FabSwingers.com forum: Why do people read messages and never reply

By *ack19300 OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

No reply is a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Another woe is me thread!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Depends on the quantity of messages and what's in it tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Read the seventy squillion other threads asking this question. No one is under any obligation to reply to anyone else.

Do you ring up every company that sends you junk mail to say ‘no thanks’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Read between the line, probably they are not interested or too busy to reply, if they dont have time to reply, most probably they wont have time for meet too.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Take it as a not interested, not my type, no thanks, or whatever

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

No thanks.

No.

Niet

Nada

Nein..

Non

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if a message has been read and not replied to it's safe to assume that is a 'no thanks '.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

It's my kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

Read the seventy squillion other threads asking this question. No one is under any obligation to reply to anyone else.

Do you ring up every company that sends you junk mail to say ‘no thanks’?"

Mr Custard are you suggesting I send junk mail?

I am not guilty of mass mail shots with a generic narrative! Well not now.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Yes it is too much trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

No thanks.

No.

Niet

Nada

Nein..

Non

Ah I see you’re multi cunnilingal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly what everyone else says

I do get your frustration, but it’s just how it is. Suck it up and get on with it

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

If your messages are as uninspired as your profile…

I delete messages when I’m not interested. I get loads during the day. It’s tiresome to reply to all of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the quantity of messages and what's in it tbf"

So my wuu2 message was not replied to?

Gutted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause quite simply we dont want to and we dont have to

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Delete your sent messages then you won't be bothered about if they are read or not.

And even though I don't get many messages I gave up answering them all a long time ago. Because I can't be bothered opening lines of communication with them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

No thanks.

No.

Niet

Nada

Nein..

Non

Ah I see you’re multi cunnilingal?"

Tricolour long flat pasta ?

Maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it can be frustrating, but take into consideration that some people...usually women or couples..can get anything from 50 to a 100 messages a day!!!

Then remember some of them have been on here for quite a few years

And as others have said, it also depends on the context of the message.

As a single male, the odds are stacked against you.

Its a fair assumption to say that single guys probably outnumber women by about 50-1.

Its a buyers market, so to speak.

Just keep going. Dont give up.

Make an effort. Try to be original. Be polite and respectful.

Read peoples profiles and requirements.

Dont be pushy.

And take no reply as a 'thanks but no thanks'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

No thanks.

No.

Niet

Nada

Nein..

Non

Ah I see you’re multi cunnilingal?

Tricolour long flat pasta ?

Maybe"

That’s a beef lasagne?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

No thanks.

No.

Niet

Nada

Nein..

Non

Ah I see you’re multi cunnilingal?

Tricolour long flat pasta ?

Maybe

That’s a beef lasagne?"

Nope ......... linguini

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it can be frustrating, but take into consideration that some people...usually women or couples..can get anything from 50 to a 100 messages a day!!!

Then remember some of them have been on here for quite a few years

And as others have said, it also depends on the context of the message.

As a single male, the odds are stacked against you.

Its a fair assumption to say that single guys probably outnumber women by about 50-1.

Its a buyers market, so to speak.

Just keep going. Dont give up.

Make an effort. Try to be original. Be polite and respectful.

Read peoples profiles and requirements.

Dont be pushy.

And take no reply as a 'thanks but no thanks'"

I think you will find it’s 1000/1

As for it being a market place ...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

No thanks.

No.

Niet

Nada

Nein..

Non

Ah I see you’re multi cunnilingal?

Tricolour long flat pasta ?

Maybe

That’s a beef lasagne?

Nope ......... linguini "

Did giggle at that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you get in touch with every takeaway that sticks one of their menus through your door to tell them that you're not interested in their services?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually for me it's because it's a shite start like " can I piss on you or do you want to swallow my big load " does nothing for me

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

We don't get very many messages. Less than 30 in total since setting up this profile.

We normally reply to every message even just to say thanks but no thanks or to draw their attention to where it says we are unable to meet at the moment.

If we don't reply to a message it's because it's from someone who clearly hasn't taken the time to read a single word of the profile.

An example being a one line message from a single male account telling us to get in touch if we were ever in their area which happens to be at the opposite end of the country and accompanied by a few pics of a couple.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No reply is a reply, it's a no thank you.

We do tend to reply to messages but can sometimes get bombarded with more because we've said no, especially single males when it's clear we don't meet men.

Mrs

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Because people are idiots if you reply saying no thanks they massage back so just delete.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

We reply to the profiles and messages that show effort. We don’t bother otherwise

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

We reply to the profiles and messages that show effort. We don’t bother otherwise"

I am the same. My profile even says "I only reply to messages which interest me"

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Why do people post these posts

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

We reply to the profiles and messages that show effort. We don’t bother otherwise"

I think this is true for most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a polite no.

I’m waiting for that chic who’s an ignorant fucker that send me a message with a ‘yes Woody, I want you in my bed ASAP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have jobs and lives. They shouldn't be expected to come home, make dinner, and say no thank you to the 100s of messages they got in the day, assuming you're messaging fun/hot women and couples.

Just move on!

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Why do the OP’s never reply to comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply is a reply, it's a no thank you.

We do tend to reply to messages but can sometimes get bombarded with more because we've said no, especially single males when it's clear we don't meet men.

Mrs "

Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could search the forums and find 50 of these threads all with the same answer

Women get 100s of messages to reply to every message they'd need to have a full time assistant, which is why the FAQs suggest that no reply means not interested

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why do the OP’s never reply to comments

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do the OP’s never reply to comments

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Here we go again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to reply always to pilot messages but,

Hi guys wanna meet now?

Sorry but it’s a no for us.

Why?

Because (insert reason)

I’ll change / you’re wrong

It’s still no sorry

You’re a frigid time wasting arsehole! (Or worse)

See?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we are a couple, we like to be addressed as a couple if someone is messaging.

Not just ‘love to fuck your Mrs’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picture the scene (especially if a new photo has gone up)...

Woman logs into fab after a day at work, sees there is 150/300 messages in her in box, sees the calibre of messages and then decides on which ones she wants to reply too, is she going to reply to the "hi" or "how's you" messages? No, is she going to reply to messages that clearly habent read her profile? No.

In short, we get a ton of messages and while it would be nice to respond to all, the simple fact is, we don't have too, says in the FAQs take it as a "no" and move on.

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By *klifeCouple
over a year ago

reading

No one owes you anything … no response is a response

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"As we are a couple, we like to be addressed as a couple if someone is messaging.

Not just ‘love to fuck your Mrs’ "

This is a huge pet hate of mine, we once had a man assuming he was talking to me (Mrs) it was the Mr, think it ruined his wank when he realised

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Some messages can be worth replying to, but also consider that any interaction means their filters can be bypassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

No reply is a reply.

This !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a huge pet hate of mine, we once had a man assuming he was talking to me (Mrs) it was the Mr, think it ruined his wank when he realised

Ha ha, yeah had a few of them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one owes you anything … no response is a response "

Absolutely! So when are you giving me head? JOKING

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do the OP’s never reply to comments

He is probably thinking.............I was only asking?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We check profiles first, if we see any red flags we delete the message unread, if we don't we might read the message but if it becomes clear the person hasn't read our profile we don't bother replying.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Because there is nothing in it for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

No reply is a reply.

just get over it and move on. no point crying over spilt milk

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By *tevesue2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We get lots of "hey how are you" type of messages which we largely egnore. If men take the time to compose a decent message, we look at their profile and if we think we won't click we send a short "thanks, but no thanks" reply. About 50% of the time, they come straight back with a "oh please why" sort of thing which can then lead to some unplesantness. They think as we've replied once there is hope. For example 1 guy send us 12 messages after we had said a polite "sorry your profile is all wrong for us" we had to block him, not something we like to do.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's a difficult one ultimately. Men on here are expected to do all the running, which is probably a big part of why women have so many messages, making it hard to reply to all, even with the best will in the world. As others have said there have been many, MANY threads in the forums discussing this over the years. Even raising the subject will result in bringing out a combination of realistic and reasonable responses, but will also open you up to pompous, entitled types who will (without knowing a thing about you) think they're being superior and clever by using it as a stick to beat you with, particularly the forum 'royalty' and people with inflated egos. You'll also get other male 'chancers' who regularly use it as an opportunity to show their own self-imposed 'superiority', attempting to impress women in doing so.

Bottom line is this kind of post rarely ends well as it immediately triggers accusations of being 'whiny' as its one of the most common complaints on Fab and can in itself easily come across in isolation as entitled to some. With the best will in the world AND the greatest of effort the odds are against you. Women will sometimes get a hundred messages a day. On a consistent basis that makes it impractical to respond to all. It's easy to take it to heart when you get silence coming back in your direction, but there IS a solution. Stop wasting your time sending messages, which will stop the negative feelings when you get that silence in return, but use the forums to check out socials and club events that suit your preferences. Go along and expect nothing more than a great social evening and take a few visits to allow people to get to know YOU as an individual. You may not get chance to play, but don't give up and enjoy the vibe. Be friendly, but not pushy and things will just tend to happen. I'm a VERY ordinary single guy, but I'm now pretty successful simply because people know who I am and how I behave. Just be conversational and patient. All the guys who regularly go to the same events I do are the same. Just stop messaging on here for the most part and only send out the odd one or two messages hete and there, where the person really stands out for you, then deleteit your end and forget you ever sent it. Be a high value guy and not look at it as a case of sending out loads of messages in the hope that someone will say yes based on 'averages'.

Good luck!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes deffo if I've opened a message I give a reply of some kind otherwise I feel rude! Most of them I leave unopened x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no obligation to respond. Take it as not interested.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"As we are a couple, we like to be addressed as a couple if someone is messaging.

Not just ‘love to fuck your Mrs’ "

Damn!!!! and we thought we were only ones to get them messages!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Clearly it is.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"It's a difficult one ultimately. Men on here are expected to do all the running, which is probably a big part of why women have so many messages, making it hard to reply to all, even with the best will in the world. As others have said there have been many, MANY threads in the forums discussing this over the years. Even raising the subject will result in bringing out a combination of realistic and reasonable responses, but will also open you up to pompous, entitled types who will (without knowing a thing about you) think they're being superior and clever by using it as a stick to beat you with, particularly the forum 'royalty' and people with inflated egos. You'll also get other male 'chancers' who regularly use it as an opportunity to show their own self-imposed 'superiority', attempting to impress women in doing so.

Good luck!"

This is very sound advise x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Because if we apply a filter to block incoming messages from men (something we do when we're really busy!) then anyone we've replied to can still message us.

But then if we know we'll never be interested in a profile we just block it anyway. The block button is a great permanent filter.

But I assume we'll be seen as 'rude'by some for doing that.......

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

We get messages from a lot of people who have clearly not gone to the effort of reading our profile, so why should we feel obliged to have to write a reply? Simply deleting the message is a form of reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because if we apply a filter to block incoming messages from men (something we do when we're really busy!) then anyone we've replied to can still message us.

But then if we know we'll never be interested in a profile we just block it anyway. The block button is a great permanent filter.

But I assume we'll be seen as 'rude'by some for doing that.......

Never that.

Just everything else in between.

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By *ickeyblueeyes7Man
over a year ago

newport

I think the frustration is seeing the messages have been read but even weeks or months later the receiver hasn’t deleted it, surely that dosent take up to much time to delete the messages

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm in a private Kik group with a few other Fab members and we chat about stuff, one of the girls clears her inbox every day and posted a quick screenshot from 9am and it had over 200 messages. If she gave even a polite "thank you" to everyone she would be updating Fab 28 hours a day. Be thankful your a man and only have to reply to less than 20.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the frustration is seeing the messages have been read but even weeks or months later the receiver hasn’t deleted it, surely that dosent take up to much time to delete the messages "

Delete it after sending so you don't see it.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Because we may not want to and don't have too...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Depends on the quantity of messages and what's in it tbf"

Exactly. If you can't be bothered to send me a decent message why do you deserve one back. And don't cut and paste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because if we apply a filter to block incoming messages from men (something we do when we're really busy!) then anyone we've replied to can still message us.

But then if we know we'll never be interested in a profile we just block it anyway. The block button is a great permanent filter.

But I assume we'll be seen as 'rude'by some for doing that.......

This is my usual reason for not replying most of the time

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

They probably skim-read your profile after reading your message, but you didn't meet any of the requirements for the Fab 'Holy Trinity' which are;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

Game over mate, move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I politely replied to so many people, my filters were no longer effective.

It’s one of the many reasons I deleted my old account and came back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ironically I think if you imagined any single guy here got a gf into swinging/kink and then put a profile up.

They would ignore the shit out of many single guys messages haha

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Good luck!

This is very sound advise x"

Thank you!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Because the majority aren't worth a reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if I reply with a polite no to males when I am not even looking for them - I get more messages, best to ignore so they move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because i cant be arsed with the usual convo or relentless chasing of my penis that happens next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ironically I think if you imagined any single guy here got a gf into swinging/kink and then put a profile up.

They would ignore the shit out of many single guys messages haha"

Not ironical at all of the dynamic they have together doesn’t involve single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the majority aren't worth a reply x"

Firm but fair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ironically I think if you imagined any single guy here got a gf into swinging/kink and then put a profile up.

They would ignore the shit out of many single guys messages haha

Not ironical at all of the dynamic they have together doesn’t involve single men. "

In my hypothetical situation they are looking for men and women, sorry should have clarified!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply if the sender asks something they can find out from my profile, or if they immediately ask if I have (enter alternative messaging system here), or if they're clearly challenged by the concept of writing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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A lady of few words?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

If we reply "no thanks" the website thinks that because we messaged we are happy to chat. So if I then block all men in the future, the ones I said "no" to can still message as the filter doesn't work. So that's wasting time for you and me.

No reply... message filters still work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ironically I think if you imagined any single guy here got a gf into swinging/kink and then put a profile up.

They would ignore the shit out of many single guys messages haha

Not ironical at all of the dynamic they have together doesn’t involve single men.

In my hypothetical situation they are looking for men and women, sorry should have clarified!"

Still not ironical if the men messaging don’t appeal to them for whatever reason or don’t fit what they are looking for.

People keeps forgetting no one owes anything to anyone in this site. You being a single man in this site and finding a partner into swinging/kink means you’ve done something right, probably starting with not being self entitled

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Ironically I think if you imagined any single guy here got a gf into swinging/kink and then put a profile up.

They would ignore the shit out of many single guys messages haha"

Yep.

When I was was on here as a single guy years back I ignored messages from couples and women, just as we do now.

Nobody - male, female or couple - has to reply to anyone.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"
Hey their are many reasons why people don't reply, your profile, your pics, your look, your location, maybe they're not meeting, maybe they're not meeting single guys, maybe they're not meeting your age group, maybe you have a beard, maybe you have a bush down below, it all boils down to time constraints they have maybe 60 messages and only two of them are suitable so they reply to them and leave the other 58 as saying not interested 58 times a day gets a little boring, some do however say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

Read the seventy squillion other threads asking this question. No one is under any obligation to reply to anyone else.

Do you ring up every company that sends you junk mail to say ‘no thanks’?"

This!

Also many of us then get follow up messages of abuse for having the cheek to have personal preference.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Another post about a guy not getting replies to messages. Over 90 replies to his moan, he doesn’t reply to any one of the comments.

Maybe he can’t be bothered or too many to reply too ?

Is it sinking in yet ?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks. "

Is it not good manners to read the FAQs of a site you sign up to so you understand how things work? Or do you think your time is more important?

Also I assume you answer every call you get even when the caller is withheld or from a company you know full well you don't want any dealings with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks. "

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

Plus then they can forever bypass my filters

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

1. With an open profile and our pics public, we’ll hit 200 messages an hour. Not wasting time replying to that

2.despite being clear on our profile, people that don’t fit the bill try casting their net anyway, wasting our time eg. Not meeting at the moment, we still get messages that just say “you looking for now?”

3.we do this for our fun, not yours and wasting time replying to crap profiles with a picture of a leg or copy and pasted messages is not fun

4. Read the site FAQs. No response, is considered a no thanks. If you read this, then why are you griping?

5. Congrats on being one of 5 people to post this daily

6. Suck it up, Buttercup

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks. "

Yes it is terrible bad manners to not reply. Zero morals. Would you really want to meet someone like that though?

How dare they ignore someone who they aren't compatible with and don't fancy.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

I've a tendency to reply to polite messages, but ignore the one word type, especially if it's from someone outside my interests range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just amazed how people take this environment so seriously!

Is recreational sex, swinging or hooking up (whatever you label it) supposed to be good fun and enjoyable?

Us single chaps need to know and understand the statistical make up of the site and set their expectations in view of that.

Fab boasts 200,000 members of which 190,000 are single Pringles stood on the edge of the dance floor at 2am trying to entice those in the minority dancing around their handbags just bathing in the choice they have.

That said if any gorgeous ladies or couples who are seeking the more mature dance floor edge bloke who will shortly be drawing his state pension look no further! I can promise a Berni Inn steak dinner glass or two of Blue Nun and riveting conversation.

If of course my mailbox explodes I will reply to all.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I am just amazed how people take this environment so seriously!

Is recreational sex, swinging or hooking up (whatever you label it) supposed to be good fun and enjoyable?

Us single chaps need to know and understand the statistical make up of the site and set their expectations in view of that.

If of course my mailbox explodes I will reply to all.

Brilliant! Love it!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks. "

I hardly think morals come into it anywhere? X

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

If I do this it’s because life got in the way, I became distracted and then forgot.

Or I’m not interested. Either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always answer messages it’s polite and proper.

I am sure the two respondents today will attest!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

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By *wingamajigsCouple
over a year ago

Folkestone

Generally its because they never read the profile, are so badly written they dont deserve a reply and we are generally busy enough as it is. No reply means no interest.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

If they're receiving a metric (or imperial) fuck-ton of messages, then yes, it could a hassle. Especially so if people blow up because they can't handle rejection. Just move on OP.

LvM

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes op for some it is too much trouble ,as they get so many messages a day (not me I use filters ).

Why should we all reply to everyone , especially when most can't be arsed reading a profile or actually looking at what we want.

I always reply to a well written message or profile ,I don't respond to u free now , wuu2,I'm in a hotel nearby etc .

A no reply is a no thanks op,delete your sent messages and then any reply is a bonus .

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Imagine the Op now coming back on and replying to every single comment on this thread. Also the replies to his reply.

Then you may get an idea of what some women go through.

It’s not rude it’s just facts, if this place isn’t fun, more admin work, then those very few women on the site, will leave.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

No need to reply to all messages. No response means no on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

To a lot of people here a nice and friendly reply only opens the door to getting abuse so they don't reply

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I always answer messages it’s polite and proper.

I am sure the two respondents today will attest!"

But how many messages you get in a day? I have to give up my life to write no thanks to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always answer messages it’s polite and proper.

I am sure the two respondents today will attest!

But how many messages you get in a day? I have to give up my life to write no thanks to everyone

I was being ironic in so far as I get two emails a week........but seemingly failed!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

To a lot of people here a nice and friendly reply only opens the door to getting abuse so they don't reply

I get abuse if I reply with no thanks. So I just leave it and delete.

Op, don't feel it's personal attack on you or people lack manners. Be a woman for one day and you see why we don't reply

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????

To a lot of people here a nice and friendly reply only opens the door to getting abuse so they don't reply

I get abuse if I reply with no thanks. So I just leave it and delete.

Op, don't feel it's personal attack on you or people lack manners. Be a woman for one day and you see why we don't reply "

Beautiful response. Dignified, to the point and without the vitriol some seem to feel the need to respond with to guys like the OP. X

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I always answer messages it’s polite and proper.

I am sure the two respondents today will attest!

But how many messages you get in a day? I have to give up my life to write no thanks to everyone

I'll guess.. Two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply is a reply…

Usually I don’t reply because they haven’t read my profile preferences (females)…..if I haven’t replied to you it’s because your a male chancing your luck and don’t deserve a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As we are a couple, we like to be addressed as a couple if someone is messaging.

Not just ‘love to fuck your Mrs’

This is a huge pet hate of mine, we once had a man assuming he was talking to me (Mrs) it was the Mr, think it ruined his wank when he realised

I do this regularly on our couple profile I'll play along then ask what will Danish be doing while this is happening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've you picture this somewhere that's not fab for example let's talk about the popular fiery dating app

If every time you swiped it automatically sent a "hi how's you" type message, how likely is it that someone will swipe back and say "I'm fine thanks, but I'm not interested etc"

Now I'm not saying everyone does this but I've seen people who just swipe right on every woman on that app. And you get what? 50 swipes a day? If 1 woman has been past say 80 people in a small town or thousands in a city, that's a lot of people to say "no thank you" to, then you get the people who say "but why?"

Or who get aggressive saying "you're not even that good looking" or "why are you so full of yourself" etc

It would take a lot of women an entire day to reply to everyone. Or would need a personal pm monitor

I don't envy women on these sorts of sites

(Although the occasional message would be nice

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yes, it is too much trouble

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Mainly we are here for our enjoyment. So we are really bad at the admin side of things (even with people we know and have met). We like to do messages together but can't always be together so when we are together we have better things to do than go through all the messages together. I don't see why someone who's sent an unsolicited message is entitled to a reply? As we likewise dont feel entitled to a reply should we send an unsolicited message. We generally do all our interacting on the scene at clubs and parties anyways. So fab isn't generally a tool we use for meeting new people anyway. So we tend just let the admin slide because we haven't got the energy for it. However there's always a few messages that are the exceptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

Is it not good manners to read the FAQs of a site you sign up to so you understand how things work? Or do you think your time is more important?

Also I assume you answer every call you get even when the caller is withheld or from a company you know full well you don't want any dealings with?"
fuk reading the f&q does anyone read that? If someone sends me a message yes I do reply even if its a no thanks. Or a what kind of a shit message is that? It's a reply , just like I'm replying to your comment. It's called common descentsy! Maybe some people don't have any! Maybe some people think they are better than others and why should I reply to him ? And I'm not saying I'm right just my opinion I have good manners and I will always reply even if its a no thanks . I know not many are like me on here

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Mainly we are here for our enjoyment. So we are really bad at the admin side of things (even with people we know and have met). We like to do messages together but can't always be together so when we are together we have better things to do than go through all the messages together. I don't see why someone who's sent an unsolicited message is entitled to a reply? As we likewise dont feel entitled to a reply should we send an unsolicited message. We generally do all our interacting on the scene at clubs and parties anyways. So fab isn't generally a tool we use for meeting new people anyway. So we tend just let the admin slide because we haven't got the energy for it. However there's always a few messages that are the exceptions

Exactly..when there's something in it for you... You reply... When there isn't.. You don't. Same as most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

Plus then they can forever bypass my filters "
you best keep your filters on then hadn't you. And are all those 100 messages off new blokes? I guess most will be off the same guys . So if your not interested just say no thanks and then block them. At least they get the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

I hardly think morals come into it anywhere? X"
well you won't if you don't have any in the first place

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By *utonguy2023Man
over a year ago

luton

Seems standard practice on here no one replys except the very rare occasion

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I can’t be bothered as most have put no effort into their profile so why should I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

No when that means that if you do, they can message you whenever they want to, even if you filter their sex at a later stage, or if the experience tells you that you’ll get abuse if you do, because how dare you have standards that exclude me? "
well block them if they give you abuse. We arnt all assholes who think the world revolves around us. If I write a nice message that's complimentary and I put thought into it I think I should get a reply it's not hard is it. If you say no that's fine I'm not a baby that's goin to give anyone abuse cos I'm not there cup of tea . Alot of you seem to have had this issue but don't tar us all with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t be bothered as most have put no effort into their profile so why should I "
I can understand if you got a message saying like for instance... Nice tits you wanna fuk ..that kind of message doesn't deserve a reply. But if I wrote a nice paragraph being complimentary to you and being polite not crude surely that deserves a reply? Even if its a no thank you your not for me but thanks for the nice message or something along those lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never expect a reply… if I send a message it’s always to someone who I’m particularly interested in speaking with, and I’ve made sure I’ve checked I fit any criteria they ask for (age/location/size/ethnicity/facial hair/sexuality etc)

If they delete without reading, or looking at my profile, fair enough, move on

If I get a reply, it’s a bonus

Life’s too short to get wound up over little things, and we all (hopefully) have enough going on in our lives to distract us from what goes on here

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I can’t be bothered as most have put no effort into their profile so why should I I can understand if you got a message saying like for instance... Nice tits you wanna fuk ..that kind of message doesn't deserve a reply. But if I wrote a nice paragraph being complimentary to you and being polite not crude surely that deserves a reply? Even if its a no thank you your not for me but thanks for the nice message or something along those lines "

I do say no thank you or thanks for the message of effort had been put in but most don’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

Yes it is terrible bad manners to not reply. Zero morals. Would you really want to meet someone like that though?

How dare they ignore someone who they aren't compatible with and don't fancy.

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well just say your not my type thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

Plus then they can forever bypass my filters you best keep your filters on then hadn't you. And are all those 100 messages off new blokes? I guess most will be off the same guys . So if your not interested just say no thanks and then block them. At least they get the message "

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* Cba

* didn't like what they read

* liked what they read, got busy

* liked what they read, had a shit day, changed their mind

* got lots of new yellow mail, drifted off like a butterfly and forgot to return to the read message

* the content took their breath away and they didn't know how to respond

*the content made them roll their eyes /yawn

*they've replied to others and got hate mail back

*they've replied no thanks to others and ended up in an echausting texting marathon that they didn't want...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh this makes sense. It's because I'm TOO hot why they won't respond! Little wallflowers!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

I hardly think morals come into it anywhere? Xwell you won't if you don't have any in the first place "

Ohh but I have morals!

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By *ine Time FontayneMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

"If your messages are as uninspired as your profile…

I delete messages when I’m not interested. I get loads during the day. It’s tiresome to reply to all of them."

Kick a man when he’s down …….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if a message has been read and not replied to it's safe to assume that is a 'no thanks '.

More often that not it’s true, although I have been pleasantly surprised out of the blue when I’ve had a reply a couple of weeks after a message had been read (I delete all sent messages once they’re read, so I’m not tempted to keep looking at my outbox and obsess over who’s not replied!)

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By *ubytuesdaysTV/TS
over a year ago

birmingham

The message system is for the people who like to send one liners, unfathomable gibberish or fake nonsense for pretend meets, Its a vital service for those people and often is part of their release. Although it can also be useful to the unknow ledged or those who get their kicks from masturbating while joining in on the fantasy, enhanced by feelings of angst and annoyance. . Its built on the basic principle of the internet. It's not for real info. or any form of communication. How often do you see a not saying " please respond2 on an incoming message.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a crazy amount of messages in a day. Views to my profile can be a couple of thousand. Most have not read my profile or have and decide to message anyway. Occasionally I'll reply with a no thanks but it usually turns into a pity party or a really abusive message. I would literally need a PA to reply to all the messages. I have filters and it is still mental on here

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By *ine Time FontayneMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

"I get a crazy amount of messages in a day. Views to my profile can be a couple of thousand. Most have not read my profile or have and decide to message anyway. Occasionally I'll reply with a no thanks but it usually turns into a pity party or a really abusive message. I would literally need a PA to reply to all the messages. I have filters and it is still mental on here"

Oh please let me be your PA. That would be such fun. Sorting them all into Must Reads, Good for a laugh, last minute locals and then polite no thanks, FOADs and blocks. I can send my CV

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it.

He doesn't. If he got speaking to an attractive female about the subject who then showed him, he would quickly realised the thousands of messages women get. And if you look as good as you do, Jesus. That's a lot of cocks."
nobody likes a brown nose and I talk to lots of attractive woman. I talk to lots of unattractive woman but let me tel you the woman who arnt as attractive are more attractive on the inside . The attractive woman seem to be uglier on the inside as they tend to think of themselves better and up there own arses more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it. "
well no I don't cos I'm a guy on here and we all know guys don't get nowhere near as many messages as woman. So I won't pretend to know

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"If your messages are as uninspired as your profile…

I delete messages when I’m not interested. I get loads during the day. It’s tiresome to reply to all of them.

Kick a man when he’s down ……. "

Typical of some.

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over a year ago

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Honestly as a woman, I've got like 100 unreplied messages in my inbox.

I do eventually read and reply to them all but in my case, Those who live nearby go and want to meet within 7 days go to the front of the queue.

I put in my status how many messages I have.

If you are not a patient person, Fab really isn't for you and quick meets, regardless of gender or orientation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it.

He doesn't. If he got speaking to an attractive female about the subject who then showed him, he would quickly realised the thousands of messages women get. And if you look as good as you do, Jesus. That's a lot of cocks.nobody likes a brown nose and I talk to lots of attractive woman. I talk to lots of unattractive woman but let me tel you the woman who arnt as attractive are more attractive on the inside . The attractive woman seem to be uglier on the inside as they tend to think of themselves better and up there own arses more "

Beauty externally is no indicator of beauty internally, and vice versa

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Because no, thank you messages almost never end with no, thank you.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

99% of the messages are not worth replying to. Most wyuu. Wanna fuck? Free tonight ? Or some vulgar scenario

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Because no, thank you messages almost never end with no, thank you.

Oh, why not?

(I'm sorry, that was a joke)

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"If your messages are as uninspired as your profile…

I delete messages when I’m not interested. I get loads during the day. It’s tiresome to reply to all of them."

Cackle! I know I shouldn't laugh but I now had to go and look to see if the profile was inspiring to me .....or not..Lol!

Meh too far away so won't reply. Lol!

P.s. I do reply to all of mine...it just a takes a week or two. and I keep message filters on most of the time!

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By *woMatesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Maldon

We have messaged 2 couples over recent days, both offering bisex fun.

When we've ask when this will happen, one couple just read the message, no reply, the other couple ignored that they had a message.

Hey ho, life goes on

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"Do you ring up every company that sends you junk mail to say ‘no thanks’?"

Love this line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You all reply to messages ??? Here I was just blocking ....taking notes

TBH 95% of the men can't accept no thanks and continually try to plead their case X 1000 ..its frustrating

Lets not count the ones that carry on conversations with themselves because you haven't responded within 5-10mins to their last response .

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Our favourite thing with these threads…seeing who needs blocked well before they send a message

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By *ine Time FontayneMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

"Do you ring up every company that sends you junk mail to say ‘no thanks’?

Love this line

Certainly makes a point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would make it way easier if it was mandatory to complete the messaging filter so people don't get bombarded with messages from people they're not interested in.

Would make dudes feel less shit for not getting a reply and make girls time easier as they're not getting 1000s messages a day. Then when you do a have a little vibe your messages don't get lost. Win win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it.

He doesn't. If he got speaking to an attractive female about the subject who then showed him, he would quickly realised the thousands of messages women get. And if you look as good as you do, Jesus. That's a lot of cocks.nobody likes a brown nose and I talk to lots of attractive woman. I talk to lots of unattractive woman but let me tel you the woman who arnt as attractive are more attractive on the inside . The attractive woman seem to be uglier on the inside as they tend to think of themselves better and up there own arses more "

Hahaha brown nose. You've caught me. I don't understand the situation at all I just believe that saying this will help me get laid with all these women here.

If you had a thousand messages in your inbox you would not reply to them all. You wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our favourite thing with these threads…seeing who needs blocked well before they send a message

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forum is always the best message filter around !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh please let me be your PA. That would be such fun. Sorting them all into Must Reads, Good for a laugh, last minute locals and then polite no thanks, FOADs and blocks. I can send my CV"
bonus. No one else applied. Jobs yours lol

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"No reply is a reply, it's a no thank you.

We do tend to reply to messages but can sometimes get bombarded with more because we've said no, especially single males when it's clear we don't meet men."

Try changing your message filters so men can't message you if you really don't want to hear from them. Saves them wasting their time too.

I switch them back on occasionally when I'm really in the mood for... a full day of fab admin

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By *ine Time FontayneMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Oh please let me be your PA. That would be such fun. Sorting them all into Must Reads, Good for a laugh, last minute locals and then polite no thanks, FOADs and blocks. I can send my CV bonus. No one else applied. Jobs yours lol"

When do I start ?

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"If I write a nice message that's complimentary and I put thought into it I think I should get a reply it's not hard is it "

Did they ask you to message them? Probably not... so they owe u absolutely f all! What an entitled attitude lol!

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

I don't know if I'm getting any messages at all. My message box is not working and I've had to double message people because messages keep on being deleted and messages from SIX YEARS ago keep popping into my account.

I've posted on the something's gone wrong forum and never received a response.

I am resigned to the fact I've got a broken message system... Sigh...

Apologies to all those people who think I've ignored them. I haven't. Your message was probably deleted before I could read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I write a nice message that's complimentary and I put thought into it I think I should get a reply it's not hard is it

Did they ask you to message them? Probably not... so they owe u absolutely f all! What an entitled attitude lol!"
I don't think anyone messages asking to get messages do they ?? Hi can you message me please ?? what a smart arse attitude you have . I will take my attitude anyday over yours thank you very much..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get reads?

Wow that's progress for me better than ignored or deleted.

It is what is, their loss is how I look at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I write a nice message that's complimentary and I put thought into it I think I should get a reply it's not hard is it

Did they ask you to message them? Probably not... so they owe u absolutely f all! What an entitled attitude lol!I don't think anyone messages asking to get messages do they ?? Hi can you message me please ?? what a smart arse attitude you have . I will take my attitude anyday over yours thank you very much.."

She is right though. It’s very entitled to expect a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt worry about it. Normally dont get a reply and i get the bonus on being on the profiles blocked list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I write a nice message that's complimentary and I put thought into it I think I should get a reply it's not hard is it

She is right though. It’s very entitled to expect a response. "

I don't think there's any reasoning he's angry and you won't like him when he's angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it.

He doesn't. If he got speaking to an attractive female about the subject who then showed him, he would quickly realised the thousands of messages women get. And if you look as good as you do, Jesus. That's a lot of cocks.nobody likes a brown nose and I talk to lots of attractive woman. I talk to lots of unattractive woman but let me tel you the woman who arnt as attractive are more attractive on the inside . The attractive woman seem to be uglier on the inside as they tend to think of themselves better and up there own arses more

Hahaha brown nose. You've caught me. I don't understand the situation at all I just believe that saying this will help me get laid with all these women here.

If you had a thousand messages in your inbox you would not reply to them all. You wouldn't."
no man on here gets a thousand messages a day off seperate woman. People are full of shit and make out they are more popular than they really are. They crave attention and have to be liked instead of being true to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it.

He doesn't. If he got speaking to an attractive female about the subject who then showed him, he would quickly realised the thousands of messages women get. And if you look as good as you do, Jesus. That's a lot of cocks.nobody likes a brown nose and I talk to lots of attractive woman. I talk to lots of unattractive woman but let me tel you the woman who arnt as attractive are more attractive on the inside . The attractive woman seem to be uglier on the inside as they tend to think of themselves better and up there own arses more

Hahaha brown nose. You've caught me. I don't understand the situation at all I just believe that saying this will help me get laid with all these women here.

If you had a thousand messages in your inbox you would not reply to them all. You wouldn't.no man on here gets a thousand messages a day off seperate woman. People are full of shit and make out they are more popular than they really are. They crave attention and have to be liked instead of being true to themselves. "

Never said I did champ! What I did say is that I have seen a woman's fab profile and screenshots and seen the evidence that they get 1000s

I only get 100 a day

Joking before you lose your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why I understand people are busy but if you have the time to read a message is it to much trouble to say no thanks if your not interested ???????"

Read the FAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I write a nice message that's complimentary and I put thought into it I think I should get a reply it's not hard is it

She is right though. It’s very entitled to expect a response. "
no I'd be entitled if I expected a reply that I wanted . Just to get a reply even if its a no thanks doesn't make me entitled it's just a response not entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I write a nice message that's complimentary and I put thought into it I think I should get a reply it's not hard is it

She is right though. It’s very entitled to expect a response. no I'd be entitled if I expected a reply that I wanted . Just to get a reply even if its a no thanks doesn't make me entitled it's just a response not entitlement "

Not getting a reply is a reply in itself. Read the FAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it not just good manners to reply back to someone who sends a message. Maybe they weren't brought up with morals or manners. Even if its no I'm not interested thanks.

If I take my filters off I can get 100 messages.

You want me to take up my own time on here replying to them all?

Which then prompts replies from them, whilst other messages continue to come in?

No, sorry, but my time on here is for me, not to please others.

No. It’s 100 messages off different men.

I do keep my filters on, but occasionally I want to take part in a forum game or something, so I take them off.

I don’t think you quite understand the extent of it.

He doesn't. If he got speaking to an attractive female about the subject who then showed him, he would quickly realised the thousands of messages women get. And if you look as good as you do, Jesus. That's a lot of cocks.nobody likes a brown nose and I talk to lots of attractive woman. I talk to lots of unattractive woman but let me tel you the woman who arnt as attractive are more attractive on the inside . The attractive woman seem to be uglier on the inside as they tend to think of themselves better and up there own arses more

Hahaha brown nose. You've caught me. I don't understand the situation at all I just believe that saying this will help me get laid with all these women here.

Never said I did champ! What I did say is that I have seen a woman's fab profile and screenshots and seen the evidence that they get 1000s

I only get 100 a day

Joking before you lose your mind"
why would I loose my mind ? I can accept people have different opinions. Just like people will have to respect that I may have different opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good replying everyone

, or not as the case may be

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

If you approached a girl in a bar and asked her if she wanted a drink/dance...yep, its the 1980s...and she just turned away, what would you think?

Rude but not interested. Same here.

Except they can block you here.

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