FabSwingers.com forum: When do you know

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soon to be 4.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Soon to be 4."

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

From first meet. Both me and john can sense if we click with them or not on first meeting.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Not from their first message no.

Maybe from the first sighting + first natter......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From first meet. Both me and john can sense if we click with them or not on first meeting. "

Do you never know beforehand?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not from their first message no.

Maybe from the first sighting + first natter......

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Tells me all I need to know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their message gives me some insight into them, but often find a meet confirms my thoughts. I don't meet often as I like to chat loads first, I like to see they can use words well before they use their penis

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

From messages never can tell. Over the years we have honed our skills and now can tell within the first 5 mins of the social if things are going to go further than a drink and a chat.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Op, are you impulsive?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Not from their first message no.

Maybe from the first sighting + first natter......

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Tells me all I need to know!"

ooooof ....... no I need to see them in motion first ... at least a vid chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op, are you impulsive?"

I don't know, is meeting 2 guys in one year impulsive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha. I know if I fancy them immediately. Sometimes it stays. Sometimes it doesn’t.

So I agree with a few guys and girls who have said meet quickly, or it doesn’t happen. I’d say that true a lot of the time.

To click with someone is special, it’s rare.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Usually within a couple of messages.

If we get one word replies or the messages start getting sexual straight off, then we know it’s not going to be a match.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not from their first message no.

Maybe from the first sighting + first natter......

Message

Pics

Username

Bio

Tells me all I need to know!

ooooof ....... no I need to see them in motion first ... at least a vid chat"

I have to put make up on to video call, I need to know before all that effort!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

To be honest I take messages on here with a pinch of salt and don't trust anyone to be real until we meet face to face.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Straight away.

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

I think I know early on... but sometimes they just go cold(er)

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By *ugarbonkCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

First meet we know, most of the time!

We find that we tend to build personas in our minds from messages alone and quite often the chatty keyboard stroker tends to by shy when we meet in person. Different skill set taking time to craft a well worded written retort compared to a witty oral response.

Also from a personal perspective my writing if far better than the gutural jumbled mess that spews from my mouth!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do have a specific type I guess, and when I know I just know.

Unfortunately my type is few and far between.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Within a few messages I know if someone is for me or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It takes me a bit of time to work out if someone is. On paper, sure they might be or might be far removed from it but it's only after talking for some time that I think yep, I quite fancy this person. They might be my type (although I don't really have one).

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I do have a specific type I guess, and when I know I just know.

Unfortunately my type is few and far between. "

Same, there are very few people I have any interest in at all.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

If our conversation lasts through the 2 day fade then I'm meeting him, I won't know for definite until I look him in the eye, as to whether I want to get my hands, into his pants though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually within a couple of messages.

If we get one word replies or the messages start getting sexual straight off, then we know it’s not going to be a match.

Oh this, any sex talk is just a major turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t meet many people, but when I know its going to be good, I’ve known very early on (first chats or first social). It’s only happened to me twice so far though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I take messages on here with a pinch of salt and don't trust anyone to be real until we meet face to face."

I just don't have the time, if I'm meeting them I'm staying the night!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Typically not fron the 1st message. Probably 3 or 4 but cannot be certain, even then.

Some people can be very reluctant to produce appropriate photos, so it partly depends on them and my patience too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I know early on... but sometimes they just go cold(er)

Bloody women eh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to."

I'm glad you didn't say banter.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If they’ve got a big pair of tits then they’re my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to.

I'm glad you didn't say banter. "

I would never do that to you babes

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

How the conversation is following

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

Depends of the Tango.

Takes the lead the one who needs more time .

I experienced immediate chemistries .

I experienced slow build chemistries .

“ I really like her “ TING ! on first sight … that’s easy .

But then …. Is she gonna be more beautiful then she looks like ?

Usually doesn’t take that long .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's after a video call for me, a few messages can suggest good communication,but maybe only similar personalities. You can only sense a spark when you look someone in the eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they’ve got a big pair of tits then they’re my type

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to.

I'm glad you didn't say banter.

I would never do that to you babes

Go away Dec.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's after a video call for me, a few messages can suggest good communication,but maybe only similar personalities. You can only sense a spark when you look someone in the eyes."

I always video call, but I know before that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to.

I'm glad you didn't say banter.

I would never do that to you babes

Go away Dec. "

That hurt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to.

I'm glad you didn't say banter.

I would never do that to you babes

Go away Dec.

That hurt

Sorry Ant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to.

I'm glad you didn't say banter.

I would never do that to you babes

Go away Dec.

That hurt

Sorry Ant. "

I don't know why but this just amuses me so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know very early on normally from just the messages,but deffo within the first 5 mins of a social x

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"If they’ve got a big pair of tits then they’re my type

Correction: If they’ve got any tits then they’re my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not from their first message no.

Maybe from the first sighting + first natter......

Message

Pics

Username

Bio

Tells me all I need to know!"

I’m very impulsive as well . But I try not to “ judge much the book by the cover “

Can be better then it looks , can be worse then it looks .

Of course …. If starts with a :

“ BBC only “

and others Of course those are records u not even take over the cover . Straight back in the box …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here? If my wife likes them.

In real life usually after 5-10 minutes of conversation. If there’s no (for lack of a better word) spark I’ll just give up. I can’t deal with people who are hard work to talk to.

I'm glad you didn't say banter.

I would never do that to you babes

Go away Dec.

That hurt

Sorry Ant.

I don't know why but this just amuses me so much.

Simple things…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not from their first message no.

Maybe from the first sighting + first natter......

Message

Pics

Username

Bio

Tells me all I need to know!

I’m very impulsive as well . But I try not to “ judge much the book by the cover “

Can be better then it looks , can be worse then it looks .

Of course …. If starts with a :

“ BBC only “

and others Of course those are records u not even take over the cover . Straight back in the box …

I'm really not impulsive, in fact I over think everything.

I just know when someone's my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talk about nonsensical stuff...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's in person I know straight away. I can always just tell. But that doesn't mean I'm wrong sometimes once you get a bit deep. It's the same on here too. I know my type, and on the surface they might seem like you'd click perfectly. But it's when you start chatting about the important things that you really know.

If it is Rex Holes though I am 100% sure on that guy. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op, are you impulsive?

I don't know, is meeting 2 guys in one year impulsive?

No. Thats not impulsive .

That’s just the story of your life .

But how you face things and deal with them can be or not be impulsive .

I’m terribly impulsive . If I like a girl I jump of the plain no parachute no nothing …

I don’t care at all . I just want to ask her name and ask her if she would like to go out .

May take a while tho x I get very shy ….

Yes I have broken my bones very hard and many times … and sometimes taking years to recover …

But oh well . At list the jump was worth it x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We talk about nonsensical stuff..."

Yes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha. I know if I fancy them immediately. Sometimes it stays. Sometimes it doesn’t.

So I agree with a few guys and girls who have said meet quickly, or it doesn’t happen. I’d say that true a lot of the time.

To click with someone is special, it’s rare.

I can fall in a massive strong connections in seconds .

And in short messages is a special chemistry already .

Doesn’t happen everyday … true . But when it does is so exciting gets challenging to describe .

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By *hiskeyColaMan
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I do have a specific type I guess, and when I know I just know.

Unfortunately my type is few and far between. "

Yes, I can believe that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We talk about nonsensical stuff..."

Talking toot is one of life’s great pleasures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's after a video call for me, a few messages can suggest good communication,but maybe only similar personalities. You can only sense a spark when you look someone in the eyes.

I always video call, but I know before that. "

Well yeah …. To get the video call is cause is like 75% or half way there .

Isn’t it ? Is that step that we feel more comfortable in step up ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not from their first message no.

Maybe from the first sighting + first natter......

Message

Pics

Username

Bio

Tells me all I need to know!

I’m very impulsive as well . But I try not to “ judge much the book by the cover “

Can be better then it looks , can be worse then it looks .

Of course …. If starts with a :

“ BBC only “

and others Of course those are records u not even take over the cover . Straight back in the box …

I'm really not impulsive, in fact I over think everything.

I just know when someone's my type. "

Fair enough . Of course . Respect …

And sorry , maybe the message gave me a wrong impression xx

Is the danger with chat on sms

Massive conduct for misunderstands x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they’ve got a big pair of tits then they’re my type

Correction: If they’ve got any tits then they’re my type"

If they are a tit. They’re probably my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We talk about nonsensical stuff...

Yes!!"

You know, that is suddenly a scary thought..

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Sometimes from the first message. If it's overly sexual, then I know I don't want to meet them. Generally, these are from fantasists, or people wanting to get off with messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes from the first message. If it's overly sexual, then I know I don't want to meet them. Generally, these are from fantasists, or people wanting to get off with messages

Yeah I don't do the sex talk crap.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"From first meet. Both me and john can sense if we click with them or not on first meeting.

Do you never know beforehand? "

Talk is cheap. Body language and how they are in person are totally seperate things.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Their message gives me some insight into them, but often find a meet confirms my thoughts. I don't meet often as I like to chat loads first, I like to see they can use words well before they use their penis

This^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From first meet. Both me and john can sense if we click with them or not on first meeting.

Do you never know beforehand?

Talk is cheap. Body language and how they are in person are totally seperate things. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From first meet. Both me and john can sense if we click with them or not on first meeting.

Do you never know beforehand?

Talk is cheap. Body language and how they are in person are totally seperate things. "

I very rarely click with people over message, when I do though I know we'd get on in person.

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By *annabarberaCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

When they laugh at my Cheesy God awful jokes

....hey Miss P

Mr C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

If at a meet within 10 seconds ..the eyes have it .

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By *XXDREAMMan
over a year ago

sudbury

Post nut clarity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Within the first few messages, but I do like to chat for a while before meeting and quite often as the chat goes on I pick up on something I don’t like, think that’s why I like to keep the chat going for a while. Good looks help but I find usually Attraction comes the more I get on with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From first meet. Both me and john can sense if we click with them or not on first meeting.

Do you never know beforehand?

Talk is cheap. Body language and how they are in person are totally seperate things.

I very rarely click with people over message, when I do though I know we'd get on in person. "

If I don't click over messaging/chatting there is never a meet. Explains a lot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Within the first few messages then I do one

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

After 2-3 years and a period of living together…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Within the first few messages, but I do like to chat for a while before meeting and quite often as the chat goes on I pick up on something I don’t like, think that’s why I like to keep the chat going for a while. Good looks help but I find usually Attraction comes the more I get on with someone. "

Same . The sweetness and the connection that brings it all up ….

I lost the appetite to go to socials with no chat connection before ….

They never go right .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t "

I usually wait until i know they can make Caramel Porcini Mousse Balls with Fried Enoki

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i feel excited enough to be impulsive and give them time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do that aallll the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t

I usually wait until i know they can make Caramel Porcini Mousse Balls with Fried Enoki"

I do that all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t have a clue for messaging - people can be who they want in text. First meet is when it gets real but I’ve had plenty of slow burning friendships and relationships. Good people are hard to find, and often worth the wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t

I usually wait until i know they can make Caramel Porcini Mousse Balls with Fried Enoki

I do that all the time

it's an excellent filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t

I usually wait until i know they can make Caramel Porcini Mousse Balls with Fried Enoki"

I wait until they make fish and chips with banana blossom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t

I usually wait until i know they can make Caramel Porcini Mousse Balls with Fried Enoki

I wait until they make fish and chips with banana blossom

Phwoarr add a pea bomb and I'm yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t

I usually wait until i know they can make Caramel Porcini Mousse Balls with Fried Enoki

I wait until they make fish and chips with banana blossom

Phwoarr add a pea bomb and I'm yours

I throw in a few neck oils too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much straight away. First impressions matter to me and rarely stray from it so I know whether I'll get on with them from a couple of messages. If they have a quirky sense of humour they display straight away then I definitely know I want them to sit on my face

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By *agatoXXXMan
over a year ago

Mordor

I haven't a clue. She'd have to rub her pheromone smeared bosom in my face for me to have an inkling.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I haven’t got a clue at the moment. Just when I think there’s a click it goes clunk.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I like to think I'm intuitive but you can't really tell until you meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually pretty soon / straight away I can see they are or aren’t

I usually wait until i know they can make Caramel Porcini Mousse Balls with Fried Enoki

I wait until they make fish and chips with banana blossom

Phwoarr add a pea bomb and I'm yours

I throw in a few neck oils too

I think that can is supposed to be closer to the groin

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I’m good at recognising who I will click with. Absolutely bloody hopeless at telling of the feeling is reciprocated though. It’s really not great having to ask

Mrs

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By *ourtoyboy1Man
over a year ago

local

you can just tell, no forcing is a sign when it just feels natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can click fairly quickly with someone but I dont like to endlessly chat for weeks on end because inevitably you'll find out things you don't like about eachother and let's face it, its unlikely you'll find a life partner in here so let's just stick to the site briefing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can click fairly quickly with someone but I dont like to endlessly chat for weeks on end because inevitably you'll find out things you don't like about eachother and let's face it, its unlikely you'll find a life partner in here so let's just stick to the site briefing

Ah see I like to talk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I haven’t got a clue at the moment. Just when I think there’s a click it goes clunk.

Buckle up

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"I’m good at recognising who I will click with. Absolutely bloody hopeless at telling of the feeling is reciprocated though. It’s really not great having to ask

Mrs"

You don't need to ask. It is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah see I like to talk. "

I'm paranoid that if I say too much about my shady past they won't want to meet me tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The smell doesn’t lie

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

The minute I lay eyes on them in real life. It's instant for me. But that can change if they act like a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know quickly.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

"
I skipped to the end - have you reached 15 yet?? Is it my turn??

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

I know before i meet someone that im attracted to them - but as others have said in person you get a feel for someone and it can all go west then if they’re a knob or arrogant or just…. Something! Same goes both ways but often women meet me not knowing what an Incredibly cool bastard I am then end up sliding off the seat in excitement and i have to get them a towel to sit on while we finish our coffee - not easy being me sometimes!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know before i meet someone that im attracted to them - but as others have said in person you get a feel for someone and it can all go west then if they’re a knob or arrogant or just…. Something! Same goes both ways but often women meet me not knowing what an Incredibly cool bastard I am then end up sliding off the seat in excitement and i have to get them a towel to sit on while we finish our coffee - not easy being me sometimes!!

I can tell from messaging them if they're a knobhead.

A video call generally confirms it.

If I'm meeting someone then yeah, I've probably already booked the hotel.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

I can tell from messaging them if they're a knobhead.

A video call generally confirms it.

If I'm meeting someone then yeah, I've probably already booked the hotel. "

Have been fooled once though - someone had the chance to edit the messages and a brief chat on the phone - I was hmm they sound fun and they were attractive - in person they were a little arrogant and said some things about other members - I just thought hmmm You’re a bit of a twat and a bit patronising … so it cooled off for me and I thought Im not feeling this any more so I said I was going to head off and there was a look of ehhh? What you mean? Just said it’s not working for me and left. Logged on later to find a message saying i was a timewaster and blocked. Still go with my largest organ making the decisions.. my gut!! Been lucky 99% of the time and met lovely chilled people x

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Normally in the first five minutes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

90% of people rule themselves out in the first message. The rest rarely get past 4 or 5 messages before I'm sure they're not what I'm looking for.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

This is me exactly, I know by a message if they are my type. I won’t go on a social if I’m not feeling it in a message

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Within a few messages we generally know, some on the 1st message, some a day or two in, I don't bother meeting for a social if we don't seem to click chatting through messages, we have very limited spare time.

Mrs

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I don't think you can ever really know someone just by messaging, I can weigh up someone face to face very quickly and I'm not afraid of just walking away. A while back I walked out of a gangbang, didn't cum just pants on and left, because I just wasn't feeling it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It normally takes a meeting in person. Socials always seem to work well for me as I am normally a very good judge of character. But like the op, sometimes mistakes are/where made.

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I don’t see how you can tell from reading a single message. But I can definitely hit it off with someone when chatting online. That’s usually pretty quick in most cases.

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over a year ago

"I don’t see how you can tell from reading a single message. But I can definitely hit it off with someone when chatting online. That’s usually pretty quick in most cases.

Because I'm very particular about what I'm looking for and I've no interest in connecting with people I know aren't compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

Surely there's only one way to find out and that's meet?

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Usually from the first couple of messages I will get a good idea. Only once that was wrong and I thought he was a bit of a dick but met him for a social anyway as I was bored. Turns out he wasn’t anything like I thought he would be and is one of the nicest people I’ve ever met and we’ve been fwb’s for over 2 years.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I have a very specific type, so by looking at photos I know

but then again, there’s been people who are my type physically but there is zero rapport/chemistry! So that is why it is important to chat for quite a while beforehand…

and go for a social!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t see how you can tell from reading a single message. But I can definitely hit it off with someone when chatting online. That’s usually pretty quick in most cases.

Quite easily, combined with photos and their bio.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

Surely there's only one way to find out and that's meet?"

No, I only meet when I'm 99%sure.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

When my brain says yes.

Could be with anyone at any time.

Brains are strange things.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

Surely there's only one way to find out and that's meet?"

It's not possible for me to meet everyone to see if I want to get into bed with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a very specific type, so by looking at photos I know

but then again, there’s been people who are my type physically but there is zero rapport/chemistry! So that is why it is important to chat for quite a while beforehand…

and go for a social! "

Oh god same!

Though I can usually tell from their bio and message if they are my type in personality aswell. I'm sure I've deleted a lot that are but sent crap messages, meh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally know straight away but will wait a short while as some people can take time to show their true colours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

Surely there's only one way to find out and that's meet?

It's not possible for me to meet everyone to see if I want to get into bed with them.

Same!

They always say well let's just get a coffee and see, I don't have that kinda time either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

I usually know as soon as I meet

Missy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find forum posts more telling in the first instance, you can get a feel for a persons general outlook and demeanour. Their responses more than threads they might start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find forum posts more telling in the first instance, you can get a feel for a persons general outlook and demeanour. Their responses more than threads they might start. "

There's a whole world of fab out there you know, not just the forums.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I usually find that a woman is my type the moment she wraps her chops around my bobbies helmet

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

After meeting, I would say... Messages can be great, but it's not till you've actually met, face to face, that you truly know of they for for you or not.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"I usually find that a woman is my type the moment she wraps her chops around my bobbies helmet

Hopeless romantic as ever, Rex

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I usually find that a woman is my type the moment she wraps her chops around my bobbies helmet

Hopeless romantic as ever, Rex

My undies have just fallen down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find forum posts more telling in the first instance, you can get a feel for a persons general outlook and demeanour. Their responses more than threads they might start.

There's a whole world of fab out there you know, not just the forums. "

Oh no there isn't? Is it too early for panto?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually find that a woman is my type the moment she wraps her chops around my bobbies helmet

We all have our standards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After meeting, I would say... Messages can be great, but it's not till you've actually met, face to face, that you truly know of they for for you or not. "

Does video calling not work for that?

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

"After meeting, I would say... Messages can be great, but it's not till you've actually met, face to face, that you truly know of they for for you or not.

Does video calling not work for that? "

In my experience.. No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just know, you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

If someone shows a silly or goofy sense of humour, I know I'm in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can generally tell very early doors if it's a no with the first message.

As for if it's a yes, well, kinda, to a degree. Though that can very quickly become a no with the slightest of hiccups.

Meh, paradoxically fussy and not fussy, ambivalent whilst caring deeply.

Basically, I'm fucked.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"If someone is your type?

Do you know straight away? Does it take you an age for things to click?

Me, I know from the first message if I want to meet them or not. I'm never wrong, well except that one time, ok well maybe twice tops.

Possibly 3.

If after the first play meet, we all want to meet again asap

(and they mean it)

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By *agatoXXXMan
over a year ago

Mordor

I've figured out a way to tell if a woman ISN'T interested in me.

She's on Fab.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Sometimes not even until after you have fucked someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t see how you can tell from reading a single message. But I can definitely hit it off with someone when chatting online. That’s usually pretty quick in most cases.

Some folk are a bit rubbish at the listing of themselves on a bio or are just plain rubbish online. I know my fingers can’t type as fast as I can think and waffle so my replies come way to late and the joke or witty comeback is gone. So clubs, social meets are the way forward for me ??

Quite easily, combined with photos and their bio. "

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Takes a while.

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