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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Are you quite a decisive person? Or do you tend to dither when you're faced with deciding what to do/have/eat? Do you find indecisiveness a bit irksome?

I was going to ask for opinions on something but decided... no need to. :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you quite a decisive person? "

Yes.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what it is; for things like food etc, i am usually quite routine at least on my own, as it's just fuel for my body and brain, who cares what it is, is my rationale, so tends to be the same breakfast and lunch most of the time.

For other more important things, I tend to be a bit more indecisive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ditherers are irksome....

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I overthink everything, literally can waste days of my life trying to make what are for most people fairly straight forward decisions like what to have for lunch!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

Nothing it is then? Coco pops are Satan's breakfast

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Yes.

Even when asking others for theirs I will always have made my own decision, and then its simply a case of explaining why they are wrong!

I try and avoid being seen as a control freak, although I clearly am

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

Nothing it is then? Coco pops are Satan's breakfast "

**other Lords of evil are available

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

Nothing it is then? Coco pops are Satan's breakfast

**other Lords of evil are available "

Avofuckingcados are Satan's breakfast. Satan's wrinkly ballbags removed and consumed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am terrible at making decisions and prefer everyone else to make them for me

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Are you quite a decisive person?

Yes."

Ha, well played E. Well played.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

Blunt to the point

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life.

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

I used to be indecisive but now I am not quite sure….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

How do you know what's important and unimportant though?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm decisive, but then I overthink. However, once I've committed to my decision I can think about it and rue the fact I've made it, but it is a done deal.

I'm crap when it comes to deciding on things that involve others though, so "what shall we do / eat / where shall we go" etc, no point in asking me. I spent way too long with whatever I said being the wrong answer, so now I avoid answering entirely.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

How do you know what's important and unimportant though?"

Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant

Yes = important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

How do you know what's important and unimportant though?

Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant

Yes = important."

Bit too binary for my liking but I applaud your ability to compartmentalise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sometimes takes me a while to reach an ultimate decision, but once I do I stick to it completely. Usually my gut decision is always right but I have an overactive brain sometimes so can ponder things first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once a man who lived by impulse relied on instinct and went for it

Now im a diffent animal i think once then twice then 3 times before i get the tin of beans out

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I overthink everything, literally can waste days of my life trying to make what are for most people fairly straight forward decisions like what to have for lunch!"

Overthinking should really do one. It doesn't serve you but it's not quite as simple as saying that is it? Cut down the lunch choices! Make it easier.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

How do you know what's important and unimportant though?

Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant

Yes = important.

Bit too binary for my liking but I applaud your ability to compartmentalise."

It's called being skint. No more or less than that. You gotta bring decisions back to the most basic to make it through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but no but..I’m terrible Meli

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

How do you know what's important and unimportant though?

Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant

Yes = important."

Step away from the coco pops ma'am

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

For a big call I will make a decision relatively easily but then question whether it was the right one for the rest of my entire life.

For something minor indecisiveness really bothers me. One of my best mates is a really picky eater, so there aren't many restaurants we can go to. I get infuriated when I ask where he wants to eat and he asks the same question back of me. I start reeling off lists of restaurants and pubs and every single one is "Nah... don't fancy it... Nothing there I like...". Just bloody tell me where you want to go then! "No, you choose, I'll eat anywhere. Except there. And there."

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Yes.

Even when asking others for theirs I will always have made my own decision, and then its simply a case of explaining why they are wrong!

I try and avoid being seen as a control freak, although I clearly am

So why do you ask their opinion if you've decided already?

I tend to ask opinions if I'm very much leaning towards one but have a niggle. Feels better if someone confirms/poo-poos it.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I'm a bit of both.

I'm decisive on big decisions - do I take that job? Put an offer in on that house? - I find those quite easy.

But can then spend ages deciding which coffee shop to go to or what to have for lunch. Maybe that's the "too much choice" thing so I quite like the 'only buy Coco pops' approach above!!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.

Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)

How do you know what's important and unimportant though?"

I think I'm slightly different to PP. Perhaps not quite as binary. It's the small minutiae of the day that I normally give headspace to that I've stopped doing so. Like deciding on the smoothie. Faffing about what sports bra to wear for half hour instead of actually going to the gym. All of those little things I'd normally give headspace to, I've stopped repeatedly doing so if that makes sense?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I always take my own decisions very carefully, these are always based in what i observe or in the energy that i receive or surround me.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Depends what it is. Lately I’ve been taking a long time to make decisions about certain things because I want to make sure it’s right for me and I don’t have to go back and work through it all again. But other times I can be spontaneous and decide on a whim.

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"Are you quite a decisive person? Or do you tend to dither when you're faced with deciding what to do/have/eat? Do you find indecisiveness a bit irksome?

I was going to ask for opinions on something but decided... no need to. :D "
i cannot make my mind up if i am indecisive or not,,

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Generally I'm easy going which often makes me indecisive about mundane, non-urgent things that aren't really important. Usually means I'll faff around looking at options and eventually end up much where I first started - a bit like that meme about women vs men shopping.

If it's an important issue or decision I'm often much more decisive. Not always for the best, but I usually feel the need to come to a quicker decision when something really matters or is time dependant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did you decide

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I’m a libra and we are hopeless at making decisions, or Iam anyway !

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Dither, over think,stress , no decision gets made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a libra and we are hopeless at making decisions, or Iam anyway ! "

Never knew that about libra, maybe explains a lot about me

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I’m really decisive and really impulsive

I do dither what to have between a bag of tangfastics or those double jelly babies though

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm decisive, but then I overthink. However, once I've committed to my decision I can think about it and rue the fact I've made it, but it is a done deal.

Ach that's quite sad NS. Hopefully you've got positive influences that'll show you that's not the case at all.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"What did you decide"

Ha! I've decided I have until 8pm to make the decision. Then I'm either all in or not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just tend to decide and act upon

Sometimes after its obvious the taken decision was wrong

But more often than not my instincts are good

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I'll procrastinate for ages then usually make a snap decision - but I'll live with that decision with no real regrets regardless of the outcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What did you decide

Ha! I've decided I have until 8pm to make the decision. Then I'm either all in or not at all. "

Did you make the decision?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Perfectly happy to decide things for myself. Gets a little more murky when I'm deciding sometime on someone else's behalf.

I do it because it's expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean, if it's something really important like what tyres I want to fit to the car, or which graphics card I want, or a particular type of suit, then yeah, I can take my time weighing up all the options and reviews. It's agonising.

But for the simple stuff, like mortgages, life partners, career changes, who lives and who dies in a hostage situation it's usually pretty quick. Any decision is the right decision, and at a push flip the imaginary coin in your head.

Except for Barbara, no way she survives being a hostage, sorry, stirring tea with the same spoon you just stirred the coffee with. Done.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Irksome but kind of endearing.

We’re one of each, decisive and dithering.

Luckily the ditherer generally enjoys the decision of the decisive.

Hope this helps

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm decisive. Mr KC doesn't dither but he does think even minor decisions through more than me (mostly). Overthinking I'd say, not dithering.

We work well as a team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I weigh up all the options and then I decide and I stick to that decision I made x

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