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"Reports that Bob Geldof twice called Sam Smith the James Bond Singer, he or him on breakfast TV. Should this cause outrage? " For calling Sam Smith "The James Bond Singer?" | |||
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"There's nothing that makes my blood boil more than someone I don't know misgendering someone else I don't know, Tom. Do They Know It's Christmas will never sound the same."  | |||
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"I'm afraid to say that I'm with Sir Bob on this one. He's got more talent in his little finger than the attention singing screeching wannabee" Bob never sang a Bond song though | |||
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"Tbh I thought he passed away years ago. You learn something new each day "Nah Sam Smith is still going | |||
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"Bob never sang a Bond song though " Surely he did, there was the song about silicon chips inside her head being switched to overload - clearly reference to View to a Kill? | |||
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"There's nothing that makes my blood boil more than someone I don't know misgendering someone else I don't know, Tom. Do They Know It's Christmas will never sound the same." *Do HE know its Christmas? | |||
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"Bob never sang a Bond song though Surely he did, there was the song about silicon chips inside her head being switched to overload - clearly reference to View to a Kill?" Or the COVID/Bill Gates theory | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good "Only they aren't are they? | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only he isn't is he?"If I've understood correctly, John, it doesn't matter how people ask to be referred to, we just get to choose ourselves. It's all good. | |||
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"I'm afraid to say that I'm with Sir Bob on this one. He's got more talent in his little finger than the attention singing screeching wannabee Bob never sang a Bond song though " Neither did Sam Smith, just sounded like a death durge. When Heart radio was playing it constantly every 4 songs overnight, me and my colleagues had to add out own overture to it. It had customers and staff in fits of laughter | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only he isn't is he?
If I've understood correctly, John, it doesn't matter how people ask to be referred to, we just get to choose ourselves. It's all good. "I'm obviously gutted that you quoted my faux pas there 
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only they aren't are they?"Yea he is. | |||
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"Well, yeah… a Boomtown Rat" That was my first thought  | |||
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"Tbh I thought he passed away years ago. You learn something new each day
Nah Sam Smith is still going "Unfortunately haha | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only he isn't is he?
If I've understood correctly, John, it doesn't matter how people ask to be referred to, we just get to choose ourselves. It's all good.
I'm obviously gutted that you quoted my faux pas there
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. " Ignoring the 2 genders falsehood, yiu know that bitgh certificates can be legally be reissued and a death certificate reflect reassignment? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. " So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only they aren't are they?
Yea he is."Okay as you are doubling down on this, what do you gain by refusing to acknowledge someone's chosen pronouns? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ?" Exactly this. You may or may not agree with it, and I'm an old man so it's confusing for me too, but if someone asks me to refer to them in a certain way, I'm going to do my best to do that. Feels like common decency to me. | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only they aren't are they?
Yea he is.
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""Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good Only he isn't is he?"  This is without doubt the most hilarious thing I've read in months. | |||
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"Shit happens. I can't speak for Geldof, but I have very little interest or knowledge in Sam Smith. I'm going to subconsciously drift in to saying he/him. Very likely multiple times in a conversation. Same goes for any and everyone else I know little about, even more so when it comes to non-binary and less obvious gender choices. I'm not there to intentionally hurt feelings but respect that there is every chance I will get it wrong." I agree. I refuse to walk around on hot coals worrying about getting the he/she thing wrong but to do it on purpose is just fucking obnoxious. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Ignoring the 2 genders falsehood, yiu know that bitgh certificates can be legally be reissued and a death certificate reflect reassignment?" Can you have your birth cert updated from her to them? Didn't know that | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only they aren't are they?
Yea he is.
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Sanity. "Genuinely? So if someone told you it upset them - and ignore Sam Smith for a second - you'd ignore their request for your sanity? | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only they aren't are they?
Yea he is.
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Sanity. "So being deliberately disrespectful keeps you sane? Are you sure about that? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ?" If they asked I would but I'm not going to apologise if I got ot wrong, crikey I can't even remember my family members names half the time | |||
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Yea he is.
Okay as you are doubling down on this, what do you gain by refusing to acknowledge someone's chosen pronouns?
Sanity.
So being deliberately disrespectful keeps you sane? Are you sure about that?"In this case. 100% yes. But hey let’s just agree to differ. It’s easier all round. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Ignoring the 2 genders falsehood, yiu know that bitgh certificates can be legally be reissued and a death certificate reflect reassignment? Can you have your birth cert updated from her to them? Didn't know that " I didn't say that. I was just pointing out the huge flaw in your birth and death certificate analogy as somehow confirming that there are only 2 genders is flawed as it is legally changed for people who have gender reassignment surgery | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? If they asked I would but I'm not going to apologise if I got ot wrong, crikey I can't even remember my family members names half the time " Yeah I get that. We automatically say he and she and always have. I won’t be worrying about it but I wouldn’t do it on purpose. I’m unlikely to have people in my life where I have to worry about that anyway to be honest | |||
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"There's nothing that makes my blood boil more than someone I don't know misgendering someone else I don't know, Tom. Do They Know It's Christmas will never sound the same. *Do HE know its Christmas?" | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only they aren't are they?
Yea he is.
Okay as you are doubling down on this, what do you gain by refusing to acknowledge someone's chosen pronouns?
Sanity.
So being deliberately disrespectful keeps you sane? Are you sure about that?
In this case. 100% yes.
But hey let’s just agree to differ. It’s easier all round."Sorry but I'm not agreeing to differ. I'm trying to understand the psyche of people who intententionally misgender people. To me it seems unnecessary, it seems cruel, it seems like bullying. But I realise some people obviously view it as perfectly acceptable and I'd live to understand why. So how does it help your sanity? How would you feel if people started misegendering you as a female? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Ignoring the 2 genders falsehood, yiu know that bitgh certificates can be legally be reissued and a death certificate reflect reassignment? Can you have your birth cert updated from her to them? Didn't know that I didn't say that. I was just pointing out the huge flaw in your birth and death certificate analogy as somehow confirming that there are only 2 genders is flawed as it is legally changed for people who have gender reassignment surgery " ' sex ' is understood as male or female , a trans person can change to male or female which is legally recognised but " they is not" So if Sam wants to become Sally good for him/her The point I was making " they/them" And in all honesty with all the crap that's going on someone is annoyed because they weren't called they. My mum calls me by sisters name regularly I dont get in a huff | |||
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""Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good Only he isn't is he? This is without doubt the most hilarious thing I've read in months."Really. Person accidentally misgenders someone, immediately retracts it and corrects themselves. I'll be honest it doesn't feel like comedy gold to me  | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? If they asked I would but I'm not going to apologise if I got ot wrong, crikey I can't even remember my family members names half the time Yeah I get that. We automatically say he and she and always have. I won’t be worrying about it but I wouldn’t do it on purpose. I’m unlikely to have people in my life where I have to worry about that anyway to be honest " Yep true and I definitely wouldn't go out of my way to do it. | |||
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"What toilet would Sam Smith go in in Morrisons? Male or Female? " Disabled …. Not for any other reason that its unisex…. So they wouldn’t have to make an incredibly difficult choice as to whether their non binary ….. ness precluded them from either binary choice or they could just piss themselves whilst wrestling with the decision. | |||
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"If I remember I read an article lately where a " man" who had committed numerous serious sexual attacks on women had changed his gender to female and was not been charged for the actual offence, Where do we go with that one ? " I think that was in America? | |||
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"I'm afraid to say that I'm with Sir Bob on this one. He's got more talent in his little finger than the attention singing screeching wannabee Bob never sang a Bond song though " I'd argue that Sam Smith hasn't either - he screeched it. | |||
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"Reports that Bob Geldof twice called Sam Smith the James Bond Singer, he or him on breakfast TV. Should this cause outrage? " No. Only to those that are outraged.  | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Ignoring the 2 genders falsehood, yiu know that bitgh certificates can be legally be reissued and a death certificate reflect reassignment? Can you have your birth cert updated from her to them? Didn't know that I didn't say that. I was just pointing out the huge flaw in your birth and death certificate analogy as somehow confirming that there are only 2 genders is flawed as it is legally changed for people who have gender reassignment surgery ' sex ' is understood as male or female , a trans person can change to male or female which is legally recognised but " they is not" So if Sam wants to become Sally good for him/her The point I was making " they/them" And in all honesty with all the crap that's going on someone is annoyed because they weren't called they. My mum calls me by sisters name regularly I dont get in a huff" It raises their profile every time they’re discussed- if they complain then they get press coverage and become topical… | |||
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"If I remember I read an article lately where a " man" who had committed numerous serious sexual attacks on women had changed his gender to female and was not been charged for the actual offence, Where do we go with that one ? " I'm pretty sure no one has not been charged based on changing their gender | |||
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"What toilet would Sam Smith go in in Morrisons? Male or Female? Disabled …. Not for any other reason that its unisex…. So they wouldn’t have to make an incredibly difficult choice as to whether their non binary ….. ness precluded them from either binary choice or they could just piss themselves whilst wrestling with the decision. " Good point | |||
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"If I remember I read an article lately where a " man" who had committed numerous serious sexual attacks on women had changed his gender to female and was not been charged for the actual offence, Where do we go with that one ? I'm pretty sure no one has not been charged based on changing their gender "A man in Spain who beat his female partner for opposing his transition has avoided charges of gender-based violence by legally changing his identification to “female” and adopting a woman’s name. The Iowa Attorney General’s Office is no longer seeking the commitment of a former Midwest Christian Services student convicted of myriad sex crimes because the individual now identifies as a woman. Court records show the state dismissed the application on Jan. 9. Attorney general spokesman Lynn Hicks wouldn’t comment on the reason for the dismissal other than to say “an offender’s hormone levels are an important part of substantiating an offender’s likelihood of recidivism.” Just two examples | |||
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"If I remember I read an article lately where a " man" who had committed numerous serious sexual attacks on women had changed his gender to female and was not been charged for the actual offence, Where do we go with that one ? I'm pretty sure no one has not been charged based on changing their gender "Just looked it up, she has been charged alright | |||
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""Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good Only he isn't is he? This is without doubt the most hilarious thing I've read in months.
Really.
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I'll be honest it doesn't feel like comedy gold to me ""Accidently". Yeah, right. You did it because that's what you've been taught all your life, but now, because the fashion has changed, you're struggling to keep up the pose. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ?" I had an experience similar with this. A woman was introduced to me by some friends and later in conversation told by a friend I am a transgender woman which up to that point she didn’t know . The woman decided to start on referring to me as him / he / guy for about 10 minutes , I politely pulled her to one side and asked her quietly would she be so kind to remove her head out of her cunt for a few minutes mate . She got really angry over it but I laughed it off by dismissing her with a click of my fingers / hand gesture wave Infront of her as I turned away telling her she can leave the group now . She left but later told my friends she thought I was extremely rude arrogant and nasty but they told her I simply reflected back her ignorance / arrogance . Now if we are in the group she either lurks In the back of the group when I show up. It’s quite funny really as I don’t feel awkward at all with it . | |||
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"If I remember I read an article lately where a " man" who had committed numerous serious sexual attacks on women had changed his gender to female and was not been charged for the actual offence, Where do we go with that one ? I'm pretty sure no one has not been charged based on changing their gender
Just looked it up, she has been charged alright
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Just looked it up, she has been charged alright
What prison would they go in? "She's going into a female prison but will be kept separate from general population till they assess if she's a danger | |||
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"So can any of those celebrating misgendering on this thread explain what they get from that?" I'm guessing it makes them feel safe, along with being big for mocking others? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? I had an experience similar with this. A woman was introduced to me by some friends and later in conversation told by a friend I am a transgender woman which up to that point she didn’t know . The woman decided to start on referring to me as him / he / guy for about 10 minutes , I politely pulled her to one side and asked her quietly would she be so kind to remove her head out of her cunt for a few minutes mate . She got really angry over it but I laughed it off by dismissing her with a click of my fingers / hand gesture wave Infront of her as I turned away telling her she can leave the group now . She left but later told my friends she thought I was extremely rude arrogant and nasty but they told her I simply reflected back her ignorance / arrogance . Now if we are in the group she either lurks In the back of the group when I show up. It’s quite funny really as I don’t feel awkward at all with it . " I was at a social where there was a guy who sometimes dresses as a female, I've met him in both situations and called him by his name when he was a guy and when he was dressed as a female I called him by that name, and if was in the situation again I'd politely ask what to call them. But in a general conversation I'm not going to stop everytime to think what am I supposed to say. | |||
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""Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good Only he isn't is he? This is without doubt the most hilarious thing I've read in months.
Really.
Person accidentally misgenders someone, immediately retracts it and corrects themselves.
I'll be honest it doesn't feel like comedy gold to me
"Accidently". Yeah, right. You did it because that's what you've been taught all your life, but now, because the fashion has changed, you're struggling to keep up the pose. "Or possibly because I was responding to a post referencing he and followed their lead. I'm not sure what point yiu are trying to prove here? That everyone, however conscious they are of respecting pronouns slips up occasionally? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? I had an experience similar with this. A woman was introduced to me by some friends and later in conversation told by a friend I am a transgender woman which up to that point she didn’t know . The woman decided to start on referring to me as him / he / guy for about 10 minutes , I politely pulled her to one side and asked her quietly would she be so kind to remove her head out of her cunt for a few minutes mate . She got really angry over it but I laughed it off by dismissing her with a click of my fingers / hand gesture wave Infront of her as I turned away telling her she can leave the group now . She left but later told my friends she thought I was extremely rude arrogant and nasty but they told her I simply reflected back her ignorance / arrogance . Now if we are in the group she either lurks In the back of the group when I show up. It’s quite funny really as I don’t feel awkward at all with it . " Why on earth did your 'friend' inform her that you are trans? I'd be pissed off at them both. | |||
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"It's getting to the point when you have no idea what to call, or how to address people these days. It seems no matter what you do or say these days, someone is always going to be offended. If this is a major thing that we have to worry about in the world today, then society if fucked... Just my opinion, sorry for any offence to anyone, none is/was intended... "This 100% people seem to get offended at the slightest thing so much going on in the world to be worried about. I know as a person as long as I get through life knowing I've never I'll treated anyone and if I offend someone I'd apologise. | |||
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"It's getting to the point when you have no idea what to call, or how to address people these days. It seems no matter what you do or say these days, someone is always going to be offended. If this is a major thing that we have to worry about in the world today, then society if fucked... Just my opinion, sorry for any offence to anyone, none is/was intended...
This 100% people seem to get offended at the slightest thing so much going on in the world to be worried about.
I know as a person as long as I get through life knowing I've never I'll treated anyone and if I offend someone I'd apologise."Exactly, it's not always our fault if we are not sure, this whole thing is steam rolling along quite fast, and a lot of us old dogs take time to learn new tricks | |||
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"It's getting to the point when you have no idea what to call, or how to address people these days." So what? Life's tough sometimes. Presumably you made it through the 70's and 80's okay? Some dodgy fashion choices there made it unclear how to address people. But I'm sure you bravely soldiered on. How do you refer to a baby if you're unclear if it's a boy or girl? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. " Spot on! | |||
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"It's getting to the point when you have no idea what to call, or how to address people these days. So what? Life's tough sometimes. Presumably you made it through the 70's and 80's okay? Some dodgy fashion choices there made it unclear how to address people. But I'm sure you bravely soldiered on. How do you refer to a baby if you're unclear if it's a boy or girl? " Call the baby a crotch gremlin and wait to be corrected by the parent | |||
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"Yeah I do think non binary people who like to be referred to as 'them' do need to appreciate it is a learning curve for alot of us even though most of us (me included!) don't mean to offend." Every nb I've ever met has been incredibly gracious. Doesn't always go both ways though, as this thread demonstrates. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Spot on!" Intersex? | |||
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"It's getting to the point when you have no idea what to call, or how to address people these days. It seems no matter what you do or say these days, someone is always going to be offended. If this is a major thing that we have to worry about in the world today, then society if fucked... Just my opinion, sorry for any offence to anyone, none is/was intended...
This 100% people seem to get offended at the slightest thing so much going on in the world to be worried about.
I know as a person as long as I get through life knowing I've never I'll treated anyone and if I offend someone I'd apologise.
Exactly, it's not always our fault if we are not sure, this whole thing is steam rolling along quite fast, and a lot of us old dogs take time to learn new tricks "I think the point has been made several times on this thread that there's a world of difference between accidentally and deliberately misgendering someone. I'm confident most people have no problem with an accidental misgendering but repeated or deliberate misgendering is completely different abd despite ehst some on here seem to feel not acceptable | |||
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"Yeah I do think non binary people who like to be referred to as 'them' do need to appreciate it is a learning curve for alot of us even though most of us (me included!) don't mean to offend. Every nb I've ever met has been incredibly gracious. Doesn't always go both ways though, as this thread demonstrates. " Oh I've met some right 'orrible cunts of multiple "accepting" genders that hurl all kinds of abuse as soon as you even look like you might even hesitate on which pronoun to use. Witnessed it as the target of the abuse, and as a 3rd party witness. Both sides are full of absolutely vile and unaccepting people - even when wanting acceptance themselves. | |||
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"I just refer to Sam Smith as ‘ that daft prick with the whiney voice’ which I believe is gender neutral as I would hate to cause offence obviously "Snap! | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Spot on! Intersex? " No such thing. That would be a congenital defect,like a cleft palate. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Spot on! Intersex? " Nope. DSD people hate being lumped in with this | |||
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" How do you refer to a baby if you're unclear if it's a boy or girl? " IT | |||
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"We are going to get to a stage where we won’t know what to call different people soon. He/she/they/those. " Adding they to he and she, increasing the option from 2 to 3, surelynits not that complicated? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Ignoring the 2 genders falsehood, yiu know that bitgh certificates can be legally be reissued and a death certificate reflect reassignment? Can you have your birth cert updated from her to them? Didn't know that I didn't say that. I was just pointing out the huge flaw in your birth and death certificate analogy as somehow confirming that there are only 2 genders is flawed as it is legally changed for people who have gender reassignment surgery " There are only two genders aren't there? | |||
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"I'm afraid to say that I'm with Sir Bob on this one. He's got more talent in his little finger than the attention singing screeching wannabee Bob never sang a Bond song though " He built some things though.. Yes he did. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. Ignoring the 2 genders falsehood, yiu know that bitgh certificates can be legally be reissued and a death certificate reflect reassignment? Can you have your birth cert updated from her to them? Didn't know that I didn't say that. I was just pointing out the huge flaw in your birth and death certificate analogy as somehow confirming that there are only 2 genders is flawed as it is legally changed for people who have gender reassignment surgery There are only two genders aren't there?" There are innumerable genders - gender/to engender simply means 'act' or dress or behave a certain way, feelings dependant (simplest way to explain it!) There are 2 sexes. There can only ever be 2 sexes | |||
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"Intersex? Nope. DSD people hate being lumped in with this "I don't know how many you've worked with, but many young people I've known prefer to be called intersex. | |||
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I don't know how many you've worked with, but many young people I've known prefer to be called intersex."and? | |||
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"Intersex? Nope. DSD people hate being lumped in with this
I don't know how many you've worked with, but many young people I've known prefer to be called intersex.
and?"And I was referring to you lumping all people with so-called DSD into one group and saying they hate being lumped in with intersex. In a good many cases, that's incorrect. Either way, I'm pleased that you want to respect how they like to be referred to. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ?" Just wonder how that interaction would go... "hi (person I've never met before) make sure you call me them"... "right you are... I wasn't intending to call you anything but in the event I do have to reference you I will certainly try and call you them....but as I've called men men for the last 50 years please understand I may not get it as you've requested every time."... And now to our commercial break. | |||
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"Intersex? No such thing. That would be a congenital defect,like a cleft palate. " You seem to be confusing a birth defect with natural biological variations. | |||
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" I think the point has been made several times on this thread that there's a world of difference between accidentally and deliberately misgendering someone. I'm confident most people have no problem with an accidental misgendering but repeated or deliberate misgendering is completely different abd despite ehst some on here seem to feel not acceptable " What's misgendering? To my silly uninformed brain I know of two genders, male and female. People have the right to refer to themselves as what ever they want but don't throw a hissy fit if someone else calls a spade a spade. I'm 5.1ft tall (short) but I identify as being 6ft tall and don't none of you wokers dare to call me different. | |||
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"Intersex? Nope. DSD people hate being lumped in with this
I don't know how many you've worked with, but many young people I've known prefer to be called intersex.
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And I was referring to you lumping all people with so-called DSD into one group and saying they hate being lumped in with intersex.
In a good many cases, that's incorrect.
Either way, I'm pleased that you want to respect how they like to be referred to."So what is intersex? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? Just wonder how that interaction would go... "hi (person I've never met before) make sure you call me them"... "right you are... I wasn't intending to call you anything but in the event I do have to reference you I will certainly try and call you them....but as I've called men men for the last 50 years please understand I may not get it as you've requested every time."... And now to our commercial break. I was simply meaning I say he, they say I would prefer to be referred to as they. I then don’t be a prick and purposely refer to them as he. Quite simple really " Don’t get me wrong. I think the whole thing is bonkers but I don’t see the point in deliberately trying to wind people up and like I said earlier it’s unlikely to ever affect my life so let them get on with it. | |||
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"Smith is unequivocally and unambiguously a man so he is addressing him the way I would. It’s good
Only they aren't are they?
Yea he is.
Okay as you are doubling down on this, what do you gain by refusing to acknowledge someone's chosen pronouns?
Sanity.
So being deliberately disrespectful keeps you sane? Are you sure about that?
In this case. 100% yes.
But hey let’s just agree to differ. It’s easier all round.
Sorry but I'm not agreeing to differ. I'm trying to understand the psyche of people who intententionally misgender people.
To me it seems unnecessary, it seems cruel, it seems like bullying. But I realise some people obviously view it as perfectly acceptable and I'd live to understand why.
So how does it help your sanity?
How would you feel if people started misegendering you as a female?"What does misgendering actually mean and why if someone I didn't know called me a her is that going to get my panties all bunched up? It's the folks who a) make it a big deal when it really isn't and b) make it into something it isn't and c) start picking on folks who either don't understand or refuse to play. If someone want s to change their name or gender... That's seemingly their choice... If others call them whatever they call them, that's their choice. | |||
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"Drama queen status. Wants to be different to everyone else Prince wanted to. Be a symbol for fk sake I do believe a lot of it is just attention seeking. No doubt about it. " Sam Smiths case? Absolutely. That may be how Sam feels as a person and I get that, but the over the top stuff is the issue. But just like the Roald Dahl thing, it is pushed to the top by a PR team and media as a publicity stunt, all about being seen and noticed as a business model. Its a niche to tap in to. Great for awareness but it becomes obnoxious and starts to rub people up the wrong way often gaining less acceptance in the long run. | |||
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"It's getting to the point when you have no idea what to call, or how to address people these days. So what? Life's tough sometimes. Presumably you made it through the 70's and 80's okay? Some dodgy fashion choices there made it unclear how to address people. But I'm sure you bravely soldiered on. How do you refer to a baby if you're unclear if it's a boy or girl? " "baby" though if they grow up to be a fab member there's a good chance they will not like being called baby. | |||
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"Yeah I do think non binary people who like to be referred to as 'them' do need to appreciate it is a learning curve for alot of us even though most of us (me included!) don't mean to offend. Every nb I've ever met has been incredibly gracious. Doesn't always go both ways though, as this thread demonstrates. " I've not met any to my knowledge and certainly not been corrected upon any conversations with folks. But it seems there's a lot of offence being taken on behalf of others who may or not be offended if someone were to ever meet someone who has made that choice. | |||
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"I’m really too old for this shit. Only had Men and women most of my life not changing now It's funny that it's usually younger trendy 'woke' people who get called things like "snowflake." Yet a good number of people really flake out if asked to use someone's preferred pronouns. Some get terrible headaches at the mere thought of being respectful. Others apparently lose their sanity over such things. Life is such a struggle at times. " So why do some use preferred pronouns to identify themselves. Why are the 'older" pronouns not sufficient? | |||
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"But just like the Roald Dahl thing, it is pushed to the top by a PR team and media as a publicity stunt, all about being seen and noticed as a business model. Its a niche to tap in to. " I mean, Dahl was an explicit and unrepentant anti-semite who relied on numerous racist tropes. His edited battled with him on almost every book and his family apologised for his anti-semitic remarks after his death. So, not sure it's just PR. (And as for the latest Dahl row, that was actually pushed by a standards review, not a PR department.) | |||
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"But just like the Roald Dahl thing, it is pushed to the top by a PR team and media as a publicity stunt, all about being seen and noticed as a business model. Its a niche to tap in to. I mean, Dahl was an explicit and unrepentant anti-semite who relied on numerous racist tropes. His edited battled with him on almost every book and his family apologised for his anti-semitic remarks after his death. So, not sure it's just PR. (And as for the latest Dahl row, that was actually pushed by a standards review, not a PR department.)" Sam smiths entire image is a PR stunt. Just like David Bowie and just like lady gaga. It's a brand. Sam may very well feel none binary which I'm all fine with, but it is exploited to the max by PR especially through controversy since they know the media will lap that shit up and result in this. | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? Just wonder how that interaction would go... "hi (person I've never met before) make sure you call me them"... "right you are... I wasn't intending to call you anything but in the event I do have to reference you I will certainly try and call you them....but as I've called men men for the last 50 years please understand I may not get it as you've requested every time."... And now to our commercial break. I was simply meaning I say he, they say I would prefer to be referred to as they. I then don’t be a prick and purposely refer to them as he. Quite simple really " Sure... But that isn't misgendering someone nor cause for outrage and cancelling. Its a normal social encounter... "hi love" "please don't call me love" "OK"... How else are we supposed to know what someone likes to be called / referenced as? | |||
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"I'm with Bob on this, sorry but have no issue with people wanting to call themselves them etc but there's 2 genders male/female it'd on your birth cert love and when u die its on your death cert. So even if they requested you to call them them you would purposely call them he/she ? Just wonder how that interaction would go... "hi (person I've never met before) make sure you call me them"... "right you are... I wasn't intending to call you anything but in the event I do have to reference you I will certainly try and call you them....but as I've called men men for the last 50 years please understand I may not get it as you've requested every time."... And now to our commercial break. I was simply meaning I say he, they say I would prefer to be referred to as they. I then don’t be a prick and purposely refer to them as he. Quite simple really Sure... But that isn't misgendering someone nor cause for outrage and cancelling. Its a normal social encounter... "hi love" "please don't call me love" "OK"... How else are we supposed to know what someone likes to be called / referenced as? " what? I just asked someone a question I never said anything about misgendering or causing outrage. I really don’t care. I just think people who deliberately call someone the wrong thing just to be obnoxious are idiots. | |||
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"I’m really too old for this shit. Only had Men and women most of my life not changing now It's funny that it's usually younger trendy 'woke' people who get called things like "snowflake." Yet a good number of people really flake out if asked to use someone's preferred pronouns. Some get terrible headaches at the mere thought of being respectful. Others apparently lose their sanity over such things. Life is such a struggle at times. So why do some use preferred pronouns to identify themselves. Why are the 'older" pronouns not sufficient?" Because life's such a struggle at times for them when they are called he or she. | |||
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"What does non binary mean? It means the snowflakes will never know the cluster fuck of programming in machine code because someone else does it for them and now they have time to get offended by literally everything." Surely the snowflakes would be those who piss their pants and lose their minds because Oh, my, the world is so confusing these days!? | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles." The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that" Well said! | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. " I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question" Again agree! | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question" Nobody needs to convince you of anything. | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question" Maybe stop asking the question | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question" It's been answered but you're choosing not to see it. Just as you demand respect of your opinions then you should give respect to others opinions. | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question" I do agree to a certain extent. I wouldn’t intentionally be disrespectful. Doesn’t mean I agree with it all though. | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor." Yeah but red means don't cross and green means do cross, which button is an ok im not sure I might think about it and get offended if I can't choose or just think every car in the world needs to stop for me as im special | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question It's been answered but you're choosing not to see it. Just as you demand respect of your opinions then you should give respect to others opinions. " I dint think I've ever demanded people respect my opinions 
But it's interesting that people that are so opposed to using and respecting pronouns are so unwilling to explain why?
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question I do agree to a certain extent. I wouldn’t intentionally be disrespectful. Doesn’t mean I agree with it all though. " I think your comments on this thread actually sum up how it should be. No big deal if an error is made but doing it deliberately is unnecessary. | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question I do agree to a certain extent. I wouldn’t intentionally be disrespectful. Doesn’t mean I agree with it all though. " That is the essence for me - it does not matter what anybody thinks as long as they are not intentionally disrespectful, hurtful and seeking confrontation on somebody's personal leaning and choice. Well said! | |||
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"I wonder if a zebra crossing gets the huffy fit if someone calls it a pelican or toucan crossing? The mind boggles. The mind boggles that someone could compare a human being's identity and feelings with that of an inanimate bit of paint on the floor. You'd think a swinging site might be somewhere you'd find a bit more open mindedness amd tolerance towards gender identity wouldn't you? Yet time and time again on these threads there are some incredibly crass and cruel comments directed at anyone that challenges gender norms. Sam Smith will never see this thread but plenty of trans and non-binary people on fab will, I think some people need to maybe consider that Very true. But I think it's also important to see it from all sides. Because you think something should be so. Does not invalidate others feelings or opinions. I have yet to hear anything remotely convincing about why people can't or shouldn't respect pronouns though? I mean the answer upthread of "for my sanity" didn't really explain much did it? Again I'm all ears if you or anyone can explain what benefit deliberately ignoring pronouns adds to your life or what harm respecting them brings? To me it boils down to respected and kindness but I've asked this multiple times on here and no one ever answers this question It's been answered but you're choosing not to see it. Just as you demand respect of your opinions then you should give respect to others opinions. I dint think I've ever demanded people respect my opinions
But it's interesting that people that are so opposed to using and respecting pronouns are so unwilling to explain why?
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"We are going to get to a stage where we won’t know what to call different people soon. He/she/they/those. Adding they to he and she, increasing the option from 2 to 3, surelynits not that complicated?" So when you meet someone currently you instantly think he or she…you won’t know their pronoun or how they like to be referred to until they’ve stated or in terms of famous people like Sam Smith, then you are apparently meant to automatically know to refer to them to another pronoun. So yes, adding even one more makes it massively complicated
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When I tell somebody my name and they ask Mrs or Miss or Ms ... it is not the same thing as the gender and pronoun debate but I think at respect level there are similarities. I would expect them to accept and respect my choice. | |||
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"We are going to get to a stage where we won’t know what to call different people soon. He/she/they/those. Adding they to he and she, increasing the option from 2 to 3, surelynits not that complicated? So when you meet someone currently you instantly think he or she…you won’t know their pronoun or how they like to be referred to until they’ve stated or in terms of famous people like Sam Smith, then you are apparently meant to automatically know to refer to them to another pronoun. So yes, adding even one more makes it massively complicated
K"If they are male presenting He, female presenting She, if you aren't sure 'they'. If they correct you then apologise and use their preferred ones going forward. I genuinely dont see where the complication is? | |||
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"We are going to get to a stage where we won’t know what to call different people soon. He/she/they/those. Adding they to he and she, increasing the option from 2 to 3, surelynits not that complicated? So when you meet someone currently you instantly think he or she…you won’t know their pronoun or how they like to be referred to until they’ve stated or in terms of famous people like Sam Smith, then you are apparently meant to automatically know to refer to them to another pronoun. So yes, adding even one more makes it massively complicated
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If they are male presenting He, female presenting She, if you aren't sure 'they'.
If they correct you then apologise and use their preferred ones going forward.
I genuinely dont see where the complication is?"There isn’t if you know someone wants to be referred to in a different way but say I was somewhere like in a shop I’d automatically say go and ask that lady over there. I wouldn’t say go and ask that person over there. It’s not natural to me. | |||
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"We are going to get to a stage where we won’t know what to call different people soon. He/she/they/those. Adding they to he and she, increasing the option from 2 to 3, surelynits not that complicated? So when you meet someone currently you instantly think he or she…you won’t know their pronoun or how they like to be referred to until they’ve stated or in terms of famous people like Sam Smith, then you are apparently meant to automatically know to refer to them to another pronoun. So yes, adding even one more makes it massively complicated
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If they are male presenting He, female presenting She, if you aren't sure 'they'.
If they correct you then apologise and use their preferred ones going forward.
I genuinely dont see where the complication is?"Ok, no problem we see things differently
I’ve come on to find sexy people to have sex with not argue
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"We are going to get to a stage where we won’t know what to call different people soon. He/she/they/those. Adding they to he and she, increasing the option from 2 to 3, surelynits not that complicated? So when you meet someone currently you instantly think he or she…you won’t know their pronoun or how they like to be referred to until they’ve stated or in terms of famous people like Sam Smith, then you are apparently meant to automatically know to refer to them to another pronoun. So yes, adding even one more makes it massively complicated
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If they are male presenting He, female presenting She, if you aren't sure 'they'.
If they correct you then apologise and use their preferred ones going forward.
I genuinely dont see where the complication is?"Agreed.. you just don't .. | |||
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"We are going to get to a stage where we won’t know what to call different people soon. He/she/they/those. Adding they to he and she, increasing the option from 2 to 3, surelynits not that complicated? So when you meet someone currently you instantly think he or she…you won’t know their pronoun or how they like to be referred to until they’ve stated or in terms of famous people like Sam Smith, then you are apparently meant to automatically know to refer to them to another pronoun. So yes, adding even one more makes it massively complicated
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If they are male presenting He, female presenting She, if you aren't sure 'they'.
If they correct you then apologise and use their preferred ones going forward.
I genuinely dont see where the complication is?"So Sam Smith is male presenting and Bob Geldof called him a he... Don't see where the complication is. | |||
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