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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Totally agree. I thought manners cost nothing. But not on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I say no thank you I usually get asked why or people just start being down right abusive. Just take it as a no and move on. I also do not have the time to reply to everyone. I'm not stuck up or rude just know what I'm looking for.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Stay with us _ernmini you can do this

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Because a no reply is a no thank you, it's in the rules.

Why are some men so self entitled they expect they should have a reply?

Mrs

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Yawn. There's already several threads running on this, the fab FAQs themselves state that no reply is a "no thank you".

There could be a million reasons why they haven't replied - it's not personal!

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Haha, I’m still here!! And sorry to disagree. If I can make the effort and risk sending a picture, the yes it is rude and ignorant not too reply regardless of how many you get..,, ( lucky you )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll get the defibrillator out

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Of course it’s personal !!!

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth


"If I say no thank you I usually get asked why or people just start being down right abusive. Just take it as a no and move on. I also do not have the time to reply to everyone. I'm not stuck up or rude just know what I'm looking for. "

This, I'm afraid you need to develop a thick skin and just accept it with good grace. It's unlikely to change and all you do is sound whiney

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

OP, press reply and quote. We don’t know who you’re replying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people need a thicker skin here sometimes. I have been a member here previously, with a straight profile and was lucky enough to meet 3-4 women in my time. It was tricky, I didn't get many replies, but eventually patience paid off. I don't currently get a look in, probably as I'm sooooo fucking ugly the tide wouldn't take me out, but maybe if I play the long game my time will come

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Of course it’s personal !!! "

Click reply and quote we know who your speaking to then

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

If I send an unsolicited pic then fair enough!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"OP, press reply and quote. We don’t know who you’re replying to "

Thank you. Is that better ?

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast

Too many take this site too seriously. If they don't reply, they're not interested. Block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s personal !!! "

I guess it's personal that they don't want to meet you but it's certainly not rude or stuck up because they won't meet someone they don't fancy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol "

Maybe when they've stopped laughin' ay ?

Be patient

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Wow the amount of abuse I’m getting privately !!! Lol

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"OP, press reply and quote. We don’t know who you’re replying to

Thank you. Is that better ?"

You answered me finally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow the amount of abuse I’m getting privately !!! Lol "

Then report it.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I would imagine they get a few insults thrown back with a no

Other like I think the ego trip with them tech being in charge.

I get the occasional nice reply saying no thanks and I also reply back saying no problem thanks for the reply.

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Never mentioned anything about not wanting to meet me ?!?! That’s not an issue!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never mentioned anything about not wanting to meet me ?!?! That’s not an issue!! "

You are seeing it from your side.

Women get countless abusive messages for saying no on here.

I got an abusive message the other day for deleting a message unread, and I’d never even spoken to him.

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We find if a guy actually reads our profile and uses his brain rather than another bit of his anatomy, then a decent message arrives and we politely reply, but still get asked why not me?

Sorry couples well outnumber guys so we have the lovely position of being selective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never mentioned anything about not wanting to meet me ?!?! That’s not an issue!! "

You said they don't get back to you after seeing a face photo. What is it your hoping for then?

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Abusive messages have no place here I agree with you.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

Women or male we all have good and bad

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

Maybe just a no thank you! Sorry if I expect a few manners lol even a reply saying fuck no…. Lol would be better than just nothing

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Can see where u are coming from! And I will say to peeps if I don't think we would b compatible so no ty but that itself evokes a bad reaction from some only last week when I declined I got told they only asked as they felt sorry for me being so old and that I will probably b dead by next week anyway! So praps they once bitten twice shy and decided not to reply for fear of repercussions? But yes do get your frustrations! Deffo best not to take it personally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe just a no thank you! Sorry if I expect a few manners lol even a reply saying fuck no…. Lol would be better than just nothing "

You are missing the point though there's nothing rude in not replying. It's much more rude to expect people to reply just because you've sent them a message. And who would it be better for?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol "

I understand what you mean mate, yes if you’ve been talking to people then they ghost you after seeing your face it’s slightly rude, but I guess that depends on length and content of the conversation, but take it on the chin youth it’s the world we live in now, it’s easier for people to ignore than it is to say no especially by message.

The mr

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

It’s not about a message, they ask for a picture , you take a risk sending ones …. Blah blah then nothing. Just say no thanks …. What’s the hardship?

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast


"I would imagine they get a few insults thrown back with a no

Other like I think the ego trip with them tech being in charge.

I get the occasional nice reply saying no thanks and I also reply back saying no problem thanks for the reply. "

That reply to no thanks is the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not about a message, they ask for a picture , you take a risk sending ones …. Blah blah then nothing. Just say no thanks …. What’s the hardship? "

Op - please use reply + quote

I’ve given you a reason above ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely not replying indicates a clear lack of interest in you? Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

I understand what you mean mate, yes if you’ve been talking to people then they ghost you after seeing your face it’s slightly rude, but I guess that depends on length and content of the conversation, but take it on the chin youth it’s the world we live in now, it’s easier for people to ignore than it is to say no especially by message.

The mr "

I would agree with this tbh, if you have been conversing with someone it is a bit rude xx

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Of course it’s personal !!! "

Do you rage like this if someone outside of fab doesn't fancy you? It's really not a healthy attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer a thanks but no thanks. I appreciate the gesture. But don't expect it.

As people have said here, men can get nasty when told no.

The same way they can get a bit shitty when they do t get a reply.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I have had more interaction since being on the forums

Interact with people join in have some banter.

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast


"Surely not replying indicates a clear lack of interest in you? Move on "

You'd think people would know that by now. Seems to be a couple of threads every week with guys whinging about it.

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Of course it’s personal !!!

Do you rage like this if someone outside of fab doesn't fancy you? It's really not a healthy attitude."

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

being so old probably dead next week,,, what the fuck is wrong with people vile,

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

sometimes there are too many to reply to. and sometimes.. not being horrid, but guys must be aware of their looks..?! easier to say nothing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pms thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

This is why I don't get into a conversation with anyone I can't see or am not attracted to, when I am looking for a playmate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vive le cul sec et les clavicules de genoux mouillées xx

Hope this makes no sense for those with Google translate

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Of course it’s personal !!!

Do you rage like this if someone outside of fab doesn't fancy you? It's really not a healthy attitude."

Rage???? Wow If that’s a rage then your a bit fragile

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Luckily, what women find irresistible is self-entitled whinging.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Thank you everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pms thanks "

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me this time x

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP. "

Hahah your time! Wow

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"It’s not about a message, they ask for a picture , you take a risk sending ones …. Blah blah then nothing. Just say no thanks …. What’s the hardship? "

The hardship is having the same hassle from loads of blokes at the same time asking different versions of "why not me", it's exhausting. Some guys are ok, but loads want to get in to long conversations about it and some get quite nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pms thanks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pms thanks

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me this time x"

Shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow "

Well, what do you think it is?

It absolutely is our time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I say no thank you I usually get asked why or people just start being down right abusive. Just take it as a no and move on. I also do not have the time to reply to everyone. I'm not stuck up or rude just know what I'm looking for. "

I used to get that but now I look at their profile first and if no pics or photo verie or verifications I just tend to delete the message unread as it stops them messaging me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow "

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pms thanks "
the new women's lib slogan ?

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"No pms thanks

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me this time x

Shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pms thanks

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me this time x

Shame

"

I’ll rectify the shoot with a cock shot

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Pops in with a FORUM INSURANCE claim form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pms thanks

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me this time x

Shame

I’ll rectify the shoot with a cock shot "

I’m waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pms thanks

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me this time x

Shame

I’ll rectify the shoot with a cock shot

I’m waiting "

Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

Well, what do you think it is?

It absolutely is our time "

Thank you!!

Saves me responding.

Obviously OP doesn’t realise how much single women and couples on here get hounded by single men.

My profile states that I’m not meeting, but I STILL get constant messages with people attempting to change my mind or charm their way into my pants. I’m sorry but I don’t owe each of them a polite “no thank you” anymore than I would owe someone that I didn’t swipe on a dating app an explanation of why I didn’t choose them.

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By *akeanyoneMan
over a year ago

LH

I don't message anyone, so I don't have this problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol "

So you'd rather people outright tell you there's no attraction? Will you stay polite after many rejections, or be abusive?

I'm guessing the first few rejections will be fine, but then you'll get annoyed and be nasty

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"being so old probably dead next week,,, what the fuck is wrong with people vile,"

I find it amusing tbh I never take anything personal here! And he's probably not far of ! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not rude, or ignorant and it definitely isn't ghosting.

I exchange a few messages with a guy then for whatever reason realise he's not for me. He's a complete stranger online that I know nothing about, one I'll unlikely ever meet and they are only messaging me to get in my knickers.

Perspective.

Does it really matter if they don't reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you. "

Lorna, have I told you I love you lately?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Vive le cul sec et les clavicules de genoux mouillées xx

Hope this makes no sense for those with Google translate "

You can stick your wet knees up your dry ass.......

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you. "

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

Well, what do you think it is?

It absolutely is our time

Thank you!!

Saves me responding.

Obviously OP doesn’t realise how much single women and couples on here get hounded by single men.

My profile states that I’m not meeting, but I STILL get constant messages with people attempting to change my mind or charm their way into my pants. I’m sorry but I don’t owe each of them a polite “no thank you” anymore than I would owe someone that I didn’t swipe on a dating app an explanation of why I didn’t choose them. "

Exactly, as I said, men tend to see things from their perspective.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow "

I think this response coupled with suggesting people who dont reply are ignorant and up themselves speaks volumes and may be a clue why they don't reply

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

So you'd rather people outright tell you there's no attraction? Will you stay polite after many rejections, or be abusive?

I'm guessing the first few rejections will be fine, but then you'll get annoyed and be nasty"

Yes lol I would

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow "

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vive le cul sec et les clavicules de genoux mouillées xx

Hope this makes no sense for those with Google translate

You can stick your wet knees up your dry ass....... "

I love you Granny

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?"

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ??

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

People’s manners go straight out of the window the minute they log onto a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? "

Ok, then times that by 100, 500, 1000.

Then add in the reply to your reply….

I use fab for my enjoyment, not to be a ‘good girl’ and please the menz (unless I choose to )

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"No pms thanks "

First time on here. Didn’t realise there was this feature….. believe me enough have pointed it out now!!!!

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

To be fair to you, if you’re chatting in anyway to the point they’re asking for a pic then yes I agree it’s rude. People do get inundated with messages and those I’m not interested in I ignore, even then you get the constant, “ I take it that means no” or “guess I’m not your type” and so on. But if I’ve started to chat with someone I’d also feel they were being rude if suddenly they ignored me.

I don’t think he is demanding replies off everyone. Just frustrated at someone he’s chatting to who then doesn’t have the balls to be honest with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? "
how would you feel of they thanks but no thanks ... And then blocked ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like being impolite, so It's better not to say anything.

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"To be fair to you, if you’re chatting in anyway to the point they’re asking for a pic then yes I agree it’s rude. People do get inundated with messages and those I’m not interested in I ignore, even then you get the constant, “ I take it that means no” or “guess I’m not your type” and so on. But if I’ve started to chat with someone I’d also feel they were being rude if suddenly they ignored me.

I don’t think he is demanding replies off everyone. Just frustrated at someone he’s chatting to who then doesn’t have the balls to be honest with him"

Thank you… that’s all I was saying….

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"

A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? "

OP.. why should they reply? Nobody owes you anything here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? "

Do you expect an explanation for every woman who doesn’t swipe you on a dating app?

If you wouldn’t there, then apply the same attitude here.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Of course it’s personal !!!

Do you rage like this if someone outside of fab doesn't fancy you? It's really not a healthy attitude.

Rage???? Wow If that’s a rage then your a bit fragile "

Fragile is throwing your toys out of the pram because people don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Lorna, have I told you I love you lately? "

No! You can tell me now though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never chase anyone here . Ever..no matter who they are..if they're interested in replying at any time they will ..if they're not they won't..you can send all the messages you want to different people but if they're not interested ..they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair to you, if you’re chatting in anyway to the point they’re asking for a pic then yes I agree it’s rude. People do get inundated with messages and those I’m not interested in I ignore, even then you get the constant, “ I take it that means no” or “guess I’m not your type” and so on. But if I’ve started to chat with someone I’d also feel they were being rude if suddenly they ignored me.

I don’t think he is demanding replies off everyone. Just frustrated at someone he’s chatting to who then doesn’t have the balls to be honest with him"

And in an ideal world I’d agree, but a lot of people find it hard to do that, or they’ve had abuse on the past and it’s put them off, or a plethora of other reasons, which are completely valid to them.

It’s never a simple as it seems.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? how would you feel of they thanks but no thanks ... And then blocked ?"

Not a problem…. Move on

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? "

Si what will that thanks but no thanks achieve?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ??

Ok, then times that by 100, 500, 1000.

Then add in the reply to your reply….

I use fab for my enjoyment, not to be a ‘good girl’ and please the menz (unless I choose to )"

This exactly my unread inbox is currently 1280 can be a lot higher x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair to you, if you’re chatting in anyway to the point they’re asking for a pic then yes I agree it’s rude. People do get inundated with messages and those I’m not interested in I ignore, even then you get the constant, “ I take it that means no” or “guess I’m not your type” and so on. But if I’ve started to chat with someone I’d also feel they were being rude if suddenly they ignored me.

I don’t think he is demanding replies off everyone. Just frustrated at someone he’s chatting to who then doesn’t have the balls to be honest with him"

I think calling people up themselves and rude is rather unpleasant simply because he didn't get what he wanted.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol "

We've never forgotten the time we politely declined an offer to meet and seconds later we got a threatening message stating he would find us and slit our throats.

It really does put you off of replying!

OP, if it's the 'usual story' for you, perhaps you need to change your approach. Good luck

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol "

As i keep telling men in here, stop being the first to send the face pic. Just stop doing it

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here"

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it???

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

As i keep telling men in here, stop being the first to send the face pic. Just stop doing it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread keeps on giving

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it??? "

I don’t have the issue my face pics already there lol

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it??? "

OP..it's really not worth getting workup about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Lorna, have I told you I love you lately?

No! You can tell me now though "

Love youuu

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

We've never forgotten the time we politely declined an offer to meet and seconds later we got a threatening message stating he would find us and slit our throats.

It really does put you off of replying!

OP, if it's the 'usual story' for you, perhaps you need to change your approach. Good luck "

But you might have got the same response from that warped guy with ‘ a no response’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread keeps on giving "

It hasn't given me anything I haven't had any boobies in my inbox!

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Go to an organised social

Go to an organised social

Saves years of fruitless messaging ...my first social a kind lady invited me back to hers (I had not booked any accomodation ) and within a year I had dozens of verris ...

Simples

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it???

OP..it's really not worth getting workup about. "

I was…. Now I’m not lol…. But wasn’t prepared for the barrage of messages !!!

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"This thread keeps on giving

It hasn't given me anything I haven't had any boobies in my inbox! "

Do you want boobies??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Lorna, have I told you I love you lately?

No! You can tell me now though

Love youuu "

To totally lovely and unexpected compliment. Right back at ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread keeps on giving

It hasn't given me anything I haven't had any boobies in my inbox! "

Challenge accepted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? how would you feel of they thanks but no thanks ... And then blocked ?

Not a problem…. Move on "
take the same approach with no messages. You can't control how people behave. They don't have to live up to your expectations. The only one losing out here is you, as they are affecting your state of mind.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"

First time on here. "

Oh it's going really well. Generalisations, name calling, tantrums... its like you've been here for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread keeps on giving

It hasn't given me anything I haven't had any boobies in my inbox!

Do you want boobies?? "

Well if any lovely ladies are offering

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it???

OP..it's really not worth getting workup about.

I was…. Now I’m not lol…. But wasn’t prepared for the barrage of messages !!! "

The barrage is probably due to previous experiences of those who replied.

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ?? "

Maybe Fab just needs a “‘Thanks, but no thanks’ and Block” button, or some kind of message expiry option whereby non-replied messages get a similar “no thanks” reply after a set period of time. That way, the sender gets some form of closure, automatically or otherwise

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By *bo7118Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Enters thread. Looks around. Backs away slowly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread keeps on giving

It hasn't given me anything I haven't had any boobies in my inbox! "

Yes, you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread keeps on giving

It hasn't given me anything I haven't had any boobies in my inbox!

Yes, you have "

Beautiful as always.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"

First time on here.

Oh it's going really well. Generalisations, name calling, tantrums... its like you've been here for years."

Can generalise because it’s generally the case…. I did say most, which means not all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it???

OP..it's really not worth getting workup about.

I was…. Now I’m not lol…. But wasn’t prepared for the barrage of messages !!! "
You want messages... And now you don't. Men eh?

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

If I get a message that’s decent well thought out with a picture I would say no thanks. A one word message or a dick picture would be instant delete

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol "

Haha read the faqs. It literally says this is not being rude and to take it as a not interested. Which is what you should do and not throw your toys out the pram. This isn't a good look and is not helping you in any way. You are not entitled to anything including a reply. It has nothing to do with manners.

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Because we get abuse or hounded for a reason why if we say no thank you.

You’re not entitled to our time OP.

Hahah your time! Wow

The fact you have just said wow to that goes to show what the issue is here and it's not the people not replying to you.

Im not Entitled to your time!! I never asked for her

time!!! It’s the pretentious statement like that your defending…. Wow

You are demanding that every woman or couple on here thstvstent interested give you sone of their time to reply?

Why make it sound like I want a stake in their lives…. A thanks but no thanks message takes 3 seconds?? I really don’t get some of you lot ??

Maybe Fab just needs a “‘Thanks, but no thanks’ and Block” button, or some kind of message expiry option whereby non-replied messages get a similar “no thanks” reply after a set period of time. That way, the sender gets some form of closure, automatically or otherwise "
.

Haha yea

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"This thread keeps on giving

It hasn't given me anything I haven't had any boobies in my inbox!

Do you want boobies??

Well if any lovely ladies are offering "

Sent

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

Haha read the faqs. It literally says this is not being rude and to take it as a not interested. Which is what you should do and not throw your toys out the pram. This isn't a good look and is not helping you in any way. You are not entitled to anything including a reply. It has nothing to do with manners. "

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude. "

That is also a no thankyou. Take it as a not for them. Move on.

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

Haha read the faqs. It literally says this is not being rude and to take it as a not interested. Which is what you should do and not throw your toys out the pram. This isn't a good look and is not helping you in any way. You are not entitled to anything including a reply. It has nothing to do with manners. "

Disagree but your entitled to your opinion as am I

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"If I get a message that’s decent well thought out with a picture I would say no thanks. A one word message or a dick picture would be instant delete "

As I said we were in a conversation for a few hours

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

That is also a no thankyou. Take it as a not for them. Move on.

"

Nobody is disputing that.

The issue is whether its rude or not. I tend to think it is.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Why can't the majority of guys (in our experience) read or take rejection on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it??? "

Ask for a face pic first , the person you are talking to may not be your physical type and you'll know then ,who knows maybe if you saw them in real life you may not even give them a second glance but because they're here they might have you all worked up, if you send one first it's giving them the opportunity to knock you out of the water..so don't send one first ... ask for one

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Why can't the majority of guys (in our experience) read or take rejection on here?"

Because they think women and couples should be queuing up to meet them

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Why can't the majority of guys (in our experience) read or take rejection on here?"

I can take rejection…. Just actually asking for a rejection… lol

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude. "

Yes I think we get what he's saying! But as others have said it's sometimes the abuse that follows a thanks but no thanks that maybe puts them of replying at all! And yes can see how that's deemed as rude! But it is what it is! When alls said at end of the day! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simples!

They are in HIGH demand.

Most other single men in the forum have also messaged them. Plus the 1000s of single men that aren't in forums.

They don't have the time, or any duty, to engage in casual conversation especially if they don't find you attractive in any way.

Put yourself in their shoes. Wake up, make a coffee, hop on fab - would you really reply to what I imagine is at least 50 new messages every day from people who don't catch your eye?

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Why can't the majority of guys (in our experience) read or take rejection on here?

Because they think women and couples should be queuing up to meet them "

Wow totally missing the point of the thread, but I hear that quite common in here !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I say no thank you I usually get asked why or people just start being down right abusive. Just take it as a no and move on. I also do not have the time to reply to everyone. I'm not stuck up or rude just know what I'm looking for. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read the FAQs OP take a no reply as not interested.

If they messaged you back; no thank you, then it opened up potential abuse from those that can’t take rejection.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Of course it’s personal !!!

Do you rage like this if someone outside of fab doesn't fancy you? It's really not a healthy attitude.

Rage???? Wow If that’s a rage then your a bit fragile "

Perfect example of what happens when you send a polite no thank you.

Well played.

Winston

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Simples!

They are in HIGH demand.

Most other single men in the forum have also messaged them. Plus the 1000s of single men that aren't in forums.

They don't have the time, or any duty, to engage in casual conversation especially if they don't find you attractive in any way.

Put yourself in their shoes. Wake up, make a coffee, hop on fab - would you really reply to what I imagine is at least 50 new messages every day from people who don't catch your eye?"

Nope but if I engaged in a conversation with a person over the course of a few hours…. Yeah I’d say thanks but no thanks

But hey that’s just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usual story, start a conversation, they ask for a photo, depending on the profile verifications etc…. Maybe send one, then nothing. Just find is so ignorant and downright rude. Why? Just say no thank you !!!!

(I’m not too ugly) lol

So you'd rather people outright tell you there's no attraction? Will you stay polite after many rejections, or be abusive?

I'm guessing the first few rejections will be fine, but then you'll get annoyed and be nasty

Yes lol I would "

Perhaps the people you speak of had a sixth sense you’d be like this, OP

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

If you’ve been messaging, and they go quiet then they aren’t worth worrying about. Least they won’t waste your time any further, or you waste theirs.

Whether it’s one message or a few if someone goes quiet then fine. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simples!

They are in HIGH demand.

Most other single men in the forum have also messaged them. Plus the 1000s of single men that aren't in forums.

They don't have the time, or any duty, to engage in casual conversation especially if they don't find you attractive in any way.

Put yourself in their shoes. Wake up, make a coffee, hop on fab - would you really reply to what I imagine is at least 50 new messages every day from people who don't catch your eye?"

Exactly right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

simply move on, since maybe myriad reasons...!

some maybe frigid, some just on here to waste time, some look at this site as a members club for idle chit-chat & not keen on action, some in search of their soul mate, some are simply fed up of being pestered, only a few genuine peeps who are keen to have fun...!

best to move on and think nothing more of it...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why can't the majority of guys (in our experience) read or take rejection on here?

I can take rejection…. Just actually asking for a rejection… lol "

Well you are getting it with no replies…

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I agree with the op..I've chatted with people , they have said let's swop pics . I send and get nothing back ...not decent behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude. "

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Simples!

They are in HIGH demand.

Most other single men in the forum have also messaged them. Plus the 1000s of single men that aren't in forums.

They don't have the time, or any duty, to engage in casual conversation especially if they don't find you attractive in any way.

Put yourself in their shoes. Wake up, make a coffee, hop on fab - would you really reply to what I imagine is at least 50 new messages every day from people who don't catch your eye?"

Nobody is talking about new messages. Hes already beennin conversation with the person for hours

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By *erfectly.imperfectWoman
over a year ago

everywhere


"Of course it’s personal !!!

Do you rage like this if someone outside of fab doesn't fancy you? It's really not a healthy

attitude."

Exactly, I think it's maybe more than his face pic they are put off by. OP you're coming across as quite pushy

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"It’s not about a message, they ask for a picture , you take a risk sending ones …. Blah blah then nothing. Just say no thanks …. What’s the hardship? "

Have you considered that they may know you outside of fab?

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth. "

Absolutely right. I can see it now…”no thanks, not for us”

“What’s wrong with me/I’m ugly/lol why?/etc”

No one wants that confrontation, as rejection often offends.

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth. "

Well done you, maybe your adding to making men the way some men can be on here… just saying

It’s nice to be nice

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth. "

Nobody is asking you to apologise.

However people are entitled to deem that to be quite rude

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"No pimms thanks "

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...And what's wrong with Pimm's™?

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"It’s not about a message, they ask for a picture , you take a risk sending ones …. Blah blah then nothing. Just say no thanks …. What’s the hardship?

Have you considered that they may know you outside of fab?"

Got me thinking now lol

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Most women? Most?

This is a spoof post, right? Or just trolling?

Tom, is that you?

Ironically, you'll probably be getting ignored after this thread anyway! (And you call women the "rude" ones. Lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth.

Well done you, maybe your adding to making men the way some men can be on here… just saying

It’s nice to be nice "

She is being nice….. to herself!

Nice bit of victim blaming too

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"I agree with the op..I've chatted with people , they have said let's swop pics . I send and get nothing back ...not decent behaviour "

That happens to couples too though, it's a bit of a jump to go straight to "they are ignorant and up themselves"... they just obviously didn't like what they saw.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth.

Absolutely right. I can see it now…”no thanks, not for us”

“What’s wrong with me/I’m ugly/lol why?/etc”

No one wants that confrontation, as rejection often offends. "

And it always will until some people understand that lack of attraction doesn't mean they aren't good looking!

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it???

OP..it's really not worth getting workup about.

I was…. Now I’m not lol…. But wasn’t prepared for the barrage of messages !!! "

I hope you replied to them all.

Winston

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth.

Well done you, maybe your adding to making men the way some men can be on here… just saying

It’s nice to be nice

She is being nice….. to herself!

Nice bit of victim blaming too "

Victim blaming????? Eh I missed that one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth.

Well done you, maybe your adding to making men the way some men can be on here… just saying

It’s nice to be nice "

“Making men the way some men can be on here.”

That sounds suspiciously familiar to an abusive man telling his wife it’s her fault he smacked her.

Maybe you should consider your victim blaming attitude. Just saying

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Do you reply to all the spam and junk email you get all the cold mail drops?

With a no thanks

Nah do you bollox

Why should people have to on here

Because we were having a conversation, you know, messaging back and forth over a few hours, they ask for a picture…. I send one, then nothing… that’s the rude part. Not really the same as junk mail is it???

OP..it's really not worth getting workup about.

I was…. Now I’m not lol…. But wasn’t prepared for the barrage of messages !!!

I hope you replied to them all.

Winston "

Absolutely, they all got a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just seen OP has several verifications on here.

So it's clearly not like he's not getting anywhere. Maybe he's had a bad few messages that haven't found his face attractive and that's why he's upset but that makes it worse.

You can't expect everyone to find you attractive and faces are important in that. Just rules of attraction. But he's met up with a few women so just enjoy that and don't get over confident enough to expect every woman/couple to like what they see

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth.

Well done you, maybe your adding to making men the way some men can be on here… just saying

It’s nice to be nice

“Making men the way some men can be on here.”

That sounds suspiciously familiar to an abusive man telling his wife it’s her fault he smacked her.

Maybe you should consider your victim blaming attitude. Just saying "

Hahahhahahah wow that escalated quickly… geez you crack me up

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"Simples!

They are in HIGH demand.

Most other single men in the forum have also messaged them. Plus the 1000s of single men that aren't in forums.

They don't have the time, or any duty, to engage in casual conversation especially if they don't find you attractive in any way.

Put yourself in their shoes. Wake up, make a coffee, hop on fab - would you really reply to what I imagine is at least 50 new messages every day from people who don't catch your eye?

Nope but if I engaged in a conversation with a person over the course of a few hours…. Yeah I’d say thanks but no thanks

But hey that’s just me"

OP, any profile that shows something you're not compatible with, is doing your filtering for you. If you think not replying is rude, and someone doesn't reply, you're obviously not compatible. They've done you a solid and you can block and move on, probably saving a load more messages before you find out you're not suited.

You should be glad you've got an extra working filter!

The forums work the same way, some will have blocked you because of your comments on here, some will agree and hotlist you. People have got different preferences....

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Comes in and offers some jelly babies around before the thread hits 176

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Just seen OP has several verifications on here.

So it's clearly not like he's not getting anywhere. Maybe he's had a bad few messages that haven't found his face attractive and that's why he's upset but that makes it worse.

You can't expect everyone to find you attractive and faces are important in that. Just rules of attraction. But he's met up with a few women so just enjoy that and don't get over confident enough to expect every woman/couple to like what they see

"

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Just seen OP has several verifications on here.

So it's clearly not like he's not getting anywhere. Maybe he's had a bad few messages that haven't found his face attractive and that's why he's upset but that makes it worse.

You can't expect everyone to find you attractive and faces are important in that. Just rules of attraction. But he's met up with a few women so just enjoy that and don't get over confident enough to expect every woman/couple to like what they see

"

I’m really not… and I really don’t

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"People dont appear to be understanding what the OP is saying here.

Hes not banging on about messaging and getting no replies. Hes complaining about the situation where a conversation is already happening, and then he sends a face pic to which he then gets no further reply.

I think any polite person would deem that to be rude.

No, we’re understanding him fine.

You’ve just been chatting and only just got to the point of sharing a face pic. If a woman or couple then decide, for whatever reason, that they aren’t into you, then they are entitled to stop talking. End of story.

If someone ghosted you just before a meet, or after a month of talking then sure, I could understand that as feeling disrespectful.

Given how abusive the men on here can get when they get rejected, I personally will never apologise for just deleting the conversation if i decide someone isn’t for me after a few messages back and forth.

Well done you, maybe your adding to making men the way some men can be on here… just saying

It’s nice to be nice

“Making men the way some men can be on here.”

That sounds suspiciously familiar to an abusive man telling his wife it’s her fault he smacked her.

Maybe you should consider your victim blaming attitude. Just saying

Hahahhahahah wow that escalated quickly… geez you crack me up "

Some people always want to be seen as a victim dont they

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By *ernmini OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"Comes in and offers some jelly babies around before the thread hits 176 "

Doing well isn’t it.. beyond my wildest expectations !!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Haha, I’m still here!! And sorry to disagree. If I can make the effort and risk sending a picture, the yes it is rude and ignorant not too reply regardless of how many you get..,, ( lucky you ) "

Maybe check the Fab rules. A no reply is taken as a no round here. It's literally right there in the rules.

You can make as much effort as you want sending a message. That doesn't mean anyone is obliged to make any effort at all in replying. If someone I don't know rings my phone, it is not rude or ignorant not to answer. If a stranger shouts "oi!" at me in the street, I am not required to stop and have a conversation with them. If you knock on my door and I am busy with someothing else, I am not obliged to open the door. Etc. etc.

In summary, it's in the rules. And it's not rude even if it wasn't.

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

If you send a picture without being asked then that’s on you.

If you’re asked and get no response then that is rude.

My opinion only

Mrs m

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're ok OP, we all face it but we just have to accept that it's not worth it for them to spend time saying what would effectively be 'we don't find you handsome enough' in whatever words and face whatever feedback they may get from that

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

The seagulls follow the trawler because they think that sardines will be thrown into the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh lawd oh lawd. Lots going on here, it's like people are hearing you OP but nobody is listening....Let's shout you down by shouting louder.

I can understand why you would think it rude, I would too tbf especially as you'd already been chatting. Manners cost absolutely nothing.

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