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Where and When ? Objectification

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Where and When , let's just start with the UK for now, should we overlook conversations that reduce a human being to little more than an object?

Is it okay to turn a blind eye in a public arena or should we speak out ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is going to be a tough crowd for this thread, Granny. But I applaud it all the same.

Can we start with getting rid of the Jacqueline Jossa threads?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think we should overlook the objectification of people. It's extremely tiring challenging it though.

I notice we need t.v. adverts telling people not to do it now

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified …

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified … "

Is it though? Even people who aren't on here?

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Where and When , let's just start with the UK for now, should we overlook conversations that reduce a human being to little more than an object?

Is it okay to turn a blind eye in a public arena or should we speak out ?

"

We should speak out.

People, well men mainly meed to realise thst its not okay.

Some of the threads on these forums ast year about Liz Truss in (and also about many other women in the public eye) that appear on here were horrendous. Though the amount of men in those threads who used sex as a form of violence and punishment were probably more disturbing than the objectification.

It's utterly depressing to witness as a man and I suspect even more so for women

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified … "

Even if I agreed with that (and I really don't), it misses the point that the women on here are making a choice, in your opinion, that leaves them open to being objectified, where as women going about their every day business really don’t.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I see examples of men being objectified too.

In some ways Matt Hancock and Chris Whitty were objectified when they were 'jostled' in public and many single men on here are too

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

If someone wants to feel objectified that’s fine, others don’t want to be and shouldn’t be shamed for speaking up and saying no

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I see examples of men being objectified too.

In some ways Matt Hancock and Chris Whitty were objectified when they were 'jostled' in public and many single men on here are too"

I agree. It's not gender specific.

As it's illegal in work , on the street and in other areas to verbalise sexual violence toward people and it is recognised that to continually speak of people in those terms, even out of ear shot, has a detrimental effect on how people view each other - both the person expressing their sexual or violent desires and the person who never solicited any of it..

Our thoughts do form our beliefs and both form our actions.......

I don't think it's ever warranted or ever 'a bit of fun'

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified … "

I'd agree that it's mostly about appearing sexually attractive when we want to but even on swinging sites there is more to life than ' group thinking and vocalising' unsolicited sex acts.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I see examples of men being objectified too.

In some ways Matt Hancock and Chris Whitty were objectified when they were 'jostled' in public and many single men on here are too

I agree. It's not gender specific.

As it's illegal in work , on the street and in other areas to verbalise sexual violence toward people and it is recognised that to continually speak of people in those terms, even out of ear shot, has a detrimental effect on how people view each other - both the person expressing their sexual or violent desires and the person who never solicited any of it..

Our thoughts do form our beliefs and both form our actions.......

I don't think it's ever warranted or ever 'a bit of fun'

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I agree with everything you say.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified … "

Oof. I have a hard disagree with that one.

Being sex positive and open about what you want does not give people the right to treat you like some sort of sexual vending machine and objectify the way too many do on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified …

Oof. I have a hard disagree with that one.

Being sex positive and open about what you want does not give people the right to treat you like some sort of sexual vending machine and objectify the way too many do on here."

'sexual vending machine'

An excellent phrase

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified …

Oof. I have a hard disagree with that one.

Being sex positive and open about what you want does not give people the right to treat you like some sort of sexual vending machine and objectify the way too many do on here."

I'm pinching that too... 'sexual vending machine' ....

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm going for 'emotionless vending machine without agency'

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I'm going for 'emotionless vending machine without agency' "

But you're a woman, of course they're going to think you're an overemotional vending machine without agency

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I once heard a group of young 'men' (I use the term loosely) talking about some women they knew. A phrase that sticks in my mind some twenty years later is one of them saying

"I'd pull their knickers down and shag them"

All his cronies agreed and laughed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooooffft - I have a hard disagree with that one."

This is much better than the usual ooofft thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dropped my daughter off to a gig last weekend. She had to walk a short distance from where I dropped her to the location. A group of young men came out of a side street onto the road she was on. She told me that the ranged from calling her an Emo to shouting what they'd do to her - smash her, etc. She didn't know them. They didn't know her, yet they thought it was ok to discuss, loudly and in public, what they would do with her.

It seems we are a long way from respecting each other as people, irrespective of gender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where and When , ……

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Or who? ….

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Don't we overthink things? Just a bit?

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Don't we overthink things? Just a bit?"

Quite the reverse.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Talking about this site then we’re all here to be objectified. We ALL hope it’s by folk we have a mutual attraction towards as well

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I soo wanted to write a response to the ‘vending machine’ comment.

I didn’t though, does this mean I am making progress ?

I am trying…….. honestly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I soo wanted to write a response to the ‘vending machine’ comment.

I didn’t though, does this mean I am making progress ?

I am trying…….. honestly. "

A sex vending machine? Does it take card?

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Talking about this site then we’re all here to be objectified. We ALL hope it’s by folk we have a mutual attraction towards as well "

Not really Rex. YES we all want attention but we can choose whether we want sexual attention or not.

I was talking more about groups that get together and talk about what they'd do to an individual if they could.... and they talk about them as if they are 'less than' ....

Nice nob btw.

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I soo wanted to write a response to the ‘vending machine’ comment.

I didn’t though, does this mean I am making progress ?

I am trying…….. honestly. "

Huggy .... there is humour in everything x

( whisper it to me if you're scared )

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Talking about this site then we’re all here to be objectified. We ALL hope it’s by folk we have a mutual attraction towards as well "

Rex

It's a good job you're hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified … "

No it isn't...And just because we use this site it doesn't give others the right to be disrespectful. I embrace my sexuality and celebrate that...

And yes, I call it out.

I will call it out whether I see it here or elsewhere.

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"When we are in a site that is focused in occasional meets, nsa and so on, it’s all about being objectified …

No it isn't...And just because we use this site it doesn't give others the right to be disrespectful. I embrace my sexuality and celebrate that...

And yes, I call it out.

I will call it out whether I see it here or elsewhere. "

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Nowhere and never. In my opinion there are no circumstances where it is appropriate and yes I will absolutely call it out.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d wank over all your tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this is going to be a tough crowd for this thread, Granny. But I applaud it all the same.

Can we start with getting rid of the Jacqueline Jossa threads? "

Totally agree! Tbe Jacqueline thread I didn't comment on, and won't. The same goes with the Davina threads etc etc

100% objectified without their (or their parents) knowledge

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