FabSwingers.com forum: Barriers on Accommodating?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering why so few people can accommodate?

I have young children so choose not to accommodate even when they're not there because I never really know what someone's like and I want to keep that away from them. But if I know someone more long term I may be open to accommodating when the kids are away.

What reasons do you have or have you heard for not being able to accommodate. I'm genuinely interested in the barriers?

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

Grown up daughter living at home for me major lack of privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never would.

Ever.

This is my home, having had a few weird encounters in the past just no way!

Unless, it was a long long long term thing and I trusted them 100%. Then maybe the at the BnB down the road

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Usually its privacy, children, nosey neighbours or a secret partner!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Had someone who said they were embarrassed of where they were renting so wouldn't accommodate for that reason ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why so few people can accommodate?

What reasons do you have or have you heard for not being able to accommodate. I'm genuinely interested in the barriers? "

Privacy .

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Same as me OP my child lives with me permanently so it’s our safe space

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I would imagine, for the vast majority, it would come down to privacy and safety.

Ultimately, you are still meeting (mostly) strangers from the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im amenable to accommodating, and have done, but I wouldn't do for a variety of reasons from not wanting to tidy up (Yeah, sometimes I can leave the place messy, I'd rather miss out than let anyone see that), to having people in the house already etc. Endless reasons why I can, but might choose not to.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Children! We were happy to play at ours “BC” (before child).

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes "

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have young (ish) kids and unfortunately I have learnt my lesson the hard way.

The one and only time I did accommodate at mine (when I was on another site and my kids were away with their dad) I had a very difficult time in getting someone to leave my house. He then proceeded to harass me thereafter and became such an unpleasant nuisance that I had to threaten him with the Police.

So, never again.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We have very young kids, no one is coming near my house.

Mrs

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A 23 and 30 year old daughter living home the 30 year old works from home there is very rare times they both out but very seldom x

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Kids

Safety

Privacy

Thin walls

House mates

Spouse

I'd guess they're the main ones, with kids being the most common valid one and spouse being the most common secret one.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's my family home. Non negotiable.

Hotels are my preferred place to meet

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky"

Some people prefer to meet on neutral ground, that’s fine, it’s no big deal, no body wants Dave/Diane the stalker outside their house causing problems

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

For me I didnt want to introduce casual people into my childrens lives.

A fwb person wouldnt be ok either compared to a long term one.

What I did find out was the ladies was fine in the men taking on there children from other relationships.

But its not the same when its the other way around.

They liked the reference that I cared for 2 children, Many was surprised when they asked.

That I was caring and bringing up a step child.

As I refered to them as my natural child that id taken care of since they was one year old.

On top of that anyone that came near me, Would have to put up with dirty accusations, violence from my ex and her partners.

Something I wouldnt want anyone to deal with as it wasnt nice.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's mine and my partner's space ,we keep it just for ourselves.

If he had a meet he wouldn't accom either .

I don't blame anyone for not inviting strangers to their homes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have older children so it’s a no no

We do have someone who does call when they are away but this is someone we have known for years and trust a lot.

Mr x

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Have kids living with me. But if or when I got to know someone and trust was established then yes there would be a possibility to accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it were my home, I wouldn’t have much of a problem 90% of the time because most of the time if I’m ready to meet someone, I already trust them.

But I’m

House sharing, and the others in the house don’t just want “randoms’** turning up. And sure, I’m not for trying to twist anyones arm when it’s easier to just meet someone elsewhere.

** this is an exact quote.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My home is my sanctuary. I don't want the noise or complications of Fab in here

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky"

It's a diff thing

People may accom when they know someone well and trust them

I've seen lots of threads where people have turned up to people's homes unannounced expecting a shag .

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky"

It's a lot easier to move your body away from a stranger than it is to move your house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky

It's a lot easier to move your body away from a stranger than it is to move your house."

Exactly it’s a safety aspect. Imagine that person you invite around ‘turns’ and now they know where you live

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky"

They aren’t even remotely the same thing. It isn’t a hard concept to understand boundaries.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

They don't want to.

LvM

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

House shares, parents and kids are typical issues.

Plus prior stalkers or concerns.

Maybe some are concerned about their place being given a once over, before break ins.

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I'm not accommodating coz I've had bad experiences with ex bfs n my home is my home, yes I live on my own but maybe when I find a long term thing then I mite start to think about it

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've had a couple of women insist that they would only meet in their home and nowhere else because their time was limited and they had no interest in meeting socially.

I refused because I insist on at least one social meet and also because I've no interest in meeting any woman who is comfortable inviting me as a complete stranger into her home without any thought for personal safety.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Me and Mr Fox are both back at our respective family homes after bad breakups....working on it!

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Just don't really fancy it. We'd rather meet in a hotel, we'd rather that than go to someone who accommodated too.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

There are plenty of nuts out there whom I wouldn't want visiting me just because they're horny.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

For a lot of the "single" men on here it's because their wifes/partners wouldn't be too happy.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"For a lot of the "single" men on here it's because their wifes/partners wouldn't be too happy."

Just as many single women with the same problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two teenage children and this is their home too, I‘d never bring this into their house so hotels and clubs it is

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Don't fancy an enraged angry Husband/Boyfriend knocking at our doors at 7 in the morning wanting a fight cause we shagged their misses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don’t want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hotels. I don’t like tidying up afterwards.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Well you never know who's really coming to your house it's not like everyone here's had a CRB check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels

Had some apparently nice chats that later turned into nut jobs so can you imagine if they knew where you lived?

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

We have mostly hosted at home. But, have always been as careful as possible.

I 100% understand and wouldn’t question why people prefer not to. If either of us were on here as a single, we wouldn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of reasons. For example, I might be decorating, or feeling protective of my pet and my lovely safe sanctuary. Sometimes it just feels too intimate.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

The vats of acid and body parts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like hotels. I don’t like tidying up afterwards. "

Or before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like hotels. I don’t like tidying up afterwards.

Or before.

Hahaha. Exactly.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I wouldn’t want someone to know my address (until I really got to know them), in case they turned into a weird stalker or started turning up uninvited

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Kind of cautious of it after ending up with an over enthusiastic fabber in our early days who thought we were best of friends after meeting once and wanted to go shopping etc. Since then we have occasionally blindfolded guys bundled them in the back of the car and then removed the blindfold once inside

And had friends who said a couple called on them without notice after accommodating them once and they were having a family Sunday lunch and the kids wanted to know who they were. Another who said their kids found a used condom down the sofa the following day.

So kind of guess people don’t want any fall out from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why so few people can accommodate?

What reasons do you have or have you heard for not being able to accommodate. I'm genuinely interested in the barriers? "

So many good reasons..

Dear OP,what's your pro's & cons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm not telling someone my real name, I'm sure as hell not giving them my address.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Just wondering why so few people can accommodate?

What reasons do you have or have you heard for not being able to accommodate. I'm genuinely interested in the barriers? "

You know if your will to pay you could accommodate in a hotel

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"Same as me OP my child lives with me permanently so it’s our safe space"

This is exactly what I say, it’s my child’s safe space!

Only 2 long term fab friends (over my 7 years on site) have been here, my son met both of them multiple times before they came here and I don’t see that ever changing x

Pixie

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By *akeanyoneMan
over a year ago

By the time I invited someone over they wouldn't be a stranger at that point, plenty of chatting, a social or two and a club meet would take place first.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I can accommodate if I wanted to but I choose not to unless I know someone well and trust them.My Fwb is the only person I trust to bring to my home.

My home is my safe place I've no interest in using it for fab meets and I also would not go to anyone else's house unless I knew them well also.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Two barriers. First I'm a lone parent with two young children in the house. Second my home space is very personal to me and My Girl. So for us it'd wouldn't feel right to entertain in our respective homes unless we were both there entertaining together (and even then only with sexy freinds we've known prior). That's why for me natural ground like a club is King (but I think neutral ground works well for many others too).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many nutters.. I've already had one stalker, I'll never make the same mistake twice

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By *ynda1978Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Liverpool

I live with my mum so the lack of privacy but the respect for my mum. Also its my home and encountered a situation where I didn't feel safe and don't want to ever feel like that again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all. This has been really interesting to read. I genuinely wasn't judging at all. Like I said I choose not to accommodate personally too and I'm more than happy to pay for a hotel if I meet someone I want to play with I just wondered about other people's restrictions.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We’re very careful with our privacy.

It’s why we’ll only accommodate in our greenhouse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many nutters.. I've already had one stalker, I'll never make the same mistake twice "

Yeah you don’t want a pecan Tom looking through your windows!

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I think in the 6 years I've lived here, non of my friends gave been inside my flat, most only roughly know where I live. My home is my sanctuary.

So not much chance of a meet being an exception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever 'accommodated' one person I met via here,but it was way beyond a 'fab meet', he'd met my son, and I loved him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live alone so I can accommodate easily. But sometimes I can’t be arsed putting the hoover about, so choose not to

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Small child at home

Adult "child" and his girlfriend at home

Wanting to get out of the usual environment for something a bit more fun/different, even if we didn't have the above

Wanting to keep our location private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a lot of the "single" men on here it's because their wifes/partners wouldn't be too happy."

That old chestnut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would but would need to really know and trust the person beforehand.

My cat hates strangers though so don't mind her if she hisses at you x

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By *andyman111Man
over a year ago

St Helens

You have to be careful these days

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Learned the hard way so I will never, ever have anyone near my home again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to accomodate at my house,but after one lass started turning up uninvited and unannounced,a different lass was almost impossible to get rid of,and a couple decided to have a domestic in my back yard I stopped inviting strangers anywhere near my house.

Despite this,a large number of people on here decide that me not accomodating automatically means that I have a wife or gf,and won't be told any different

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"For a lot of the "single" men on here it's because their wifes/partners wouldn't be too happy."

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A similar supposition would be a "...a lot of the 'single' women on here it's because their husbands/partners wouldn't be too happy.".

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

I have a rehomed rottweiler, who has been a sweetheart, but only with us for 9 weeks... I'm not putting someone in a position where she might be uncomfortable and bite... that would also lead to her big sister also protecting her.. and me.

Blood is a bugger to get out yer carpets.

And why would I stress my tiny dogs?

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

I've had bad past experiences so now have trust issues.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Before I could accommodate I thought being able to would be the golden ticket to getting more meets ..not the case though..I think people assume my house is like that place in the Texas chainsaw massacre....ok maybe it is slightly...but I don't own a chainsaw..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of have no problem having a couple in my house. But i do have an issue if i think the "hubby" is very "dom".

The reason i say that is that in the past i had a couple visit me and all was good until we got to the bedroom. "hubby" then became very dom, and to be honest i felt like a whimp in my own house and own bedroom.

One thing is for sure, that will never happen again in my house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get to mine you’d have to pass through city centre. Meet me half way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to accomodate at my house,but after one lass started turning up uninvited and unannounced,a different lass was almost impossible to get rid of,and a couple decided to have a domestic in my back yard I stopped inviting strangers anywhere near my house.

Despite this,a large number of people on here decide that me not accomodating automatically means that I have a wife or gf,and won't be told any different

Wowzers. You’ve had some luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Medium sized human whom gives me no privacy, and who's sperm doner doesn't bother so no time.

Also when you ignore some men on here, they keep messaging like multiple times a day. I just imagine that everyone has the potential to be like that in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’re very careful with our privacy.

It’s why we’ll only accommodate in our greenhouse."

I can see right through that strategy.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

House mate plus the place is often a building site as I continue the slow (very slow) process of renovation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite this,a large number of people on here decide that me not accomodating automatically means that I have a wife or gf,and won't be told any different

Wowzers. You’ve had some luck!

Fortunately I'm older and wiser now

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Despite this,a large number of people on here decide that me not accomodating automatically means that I have a wife or gf,and won't be told any different

Wowzers. You’ve had some luck!

After reading that I don't think I'll ever accomodate!

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"Grown up daughter living at home for me major lack of privacy

Ours is a grown up son, who has just purchased a ring doorbell (and has the app fot it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Medium sized human whom gives me no privacy, and who's sperm doner doesn't bother so no time.

Also when you ignore some men on here, they keep messaging like multiple times a day. I just imagine that everyone has the potential to be like that in real life. "

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even like friends calling by unannounced, I'm not inviting Glenn Close over just because I fancy a BJ !

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By *imnher17Couple
over a year ago

Mirfield

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky"

We can remove our bodies (and consent) at any given time. Our domiciles are fixed and therefore harder to remove from those who now know where we live. Save for protection from harassment and restraining orders.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Grown up daughter living at home for me major lack of privacy

Ours is a grown up son, who has just purchased a ring doorbell (and has the app fot it

)

Ha ha same! Plus blink cameras through the house there are ways round those x

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By *oJo pornstarMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sometimes I can accommodate, I have a son who splits his time between his mums and mine, and a daughter at uni who lives at mine between uni time, uni isn't far so it's not unbeknown for her to turn up unexpected.

I am probably more careful about women I meet in the pub due to past experiences, the good thing about fab meets, especially with cples is after the naughtyness is over, they usually just F'off, if you Kopp for a girl in a pub and take her home, then ask her to phone a taxi once your balls are drained, they can get a bit arsey over such requests

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’d say the main reason is that people don’t like strangers from the internet in their homes

I'm so sorry but they don't want a stranger in their home but inside their body is fine !!

I'm not being picky

Absolutely

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Man eating plants at home. After first three couples were devoured by Audrey, I decided that just best not to accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am like am just not tiding up

but they are welcome.. hey one day I might get lucky and they tidy up for me lol

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Firstly I don't want people knowing where I live until I'm sure of them. Secondly because my partner is often at home scratching his balls on the sofa and even if he's not, I can't be bothered washing extra bed sheets

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Man eating plants at home. After first three couples were devoured by Audrey, I decided that just best not to accommodate."

Are they woman eating too?

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By *ichardbyronMan
over a year ago

Ludham

Of I invite you in you are my guest and I hope you will enjoy my hospitality.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

The walls are ridiculously thin, and the neighbours are always in. And watching.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I have brother and neice who stay with me, so accommodating can be awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a daily carer for both parents, not exactly the best place to bring people back to

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

This is interesting. Reason that where I worked for last twenty years . Yes all males on shifts . So a mixture of single, divorced , separated etc. Now some had own places or shared places. They had met females in clubs etc and gone back to their places . So perhaps more risk than arranging meets etc on here ?

More risk on here as could be first time seeing ?

Even though males at company yes saw in person, but as drink involved did not see risk ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Main reason, my lad.

Even before their arrival I wouldn’t accommodate. My friends of 20-40 years only found out my address in 2020 and that was limited to a select few, they only knew a rough location prior to that. My home has always been my quiet, personal space. So eck no is a stranger going to know where I live. Life is private and I choose who I share it with, how much & when.

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By *liceinwanderlust101Woman
over a year ago

Cambridge/London

Only ever accommodated 3 people from here, one was a woman who was sent to me by my old Fab partner so no threat there, the second was part of a scene if you will and the 3rd I work with so I know where to give him a ball beating if needed plus trust him implicitly (so much that he’s my NOK!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never accommodate at home, but do in our holiday cottage.

Home is home, our family place, safe place, secret from the fab lifestyle, for safety reasons & it's our 4 daughters home, where we have our belongings, not a sex shop.

The holiday cottage on the other hand is exactly that, we are more relaxed about people coming over long as we trust them

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Just wondering why so few people can accommodate?

What reasons do you have or have you heard for not being able to accommodate. I'm genuinely interested in the barriers? "
I live in a shared house so I have a room and I work from home so not always convenient

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

"Grown up daughter living at home for me major lack of privacy

Snap!

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Have brother lodging with me. So limited to having people to stay.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Grown up daughter living at home for me major lack of privacy

I have this but doesn’t stop me. We are both adults and we discuss when we will be in/out etc. the main barrier for me is would I want them to potentially meet her and if no then I would question why I’m meeting them !

Not every meet has to be sex and I think your daughter should understand that. I’ve had people come for dinner, sleep over without sex.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Just wondering why so few people can accommodate?

What reasons do you have or have you heard for not being able to accommodate. I'm genuinely interested in the barriers? "

We have young children to. I don't feel easy playing in their safe place if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a case of I don't want to accommodate.

Home is my real life, Fab is escapism.

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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (UAE)

Event though i ive alone and have no real barrier to accomodating any night of the week, the fact of the matter is i am a right messy bugger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all people who cannot accommodate are cheating. I cannot accommodate until my son, daughter in law and granddaughter find a house. In this economic climate I cannot imagine it being anytime soon sadly.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

I accommodate when I am in my place Mon to Fri as I don't have any sentimental or familial attachment to it. It's relatively safe, no one can get back in etc

Never meet and go back to my real home cos that's home and it's a line I draw to keep lives separate

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I find the whole irl / fab separation thing wierd. I couldn’t trust someone who isn’t authentic or has 2 versions of them self

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

"I find the whole irl / fab separation thing wierd. I couldn’t trust someone who isn’t authentic or has 2 versions of them self "

I don't think of it as being unauthentic, I consider it self preservation.

It's why I don't meet in my home townz bad experiences require a firm line

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By *irtuousBullMan
over a year ago

lake district

I've had to get a lodger to help with everything going on at the moment, so generally don't mix the two

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I find the whole irl / fab separation thing wierd. I couldn’t trust someone who isn’t authentic or has 2 versions of them self

I don't think of it as being unauthentic, I consider it self preservation.

It's why I don't meet in my home townz bad experiences require a firm line "

That’s understandable , security is important. I’ve never had a bad experience meeting single females. Couples I’m slightly more cautious and discreet

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Grown up daughter living at home for me major lack of privacy

Not every meet has to be sex and I think your daughter should understand that. I’ve had people come for dinner, sleep over without sex. "

It's a bit different when you're a married couple and potentially meeting additional people. Not only do we have our young daughter at home, but our adult son and his girlfriend and we just don't want to have that conversation with them. So we don't accommodate. Simple.

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By *estSussexGuy76Man
over a year ago

copthorne

I live in a very quiet and private area, I'm open to accommodate. I'm single, no children so I understand why people who do have family homes prefer not to accommodate

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Safety - privacy in my own flat you are meeting strangers ultimately from a hook up website.

Other home I live with folks as a carer so not really going to bring a rando back home

I just book hotels nearby for the sake of 50/80 quid it’s easier plus I can film some some adult content earlier in day and recoup the cost later

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

No barriers here. I am single with no children or anyone else living with me.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

My neighbours are cunts and have cctv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

young kids mainly

i usually do a social first before inviting people over.. but i have not done that too if ive chatted for a while... vibes?

think a single female is easier tk invite over.. not sure id be ok with a couple i didnt know first.

its not my security its my kids so i hide photos etc

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

We have a 19 year old at home but he does work away from home so we would accommodate a couple but after sharing a mobile numbers with a single guy and the constant messages at 4am asking if we’re horny we would have to really think about if we’d like to share out home address.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't bring anyone back to our home simple as that. We enjoy separation of swing activities so much that we only swing when on our holidays in GC now.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I live alone and it's very very rare I invite someone back to my house. I had a bad experience with someone turning up unannounced at my door a few years ago. I was dishing up Sunday dinner to my teenage sons at the time

I prefer to play in clubs where it feels safer to me.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

My home is currently a renovation project. I am happy enough to rough it but wouldn't expect anyone else to.

I also quite like the cold and haven't had my heating on this year. Not many Inuit fibbers around.

Not that I am meeting anyone atm. Or for the foreseeable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 2 young children but also I am still living with the ex until the divorce is finalised.

I have decided even after then and I'm in my own place I wouldn't accommodate anyone unless I have known them for a good while and have already done plenty of meets as at the end of the day

it will my children's home as well and their safe space.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

God no I’d never even tell anyone the village I live in let alone where I actually live. Not in a million years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think one of my biggest fears is having naked women in the house when I’m in teams calls. There’s a time and place for that!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I think one of my biggest fears is having naked women in the house when I’m in teams calls. There’s a time and place for that!"

Scaffolding vans and 50 hairy workmen .

No parking space

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

"I think one of my biggest fears is having naked women in the house when I’m in teams calls. There’s a time and place for that!"

Is that your way of (not at all) subtlely telling us that once a woman steps over your threshold she refuses to leave?!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I think one of my biggest fears is having naked women in the house when I’m in teams calls. There’s a time and place for that!

Is that your way of (not at all) subtlely telling us that once a woman steps over your threshold she refuses to leave?! "

Everyone has got to start their harem somewhere

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By *irtysnapperMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

"Kids

Safety

Privacy

Thin walls

House mates

Spouse

I'd guess they're the main ones, with kids being the most common valid one and spouse being the most common secret one."

Nailed it.

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By *unfriendly 123Man
over a year ago

boston

I accommodate but always meet in public place first so many time wasters so not giving out my details until meeting in person first

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

"I think one of my biggest fears is having naked women in the house when I’m in teams calls. There’s a time and place for that!

Is that your way of (not at all) subtlely telling us that once a woman steps over your threshold she refuses to leave?!

Everyone has got to start their harem somewhere

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

My daughters live with me. They are all grown up but still not something I would want to subject them to.

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By *rolicUsCouple
over a year ago

Alluringly mysterious

All of the above, and also being surrounded by my prosaic life and work thoughts. I am more able to leave those behind and enter a more relaxed mindset when elsewhere.

And my

would certainly look even more askance at me than they do now. Judgy fuckers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My little boy lives with me.

You're never quite sure who you're inviting over unless you know them well and trust them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By know means all but, if your not who you say you are.....

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't wanna go to someone's house.

I want a nice hotel, that's half the reason I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t beat a nice fancy hotel

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

He knows ^

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By *pstanding CitizenMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'll happily accommodate for the right woman

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By *x cplCouple
over a year ago

North of Oxford

Like many have said family at home.and nosey neighbours...we prefer clubs over hotels as never know who will make the right vibes on the night..

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By *arvest 84Man
over a year ago

SCAWBY, NEAR , BRIGG.

we can and do accom, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t want any old slapper wiping their minge on my curtains on the way out unless she asked for permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why so few people can accommodate?

What reasons do you have or have you heard for not being able to accommodate. I'm genuinely interested in the barriers? "

This is my reason, not my children but I have my sister and a couple of cousins who are single mothers who I have a large input with and have their kids over at mine alot so want to make sure that my house is kept as a safe space for them

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By *aximum_funMan
over a year ago

West Herts

Kids are with me 50% of the time so that week is right out. The other week though, open season! (For the right person, obviously)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because when she turns out to be an absolute psychopath I’d rather her not be able to set bags of shit on fire on my front porch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think one of my biggest fears is having naked women in the house when I’m in teams calls. There’s a time and place for that!

Is that your way of (not at all) subtlely telling us that once a woman steps over your threshold she refuses to leave?! "

Where was that telling someone it’s time to go without telling them it’s time to go thread when I needed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes that's the other problem when I used to accommodate, they often want to stay over

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