FabSwingers.com forum: Depression

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now I'm not usually goes deep on these forums, but currently I can feel myself slipping into depressions and while I've talked to Danish about it it hasn't helped.

I know this is a swinging site and not for counselling etc, but I wanted to reach out to try and feel a bit less alone.

I'm sorry for darkening the forums but I feel more comfortable speaking on here than to family on other platforms.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

No problem with speaking about and I have personally experience of dark days.

As always DM’s are open not to give advice that isn’t wanted but just to listen of that odd what I needed

Marc

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Absolutely no need to apologise, I feel there’s a hugely supportive community here if you open yourself up to it.

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, I get this image of you feeling like you’re slipping into it and maybe can’t get a handhold to try and stop yourself going further down. I guess that might feel quite frightening. Sending love x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely no need to apologise, I feel there’s a hugely supportive community here if you open yourself up to it.

It's exactly it, I'm trying to find something to cling to. So I can stabilise myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have no need to apologise and I’m proud (and some what envious) you have the strength to speak about this publicly.

I have dark days, I have light days and a lot of numb grey days. But that doesn’t mean I’m not able to help others, in fact helping others helps lift me.

My DMs are always open and never be afraid to reach out and talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main thing is you're aware and you're seeking help which is brave and brilliant. If you're more comfortable speaking here then do so. There are many good people here who are willing to help.

For me simple things keep me grounded, walking/exercise, music or a good book.

Just know you're not alone and if you're ever in need reach out. Always happy to chat privately as well matey.

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By *omoxfordMan
over a year ago

leeds

I find exercise helps gym / walking just for an hour

It's good to talk about it

I don't mean to appear insensitive everyone goes from some sort of mental health

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

No need to apologise, OP. You're doing the right thing to talk about it and try to address it. I'm afraid I don't have great advice, other than being kind to yourself, but you're definitely not alone!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Happy to chat if you want a ear lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep gabbing OP. There are always folk on here to offer a friendly if unprofessional ear .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Never apologise for talking about mental health

If you know you ate struggling work on all those resilience things we know help us even if it feels a bind, it does help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's grand that you feel comfortable enough here to speak of it. I am recovering from depression at present - it's an insidious bastard isn't it? Keep finding those chunks of light.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

I’m sorry you are not feeling your best OP.

Don’t bottle it inside mate, keep talking as there are plenty of folks that can resonate with what you are feeling.

It can be difficult to open up to friends and family sometimes as they may not be able to relate/understand and you might be wary of judgements about it.

If you have been feeling low for a few weeks or more it’s worth talking to your GP about as there is support available in the community to help get things back on track.

Exercise really helps to produce dopamine, but can appreciate you may not feel up to do things.

I wish you feel better soon mate. (Man hug). If you need advice just ask.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

Lucky enough to have miles of open beaches across road from me. When feeling down or under pressure take long walks to sort my head out. The time to be yourself and work through your problems. Find which ones can be sorted at later date and put them to the back, concentrate on what's getting you down and fix this first, hopefully they all sort themselves into order and tackle them one at a time.

Hope this helps and makes sense OP. Best of luck bud.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Wouldn't a more specialised platform offer more practical tips to try and help you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wouldn't a more specialised platform offer more practical tips to try and help you?"

As someone who actually works for a mental health support team I appreciate where you're coming from, if I need to access professional help I will, and as I said in my original post I know it might not be appropriate to post here but I'd rather support from like minded people who understand the complexities of non monogamous relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't ever apologise for admitting how you feel. It's extremely brave.

Please tell us if there's anything we can do

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I know how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone.

I'm struggling massively at the moment, but talking definitely helps.

I hope everyone who is suffering has brighter days ahead very soon. It's a difficult battle but we're stronger than we realise.

Virtual hugs.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Don't apologise there is no need.

I'm actually in a good place at the moment the first for a very long time.

Talk to people it really does help.

Don't put pressure on yourself take it day to day.

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By *obbienormalguyMan
over a year ago

oxford

You chat away fella..we are all in this life together where ever we are..I do think men hide behind sex and use as a escape tho which aint ever gonna work.The main thing is you are recognising it only you can take that further.Id advise doctor 1st write your feelings down..Be open and honest with yourself..also a good book mindfulness comes recommended personally.PM me if you want further chat..

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

"Now I'm not usually goes deep on these forums, but currently I can feel myself slipping into depressions and while I've talked to Danish about it it hasn't helped.

I know this is a swinging site and not for counselling etc, but I wanted to reach out to try and feel a bit less alone.

I'm sorry for darkening the forums but I feel more comfortable speaking on here than to family on other platforms. "

I'm always here for an earbend

Mr R

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

OP mental health is still not talked about enough. Here is a good place to talk about it, as there are bound to be a number of people in the same situation.

I always used to find mine worsened if I didn’t get a good sleep routine and was over tired. Also going for just a short walk daily gets you out into the world.

Seeking some kind of counselling can help , someone who is not directly involved in your life and makes no judgements. I hope you feel in a better place soon.

Red x

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By *ANDA!Man
over a year ago

DUMFRIES

Good post OP. I suffered for years and only recently started to seek help after things got a lot worse to the point I had great difficulty in distinguishing real from what I was imagining. Been a year since I first went to seek help and I'm no further forward yet. Seen a few other people say MH needs talked about and they are right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone can feel myself resurfacing, and feeling like myself a bit more.

Thanks for those who PMd and offered ears to chew off if needed, you might regret that in the future but it means a lot

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Hardest part is acknowledging it mate.

My advice is to get it all out to whoever you feel comfortable with, friend or stranger

Also find exercise and nature helps me if I sink a tad

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Thanks everyone can feel myself resurfacing, and feeling like myself a bit more.

Thanks for those who PMd and offered ears to chew off if needed, you might regret that in the future but it means a lot"

How lovely to hear that you found support on here. Glad to hear you see a little light at the end of that tunnel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't darkened anything. Too reach out is better than too keep it in. Just understand we all Have times of depression. Try to. Focus on positives or watch comedies honestly they raise the spirit with minimal effort, which then helps you to think more posie. We go through struggles mate.. Trust me you will get over it. Head up!

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Depression is nothing to be sneezed at, and sometimes those that you dont really know are the best to talk too, as they can then be unbiased ears.

Never apologise for help in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ungle VIP 1Man
over a year ago

colchester

Know its easier said than done but try keep active and set small goals even if it just to clean house. Thats the kind of advice i was given when i went to see a Councillor. We all struggle in life just sum of us are open about it, your not alone my freind so stay positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt the same, and this site was part of it, no replies etc didn’t do much for my ego, but then I looked in the forums and searched mental health. What I thought was there problem, became part of the help (not cure though).

You are not alone!! Feel free to pm me or reply here if you can’t get through.

Good luck x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Very complex depression one of daughters suffers badly! I tell her to talk to me and not bottle things up! Wishing u all the best x

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