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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " It’s kinda expected. But it’s important to remember that a bad attitude only negatively effects you. And it’s kinda letting the bad guys win. The bad guys make us negative, then the good guys avoid us. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " I find it hard you would put anyone off tbh lol | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? It’s kinda expected. But it’s important to remember that a bad attitude only negatively effects you. And it’s kinda letting the bad guys win. The bad guys make us negative, then the good guys avoid us." I don’t think I’m negative I think it’s more I’m not very forthcoming with information. I dunno really! Just pondering. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? I find it hard you would put anyone off tbh lol " Haha. I know! I’m a fucking delight aren’t I!? | |||
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"Nope, I'm the same little ball of sunshine I've always been "Aww you are  | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? It’s kinda expected. But it’s important to remember that a bad attitude only negatively effects you. And it’s kinda letting the bad guys win. The bad guys make us negative, then the good guys avoid us. I don’t think I’m negative I think it’s more I’m not very forthcoming with information. I dunno really! Just pondering. " I do find myself being quite short with people on here if I’m having a bad day And I’ve later realised I’ve been short with someone that was actually a good match for me. It’s a hard balance. Some of the messages guys send on here make me want to give up. | |||
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"Absolutely, I can sense people recoiling at the mere mention of my name.
It’s even more evident in person, they create clouds of dust as they speed away. " | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " On the forums you only ever appear as a nice person who seems in a good happy place. And who wouldn’t be attracted to that? I sure know a lot (or at least a handful) won’t ever get me until they get to know me better. Talking to people personally and privately helps that. I can misjudge or get people wrong. But people can also be a twat towards one person when showing a nicer more friendlier image to another. So there’s that too. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? It’s kinda expected. But it’s important to remember that a bad attitude only negatively effects you. And it’s kinda letting the bad guys win. The bad guys make us negative, then the good guys avoid us. I don’t think I’m negative I think it’s more I’m not very forthcoming with information. I dunno really! Just pondering. I do find myself being quite short with people on here if I’m having a bad day And I’ve later realised I’ve been short with someone that was actually a good match for me. It’s a hard balance. Some of the messages guys send on here make me want to give up." Yeah same to be honest. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? On the forums you only ever appear as a nice person who seems in a good happy place. And who wouldn’t be attracted to that? I sure know a lot (or at least a handful) won’t ever get me until they get to know me better. Talking to people personally and privately helps that. I can misjudge or get people wrong. But people can also be a twat towards one person when showing a nicer more friendlier image to another. So there’s that too. "I’m talking about private messages. Not sure I explained myself very well haha. | |||
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"I definitely do, I'm very wary until I meet someone and struggle with the small talk with people I don't know, I find it awkward. Mrs " I don’t even like adding people as a friend until I’ve met them. I send a face pic though obviously. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " Yeah I think I come across as very standoffish people probably wonder why I call myself jolly lol I am actually a generally happy jokey person but a lot of people on here don’t see that side of me. Some I do let see the real me. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " Yes, I do know what you mean. I find that I'm rather cynical these days. My profile is deliberately vague and abrupt. It's not 'me', but I'm just irked by the crass & demanding messages. I'm a nice person really! | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yeah I think I come across as very standoffish people probably wonder why I call myself jolly lol I am actually a generally happy jokey person but a lot of people on here don’t see that side of me. Some I do let see the real me. "Yeah I think I may do too. I was chatting to a fwb yesterday and he said we all know Nora but not many people know(my real name!). And I think he’s right. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " Yep I know what you mean. You are lovely though
Have no idea if I put people off or not. I don't post regularly enough nowadays to make any real impression. Even if I did, I wouldn't give it much thought. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yes, I do know what you mean. I find that I'm rather cynical these days. My profile is deliberately vague and abrupt. It's not 'me', but I'm just irked by the crass & demanding messages. I'm a nice person really! " Yes this!!! When I first joined my profile was so sweet and nice! I think mine maybe comes across as abrupt | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yep I know what you mean. You are lovely though
Have no idea if I put people off or not. I don't post regularly enough nowadays to make any real impression. Even if I did, I wouldn't give it much thought."Haha. You’re one of the few who actually know ME. | |||
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"I definitely do, I'm very wary until I meet someone and struggle with the small talk with people I don't know, I find it awkward. Mrs I don’t even like adding people as a friend until I’ve met them. I send a face pic though obviously. " Yes I'm exactly the same, I think I'm more a fan of local socials where I can see people at face value, I find fab difficult, I mean it's hard to have a conversation with a profile pic that's just a vag or cock. Mrs | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yes, I do know what you mean. I find that I'm rather cynical these days. My profile is deliberately vague and abrupt. It's not 'me', but I'm just irked by the crass & demanding messages. I'm a nice person really! Yes this!!! When I first joined my profile was so sweet and nice! I think mine maybe comes across as abrupt " I know mine does, and have received abuse for it. But it's my profile, so the twats can jog on! | |||
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"I definitely do, I'm very wary until I meet someone and struggle with the small talk with people I don't know, I find it awkward. Mrs I don’t even like adding people as a friend until I’ve met them. I send a face pic though obviously. Yes I'm exactly the same, I think I'm more a fan of local socials where I can see people at face value, I find fab difficult, I mean it's hard to have a conversation with a profile pic that's just a vag or cock. Mrs " Yeah this past year I have started going to more organised socials. I’m much better face to face x | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yes, I do know what you mean. I find that I'm rather cynical these days. My profile is deliberately vague and abrupt. It's not 'me', but I'm just irked by the crass & demanding messages. I'm a nice person really! Yes this!!! When I first joined my profile was so sweet and nice! I think mine maybe comes across as abrupt I know mine does, and have received abuse for it. But it's my profile, so the twats can jog on!"  | |||
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"Oh god yes " . I won’t tell people what you’re really like. . Don’t wanna ruin your rep | |||
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"I definitely do, I'm very wary until I meet someone and struggle with the small talk with people I don't know, I find it awkward. Mrs I don’t even like adding people as a friend until I’ve met them. I send a face pic though obviously. Yes I'm exactly the same, I think I'm more a fan of local socials where I can see people at face value, I find fab difficult, I mean it's hard to have a conversation with a profile pic that's just a vag or cock. Mrs " This is it. 
How many people would you actually ignore/polite no at a social when possibly 3 people say hi to you versus 300 blank basic profiles that send a Dm.
Your more likely going to be the polite person you truly are compared to the ‘oh god not another one!’ people we are on here. | |||
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"I have been told I come across as scary and intimidating on more than one occasion. A bit unfair to be judged by people who have never met me. My photos may be a bit full on sometimes but never judge a book by the cover." This is true. I think you’ve probably been on here as long as me and you’ve never come across as anything but nice x | |||
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"Very much yes. I don't like the protective layer I have to wear but..I need it. " Yes! A protective layer. Or more a suit Of armour | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yes, I do know what you mean. I find that I'm rather cynical these days. My profile is deliberately vague and abrupt. It's not 'me', but I'm just irked by the crass & demanding messages. I'm a nice person really! Yes this!!! When I first joined my profile was so sweet and nice! I think mine maybe comes across as abrupt " I change mine with my mood, not to avoid or attract people. My profile is ‘ fluid’. - love this word right now  | |||
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"Very much yes. I don't like the protective layer I have to wear but..I need it. Yes! A protective layer. Or more a suit Of armour "Feels like a suit atm, I won't even show myself! | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yes, I do know what you mean. I find that I'm rather cynical these days. My profile is deliberately vague and abrupt. It's not 'me', but I'm just irked by the crass & demanding messages. I'm a nice person really! Yes this!!! When I first joined my profile was so sweet and nice! I think mine maybe comes across as abrupt I change mine with my mood, not to avoid or attract people. My profile is ‘ fluid’. - love this word right now "I couldn’t even tell you what mine said at the moment | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yes, I do know what you mean. I find that I'm rather cynical these days. My profile is deliberately vague and abrupt. It's not 'me', but I'm just irked by the crass & demanding messages. I'm a nice person really! Yes this!!! When I first joined my profile was so sweet and nice! I think mine maybe comes across as abrupt I change mine with my mood, not to avoid or attract people. My profile is ‘ fluid’. - love this word right now
I couldn’t even tell you what mine said at the moment "Neither could I ! | |||
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"Very much yes. I don't like the protective layer I have to wear but..I need it. Yes! A protective layer. Or more a suit Of armour
Feels like a suit atm, I won't even show myself! "Aw. Just a temporary thing? Or just not feeling it right now? | |||
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"I definitely do, I'm very wary until I meet someone and struggle with the small talk with people I don't know, I find it awkward. Mrs I don’t even like adding people as a friend until I’ve met them. I send a face pic though obviously. " I do this too.. but a lot don't want to know because you won't add as friends first before meeting them and then disappear in a puff of smoke.. haha.. filters the time wasters out for me anyway (most of the time) | |||
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"People often find my confidence intimidating and mistake it for arrogance I’m a nice lass but I don’t mince my words - never harsh just honest but again some people take that out of context too Everything is perceptive and it’s easy to judge especially on here. I don’t take it personally I know who I am and I don’t shy away from it xx" ….I wouldn’t shy away from you | |||
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"People often find my confidence intimidating and mistake it for arrogance I’m a nice lass but I don’t mince my words - never harsh just honest but again some people take that out of context too Everything is perceptive and it’s easy to judge especially on here. I don’t take it personally I know who I am and I don’t shy away from it xx" I think I’m similar. I’m quite straight with people which some like but some maybe don’t. Also maybe a bit too honest sometimes. | |||
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"I definitely do, I'm very wary until I meet someone and struggle with the small talk with people I don't know, I find it awkward. Mrs I don’t even like adding people as a friend until I’ve met them. I send a face pic though obviously. I do this too.. but a lot don't want to know because you won't add as friends first before meeting them and then disappear in a puff of smoke.. haha.. filters the time wasters out for me anyway (most of the time) "True. I do send a face pic though if the conversation is likely to carry on. Just not my private pics. | |||
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"Oh god yes . I won’t tell people what you’re really like. . Don’t wanna ruin your rep "its not that im all that grumpy im just a little nuts is all i feel guilty when i feel someone get close cos i live in the past so either that pushes em away or the fact since i took this new job i have no free time anymore so i cant put any effort into people like i did so i can only come here to laugh and do what i can to bring the light to the world its a tough job but someone has to | |||
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"I assume most are fake or picture hunters and then there’s the actual attraction bit to get over. So you probably have less than a 1% chance or actually getting to the bit where you meet someone. " Must admit I’ve not come across many fakes. Time wasters/pic collectors yes. | |||
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"Oh god yes . I won’t tell people what you’re really like. . Don’t wanna ruin your rep its not that im all that grumpy im just a little nuts is all i feel guilty when i feel someone get close cos i live in the past so either that pushes em away or the fact since i took this new job i have no free time anymore so i cant put any effort into people like i did so i can only come here to laugh and do what i can to bring the light to the world its a tough job but someone has to "You do it well | |||
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"As much as im legendary at sex its probbly better that i just be here to laugh " And denying all these poor women! Shame on you! | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " I don't think I come across as particularly friendly, but in reality I'm quite nice | |||
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"... Yeah I think I may do too. I was chatting to a fwb yesterday and he said we all know Nora but not many people know(my real name!). And I think he’s right. " That isn't necessarily a bad thing. 'Real Nora' has to live in the real world and deal with life's challenges and trivia. Fab Nora has a chance to express her inner thoughts and desires. A profile has two competing functions: attract the desirable and dissuade the undesirable. If it is too much one way or the other it will not achieve the desired outcome. I tend to be more interested in forum posters, and socials, as you get much more of a feel for a person over a long period and their true character tens to show through eventually. I think any reasonable man appreciates the dross that single females have to deal with and allows for that. | |||
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"I have been told I come across as scary and intimidating on more than one occasion. A bit unfair to be judged by people who have never met me. My photos may be a bit full on sometimes but never judge a book by the cover. This is true. I think you’ve probably been on here as long as me and you’ve never come across as anything but nice x" Thank you.x | |||
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"As much as im legendary at sex its probbly better that i just be here to laugh And denying all these poor women! Shame on you!" i know its like mum making a sunday roast and i only eat the meat and chuck the rest she says think of the starving folks i say i dont care i only eat meat | |||
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I am actually free to meet up for the next week as im on holiday - can’t see my inbox being inundated so may have to try ‘ talking to people in the real world’ instead | |||
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I think I back off if someone is too keen too soon, but that is a rarity! | |||
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"I think I must do. I think face to to face with people on here would get a different reception. However I am told I have a rather stern look "You do a bit | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? I don't think I come across as particularly friendly, but in reality I'm quite nice "Lots of people are like you. The hard bit is getting across the first hurdle where the chat starts. | |||
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"Yes. I seem to do quite well at putting people off. I shower regularly though so it’s not the smell
I think I back off if someone is too keen too soon, but that is a rarity!"Well I’m not at all keen on you. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? I don't think I come across as particularly friendly, but in reality I'm quite nice " | |||
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"I think I must do. I think face to to face with people on here would get a different reception. However I am told I have a rather stern look
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"I think I must do. I think face to to face with people on here would get a different reception. However I am told I have a rather stern look
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"I think I must do. I think face to to face with people on here would get a different reception. However I am told I have a rather stern look
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"I think I must do. I think face to to face with people on here would get a different reception. However I am told I have a rather stern look
You do a bit
Put people off or have a stern look?
A stern look. More sexy/smouldering though. But I know what you mean.
I'll actually take that as a compliment. "Haha it was one. This is what I mean. People take me the wrong way | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " Ive always found you very pleasant xx | |||
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"So here’s my problem when talking in private. I friend zone and may come across as not interested. Sure, I may be talking about ‘stuff’ and the daily grind that is real life. But as we are talking, I image you say I front of me, legs wide open and your hands inside your knickers. I can put people off the idea of replying to my ‘are you in work today’ morning message "I like talking about normal stuff though. Nothing worse than “so what are you into?” within a couple of messages. Probably doesn’t help that I’m a picky bitch and the slightest thing can put me off . I actually think this could be my issue and not anyone else’s | |||
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"Yes. I seem to do quite well at putting people off. I shower regularly though so it’s not the smell
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Ive always found you very pleasant xx" Thank you x | |||
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"Yes. I seem to do quite well at putting people off. I shower regularly though so it’s not the smell
I think I back off if someone is too keen too soon, but that is a rarity!
Well I’m not at all keen on you.
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"So here’s my problem when talking in private. I friend zone and may come across as not interested. Sure, I may be talking about ‘stuff’ and the daily grind that is real life. But as we are talking, I image you say I front of me, legs wide open and your hands inside your knickers. I can put people off the idea of replying to my ‘are you in work today’ morning message
I like talking about normal stuff though. Nothing worse than “so what are you into?” within a couple of messages. Probably doesn’t help that I’m a picky bitch and the slightest thing can put me off . I actually think this could be my issue and not anyone else’s "You and I would get on really well …. Nothing would ever happen between us. | |||
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"So here’s my problem when talking in private. I friend zone and may come across as not interested. Sure, I may be talking about ‘stuff’ and the daily grind that is real life. But as we are talking, I image you say I front of me, legs wide open and your hands inside your knickers. I can put people off the idea of replying to my ‘are you in work today’ morning message
I like talking about normal stuff though. Nothing worse than “so what are you into?” within a couple of messages. Probably doesn’t help that I’m a picky bitch and the slightest thing can put me off . I actually think this could be my issue and not anyone else’s
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"Possibly. I'm in two minds about it, part of me thinks that the right people will connect/be compatible with me as I am. And I'm fine being me, I won't be liked by everyone. I'm not wary nor am I jaded after being on here for donkey years (eternal optimist) but it does take me a bit of time to open up to people. Even those I'm close to I tend to have some walls up. I do think that maybe I might because I'm kind of pretentious. Bit of a know it all. Bit of a dick. Some probably read my waffle and eyeroll hard. So maybe that does? Fuck it though. I'm content." I like this though. Good way to think | |||
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"Possibly. I'm in two minds about it, part of me thinks that the right people will connect/be compatible with me as I am. And I'm fine being me, I won't be liked by everyone. I'm not wary nor am I jaded after being on here for donkey years (eternal optimist) but it does take me a bit of time to open up to people. Even those I'm close to I tend to have some walls up. I do think that maybe I might because I'm kind of pretentious. Bit of a know it all. Bit of a dick. Some probably read my waffle and eyeroll hard. So maybe that does? Fuck it though. I'm content." I'd find it more weird if you were unnecessarily candid with strangers. Who eyeballs someone in the pub and immediately launches into their favourite sex acts and what led them there and how their dad left them when they were two ??? weird. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. " Yeah true. If they’re not happy with the way I do things I guess they’re not for me anyway. | |||
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"Possibly. I'm in two minds about it, part of me thinks that the right people will connect/be compatible with me as I am. And I'm fine being me, I won't be liked by everyone. I'm not wary nor am I jaded after being on here for donkey years (eternal optimist) but it does take me a bit of time to open up to people. Even those I'm close to I tend to have some walls up. I do think that maybe I might because I'm kind of pretentious. Bit of a know it all. Bit of a dick. Some probably read my waffle and eyeroll hard. So maybe that does? Fuck it though. I'm content. I'd find it more weird if you were unnecessarily candid with strangers. Who eyeballs someone in the pub and immediately launches into their favourite sex acts and what led them there and how their dad left them when they were two ??? weird." Exactly! | |||
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"Possibly. I'm in two minds about it, part of me thinks that the right people will connect/be compatible with me as I am. And I'm fine being me, I won't be liked by everyone. I'm not wary nor am I jaded after being on here for donkey years (eternal optimist) but it does take me a bit of time to open up to people. Even those I'm close to I tend to have some walls up. I do think that maybe I might because I'm kind of pretentious. Bit of a know it all. Bit of a dick. Some probably read my waffle and eyeroll hard. So maybe that does? Fuck it though. I'm content. I'd find it more weird if you were unnecessarily candid with strangers. Who eyeballs someone in the pub and immediately launches into their favourite sex acts and what led them there and how their dad left them when they were two ??? weird." Ha yes! Very very true. I find it a bit unnerving when I get a whole life story within a couple of messages. Don't get me wrong, I like openness. But it's something that develops for me. | |||
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"I intentionally act in a cool or aloof way to people I want to put off" Well sending me pics and saying come and get Me big boy hasnt put me off!!! | |||
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"I intentionally act in a cool or aloof way to people I want to put off Well sending me pics and saying come and get Me big boy hasnt put me off!!! "What can I say, I just couldn't help myself | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Yes most women do, but being friendly gets better results even if the men don't like it. Thing is so many of you women are rude, i think men get irritated. Women keep preaching positivity but so many are extremely rude for no reason, it's a site people connect on and the connection is sex. You'll always get a few dikeds nice or not. But you have the control so should handle things better. What do you call rude though? Not answering? Actually being abusive?" Not answering is rude in itself, but understandable when inundated with messages. But alot of women replies are rude and downright delusional either that or there is alot of fake profiles. Abuse is Rude im yet to experience it. But just bios don't match with the person when speaking. Blocked for no reason..haha I mean I'm blocked on accounts possibly because I'm Honest in forums.i think alot of mental health is flying around in here or fake profiles. | |||
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Haha I don’t think I am harsh. I just think some may think I am. I think it’s a case of people get your or they don’t. I think if you didn’t know me well you may think differently? "Nora! Be Nora! You seem to be succumbing to pressures for you to please others or be thought of as 'harsh' or 'off putting' ........ it may be a bit of your own psyche in there BUT your audience here is a sex thirsty male membership ... what kind of feedback or vibe can you expect ?? Don't succumb to pressure. Get up out of it. Be you. | |||
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Haha I don’t think I am harsh. I just think some may think I am. I think it’s a case of people get your or they don’t. I think if you didn’t know me well you may think differently? "Probably | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? I've not seen your harsh side yet Nora haha
Haha I don’t think I am harsh. I just think some may think I am. I think it’s a case of people get your or they don’t. I think if you didn’t know me well you may think differently?
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You seem to be succumbing to pressures for you to please others or be thought of as 'harsh' or 'off putting' ........ it may be a bit of your own psyche in there BUT your audience here is a sex thirsty male membership ... what kind of feedback or vibe can you expect ??
Don't succumb to pressure. Get up out of it. Be you. "Oh I am. I won’t change! Was just pondering and wondered how others felt. | |||
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"It's a constant battle in this life - just life in general - to not allow oneself to become jaded and cynical, isn't it..? Experience makes us so, specifically negative experiences, and that is why children are so full of joy - it's their unspoiled innocence just shining through! That's why I just love spending time with kids, they've got so much to teach us grown-ups!! "I am very very cynical. Maybe too much so. And yeah maybe I do feel a bit bad if someone is genuine and nice and not full of bullshit but I probably come across as treating them as if they are. It would piss me off if I was a man. | |||
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I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong?? "Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment. | |||
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Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment. "See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting. | |||
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I am very very cynical. Maybe too much so. And yeah maybe I do feel a bit bad if someone is genuine and nice and not full of bullshit but I probably come across as treating them as if they are. It would piss me off if I was a man. "Try channelling your inner child a little more, Nora! Haha! That's where the joy in otherwise mundane experiences is to be found x | |||
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Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting. "I've never rushed meeting someone. And when I have, I've regretted it. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Despite your best efforts over the years Nora, you haven’t put me off…
Haha. Must try harder!
Maybe I’m just too stupid? It’s funny how this thread has attracted 4 of my favourite fab women, all saying similar things. I’m not sure what that says about any of us?"To be honest I’m talking about new private messages. I find lately I chat and meet more to the men I’ve known years and years than any new people. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting.
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"The written word is often read out of context so people will always interpretate it depending on how they are feeling " This is also very true | |||
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"I intentionally act in a cool or aloof way to people I want to put off Do you think because your a mod couple it could put people off? Serious question. Yes
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"See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting. I've never rushed meeting someone. And when I have, I've regretted it." Same; I'm quite happy to talk for months. As an aside, I love the word zaftig. Such a beautiful word! | |||
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"See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting. I've never rushed meeting someone. And when I have, I've regretted it. Same; I'm quite happy to talk for months. As an aside, I love the word zaftig. Such a beautiful word! " Thank you! It's not used enough IMO. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting. "Do you ever wonder if your not actually getting a lot from people by chatting on here? Everyone’s different, and not everyone can communicate well through text. When they say that verbal communication is only like 10% of an interaction or whatever, what % is text only giving you? | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting.
Do you ever wonder if your not actually getting a lot from people by chatting on here?
Everyone’s different, and not everyone can communicate well through text.
When they say that verbal communication is only like 10% of an interaction or whatever, what % is text only giving you? "A 20 minute social won’t give me more info than a couple of weeks of chatting. I’ve tried meeting quickly before and it doesn’t work well for me as I like to build connection. Those meets inevitably end up as failures. My most successful meet by far was my most recent one and we exchanged many, many messages beforehand. It’s not one size fits all! | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting.
Do you ever wonder if your not actually getting a lot from people by chatting on here?
Everyone’s different, and not everyone can communicate well through text.
When they say that verbal communication is only like 10% of an interaction or whatever, what % is text only giving you?
A 20 minute social won’t give me more info than a couple of weeks of chatting. I’ve tried meeting quickly before and it doesn’t work well for me as I like to build connection. Those meets inevitably end up as failures.
My most successful meet by far was my most recent one and we exchanged many, many messages beforehand.
It’s not one size fits all! "I definitely think messaging helps to build the tension and connection | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting.
Do you ever wonder if your not actually getting a lot from people by chatting on here?
Everyone’s different, and not everyone can communicate well through text.
When they say that verbal communication is only like 10% of an interaction or whatever, what % is text only giving you?
A 20 minute social won’t give me more info than a couple of weeks of chatting. I’ve tried meeting quickly before and it doesn’t work well for me as I like to build connection. Those meets inevitably end up as failures.
My most successful meet by far was my most recent one and we exchanged many, many messages beforehand.
It’s not one size fits all! "How often do you chat for weeks and they go silent/ghost? I’d feel like it’s a big waste of time personally. Especially considering how fickle I’ve found people on here to be. Most are willing to chat for weeks, even months, but disappear as soon as I suggest meeting up | |||
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"I have been told I come across as scary and intimidating on more than one occasion. A bit unfair to be judged by people who have never met me. My photos may be a bit full on sometimes but never judge a book by the cover." Really? I found you to be friendly and not at all intimidating. I guess some people are intimidated by women who are sexually adventurous. | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting.
Do you ever wonder if your not actually getting a lot from people by chatting on here?
Everyone’s different, and not everyone can communicate well through text.
When they say that verbal communication is only like 10% of an interaction or whatever, what % is text only giving you?
A 20 minute social won’t give me more info than a couple of weeks of chatting. I’ve tried meeting quickly before and it doesn’t work well for me as I like to build connection. Those meets inevitably end up as failures.
My most successful meet by far was my most recent one and we exchanged many, many messages beforehand.
It’s not one size fits all!
How often do you chat for weeks and they go silent/ghost?
I’d feel like it’s a big waste of time personally. Especially considering how fickle I’ve found people on here to be. Most are willing to chat for weeks, even months, but disappear as soon as I suggest meeting up "I’ve never been ghosted | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting.
Do you ever wonder if your not actually getting a lot from people by chatting on here?
Everyone’s different, and not everyone can communicate well through text.
When they say that verbal communication is only like 10% of an interaction or whatever, what % is text only giving you?
A 20 minute social won’t give me more info than a couple of weeks of chatting. I’ve tried meeting quickly before and it doesn’t work well for me as I like to build connection. Those meets inevitably end up as failures.
My most successful meet by far was my most recent one and we exchanged many, many messages beforehand.
It’s not one size fits all!
How often do you chat for weeks and they go silent/ghost?
I’d feel like it’s a big waste of time personally. Especially considering how fickle I’ve found people on here to be. Most are willing to chat for weeks, even months, but disappear as soon as I suggest meeting up
I’ve never been ghosted "Maybe it’s me then. That’s upsetting | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? Rethink this Nora. Why should you be forthcoming to a stranger ? If you both suit each other physically arrange a social meet for small talk. I never have used the message system to chat. Most blokes anyway do two sentences then the rest is trying to find out if you'll fuck them. To be fair to them why shouldn't they? It's what they signed up for. As each and every chat with a new person is EXACTLY the same ( people who think they are scintilating and irresistably different , take the shit from your eyes ) it's impossible not to become jaded. Just meet them if you like the look of them and don't spend time chatting to something out there in the ether. Can you please spread this logic. This is it.
I think you may have interpreted it in your own way entirely.
Well exactly what she said is it.. How can be interpreted wrong??
Yes, I would always be in favour of a physical meet asap - otherwise you are just spending precious time making nice with 'someone out there in the ether'. Then when they turn out not to be as nice in the flesh, it's just so much time wasted, leading to resentment.
See I don’t like to meet too soon. I can get a lot about someone from chatting.
Do you ever wonder if your not actually getting a lot from people by chatting on here?
Everyone’s different, and not everyone can communicate well through text.
When they say that verbal communication is only like 10% of an interaction or whatever, what % is text only giving you?
A 20 minute social won’t give me more info than a couple of weeks of chatting. I’ve tried meeting quickly before and it doesn’t work well for me as I like to build connection. Those meets inevitably end up as failures.
My most successful meet by far was my most recent one and we exchanged many, many messages beforehand.
It’s not one size fits all!
How often do you chat for weeks and they go silent/ghost?
I’d feel like it’s a big waste of time personally. Especially considering how fickle I’ve found people on here to be. Most are willing to chat for weeks, even months, but disappear as soon as I suggest meeting up "That's why I say fake profikes, I have messages with pic's attached from women asking to meet and then never heard from them again which I find highly weird. | |||
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"Nope, I'm the same little ball of sunshine I've always been
Aww you are "Thank you
But seriously, I hope I don't put people off. I always hyper aware of how I come across so I play it a bit safe when I first start talking to people so I make a good first impression and then slowly introduce more of my personality once I get a feel for them and what they're like. It sounds sociopathic, but it works | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " Yup, got so sick of the nonsense that sometimes goes on that I was not only putting people off, I ended up leaving the site for a bit... | |||
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"Nope, I'm the same little ball of sunshine I've always been
Aww you are
Thank you
But seriously, I hope I don't put people off. I always hyper aware of how I come across so I play it a bit safe when I first start talking to people so I make a good first impression and then slowly introduce more of my personality once I get a feel for them and what they're like. It sounds sociopathic, but it works "Good grief, sounds like boiling a frog | |||
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"Especially if you’ve been here a while and you have experienced a lot of bullshit etc. I think sometimes I’m so wary of people until I’ve met them that I maybe come across a bit harsh/unfriendly but I’m actually not. Do you know what I mean? " Possibly, but then people can misconstrue, misinterpret or otherwise misrepresent what you say or how you come across to suit their own agenda. If people prejudge me before actually meeting or speaking with me, so be it. I am well aware of my value and won’t compromise just to try and get into someones pants. | |||
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