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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? " Are you ok? ![]() | |||
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"I try not to care enough to get disapointed anymore I used to need to vent it somehow in say a tackle or type it out get it out kind of thing " Venting can be good. Constructive sometimes. But also it can be negative if it becomes a misdirected anger/hurt sort of thing. I'm definitely a big fan of tackling things head on though. | |||
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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? " Difficult to say without specifics but in general Meli ...... I'd say this. I'm glad you are disappointed as it means that something you wanted or expected meant something to you ...... So ....... bear in mind I don't know what it is.... Grab a coffee or walk or sit down. Ask yourself what it is inside you that led to disappointment. Did you take it for granted it would happen ? What steps had you taken prior to the expectation e.g. how many ways had you considered the possibility of it not happening ? Generally disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality. Once i've dealt with me, i'll deal with a.n. other ( if there is one ) by thinking about why they did what they did or what was their intent. I'd also think about how relevant this 'thing' really is in the whole scheme of the wholly widey worldy and not let it affect the rest of my day or the future and i'd have probably decided by then whether it's worth pursuing again or putting to bed. Over thinking an event leads to low mood. Over thinking tomorrow denies you today. Live today dearie xx | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! " i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() i dont like it as much as this guy tho the eyebrows say it all i never got orgasmic from it ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() and now im sat at work singing it again now ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() You mean the guy drinking the orange juice ? Isn’t he just fab ? I mean honestly when I feel down, I just look at him and think, well if a guy in the middle of the pacific (Martinique island) drinks his juice like that, I don’t have the right to feel down with my life | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() what a legend that guy is i also use this video to boost my day https://youtu.be/Kg5cdZ-Fnpc Its funny as | |||
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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? " its a difficult one really I kind of feel disappointed with my life so far but I maintain a happy outlook, that old addage you get one life so make the best of it is so true, my mother has outlived my father who'd have believed it, suppose you've just got to surround yourself with people who appreciate you and make you feel good about yourself, I think my mind just separates the bad from the good that's how I cope, anyways good luck with whatever your disappointment may be, in time it may get better. | |||
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"I withdraw into a black hole of angsty despair until something (or someone) pulls me back out. " How long is it before you are ejected from it, for me, it's 72 hours. | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well I go on YouTube and watch pacific sound 3003 ! https://youtu.be/zHHcnjEJYQg This guy cheers me up every time I feel down ! I mean come on who enjoys their orange juice the way he does ?! i like orangina ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() i want his job hahaha Hey janice ![]() | |||
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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? " My dad taught me: “No point crying over spilt milk” and if it won’t matter in 5 yrs don’t spend more than 5mins worrying about it ![]() | |||
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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? My dad taught me: “No point crying over spilt milk” and if it won’t matter in 5 yrs don’t spend more than 5mins worrying about it ![]() Does that apply to job losses and bereavement? | |||
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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? My dad taught me: “No point crying over spilt milk” and if it won’t matter in 5 yrs don’t spend more than 5mins worrying about it ![]() Not sure I'd describe either of them as a "disappointment". | |||
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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? " Increasingly I let myself feel the feels for a while. And then try to work out what’s going on for me about it. Quite often it’s related to my ego or a child-like need to impress/ be perfect/ liked/ admired. Talking to friends helps me be more objective. And then be self-compassionate. It’s okay if you feel shit. It might well be shit. And often I understand a situation or myself better as a result. Big love ![]() | |||
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"disappointment. How do you cope with it? I'm not talking about the disappointment because the hot person you fancied read and deleted your message - it's not that kind of thread (sorry). But day to day things that are disappointing. Or bigger. What do you do? Difficult to say without specifics but in general Meli ...... I'd say this. I'm glad you are disappointed as it means that something you wanted or expected meant something to you ...... So ....... bear in mind I don't know what it is.... Grab a coffee or walk or sit down. Ask yourself what it is inside you that led to disappointment. Did you take it for granted it would happen ? What steps had you taken prior to the expectation e.g. how many ways had you considered the possibility of it not happening ? Generally disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality. Once i've dealt with me, i'll deal with a.n. other ( if there is one ) by thinking about why they did what they did or what was their intent. I'd also think about how relevant this 'thing' really is in the whole scheme of the wholly widey worldy and not let it affect the rest of my day or the future and i'd have probably decided by then whether it's worth pursuing again or putting to bed. Over thinking an event leads to low mood. Over thinking tomorrow denies you today. Live today dearie xx " Thanks GC. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Just never expect things and you'll never be disappointed. Take each minute as they come. If someone says they'll do something for you or something was supposed to happen just don't expect it too. " Oh I don't know. Life is too short and if you do the latter (not expecting things to happen), don't you end up a bit jaded and cynical? I think I'd rather stay a tad naive, optimistic and once in a blue moon experience disappointment. The highs are worth the lows I guess. | |||
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"Just never expect things and you'll never be disappointed. Take each minute as they come. If someone says they'll do something for you or something was supposed to happen just don't expect it too. Oh I don't know. Life is too short and if you do the latter (not expecting things to happen), don't you end up a bit jaded and cynical? I think I'd rather stay a tad naive, optimistic and once in a blue moon experience disappointment. The highs are worth the lows I guess." I love not knowing what's going to happen. It shouldn't affect your mood or anything. It should improve it if anything. Just dont make too many plans in life as you're bound to get disappointed. Learning to forget quick is also another good coping technique. If something bad happens just try and forget about it. The only that matters really is the present, the past is the past can't change that and the future hasn't happened yet. So why worry about it. Live in the moment and don't worry about anything. Like you said life is to short. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Depends what it's about if it's something trivial I'll pout and flounce. Then I'll calm down and sort whatever needs doing or distract myself with something fun. If it's something better I do the above initially. Then I'll try and figure out why things didn't work out as planned. And if it's something I need to work on or work on letting go. " Pout and flounce. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Depends what it's about if it's something trivial I'll pout and flounce. Then I'll calm down and sort whatever needs doing or distract myself with something fun. If it's something better I do the above initially. Then I'll try and figure out why things didn't work out as planned. And if it's something I need to work on or work on letting go. Pout and flounce. ![]() ![]() It's one I feel quite often, but more often than not in myself. But that's often because I set myself unrealistic expectations on myself. Something I'm working on though. Until that time I'll continue with my pouting and flouncing techniques ![]() | |||
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