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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Planning.

So, I'm planning a rather delightful jaunt with my favourite disgruntled pug.

And it's got me thinking, what are you like when it comes to planning? Are you the sort to work out all the minutiae details? Do you prefer to have things planned for you or go with the flow?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I hate planning but at the same time my overactive over thinking brain is throwing all sorts of scenarios at me that planning would solve no problem. Though then once planned, more scenarios pop up!

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

You know me associate ~ fly by the seat of my pants and see how it pans out

I just don’t enjoy organisation and planning. I want it to be spontaneous and exciting.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I enjoy planning fun days out, more so because if you just leave it to flow organically you can end up missing bits as you stick to what you know.

It also means I can fit in visits to the Lego shop!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'm kind of mixed with this Meli. I like certain things like the accommodation to be just so, and to find out what restaurants are worth a visit. I like planning that, and I've found some cracking Airbnb's in the past. But with regards to activities, I don't like to have a set itinerary, I'll get an idea of different options in the area and we can pick and choose depending on mood, weather, whether we actually make it out of bed etc.

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By *astandtheCurious2Couple
over a year ago

letchworth

I’m more of a wait for the details to be handed to me, and turn up accordingly kinda person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. I’m was always a bit of a mix. I like an itinerary, but happy to ditch things and improvise if I think something looks more suitable.

My plans have all gone to shit anyway, so I don’t plan anything anymore.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Having a daughter with Asperger’s planning is part and parcel also being ex army planning was day to day life.

Prior planning and preparation prevents piss poor performance

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I’m a last minute kind of gal usually but there’s something really exciting about a special event that I like getting stuck into. I’ll make a thousand and one itineraries then stick to none of them. That way I there’s options without commitment. Best of both worlds!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s good to plan a time and place & then just pencil in the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be in control of all the planning so I know its right as I'm an organised person

I do like suprises too though, but that's different.

Miss S x

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's like a military operation for me... I've got at least 2 trips that need organising, really must get on it!

Once I've done "the thing" though I'm quite happy to bumble about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to travel a lot (last summer we interrailed around France, Spain, back to france, Switzerland, Germany, Austria, back to Germany, the Netherlands and Belgium) in the space of 5 weeks, taking in lots of cities and beaches. I plan everything with military precision. J on the other hand will happily pack a rucksack and decide if he’s going to turn left or right.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

Me and planning have a love/hate relationship. I tend to either obsessively over think plans, a bit like trying to chose a film on Netflix then realising I have no time to watch after hours of procrastination or I don't plan, at all and panic instead...

Cherry x

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I hate planning but at the same time my overactive over thinking brain is throwing all sorts of scenarios at me that planning would solve no problem. Though then once planned, more scenarios pop up! "

Overthinking is truly a curse isn't it? I think you can definitely over plan sometimes! It's good to see how things naturally happen but if you're in your own head too much you kind of miss out on the fun of it.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"You know me associate ~ fly by the seat of my pants and see how it pans out

I just don’t enjoy organisation and planning. I want it to be spontaneous and exciting.

That's very you.

Spontaneity and exciting is good. Excellent even. But when you've got to schedule things, other commitments, book flights etc, sometimes planning is an evil necessity. I sometimes get the urge to throw caution to the wind and just ask people, hey, you free? But then the overthinking kicks in.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I like to make a ‘groundwork’ or fundamental plan so to speak (departure times, time of arrival etc) but also make a point to encompass and allow into this, leeway time for impromptu adventure (possibly a bit of unplanned sightseeing for instance)

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By *arko2020Man
over a year ago

Sale

I always buy pants with a re-enforced seat...because it gets used for flying quite frequently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My overthinking brain truly needs the false security of a well detailed plan. Unfortunately the same overthinking brain will tell me the plan will go wrong in many ways

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm kind of mixed with this Meli. I like certain things like the accommodation to be just so, and to find out what restaurants are worth a visit. I like planning that, and I've found some cracking Airbnb's in the past. But with regards to activities, I don't like to have a set itinerary, I'll get an idea of different options in the area and we can pick and choose depending on mood, weather, whether we actually make it out of bed etc. "

Restaurants/food consideration are a key component to any planning. Being more freeflowing with activities is good, it means you don't feel guilt or pressure to do all of those things and you can relax and enjoy yourself. One of the least enjoyable holidays I've had was when I was handed a full itinerary of activities planned. Down to the hour. Did we make all of them? No. Did I have to deal with a grumpy girlfriend? Yes.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I have to plan my journey to the second, and check where the bathroom facilities are.

If I'm going on a long journey I'll have a little meltdown the night before.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

When it comes to places of interest and restaurants we tend to pick one place we really want to go, then wander around looking for somewhere to eat afterwards. If we have time we might detour somewhere else. That's in London, with my sister.

I like to have a set time and starting point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to plan but it always ends up being controlled chaos.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’m a last minute kind of gal usually but there’s something really exciting about a special event that I like getting stuck into. I’ll make a thousand and one itineraries then stick to none of them. That way I there’s options without commitment. Best of both worlds! "

Options without commitment. I feel like this could be your motto.

It's a strong one though. Love special events.

If a friend ever made a commitment to not abandon you for a dicking, that's a good commitment to have surely?

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

I like to plan details if it's a long way away, but if its local we just tend to go and do it.

Obviously if the kids come we have to dress them and all that shit. *rolls eyes. Lol

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Options without commitment. I feel like this could be your motto.

It's a strong one though. Love special events.

If a friend ever made a commitment to not abandon you for a dicking, that's a good commitment to have surely? "

Yes but there should be options in place for I would never want to stop someone getting said dicking.

A spare room key and informal agreement to exercise invasive voyeur privileges

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I like to prepare a sort of outline idea of what when where etc because I hate to miss anything, and always worry about the what ifs... but I also prepare for some flexibility and chaos response because stuff happens that we can't predict and sticking to plans can sometimes mean missing things too.

So, short answer, both.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I struggle with spontaneity but also have enough executive dysfunction that I find plans overwhelming, it's a winning combination!

Broad plans, with flexibility built in to them. There has to be a plan but the plan can change

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I am a planner and like having things, hotel, meals and tickets etc booked well in advance. I honestly couldn't cope running a fast paced life without planning the fun stuff

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