FabSwingers.com forum: Alone at Christmas

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dear fabbers and fabettes

This will be my first Christmas alone,not by choice

Have you spent it alone?

What do you do? How do you cope?

Im really not looking forward to Christmas this year

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never have spent it alone ! Maybe offer help at a soup kitchen ? X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've spent many a Christmas alone when my son was a child I would alternative Christmas day with his dad.

Last Christmas I spent in hospital and I couldn't have visitors.

It's not so bad being on your own get some nice food and drink in. You could always try for a social meet with someone in the same position as you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Or as candyfloss said you could volunteer I had an old man round for christmas dinner one year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spent Christmas day alone for last 4 years, and actually due to the hectic build up it was very nice to have a day of peace...this year I have my eldest home

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm always alone at Christmas since my divorce. Friends invite me, but it doesn't feel right so I keep to myself. Give yourself treats. Make it special for yourself.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

"Dear fabbers and fabettes

This will be my first Christmas alone,not by choice

Have you spent it alone?

What do you do? How do you cope?

Im really not looking forward to Christmas this year"

I spend it alone most years. Tell yourself it's just another day but make yourself a Christmas dinner & enjoy it.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

My 2nd year spending Christmas alone, when all is said and done, it is just another day, only difference is the shops are shut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been alone this passed few years due to family issues, I try to say it dosent bother me each year but i always have a cry at some point

only thing that keeps me going is the thought that I’m on call with emergency service so I could have to go out with them

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I’m always alone at Xmas these days, you can either wallow in it, live it up by yourself, forget about it or do something to help others.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I will be alone just after lunch time

I hate it and on previous years I just get totally wankered on wine and port

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I love just having a very quiet day. Read, listen to music, sleep. It doesn't have to be special if you don't want it to, and if you treat it as just another day off, you don't have to feel like you're missing out.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Dear OP, you won't be alone. We're all here and I'll be trawling the Fab Airwaves on Christmas Day, popping in / popping out to say hello and offering the warmest of yuletide felicitations.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I have, and this year. I have a lovely lie in. FaceTime with a few friends. Cook an epic roast. Watch Die Hard, masturbate and get pissed. I Avoid social media like the plague.

It would be great to have a Christmas Day orgy some time.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I was alone last Christmas day and absolutely hated it . This year I’ll hosting family and really looking forward to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love a Christmas alone ! Long walk, quick dinner, big brandy and a couple of films in peace. Bliss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to circumstances I’ve often had xmas alone, but only the day itself usually.

As has been said either wallow in it or make the most of it.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

When I split with an ex one year I went and stayed at my sisters for Christmas whilst she went away.

I made myself a mini Christmas dinner and I watched back to back films.

You can make it morbid or woe is me or you can see it as just any other day you spend without anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

During lockdown I went to work as had a little gym/ circuit set up. No one else there obviously.

Podcast on and did about 3 hours training. Bit chilly but got some solid results , wish the gym was open over xmas

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By *0astMan
over a year ago

Discovering

Spent many a Christmas alone, not just in the uk, but also aboard. Love the peace and quiet, I take myself out for the day, a long walk in the mountains.

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By *nasuitMan
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Or as candyfloss said you could volunteer I had an old man round for christmas dinner one year"

Did you eat him all on Christmas day or freeze bits for later?

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I've volunteered and would recommend it.

These days I happily spend it alone, weather permitting I'll go out walking or cycling, I'll have a new book to enjoy and a lot of nice foods in. Tend to avoid Christmas TV and much of social media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would treat myself to Marks and Sparks Christmas dinner

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

I love getting any time to myself.

I make no exceptions for Christmas Day. I am not Christian so feel no need to celebrate the day as a Christian holy day.

I kind of get the mid winter festival idea… s way to lift spirits and celebrate the return of the sun and the regrowth of life. And I am not a downer on people having a good time, but crumbs!

It is always nice to have time to be alone!

I don’t spend every Christmas on my own but I have done it a few times and hsvee Ed loved it

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

I've been on my own for most of them in my life. This year Small is even completely forsaking me til the 27th so I'm doing something I've threatened to do for years I'm helping do homeless Christmas dinners

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I spent a Christmas on my own after leaving my ex.

Once you get past the idea of it being a sad and lonely thing, you appreciate the peace and pure delight of a tranquil day to treat exactly as you like.

I didn't do anything Christmassy and I smiled a lot during my different day, doing exactly as I pleased.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent it alone in 2020 and actually enjoyed it. Last year was with family and it was horrendous. This year I've made the choice to spend it alone in my own home x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If I was ever to be alone on Christmas Day I would cook a small turkey crown while I listen to Christmas songs. Buy crackers; cheeses; pates; pickled red cabbage; silverskin onions etc etc and have a day long picnic on my sofa as I watch Christmas films. Bottle of Baileys, Christmas pudding and custard,and special chocolates for the evening to indulge in while I watch more Christmas films.

Boxing Day I'd go for a long walk to walk off some of the calories and have a prawn cocktail salad with more turkey for dinner.

If I knew of someone else alone I'd invite them round or phone them for a chit chat.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

"I have, and this year. I have a lovely lie in. FaceTime with a few friends. Cook an epic roast. Watch Die Hard, masturbate and get pissed. I Avoid social media like the plague.

It would be great to have a Christmas Day orgy some time.

What a fantastic idea! I'm in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had several Christmases alone and this year will be the same. I have ME and have epileptic types of seizures. Had my longest one last Christmas Day when I was unusually with family and it took over a week of resting to recover from it. I spend so much time on my own that I got sensory overload and my body couldn't cope.

I plan to treat it like a normal day. I'm not religious, don't have children and won't spend excess money for the day just because society says we should.

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By *oob suckerMan
over a year ago

woking

Definitely volunteer mate. I had a few after a divorce and didn’t do anything, then met someone who had the same situation and said it was really positive.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

You can be surrounded by a multitude of people and still be alone ... as comments above I think just make it what you want it to be ...it is just another day in the year after all, right?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

What ever you do OP...don't be disheartened by it, if possible.

Have a look around, maybe there are others in the same boat who offer something. I know there must be lots of folk in the same boat.

What ever happens...happy Christmas and good luck for the New Year x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"You can be surrounded by a multitude of people and still be alone ... as comments above I think just make it what you want it to be ...it is just another day in the year after all, right?

Good advice here

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By *oob suckerMan
over a year ago

woking

"You can be surrounded by a multitude of people and still be alone ... as comments above I think just make it what you want it to be ...it is just another day in the year after all, right?

I think that’s good wording and what we say is important. It is just another day. Christmas can be hard, think of it like taking a sickie and you can claim back a day to do what you want. X

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

I have spent Christmas alone since my wife passed away. Yes very difficult as normally had family staying over holiday time. I cooked both Christmas day and Boxing day meals. Most cooked for was ten people. All now passed away

I will be cooking again for myself meals Christmas and Boxing days .

It is a time of year for some that is not good. I hope though for others to enjoy with family and friends

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I have spent Christmas alone since my wife passed away. Yes very difficult as normally had family staying over holiday time. I cooked both Christmas day and Boxing day meals. Most cooked for was ten people. All now passed away

I will be cooking again for myself meals Christmas and Boxing days .

It is a time of year for some that is not good. I hope though for others to enjoy with family and friends "

It is so difficult when we she lost those so important to us, especially this time of year.

I hope you get to enjoy the holidays...even though timed have changed so much for you x

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

For me, Christmas is just like any other day except that public transport and shops are closed, so I am obliged to adjust my busy routine.

Lie in bed late, catch up on household chores, eat my Christmas fare and get onto fab for the evening and plan ahead for the new year!

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By *oob suckerMan
over a year ago

woking

I will be cooking again for myself meals Christmas and Boxing days .

It is a time of year for some that is not good. I hope though for others to enjoy with family and friends

It is so difficult when we she lost those so important to us, especially this time of year.

I hope you get to enjoy the holidays...even though timed have changed so much for you x"

Change is hard. Sometimes things blind side us on a random day, they are massive and unfair. It’s what we do after that changes us for the good of ourselves. It’s so tough. It takes time to process changes and you should allow time and be kind to yourself mate. I found walking very good, when you’re feeling down. Doesn’t matter for how long, just get out and walk x

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

I will be cooking again for myself meals Christmas and Boxing days .

It is a time of year for some that is not good. I hope though for others to enjoy with family and friends

It is so difficult when we she lost those so important to us, especially this time of year.

I hope you get to enjoy the holidays...even though timed have changed so much for you x"

Thank you for reply. I enjoyed cooking , although very tiring . Ensuring food correct. Yes I can cook well. Do miss social of people in house , staying. Now empty house as only me and yes as older very difficult to meet new people etc.

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