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Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week  | |||
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"I’m suddenly getting aggressive messages from 20 somethings. " Oi, im 54, ill have you know. | |||
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"By the way always report abusive messages" I wouldn’t say they were abusive but were really descriptive and crude | |||
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"By the way always report abusive messages I wouldn’t say they were abusive but were really descriptive and crude "It was fabulous and bearded wasn’t it! | |||
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"By the way always report abusive messages I wouldn’t say they were abusive but were really descriptive and crude "Just shows their immaturity. 
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"Can't say I have noticed any difference.But then my filters are tighter than a ducks arse so I don't get that many anyhow. "I thought mine were pretty tight, but may have to reassess again | |||
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"I’d love a New Year message "I love you Rex | |||
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"I’d love a New Year message
I love you Rex "My year is ruined  | |||
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"We've had hardly any messages since new year. "• I would. If serendipity would allow. | |||
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"You do have a right to just delete...if they get abusive then report....but it seems like you've attracted the shallower end of the gene pool" I do delete and block. I often don’t even open the message, but sometimes the first few words is enough to knock me sick | |||
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"You do have a right to just delete...if they get abusive then report....but it seems like you've attracted the shallower end of the gene pool I do delete and block. I often don’t even open the message, but sometimes the first few words is enough to knock me sick "Unfortunately fab is full of dross...but in amongst all that shit wading are some diamonds. How about putting profile on hidden when offline? | |||
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"I’d love a New Year message
I love you Rex
My year is ruined "You tease you  | |||
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"Yes! not nasty ones just some really strange requests "Yes that’s what mine have been like… not abusive just even more bizarre than usual? | |||
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"Yes! not nasty ones just some really strange requests
Yes that’s what mine have been like… not abusive just even more bizarre than usual? "Good job I can't DM then...I'm bizarre enough as it is...oh so the forumites say | |||
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"Yes. One freaked me right out. You know when you think you’ve read all the weirdness there is…and then… "Sorry...my bad, it was a 9pm moment | |||
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"Yes. One freaked me right out. You know when you think you’ve read all the weirdness there is…and then…
Sorry...my bad, it was a 9pm moment "Wrongun  | |||
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"All good so far hopefully it will stay that way "Never say that! You’ll jinx yourselves | |||
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"Yes. One freaked me right out. You know when you think you’ve read all the weirdness there is…and then… "I wonder if it was one of the same ones that I’d had… it was quite niche | |||
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"Yes. One freaked me right out. You know when you think you’ve read all the weirdness there is…and then…
Sorry...my bad, it was a 9pm moment
Wrongun "Cock pic was too much then? | |||
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"I’m suddenly getting aggressive messages from 20 somethings. Oi, im 54, ill have you know." And prob not aggressive | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week "Are they male or female? Just out of interest? | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
Are they male or female? Just out of interest? "All male | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
Are they male or female? Just out of interest? "Suprised you had to ask | |||
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"Yes! not nasty ones just some really strange requests
Yes that’s what mine have been like… not abusive just even more bizarre than usual? "Not even a hello first , just straight in there being well descriptive Haven’t had any today though, maybe the festive cheer has worn off | |||
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"I'm getting a lot of messages from guys. I had to take my penis photo down! " Are you constantly bulk deleting and telling everyone about it on your status | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
Are they male or female? Just out of interest?
All male "Ah right. So nothings changed? Don’t worry about it, I’d be more suprised when someone tells me how polite and upbeat everyone is on here. | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
Are they male or female? Just out of interest?
Suprised you had to ask "I’m a sucker for small details. | |||
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" I’m a sucker for small details. " There’s a site strap line if ever I saw one | |||
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" I’m a sucker for small details. There’s a site strap line if ever I saw one " Haha.  | |||
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"Sadly, the holidays are statistically proven to see a rise in assaults, domestic abuse, driving under the influence, self-harm and worse. There are many proven, complex and interrelated reasons behind this, and I would not be surprised if they aren’t also associated with an increase in Being A Dickhead On The Internet. If it’s any consolation, most people went back to work/school/daycare/the secure unit today, so hopefully the number of proctoheliologists in your inbox will return to normal background levels over the next few days." Hmm that’s a good point. One reason could be due to more alcohol and therefore lower inhibitions perhaps? I have to ask… what is a ‘proctoheliologist’? | |||
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"Sadly, the holidays are statistically proven to see a rise in assaults, domestic abuse, driving under the influence, self-harm and worse. There are many proven, complex and interrelated reasons behind this, and I would not be surprised if they aren’t also associated with an increase in Being A Dickhead On The Internet. If it’s any consolation, most people went back to work/school/daycare/the secure unit today, so hopefully the number of proctoheliologists in your inbox will return to normal background levels over the next few days. Hmm that’s a good point. One reason could be due to more alcohol and therefore lower inhibitions perhaps? I have to ask… what is a ‘proctoheliologist’? "At a guess I'd say cockwombles | |||
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"Sadly, the holidays are statistically proven to see a rise in assaults, domestic abuse, driving under the influence, self-harm and worse. There are many proven, complex and interrelated reasons behind this, and I would not be surprised if they aren’t also associated with an increase in Being A Dickhead On The Internet. If it’s any consolation, most people went back to work/school/daycare/the secure unit today, so hopefully the number of proctoheliologists in your inbox will return to normal background levels over the next few days. Hmm that’s a good point. One reason could be due to more alcohol and therefore lower inhibitions perhaps? I have to ask… what is a ‘proctoheliologist’? "Pain in the arse | |||
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"Sadly, the holidays are statistically proven to see a rise in assaults, domestic abuse, driving under the influence, self-harm and worse. There are many proven, complex and interrelated reasons behind this, and I would not be surprised if they aren’t also associated with an increase in Being A Dickhead On The Internet. If it’s any consolation, most people went back to work/school/daycare/the secure unit today, so hopefully the number of proctoheliologists in your inbox will return to normal background levels over the next few days. Hmm that’s a good point. One reason could be due to more alcohol and therefore lower inhibitions perhaps? I have to ask… what is a ‘proctoheliologist’?
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"Got one odd one so far. Won't quote as not allowed but made me face palm for sure "The first few words were enough for me and then went and rinsed out my eyeballs | |||
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"I had a rather amusing exchange with a young man this evening. He assumed I was offended by him. I told him he’d have to matter to me for me to be offended. Some guys just think their entitled. " I thought Prince Harry was banned from fab? | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
Are they male or female? Just out of interest?
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Ah right. So nothings changed? Don’t worry about it, I’d be more suprised when someone tells me how polite and upbeat everyone is on here.
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"Yes. Deleted pretty much every new msg over the last 2 days... Some start off ok... " Yeah same, but to be honest, I think the messages that appear ok when they’re unread are worse. At least if you know it’s going to be awful you can block and delete and don’t have to subject yourself to the content | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week "nope my messages stay the same polite and interesting | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
nope my messages stay the same polite and interesting "As they should | |||
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"All I get is 'hi' 99 percent of the time so consider yourself lucky! " You would certainly not consider yourself lucky to read some of the messages I’ve had of late Brucey | |||
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"All I get is 'hi' 99 percent of the time so consider yourself lucky! You would certainly not consider yourself lucky to read some of the messages I’ve had of late Brucey "I mean I'm not a hot woman so I'm not sure the messages you've had would impact me the same way. Hope they weren't too gnarly though! | |||
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"All I get is 'hi' 99 percent of the time so consider yourself lucky! You would certainly not consider yourself lucky to read some of the messages I’ve had of late Brucey
I mean I'm not a hot woman so I'm not sure the messages you've had would impact me the same way. Hope they weren't too gnarly though!"You mean you don't offers of debauched sexual innuendo's .....I do | |||
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"All I get is 'hi' 99 percent of the time so consider yourself lucky! " You don’t half tell porkies | |||
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"All I get is 'hi' 99 percent of the time so consider yourself lucky! You don’t half tell porkies "And the other half are fibs | |||
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"I've had one message this year, just earlier this evening. It was from someone stunning, they used the word 'exquisite', I was hoping to bathe in its beauty for at least a week...then read this thread. I am so sorry for all people - overwhelmingly women, I'm sure - who get entitled, rude, or abusive messages. And furious at the worthless, mouth-breathing, oxygen-thieving pithecanthropoids who bash them out, with all the wit and charm of a rutting walrus." Oh, I’m sorry to have popped the bubble of such a lovely message! If it helps, I have previously had some wonderful messages off (what appear to be) sweet, thoughtful and very genuine people  , but have just had some awful ones the past few days.
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I’m sorry for those of you that get them. | |||
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"All I get is 'hi' 99 percent of the time so consider yourself lucky! You don’t half tell porkies "What?! | |||
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"I’ve no idea what’s in them as I don’t read messages. I just love yellow "They are yellow...shit, I'm colourblind | |||
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"Hmmmm my resting bitch face, must go all the way to my tits. We don’t get a lot of gross ones. Maybe when we first started. But not for ages. A few clumsy, a lot of boring but no weird or nasty. Maybe word has spread in the undergrowth that my return messages are fierce (I have been blocked a lot)
I’m sorry for those of you that get them. "Do share your best responses please! I normally just block and delete, but I might change tack x | |||
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" Men could learn a thing or two from our Venusian counterparts. " I try all the time. Luckily I didn't send the OP a new years message, so not blocked and deleted. Most mystifying response to a carefully crafted message was just a mobile number - never answered - I mean why bother? | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week "I think it’s like the gym. Everyone signs up in January in the same way you see loads of people wandering around the gym with no idea how to use the equipment, you get loads of new people with no idea how to engage on here! | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
I think it’s like the gym. Everyone signs up in January in the same way you see loads of people wandering around the gym with no idea how to use the equipment, you get loads of new people with no idea how to engage on here! " | |||
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" Oh, I’m sorry to have popped the bubble of such a lovely message! If it helps, I have previously had some wonderful messages off (what appear to be) sweet, thoughtful and very genuine people , but have just had some awful ones the past few days.
Ps Your comparison to the charm of a rutting walrus is spot on "Oh, Ms. Jade, no need to apologise! I am relieved to hear there is some finely-crafted porcelain amid the endless sea of clay. | |||
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages)" Maybe more women should ask for profile advice for why they might not be enjoying Fab as much as they should…. ….*runs away quickly. | |||
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Maybe more women should ask for profile advice for why they might not be enjoying Fab as much as they should…. ….*runs away quickly. "How can I improve my profile?  | |||
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"The thing is, women can, and I'm sure should, put up filters and STILL get (nice) messages. I've had men blocked from messaging from day one, and although I'm sure that improves my overall experience, I do sometimes look at my empty message box and my '1 person looked at you yesterday' message and wonder if I should open Pandora's box, just for the endorphins. "Which is why I think some women (not necessarily the OP) do keep filters as open as the men hope their legs will be. They want a high LAY count, they love and loathe the attention a full yellow box gives them. It's an ego boost, validates that they're still sexually desirable beings even if it's just by Bob with his cock out over an unflushed toilet - a win is a win. At some point they want better messages but sacrificing that yellow screen and having the balls to message men yourself is a tall ask - what happens if they, heaven forbid, say no to you? So then they're stuck in the third circle of hell, doomed to be punished by the icy effect endless cock pics have on your vagina. | |||
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"The thing is, women can, and I'm sure should, put up filters and STILL get (nice) messages. I've had men blocked from messaging from day one, and although I'm sure that improves my overall experience, I do sometimes look at my empty message box and my '1 person looked at you yesterday' message and wonder if I should open Pandora's box, just for the endorphins. "Do it! It's a joy.
I don't have any mail filters because my profile is a filter. I want people to be able to message me about decent things. I don't see why the ignorant tossbags should spoil it for decent people. | |||
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" Do it! It's a joy.
I don't have any mail filters because my profile is a filter. I want people to be able to message me about decent things. I don't see why the ignorant tossbags should spoil it for decent people. "I think I might be too depressed at the thought of not getting interest even from d*unk, horny randoms.  | |||
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Maybe more women should ask for profile advice for why they might not be enjoying Fab as much as they should…. ….*runs away quickly.
How can I improve my profile? "Some more text would be cool | |||
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" So then they're stuck in the third circle of hell, doomed to be punished by the icy effect endless cock pics have on your vagina. " I'm about to re-read the Inferno, in a beautiful parallel-text edition. I'll look forward to that part and, like Dante, placing some modern counterparts in those positions. I do love the way you trump my Pandora's box reference with your Scylla and Charybdis, so effortlessly you don't even need to mention them by name.  | |||
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" So then they're stuck in the third circle of hell, doomed to be punished by the icy effect endless cock pics have on your vagina. I'm about to re-read the Inferno, in a beautiful parallel-text edition. I'll look forward to that part and, like Dante, placing some modern counterparts in those positions. I do love the way you trump my Pandora's box reference with your Scylla and Charybdis, so effortlessly you don't even need to mention them by name. "Sometimes I'm very close to fangirling over you. Like now. Someone who knows Greek mythos so effortlessly? Dreamy. I did actually toy with the idea of mentioning Scylla and Charybdis but thought I'd rein in the peacocking before 9am. But you? Gosh. That's the sort of mind I want to delve in to with reckless abandonment. | |||
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" Sometimes I'm very close to fangirling over you. Like now. Someone who knows Greek mythos so effortlessly? Dreamy. I did actually toy with the idea of mentioning Scylla and Charybdis but thought I'd rein in the peacocking before 9am. But you? Gosh. That's the sort of mind I want to delve in to with reckless abandonment. " At least you rein in your peacocking (great word!) - perhaps I should do that more often.
For what it's worth, I suspect I'm desperately disappointing in person. But I'm still holding you to that drink, pleaseandthankyou. | |||
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"... They want a high LAY count, they love and loathe the attention a full yellow box gives them. It's an ego boost, validates that they're still sexually desirable beings even if it's just by Bob with his cock out over an unflushed toilet - a win is a win. ... " Whereas, I awoke to: "Your site supporter runs out in 4 days". Communication! Even if it is only HAL. | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week "feel so sorry for women on here with the messages and stupid cock pictures they get and spoken too like shit we aren't all like that some of us have respect if I'm not you're time fine good luck you will find someone or 2 that like you xx | |||
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"Anyone else find some of the messages they are receiving since Christmas are worse than ever
Is there an influx of newbies in the new year that have no idea how to speak to other human beings?
I’ve never been hitting the block button as often as I have this week
I think it’s like the gym. Everyone signs up in January in the same way you see loads of people wandering around the gym with no idea how to use the equipment, you get loads of new people with no idea how to engage on here! "Yes, that the kind of vibe I’m getting, they’ve just got no clue what’s appropriate | |||
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages)" Hi Meli, I’ve got my filters on… my age range is set to block those under 35 or above 50, I don’t allow messages from anyone with no public pics (although this to me appears useless as they must add a pic just to send a message and then immediately delete it). Do you find it helps having your ‘verified only’ or blocking new members helps? | |||
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Maybe more women should ask for profile advice for why they might not be enjoying Fab as much as they should…. ….*runs away quickly. "Haha go on then… give me some pointers? | |||
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"All good so far hopefully it will stay that way "That’s good to know | |||
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"The thing is, women can, and I'm sure should, put up filters and STILL get (nice) messages. I've had men blocked from messaging from day one, and although I'm sure that improves my overall experience, I do sometimes look at my empty message box and my '1 person looked at you yesterday' message and wonder if I should open Pandora's box, just for the endorphins.
Which is why I think some women (not necessarily the OP) do keep filters as open as the men hope their legs will be.
They want a high LAY count, they love and loathe the attention a full yellow box gives them. It's an ego boost, validates that they're still sexually desirable beings even if it's just by Bob with his cock out over an unflushed toilet - a win is a win.
At some point they want better messages but sacrificing that yellow screen and having the balls to message men yourself is a tall ask - what happens if they, heaven forbid, say no to you?
So then they're stuck in the third circle of hell, doomed to be punished by the icy effect endless cock pics have on your vagina.
"Great post Meli. I totally agree that will be the case for some women on here. Filters are there, be proactive and message the ones that do pique your interest… | |||
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"… (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Maybe more women should ask for profile advice for why they might not be enjoying Fab as much as they should…. ….*runs away quickly.
Haha go on then… give me some pointers? "Okay. *shows qualifications (ID = Man) Your photos are good and shows a sexy lady, no face pics but i understand peoples reasons why. So although not a perfect selection. It’s a good 8/10 effort. (Loses points for no face, just my own personal opinion, but Shows that we don’t meet to get naked to make our photos awesome gains points for this alone) Your text it’s good and should filters me out and anyone who’s under 6ft. And it’s clear as a bell, apart from (*writes in red pen)are you just wanting to talk in the forum and have no intention of meeting … or you want tall muscular bearded good Looking men to message you?? So text looses marks more than it gains for confusion. But makes you for actually giving me something to read. 6/10 So in old money. I mark this as a C. You passed.
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Hi Meli, I’ve got my filters on… my age range is set to block those under 35 or above 50, I don’t allow messages from anyone with no public pics (although this to me appears useless as they must add a pic just to send a message and then immediately delete it). Do you find it helps having your ‘verified only’ or blocking new members helps? "Hey Sam x I'm adding a kiss so the overall tone is softened. I've blocked new members, non site supporters, non verified, no public photos. The age filter goes on when I'm fabmining and want to focus on my inbox/give better replies to folk. Does it help? Yes definitely. Especially if you're prone to logging on at horn o clock. It's really improved my overall journey on the site - if someone catches my eye who is outside my filters I can message them but I'm happy with how it is currently. Navigating here can be a minefield so I'm a big advocate of putting on your own bomb disposal uniform and making it less scary. | |||
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"… (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Maybe more women should ask for profile advice for why they might not be enjoying Fab as much as they should…. ….*runs away quickly.
Haha go on then… give me some pointers?
Okay. *shows qualifications (ID = Man)
Your photos are good and shows a sexy lady, no face pics but i understand peoples reasons why. So although not a perfect selection. It’s a good 8/10 effort. (Loses points for no face, just my own personal opinion, but Shows that we don’t meet to get naked to make our photos awesome gains points for this alone)
Your text it’s good and should filters me out and anyone who’s under 6ft. And it’s clear as a bell, apart from (*writes in red pen)are you just wanting to talk in the forum and have no intention of meeting … or you want tall muscular bearded good Looking men to message you??
So text looses marks more than it gains for confusion. But makes you for actually giving me something to read. 6/10
So in old money. I mark this as a C. You passed.
"Thanks for the feedback
In clarification of the text… I’m not wanting to meet anyone at the moment, happy to chat in the forums but equally happy to chat via private message with those that fit what I’m looking for | |||
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In clarification of the text… I’m not wanting to meet anyone at the moment, happy to chat in the forums but equally happy to chat via private message with those that fit what I’m looking for "So message them yourself. Because if you hope for just those guys to DM. Your only going to find dissatisfaction. Men will still say hello or try to get you to change your mind. | |||
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"… Thanks for the feedback
In clarification of the text… I’m not wanting to meet anyone at the moment, happy to chat in the forums but equally happy to chat via private message with those that fit what I’m looking for
So message them yourself. Because if you hope for just those guys to DM. Your only going to find dissatisfaction. Men will still say hello or try to get you to change your mind.
"I have messaged men myself first and also fully accept that I will get people messaging that don’t fit what I’m looking for and have no issue with that. What I have issue with is people sending absolutely gross messages about what they want to do to me or what they want me to do to them, irrespective of what they look like. I’ve had ones that according to my bio, would ‘fit’ my physical ‘type’ but as soon as I see the message they get blocked. | |||
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Hi Meli, I’ve got my filters on… my age range is set to block those under 35 or above 50, I don’t allow messages from anyone with no public pics (although this to me appears useless as they must add a pic just to send a message and then immediately delete it). Do you find it helps having your ‘verified only’ or blocking new members helps?
Hey Sam x
I'm adding a kiss so the overall tone is softened. I've blocked new members, non site supporters, non verified, no public photos. The age filter goes on when I'm fabmining and want to focus on my inbox/give better replies to folk. Does it help? Yes definitely. Especially if you're prone to logging on at horn o clock.
It's really improved my overall journey on the site - if someone catches my eye who is outside my filters I can message them but I'm happy with how it is currently. Navigating here can be a minefield so I'm a big advocate of putting on your own bomb disposal uniform and making it less scary."Thanks Meli, I will get those filters added ok and hopefully will help x | |||
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" Thanks Meli, I will get those filters added ok and hopefully will help x "*on | |||
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"The thing is, women can, and I'm sure should, put up filters and STILL get (nice) messages. I've had men blocked from messaging from day one, and although I'm sure that improves my overall experience, I do sometimes look at my empty message box and my '1 person looked at you yesterday' message and wonder if I should open Pandora's box, just for the endorphins. "• Thesp', interesting... My filters are lower than a drawbridge. Anyone can contact me. In the last three years I've only had half a dozen men contact me speculatively, despite my requirements being "women only". I can live with that. The remainders are forumites - of whatever erotic persuasion - messaging when it comes to games, advice or mental health support. | |||
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" Oh, I’m sorry to have popped the bubble of such a lovely message! If it helps, I have previously had some wonderful messages off (what appear to be) sweet, thoughtful and very genuine people , but have just had some awful ones the past few days.
Ps Your comparison to the charm of a rutting walrus is spot on
Oh, Ms. Jade, no need to apologise! I am relieved to hear there is some finely-crafted porcelain amid the endless sea of clay."Oh there certainly is - they’re not all bad! I’ll tighten my filters up further and hopefully that will help, just a shame that some spoil it for others. I have no issue with newbies or unverified members messaging as long as they’re polite. Have a lovely day | |||
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"All good so far hopefully it will stay that way
That’s good to know "Your messages are delightful x | |||
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"The thing is, women can, and I'm sure should, put up filters and STILL get (nice) messages. I've had men blocked from messaging from day one, and although I'm sure that improves my overall experience, I do sometimes look at my empty message box and my '1 person looked at you yesterday' message and wonder if I should open Pandora's box, just for the endorphins.
Which is why I think some women (not necessarily the OP) do keep filters as open as the men hope their legs will be.
They want a high LAY count, they love and loathe the attention a full yellow box gives them. It's an ego boost, validates that they're still sexually desirable beings even if it's just by Bob with his cock out over an unflushed toilet - a win is a win.
At some point they want better messages but sacrificing that yellow screen and having the balls to message men yourself is a tall ask - what happens if they, heaven forbid, say no to you?
So then they're stuck in the third circle of hell, doomed to be punished by the icy effect endless cock pics have on your vagina.
Great post Meli. I totally agree that will be the case for some women on here. Filters are there, be proactive and message the ones that do pique your interest…"Totally agree | |||
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"F I L T E R S Honestly. Filters. Use them. Filters. They'll make your life a bit better. Consider it the start of a new year, a new way of approaching Fab. Use. Your. Filters (No, I've not had one crap message for a good few weeks now. Yes, I'm still getting messages) Hi Meli, I’ve got my filters on… my age range is set to block those under 35 or above 50, I don’t allow messages from anyone with no public pics (although this to me appears useless as they must add a pic just to send a message and then immediately delete it). Do you find it helps having your ‘verified only’ or blocking new members helps? "Weeps | |||
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Weeps"Sorry Brucey, you know I like them a bit older x | |||
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" Hi Meli, I’ve got my filters on… my age range is set to block those under 35 or above 50, I don’t allow messages from anyone with no public pics (although this to me appears useless as they must add a pic just to send a message and then immediately delete it). Do you find it helps having your ‘verified only’ or blocking new members helps?
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Sorry Brucey, you know I like them a bit older x "But I could totally put some grey dye in and talk about the good old days! I'll even limp a little if ya wanted?! | |||
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" Hi Meli, I’ve got my filters on… my age range is set to block those under 35 or above 50, I don’t allow messages from anyone with no public pics (although this to me appears useless as they must add a pic just to send a message and then immediately delete it). Do you find it helps having your ‘verified only’ or blocking new members helps?
Weeps
Sorry Brucey, you know I like them a bit older x
But I could totally put some grey dye in and talk about the good old days! I'll even limp a little if ya wanted?! "Haha my age range is 35-50, not ‘help the aged’ | |||
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" Hi Meli, I’ve got my filters on… my age range is set to block those under 35 or above 50, I don’t allow messages from anyone with no public pics (although this to me appears useless as they must add a pic just to send a message and then immediately delete it). Do you find it helps having your ‘verified only’ or blocking new members helps?
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Sorry Brucey, you know I like them a bit older x
But I could totally put some grey dye in and talk about the good old days! I'll even limp a little if ya wanted?!
Haha my age range is 35-50, not ‘help the aged’ "Ah shit well I have nothing for that | |||
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"… Thanks for the feedback
In clarification of the text… I’m not wanting to meet anyone at the moment, happy to chat in the forums but equally happy to chat via private message with those that fit what I’m looking for
So message them yourself. Because if you hope for just those guys to DM. Your only going to find dissatisfaction. Men will still say hello or try to get you to change your mind.
I have messaged men myself first and also fully accept that I will get people messaging that don’t fit what I’m looking for and have no issue with that. What I have issue with is people sending absolutely gross messages about what they want to do to me or what they want me to do to them, irrespective of what they look like. I’ve had ones that according to my bio, would ‘fit’ my physical ‘type’ but as soon as I see the message they get blocked. "It can suck on here sometimes. Just focus on the good stuff. | |||
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"I agree, it's honestly been ridiculous with the number of women trying to throw themselves at me since the start of the new year. I'M ONLY ONE MAN! "I’m sorry
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"I agree, it's honestly been ridiculous with the number of women trying to throw themselves at me since the start of the new year. I'M ONLY ONE MAN! "I can throw myself at you whenever you want | |||
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"I agree, it's honestly been ridiculous with the number of women trying to throw themselves at me since the start of the new year. I'M ONLY ONE MAN!
I’m sorry
I’ll stop now "No no, you can stay | |||
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"I agree, it's honestly been ridiculous with the number of women trying to throw themselves at me since the start of the new year. I'M ONLY ONE MAN!
I can throw myself at you whenever you want "Ooooh smooooooooooth! I'll be here to catch you | |||
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"I agree, it's honestly been ridiculous with the number of women trying to throw themselves at me since the start of the new year. I'M ONLY ONE MAN!
I can throw myself at you whenever you want
Ooooh smooooooooooth! I'll be here to catch you "Ooh lovely | |||
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