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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Is there a difference to being alone or lonely, what does it mean to you to be alone or lonely? Alone and lonely are both adjectives, but they have different meanings. A person is alone when they are by themself. A person is lonely when they feel abandoned or sad due to isolation. Since alone and solitary both contain the letter A, you can remember that alone refers to a state of solitude, rather than an emotion.

There are times we all feel lonely. The feelings of loneliness are personal, so everyone’s experiences of loneliness will be different.

One common description of loneliness is the feeling we get when our need for rewarding social contact and relationships is not met. But loneliness is not always the same as being alone.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

You can be alone without feeling lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my alone time, having a coffee by myself, roadtrips by myself.

Loneliness can b in a room full of people and be so lonely. I've learnt over the last couple of years to remove myself from them situations, I have found my tribe on here and Loneliness is a shadow in my life that is getting smaller

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Lonely I’d different to be alone. You can be in a marriage but feel alone . You can be in a crowded room and feel that sense of loneliness .

Sometimes having your own alone time is great and at other times it’s just lonely … if that makes sense?

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"Lonely I’d different to be alone. You can be in a marriage but feel alone . You can be in a crowded room and feel that sense of loneliness .

Sometimes having your own alone time is great and at other times it’s just lonely … if that makes sense? "

You know as well as I do that I know exactly how you feel

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"You can be alone without feeling lonely."

I like my alone time be it in the cold river or walking with my camera

It’s different to lonely

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I am desperate to be alone. I have a very people-facing job, and a beautiful but sometimes very needy child. I have never in all my life felt that a situation would be improved by having more people in it.

On the other hand, I've never felt lonelier than during my marriage, when I was almost never alone. So the distinction is indeed vital, and understood.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Lonely is sense a feeling

Alone is more a physical thing

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"Lonely is sense a feeling

Alone is more a physical thing "

We have talked for hours about this

And both know each other very well

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"I am desperate to be alone. I have a very people-facing job, and a beautiful but sometimes very needy child. I have never in all my life felt that a situation would be improved by having more people in it.

On the other hand, I've never felt lonelier than during my marriage, when I was almost never alone. So the distinction is indeed vital, and understood."

I get all that

I’m happy in my own skin being me

I was very alone the last five years of my last relationship

I have been alone 5 yrs almost but rarely feel lonely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can also be both, unfortunately…feeling a bit like that at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be alone and not be lonley.

And you can be with people and feel lonley.

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"You can also be both, unfortunately…feeling a bit like that at the moment "
you can

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I love being alone,I'm not lonely.

In the past I've felt lonely when with people I don't know or connect with

There's definitely a difference.

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"I love being alone,I'm not lonely.

In the past I've felt lonely when with people I don't know or connect with

There's definitely a difference."

There definitely is x

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By *ngelONorthWoman
over a year ago

North East


"I am desperate to be alone. I have a very people-facing job, and a beautiful but sometimes very needy child. I have never in all my life felt that a situation would be improved by having more people in it.

On the other hand, I've never felt lonelier than during my marriage, when I was almost never alone. So the distinction is indeed vital, and understood."

This, yes this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that feeling ??

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m often alone and not lonely.

I have been in company of others and felt lonely.

I enjoy being alone. I find it comforting, therapeutic and I can do whatever I want whenever I want. I am not a sociable person though and I’m an introvert, so to me being alone is my happy space.

I like to dabble into the company of others as and when. It’s not for everyone I know.

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By *ames_HertsMan
over a year ago

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I love my alone time, I think it's partly why I run so much. Alone, out in the elements, just me and my thoughts. Love it

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I know several people who are lonely but rarely alone - despite being surrounded by people they feel they have no one they can confide in.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I've been feeling both over the past few weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been feeling both over the past few weeks.

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There should be a 'hugs' emoji.

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I choose to be alone at times. I need the solitary down time.

I am extremely lucky to have a tight close knit circle of friends, so we reach out to each other if we need to for loneliness

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By *dnistMan
over a year ago

summertown


"Lonely is sense a feeling

Alone is more a physical thing "

Lonely is the unfulfilled desire for connection

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's possible to be alone but not lonely.

It's possible to be lonely amongst the largest crowd of you're emotionally excluded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's possible to be alone but not lonely.

It's possible to be lonely amongst the largest crowd of you're emotionally excluded. "

Exactly this, or even living with other people and still feeling lonely. Lonely in a friendship group, lonely in a work team etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how it feels to feel alone in amongst people. I do like my own company though and have learned how to be alone over the years x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I enjoy being alone I ride motorbikes and that’s my alone time. Feeling lonely is different and not nice

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By *arolandnigelMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Male half on his own a lot due to Carol working fulltime-always up for a nice female meet midweek daytimes--one bad thing though is the awful amount of debt/death/donate ads on the tele

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an introvert I need alone time to recharge. People often confuse the 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i live alone but thats my choice ...im not lonely thankfully ...

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm not alone in the house, but I feel lonely. That's because everyone else is doing stuff downstairs but I'm stuck upstairs and so I just have myself and my phone for company. I'll cope.

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By *rtyIan OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"I'm not alone in the house, but I feel lonely. That's because everyone else is doing stuff downstairs but I'm stuck upstairs and so I just have myself and my phone for company. I'll cope. "

Hopefully that will all change when you move on Friday x

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I'd say if you were in a room with one person or it's rammed full and you don't have a connection with them then you would, I know I have, feel lonely.

The converse is I'm sitting in a coffeeshop just now by myself listening to music and I don't feel lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend a lot of time alone but don't always feel lonely

But as others have said can be in a room full of people and feel so lonely and sometimes wonder why I went

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'm lonely but only for really sexy beautiful women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be alone and not lonely but you can be surrounded in people and feel alone

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"You can be alone and not lonely but you can be surrounded in people and feel alone "
can you be in bed and feel lonely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your sleeping i guess not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alone is having some time to myself.

Lonely is when I feel I'm the only person in the entire world, that no one cares about me and no one is there supporting me.

Thankfully I haven't felt lonely for a lot of years.

To anyone feeling lonely, please try and find a way to make yourself feel better.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"If your sleeping i guess not lol "
or if her name was lonely....... Child of the sixties

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m quite happy being alone 4-5 nights a week but knowing people are there if and when I need them is important.

Messaging doesn’t really do it for me, when I’m low & need someone it’s face to face and usually 1-2-1, quality time with family and friends or skin time with lovers , doesn’t heed to be sex.

It’s important to my mental health that I always have that , so I nurture key relationships to make sure I never lose it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be alone if you're by yourself or you can be with someone that makes you feel alone.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm quite often alone when I'm not in work but it's very rare that I actually feel lonely.

The peace and quiet after a load shifts in work is something I enjoy. I have my dogs and I don't get lonely when I am alone at home.

Some of the loneliest times in my life though where when I was in a relationship with someone who didn't care as much as I did about the relationship and that is the worst feeling in the world. I learnt after that to never settle for someone who puts you way down their list of priorities.

I'm very lucky as I have some close friends and family who check in on me and I think that is very important for anyone to know that you do have people there who care.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I'm quite often alone when I'm not in work but it's very rare that I actually feel lonely.

The peace and quiet after a load shifts in work is something I enjoy. I have my dogs and I don't get lonely when I am alone at home.

Some of the loneliest times in my life though where when I was in a relationship with someone who didn't care as much as I did about the relationship and that is the worst feeling in the world. I learnt after that to never settle for someone who puts you way down their list of priorities.

I'm very lucky as I have some close friends and family who check in on me and I think that is very important for anyone to know that you do have people there who care."
I dont have anyone to care for me or love me or pop in on me

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"I'm not alone in the house, but I feel lonely. That's because everyone else is doing stuff downstairs but I'm stuck upstairs and so I just have myself and my phone for company. I'll cope. "

Online browsing for the bungalow, Interior ideas maybe, just to pass some time?

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington


"Is there a difference to being alone or lonely, what does it mean to you to be alone or lonely? Alone and lonely are both adjectives, but they have different meanings. A person is alone when they are by themself. A person is lonely when they feel abandoned or sad due to isolation. Since alone and solitary both contain the letter A, you can remember that alone refers to a state of solitude, rather than an emotion.

There are times we all feel lonely. The feelings of loneliness are personal, so everyone’s experiences of loneliness will be different.

One common description of loneliness is the feeling we get when our need for rewarding social contact and relationships is not met. But loneliness is not always the same as being alone."
for me ALONE means you are on your own for a certain length of time,, a few hours or days,, being LONELY means being on my own 24/7 no company at all,, no human interaction at all humans are a social animals and need a certain amount of contact with others, the older we get the more lonely we become due to losing our close family,, partner kids etc,, and to counteract this we need to go places to get our little fix of human contact at,,i think that is why we see so many old people sitting in shopping centres and wandering round supermarkets so i always make a point of chatting to any i can,,, it might just make their day and give them help to get through another night ALONE and not feel LONELY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been single and lived alone for a very long time. After a few days in the noise and bustle of the office I crave the peaceful stillness of my home.

I've got emotionally close friends and family, even so there are times when I feel lonely and feel I'd like a more intimate relationship...then it passes.

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By *espacito56Man
over a year ago

Orkney

Mostly alone. Never lonely.

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"As an introvert I need alone time to recharge. People often confuse the 2"
I realise now I`m like yourself and (often) hard to fit In with others those circles are often smaller and harder to find by having something In common and meeting the right people do I feel relaxed and can come out of myself but that's been a big part of my life and Its a part of who I am.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I love spending time alone and am never lonely .but I do spend a lot of time with family and friends helping others with their problems .

So I find calm when alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alone suggests being on your own by choice. Lonely suggests you're on your own but would rather not be.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Alone suggests being on your own by choice. Lonely suggests you're on your own but would rather not be."

I think for those that suffer with it

Its more complex .you can be lonely I'm a room full of people or been with one or none its in your head your heart as to what's causing the feeling .

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By *WantYourWifeMan
over a year ago

Nearby


"I like my alone time, having a coffee by myself, roadtrips by myself.

Loneliness can b in a room full of people and be so lonely. I've learnt over the last couple of years to remove myself from them situations, I have found my tribe on here and Loneliness is a shadow in my life that is getting smaller"

So resonate with this. Most of my loneliest times have been when in company never when I’m alone.

Going to take the advice to remove myself from these situations and not just keep repeating again and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m both

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