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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " It's a throw away cliché. Analysed properly it'd only come from the mouth of someone whose aim is to manipulate/ who thrives on their own toxic behaviour/ has such low self esteem or ability to trust that they put others to the test. My level of patience varies according to the circumstances and the people. I'm very patient but I know when not to get involved with certain personalities. I don't think I have a 'worst' side. I run the whole gammut of emotions. Just like anyone else. I've never killed anyone. ( and told about it ) | |||
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"I always took it to mean when I'm projectile losing liquids from both ends, my hair looks like it ain't seen a brush for weeks or I'm rocking in a corner blowing snot bubbles with eyes so puffy from crying they barely open. " Is it wrong to get a hardon at this description?? Asking for a friend | |||
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"If guys saw me at my worst, Jesus Christ I'd be alone forever. Oh wait..." I bet you’re secretly awesome you just pretend to be grumpy, antisocial, whinging, moody, cantankerous, short fused, ill tempered and blunt!! | |||
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"If guys saw me at my worst, Jesus Christ I'd be alone forever. Oh wait... I bet you’re secretly awesome you just pretend to be grumpy, antisocial, whinging, moody, cantankerous, short fused, ill tempered and blunt!! You know me so well " I can see right through you xx you don’t fool me - you’re secretly awesome, fun, stunningly attractive, super smart and just pretend to be all of the other stuff to put the knuckle draggers off - sadly won’t work as they cant read xxx | |||
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"If guys saw me at my worst, Jesus Christ I'd be alone forever. Oh wait... I bet you’re secretly awesome you just pretend to be grumpy, antisocial, whinging, moody, cantankerous, short fused, ill tempered and blunt!! You know me so well I can see right through you xx you don’t fool me - you’re secretly awesome, fun, stunningly attractive, super smart and just pretend to be all of the other stuff to put the knuckle draggers off - sadly won’t work as they cant read xxx " I retract my previous statement. | |||
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"If guys saw me at my worst, Jesus Christ I'd be alone forever. Oh wait... I bet you’re secretly awesome you just pretend to be grumpy, antisocial, whinging, moody, cantankerous, short fused, ill tempered and blunt!! You know me so well I can see right through you xx you don’t fool me - you’re secretly awesome, fun, stunningly attractive, super smart and just pretend to be all of the other stuff to put the knuckle draggers off - sadly won’t work as they cant read xxx I retract my previous statement. " More research required | |||
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"I always took it to mean when I'm projectile losing liquids from both ends, my hair looks like it ain't seen a brush for weeks or I'm rocking in a corner blowing snot bubbles with eyes so puffy from crying they barely open. " Ah, you mean Mondays…! X | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " Life's too short for all that drama. Why would you be your worst around people or towards people and expect them to hang around waiting for a crumb of decency. Nope. Don't get it. | |||
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"I push every one away at my worst im not even sure i know im doing it until the regrets hit after " I do this too. More spikes than a hedgehog at times. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " Depends on what worst is and how much of the 'best' someone has shown you. I have patience for someone who has issues and is working on them as long as they're honest and respectful of me. I have no patience for bullshit or outright toxicity. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " I'm going to change this Meli to ....... Friends stick by each other through the good and the bad. If it means that im okay with it. Worded the way it is using 'judgements' like 'deserve' ..... it gives off a totally different vibe. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " Would you put up with a demanding selfish entitled person? I have my self respect and treat others how I expect to be treated. If a woman expects me to put up with her bad behaviour is a recording flag. It shows they have no respect and have no consideration for anyone but themselves. I would immediately walk away. | |||
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"If guys saw me at my worst, Jesus Christ I'd be alone forever. Oh wait..." Meh. You just need to hug it out. I still have body armour somewhere… | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? I'm going to change this Meli to ....... Friends stick by each other through the good and the bad. If it means that im okay with it. Worded the way it is using 'judgements' like 'deserve' ..... it gives off a totally different vibe. " Hello Crumpster. I deliberately left it vague, gave no indications as to my feelings on the expression because I was curious as to how folk would respond; the assumption being that their bias would colour their responses (no shit Sherlock). A rather interesting aside - I've had friends ask if I'm okay, check in with me etc. Deserve is very much a particular vibe isn't it? | |||
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"Yeah, a certain someone loved that saying. So turns out she was nuts. Bit of a "oh fuck me" saying nowadays. " You came. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? I'm going to change this Meli to ....... Friends stick by each other through the good and the bad. If it means that im okay with it. Worded the way it is using 'judgements' like 'deserve' ..... it gives off a totally different vibe. Hello Crumpster. I deliberately left it vague, gave no indications as to my feelings on the expression because I was curious as to how folk would respond; the assumption being that their bias would colour their responses (no shit Sherlock). A rather interesting aside - I've had friends ask if I'm okay, check in with me etc. Deserve is very much a particular vibe isn't it? " I just got a gooey that you used Crumpster | |||
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"Having handled you in some of the above scenarios op I think it takes a lot of commitment and dedication to a friendship/relationship but yes, I agree with the sentiments 100%." Aherm. Above scenarios. Aherm. Actually, to be fair you've been there for me through some pretty dark times, maybe not murder... (et vice versa) and I do love and value you a lot. Dedication and commitment is true - but equally if people don't want to/can't be for whatever reason, can you hold that against them? | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? I'm going to change this Meli to ....... Friends stick by each other through the good and the bad. If it means that im okay with it. Worded the way it is using 'judgements' like 'deserve' ..... it gives off a totally different vibe. Hello Crumpster. I deliberately left it vague, gave no indications as to my feelings on the expression because I was curious as to how folk would respond; the assumption being that their bias would colour their responses (no shit Sherlock). A rather interesting aside - I've had friends ask if I'm okay, check in with me etc. Deserve is very much a particular vibe isn't it? " Hello Mempster! Twas clear to me you were giving rein ..... | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? I'm going to change this Meli to ....... Friends stick by each other through the good and the bad. If it means that im okay with it. Worded the way it is using 'judgements' like 'deserve' ..... it gives off a totally different vibe. Hello Crumpster. I deliberately left it vague, gave no indications as to my feelings on the expression because I was curious as to how folk would respond; the assumption being that their bias would colour their responses (no shit Sherlock). A rather interesting aside - I've had friends ask if I'm okay, check in with me etc. Deserve is very much a particular vibe isn't it? I just got a gooey that you used Crumpster " It's stolen fruit ! | |||
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"I have a limited amount of patience. I can understand people's behaviour, and will accept it if they prefix with it. Like, if someone has been honest with me and told me they're dealing with whatever and they blow up or act out I'll give them some room or offer some help processing or just listening, yet I'll still remind them that their behaviour was unnecessary or out of order. I have zero patience for people who are rude to or attack others who are simply trying to do their job. That shit gets me riled." Yes; giving that space is important. We're all human, we all have days where we're not sparkly rays of sunshine. Sometimes saying here, I'm listening is enough and the person will realise their behaviour has been twunty. I get irked by people weaponising their negative emotions. I'm not talking about occasionally, you know you've had a crap day and then someone says something and you respond "oh do fuck off". Fair enough. That happens. I mean deliberate shitty bollocks. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? It's a throw away cliché. Analysed properly it'd only come from the mouth of someone whose aim is to manipulate/ who thrives on their own toxic behaviour/ has such low self esteem or ability to trust that they put others to the test. My level of patience varies according to the circumstances and the people. I'm very patient but I know when not to get involved with certain personalities. I don't think I have a 'worst' side. I run the whole gammut of emotions. Just like anyone else. I've never killed anyone. ( and told about it )" My patience is quite low and tolerance even lower but likewise, it depends who that person testing either or both is. I think some are oblivious they test peoples patience or the likely outcome of pushing buttons. I don’t much care for those who test knowing full well what they are doing. I’m with Granny, I distance myself from specific people | |||
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"Having handled you in some of the above scenarios op I think it takes a lot of commitment and dedication to a friendship/relationship but yes, I agree with the sentiments 100%. Aherm. Above scenarios. Aherm. Actually, to be fair you've been there for me through some pretty dark times, maybe not murder... (et vice versa) and I do love and value you a lot. Dedication and commitment is true - but equally if people don't want to/can't be for whatever reason, can you hold that against them? " There's a lady I know who's been asking for help with her abusive husband for 2 years. At the beginning I had plenty of time and willingness to help, but as time went on and no positive steps were being made I really began to struggle to maintain the friendship. I openly admit that it was sucking me dry. Having been there myself I wanted to offer support and I did for a while, but it was just soooooo fucking triggering and I felt so unbelievably helpless and useless. She would often drink herself into oblivion and I don't deal with d*unk people very well, again, d*unk people can be very triggering for me. I had to step away. Did it make me feel awful and a shit friend for doing so? Of course, but it was damaging me more than it was helping her. We've recently got back in touch as she's taken what steps she can over the last few months to salvage her life. I'm incredibly proud of her. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? I'm going to change this Meli to ....... Friends stick by each other through the good and the bad. If it means that im okay with it. Worded the way it is using 'judgements' like 'deserve' ..... it gives off a totally different vibe. Hello Crumpster. I deliberately left it vague, gave no indications as to my feelings on the expression because I was curious as to how folk would respond; the assumption being that their bias would colour their responses (no shit Sherlock). A rather interesting aside - I've had friends ask if I'm okay, check in with me etc. Deserve is very much a particular vibe isn't it? Hello Mempster! Twas clear to me you were giving rein ..... " Oh Mempster makes me sound like a demon a la Mephistopheles! Here for it. Mempster. I should be wearing sunglasses and smoking 40 a day, trading incredible sexual experiences for their soul, written in the fluid of their sexual desires. I've clearly been working and feeling my creative juices. | |||
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"what if the sexual desire is anal and you are writing in arse juice ?" Lay off the prunes | |||
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"what if the sexual desire is anal and you are writing in arse juice ? Lay off the prunes " It disgusted me as I wrote it but hey ........ it's not my worst | |||
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"what if the sexual desire is anal and you are writing in arse juice ?" Anal isn't a sexual desire, it's an abomination reserved to torment those in the second circle of Hell in the afterlife. | |||
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"what if the sexual desire is anal and you are writing in arse juice ? Lay off the prunes It disgusted me as I wrote it but hey ........ it's not my worst " I beamed when I saw it | |||
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"Live, laugh, love OP " Always with you Petey. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? I'm going to change this Meli to ....... Friends stick by each other through the good and the bad. If it means that im okay with it. Worded the way it is using 'judgements' like 'deserve' ..... it gives off a totally different vibe. " Well that's entirely different. Being a friend or helping those in need is a very different sentiment. I don't see someone having tough times as someone being their worst. That's just life. | |||
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"I guess it depends on what someone's 'worst' is. I think my worst is when I'm chaotic, thoughtless and forgetful. I wouldn't expect my lovers, friends or family to 'handle' that without any complaint. I'll strive to be my best with them as they still deserve that. But if someone's worst is really shitty, I wouldn't want to see their best either. " I agree with that sentiment, although I’ve had someone be shitty with me without good reason and there’s only so much I can take of that before having to remove them from your life for sake of mental health | |||
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"It’s a marketing slogan to sell tat in Homebase or the Range to single/unhappy women, who can then plaster their homes in such clichés. " This | |||
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"Hmm I don't believe in quotes like that in all honesty. To me it seems a bit like a get out of jail free card. It doesn't matter if I've done this terrible thing because 90% I'm amazing. Sounds a bit domestic abusive to me but that is my trauma speaking. Nobody is perfect, we all have our triggers. But we can't keep repeating the same behaviour patterns and expecting the outcomes to change. So in some respects I have limited patience. I tell someone if their behaviour upsets me, and if they keep repeating it then I switch off from them. " I'm with you with this. Though the sentiments behind the saying can be a good guide to knowing who's got your back and who's there just for the good times. I've found it used by the toxic to justify their bad behaviour. I'd not personally test someone, as that can result in losers all round. Be true, be real, be expressive, be you. No games, unless it's naughty play in the bedroom. Oh I bet that last sentence had some cringing | |||
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"None If your a cunt fuck off, no excuses No one should have to put up with shittyness for the good stuff " This | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " I would handle you any way you wanted | |||
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"If your worst is you being angry, aggressive, abusive, violent...I do not care what your best is. At my worst I will still treat you with respect and decency or at least excuse myself and choose to be by myself for a while. If you can't do the same than please kindly f*** off...thank you!" Totally agree life too short to tolerate stroppy people | |||
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"If your worst is you being angry, aggressive, abusive, violent...I do not care what your best is. At my worst I will still treat you with respect and decency or at least excuse myself and choose to be by myself for a while. If you can't do the same than please kindly f*** off...thank you! Totally agree life too short to tolerate stroppy people " Absolutely this. I've had partners who will say something similar to OP but then their worst is abusive and violent. I don't have time for that. I've tried to 'fix' too many people in relationships before and it never works. A narc, overt or covert, will never change. | |||
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"I think to an extent yes. It’s unfair if you’re in a relationship with someone and they want all the good times, but fuck off leaving no support at bad times. However, every time I’ve seen phrases like that - usually on Facebook - they’ve been posted by someone that I know is manipulative. And what they mean by that is “I should be able to be as horrid and nasty as I like to you and you should take it because I’m only important one” and that’s not remotely the same thing. J" I agree with this entirely. | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " I've come to realise that when people quote this then it's normally a big red flag to stay well away. | |||
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"Shitty quotes like this put me off people "it's just me and my kids from now on" "new year, new me" "live love laugh" All cringe " "Living my best Life!" on FB. Then you see them in Aldi screaming like a banshee at the weans. | |||
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"Shitty quotes like this put me off people "it's just me and my kids from now on" "new year, new me" "live love laugh" All cringe "Living my best Life!" on FB. Then you see them in Aldi screaming like a banshee at the weans. " Oh thats good | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " I (The Boy) am very lucky I have my Kitty. Sometimes I can really let things get me and over think my interactions which really sucks. | |||
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""do what you want, you always do" "sick of trying to please everyone" Although these ones may be exclusive to me only " Getting divorced stops that trust me | |||
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""do what you want, you always do" "sick of trying to please everyone" Although these ones may be exclusive to me only Getting divorced stops that trust me " My missus is still married so I whole heartedly endorse this message | |||
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"at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best. How much truth is there to this? Do you have much patience with people? Are you one to test people to see if they can handle you at your worst? " Judgement and media Vs reality | |||
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"Depends on what "worst" means here. Being down and depressed? Sure. That's an important part of a relationship - being on one's side during difficult time. Getting angry once in awhile? That's fine too. But being abusive or just being a plain asshole? Nah. No one is obligated to go through that." I agree | |||
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"Worst what though? Emotional low? Anger high? Stroppy cow period? Teeth hitting the helmet 'cos I'm tired? " Fuck knows Nanna. Fuck knows. Up there with "I tell it like it is" people. There's a difference between being direct/blunt and just being a twonk. I've never heard the expression teeth hitting the helmet before. Learned something new. Thank you. | |||
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"I always took it to mean when I'm projectile losing liquids from both ends, my hair looks like it ain't seen a brush for weeks or I'm rocking in a corner blowing snot bubbles with eyes so puffy from crying they barely open. " Sorry is that your best or worst. | |||
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"Having handled you in some of the above scenarios op I think it takes a lot of commitment and dedication to a friendship/relationship but yes, I agree with the sentiments 100%. Aherm. Above scenarios. Aherm. Actually, to be fair you've been there for me through some pretty dark times, maybe not murder... (et vice versa) and I do love and value you a lot. Dedication and commitment is true - but equally if people don't want to/can't be for whatever reason, can you hold that against them? There's a lady I know who's been asking for help with her abusive husband for 2 years. At the beginning I had plenty of time and willingness to help, but as time went on and no positive steps were being made I really began to struggle to maintain the friendship. I openly admit that it was sucking me dry. Having been there myself I wanted to offer support and I did for a while, but it was just soooooo fucking triggering and I felt so unbelievably helpless and useless. She would often drink herself into oblivion and I don't deal with d*unk people very well, again, d*unk people can be very triggering for me. I had to step away. Did it make me feel awful and a shit friend for doing so? Of course, but it was damaging me more than it was helping her. We've recently got back in touch as she's taken what steps she can over the last few months to salvage her life. I'm incredibly proud of her." Been there myself and these people don't want help and won't change and suck you dry mentally financially emotionally. Mo more | |||
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"I think it's just a shitty to get people to tolerate your bad behaviour..." The perspective of this is 100% correct... | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic " can you expand on this ? | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic can you expand on this ?" looks like a lot of people seem willing to throw people away or under the bus for no other reason than self preservation and easier lives not willing to work together to make things right im pretty sure if brits back in the 30s had this attitude we would all be speaking german and il not be debating that opinion il not be changing it | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic can you expand on this ?looks like a lot of people seem willing to throw people away or under the bus for no other reason than self preservation and easier lives not willing to work together to make things right im pretty sure if brits back in the 30s had this attitude we would all be speaking german and il not be debating that opinion il not be changing it" If we couldn't handle Hitler at his worse, we didn't deserve him at his best. | |||
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"If you repeatedly make people endure your worst, you are a bit of a cun.... Wait I just got back here so I'm going to keep my words PG" Nah you're fine; it's not a reflection of me or how I feel. You're a definite twunt if you do that. | |||
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"I think it's just a shitty to get people to tolerate your bad behaviour..." There would definitely be those who choose to interpret it this way and abuse a relationship. But I think, if well intentioned, it's having your partner's back through thick & thin and all the things in life that trip us up. Then reaping all the rewards of the good, better, best, phenomenal days | |||
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"If you're in a long term relationship you're going to see each other at your worst and your best and everything between.. The good times aren't a reward for 'handling ' the bad stuff if someone thinks I have to put up with shit in order for them to be nice to me they can take a long walk off a short pier" Also very true | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic can you expand on this ?looks like a lot of people seem willing to throw people away or under the bus for no other reason than self preservation and easier lives not willing to work together to make things right im pretty sure if brits back in the 30s had this attitude we would all be speaking german and il not be debating that opinion il not be changing itIf we couldn't handle Hitler at his worse, we didn't deserve him at his best. " are you saying we should just grin and bare an abusive partner? (Not you Hovis) the other guy! | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic can you expand on this ?looks like a lot of people seem willing to throw people away or under the bus for no other reason than self preservation and easier lives not willing to work together to make things right im pretty sure if brits back in the 30s had this attitude we would all be speaking german and il not be debating that opinion il not be changing itIf we couldn't handle Hitler at his worse, we didn't deserve him at his best. are you saying we should just grin and bare an abusive partner? (Not you Hovis) the other guy! " I'm so happy a thread of mine managed to contain Hitler at some point. Anyways, I think it's more about the disposable nature we treat people nowadays. If we're unhappy, we get rid rather than work through, accept people are well people. That's not everyone, can't be arsed doing all the caveating. | |||
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"If your worst is you being angry, aggressive, abusive, violent...I do not care what your best is. At my worst I will still treat you with respect and decency or at least excuse myself and choose to be by myself for a while. If you can't do the same than please kindly f*** off...thank you!" This | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic can you expand on this ?looks like a lot of people seem willing to throw people away or under the bus for no other reason than self preservation and easier lives not willing to work together to make things right im pretty sure if brits back in the 30s had this attitude we would all be speaking german and il not be debating that opinion il not be changing itIf we couldn't handle Hitler at his worse, we didn't deserve him at his best. are you saying we should just grin and bare an abusive partner? (Not you Hovis) the other guy! I'm so happy a thread of mine managed to contain Hitler at some point. Anyways, I think it's more about the disposable nature we treat people nowadays. If we're unhappy, we get rid rather than work through, accept people are well people. That's not everyone, can't be arsed doing all the caveating." it's how we define some of the words here. Supporting someone through their worst times is an admirable trait. Expecting someone to put up with bad behaviour is toxic. I read it more like the latter. "At" feels like behaviour. If it was situation I'd be more inclined to say "during" | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic can you expand on this ?looks like a lot of people seem willing to throw people away or under the bus for no other reason than self preservation and easier lives not willing to work together to make things right im pretty sure if brits back in the 30s had this attitude we would all be speaking german and il not be debating that opinion il not be changing itIf we couldn't handle Hitler at his worse, we didn't deserve him at his best. are you saying we should just grin and bare an abusive partner? (Not you Hovis) the other guy! I'm so happy a thread of mine managed to contain Hitler at some point. Anyways, I think it's more about the disposable nature we treat people nowadays. If we're unhappy, we get rid rather than work through, accept people are well people. That's not everyone, can't be arsed doing all the caveating.it's how we define some of the words here. Supporting someone through their worst times is an admirable trait. Expecting someone to put up with bad behaviour is toxic. I read it more like the latter. "At" feels like behaviour. If it was situation I'd be more inclined to say "during" " Ah I was responding directly to the poster talking about the halcyon days rather than the OP. Yes; I'd agree that there's a definite intention with the rather deliberate wording - admittedly words are subjective but I think there's enough of a shared consciousness to agree that "at" is more leaning towards a person having to put up with another's crap behaviour. I think in general more consideration for another's behaviour and your own wouldn't go amiss - rather than placing the blame at another's feet and expecting someone to take you as you are (even if that's a colossal twat), having some self awareness and acceptance is a very good thing. Should be encouraged. Rather than the reliance on attributed soundbites that are better suited to the "huns" of the world's Facebook. | |||
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"When I'm at my worst, I'm really not a great person. Nobody deserves that, and I'm not sure me at my best rectifies that. So to be honest I'm just thankful, that those who get my worst believe that I'm worth sticking around for when I'm at my best" This 100% | |||
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"This shows me the lack of loyalty in this country is worse than the damn pandemic can you expand on this ?looks like a lot of people seem willing to throw people away or under the bus for no other reason than self preservation and easier lives not willing to work together to make things right im pretty sure if brits back in the 30s had this attitude we would all be speaking german and il not be debating that opinion il not be changing it" Not really, it says to me that a lot more people wouldn't put up with an abusive and manipulative partner. They seemed to do that a lot more in the 30s but more people have rightly said 'f-that' these days. People who use "their best" as leverage over how they act at their worst are just abusive a$$holes. Simple. (I'm not talking about people who are ill here. That's not you at your worst, that's just you being ill and rightly someone who doesn't take care of you when you are ill doesn't deserve your best. Being ill is not being your worst. Being your worst is when you're acting like a c**t). | |||
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"This thread is a perfect example of how words are interpreted differently by different folks. We choose to see what we want to see. " Yep. Language is clearly subjective and evokes different responses in different people based on their own life experiences. Not surprising really is it? I deliberately avoided giving my views on the subject matter in the OP so people could read into it without a bias being present from me. | |||
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"This thread is a perfect example of how words are interpreted differently by different folks. We choose to see what we want to see. " . Indeed. Interesting read though | |||
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"This thread is a perfect example of how words are interpreted differently by different folks. We choose to see what we want to see. Yep. Language is clearly subjective and evokes different responses in different people based on their own life experiences. Not surprising really is it? I deliberately avoided giving my views on the subject matter in the OP so people could read into it without a bias being present from me." Imagining one of those gcse English comprehension papers... "In approximately 250 words explore _elis use of the words worst and best in the context of...." | |||
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"This thread is a perfect example of how words are interpreted differently by different folks. We choose to see what we want to see. Yep. Language is clearly subjective and evokes different responses in different people based on their own life experiences. Not surprising really is it? I deliberately avoided giving my views on the subject matter in the OP so people could read into it without a bias being present from me. Imagining one of those gcse English comprehension papers... "In approximately 250 words explore _elis use of the words worst and best in the context of...." " is the a level version deal / deserve ? That's the real nunace ... Psychology will be "what can you tell about ppl by how they interpret the statement" and sociology will be "what groups of people use this quote on their insya/dating".... And history will be 'is their any evidence Marilyn actually said this" | |||
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"This thread is a perfect example of how words are interpreted differently by different folks. We choose to see what we want to see. Yep. Language is clearly subjective and evokes different responses in different people based on their own life experiences. Not surprising really is it? I deliberately avoided giving my views on the subject matter in the OP so people could read into it without a bias being present from me. Imagining one of those gcse English comprehension papers... "In approximately 250 words explore _elis use of the words worst and best in the context of...." is the a level version deal / deserve ? That's the real nunace ... Psychology will be "what can you tell about ppl by how they interpret the statement" and sociology will be "what groups of people use this quote on their insya/dating".... And history will be 'is their any evidence Marilyn actually said this"" Like it. And philosophy or law? | |||
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"philosophy: If no-one is there to deal with me at my worst, am I really bad ? Law: if someone deals with my at my worst, am I contractually obliged to give them my best? " Very good Hovis, very good. | |||
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"philosophy: If no-one is there to deal with me at my worst, am I really bad ? Law: if someone deals with my at my worst, am I contractually obliged to give them my best? " Liking your work. OK then... Politics and computer studies... And drama! | |||
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