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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Nay, nay and thrice nay. I’ve watched enough serial killer flicks in my time…

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Good lord no.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Major trust issues here

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By *arberellasswimsuitCouple
over a year ago

hengoed

Wasn't there a cereal killer who used handcuffs think it was John Wayne gasey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no

Thing like that need trust

Witch takes time

Everything starts vinnila sex

The more meets I have with the person the more trust can be built

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Are they Benedict Cumberbatch?

If so, yes. He can ever wap out the XXL bad dragon dildo and I wouldn't flinch. Not one inch.

Anyone else? Highly unlikely. But who knows? I've never really had handcuffs used on me - some pink furry ones at a club as a bit of a laugh once. That's another thing to add to the list of must tries before my vagina dries.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Wasn't there a cereal killer who used handcuffs think it was John Wayne gasey "

Did he fart on his Cornflakes??

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Im much more a fan if giving my special lady a good rummage up the frock and a firm but tender bumming on the first date !!! Handcuffs date 3 onwards but always a firm bumming!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!"

The police are a kinky bunch they never gave me the option of no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!

The police are a kinky bunch they never gave me the option of no "

You must have been a bad boy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!

The police are a kinky bunch they never gave me the option of no

You must have been a bad boy!"

Just once or twice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are they Benedict Cumberbatch?

If so, yes. He can ever wap out the XXL bad dragon dildo and I wouldn't flinch. Not one inch.

Anyone else? Highly unlikely. But who knows? I've never really had handcuffs used on me - some pink furry ones at a club as a bit of a laugh once. That's another thing to add to the list of must tries before my vagina dries."

I've seen some interesting celeb crushes in my time but this is new! I can't imagine him holding a dragon dildo...

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Christ no!! That only comes with absolute trust and it’s that which provides the frisson of excitement when a partner wants to be in control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only time I do handcuffs on a first meet

If if that meet so happens to be in a club whare I know there’s others there and safty politics in place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I shouldn't have let that woman handcuff me is what you're saying...

Maybe I'm too trustful and will be in the Daily Mail orbituary before I know it but I would only ever meet people I trusted somewhat on my gut instinct!

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Well if she turns up in a squad car with a radio chattering away you can probably trust her. In which case it’s pants down and chocs away!!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!"

Nope.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Yes but after lots of talking and discussions around boundaries and limits

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Tell me you have no fucking clue without telling me you have no fucking clue!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

No way !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That'll be a no for me Id rather not be murdered, but each to their own

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

Jeepers, no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!"

Obviously

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Are they Benedict Cumberbatch?

If so, yes. He can ever wap out the XXL bad dragon dildo and I wouldn't flinch. Not one inch.

Anyone else? Highly unlikely. But who knows? I've never really had handcuffs used on me - some pink furry ones at a club as a bit of a laugh once. That's another thing to add to the list of must tries before my vagina dries."

*XXM

Be kind to your vulva.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I would suggest an alternative view on this.

First, personally I prefer rope.

Second,I have tied people on the first meeting and to my knowledge none have died, some where mistreated (but negotiated and consensually) but people knew what was on the menu before we met.

If I go to a swinging club I generally have my rope and floggers with me, and have tied and flogged either publicly or privately I had just met.

However, anyone pulling out handcuffs at a first meet or initiating any BDSM play without it being discussed and consented to, prior to the meeting is suspect in my books. The exception being unless it is raised by the person wanting to be tied. I have had people asking to try things. It is then a risk decision for me whether I should proceed.

I am 100% about safety and education in regard to BDSM and kink but as I have mentioned in other threads I think people misuse the concepts of "trust" and "knowing people". The evidence shows that people with bad intentions are quite capable of taking their time and winning over people to get their defences down. There is no 100 fail proof protection except not doing anything. Anyone who has been in the kink community will know of cases of people originally held up as caring kinksters that are later unmasked as abusers.

Therefore I think it is down to the bottom get as much information about the Top before deciding to play.

There needs to be an acceptance that risk matrixes are personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NEVER.

Look up the story of The Killer Clown - John Wayne Gacy, for why.

::Shudders::

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By *ayleePhoenixTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

No, not at first meet, even after lengthy chat messaging beforehand.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!"

I let a guy tie me up the first time we met, he didn't give me murderer vibes so I went with it.

Probably wouldn't do it again though as it was just annoying not being able to use my hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"NEVER.

Look up the story of The Killer Clown - John Wayne Gacy, for why.

::Shudders::"

…and this is why I should read the full thread. Damnit, sorry Sensuallover and ManageAtrois, I’ve echoed your posts

I’m going away now to think about what I’ve done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"NEVER.

Look up the story of The Killer Clown - John Wayne Gacy, for why.

::Shudders::

…and this is why I should read the full thread. Damnit, sorry Sensuallover and ManageAtrois, I’ve echoed your posts

I’m going away now to think about what I’ve done "

Or go away, get clowned up,.and handcuff me! I know you're a softie deep in that core (presses boob)

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"_ensual said lots of sensible stuff"

As Zensual said it's not *uncommon* but it's down to personal risk.

It's why I only used to do first meets at an event or a club.

But having done sex work I'm more cautious and cynical than most. If I'm restrained it's harder for me to ensure good sexual health practises are followed etc...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Are they Benedict Cumberbatch?

If so, yes. He can ever wap out the XXL bad dragon dildo and I wouldn't flinch. Not one inch.

*XXM

Be kind to your vulva.

"

I'm lucky to have your wisdom in my life.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London & North Wessex Downs

God no! That would be stupid!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No not a chance.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"I have tied people on the first meeting and to my knowledge none have died, some where mistreated (but negotiated and consensually) but people knew what was on the menu before we met."

I would suggest they didn't know what was on the menu. They took your word for it and *thought* they knew what was on the menu. As did anyone killed by someone they'd just met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance!

Pxx

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

If the 'cuffs have been fashioned from filo pastry and laced with cinnamon...then yes I could be persuaded.

It sounds like a flaky playdate but it would be saccharine sweet.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!"

No chance.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"How many people here would let their playmate on a first meet use handcuffs on them?

Let's assume great chat and a love for their genitals and face has already been established!

Well.....would ya?!"

As long as I didn’t think my husband and him had a pact to murder me then I might be ok with it

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I only allow my cuffs to be used when playing with someone new, as I can get out of them very easy.

Xx

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Nope. Any and all bondage is reserved for people I trust enough to consider partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Handcuffs meh. Treat yourself to leg spreaders as legs get in the way

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Brucey darling. With the greatest of respect for you. Please don’t do this. Never. You really don’t have any idea about SSC, Rack and this kind of play will only ever be done in a consensual setting.

Otherwise we will rename you John Wayne Gacey, as the others have said. And I for one will put honk-honk on every one of your future posts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brucey darling. With the greatest of respect for you. Please don’t do this. Never. You really don’t have any idea about SSC, Rack and this kind of play will only ever be done in a consensual setting.

Otherwise we will rename you John Wayne Gacey, as the others have said. And I for one will put honk-honk on every one of your future posts "

Little bird! Please don't worry yourself! I'm a big boy and it's a question for the forum!

Obviously consent is key with ANYTHING on here and I'm talking about situations with play partners who you've gotten to know online or via phone lots beforehand!

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Only if they are the pink and fluffy ones you get from Anne Summers, I don’t want my wrists rubbing against bare metal…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve used handcuffs and rope on a first date / sex meet. Im kinky and the ladies I meet are kinky too. So it’s not that uncommon.

I would never encourage it.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Brucey darling. With the greatest of respect for you. Please don’t do this. Never. You really don’t have any idea about SSC, Rack and this kind of play will only ever be done in a consensual setting.

Otherwise we will rename you John Wayne Gacey, as the others have said. And I for one will put honk-honk on every one of your future posts

Little bird! Please don't worry yourself! I'm a big boy and it's a question for the forum!

Obviously consent is key with ANYTHING on here and I'm talking about situations with play partners who you've gotten to know online or via phone lots beforehand!

"

Ok darling… honk-honk

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I have to say not handcuffs! But some rope play has been involved! All agreed!!!! And enjoyed

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Nope, just as much fun on a first meet to say 'hold your hands here and if you move them your treats stop coming'.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

In a Fetish or Swingers club I have done in the past. But I’ve generally had people with me, who’d step in if consent issues arose.

I can’t imagine going to anyone’s home and putting myself in that situation.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Nope, not going to happen, and even the suggestion of it would be a bit of a red flag.

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I'm gonna sound like the old man that knows lots (but not everything) this must all have been planned and arranged prior to meeting otherwise surely it is deemed as capture and forcibly restrained!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, not going to happen, and even the suggestion of it would be a bit of a red flag."

The term red flag sometimes gets thrown around like confetti .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brucey darling. With the greatest of respect for you. Please don’t do this. Never. You really don’t have any idea about SSC, Rack and this kind of play will only ever be done in a consensual setting.

Otherwise we will rename you John Wayne Gacey, as the others have said. And I for one will put honk-honk on every one of your future posts

Little bird! Please don't worry yourself! I'm a big boy and it's a question for the forum!

Obviously consent is key with ANYTHING on here and I'm talking about situations with play partners who you've gotten to know online or via phone lots beforehand!

Ok darling… honk-honk "

I'm available for all bar mitzvahs now!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No!

Ive seen Luther.

It's always the woman chained , tortured and having the life snuffed out......so I'll play safe thanks..

I'll stay in the pub and just put one leg up on the bar ...... no cuffs !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve used handcuffs and rope on a first date / sex meet. Im kinky and the ladies I meet are kinky too. So it’s not that uncommon.

I would never encourage it.

"

Whoooooaaaaaa there Nelly.

You’ve done it, but would never encourage it?

How does that work then, you only did it once and never would again…?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I’ve used handcuffs and rope on a first date / sex meet. Im kinky and the ladies I meet are kinky too. So it’s not that uncommon.

I would never encourage it.

Whoooooaaaaaa there Nelly.

You’ve done it, but would never encourage it?

How does that work then, you only did it once and never would again…?"

Its how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

My only regret on fab is not taking handcuffs and a ball gag on a first meet. Might have been less drama afterwards

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"My only regret on fab is not taking handcuffs and a ball gag on a first meet. Might have been less drama afterwards "

•

Dear Mr. Bites, your pseudonym isn't "Marsellus Wallace" is it?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I must be really persuasive because I met two guys on here the same night one hour apart and had them both naked and tied to chairs by the time my partner turned up!

One even said at one point is a woman really turning up. People take all kinds of risks , they would say they wouldn’t….

Yes she did turn up - and was extremely surprised when she walked in & happy with my choices

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Why would I ever want to be handcuffed? I enjoy my hands all over my partner way too much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit "

Ed Gein? Is that you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

Ed Gein? Is that you? "

Have you ruined my thread with a comment only super intelligent people get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

Ed Gein? Is that you?

Have you ruined my thread with a comment only super intelligent people get?"

Nah, it’s just me waffling about true crime again. I really need some new interests outside of tits, cock and crime.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

Ed Gein? Is that you?

Have you ruined my thread with a comment only super intelligent people get?"

Brucey. It’s just you that didn’t get it

Honk-honk

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

Ed Gein? Is that you?

Have you ruined my thread with a comment only super intelligent people get?

Nah, it’s just me waffling about true crime again. I really need some new interests outside of tits, cock and crime."

Why would you want to? The only other thing of interest to me is Haribo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no

That would take a whole lot of trust

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Why would I ever want to be handcuffed? I enjoy my hands all over my partner way too much! "

•

My dear fellow, when it comes to passion, sensuality and tactility, I'm your Huckleberry.

However, this thread isn't necessarily about being handcuffed for the entire duration of the tryst. If you're copulating between 9 to 5, I'm sure half an hour of handy-cuffies between the rumpy-pumpy is acceptable for those who seek such kinks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

Ed Gein? Is that you?

Have you ruined my thread with a comment only super intelligent people get?

Nah, it’s just me waffling about true crime again. I really need some new interests outside of tits, cock and crime."

Cats?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

Ed Gein? Is that you?

Have you ruined my thread with a comment only super intelligent people get?

Nah, it’s just me waffling about true crime again. I really need some new interests outside of tits, cock and crime.

Cats?"

I’m just a walking stereotype really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like some toast ?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Why not? Live a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s how I vet my meets. If they agree to meet and do things I don’t encourage, it means its their fault when I turn them into a skin suit

Ed Gein? Is that you?

Have you ruined my thread with a comment only super intelligent people get?

Nah, it’s just me waffling about true crime again. I really need some new interests outside of tits, cock and crime.

Cats?

I’m just a walking stereotype really "

Doesn't matter when ya dreamy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you like some toast ? "

Ever had a crimpet before?

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Absolutely not .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you like some toast ?

Ever had a crimpet before?"

In 1999

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

No but we have bundled a guy into the back of the car and blindfolded him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No but we have bundled a guy into the back of the car and blindfolded him "

That sounds....worse

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

I think my gentle but firm bumming is sounding much more appropriate every post!!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Are they Benedict Cumberbatch?

If so, yes. He can ever wap out the XXL bad dragon dildo and I wouldn't flinch. Not one inch.

Anyone else? Highly unlikely. But who knows? I've never really had handcuffs used on me - some pink furry ones at a club as a bit of a laugh once. That's another thing to add to the list of must tries before my vagina dries."

I've got a Smiffys NYPD male cop fancy dress outfit with cuffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will not confirm or deny that

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"No but we have bundled a guy into the back of the car and blindfolded him

That sounds....worse "

HaHa they loved it ... honest

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Normally I would say "hell no" but I've recently met a couple and I think with them I could see myself saying "yes".

Ruby

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