FabSwingers.com forum: Sending g a message to a profile is pointless

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

…. There’s nothing to go off.

Fill in later - I’m still waiting after 6 months of you being in my hotlist.

And then there’s your profile which is completely the opposite and are filled with rules and regulations and answering questions before we speak. You sound like you’d whine about life to me if we’d meet.

Not to mention the puzzling ‘special password’ in the thread title.- So you want unique…. But we all have to have the same message title?

But these are just 3 profiles I’m singling out of course.

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

"she" is waiting for you to buy her premium snapchat... Or sign up to onlyfans of something else entirely for her benefit and your detriment.

Only one thing to do. Block, move on. Sorry!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

And they're the ones you scroll on by.

Pointless messaging them? Absolutely.

So don't.

Simples.

No matter how hot they look and how full your balls are if it's too much like hard work there'll always be another profile that doesn't give you headaches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and the ones that log in once, create a profile suggesting that they are actively looking, yet haven't logged in again for the last 3 or so months.

And those that join in the morning and have a dozen or so verifications and 20 + friends by mid day.....

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

And those that join in the morning and have a dozen or so verifications and 20 + friends by mid day....."

Ah. But there's two types of those profiles.

Those that are obvious fakes and those that have deleted their old profile (often multiple times) and returned (or already have the new one ready and waiting) because they like the drama and attention, or something has happened in the forums/on site and they think a shiny new profile will make people forget.

Both happen a lot. You can tell the returning members by who verifies them, if they publicly show them. The clever ones don't.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

How about the ones that say "tell me what you'd do to me" and then complain about graphic messages...

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over a year ago

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Block and report them OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about the ones that say "tell me what you'd do to me" and then complain about graphic messages..."

LOL

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Block and report them OP "

Don’t forget to move on.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"How about the ones that say "tell me what you'd do to me" and then complain about graphic messages..."

Disclaimer. I dont send graphic messages, the complaints are on statuses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about the ones that say "tell me what you'd do to me" and then complain about graphic messages...

Disclaimer. I dont send graphic messages, the complaints are on statuses! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaging is pointless, talking is pointless.

Let's just all get naked and have a silent orgy.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"How about the ones that say "tell me what you'd do to me" and then complain about graphic messages..."

They didn’t like ‘ Ignore you!’ As a message i must admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"…. There’s nothing to go off.

Fill in later - I’m still waiting after 6 months of you being in my hotlist.

Not to mention the puzzling ‘special password’ in the thread title.- So you want unique…. But we all have to have the same message title?

But these are just 3 profiles I’m singling out of course.

There is nothing wrong with people having rules and regulations, not with them asking questions. Surely that is what chat is for? To ask questions and see if you want to meet the person by looking at thier answers?

As for rules, it's not a free for all where you can do anything you like.

As for the mentioning of a password, that is so they know the messenger has read their profile.

The people with the above mentioned probably have plenty of mail and are not worried at all that person's like yourself think they are not worthy of messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above and Saw one recently that said age range 37-37.

Very niche.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything with that Sydney University/Facebook disclaimer is a red flag (especially when the text is longer than their actual profile description)

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Why on earth are you messaging profiles that you aren't going to want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a subject word.

I’ll know if they’ve read my profile or not.

I figure most give up 2/3 lines in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"….

The people with the above mentioned probably have plenty of mail and are not worried at all that person's like yourself think they are not worthy of messaging.

100% correct

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Those who talk of meeting yet weeks later still nothing, attempts to set a date results in excuses galore. Messages read yet ignored even though we're 'friends'. Looking ideal then they leave site without a goodbye

. Face pics sent, no reply. 'Great interest' then they dont log back in for weeks and forget us. The ol' "were free now if you fancy coming round" yet almost two hours drive away in the middle of the night, then nothing when trying to set a date. Plus the incredibly rude folk trying to meet Cherry on her own (one couple tried twice)

. What's happened to this site ?

Yes we often think of leaving. Yes we tried a club but found much reduced numbers (compared to pre-covid) and dirty old men walking past Cherry while adjusting their towels. One gorgeous couple did sit with us for the evening but just there to socialise so no play...

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Those that say thanks for getting them on the hot list so you know your message will be one of a thousand!

‘Captivate me’ or something similar when the profile gives you nothing to go on!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm perfectly happy for people to state their preferences on their own profile because it will have zero effect on my journey.

I don't send first contact messages and haven't done in almost 3 years and I don't use the search facility so I'm not missing out on anything that way.

It's when those profiles with particular preferences send introductory messages telling me I must shave off my beard, stop pretending to be straight and play bi or remember I'm old and male and therefore don't have options that those preferences become demands and instructions and don't deserve my respect.

Messages from couples who have it written in capital letters that they DON'T MEET SINGLE MEN UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES telling me to meet them the next day but don't try kissing the missus as she's only interested in my cock or telling me that my profile is a facade and they know I don't believe a word of it are just as disrespectful as anything a single man could send.

Imagine the furore if I was to message a random profile and tell them I didn't do blondes so she needed to change that before I'd put her on my to do list or that the missus needed to trim her pubes and I might consider shagging her as long as she didn't try kissing me because I'm only interested in her pussy.

Attitude and choice of language makes a hell of a difference regardless of who is sending the message.

Telling someone it's their loss for not agreeing to something they had no interest in in the first place just shows a level of entitlement that will only attract people of similar entitlement.

Not all messages are written by penises and not all dicks are male.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"…. There’s nothing to go off.

Fill in later - I’m still waiting after 6 months of you being in my hotlist.

Not to mention the puzzling ‘special password’ in the thread title.- So you want unique…. But we all have to have the same message title?

But these are just 3 profiles I’m singling out of course.

As for rules, it's not a free for all where you can do anything you like.

As for the mentioning of a password, that is so they know the messenger has read their profile.

The people with the above mentioned probably have plenty of mail and are not worried at all that person's like yourself think they are not worthy of messaging.

….. okay. ……

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Messaging is pointless, talking is pointless.

Let's just all get naked and have a silent orgy."

Sounds hot…….wait…..

Sounds Silent??? I’m in.

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