're not alone, or uniquely bad/ weak/ whatever in your suffering. Show yourself some compassion.

Find a way to separate yourself from your suffering. Give yourself some space. If you're in the depths, just creature comforts - sleep, bath, chocolate. Do something to get yourself out of the worst. If you're doing a bit better, do things that you know will constructively improve your mood - eat some fruit, go for a walk, exercise, work on a project that's important to you.

Doing both of these things should help you recover some of your lost resilience to carry on.

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Think I am doing ok no real problems at the moment anyway

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over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"A couple of weekends ago it wasn't great. Actually it was pretty fucking awful to be honest. I came very close to leaving here and just shutting everyone out.

Meli, I've been where you have, it's not fun. I'm glad you're still with us. You matter."

Oh I know. I have a fondness and flair for being dramatic.

Sometimes I just need people. And for someone who finds it difficult to be vulnerable, actually accepting that is challenging but fuck it. I'm working on not deleting myself. I have a habit of doing that literally when I feel too exposed. But there's nothing wrong with being human and feeling. I'd rather feel than be numb.

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By *ainyDaySunshineMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Life has been pretty sh@t lately but the dark nights are leaving.

It's time to turn the frown upside down. Keep your hands inside the car at all times

Meds keep me fighting the good fight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life has been pretty sh@t lately but the dark nights are leaving.

It's time to turn the frown upside down. Keep your hands inside the car at all times

Meds keep me fighting the good fight."

Your user name is inspiring for this thread. Thank you.

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By *lark_KentMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"In the process of starting intense trauma therapy course,

Scared anxious nervous

Cptsd bpd and disassociated behaviour so,a mess x"

Good luck, I hope it helps you. It's understandable to be nervous, but I'm sure it will be worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi guys

I got to say this OP is a fantastic person and thank you for the lovely post.

My storey is my son, my little man as I called him passed away 8 months ago from a very rare genetic disorder, he was the most beautiful little boy I had ever seen. He was a blonde haired little angle. juring his time here I met some really great doctors and nurses. These people don’t get enough recognition for the work they do,

Me on the other hand I’m keeping a brave face, my business is struggling as it’s supplying labour and I’m not focused, I’m hurting inside and loosening interest,

Everyone has there cross,

Once again thank you OP and I hope your doing good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a lovely idea for a thread op

Somewhere for ppl to say how they really feeling , spesh when it seems like the only thing ppl wanna talk bout is " so when we meeting "

Which when your feeling low and in a sad place is the last thing you want to read

Big hugs ( cos we all need them ) to everyone

If anyone wants to chat ur more than welcome to msg anytime ( put mental health in subject )

I'm no professional but I can b an ear for somebody that needs one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’m struggling. Feel like no matter how hard I try people just brush me aside. I work hard I’m confident I’m genuine and always come in correct. I get depressed sometimes and have suffered from serious brain cancer. Just feel like I need a bit of a helping hand

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

No idea what do to fix or get out but just seem to be hitting low esp with my flashbacks flaring up

Stay strong mate

Thanks trying calm and do what learned I. Therapy but sometimes when life manic and busy hard to manage and sort.

Thank you means lots and messages have had always nice ppl there to support or help

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Good and bad days! I'm quite good at always putting a face on and appear fine. I find people can wear a mask for so long it becomes so easy! Me personally uses humour to hide things when feeling down, But i like humour in general. I think grief can be hard some days! It can feel lonely when you miss someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doing alright. Been a bit lonely, but better than I have been for a while!

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Same old same shit different day. Just battle on a day at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long gone

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By *b72Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Like most I have good and bad days, being on my own a lot doesn't help, but then again shit happens, it's all about how you clean it up.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Hope everyone is ok today, remember people here will talk , it’s never too late.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Right now, its really fucking low... just cant seem to do right by anyone and feel like im just spinning my wheels...

Genuinely dont know if I can go on like this much longer"

Missed this, yesterday. Dude - shout up to me or anyone else for a chat. Sometimes it’s nice to have just a chat with no agenda other than putting the world to rights and talking shite.

I always feel better when I talk to someone, even if it’s not directly related to my life.

Hope you’re doing ok today

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By *rishman75Man
over a year ago

Chessington/epsom

I do trauma and support for the company I work for and I've been busy with people connecting with me to talk about this kind of stuff and it's affecting alot more every day .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice Post I am on watch and wait as I have chronic leukaemia I'm just getting on with life

Do get a bit down but soon snap out of it

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Nice Post I am on watch and wait as I have chronic leukaemia I'm just getting on with life

Do get a bit down but soon snap out of it"

Very sorry to hear of this. Do you have a good support network around you? It’s amazing what modern medicine can achieve, these days.

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By *queakyclean69erCouple
over a year ago

Torquay / Fleet

Phil "

Having seen a family member be on drugs for two out of the three you mentioned ( not confidence ) try and get off the tablets as soon as you can

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By *uietlycheekyMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

Generally good at the minute …. Work colleague testing my patience though …. Count to 10 and a few deep breaths should see me right

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Love this.

Things are a bit rough at the moment but I’m getting there and have good support around me.

Also have some time off work this week to recharge my batteries which should help

Additionally my inbox is open to anyone who needs a sympathetic ear or a safe, judgement free place to vent

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not good. Gone down hill in the last 6 weeks. Hit rock bottom at the weekend. Spoke to my psychiatrist today and he is changing some of my medication.

I still do grief councilling as I still can't accept my partner has gone.

It was my birthday Sunday and I cancelled all my plans and curled up in bed all day.

My birthday cards are on the table and I've not opened yet

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

To be honest I think my metal health is suffering mostly due to my employer. at present not sure I can ever get straight again my doc has prescribed anti depressant but not sure if I should start taking them

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By *ames_HertsMan
over a year ago

North Hertfordshire

I'm it sure this place is great for mental health if I'm honest. I take breaks from being online

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Not good. Gone down hill in the last 6 weeks. Hit rock bottom at the weekend. Spoke to my psychiatrist today and he is changing some of my medication.

I still do grief councilling as I still can't accept my partner has gone.

It was my birthday Sunday and I cancelled all my plans and curled up in bed all day.

My birthday cards are on the table and I've not opened yet"

There's no right or wrong way to deal with the grief of the loss of a partner, I hope things improve for you soon XX

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Wildly variable. Not enough sleep, family stress, tight finances and constantly moving around for work are not helping. Still - muddling through as best I can.

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By *niquemale17Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I hope everyone is ok and open to chat to anybody if needs be for additional support

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

Normally pretty robust but at the moment absolutely rubbish - high pressure project and little support is doing my head in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice Post I am on watch and wait as I have chronic leukaemia I'm just getting on with life

Do get a bit down but soon snap out of it

Very sorry to hear of this. Do you have a good support network around you? It’s amazing what modern medicine can achieve, these days."
yes I can phone up anytime not on any medicine until I get worse thanks for asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peaks and troughs! I'm doing much better thanks to some expert counselling.

Speaking of which, my next appointment is coming up...

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I was doing quite well at the start of the but it seems my demons have caught up with me again

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By *6996Man
over a year ago

Weston Super Mare

After leaving the Army which I served 22 years the things that got me down are losing a few good mates. Civilian life is harder than I thought it would be.

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Not going to lie, struggling a bit at the moment. Suffer from PTSD and EUPD and life sucks right now.

I had a little motorbike, 110cc that was my life, helped massively with my mental health. Unfortunately it has been pinched and now discovered that the insurance does not cover it.

I am deemed unfit for work so had to isolate for longer than most, to safe pennies during that time I lowered my insurance with the intentions to put it back up when I was using the bike more, only I forgot to do that.

So now I am lost without it, and simply not in a position to get a new one. Bad credit rating means getting a loan is not possible.

With my illness I isolate myself. I would suggest that other than the local shopkeeper I have not spoken to anyone since Christmas.

Sure on social media I do, but I mean actually spoken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread.

Had a massive mental.health issue recently rhat the awfully is now better.

Everyone take care and be kind

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By *empusMan
over a year ago

Poole

Feeling a lot happier now the seasons are changing. I have really missed feeling The Sun on my skin.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this all my life amongst other things, fecking nightmare

https://www.topdoctors.co.uk/medical-dictionary/dysthymia?amp=1

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