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"Would you feel the same if you where female? " Me? Yes, in the situation yesterday. But if I was waiting for friends, I’d go in on my own. ![]() | |||
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"It would have bothered me when I was younger. Not fussed now. I'll go in by myself." I agree, I think you become more confident when you get older. | |||
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"Ill go in even if Im not meeting ppl. Whats the issue? None. " Everyone is different, depends on your confidence. | |||
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"I hate it..... always have done. I will either pick up people en route or wait outside/in my car until they arrive. ![]() This is why I take a book, so that i dont feel quite as titish sitting on my todd | |||
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"Ill go in even if Im not meeting ppl. Whats the issue? None. " Risk of sexual assault. Less likely if you're with someone. | |||
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"Ill go in even if Im not meeting ppl. Whats the issue? None. Risk of sexual assault. Less likely if you're with someone. " The amount of times I've had my arse slapped makes me not want to go in a pub ever again. | |||
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"How comfortable do you feel going into a pub on your own when meeting friends? Or do you wait outside for them. " I am happy going into pubs in my own. I may be a bit weird but I enjoy going into pubs and bars I have never been into on my own. I love the way people react when they realise I am … well let’s face it, a man in a dress! To be fair though there are some pubs i would choose not to go into while I am Linda! ![]() | |||
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"Go in, I don’t see the issue. Surely all these strong & independent women can order a drink and find a seat, or even stay standing?" What some people seem to be saying, is that they don't feel strong and independent or have had negative experiences in the past. | |||
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"Some people have social anxiety, some are more introverted than others, some don’t like the idea of possible attention if they stand out as being on their own, some don’t like the thought of potential sexual harassment." Yes, I can see that. But wouldn’t that affect most aspects of their lives that involve social interaction or public places not just a pub? | |||
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"Go in, I don’t see the issue. Surely all these strong & independent women can order a drink and find a seat, or even stay standing?" You're not a woman I take it? As a woman in a pub on my own I've almost always had a man chat to me. I didn't feel threatened as I'm sociable and can stop them if they are getting a little too friendly, but some people feel intimidated by it. | |||
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"Some people have social anxiety, some are more introverted than others, some don’t like the idea of possible attention if they stand out as being on their own, some don’t like the thought of potential sexual harassment. Yes, I can see that. But wouldn’t that affect most aspects of their lives that involve social interaction or public places not just a pub?" Pubs often involve alcohol consumption. Alcohol can make some people a little more sexually inappropriate and a little more persistent. | |||
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"Go in, I don’t see the issue. Surely all these strong & independent women can order a drink and find a seat, or even stay standing? You're not a woman I take it? As a woman in a pub on my own I've almost always had a man chat to me. I didn't feel threatened as I'm sociable and can stop them if they are getting a little too friendly, but some people feel intimidated by it. " I am indeed a woman. I’ve also had men chat to me whilst in the pub, not always. It’s not a problem. | |||
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"Last time I entered a pub on my own I strolled up to the bar, ordered my drink, noted the free table near to the front of a wall, settled myself in to wait for my mates... Then realised there was a match on and I'd just plonked myself underneath the telly the entire pub was looking at ![]() Did you then do a Sharon stone? | |||
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"I have no friends so if I go to a pub, I always go alone. " Come to nocturnal again tonight. I think you’ll make some friends in there ![]() | |||
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"Last time I entered a pub on my own I strolled up to the bar, ordered my drink, noted the free table near to the front of a wall, settled myself in to wait for my mates... Then realised there was a match on and I'd just plonked myself underneath the telly the entire pub was looking at ![]() No, I was wearing a floor length dress, so it may have looked a bit odd if I'd hiked it up to my fanny line... | |||
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"I have no friends so if I go to a pub, I always go alone. Come to nocturnal again tonight. I think you’ll make some friends in there ![]() I can't keep up with such enthusiasm late on. I'm old Steve!!!! | |||
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"I have no friends so if I go to a pub, I always go alone. Come to nocturnal again tonight. I think you’ll make some friends in there ![]() Everyone in this fucking place is ol… *deep breath* Haha I get you ![]() | |||
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"Last time I entered a pub on my own I strolled up to the bar, ordered my drink, noted the free table near to the front of a wall, settled myself in to wait for my mates... Then realised there was a match on and I'd just plonked myself underneath the telly the entire pub was looking at ![]() Damn logistics. | |||
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"I would happily wait outside for hours rather than go in a pub by myself ![]() Why though?! | |||
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"Last time I entered a pub on my own I strolled up to the bar, ordered my drink, noted the free table near to the front of a wall, settled myself in to wait for my mates... Then realised there was a match on and I'd just plonked myself underneath the telly the entire pub was looking at ![]() ![]() | |||
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"How comfortable do you feel going into a pub on your own when meeting friends? Or do you wait outside for them. " Straight in, always someone I know in there but happy on my own waiting | |||
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"Go in, I don’t see the issue. Surely all these strong & independent women can order a drink and find a seat, or even stay standing? You're not a woman I take it? As a woman in a pub on my own I've almost always had a man chat to me. I didn't feel threatened as I'm sociable and can stop them if they are getting a little too friendly, but some people feel intimidated by it. I am indeed a woman. I’ve also had men chat to me whilst in the pub, not always. It’s not a problem. " It's not a problem for me either and I wouldn't call myself a strong, independent woman. Pubs are generally men's turf and there will usually be more single men or groups of men in a pub. A bar in a big town or city might be different and it will depend on the time of day and the pub. My old local was full of men and I was one of a handful of women who went, but everyone knew everyone. | |||
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"I'll happily go into a pub alone, and not just to meet someone. " Same here. I often go on holiday alone, so a pub visit is nothing. ![]() | |||
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"... I am happy going into pubs in my own. I may be a bit weird but I enjoy going into pubs and bars I have never been into on my own. I love the way people react when they realise I am … well let’s face it, a man in a dress! To be fair though there are some pubs i would choose not to go into while I am Linda! ![]() Yes, I agree, although you do look particularly good and feminine compared to many! I have found nearly everyone very kind and friendly when they realise what I am, if there is any reaction at all. I normally go to a gay pub in Oxford on my own which is really welcoming and extraordinarily friendly (in a good way) but also go to a local pub with my wife and it has been great. I do dress as a woman nearly all the time except for work (so far) so I feel entirely natural and comfortable now; I actually feel awkward and uncomfortable if I have to dress up as a man. | |||
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"I hate it..... always have done. I will either pick up people en route or wait outside/in my car until they arrive. ![]() The Jolly Farmers in Oxford has quite a large and wide range of books so if I am not chatting to people I know (often the staff) or meeting new people I usually read a book as I have a glass of wine or two; I probably look quite the old spinster sitting there in my reading glasses! | |||
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"How comfortable do you feel going into a pub on your own when meeting friends? Or do you wait outside for them. " Easy..love going to the pub alone.. Great way to chat and meet new people. | |||
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"Would you feel the same if you where female? " Why is gender an issue? C | |||
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"Would you feel the same if you where female? " Ah was this aimed towards the ladies? Mrs is comfortable and very confident to go anywhere alone. If it wasn't for her, we wouldn't have met ![]() | |||
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"Would you feel the same if you where female? Why is gender an issue? C" I assume that's because it's a woman asking, from her point of view, as a woman. And that's perfectly fine. | |||
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"How comfortable do you feel going into a pub on your own when meeting friends? Or do you wait outside for them. " Not at all, never get there before someone else P | |||
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"Ill go in even if Im not meeting ppl. Whats the issue? None. " Absolutely! I have travelled a lot on my own for both work and pleasure so I'm pretty self-sufficient. Walking into pubs/bars on my own has never been an issue for me. If I'm meeting friends I feel better waiting inside than I do hanging around outside. | |||
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"In. Manchester pub? Easy. I’ll quickly chat to the barman and drop an icebreaker with a customer who’s nearby and I’ll feel welcomed. ![]() ![]() I never had a problem, the only pub I found difficult was Moon under the water. As there was no music and I would hear laughter and depending on my state of mind I would get self conscious. Not such a big issue now but that was back in my Uni days. | |||
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"not a problem for me, but then i'm male. very choosy about the pub though. prefer one with no telly that can still have the ancient art of conversation. and one that serves a decent pint. quite happy up a corner with my own company....in fact the way it'll be for my birthday tomorrow lol" Aw happy birthday for tomorrow..only haf an hour to wait ![]() | |||
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"How comfortable do you feel going into a pub on your own when meeting friends? Or do you wait outside for them. " I don’t think twice about going in by myself, it’s just a pub ![]() ![]() | |||
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"How comfortable do you feel going into a pub on your own when meeting friends? Or do you wait outside for them. " I was away on business last month and had a pint on my own. I felt comfortable enough but I still felt a little odd on my own.. I suspect it’s worse for women, although of course it shouldn’t be. I’d love to meet the op in a pub and share our experiences ![]() | |||
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