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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone,

What do you all do when you're a low point with mental health? Would be nice to know how others deal with it

Right now I'm not in the best of places and need help, I'm teaching out on here coz sometimes strangers are the best to talk to...

Hope you don't mind me posting this

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm lucky enough to have people I know I can do the whole word vomit at in person and not be judged or dismissed for it. Sometimes just letting it out properly is a real help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you're feeling shitty man. If you can, try to remember that this too will pass.

I work best in a routine, with a list, usually starting with some form of exercise or tidying up. Easier said than done when you don't even have the drive to make the list, let alone warm up for exercise! It's rough. But if you can get yourself doing something, get growing, moving, developing, it could help.

If you're scientifically minded, Dr Huberman's YouTube channel might be useful. Even if you're not, there's some good stuff about meditation on there, as that can help shift your focus from internal to external and vice versa.

And because it's always nice to receive a genuine compliment, hope you don't mind me saying that's a very handsome cock you have!

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know pal swimming is the only thing keeping me sane, it's great for mental heath, I feel much better after a swin, both mentally and physically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear you are feeling low. Reaching out is good, I hope you get some good advice that you can take and use. It’s not easy especially at this time of year with the dark nights and everyone seemingly enjoying the Christmas run up. Be kind and gentle with yourself, do something just for you, a walk, a bath, a meditation whatever you like

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Hope you can find someone to chat with OP. If not the samaritans are always there for a chat

Mine presents itself as psoriasis, so when I flare I know I need to disappear for an afternoon for some reflection time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all. I'm just going through a rough time and my quality of life is pretty shit atm. I need to help myself but don't know how and I'm stressed all of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all. I'm just going through a rough time and my quality of life is pretty shit atm. I need to help myself but don't know how and I'm stressed all of the time "

Go and look in the mirror and literally have a word with yourself, put yourself at ease, convince yourself that everything will be fine and it shall be so, good luck sir I'm sure that everything will be fine

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By *issy_sub_rTV/TS
over a year ago

Near Thatcham

"Hi everyone,

What do you all do when you're a low point with mental health? Would be nice to know how others deal with it

Right now I'm not in the best of places and need help, I'm teaching out on here coz sometimes strangers are the best to talk to...

Hope you don't mind me posting this "

Personally, I go for a long walk (15 miles or so) on my own. Gives me time to think things through and clear my head without any distractions.

If you're interested in talking with others on here about mental health, pop into the Support and Advice forum and look for the ND Wonky messages. There's a whole group of people who can relate and chat.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

OP different things will work for different people. Also depression can be triggered by different things in life. Talking therapy worked for me. I have made some career mistakes in my past that have cost me financially and will shape the rest of my future . I was focusing on the past and what could have been and feeling a failure because if it. I was helped to recognise that it’s pointless fretting about the past because it’s done. Focus on the future but also take the time and stop to enjoy the simple things in life , such as a 15 minute walk in the sunshine, or a cup of tea with a friend. Enjoy the moment. It helped me. It doesn’t provide a complete solution but it can get me out of those really down days . Hope this is helpful.

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By *heMightySpud69Man
over a year ago

Milton keynes

"Thanks all. I'm just going through a rough time and my quality of life is pretty shit atm. I need to help myself but don't know how and I'm stressed all of the time "

When I had councelling, they told me to break down issues, and things I needed to do, until I found a step small enough to accomplish easily.

Also, talking to someone, and unloading everything helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me talking to someone not a family member though.

Swimming and taking a walk helps me too.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"OP different things will work for different people. Also depression can be triggered by different things in life. "

Definitely this. Exercise did absolutely nothing for me although it helps others. Have an arsenal of things to try in your mental toolbox and if something doesn’t help, don’t worry.

But please don’t use alcohol to get you through.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I meditate, get outdoors among nature, I do cold water swimming,

I journal

And I talk

I write about mental health on my blog

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks people. I really don't know what's best atm that's the issue. Theres so much going on upstairs that's affecting me.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Exercise to get the natural endorphins up and running is very beneficial, and can work wonders. It can be catch 22, as headspace can affect motivation in order to get into this habit.

Sound like you have a lot of chatter going on, and perhaps worthwhile speaking to someone just to help air your thoughts. Sometimes we can’t really open up to friends or families but it’s a start.

If you have been experiencing low moods and high levels of stress for more than 2 weeks continuously then would be advisable to speak to your GP about it. And they can check some health matters or refer you to well being teams who can perhaps help give you support.

Don’t be worried about contacting support lines also. Remember you are not alone, and the current feelings you experience won’t last forever.

Sending good vibes buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi dude, sorry to hear about your mental health. First of all I want to say if you ever need to chat/rant/cry and need someone my inbox is open I will give you my number and you can call Even if it’s just for a chat.

Not so long ago I was in a serous bad place mentally due to being bullied at work and lots of other bits, it all came to a head once night and I went and stood on a bridge intending to end it all but couldn’t do it. The next day I went to my GP and they refaired me to a mental health specialist who took my initial apointment, they then put me on a waiting list for CBD therapy (it took ages) but I now go to councling/therapy each week, it really helps 3

Another thing I have found helped me was doing things I like to do, found getting into my car and just driving and listing to tunes helped me so much and even jait sitting down with mates helped me. My pms are always open if you need me dude, stay strong and keep in mind it’s okay to not be okay

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Is there anything in particular causing yiu stress and anxiety and is there anything you can do to eliminate or reduce that?

Cut back on alcohol and caffeine, both exacerbate feelings of stress, anxiety and depression.

Get fresh air and get daylight, that's particularly important at present with the short days, just a short stroll at lunchtime can help.

Open up and tell your friends and family, you'll be surprised at the support and empathy you receive and itsvamazing how much difference empathy and knowing you aren't alone can make.

And find something you enjoy that gives you natural endorphins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks people. I really don't know what's best atm that's the issue. Theres so much going on upstairs that's affecting me."

Going for a walk can help clear your head

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time lately. What helped me was talking things over, going out and being a bit more active, list making - putting what I could change and what I couldn't - focusing on the could change list, not being too tough on myself and I did speak to my doctor and referred to local mental health services. I did a well being course and journalled for quite a while afterwards, which I still go into if and when I need to.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Thanks people. I really don't know what's best atm that's the issue. Theres so much going on upstairs that's affecting me."

Probably best to have a chat with your GP too

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Get d*unk, cry a lot, walk, cry a lot, alienate my friends and family, cry a lot, get even more d*unk,piss people off or get really overly clingy and dump my problem on people who shouldn't have to be dealing with my shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get d*unk, cry a lot, walk, cry a lot, alienate my friends and family, cry a lot, get even more d*unk,piss people off or get really overly clingy and dump my problem on people who shouldn't have to be dealing with my shit.

I feel you right now, this is how I'm getting but I don't have people to support me and reach out too properly as I feel embarrassed and ashamed...I need someone to be by my side egging me and helping me.

I guess an accumulation of bad decisions has brought me to this unfortunatley

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I stress clean, anything to distract my mind, some favourite music on or go for a long drive just park up and sit in the quiet.

Hope you feel better soon op.

Mrs

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