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"Where were you having this discussion?" Ignore that. | |||
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"Where were you having this discussion? Ignore that. " Get your glasses on Nanna | |||
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"If your going to discuss something like that in a group you can't everyone to be open about just because it's your kink" Yes, and I wouldn't have started a conversation around anything of that nature in that situation. | |||
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"Where were you having this discussion? Ignore that. Get your glasses on Nanna " I got a text from my Asda delivery as I was reading it and got distracted | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal" I dont believe thats strange at all | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal" I guess some things can be very triggering for people & it may not be the actual rope work, but something else in her past that finds it distasteful. For instance, I had a violent ex, so the talk of dominant men, or women wanting to be dominated, I find very unpleasant to think of & even though I've come to an understanding of the dynamic, it still brings out certain feelings in me. I get those feelings when I see a woman tied up, even though I know full well it's consensual & that both parties are enjoying the experience. | |||
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"I I guess some things can be very triggering for people & it may not be the actual rope work, but something else in her past that finds it distasteful. For instance, I had a violent ex, so the talk of dominant men, or women wanting to be dominated, I find very unpleasant to think of & even though I've come to an understanding of the dynamic, it still brings out certain feelings in me. I get those feelings when I see a woman tied up, even though I know full well it's consensual & that both parties are enjoying the experience. Agree with you and most of the comments. There’s a time and a place for kink talk. I don’t like to see rope work even though I consider myself kinky and open minded. I move away from rope conversations / images in kink spaces, if it was being discussed in a pub I’d be very upset if someone called me “closed minded” for not wanting to hear it. " Absolutely! | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal" Did she consent to seeing your kink? | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal Did she consent to seeing your kink?" Ok now we really are stretching it | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal Did she consent to seeing your kink?" Or hearing about it? | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal" hey not everyone is going to like it and she didn't, maybe she shouldn't have said the derogatory stuff but thats life | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal Did she consent to seeing your kink? Ok now we really are stretching it" Well it’s the line that’s thrown around when people on the forums disagree with something, so just threw it in to play devils advocate. | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal Did she consent to seeing your kink? Ok now we really are stretching it Well it’s the line that’s thrown around when people on the forums disagree with something, so just threw it in to play devils advocate." Ah, i see. | |||
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"I was chatting with a friend who has volunteered to be a rope bunny for my Shibari rope class in the pub the other day. Most of the group of people she was with already know about it and have seen the pictures from the class, and are very open minded. However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. Her parting comments as she left were very derogatory. I find it strange that in this day and age someone should be so narrow minded and closed to something that was artistic and none sexual, but not what she called normal" She's entitled to her views and opinions, just because they do t align with doesn't negate them in any way | |||
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"I should have added, I didn't bring the subject up in the first place and the group of people consisted of 3 gay guys, a lesbian, my bunny who is bi, myself and the young lady. " What relevance is their sexual preferences? | |||
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"I should have added, I didn't bring the subject up in the first place and the group of people consisted of 3 gay guys, a lesbian, my bunny who is bi, myself and the young lady. What relevance is their sexual preferences? " Was thinking the same | |||
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"I should have added, I didn't bring the subject up in the first place and the group of people consisted of 3 gay guys, a lesbian, my bunny who is bi, myself and the young lady. What relevance is their sexual preferences? " the relevance is to the tone of the conversations that were going on, sexuality, preferences, which was very frank, open and honest | |||
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"I should have added, I didn't bring the subject up in the first place and the group of people consisted of 3 gay guys, a lesbian, my bunny who is bi, myself and the young lady. What relevance is their sexual preferences? the relevance is to the tone of the conversations that were going on, sexuality, preferences, which was very frank, open and honest " Still not sure why its any more relevant than if it was all straight people there? | |||
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"I should have added, I didn't bring the subject up in the first place and the group of people consisted of 3 gay guys, a lesbian, my bunny who is bi, myself and the young lady. What relevance is their sexual preferences? the relevance is to the tone of the conversations that were going on, sexuality, preferences, which was very frank, open and honest " Makes no relevance to this post or her opinion | |||
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"I should have added, I didn't bring the subject up in the first place and the group of people consisted of 3 gay guys, a lesbian, my bunny who is bi, myself and the young lady. What relevance is their sexual preferences? the relevance is to the tone of the conversations that were going on, sexuality, preferences, which was very frank, open and honest " Did you know many of these people? I don't get the need to mention the sexualities of those involved on the conversation. It doesn't make them more or less open to kink does it? And it contradicts your earlier comment that Shibari isn't sexual? | |||
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"However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. " At the point she looked horrified and was clearly not happy with the conversation, that was the point to end the discussion surely? I mean, I know there are some comments about consenting to hearing about your kink but in all seriousness she clearly wasn't okay with the conversation she was hearing yet you carried on regardless? | |||
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"However one young woman was absolutely horrified, and the looks she gave us as we were discussing the ties and how long stuff took to do. At the point she looked horrified and was clearly not happy with the conversation, that was the point to end the discussion surely? I mean, I know there are some comments about consenting to hearing about your kink but in all seriousness she clearly wasn't okay with the conversation she was hearing yet you carried on regardless?" If it was me & I had been horrified I would have just walked away.. He states they were all being open about things.. So not really his fault...he didn't know she would react like this.. Seems to me a bit dramatic when just talking about rope play.. Was hardly anything illegal.. | |||
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