FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a secret swinger?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Most of the various sexual orientations are quiet happy to say so to anyone they meet. It seems common place on TV and in everyday life...... unless you are a swinger.

Have you come out of the closet as a swinger or is it a secret to be kept?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'm the king of the swingers a jungle VIP, i may go to steamers tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a couple of my closest friends know but that's it. So does it make me a 'sort of' secret swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We really don't hide anything from anybody, Penny will happily tell her troupe of friends exactly what we have gotten up to, crazy thing is they all want to come with us now to clubs.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I don’t see myself as a swinger, just a Transvestite who enjoys going out to places that are inclusive. I enjoy sex with both men and women but if I have a great time just socialising that’ll do me.

There are some friends and family that know I dress, they also know I attend some risqué places whilst doing it. But I don’t go into too much detail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the various sexual orientations are quiet happy to say so to anyone they meet. It seems common place on TV and in everyday life...... unless you are a swinger.

Have you come out of the closet as a swinger or is it a secret to be kept?"

I'm open about it. And most friends know.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

A handful of people know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see my sex life as anybody else’s business. Nothing to do with being secretive. It’s private business between me and whomever it is I’m involved with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone I know knows. That way I can’t be blackma!led

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t see my sex life as anybody else’s business. Nothing to do with being secretive. It’s private business between me and whomever it is I’m involved with. "

This exactly.

It's no one's business what you do in private with who regardless of gender or orientation.

Why do people feel they have to share everything??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only people that know are other fab members. I'd prefer to keep it that way. Not that anyone would believe a nerd like me would be on a site like this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one in my life, knows out my personal life.

wouldn't give a toss if they did, it just hasn't come up.

"oh hey yeah the weather's shite, BTW im a swinger"

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By *akeanyoneMan
over a year ago

I did let slip to a few friends over dinner that I have attended a few clubs. It's always a light hearted talking point now. They are at least intrigued and some even envious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t feel the need to discuss sexual preferences either theirs or ours with friends and family.

It’s not like we’re vegans with an irresistible urge to tell all and sundry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A small select few people. I wouldn't discuss vanilla sex life publicly. I'm not sure why I'd do anything different with my toe dipping experiences here?

I really do feel that despite modern times, there's still a stigma with the lifestyle.

Just before Christmas I was at a gathering, when a person was pointed out to me as a 'swinger and how they're all munters'

There was much sniggering ongoing.

Sure you can take the who cares approach, but I'm sure we'd all rather keep our private activities just that.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Considering the conversations I've heard from non-swinging people around me about the people on the scene, no I think I'll keep that to myself

LvM

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

No, but I know how to swing very high on the swinging scene, is all about having the right technique

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"We don’t feel the need to discuss sexual preferences either theirs or ours with friends and family.

It’s not like we’re vegans with an irresistible urge to tell all and sundry."

Yep, this!

I don't feel the need or desire to discuss our sex life with all and sundry. That has nothing to do with swinging - nobody needs to know what goes on between us, let alone anyone else.

I'm sure some like to brag, see their exploits as an ego boost and tell friends, family and workmates what they get up to in the sack with partners and others.

Being that open is their choice and that's fine.

But I've always had a nagging doubt about how discreet those who couldn't give two shits who knows who they've banged this weekend will be when it comes to the privacy and discretion of others.

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By *ortyairCouple
over a year ago

Wallasey

I've only ever told one very close friend, she said she wasn't surprised and always thought I was a kinky bitch

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By *ub... girlWoman
over a year ago

worcester

I've never told anybody but I'm sure the neighbours think something is going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my very closest friends know but it's not something I want everyone knowing. Our parents wouldn't understand and I would hate for our children to find out. People are still very narrow minded and judgemental where we live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never told anybody but I'm sure the neighbours think something is going on. "

It's the pampas grass...don't you know

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

I'm a secret lemonade drinker

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By *ub... girlWoman
over a year ago

worcester

"I've never told anybody but I'm sure the neighbours think something is going on.

It's the pampas grass...don't you know

I'm not playing amongst the pampas grass, it cuts.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"No, but I know how to swing very high on the swinging scene, is all about having the right technique

Lean back and straighten your legs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t see my sex life as anybody else’s business. Nothing to do with being secretive. It’s private business between me and whomever it is I’m involved with. "

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I'm a secret lemonade drinker"
R Whites R Whites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don’t feel the need to discuss sexual preferences either theirs or ours with friends and family.

It’s not like we’re vegans with an irresistible urge to tell all and sundry.

Yep, this!

I don't feel the need or desire to discuss our sex life with all and sundry. That has nothing to do with swinging - nobody needs to know what goes on between us, let alone anyone else.

I'm sure some like to brag, see their exploits as an ego boost and tell friends, family and workmates what they get up to in the sack with partners and others.

Being that open is their choice and that's fine.

But I've always had a nagging doubt about how discreet those who couldn't give two shits who knows who they've banged this weekend will be when it comes to the privacy and discretion of others.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"No, but I know how to swing very high on the swinging scene, is all about having the right technique

Lean back and straighten your legs... "
Yes, that is how you do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the various sexual orientations are quiet happy to say so to anyone they meet. It seems common place on TV and in everyday life...... unless you are a swinger.

Have you come out of the closet as a swinger or is it a secret to be kept?"

Being a swinger isn’t a sexual orientation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not too arsed who knows but don't scream it from the rooftops

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% secret. We call it “our secret hobby”

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Extremely secret.

It's only you lot that know.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

A couple of my friends know, my dad probably does after embarrassingly trying to join a social media group and spotted me & the Mr in there

Mrs

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

My SL is private and staying that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being a swinger isn’t a sexual orientation. "

It is not shopping in Asda ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the various sexual orientations are quiet happy to say so to anyone they meet. It seems common place on TV and in everyday life...... unless you are a swinger.

Have you come out of the closet as a swinger or is it a secret to be kept?

Being a swinger isn’t a sexual orientation. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll never tell anyone I have this lifestyle. It's my business and I'm not hurting anyone after all x

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By *istyblue1967Man
over a year ago

manchester

im very discrete about it

when i was in the works canteen this week

they were talking about a guy who was a swinger

all making out hes some kind of wierdo !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A small selection of our close friends know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Even I don’t seem to know I am swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it to myself, not sure anyone needs or wants to know what I get up to

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"I don’t see my sex life as anybody else’s business. Nothing to do with being secretive. It’s private business between me and whomever it is I’m involved with.

This exactly.

It's no one's business what you do in private with who regardless of gender or orientation.

Why do people feel they have to share everything?? "

Agree

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I was never particularly secretive about it.

But after the stalker threatened to ruin my life with the knowledge I went all out and told everyone directly.

Now I don't have to worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So secret, even I'm not aware of it..

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I don't call myself a swinger

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don't discuss my sex life with friends or family; not because I'm ashamed but because it's none of their business.

Sex friends, whether swingers or not, know that I'm active on the sites I visit and know the sorts of things I'm exploring at a given time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep it to myself, only because I life in a small town.

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

No i prefer to keep my private biz private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it need coming out of the closet ? My good friends know and are supportive

but never drill me about details.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Our closet friends know but that's it. We like it to be our secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always interested in other couples answer to this. Swapping partners and saying that out loud can go either way in people's opinion of you as a couple. Is there anything for singles to admit to? Meeting up for casual sex with other people is what singles do, weather it be from here or someone they've met in a nightclub then leave together for a one night stand

Mrs C

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