FabSwingers.com forum: What lessons did you learn from people who were very mean to you

By *usman 199 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Happy sunny Wednesday afternoon everyone

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Some people can make the word please sound like fuck off!

I've learnt that people who are mean to me have very sad lives and like to cause trouble for others to give themselves something to do, then play the victim when you treat them the way they treat you.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

That they only have power over me. If I give them power over me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That everyone is hurting in some way but don't use others as a life punching bag.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"That they only have power over me. If I give them power over me."

100% this!

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

That I'm better off alone

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By *ecret_Passion777Man
over a year ago

Manchester

That I don’t like people.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

That being a parent doesn't mean they love you.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

That they’re usually sad and miserable inside and could do with a hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For every hater there is an admirer

So fuck the haters

(not literally)

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Walk away from toxic people and toxic environments.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

That there's something to be learnt even from the worst of experiences.

Healing takes time.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

That some times it’s better to just walk away and not engage.

On the flip side, sometimes people can speak hard truths whilst being really mean and that despite the delivery it can be worth digesting what was said and contemplating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How to hold my boundaries.

How to never hold my tongue again, but to speak up and say no

That I’m worth more than that, than how he made me feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sometimes they don't understand the impact of what they say and if get upset they try and write it off as banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm a self centred bitch. Yeah I'll wear that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't engage.

And being polite winds them up far more than it really should

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Happy sunny Wednesday afternoon everyone

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That the truth will out.

They play victim while painting you as the villain when it’s actually the other way around .

They always get found out by their actions tho .

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Never allow a to anyone to dim my brightness.

They wont give you a second thought so I think they are reflecting their issues . I won’t give it any of my energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That people who are ugly on the inside age rapidly

the girls who bullied me at school look a good 15 years older than me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That extremely mean people are usually damaged, envious and bitter individuals.

And they're also someone else's problem. I don’t need to be the bigger person just cause they're damaged.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Not to give them the time of day.

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.

That as Oscar Wilde said, revenge is best served up cold.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

That it's the people who care little amd selfishly love themselves the most and often loved the least by other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Punch them as hard as you can in the nose. Bullies don’t like it when you stand up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone is mean it seems to automatically make them wrong according to the answers. Interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because someone is mean it seems to automatically make them wrong according to the answers. Interesting. "

I guess that depends on perception. And text only comms can have a huge impact on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because someone is mean it seems to automatically make them wrong according to the answers. Interesting.

I guess that depends on perception. And text only comms can have a huge impact on that "

Oh I wasn't even considering someone I'd only communicated via text. They know fuck all so would disregard any meaness as tosh!

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

That revenge is a dish best served cold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That some times it’s better to just walk away and not engage.

*On the flip side, sometimes people can speak hard truths whilst being really mean and that despite the delivery it can be worth digesting what was said and contemplating. "

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t let people be mean to me, it’s just not happening

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nothing. Not one thing.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Don't underestimate the quiet guy, he will beat your arse one day, physically or metaphorically.

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

I learned to forgive, but never forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To never be anything other than me

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By *WDomMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Geography

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

Herts

Bullies are ultimately cowards

And success truly is the best revenge

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By *y new oneCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

That they are in probably in pain themselves and it’s a reflection of them and not you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I've encountered since school to be honest and I didn't learn anything from it. Instead I became a shrinking violet thinking anyone who would be winding me up for banter genuinely disliked me whereas I just learned to give it back. Over time, it's made me more confident but it definitely doesn't define my personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've known some very cruel people throughout my life... some of the things I've been through make me ache when I think about them. It's gut-wrenching actually to think about how awful some people are.

But, every person who has hurt me has genuinely made me into a better person and taught me a very valuable lesson about never ever becoming anything like them.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Misery loves company. They're usually projecting.

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