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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It serves as a filter though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely don't think it's only occasionally it's called out, every time I've seen it it's been called out pretty much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Calm down love, if you get anymore worked up you'll fly away in a stiff breeze.

I'm joking everyone, relax.

It might require more of a gust.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Calm down love, if you get anymore worked up you'll fly away in a stiff breeze.

I'm joking everyone, relax.

It might require more of a gust."

Wow

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Is there really a need for this?? The man apologised.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I genuinely don't think it's only occasionally it's called out, every time I've seen it it's been called out pretty much. "

Whereas I’ve seen plenty of posts where I’ve been the only one to call it out!

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I really don’t understand why anyone feels the need to comment negatively regarding another persons body.

If someone isn’t to your preference then pass on by. If their body isn’t to you liking and you’re judging them on that alone, then why hang around to comment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there really a need for this?? The man apologised. "

It’s not even about that, it happens consistently hence my mention of preference and BBW appreciation threads!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Cue all the “don’t worry they only say they like fat women because they’re desperate for a shag” type posts.

And not forgetting all the “hot pics is full of slim women, that proves that fat women are an afterthought” type posts.

Because honestly, all sizes get slagged off on Fab if you look for it - there is no happy medium (no pun intended!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I genuinely don't think it's only occasionally it's called out, every time I've seen it it's been called out pretty much.

Whereas I’ve seen plenty of posts where I’ve been the only one to call it out! "

Well then it's been called out surely we shouldn't all just jump on someone for saying the wrong word if it's been called out and the person has apologised there's no need for any of this.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Yeah, I don't like it. We're ALL real women, FFS! I was very slim growing up, now I'm fat, so I see both sides.

But sadly, I feel most body shaming comes from other women. We need to stop & support each other more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there really a need for this?? The man apologised.

It’s not even about that, it happens consistently hence my mention of preference and BBW appreciation threads! "

People are allowed a preference and people get nasty on BBW threads as well.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Is there really a need for this?? The man apologised.

It’s not even about that, it happens consistently hence my mention of preference and BBW appreciation threads! "

It’s fab. People always end up offending someone, often unintentionally. Try not to let it get to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cue all the “don’t worry they only say they like fat women because they’re desperate for a shag” type posts.

And not forgetting all the “hot pics is full of slim women, that proves that fat women are an afterthought” type posts.

Because honestly, all sizes get slagged off on Fab if you look for it - there is no happy medium (no pun intended!)"

Totally agree.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

They should all be put in jail!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cue all the “don’t worry they only say they like fat women because they’re desperate for a shag” type posts.

And not forgetting all the “hot pics is full of slim women, that proves that fat women are an afterthought” type posts.

Because honestly, all sizes get slagged off on Fab if you look for it - there is no happy medium (no pun intended!)"

Exactly.

Most ppl judge us on our sexual values based on our physical attributes.

Like I said , it serves as a filter. I sure know who to avoid.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Slim women are real women!

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I think it's always depressing when expressing a preference is very much at the expense of the opposite extreme.

And it does always seem to be slim women who get it most on here, specifically when being compared ina negative way to larger women.

As you say it's not okay and feels all too common

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference! "

It's been going on for years on fab, i do call it out when I see it and have even reported it in some circumstances

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Slim women are real women!"

Well that’s me offended!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don’t understand why anyone feels the need to comment negatively regarding another persons body.

If someone isn’t to your preference then pass on by. If their body isn’t to you liking and you’re judging them on that alone, then why hang around to comment. "

I mean yeah, you're absolutely right, and it'd be wonderful if we all did.

But we mostly don't, and unfortunately some people derive their self esteem through the reduction of others.

Moreover, I think it's when the sycophantic enter the fray, begging for scraps and attention, feeding those what they crave. That in itself can lead to the nasty comparisons of the "real" etc.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I said the other side of this in one of the pet hate threads.

Being nasty about slim women isn’t a compliment to bigger women. Likewise the other way round.

The “real woman” thing really bugs me. We’re all bloody real women.

On the upside though I like it when people show who they are and how they think so I’d rather they kept voicing it so we know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just pass no heed in the bbw threads, I don't just like the hottest profiles, the ideal woman

Body shaming is open to all body types and genders, I just move on and ignore anymore not worth the grief

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Just pass no heed in the bbw threads, I don't just like the hottest profiles, the ideal woman

Body shaming is open to all body types and genders, I just move on and ignore anymore not worth the grief"

Well said

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Just pass no heed in the bbw threads, I don't just like the hottest profiles, the ideal woman

Body shaming is open to all body types and genders, I just move on and ignore anymore not worth the grief"

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It happens to all shapes and sizes on here. There are slimmer and larger women who call out people putting others down. Remember though the words used in your OP trigger you so you remember them more than the insults directed towards larger women. It's the same thing just different packaging unfortunately. It's a part of life not one demographic has it easier than the other

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Came into the thread expecting the community groups and trade unions’ campaign to fight the cost of living crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It happens to all shapes and sizes on here. There are slimmer and larger women who call out people putting others down. Remember though the words used in your OP trigger you so you remember them more than the insults directed towards larger women. It's the same thing just different packaging unfortunately. It's a part of life not one demographic has it easier than the other "

I agree. I’ve been here forever and I definitely don’t see derogatory comments about slim women every day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies "

Exactly, it’s not that difficult!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!"

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!"

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone

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By *ust me 999Man
over a year ago

near you


"Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference! "

Well I think your super hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone "

Ahhh well, if they think they aren't. They probably are

Also, I hate the sun, I'm glad you sun lovers can't enjoy it anymore!! Offended??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone "

Give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads? "

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone

Ahhh well, if they think they aren't. They probably are

Also, I hate the sun, I'm glad you sun lovers can't enjoy it anymore!! Offended??"

Me no, I like the sun but prefer it September to March when cool & crisp, can’t beat a winter bright sunny winter morning

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Is there really a need for this?? The man apologised.

It’s not even about that, it happens consistently hence my mention of preference and BBW appreciation threads!

It’s fab. People always end up offending someone, often unintentionally. Try not to let it get to you "

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By *ighty DuckMan
over a year ago

andover

At the end of the day , there’s no need for anyone to be commenting on someone else’s appearance in a negative fashion.

We all have preferences and there are healthy ways of conveying them.

If someone is conveying them in the opposite way, it’s just a clear red flag and a good warning sign to avoid them!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies

Exactly, it’s not that difficult! "

Ahhh but you see, the posturing is how they get attention. If they don’t loudly express their admiration for one group, at the expense of others, they’ll never stand out

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies

Exactly, it’s not that difficult!

Ahhh but you see, the posturing is how they get attention. If they don’t loudly express their admiration for one group, at the expense of others, they’ll never stand out "

You've got it in one

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I have no prejudice, I’ll take the piss out of anyone in equal measure

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies

Exactly, it’s not that difficult!

Ahhh but you see, the posturing is how they get attention. If they don’t loudly express their admiration for one group, at the expense of others, they’ll never stand out "

No not always. I don’t agree with that. I think a lot use these words unintentionally. I’ll

Never forget a man said “real woman” once and he got piled on! He was quite new, he was so upset he left. And he’d apologised on the thread.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies

Exactly, it’s not that difficult!

Ahhh but you see, the posturing is how they get attention. If they don’t loudly express their admiration for one group, at the expense of others, they’ll never stand out

No not always. I don’t agree with that. I think a lot use these words unintentionally. I’ll

Never forget a man said “real woman” once and he got piled on! He was quite new, he was so upset he left. And he’d apologised on the thread. "

He couldn’t have been a ‘real man’

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies

Exactly, it’s not that difficult!

Ahhh but you see, the posturing is how they get attention. If they don’t loudly express their admiration for one group, at the expense of others, they’ll never stand out

No not always. I don’t agree with that. I think a lot use these words unintentionally. I’ll

Never forget a man said “real woman” once and he got piled on! He was quite new, he was so upset he left. And he’d apologised on the thread.

He couldn’t have been a ‘real man’ "

Christ don’t start on the definition of a real man ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's tiring but what are we supposed to do? It's not exclusive to slim women only. I've seen it both sides. It's great to use as a filter.

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel


"I really don’t understand why anyone feels the need to comment negatively regarding another persons body.

If someone isn’t to your preference then pass on by. If their body isn’t to you liking and you’re judging them on that alone, then why hang around to comment. "

Pretty much on point, there’s thousands of shapes sizes sexes pronouns whatever it maybe, just ignore avoid or block, simples really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!"

Wicked! Do I get a badge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Wicked! Do I get a badge?"

Ooh I love a badge!!!

I'll make some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True is slim, fat, tall, small.. whatever your body shape someone will have an opinion. It's not a personal attack it's just living in a world full of knobheads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Wicked! Do I get a badge?

Ooh I love a badge!!!

I'll make some. "

Yessssssssss!!!!!

Just no pins though, health and safety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Wicked! Do I get a badge?

Ooh I love a badge!!!

I'll make some.

Yessssssssss!!!!!

Just no pins though, health and safety"

So......stickers??

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Wicked! Do I get a badge?

Ooh I love a badge!!!

I'll make some.

Yessssssssss!!!!!

Just no pins though, health and safety"

You could make it into a nipple adornment though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Wicked! Do I get a badge?

Ooh I love a badge!!!

I'll make some.

Yessssssssss!!!!!

Just no pins though, health and safety

So......stickers??"

Might be allergic to the adhesive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Wicked! Do I get a badge?

Ooh I love a badge!!!

I'll make some.

Yessssssssss!!!!!

Just no pins though, health and safety

So......stickers??

Might be allergic to the adhesive "

FFS man.

Hologram?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

What about the skinny pale no sun limbs but just cant get rid of the belly appreciation threads?

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Wicked! Do I get a badge?

Ooh I love a badge!!!

I'll make some.

Yessssssssss!!!!!

Just no pins though, health and safety

So......stickers??

Might be allergic to the adhesive

FFS man.

Hologram? "

YES!!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone "

Or you know people could just start actually giving zero fucks what some random weirdos on a website site think of them, body types etc ...

I find it illogical how twisted some people get over random strangers irrelevant comments/views they will never ever meet in their life get ...

if someone is being deliberately nasty calling them out is hardly going to make them think oh my I better behave as so so told me off .. they are just going ignore your view or laugh at you at best ...

I see so many people getting really heated on forums for no reason , its not like you will reach accord with the random you are attempting to sway to your view ...

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone

Or you know people could just start actually giving zero fucks what some random weirdos on a website site think of them, body types etc ...

I find it illogical how twisted some people get over random strangers irrelevant comments/views they will never ever meet in their life get ...

if someone is being deliberately nasty calling them out is hardly going to make them think oh my I better behave as so so told me off .. they are just going ignore your view or laugh at you at best ...

I see so many people getting really heated on forums for no reason , its not like you will reach accord with the random you are attempting to sway to your view ...

"

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"

Ahhh but you see, the posturing is how they get attention. If they don’t loudly express their admiration for one group, at the expense of others, they’ll never stand out

No not always. I don’t agree with that. I think a lot use these words unintentionally. I’ll

Never forget a man said “real woman” once and he got piled on! He was quite new, he was so upset he left. And he’d apologised on the thread. "

It isn’t exclusive to newbies. There are folks who have been around here a while, and frequent the forums, that continue to trip over themselves to compliment a group while throwing the others under the bus.

Besides, maybe folks who are new should take some time to observe trends before jumping in two feet first to participate in a thread that:

a) has been done to death before

b) gets them soundly chastised for using phrasing that they (a full grown adult) should have the tact to word better

Intent vs impact and all that.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone

Or you know people could just start actually giving zero fucks what some random weirdos on a website site think of them, body types etc ...

I find it illogical how twisted some people get over random strangers irrelevant comments/views they will never ever meet in their life get ...

if someone is being deliberately nasty calling them out is hardly going to make them think oh my I better behave as so so told me off .. they are just going ignore your view or laugh at you at best ...

I see so many people getting really heated on forums for no reason , its not like you will reach accord with the random you are attempting to sway to your view ...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone

Or you know people could just start actually giving zero fucks what some random weirdos on a website site think of them, body types etc ...

I find it illogical how twisted some people get over random strangers irrelevant comments/views they will never ever meet in their life get ...

if someone is being deliberately nasty calling them out is hardly going to make them think oh my I better behave as so so told me off .. they are just going ignore your view or laugh at you at best ...

I see so many people getting really heated on forums for no reason , its not like you will reach accord with the random you are attempting to sway to your view ...

"

I think you're right I think sometimes calling someone out can be helpful if they didn't realise that their comment could be offensive however if someone is intending on being offensive it won't make air medifference whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel you on this.. You try been a bigger, fat, BHM on here Some of the abuse and generalisation I get its shocking.

It does at times (not for all) feel like a very niche place to have a profile on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone

Or you know people could just start actually giving zero fucks what some random weirdos on a website site think of them, body types etc ...

I find it illogical how twisted some people get over random strangers irrelevant comments/views they will never ever meet in their life get ...

if someone is being deliberately nasty calling them out is hardly going to make them think oh my I better behave as so so told me off .. they are just going ignore your view or laugh at you at best ...

I see so many people getting really heated on forums for no reason , its not like you will reach accord with the random you are attempting to sway to your view ...

"

You’re probably right! I probably need to learn to just step away from Fab when I’m getting irate! Right, I’m off to destress with some online shopping for my first visit to Cupid’s next week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs sorry people make you feel that way you shouldn’t be made to feel like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God reading this sad story

People are all definitely Different sizes and shapes I was a size 10 now 16 but always meet lovely people who Respect and some become friends just remember this is fabs lots of Keyboard Warriors just Ignore and block hope that helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same goes for size Queens who only want massive dicks inside them - cock size'ist

Some women state they only want a fella with a gym bod - dadbod'ist

Some women say they won't look at anyone under 5'11" - height'ist

Some women say they only want BBC - racist? Maybe not!

Pretty sure we all just have preferences. There's absolutely no need to shame the things that we'd rather not have though.

Let's all just get along and have a nice big orgy round mine!

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Welcome to the world of the internet male.

If we're not being compared to to Henry Caville/Tom Hardy/Current lead male in this months popular box set, we're judged on height, hair colour, lack of hair, too much body hair, cock too short or too thin, being too 'Alpha male' not being 'Alpha male' enough, being called a fat old man, dirty old man, being arrogant/cocky...or not confident enough and if we hold the wrong opinion for that particular day/group we fall in to the category of not being 'a real man' or just looked at as irrelevant and ignored - which you can't get upset about because you're supposed to Man Up!- although if i suggested that the OP should do the same, or Woman Up, i've little doubt the reaction would be decidedly different than if it was the other way round

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Having been on both sides of the spectrum during my time on Fab, (going from size 6 to 16) I think you’re overreacting, OP.

People are allowed to express a preference. If there are threads where being a BBW is celebrated, why do you take it personally?

There are people of all shapes and sizes here and preferences are so varied. Just because someone expresses a preference of a body type you’re not, just scroll on.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference! "

Yeah I don't get. There's some pretty shitty comments made. One can express their like for one body type, cock, pussy, colour, height without needing to express dislike of anything else. Seems to have got a lot worse lately too. We had people slagging off educated folks and intelligent folks recently... I mean wtf!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I have no prejudice, I’ll take the piss out of anyone in equal measure "

The Bernard manning school of comedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe just maybe slimmer women dont get the same volume of abuse we bigger women get by private message. I've had people message me with all sorts of comments from porky to this is fab swingers not fat swingers etc. So we are very much body shamed. I personally dont go into the slimmer women appreciation threads as ive no doubt the same happens there and what I dont know cant hurt me.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?"

Personally I don't think it's OK to call anyone a fat cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't on the other threads so have no comment to add there.

But if you choose to revel in the adoration of the fabbers who's preferences you match, and take compliments based solely on the physical, surely you have to be thick skinned enough and prepared for not matching others'.

But equally that's not a get-out-of-jail-free card or permission for posters to be assholes about their likes or dislikes, those don't exist... even on your fake fab birthday

Like others have said, follow whoever floats your boat and sail past the rest. There's plenty of room on the pond

Have a better evening folks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't on the other threads so have no comment to add there.

But if you choose to revel in the adoration of the fabbers who's preferences you match, and take compliments based solely on the physical, surely you have to be thick skinned enough and prepared for not matching others'.

But equally that's not a get-out-of-jail-free card or permission for posters to be assholes about their likes or dislikes, those don't exist... even on your fake fab birthday

Like others have said, follow whoever floats your boat and sail past the rest. There's plenty of room on the pond

Have a better evening folks x"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

But that might offend someone, being referred to as average if they think they are not.

It’s a no win situation, just best to talk about the weather, thst can’t surely offend anyone

Or you know people could just start actually giving zero fucks what some random weirdos on a website site think of them, body types etc ...

I find it illogical how twisted some people get over random strangers irrelevant comments/views they will never ever meet in their life get ...

if someone is being deliberately nasty calling them out is hardly going to make them think oh my I better behave as so so told me off .. they are just going ignore your view or laugh at you at best ...

I see so many people getting really heated on forums for no reason , its not like you will reach accord with the random you are attempting to sway to your view ...

"

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?"

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so?

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so? "

I’ve had many wanks, in various fashions, in my life so far but this is a new one!

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so? "

Absolutely yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cue all the “don’t worry they only say they like fat women because they’re desperate for a shag” type posts.

And not forgetting all the “hot pics is full of slim women, that proves that fat women are an afterthought” type posts.

Because honestly, all sizes get slagged off on Fab if you look for it - there is no happy medium (no pun intended!)"

What a load of crap.. Plenty larger women on hotpics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so?

I’ve had many wanks, in various fashions, in my life so far but this is a new one! "

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so?

Absolutely yes"

Thank fuck for that!! We don't get to enjoy many pleasures anymore do we? I'm glad there are still some left to enjoy

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty. "

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty. "

That's life lots of ignorant people in the world. . Of which I'm not one

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I think some men think it will reinforce their preference and make us fat birds believe them more... It makes me think that they don't believe what they are saying... I am fairly happy with my body these days and don't need anyone else to like it, telling me you do by being shitty about another body type is a massive red flag and I will call you out... And then cut you off

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty "

Of course they aren't. The good ones just don't tend to make unsolicited comments and mostly mind their own business so it's the shitty ones that stand out.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

body shaming i can honestly something thats never entered my head,, and never will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty

Of course they aren't. The good ones just don't tend to make unsolicited comments and mostly mind their own business so it's the shitty ones that stand out. "

This is my thinking

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!"

Yep size 14 here which is apparently the UK average.

I was chatting to a (large) guy who kept asking am I slim or large. He just couldn't understand I was neither and kept asking for a full body pic. It's so difficult to take a flattering full body selfie so I had none. He insisted it was a natural request and got pushy.

Block. Move on...

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I think it’s the same for for other shapes and sizes as well. They are all commented on at various times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s the same for for other shapes and sizes as well. They are all commented on at various times. But remember that I love anal sex "

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"I think it’s the same for for other shapes and sizes as well. They are all commented on at various times. But remember that I love anal sex

"

I’m going to put you across my knee!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t ask what size or shape she is, I asked “is she sexy?”

Sexy is a state of mind, not a body shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with slim birds i get to do stand up sex for longer and my personal fave the upside down 71

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body shaming is horrible, i hope you feel better soon OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one should be body shaming no matter what size/shape etc

I’ve seen a woman’s profile who seems to delight in shaming any women who are perceived as bigger who end up on page one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you're enjoying your online shopping Duchess. You've worked hard to become slim, don't blame you for being pissed off when people body shame.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've been insulted as a slim person, an average person and a fat person, since I was a child.

If I were someone who gave a shit I might be offended; but I'm not.

Ignore them and make a note on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I be offended that all Y'all aren't being offended enough?

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By *ambertMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think you are all gloriously stunning.

I feel like the pig who turned up to a beauty contest by mistake. Its all so intimidating

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Can I be offended that all Y'all aren't being offended enough?

"

You go for it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Can I be offended that all Y'all aren't being offended enough?

"

I'm offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it’s just me - could be - but do some people take these forums a teeny tad too seriously ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t ask what size or shape she is, I asked “is she sexy?”

Sexy is a state of mind, not a body shape. "

Hallelujah

Say it again please for those at the back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one should be body shaming no matter what size/shape etc

I’ve seen a woman’s profile who seems to delight in shaming any women who are perceived as bigger who end up on page one "

The irony being just how many must like those people for them to get to page 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree OP but unfortunately people are nobheads and always will be

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t ask what size or shape she is, I asked “is she sexy?”

Sexy is a state of mind, not a body shape.

Hallelujah

Say it again please for those at the back "

I’ll pass some flyers out at the end.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Slim men get it too. We get a few PMs that are critical or rude about Mr KCs slim-ness.

I'm a fatty.

We very much would just like everyone to be nice about other people's bodies

Exactly, it’s not that difficult!

Ahhh but you see, the posturing is how they get attention. If they don’t loudly express their admiration for one group, at the expense of others, they’ll never stand out

No not always. I don’t agree with that. I think a lot use these words unintentionally. I’ll

Never forget a man said “real woman” once and he got piled on! He was quite new, he was so upset he left. And he’d apologised on the thread.

He couldn’t have been a ‘real man’ "

I don't like that "real man" term either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t ask what size or shape she is, I asked “is she sexy?”

Sexy is a state of mind, not a body shape.

Hallelujah

Say it again please for those at the back

I’ll pass some flyers out at the end. "

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Maybe it’s just me - could be - but do some people take these forums a teeny tad too seriously ? "

Swingin' seemingly is a very serious humourless business

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Welcome to the world of the internet male.

If we're not being compared to to Henry Caville/Tom Hardy/Current lead male in this months popular box set, we're judged on height, hair colour, lack of hair, too much body hair, cock too short or too thin, being too 'Alpha male' not being 'Alpha male' enough, being called a fat old man, dirty old man, being arrogant/cocky...or not confident enough and if we hold the wrong opinion for that particular day/group we fall in to the category of not being 'a real man' or just looked at as irrelevant and ignored - which you can't get upset about because you're supposed to Man Up!- although if i suggested that the OP should do the same, or Woman Up, i've little doubt the reaction would be decidedly different than if it was the other way round

"

Dude step away from the internet/societal Koolaid. That stuff is pure poison. Easy for me to say as a Maverick but the more fucks you give about what other irrelevant people think about you, the less time you spend actually looking after yourself and being your own personal cheerleader. It's better if we focus on what we like and can control about ourselves for our own mental health. You are enough for yourself!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so? "

I mean I've been told my cunt is fat so.......um more cushion for the pushing? I mean if it gets you off.....who are we to intervene in your..um..self pleasure.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"It serves as a filter though. "

So does "no lard arses", that's still hurtful and not acceptable.

Some of us like an areo frame, so long as it's healthy (pro ana isn't sexy)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so?

I mean I've been told my cunt is fat so.......um more cushion for the pushing? I mean if it gets you off.....who are we to intervene in your..um..self pleasure."

I don't know if crying while I'm doing it is a sign of pleasure

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Having been on both sides of the spectrum during my time on Fab, (going from size 6 to 16) I think you’re overreacting, OP.

People are allowed to express a preference. If there are threads where being a BBW is celebrated, why do you take it personally?

There are people of all shapes and sizes here and preferences are so varied. Just because someone expresses a preference of a body type you’re not, just scroll on. "

Definitely have to scroll on many times on the internet...many times I just disengage and go play Farmville. For my own sanity. I've been desired by men for being a size 6 and being a size 20. I'm not really into a lot of parameters for men. I've been attracted to all physically different kinds of men. I care more if you are a decent, stable and secure person.

I understand if people have been abused and bullying for their appearance. I was in primary school. Once I got to secondary school I realised, you just have to find your tribe of people and lovers who accept you as you are.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference!

Yeah I don't get. There's some pretty shitty comments made. One can express their like for one body type, cock, pussy, colour, height without needing to express dislike of anything else. Seems to have got a lot worse lately too. We had people slagging off educated folks and intelligent folks recently... I mean wtf! "

Oh I've had that before! I went on a date and a man told me I was middle class with a sneer. I said what on earth do you mean? He said well you are not proper working class like me and you probably wouldn't normally date someone like me.......I spent most of my time growing up with my Dad and he got on with the highest and the lowest in the land and showed them all respect.

I don't tell people now about my educational background off the bat anymore....I'm an island girl..I don't care if I'm sitting on the beach with a rasta man who left school at 12 or some Oxford professor world expert in their field....we are all half naked and wet and sandy and looking like a drowned rat....Lol! Swimwuits are a great leveller...as well as nakedness...

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Or maybe just maybe slimmer women dont get the same volume of abuse we bigger women get by private message. I've had people message me with all sorts of comments from porky to this is fab swingers not fat swingers etc. So we are very much body shamed. I personally dont go into the slimmer women appreciation threads as ive no doubt the same happens there and what I dont know cant hurt me."

Hugs..I've been "thin" and "fat". So I've had both bouts of insecurity and feeling um..unwanted....but at the same time I've been desired at both sizes so people trying to make anyone inferior are talking shite.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Wasn't on the other threads so have no comment to add there.

But if you choose to revel in the adoration of the fabbers who's preferences you match, and take compliments based solely on the physical, surely you have to be thick skinned enough and prepared for not matching others'.

But equally that's not a get-out-of-jail-free card or permission for posters to be assholes about their likes or dislikes, those don't exist... even on your fake fab birthday

Like others have said, follow whoever floats your boat and sail past the rest. There's plenty of room on the pond

Have a better evening folks x"

Noted and well said.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty "

Meh I went to therapy. Now I understand why they are shitty and I also understand that I don't need to stick around or internalise their shit...I have enough of my own shit to deal with...and I prefer myself when I'm not shitty to other people!!

People are guaranteed in life to do shit to upset you ( intentionally or unintentially), since you can't control other people, you have to control how you deal with it.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Slim

Curvy

BBW

I wanna know where the bang average appreciation threads are!!!

I'd say that was pretty average.

Welcome to the gang!!

Yep size 14 here which is apparently the UK average.

I was chatting to a (large) guy who kept asking am I slim or large. He just couldn't understand I was neither and kept asking for a full body pic. It's so difficult to take a flattering full body selfie so I had none. He insisted it was a natural request and got pushy.

Block. Move on..."

I hate pushy...but I just give them my inches and centimetres and they can get their tape measure out. lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Nothing wrong with slim birds i get to do stand up sex for longer and my personal fave the upside down 71"

"Slim bird" Instantly thought of chicken and a couple of poussins I have in the freezer from work....sorry.

I doubt very much I would be able to do and upside-down 71/17 even if I was slim...I avoid the headstand bit in yoga...my vertebrae got unhappy once I reached 40. As for standing, I am on my feet for 7.5 hours at my job...I bet my legs are stronger than most men. I can do 100 squats really easy for reference plus the yoga bends.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"No one should be body shaming no matter what size/shape etc

I’ve seen a woman’s profile who seems to delight in shaming any women who are perceived as bigger who end up on page one "

RED FLAG and creepy...

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By *nked and Ms InkedCouple
over a year ago

nr wrexham


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty. "

I have been sent private messages with edited images of mine to tell me how fat I am (when I was slimmer) as the mirror obviously lies if I think I look good, another to tell me I’m a fat ugly cunt, told I can’t call myself curvy as I’m smaller than a certain size, now I just say I’m average. I just don’t get why people feel the need to body shame. Appreciation threads shouldn’t be used to put anyone else down.

People are indeed shitty (obviously not all) and they make it a shitty place for the people they troll and bully/insult xx

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

I have been sent private messages with edited images of mine to tell me how fat I am (when I was slimmer) as the mirror obviously lies if I think I look good, another to tell me I’m a fat ugly cunt, told I can’t call myself curvy as I’m smaller than a certain size, now I just say I’m average. I just don’t get why people feel the need to body shame. Appreciation threads shouldn’t be used to put anyone else down.

People are indeed shitty (obviously not all) and they make it a shitty place for the people they troll and bully/insult xx"

That's shameful. No words

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By *nked and Ms InkedCouple
over a year ago

nr wrexham


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty

Meh I went to therapy. Now I understand why they are shitty and I also understand that I don't need to stick around or internalise their shit...I have enough of my own shit to deal with...and I prefer myself when I'm not shitty to other people!!

People are guaranteed in life to do shit to upset you ( intentionally or unintentially), since you can't control other people, you have to control how you deal with it."

I just say “aw thanks” now, if people feel the need to message me to call me fat. More a reflection of them, and not of me. If they don’t get a reaction, they soon get bored and move on. I wouldn’t dream of body shaming anyone, but obviously some people have the need to, for whatever agenda they have, and that’s their issue. I don’t have to give them my time or apologise for offending their eyes, lol xx

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I think you are all gloriously stunning.

I feel like the pig who turned up to a beauty contest by mistake. Its all so intimidating "

Let's not refer to ourselves as pigs....unless that's some kind of pleasing kink that I'm not aware of.

As far as I can tell you look fine as you are. If you want to do bodybuilding , that's for yourself and comes with it's own nasty assumptions make about you for building your body. I have a friend who is a trainer and too many people assume he's a man-whore with no brain cells. And random women/men sexually proposition him in public.....he's a businessman, a father and a husband and does not need that un-boundaried behaviour around his family.

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By *nked and Ms InkedCouple
over a year ago

nr wrexham


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

I have been sent private messages with edited images of mine to tell me how fat I am (when I was slimmer) as the mirror obviously lies if I think I look good, another to tell me I’m a fat ugly cunt, told I can’t call myself curvy as I’m smaller than a certain size, now I just say I’m average. I just don’t get why people feel the need to body shame. Appreciation threads shouldn’t be used to put anyone else down.

People are indeed shitty (obviously not all) and they make it a shitty place for the people they troll and bully/insult xx

That's shameful. No words "

Just the way it is, some people get pleasure in trying to shame or hurt others, but I don’t get angry anymore. It obviously still hurts, at times, but that’s only if I’m not in a good head space. They don’t know me, I don’t know them, so why should they matter? In reality, they don’t xx

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Maybe it’s just me - could be - but do some people take these forums a teeny tad too seriously ? "

I'm half-serious because I'm crazy.

I take mental health really serious because I don't think it should get to the hospital, jail or unalive stage.

I'm not so serious because if I'm too serious over randoms on the internet..id be taking a trip to the secure psych ward myself.

It's a fine balance.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Maybe it’s just me - could be - but do some people take these forums a teeny tad too seriously ?

Swingin' seemingly is a very serious humourless business "

I mean..sex and other people having sex with your partner is a very vulnerable state to be in, physically and psychologically so....... We are trying to come out intact...physically and psychologically in these interactions.

No one wants to be traumatised by someone who doesn't take your boundaries and triggers and safewords seriously.

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington


"Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference! "
take no notice of the jealous people on here,,, there is a type of person on here for everyone,,, i know a few big ladies but do not find them sexually attractive,,, your figure and body shape is perfect,,,

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"It serves as a filter though.

So does "no lard arses", that's still hurtful and not acceptable.

Some of us like an areo frame, so long as it's healthy (pro ana isn't sexy)"

I don't mention people's weight at all, especially in a public forum. I know people who have eating disorders and it's not a joke. I can't imagine fighting an eating disorder and then being with a partner who tells you that you aren't sexy anymore. People are incredibly sensitive about their bodies especially if they have a health condition that interferes with it.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Is it OK if I call a skinny person a fat cunt?

Is it ok to look in the mirror and call yourself a fat cunt?

Then again

And again

and again

And start wanking while you continue to do so?

I mean I've been told my cunt is fat so.......um more cushion for the pushing? I mean if it gets you off.....who are we to intervene in your..um..self pleasure.

I don't know if crying while I'm doing it is a sign of pleasure "

That's one for the psycho-sexual therapist mate....If I cry before during and after any sex act, it's tears of joy or overflowing emotions in a good way....

I don't do "bad sex"

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

I have been sent private messages with edited images of mine to tell me how fat I am (when I was slimmer) as the mirror obviously lies if I think I look good, another to tell me I’m a fat ugly cunt, told I can’t call myself curvy as I’m smaller than a certain size, now I just say I’m average. I just don’t get why people feel the need to body shame. Appreciation threads shouldn’t be used to put anyone else down.

People are indeed shitty (obviously not all) and they make it a shitty place for the people they troll and bully/insult xx"

omg! That's horrible...I hope you blocked and reported them. I get shammed for my low libido on here but I don't give a rat's arse. It's the only place I can talk about sex without worrying about triggering people with unresolved sexual trauma.

You don't need their shitty opinions in your life. They are sociopaths!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty

Meh I went to therapy. Now I understand why they are shitty and I also understand that I don't need to stick around or internalise their shit...I have enough of my own shit to deal with...and I prefer myself when I'm not shitty to other people!!

People are guaranteed in life to do shit to upset you ( intentionally or unintentially), since you can't control other people, you have to control how you deal with it.

I just say “aw thanks” now, if people feel the need to message me to call me fat. More a reflection of them, and not of me. If they don’t get a reaction, they soon get bored and move on. I wouldn’t dream of body shaming anyone, but obviously some people have the need to, for whatever agenda they have, and that’s their issue. I don’t have to give them my time or apologise for offending their eyes, lol xx "

For the record, woman to woman, your body looks good to me!! Those people might have been delusional as well as sociopathic.

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By *nked and Ms InkedCouple
over a year ago

nr wrexham


"It serves as a filter though.

So does "no lard arses", that's still hurtful and not acceptable.

Some of us like an areo frame, so long as it's healthy (pro ana isn't sexy)

I don't mention people's weight at all, especially in a public forum. I know people who have eating disorders and it's not a joke. I can't imagine fighting an eating disorder and then being with a partner who tells you that you aren't sexy anymore. People are incredibly sensitive about their bodies especially if they have a health condition that interferes with it."

I battled an ED for years, I was obsessed with exercising, my whole body system (even down to my hair) was affected, threatened with hospitalisation for NG feeds, had to have MH input, so when people (not just on here) feel the need to call me fat, they don’t know the potential damage they can cause. The amount of times I’ve considered letting my “friend” back into my life, so I can achieve the “ideal” people seem to demand isn’t funny, but luckily I ignore my head, and focus on the fact that I’m loved by those who actually matter. I can’t let myself become ill again, I have children who need me, and although I still have BD issues, and can hate my figure as much as some obviously do, I’m so much more than a body, and it’s sad that some people feel the need to elevate themselves at the expense of others. Just why? What does it actually achieve? xx

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By *nked and Ms InkedCouple
over a year ago

nr wrexham


"Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference! "

Indeed, and I’m sorry that you’ve been made to feel that way. Hugs xx

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty

Meh I went to therapy. Now I understand why they are shitty and I also understand that I don't need to stick around or internalise their shit...I have enough of my own shit to deal with...and I prefer myself when I'm not shitty to other people!!

People are guaranteed in life to do shit to upset you ( intentionally or unintentially), since you can't control other people, you have to control how you deal with it.

I just say “aw thanks” now, if people feel the need to message me to call me fat. More a reflection of them, and not of me. If they don’t get a reaction, they soon get bored and move on. I wouldn’t dream of body shaming anyone, but obviously some people have the need to, for whatever agenda they have, and that’s their issue. I don’t have to give them my time or apologise for offending their eyes, lol xx

For the record, woman to woman, your body looks good to me!! Those people might have been delusional as well as sociopathic. "

Love your comments / contributions.. Like fresh air.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

I also call it out when I can, body shaming is my pet hate... I might well not be everyone's cuppa tea and I'm totally OK with that..scroll right past...

But to shame a person for whatever size they are isn't necessary or cool, and when yoi receive messages to tell you you look like a bag of bones, my ribs are too sticky outty etc is just crap....

It seems to be totally lost on some that whatever size you are it does not mean you are confident or thick skinned and mean comments can hurt and stick in the brain.

It used to bother me, now I try and focus on the nicer comments and call out any body shaming where I see it.

Have to say though, it seems to be women shaming and labelling women that's way worse than the men from what I've seen xx

A little bit of kindness goes such a long way..

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

theres no need to shame anybody its not nice no need for it,, i can only think they are in bad place them selves

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"It serves as a filter though.

So does "no lard arses", that's still hurtful and not acceptable.

Some of us like an areo frame, so long as it's healthy (pro ana isn't sexy)

I don't mention people's weight at all, especially in a public forum. I know people who have eating disorders and it's not a joke. I can't imagine fighting an eating disorder and then being with a partner who tells you that you aren't sexy anymore. People are incredibly sensitive about their bodies especially if they have a health condition that interferes with it.

I battled an ED for years, I was obsessed with exercising, my whole body system (even down to my hair) was affected, threatened with hospitalisation for NG feeds, had to have MH input, so when people (not just on here) feel the need to call me fat, they don’t know the potential damage they can cause. The amount of times I’ve considered letting my “friend” back into my life, so I can achieve the “ideal” people seem to demand isn’t funny, but luckily I ignore my head, and focus on the fact that I’m loved by those who actually matter. I can’t let myself become ill again, I have children who need me, and although I still have BD issues, and can hate my figure as much as some obviously do, I’m so much more than a body, and it’s sad that some people feel the need to elevate themselves at the expense of others. Just why? What does it actually achieve? xx"

Hugs.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I've been everything from a size 6 to a 16 and I was body shamed at every size. People are shitty.

They really can be. I'm trying to keep hold of the thought that they aren't all shitty

Meh I went to therapy. Now I understand why they are shitty and I also understand that I don't need to stick around or internalise their shit...I have enough of my own shit to deal with...and I prefer myself when I'm not shitty to other people!!

People are guaranteed in life to do shit to upset you ( intentionally or unintentially), since you can't control other people, you have to control how you deal with it.

I just say “aw thanks” now, if people feel the need to message me to call me fat. More a reflection of them, and not of me. If they don’t get a reaction, they soon get bored and move on. I wouldn’t dream of body shaming anyone, but obviously some people have the need to, for whatever agenda they have, and that’s their issue. I don’t have to give them my time or apologise for offending their eyes, lol xx

For the record, woman to woman, your body looks good to me!! Those people might have been delusional as well as sociopathic.

Love your comments / contributions.. Like fresh air. "

Noted. I'm a weirdo. Lovable but weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Calm down love, if you get anymore worked up you'll fly away in a stiff breeze.

I'm joking everyone, relax.

It might require more of a gust."

This isn't funny?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there really a need for this?? The man apologised.

It’s not even about that, it happens consistently hence my mention of preference and BBW appreciation threads!

It’s fab. People always end up offending someone, often unintentionally. Try not to let it get to you "

Openly insulting a specific body type isn't 'unintentional'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on both sides of the spectrum during my time on Fab, (going from size 6 to 16) I think you’re overreacting, OP.

People are allowed to express a preference. If there are threads where being a BBW is celebrated, why do you take it personally?

There are people of all shapes and sizes here and preferences are so varied. Just because someone expresses a preference of a body type you’re not, just scroll on. "

This isn't the issue though.

The issue is when people say nasty things about slimmer women while praising bbws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also call it out when I can, body shaming is my pet hate... I might well not be everyone's cuppa tea and I'm totally OK with that..scroll right past...

But to shame a person for whatever size they are isn't necessary or cool, and when yoi receive messages to tell you you look like a bag of bones, my ribs are too sticky outty etc is just crap....

It seems to be totally lost on some that whatever size you are it does not mean you are confident or thick skinned and mean comments can hurt and stick in the brain.

It used to bother me, now I try and focus on the nicer comments and call out any body shaming where I see it.

Have to say though, it seems to be women shaming and labelling women that's way worse than the men from what I've seen xx

A little bit of kindness goes such a long way.. "

Just the women to be kind? Tbf the comments I see about "real women" and stick insects are from men. Every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also call it out when I can, body shaming is my pet hate... I might well not be everyone's cuppa tea and I'm totally OK with that..scroll right past...

But to shame a person for whatever size they are isn't necessary or cool, and when yoi receive messages to tell you you look like a bag of bones, my ribs are too sticky outty etc is just crap....

It seems to be totally lost on some that whatever size you are it does not mean you are confident or thick skinned and mean comments can hurt and stick in the brain.

It used to bother me, now I try and focus on the nicer comments and call out any body shaming where I see it.

Have to say though, it seems to be women shaming and labelling women that's way worse than the men from what I've seen xx

A little bit of kindness goes such a long way..

Just the women to be kind? Tbf the comments I see about "real women" and stick insects are from men. Every time. "

Every single time, without fail

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread "

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies. "

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then "

You do that

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that"

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off "

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments. "

I’ve seen women on here and heard women I know in real life make all sorts of horrible comments about other women, they’re probably just more aware of how nasty it is so they are more careful with it

Taking an issue both genders are guilty of and placing all the blame on one is a bash to me. And if it was the other way around there would already be 175 posts here going mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off "

I disagreed with a woman who said that negative comments about slim women came from other women. In my experience as a woman, they come from (some) men. If you see that as man bashing - up to you. On the flip side, many guys here are very complimentary womens' bodies of every shape and size. Although - you're not.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It went from only men to (some) men. I’ll take that, best you can expect on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments.

I’ve seen women on here and heard women I know in real life make all sorts of horrible comments about other women, they’re probably just more aware of how nasty it is so they are more careful with it

Taking an issue both genders are guilty of and placing all the blame on one is a bash to me. And if it was the other way around there would already be 175 posts here going mad. "

Ok and that's your experience which is clearly different to mine

Not sure why you're trying to start an argue just because I have seen and read different things to you

Especially when you're very open about your distain toward 'bbw'/larger women

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich

Never really understood this 'real women' thing. We're all real. Big turn off if someone thinks they need to put others (bodytypes) down to compliment me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments.

I’ve seen women on here and heard women I know in real life make all sorts of horrible comments about other women, they’re probably just more aware of how nasty it is so they are more careful with it

Taking an issue both genders are guilty of and placing all the blame on one is a bash to me. And if it was the other way around there would already be 175 posts here going mad.

Ok and that's your experience which is clearly different to mine

Not sure why you're trying to start an argue just because I have seen and read different things to you

Especially when you're very open about your distain toward 'bbw'/larger women "

It's ironic isn't it? It's a "nice thread" because it's about slim women.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments.

I’ve seen women on here and heard women I know in real life make all sorts of horrible comments about other women, they’re probably just more aware of how nasty it is so they are more careful with it

Taking an issue both genders are guilty of and placing all the blame on one is a bash to me. And if it was the other way around there would already be 175 posts here going mad.

Ok and that's your experience which is clearly different to mine

Not sure why you're trying to start an argue just because I have seen and read different things to you

Especially when you're very open about your distain toward 'bbw'/larger women "

Pointing it out is arguing? Fair enough

We can agree to disagree on the rest. I’ve no idea who you are to even base it off

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments.

I’ve seen women on here and heard women I know in real life make all sorts of horrible comments about other women, they’re probably just more aware of how nasty it is so they are more careful with it

Taking an issue both genders are guilty of and placing all the blame on one is a bash to me. And if it was the other way around there would already be 175 posts here going mad.

Ok and that's your experience which is clearly different to mine

Not sure why you're trying to start an argue just because I have seen and read different things to you

Especially when you're very open about your distain toward 'bbw'/larger women

It's ironic isn't it? It's a "nice thread" because it's about slim women. "

It’s a nice thread because it’s calling out body shaming

It turned bad because some wanted place all the blame on one gender

But since you corrected it, then fair enough

Slim women aren’t my type, but that’s no reason to say they aren’t real

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over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments.

I’ve seen women on here and heard women I know in real life make all sorts of horrible comments about other women, they’re probably just more aware of how nasty it is so they are more careful with it

Taking an issue both genders are guilty of and placing all the blame on one is a bash to me. And if it was the other way around there would already be 175 posts here going mad.

Ok and that's your experience which is clearly different to mine

Not sure why you're trying to start an argue just because I have seen and read different things to you

Especially when you're very open about your distain toward 'bbw'/larger women "

My grammatical mistakes here are atrocious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body shaming, kink shaming, hobby shaming, opinion shaming. All human life is here.

I don’t think think skinny women get it worse than many other demographics (ask a fat woman), but it stands to reason that a process of confirmation bias will mean slim people see the comments that hurt them, more than the comments that hurt gay people or trans people or fat people or people into cuckolding etc etc etc. which is fair and correct of course, but I bet there’s not a profile on here that hasn’t seen some targeting of part of their appearance or identity.

I live life on the easiest difficulty setting, straight white affluent educated male, and I’ve been shamed for having a dad bod, not being hench, not having a mainly hairy chest, having a dimple once!

Haters gonna hate, best anyone can do is not throw it back and keep the wheel turning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly? We're perhaps using different part of the forums but it's not a comment I see frequently. Have seen it though but as with most things on here IDGAF. If someone doesn't class me as a real woman then I wouldn't be interested in them anyway.

I find these comments are usually thrown around by guys who are trying to appeal to the majority of the female posters on a thread with a particular body type. Newsflash.....chances are you're still not getting a ride pal

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Body shaming, kink shaming, hobby shaming, opinion shaming. All human life is here.

I don’t think think skinny women get it worse than many other demographics (ask a fat woman), but it stands to reason that a process of confirmation bias will mean slim people see the comments that hurt them, more than the comments that hurt gay people or trans people or fat people or people into cuckolding etc etc etc. which is fair and correct of course, but I bet there’s not a profile on here that hasn’t seen some targeting of part of their appearance or identity.

I live life on the easiest difficulty setting, straight white affluent educated male, and I’ve been shamed for having a dad bod, not being hench, not having a mainly hairy chest, having a dimple once!

Haters gonna hate, best anyone can do is not throw it back and keep the wheel turning"

Also call it out when you see it. Some people don’t even realise how a compliment aimed at someone can offended someone else

Especially with this kinda comment

I try not to assign malice where stupidity is enough

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By *aleforfun22Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Why do we live in this horrible world of bullying people cause how they look.each to there own live and let live.to the bullies look in the mirror take a look at yourself you are no better than anyone else. If everyone could get on with each other we would have no bullying no fighting no stabbings no shootings.and maybe just maybe a safer enjoyable country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering how long this would take to morph into a general man bash thread

Men are the ones who make the comments about womens' bodies and this is a thread about womens' bodies.

Is it just men? I’ll need to inform some of the women I’ve seen and know that make those comments about their gender change then

You do that

That’s exactly what I mean. Was a nice thread, then the usual turn it into a thinly veiled man bash. Whatever gets you lot off

It's not turned into a man bashing thread.

Tbf I've only seen men making those kind of comments.

I’ve seen women on here and heard women I know in real life make all sorts of horrible comments about other women, they’re probably just more aware of how nasty it is so they are more careful with it

Taking an issue both genders are guilty of and placing all the blame on one is a bash to me. And if it was the other way around there would already be 175 posts here going mad.

Ok and that's your experience which is clearly different to mine

Not sure why you're trying to start an argue just because I have seen and read different things to you

Especially when you're very open about your distain toward 'bbw'/larger women

It's ironic isn't it? It's a "nice thread" because it's about slim women.

It’s a nice thread because it’s calling out body shaming

It turned bad because some wanted place all the blame on one gender

But since you corrected it, then fair enough

Slim women aren’t my type, but that’s no reason to say they aren’t real "

Another woman put all the blame on one gender. I disagreed - why am I getting grief and not her?

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By *ast FredyMan
over a year ago

southend on sea

You look great to me. My preference is women of your body shape & size, don’t worry about what people say ??

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Calling out anyone because of body size is wrong and most people have a preference though ?? and reading most of the nasty comments about say "Meghan" are from women and so no wonder men get away with bad behaviour ??

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west


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Just the women to be kind? Tbf the comments I see about "real women" and stick insects are from men. Every time. "

No, everyone can be kind, it doesn't take much... and yep, the stick insect and boney are often men but I've seen a lot of women say that they are real women because of their curves.

Point taken though, everyone should be kinder xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Just the women to be kind? Tbf the comments I see about "real women" and stick insects are from men. Every time.

No, everyone can be kind, it doesn't take much... and yep, the stick insect and boney are often men but I've seen a lot of women say that they are real women because of their curves.

Point taken though, everyone should be kinder xx "

Should everyone be kinder and what does being kinder look like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Just the women to be kind? Tbf the comments I see about "real women" and stick insects are from men. Every time.

No, everyone can be kind, it doesn't take much... and yep, the stick insect and boney are often men but I've seen a lot of women say that they are real women because of their curves.

Point taken though, everyone should be kinder xx

Should everyone be kinder and what does being kinder look like? "

Egg shaped with a crappy toy inside.

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted


"Well then it's been called out surely we shouldn't all just jump on someone for saying the wrong word if it's been called out and the person has apologised there's no need for any of this. "

I didn't read this as the OP jumping on someone. It was referring to an incident without naming anyone and expressing a general irritation. Til the message gets through, there's absolutely a need for it when body shaming of all size types happens so often.

For a group of people living an alternative lifestyle, we really should be less openly judgmental and prejudiced, whatever our personal preferences. There's just no need to say some things is there?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Not a day goes by on here that I don’t see comments body shaming slim women.

Whether it’s being referred too as a stick insect or a bag of bones or that we are all skin and bones. And it’s truly sad that only occasionally do people even call them out on their comments.

And can we ditch the term ‘real women’ for describing larger body sizes too, I’m a real woman too actually!

You don’t need to put another body type down to express a preference! "

I see people get called out for this all the time

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