FabSwingers.com forum: Being nice don’t count

By *ylan11 OP Man
over a year ago

osterley

If your a gent does it count on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?"

Mind reader!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

So many questions OP??

So few definitions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being respectful anywhere always counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Mind reader! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this going to turn into another Andrew Tate debate?

You can be a gent or you can be an arsehole. Neither will guarantee someone will meet you but the arsehole will probably have more alone time.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

If that's how you genuinely are then don't change it. You don't need to be just because you want something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?"

It depends if its a form of entitlement?

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

You should always be nice.

Why would you want to be anything else?

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Mind reader!

I’m libran doesn’t count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a dick like me, you swim in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be a dick like me, you swim in it

Wades through sea of C!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I mean, nice is pretty much the bare minimum. If that's all you have to offer it's probably not enough in itself.

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Just be yourself, can guarantee a ‘bleeding heart’ gets nowhere, it’s a weird and wonderful place fab that frustrates the life outta ya if you ‘expect’.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

If being nice and being a gent are one and the same thing, then obviously I mustn't be nice. I cannot, by definition, be "a gent". Nor am I some ladylike, feminine caricature. Fuck knows *shakes head*

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By *ylan11 OP Man
over a year ago

osterley

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?"

Being respectful, no Willy pics and a general conversation, not like hey how’s your evening going but more .

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Be a dick like me, you swim in it

That’s cos we love you Brucey

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

Just be yourself

Dint worry about what others do, meet people who want to meet you fir being you

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Being respectful, no Willy pics and a general conversation, not like hey how’s your evening going but more .

Being respectful costs nothing. And really should be how you are in all things in life OP.

I am but it doesn’t make me a gent.

Holding a conversation on here is also a good start. Hope that helps

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Being respectful, no Willy pics and a general conversation, not like hey how’s your evening going but more .

That counts in life in general for the people it matters to.

You should be respectful, kind, and operate with consent at all times, regardless if you're on Fab or not.. c'mon mate.

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Being respectful, no Willy pics and a general conversation, not like hey how’s your evening going but more .

Being respectful costs nothing. And really should be how you are in all things in life OP.

I am but it doesn’t make me a gent.

Holding a conversation on here is also a good start. Hope that helps

Amen

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It counts, it counts a lot.

Thing is, being nice alone won't have women flooding your inbox with replies, especially if you don't fit any other criteria they like, or if they don't find you attractive.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Being respectful, no Willy pics and a general conversation, not like hey how’s your evening going but more .

Being respectful costs nothing. And really should be how you are in all things in life OP.

I am but it doesn’t make me a gent.

Holding a conversation on here is also a good start. Hope that helps

Nice? Conversation the use of words? Hmm Ivor is confuddled

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By *ylan11 OP Man
over a year ago

osterley

"It counts, it counts a lot.

Thing is, being nice alone won't have women flooding your inbox with replies, especially if you don't fit any other criteria they like, or if they don't find you attractive. "

My inbox is busy but I have to say conversation and lacks a lot and rudeness is huge.

If it was the other way it would be called harassment

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Being respectful, no Willy pics and a general conversation, not like hey how’s your evening going but more .

Don't sweat it too much, OP. You can only be yourself. Some people will want to chat to you, some won't, no matter how good your chat is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone doesn’t fancy you, or you’re not what they’re looking for (ie. Currently more focused on finding single women/couples) then that’s just the way it is, OP. You can’t expect everyone you like the look of, to feel the same about you.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"It counts, it counts a lot.

Thing is, being nice alone won't have women flooding your inbox with replies, especially if you don't fit any other criteria they like, or if they don't find you attractive.

My inbox is busy but I have to say conversation and lacks a lot and rudeness is huge.

If it was the other way it would be called harassment "

I think it is called annoyance normally - either way. If you don’t like the messages, delete them. If you like the conversation then continue it. If it becomes harassing, use the block button.

Hope this helps

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By *mantofuckMan
over a year ago

durham

Being nice should be an absolute standard!

However, message experience on here shows being nice gets you nowhere! But being a twat gets you nowhere!.

Basically my messaging skills are shit so good fucking luck,haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never know when that next conversation with strike up, it might come completely out of the blue. Be patient and polite, respectful and consistent.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

It’s the sum of all parts

Your profile won’t help with 3 identical pics and not much of a bio

You get out what you put in

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By *ylan11 OP Man
over a year ago

osterley

"It counts, it counts a lot.

Thing is, being nice alone won't have women flooding your inbox with replies, especially if you don't fit any other criteria they like, or if they don't find you attractive.

My inbox is busy but I have to say conversation and lacks a lot and rudeness is huge.

If it was the other way it would be called harassment

I think it is called annoyance normally - either way. If you don’t like the messages, delete them. If you like the conversation then continue it. If it becomes harassing, use the block button.

Hope this helps

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By *ylan11 OP Man
over a year ago

osterley

"It counts, it counts a lot.

Thing is, being nice alone won't have women flooding your inbox with replies, especially if you don't fit any other criteria they like, or if they don't find you attractive.

My inbox is busy but I have to say conversation and lacks a lot and rudeness is huge.

If it was the other way it would be called harassment

I think it is called annoyance normally - either way. If you don’t like the messages, delete them. If you like the conversation then continue it. If it becomes harassing, use the block button.

Hope this helps

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By *ylan11 OP Man
over a year ago

osterley

"It counts, it counts a lot.

Thing is, being nice alone won't have women flooding your inbox with replies, especially if you don't fit any other criteria they like, or if they don't find you attractive.

My inbox is busy but I have to say conversation and lacks a lot and rudeness is huge.

If it was the other way it would be called harassment

I think it is called annoyance normally - either way. If you don’t like the messages, delete them. If you like the conversation then continue it. If it becomes harassing, use the block button.

Hope this helps

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By *ylan11 OP Man
over a year ago

osterley

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By *hrismonacoMan
over a year ago

london

I hope it counts. Treat everyone as you want to treated.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

You can be polite and respectful but still keep boundaries. I think sometimes guys feel like they’re being told to suck up to everyone.

I have had a few couples/single women give the most horrendous effort yet, in the messages, asking for more about me. Some years ago I would have tried extra hard to be “nice” by trying harder despite the effort not being reciprocated. Now I just politely let people like that know I’m no longer interested.

You don’t have to bend over backward or suck up to people. Those genuinely interested in you will match your energy and you can tell.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

"It’s the sum of all parts

Your profile won’t help with 3 identical pics and not much of a bio

You get out what you put in"

He knows!

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
over a year ago

Hull

On Fab itself it's debatable, lots of competition, lots of dickhead guys, seriously you have no idea what it's like to be a woman or couple on here. Go to socials, there being nice counts a lot and if you can be interesting and witty you're golden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m probably overtired, but I’m now singing that line from that Lou Reed song:

‘You’re going to reap, just what you sow’

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Being respectful should be a given on here.

Being nice is such a cringe worthy term, because it mean a multitude of things dependant on the context it is used in.

I get called nice quite a lot because I am courteous and respectful, but is doesn't guarantee you will get meets.

Just be yourself, not what you think other people want you to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m probably overtired, but I’m now singing that line from that Lou Reed song:

‘You’re going to reap, just what you sow’"

Now I am

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I’m probably overtired, but I’m now singing that line from that Lou Reed song:

‘You’re going to reap, just what you sow’"

That’s actually one of my new tattoos

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"If someone doesn’t fancy you, or you’re not what they’re looking for (ie. Currently more focused on finding single women/couples) then that’s just the way it is, OP. You can’t expect everyone you like the look of, to feel the same about you."

This.

Nobody is everybody's cup of tea.

I love RFD to bits, she is sexy, sweet, has a devastating smile and is frighteningly intelligent. But, she is way out of my league. Am I bitter and act like an asshat? No, being a gentleman is something you should do by default, not because you expect something in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m probably overtired, but I’m now singing that line from that Lou Reed song:

‘You’re going to reap, just what you sow’

That’s actually one of my new tattoos

That’s SO awesome!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I’m probably overtired, but I’m now singing that line from that Lou Reed song:

‘You’re going to reap, just what you sow’

That’s actually one of my new tattoos

That’s SO awesome!"

I can’t wait to get it. Next week fingers crossed xx

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By *mperiumMan
over a year ago

"Be a dick like me, you swim in it

Swim in dicks?

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

Op you are talking rubbish

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"Be a dick like me, you swim in it

Swim in dicks?"

Doing the breaststroke

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

In my experience, no it dosnt. You can spend time reading a profile twice, and send a detailed polite message, but it still gets deleted unread.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Depends. If being nice is being a bit of a wet drip walkover, then no.

If being nice is just a facade to curry favour then no.

If you're genuinely nice and have confidence and get to know people then maybe.

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By *mperiumMan
over a year ago

"Be a dick like me, you swim in it

Swim in dicks?

Doing the breaststroke

Swimming does make the ladies wet

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"If your a gent does it count on here ?

In my experience, no it dosnt. You can spend time reading a profile twice, and send a detailed polite message, but it still gets deleted unread. "

That's Fab/life. Being polite and respectful should be everyone's default but you really can't expect people to reply to every message they receive, especially if it's going to go nowhere.

While it'd be nice to get a reply sometimes, would you want one saying they're not interested or simply no reply? The end result is the same.

Fab can be a brutal place but it's also full of genuine, nice, kinky folks. Don't lose heart. Be kind. Rewind

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"If your a gent does it count on here ?

In my experience, no it dosnt. You can spend time reading a profile twice, and send a detailed polite message, but it still gets deleted unread. "

Most people on here are only interested in replying to those whom they are attracted to not endless chat with no intentions of it leading anywhere. What people do and some need to get used to the idea people are here for themselves not just others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

Helps if your yourself,

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

Yes it does. But not through typed words. It only comes across in person and then it’s not a thing I think you can manifest. It’s either there or it’s not. But it’s an attractive feature, men and ladies alike.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

If you mean you put the toilet seat back down after peeing and don't wipe your cock on their curtains the answer is yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your a gent does it count on here ?

In my experience, no it dosnt. You can spend time reading a profile twice, and send a detailed polite message, but it still gets deleted unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter how nice Tom Hardy is to me, I just don't fancy him.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

If you're only being nice because you think you'll be rewarded... you're not a "gent".

Everyone should just be nice because it's nice to be nice.

Cal

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

OP you're not going to get any joy recycling that non-descript filtered headshot for 2 years.

What you need to do is purchase a pair of CROCS and model them in your pics. It's a surefire winner

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Hey Dylan being nice always counts, just carry on being nice, you'll get there in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of being nice, be awesome like me.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Being nice always counts, but there still has to be mutual attraction or into the friendzone it will go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a gent does count but most females and couples are already ruined within a couple of weeks on the site by all the jackals swooping on fresh prey.

Bottom line is, gent or not.. without a good profile with quality photos you don't stand a chance and on top of that, people have to like the look of you. So many things against single guys succeeding

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

They say nice guys come last.

Which isn’t true for me when I’m having sex as I usually spill my beans within 30 seconds. Just goes to show you that you can’t believe everything…

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"Being nice always counts, but there still has to be mutual attraction or into the friendzone it will go

That’s why I got shitloads of friends

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No matter how nice Tom Hardy is to me, I just don't fancy him. "

^^^Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?"

Good morning to you hope you have a lovely day x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Being respectful is necessary but not sufficient.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

I think being nice counts everywhere in life, if people consider it’s a quality that doesn’t count, then I’m happy that they are not for me and I’m not for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?"

If the meets spills drink on her breast offer, to clean (lick) it up. True story

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Being nice and a gentleman is always a good thing. If anyone feels that these things entitle them to sex or they only behave that way towards people who might have sex with them they're not very gentlemanly or nice.

I sometimes wonder if the reason *some* men interpret women being nice to them as them wanting sex is because they're only nice to people they fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your a gent does it count on here ?

I think being nice counts everywhere in life, if people consider it’s a quality that doesn’t count, then I’m happy that they are not for me and I’m not for them.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I would imagine OP that the vast majority of single men on here would consider themselves “nice”, “a gent”, “respectful” etc.

I’m not really sure what your question is, but I would equate being “a gent” with being “respectful”. In that one should respect the choices of those we interact with and not complain about those choices, anything else just sounds entitled.

So if I am expecting “being a gent” to equate to abandonment of preference or choice, and getting preferential treatment then I’m not really “being a gent” am I?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

No matter how nice Tom Hardy is to me, I just don't fancy him. "

Has someone informed Tom Hardy that there's a woman on this planet who does NOT fancy him? This will come as quite a shock and he'll need support.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The term "nice" is subjective and if you use it as your USP and have to continuously remind people that you are nice or a gent that's usually a sign that you are projecting a different image.

Actions always speak louder than words.

Genuinely nice gents never have to tell anyone they are genuinely nice gents.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Is this going to turn into another Andrew Tate debate?

You can be a gent or you can be an arsehole. Neither will guarantee someone will meet you but the arsehole will probably have more alone time.

J "

Oh I don't know. I have seen totl arseholes who always have women hating after them. Kts the whole bad boy thing for women isn't it?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"The term "nice" is subjective and if you use it as your USP and have to continuously remind people that you are nice or a gent that's usually a sign that you are projecting a different image.

Actions always speak louder than words.

Genuinely nice gents never have to tell anyone they are genuinely nice gents.

Also just to add there is a big difference between being nice and being a scyhophant.

Being nice doesn't require you to give up your self-respect and allow others to treat you as a doormat.

So to answer your question in relation to fab, most people have more respect for guys who are mannerly and respectful but at the same time take ownership of their expectations on fab rather than flip flop to suit everyone else.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Being polite and respectful should be everyone's default but you really can't expect people to reply to every message they receive, especially if it's going to go nowhere.

While it'd be nice to get a reply sometimes, would you want one saying they're not interested or simply no reply? The end result is the same.

Fab can be a brutal place but it's also full of genuine, nice, kinky folks. Don't lose heart. Be kind. Rewind

My thoughts entirely. Though there will always be rude, ill-mannered people in every walk of life, and they are always best ignored.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes, being ‘nice’ does count. But simply just being ‘nice’ is not enough. There’s many other traits and characteristics that are important when looking for a partner.

Loads of people (men and women) think that being nice/ friendly/ polite etc is enough on its own and it’s just not the case. Being ‘nice’ is also a very low benchmark to set… we should try and be nice as a default.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Not if you are only a "gent" incase it "counts" no!

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By *osebud2020Woman
over a year ago

chepstow

Rather than thinking about if being a gent counts . Why not think more in terms of how you would like to be treated and treat others with the same level of courtesy, respect and manners. None of these cost a thing but go a hell of a long way to establishing a way forward .

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Being a 'gent' is saying and 'please' and 'thank you' when motorboating a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a bit of va va vroom and you’ll do alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?

Being respectful, no Willy pics and a general conversation, not like hey how’s your evening going but more .

So you count on the fact that behaving this way should be bringing you some results? Is this your question?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

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Your question is a little vague, OP.

You don't have to be a Count.

You can be a Baron, Viscount, Earl, Marquess or a Duke.

If you're a civilian without a title or an 'honorific' then even better: aspire to be a gentleman before anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think just be yourself OP, if being nice/kind and "gentlemanly" is how you normally are then keep at it.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"It counts, it counts a lot.

Thing is, being nice alone won't have women flooding your inbox with replies, especially if you don't fit any other criteria they like, or if they don't find you attractive.

My inbox is busy but I have to say conversation and lacks a lot and rudeness is huge.

If it was the other way it would be called harassment "

That's what the block button is for

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

Ahh.. The search for the holy grail continues. Beware the rabbit.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No matter how nice Tom Hardy is to me, I just don't fancy him.

Has someone informed Tom Hardy that there's a woman on this planet who does NOT fancy him? This will come as quite a shock and he'll need support."

I don't find most of the "mainstream" celeb men attractive. I've decided I'm weird

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Is this going to turn into another Andrew Tate debate?

You can be a gent or you can be an arsehole. Neither will guarantee someone will meet you but the arsehole will probably have more alone time.

Oh I don't know. I have seen totl arseholes who always have women hating after them. Kts the whole bad boy thing for women isn't it?"

No, it isn't

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"What is your definition of a gent, on here?

Count in what way?"

My definition of a gent

Treat others how you like to be treated

Say please and thank you.

Not be afraid to have your own views even if it's not the popular way of thinking.

Be proud of who you are don't compromise your standards to fit others.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Try being not nice. See how that works out. You know, for science.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

It doesn't matter.

Being nice doesn't mean you get sex.

But it's like asking if you should shower before you meet.

There are those who prefer an unwashed partner (according to status updates) but most assume that cleanliness and niceness are standard, and will select on other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps using pics off the Internet puts people off?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

No matter how nice Tom Hardy is to me, I just don't fancy him.

Has someone informed Tom Hardy that there's a woman on this planet who does NOT fancy him? This will come as quite a shock and he'll need support.

I don't find most of the "mainstream" celeb men attractive. I've decided I'm weird

I’m exactly the same. Hooray for free choice

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Perhaps using pics off the Internet puts people off? "

To be fair I did reverse image search on OP as I suspected the same thing, but turned up 0 results for what it's worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being nice and a gentleman is always a good thing. If anyone feels that these things entitle them to sex or they only behave that way towards people who might have sex with them they're not very gentlemanly or nice.

I sometimes wonder if the reason *some* men interpret women being nice to them as them wanting sex is because they're only nice to people they fancy."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is entitled to a reply, even if you’ve sent a polite detailed personalised message that indicates you have read some one’s profile. People know when they’re just not interested, and that’s fine- it happens to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice for one may be hell for another

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Being nice to a certain one can be a lot of fun but difficult part would be finding that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps using pics off the Internet puts people off?

To be fair I did reverse image search on OP as I suspected the same thing, but turned up 0 results for what it's worth"

I got an advert for hairstyles for light skinned men and another about Somalian men

of course, he could well be some kinda model I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don’t think they’re nice, we won’t get along, I’ll be matching their energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get it twisted.

Nice doesn't equate to a meet, a meet doesn't always equate to more. Being nice is about you as a person treating ppl with respect and having dignity and integrity,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't get it twisted.

Nice doesn't equate to a meet, a meet doesn't always equate to more. Being nice is about you as a person treating ppl with respect and having dignity and integrity, "

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Being nice isn’t a personality trait, it doesn’t really say anything about who you are, but should also be the bare minimum of behaviour, unless you’re at risk of being a ‘nice guy’, in which case, just don’t!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Don't get it twisted.

Nice doesn't equate to a meet, a meet doesn't always equate to more. Being nice is about you as a person treating ppl with respect and having dignity and integrity, "

Has anyone said being nice equals a meet and a meet equals anything more?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Being nice isn’t a personality trait, it doesn’t really say anything about who you are, but should also be the bare minimum of behaviour, unless you’re at risk of being a ‘nice guy’, in which case, just don’t! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't get it twisted.

Nice doesn't equate to a meet, a meet doesn't always equate to more. Being nice is about you as a person treating ppl with respect and having dignity and integrity,

Has anyone said being nice equals a meet and a meet equals anything more? "

There was no claim that anybody stated this, read between the lines, come to any understanding you like to. Its all good

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Don't get it twisted.

Nice doesn't equate to a meet, a meet doesn't always equate to more. Being nice is about you as a person treating ppl with respect and having dignity and integrity,

Has anyone said being nice equals a meet and a meet equals anything more?

There was no claim that anybody stated this, read between the lines, come to any understanding you like to. Its all good "

Gotcha. A helpful reminder just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't get it twisted.

Nice doesn't equate to a meet, a meet doesn't always equate to more. Being nice is about you as a person treating ppl with respect and having dignity and integrity,

Has anyone said being nice equals a meet and a meet equals anything more?

There was no claim that anybody stated this, read between the lines, come to any understanding you like to. Its all good

Gotcha. A helpful reminder just in case. "

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

But being nasty brings more attention (not suggesting)

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

new milton

Sadly some people just have to be nasty we had some nasty abuse from a certain couple because we had to change plans due to a death

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly some people just have to be nasty we had some nasty abuse from a certain couple because we had to change plans due to a death "

That's awful, some people should have more consideration. I'm sorry for your loss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always pays to be nice, manners cost nothing after all. If someone messages me something rude they just blocked. Simple x

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"If your a gent does it count on here ?"

Grabs popcorn for the "nice guy" tropes.

FYI I'm not a nice woman. I aim to be fair and balanced with some integrity.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Sadly some people just have to be nasty we had some nasty abuse from a certain couple because we had to change plans due to a death "

That's grim and also they are only thinking of themselves....you dodged a play bullet there.

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

new milton

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

new milton

"Sadly some people just have to be nasty we had some nasty abuse from a certain couple because we had to change plans due to a death

That's awful, some people should have more consideration. I'm sorry for your loss x"

Thankyou

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

new milton

"Sadly some people just have to be nasty we had some nasty abuse from a certain couple because we had to change plans due to a death

That's grim and also they are only thinking of themselves....you dodged a play bullet there."

Indeed we did

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Here come the nice

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Obviously, it not only shows respect of using the site but also others. Some may value it whilst others may not.

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